rockyroad2a Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	What Net Present Value to use for lump sum payment of alimony?		rockyroad2a	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/24 10:00 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Lump Sum vs alimony-Update How do you calculate a war plan?	/r/Divorce_Men	25/04/24 02:46 AM
0	Ex is driving me to bankruptcy how do you negotiate with something she says is lost....she will deny, deny, deny	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/22 12:08 AM
1	Ex is driving me to bankruptcy thanks	/r/Divorce_Men	07/09/22 11:58 PM
0	Ex is driving me to bankruptcy My STBx has an expensive painting that she claims is lost but I know it is in the apt she is living in that I don't have access to. Is there anyway to get a judge to issue a warrent to search her apt? The painting a marital asset and don't know how to prove she still has it.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/09/22 11:02 PM
2	Ex is driving me to bankruptcy I thought during a divorce you cannot "encumber" or take a loan on anything marital?	/r/Divorce_Men	07/09/22 10:57 PM
1	Anyone have any good stories about arbitration/mediation successes? Thank you for responding and I am sorry for your pain...for some reason certain people are like this...they all seem to follow the same playbook for high conflict personalities that like to control and cause pain (wonder if it is from low self-esteem). Glad you are still able to get 50% of parenting time despite her shenanigans. It's terrible and emotionally draining.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/22 06:12 PM
1	Anyone have any good stories about arbitration/mediation successes? Did she adhere to the motions you filed or ignored what the court said?	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/22 07:56 PM
2	Do I need a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)? Yes...you are just at the start of the process...watch your money and where you spend on on attorneys as it gets expensive...	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/21 04:44 AM
2	Do I need a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)? Just do your best...look at your credit card bills and checking accounts to help you out...if you do monthly direct payments from your checking account for your utilities, healthcare etc...you should have a good sense of that and if you lease a car your schedule b. For Schedule c, look at your credit card bills and checks paid to help you there. I would not spend too much money on this as you will need that money to spend later on. The overall amount you indicate on the cis shows what your marit…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/21 03:48 AM
1	Just got taken to the cleaners last week... but its over :) Thank you so much for this advice and taking the time to write back (sorry it took me a bit to respond). To say your explanation was excellent is an understatement!. I truly did not understand the mediation process and how you did the financials but you explained it so well. I still don't know if I could go fast enough or when I get under pressure I don't think straight, so guess would have to say would need to think over if not sure. Thank you again and will let you know how it goes.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/21 05:56 AM
1	Just got taken to the cleaners last week... but its over :) Last question...so you are saying know your bottom line and ask for more to have some room to negotiate. The only thing is the bottom line could change on things depending on what I get for others. I don't know how to calculate the numbers so fast during negotiation (even with a spreadsheet in front of me). So how do you manage this? I am concerned if I need time to think or have another session, spouse could renege on what they offered (if it was good for me) or I will ruin the momentum of the …	/r/Divorce_Men	25/04/21 06:07 AM
1	Just got taken to the cleaners last week... but its over :) Thanks for the advice...very good...there really should be a course for people going through a divorce...the first thing everyone told me was trust your attorney...well that may be somewhat true but it should not be 100%...it's your life...and in reality they have their own agenda...where I live (and maybe where you live too) they are Officers of the Court and have an obligation to reach settlement...and also my attorney gets a lot of business from the court as she is also a mediator. We come to…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/04/21 05:57 AM
1	Just got taken to the cleaners last week... but its over :) Great story about the cooler! Interesting how you said the lawyer told you to take the deal and you stood firm...I had that with my attorney at the beginning of the divorce. She said one thing and I slept on it and emailed her the next day saying I did not feel comfortable with that and it ended up going my way. I think I learn more on Reddit than I do from my attorney...real life information. I think I made mistakes with negotiation (we pretty much have been sending proposals back and forth). B…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/21 05:04 AM
1	Just got taken to the cleaners last week... but its over :) That's what I am concerned about...the mediator will see me as the person who will compromise more to save attorney fees long-term. What do you suggest? Just staying firm on the things that are the most important? My attorney is constantly telling me to compromise but spouse never does. I am done!	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/21 01:53 AM
1	Looking for a decent post divorce attorney in NJ / NY area Can you let me know name as well? Thanks	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/21 07:06 AM