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6	Thoughts on this? The post is no longer there, which is for the best, but even the title is totally faulty logic: "[Isolated incident] proves [huge generalization.]" Um yeah, no it doesn't. No matter what that note contained, it proves absolutely squat.	/r/ExRedPill	10/01/20 12:28 PM
2	I almost ended up hooking up with a girl from tinder, but feel like I’ve shot myself in the foot? Every single one of your posts has been you overthinking the fuck out of this. Bring it up if you get the sense that she wants a relationship, but generally she will probably bring it up on her own if that's what she wants. It's fine to go out on a date without defining the relationship and, honestly, it's a little reads a little crazy if you try to without even meeting the person. Don't lie or obscure the true if the subject comes up, but otherwise you don't need to be messaging every person li…	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/19 03:49 PM
2	I almost ended up hooking up with a girl from tinder, but feel like I’ve shot myself in the foot? Just be tactful about how you bring it up. You don't have to say, "hey lady, wanna hookup?" Have a normal conversation. Make them feel comfortable. Show a casual interest in them as people.Mention your move at some point and how excited you are. It'll give you something easy to talk about and most people will see the subtext that you aren't looking to settle down right now. If they ask what you're looking for keep it breezy like, "Just looking to meet some cool people, nothing serious." If they …	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/19 02:11 PM
3	I almost ended up hooking up with a girl from tinder, but feel like I’ve shot myself in the foot? I don’t understand tho, can’t I just tell her this when I finally go on a date and then explain my situation and see where we stand? You've already told her, though, and she is not interested. There is nothing confusing about this. If you had chosen to take her on a date and gone into a whole spiel about this, it's likely you would be in the same spot, just out the cost of dinner. She wasn't going to sleep with you just because you took her out. She's told you what she wants. Believe her and mov…	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/19 01:52 PM
4	I almost ended up hooking up with a girl from tinder, but feel like I’ve shot myself in the foot? But what would she rather have me do? Lie about that and hide that fact? Dude, no. She wouldn't rather you do anything differently in this situation. She wants someone who wants a relationship and that isn't you. She is not interested in you because you do not want a relationship. I know that is hard to hear, but she has been extremely clear with you. She is not interested. It is nothing you did & nothing she did, it is because you two are fundamentally incompatible. There is no loophole around …	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/19 01:40 PM
6	I almost ended up hooking up with a girl from tinder, but feel like I’ve shot myself in the foot? Some people use Tinder to look for a relationship. May not be the most fruitful strategy, but it certain exists. And yes, that is exactly what she means. I don't use Tinder, but if I'm talking to a guy who starts talking about how he doesn't want a relationship, that's it for me. Not because I want to be in a relationship this second, but because that is my long-term goal and I'm not interested in spinning my wheels with someone who doesn't even want that. That's not to say you should hide your …	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/19 12:10 PM
7	I almost ended up hooking up with a girl from tinder, but feel like I’ve shot myself in the foot? she told me that it’s a waste of time to meet if I’m not going to be in a relationship? Well that's your answer, right there. She doesn't want to meet up because you're not interested in a relationship. It happens. Many many people on dating apps are not compatible solely due to their expectations and goals on the app. It's not a comment on you or anything you've done, you two just aren't looking for the same thing and it's in everyone's best interest you find that out sooner rather than later. …	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/19 11:40 AM
15	Accidently Went On A Date With an Asian Red Pill Guy It gets exhausting to the point where you put minimal effort into it until the women actually shows up. I feel for you, and I'm sure it must be frustrating, but that's really not how you play the game. As a woman, nothing gets me to stop responding faster than a guy who is clearly putting in minimal effort. I'm never going to agree to meet up with a guy who makes even a simple text conversation feel like pulling teeth. It may take more effort to engage meaningfully, but I'd put good money on it …	/r/ExRedPill	23/07/19 02:52 AM
21	Thoughts about men and women being “just friends”? I think the hypothesis is built on faulty logic to begin with. Who's to say that you can't have a friendship with someone you're also attracted to? Attraction doesn't somehow invalidate a friendship. It doesn't mean that you have to have sex or have to constantly pursue sex. Regardless of whether or not someone will always become attracted (which I also believe to be false,) I'm not sure it really matters when you are adults with different priorities. People are absolutely capable or setting phy…	/r/ExRedPill	12/07/19 01:30 AM
11	Thoughts about men and women being “just friends”? This is the problem the people in the redpill community have with non redpillers. I try to ask a well-thought out question and I get a response that is all emotion and no facts. How can this possibly be their actual problem with non-redpillers when "all emotion and no facts" literally describes the entirety of red-pill ideology? (The "facts" they cite are typically not scientifically supported or are wildly extrapolated.) What kind of facts are you looking for here, exactly? People can tell you …	/r/ExRedPill	12/07/19 01:22 AM
3	Can someone help me sort this out in my head? I just can’t seem to sit down and get her to see my side when I see hers My point of view doesn’t even come close to hers and I see her just being irrational. I want to challenge you on this because it feels inconsistent. Either 1) she's constantly acting irrationally, in which case I wonder why you are dating her, or 2) you don't actually understand her point-of-view. To me, it sounds like you are probably being dismissive, believing you understand her point on an oversimplified level, rather t…	/r/ExRedPill	26/05/19 04:21 AM
5	Is it true that women aren't interested in guys who live with their parents? Also- my boyfriend has Asperger's but I've never heard him blame that for not having a job. When he was unemployed it was because he chose to be, and now he has his degree and is doing Door Dash while he gets his career off the ground. Hey now, that's not fair. You don't get to hold up someone with a disability as the reason others with that disability shouldn't be struggling in certain ways, especially with something like autism that literally has "spectrum" in the name. That's awesome for your…	/r/ExRedPill	09/05/19 04:28 PM
2	How can I stop worrying about my height? There's no possible way for your statement to be true if you consider that the average American man is 5'9" and I think it's safe to say the majority of American men have been in relationships.	/r/ExRedPill	22/04/19 10:34 PM
3	How can I stop worrying about my height? I'm 5'8" and prefer taller guys. But it's absolutely not the be all end all of what I'm looking for in a guy. I see being tall more like an added bonus. It don't mean shit if you don't have other positive, more substantive qualities to back it up and on the flip side of that, if you do but you're short, well I'd much rather have all the good stuff over height. I'm sure I can't be the only woman who feels that way. It sucks that there are vocal people out there who feel differently, but, if they'…	/r/ExRedPill	20/04/19 11:31 AM
1	LTR casualty of TRP. I found out yesterday. Still in the relationship. Need advice. I am so so sorry. The betrayal and pain you must be feeling after finding this out about your long-term partner must be so awful. My heart is really aching for you. Echoing everyone else here--get out. Unfortunately, there is simply no where to go from here but out. It will not get better. Men who practice TRP are too entrenched to have any rational kind of conversation with you about it. You deserve and will find so much better. You deserve someone who values you, someone who is working to buil…	/r/ExRedPill	13/04/19 01:28 PM
6	The problem with RP’s incomplete picture of reality, point in case, AWALT TRP AWALT is simply that women factor in things like their hypergamy into relationships and dating. My biggest problem with the RP is that they spout a bunch of shit as if it's facts when in reality it's just a bunch of random ass people who don't understand the scientific method pontificating and generalizing populations as a whole based on their extremely limited experience. It's ridiculous.	/r/ExRedPill	31/03/19 01:31 AM
7	The problem with RP’s incomplete picture of reality, point in case, AWALT I think by far the biggest fallacy RP promotes is that these negative behaviors are exclusive or mostly exclusive to women and I really don't understand why. I think it's a mix between the fact that most are straight men so they don't date other men to experience so they'll never experience a man perpetuating this behavior, and the fundamental attribution error. This is when something negative happens to someone else we tend to overemphasize their personal failings as to why it happened but if i…	/r/ExRedPill	31/03/19 01:26 AM
3	Reaching out for support and insight Everything else aside, that alone is a dealbreaker for me. How can you have a partnership with someone who sees and treats you as an opponent? Edit: Didn't notice you were married, I think this is a case where you need to go to couple's counseling and really evaluate whether your goals in your relationship are aligned and if not, figure out what it will take to get them there and if that is possible. I can't imagine how frustrating it would feel to be in a long-term relationship with someone who…	/r/ExRedPill	10/01/19 10:36 PM
11	Prove that "not a bad boy = not wet" and "relationships doesnt work" ideas are wrong No. If you want to talk about it or have us engage in "proving you wrong" then you need to give even the smallest evidence to show you could be right. If the evidence is as prolific and compelling as you say, why don't you do a quick search and post some of the sources? By and large TRP is just a bunch of people pontificating and speculating. This is not science or a reliable source.	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/19 05:28 PM
10	Prove that "not a bad boy = not wet" and "relationships doesnt work" ideas are wrong This is speculation. Please cite references to back up literally anything you've claimed so far. I have my degree in psychology so please don't tell me anything is "human psychology" without offering citations. So far, this post is just full of buzz-word-y nonsense and does not even come close to meeting even the most relaxed standard of "proof." Compelling evidence that would actually be worth discussing would be something along the lines of a study finding that women who are insecure in their …	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/19 05:10 PM
13	Prove that "not a bad boy = not wet" and "relationships doesnt work" ideas are wrong If you want her to want you you need to create constant dread and partial unavailableness and no commitment = relationship isn't possible. Prove me wrong That's not how the burden of proof works though. If you make declarative statements you have to provide evidence (as in actual scientific studies not just how things "seem" to you.) It's not up to others to prove you wrong if you haven't given any initial proof to support your statement.	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/19 04:50 PM
6	Question for exredpills and women:How do you deal with the fact that she will always be attracted to an alpha male(a very attractive male)? He's the thing, though: Men are statistically more likely to cheat on their partners than women. Sure, it may be easier for women to find a partner if they wanted to cheat, but the reality is that they aren't so it doesn't really matter if it's more accessible. To frame this as a unique issue for men is either misinformed or disingenuous. Feelings of insecurity to the magnitude where you're constantly worrying about your partner cheating are not normal and will most likely destroy your relations…	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/19 03:19 PM
12	Question for exredpills and women:How do you deal with the fact that she will always be attracted to an alpha male(a very attractive male)? Exactly this. One thing that The Red Pill or life has taught me is that when a better alternative is present people will choose it,so why woule not your wife do the same? "Better alternative" does not equal "more physically attractive." If it does, there is something wrong with your relationship. For stable adults in stable relationships, the "better alternative" is going to be their partner because they share a deep emotional connection and have built a life together. This is much more importan…	/r/ExRedPill	06/01/19 03:27 AM
7	TRP advice is sociopathic, but something vaguely similar is needed The wage gap may be accounted for by things like career choice and maternity leave, but you’ve got to look at the larger cultural landscape to frame this problem. What don’t women go into STEM fields, for example? Here’s a meta-analysis that found girls actually do better in school in all subjects, including STEM https://www.nature.com/articles/s41467-018-06292-0 Anecdotally, there are fucktons of stories from women in male-dominated fields about being held to different standards, questioned mor…	/r/ExRedPill	31/12/18 05:50 AM
12	TRP advice is sociopathic, but something vaguely similar is needed Oh no. I was (mostly) with you until this. 1) Women are still legitimately marginalized in many ways. 2) Feminism has never wanted subservience or for men to blindly defer to us (unless in realms like women's health where they have very little business having an opinion.) All we want is respect, inclusion, and equality. I don't want a man who puts me on a pedestal or thinks I'm a princess. I want a man who sees and treats me as his equal. That's it. I think what this should boil down to is teach…	/r/ExRedPill	30/12/18 10:57 PM
8	Female "Immorality" in TRP Hm, if I had to guess, I would say that women are seen as taken advantage by men more often than vice versa because 1) men tend to be physically stronger so they can physically force women to do something and 2) men tend to hold more power in our society in general, and it is easier/more probable for the one with power to be the one taking advantage. Idk, I just don't really buy into the whole evolutionary stuff. It's a whole lot of speculation about stuff that seems fairly simple like why men h…	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/18 02:44 PM
19	Female "Immorality" in TRP If a girl is "selfishly" stringing a guy along for resources, or lying to be nice to a guy who doesn't have a chance in hell, or even cheating on a spouse, the society that encourages her in that behavior, or gives her valid ways to justify it ("she didn't' feel loved") will end up with better kids. Are these uniquely female problems, though? Because I'm not buying it. Not sure how I'd find numbers on this, but I'm certain that men string women along as well. The book "He's Just Not that Into Yo…	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/18 04:40 AM
5	Why do most women I see and read about on reddit all like older men? So as everyone else has already touched upon, it really isn't as common as you are thinking. However, I am a woman who dated an older man, so I would actually like to answer that part of your question. We started dating when I was 19 and he was 36 and dated for about two years. Anyway, I think you'll be surprised by why I did it. It was actually because I had really low self-esteem and didn't think I could do better. Sure, on the surface he was an adult and put-together and mature, etc etc. But …	/r/ExRedPill	23/12/18 10:17 PM
1	I don’t think all of trp is right but the part about hypergamy/cock carousel definitely makes sense. What do you guys think? No, they haven't. Post some reputable (scientific, peer-reviewed) studies here and prove me wrong. You haven't yet because you can't.	/r/ExRedPill	23/12/18 08:21 PM
7	I don’t think all of trp is right but the part about hypergamy/cock carousel definitely makes sense. What do you guys think? What are you even talking about lol. How did you even arrive at this 50 number? Is it something you just "know"? Because that alone should tell you something. You lack the ability to read minds or see into peoples bedrooms. This is not something within the realm of reality that you could ever possibly know without doing a bunch of scientific and statistical research on it. Or, y'know, deferring to scientists who have, and I can guarantee you won't be able to find any reputable sources that have …	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/18 11:39 PM
6	I don’t think all of trp is right but the part about hypergamy/cock carousel definitely makes sense. What do you guys think? Dude, stop using porn to learn about women and maybe trying actually talking to one. As I said before, I'm a 29 year old woman, I talk to my friends about sex quite frequently and we are not ashamed of our numbers or our experience. I don't know a single person who even comes close to 50. Cite a source or stop spouting made up bullshit.	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/18 11:17 PM
5	I don’t think all of trp is right but the part about hypergamy/cock carousel definitely makes sense. What do you guys think? OK. I think I'll survive. And even still, you haven't answered the question I've asked you like 4 times now about how this affects you? Why do you care if "women like [me]" (which lol @ that since all I've said about myself is that I'm 29, the horror!) pair off with some "stupid beta"? That literally has no bearing on you whatsoever. From everything I've read so far, you just carry a lot of disdain towards women who have had sex. That is not healthy or normal and is probably a big piece of the p…	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/18 11:01 PM
3	I don’t think all of trp is right but the part about hypergamy/cock carousel definitely makes sense. What do you guys think? 1) Medium is an entertainment website not a real source. 2) You've still failed to link to anything anyone else can review. 3) Hypergamy doesn't prove women are more promiscuous than men 4) Even if women are more promiscuous than men... I'm still not actually convinced, but, as my favorite professor would say... so what? What are the actual, practical implications of this? You have to put more effort than a man 100 years ago when women didn't have true autonomy? Is that what we're going with?	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/18 10:46 PM
8	I don’t think all of trp is right but the part about hypergamy/cock carousel definitely makes sense. What do you guys think? All I’m trying to say is that don’t expect guys to marry you at 30 after you’ve fucked your way through your entire city. OK, except guys WILL marry a woman who has had casual sex, even lots of it, so this is a complete non-issue that only you're bringing up and pretending is a thing. I'm a woman in my late 20s, about to turn 30, so you are talking about me and my peers and I can assure you this is not a thing. And even if it were, how does this affect you? Just don't date us used up, slutty 30 …	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/18 10:33 PM
13	I don’t think all of trp is right but the part about hypergamy/cock carousel definitely makes sense. What do you guys think? Are you going to cite actual sources or just make declarative statements and expect us to believe you? Burden of proof falls on the person making the argument. I'm also just really unsure on the argument you are making here. It's unfair that men have to put in more effort than "before" to attract a mate?	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/18 09:31 PM
23	I don’t think all of trp is right but the part about hypergamy/cock carousel definitely makes sense. What do you guys think? What does that even mean, exactly? Young people sleep around, both men and women. You're going to have to explain further if you think this is some kind of comment on society or really why this even matters in the long run.	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/18 09:14 PM
0	well read in feminist theory but scared that i find myself being convinced of all this redpill ideology... please help me refute some of these points I’m not saying I don’t care. Well that's how it reads when the first thing you say in your response is "Too long didn't read." I don't even disagree with anything you said, I just don't think it's a particularly constructive way to approach any kind of discussion but especially one like this. Btw if you have reached this far, it’s easy to say Anyone would do a better job, it’s more difficult to put your opinions out there to actually add value to the thread. I am sure you can express something t…	/r/ExRedPill	25/11/18 05:34 PM
1	well read in feminist theory but scared that i find myself being convinced of all this redpill ideology... please help me refute some of these points i wouldn't be thinking about this if it wasnt for all the women who voted for trump People vote against their best interest all the time. Think about all the people who love the ACA but hate Obamacare and support their politicians trying to dismantle it. This is not a good indicator of anything. I almost feel like your argument boils down to because not all women understand or support feminism, there is no need for feminism. Here's the thing about the patriarchy, toxic masculinity, rape culture,…	/r/ExRedPill	25/11/18 04:10 PM
0	well read in feminist theory but scared that i find myself being convinced of all this redpill ideology... please help me refute some of these points Yeah, but you're automatically putting people on the defensive and making them less receptive to your point by opening with "I don't care what you have to say, here's what I have to say." It's just unnecessary. True ideological shifts happen with education and discourse, not by being told, "You're wrong so I'm not even going to bother to engage or listen to you."	/r/ExRedPill	25/11/18 03:37 PM
9	well read in feminist theory but scared that i find myself being convinced of all this redpill ideology... please help me refute some of these points Have you heard of intersectional feminism? It recognizes different layers of privilege and addresses a lot of the things you've written about here. Gender is only part of the conversation. Race, socioeconomic status, able-bodiedness, all of these are layers of privilege that affects your experience. You can be privileged in one area and disadvantaged in others. The women you are describing are certainly exhibiting problematic behavior and as counter-intuitive as it sounds. women can and do perpe…	/r/ExRedPill	25/11/18 04:45 AM