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3	How am I supposed to love myself when no one loves me? Do you have any female friends who are kind, and would possibly be willing to be honest with you? If so, try asking how she experiences you? How you come off from a potential mate viewpoint? In my experience, you have to really deal with this stuff? You may be able to hide it some, but people pick up on this more than we're aware.	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/24 04:29 AM
4	How am I supposed to love myself when no one loves me? Not mysticism. I'm sure you've noticed someone who was awkward in conversation. Or when someone is hurting, and it brings you down too. When someone is laughing, really laughing, and it causes you to laugh or at least chuckle.	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/24 04:23 AM
3	How am I supposed to love myself when no one loves me? When I take the time to look how I want to, I feel good. And when I feel good. I connect with people better. This does not mean that you don't find self-esteem in other areas. Your character, your choices, how you carry yourself, how you show up for yourself and others. But when I don't shave or I didn't take the time to iron a wrinkled shirt, I'm less likely to make eye contact or relax and be playful. That "out of integrity" with myself pulls on a little of my attention, robbing me of some of …	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/24 04:21 AM
4	How am I supposed to love myself when no one loves me? We are tuning forks. We feel each other. Many people talk about the vibe or the aura when dating. Do you really think you hide it that well? The choices you make? Your facial expressions in conversation. Etc... And women are often much more in tune with their feelings than men are (because we suppress ours). But even that incongruency and lack of a relaxed openness, that has no agenda or destination, can be felt.	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/24 04:16 AM
4	How am I supposed to love myself when no one loves me? You can't see it now. But this is one path to having really great encounters with women. Would you say it's true that women can probably feel an uncomfortable neediness coming off you? Like if they don't see you as someone they want to be with, you're not going to be okay? Like you need something from them?	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/24 04:10 AM
4	How am I supposed to love myself when no one loves me? I heard a question years ago that really helped me. "What if no woman ever found you attractive ever again? Could you wake up every day and be excited about your life? About what you have planned? The car you drive? The clothes you wear? The friends you keep and so on? If the answer is no, find out what it would take for the answer to be yes and go do that. Go do the things you want to do. Be the person you want to be (without the woman). A lot of men feel like they want women (and it's true tha…	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/24 03:53 AM
4	Is there anyway too attract women ethically or the right way without having too get mean or be a jerk ? The better you are at setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, the better your experience will be. You don't get what you deserve. You get what you tolerate. Have integrity in setting your boundaries. But communicate what you're not okay with. And follow through when appropriate. Confidence and self-respect go hand in hand. And are both attractive. You don't have to be the jerk. You just have to realize that MANY women will disrespect you, without remorse, if they see you as too nice (agreeab…	/r/ExRedPill	01/08/23 10:55 AM
3	Let's talk about niceness 40 year old male here. There is a difference between "niceness" and kindness. (Notice I've intentionally left one in quotations.) The kind of "niceness" that women have a problem with is the "giving to get" kind. The "with strings attached" kind. The "I like you. But if you don't like me back, I'm not going to be okay" kind. "And I'm going to complain to you and guilt you over your lack of reciprocity." "You're not really free to choose or not choose me. If you don't choose me, something is wron…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/22 02:52 AM