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SELF IMPROVEMENTrookebay/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 11:42 PM
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ADVICErookebay/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 01:20 AM
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DATING ADVICErookebay/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:09 PM
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DISCUSSIONrookebay/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 10:43 AM
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OFF TOPICrookebay/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 10:32 PM
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rookebay/r/MGTOW10/10/18 06:08 AM
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Which chapter talks about the angel/human theory?
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/21 01:46 AM
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One flaw I see in male redpill is this alpha obsession. Everyone has this duality in characteristics. People who go all the way with the alpha mentality have Pride as their Achilles heel. Being unable to show weakness is a weakness. I say: develop the positive aspects of both alpha and beta. Every party you go to shouldn’t be a costume party.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 11:36 PM
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“I’m now codependent on my partner for stability and emotional security” and “With a partner who will never give me what I need.” Those two sentences really stood out to me; can you elaborate? Is your codependency something you need to work on to have any successful relationship? What do you need?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 08:21 AM
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Sweet, looking forward to it!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 11:50 PM
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Oh cool, is your major anthropology? I would be willing, but am not black or indigenous.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 11:36 PM
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Find pleasure in mundane things. Sensuality is literally about the senses. Slow down in your daily life and appreciate colors, the feeling of skin, the shape of the cup your holding, the warmth and softness of a blanket. Literally stop and smell the roses! The more you practice being in awe that you have a physical body capable of being aware of what’s around you, the more it will come naturally to you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/21 12:54 PM
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A man caring for, protecting, desiring, and providing for women does give them power. No one actually wants to be completely helpless. I definitely think some women (just like some men) are power hungry/greedy. Made me think about that quote: “Everything is about sex, except for sex. That’s about power.” Or something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 07:03 AM
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There’s a lot of questions here. If kids and marriage were off the table I would probably just be celibate and be casual friends with men. If I knew I would meet my husband and be able to have kids with him at 30 I would spend the decade on hobbies, career, family, and celibacy. Oh and- if I was a billionaire unable to have kids I would be looking for the same kind of partner I am now. Yes I would still want one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 10:33 PM
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There is an app called Think Dirty that you can use to scan or search beauty products. The app gives you a rating on how healthy products are and if there are harmful ingredients, including endocrine disrupters in them.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 10:29 PM
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Thank you for sharing! I’m glad you didn’t regret not knowing sooner and that you gave yourself the allowance of “figuring it out.” I hope to honor myself that way.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 07:45 PM
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Wow, that is a good lesson. Thank you for sharing. I currently use weed to sleep and coffee to wake up, so I’m glad to hear you grew out of that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 07:42 PM
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I feel like OP a lot, I’m also about to turn 24! It’s like I’m too young to have my life together and too old not to at the same time. It’s reassuring to hear that you felt the same way at this age! Maybe if I look at it big picture, these are just transitionary years. Par for the course? Also, to OP- one thing I’ve learned to be true at this point in our lives is that comparison is truly the thief of joy. In this social media era, we are bombarded with constant highlight reels of people we don’…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 10:24 AM
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I had only read the secrets of fascinating womanhood from the sidebar. I’ve now purchased fascinating womanhood. I didn’t know they were different! This first chapter lifted my spirits. Where it says that “love in marriage is the most important to its success,” I felt like I was looking at it again from a child’s hope-filled mindset. I have grown out of the idea that love is enough. Life experience has left me a little jaded and doubtful that romantic love even exists. I’ve overcompensated for m…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 11:28 PM
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I feel like jealousy and taking things (people) for granted is a way of asking the universe to take something away from you haha. Since you are fairly new to rpw, I suggest reading the book fascinating womanhood! The book says it better than I do, but basically: by looking for ways to respect your husband in thought and action, you tend to encourage him to be more respectable. Like a positive feedback loop. He sounds like a great guy already so I’m sure that channeling your respect and admiratio…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 02:27 AM
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I 100% agree. I live with my bf now, we plan to marry, but no proposal has been made. The cons listed here are spot-on. The pros for me have been: getting to come home to each other -better communication with our busy schedules -I’ve experienced an improvement in feelings of well-being; my family and economic situation is what made me consider him as a roommate outside of marriage, which I had been very against. There are benefits and it does depend on your situation. All in all, I would recomme…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 10:31 PM
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I used to feel like the “no butterflies” way of love was pessimistic too! I’ve found a man that has always made me feel warm. Even at the beginning, it felt like safety versus anxiety. More like belonging? It is not a letdown when you are with someone who you feel this way around. It’s more like “oh, I get it now.” You’re definitely allowed to want some passion too, there’s room for that!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 07:00 PM
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I had sex with one person (only other committed relationship) before my current boyfriend. Though I was in a committed relationship and my standard was ‘met’ in that respect, if I could go back in time and not have sex with him, I absolutely would. I absolutely would reserve that for the man I am now with. I think especially because you have this standard initially, you should hold tight to it. If you do something that falls below your expectation for yourself and your relationships, it hurts yo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 11:04 AM
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Thank you! I will read that!
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/18 11:48 PM
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I would love this! I read fascinating womanhood really quickly. I wanted to make a point of going back and doing the exercises in the book. It would be cool to reflect on them here! Another book idea I have is to read for men only as well. I started listening to it and was amazed at how much I was learning about myself. How they were phrasing things also helped me put myself in a man’s shoes. I think understanding myself has been just as instrumental as understanding men. This may slightly veer …
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/18 10:00 AM
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I will check them out, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 04:56 AM
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I love that this sub has pointed to Ben Shapiro, Steven crowder, and Jordan Peterson. I watched these men on YouTube before I found rpw and they absolutely reflect truths found in this sub. Sadly, there aren’t many influential women who speak about these truths in the public eye.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 11:00 PM
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Discuss, sure! There are certain levels of complexity to my mental health that he is not equipped to solve. In rpw, we focus on bringing our man our problems, not the solution. I absolutely agree. But I think depression/anxiety is a problem that someone else can not solve for you. I think of mental illness like physical illness. If I have a serious physical illness, I do not go to my boyfriend for medical assistance. Do I talk to him about having physical/mental illness so that he is aware? Of c…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 06:00 AM
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Which part, not letting my man be my therapist or being responsible for your problems?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 08:37 PM
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I did not come from a “broken” home per say. My mom has bipolar disorder and her illness was at its worst during my adolescence. I came out of it with anxiety and depression and many negative traits I used to cope with family dysfunction. My mom has gotten better (meds regulated efficiently) and we have an incredible relationship now. I found Jordan Peterson’s work about a year and a half ago. His lectures were the catalyst for many changes in my life. He has many many hours of in-depth analysis…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 06:45 AM
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I definitely agree about cohabitation being a bad plan in general. It does seem to be the new norm, unfortunately. Not that we shouldn’t try to deviate from that of course. Thank you for your perspectives, I appreciate them.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 07:32 PM
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Thank you so much for expounding. Since I have posted this, I have simply not been doing things if I may be resentful afterwards. Like you said, I have figured out what I need to drop and set realistic expectations. I haven’t said anything besides, “I can’t” or “I don’t want to [do the dishes].” This has helped me a lot and he has picked up where I’ve left off. For clarification, I wrote that he has complained about the house being dirty. He has never blamed me or scolded me for that. I think if…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 12:35 PM
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Of course, you’re right! It is also difficult because male smv and female smv are judged on a few differing characteristics. Additionally, celebrity lives aren’t great examples for the laymen. It’s Jennifer Lopez and her ex-husband. I think if you just google them, you can tell right off the bat that she has an objectively higher smv. If you were to judge her smv based on his, I’m not sure it would be accurate in this one scenario. Maybe my example is a bit too extreme to be applicable, because …
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 09:46 PM
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I think this might be a good indicator, but not foolproof. For an extreme example: Jlo married Marc Anthony.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 09:05 PM
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I think negative shittesting (that you should avoid) is blatantly assuming the worst in a man and challenging them to prove you wrong. Ex: “I bet you say that to all the girls” There are countless examples, but the main undercurrent of a shit test is: “if you really love me/are interested in me, you will do x or answer x.” In these cases, shit tests are manipulative, controlling, and very hard to navigate. Now, shittesting is an inevitable part of human interaction. We judge people and trust the…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 09:49 PM
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This is so useful to me. I have trouble even stating my feelings sometimes. Thank you for taking the time to write it out. I saved the comment. It is very valuable to me that some of you have more years and relationships on me. I truly mean “maybe you are more mature than me” when I say it. I will practice these things and your “mistakes” won’t be in vain!
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 05:12 AM
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Yeah! I would totally agree with those things and the perception. Thank you for saying it bluntly. I also see the perception of the two middle paragraphs in the original comment especially and appreciate the objectivity. My response was just aimed at answering the (not rhetorical question) the OC proposed and asking for the practical “what I should do about it” to be expounded on. If you would like to answer that as an observer, I would greatly appreciate it. I just feel as though a question was…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 02:24 AM
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Right, I completely agree with all that you’ve said. The OC asked me a question that I answered. What is the something much bigger, is what I’m trying to ask.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 06:31 PM
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Okay, I’d like you to expound on what I need to do relationship progression wise. I understand that this timeline would not be acceptable for you, however I have no qualms with it. I truly can’t speak for him, but in our conversations specifically about the future and marriage, I have gathered that he is truly just figuring out his career. I am very confident that he wants me long-term. From listening to him, I have understood that his goal is to take care of me and I don’t think he feels like h…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 11:00 PM
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I’m a little confused about your questions. My post states my hamster is misplacing frustration. Specifically, I am putting frustration in the relationship because I have unhealthy expectations for myself. There is zero part of me that expects him to be less messy. My only goal is to make my hamster into less of a martyr and to restore my own balance.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 10:48 PM
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I have reason to believe he will propose within the next 2-3 years. Maybe even sooner. I’m not hoping for us to be engaged or married much sooner than that. I think we agree that around 25 is ideal (both 23). Gives both of us a little more time to prepare emotionally and financially.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 10:20 PM
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Interestingly, I didn’t really believe in shacking up either. I was extremely hesitant. I was persuaded because I wanted independence, knew I couldn’t completely financially support myself, and wasn’t keen on living with girlfriends or strangers for various reasons. There have been a lot of pros about cohabiting and part of me thinks I’ve “made my bed” in dealing with the cons. Though this purgatory feeling might be the only I have experienced, it is an important con. I would actually caution ot…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 10:02 PM
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“Ignore his mess,” so useful to me. I’ll work on my own slob behavior and not worry about his. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:54 PM
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Thank you so much! I have definitely tried to give myself rest. I like that Dutch saying so much! I think that line of thinking has gotten me into serious trouble in my past (put myself in the hospital from overworking). Also, I will hamster out my over-responsibility by viewing not doing everything as opportunities for others to give.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:53 PM
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Yes girl! I’m the same exact way! I actually prefer being submissive and “being told what to do” kinda. I was captain of sports teams, president of clubs, in work-life have always been promoted quickly to managerial positions. When I said I wanted to be a nurse when I was younger, my teachers would be like, “why not a doctor??” Definitely glad there is a forum that has explained this to me and made me rejoice in femininity instead of pushing it down.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 12:15 AM
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I’m not sure if this checks out on an anthropological level. Even from the beginning of humanity, social systems have differed slightly between humans especially after the great diaspora (migration from Africa). So your suggestion is absolutely plausible. Nuclear families still tend to be an integral part of small social systems even where we are less technologically advanced (like northwest subarctic Canada), I guess “eskimos” in layman’s terms. Though I don’t have all of the information about …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 12:09 AM
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Hi! I appreciate this question because I studied evolution a little! I believe environment absolutely plays a role in reproductive systems. I think your analysis makes sense. I’d like to add to your ideas specifically in terms of humanity. I think monogamy is generally so well-suited to humanity because we have quite a long gestation period compared to other animals (although mammals in general tend to have long gestation periods). There is a lot of information around this topic, but to summariz…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 08:26 AM
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I have been pushed into leadership roles my whole life. By pushed I mean persuaded. I still ended up choosing these roles and ultimately realized that I didn’t like them. Naturally, I am smart, disciplined, self-motivated and have a good work ethic. Others have taken these traits to mean I should lead. I have been wildly unhappy in leadership positions. I have developed my assertiveness now, because it is useful in the workforce; but it drains me rather than fulfills me. I started looking around…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 08:06 AM
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What u/plain_old said is along the same lines as what I think. It’s a very good question. I think your mindset that things don’t go according to plan is correct. While you are young, it seems to make sense that your are trying to figure everything out. Your brain is like, who am I? What do I want? What do I need? Some of these things at your age, might be hidden to you. Through experience, you refine your desires. Long story short, it is not a bad idea to aim for certain ideals. However, try not…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 11:18 AM
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In all women (and all men, I think, sorry) there exist potentially negative aspects of their nature. I believe that even people that try to manage their faults, still have them. At the very least I think the red pill seeks to improve awareness of pathologies in women. Especially because a virtuous feminine nature has been completely lost and forgotten by the current social climate. I think a good analogy for negative traits in males and females is “the dark passenger” in the show Dexter. In othe…
/r/askTRP07/11/18 10:10 AM
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Thank you for this summarization! I am a huge fan of JBP. Since I have listened to him, I have gleaned a lot of simple truths about my own nature and what resonates with me. Seeing through a male lens without having to rewatch many lectures is very helpful. Especially the part about talking to a man about how he is weak: that is something I will remember for any male I know and love, be it father, SO, son, etc,. Also the part where you say that qualities may be a double-edged sword. I have found…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 12:31 AM
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Ideally, a woman who respects you will defer to you or be submissive to you (in a relationship especially). Concrete things include: listening to you without interrupting, trusting you to make your own decisions, being peaceful and content around you, not nitpicking at little things (or anything really, as nitpicking implies finding fault in insignificant things), and she will build you up. Ways of building you up can include doing supportive things for you like, cooking/cleaning for you or othe…
/r/askTRP04/11/18 09:03 AM
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Hey girl, I definitely understand that you may be hyper vigilant about red flags! I think especially (in the past) when things were going great in my relationship, I had a tendency to concentrate on little things that could be an indicator of worse things. I think this is the hamster thinking, sometimes. Maybe imagine if your bf’s sister or cousin or something wanted to borrow an expensive bracelet or necklace that was important to you, to go to a bar. You might be a little apprehensive. Another…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 01:12 AM
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With my bf, in the first few months, I thought the words “I love you” so many times, just like what you’re feeling! And I just turned those thoughts into actions sort of, by being super happy around him and enjoying him. And he would say things like “I adore you.” Looking back, I think he was kind of testing the waters before he said the three words. Like, is she gonna freak out or become a cling monster or pull away if I mention love? Others have said that their partner doesn’t have a very verb…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 06:34 AM
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Yeah! We don’t even have an hoa, the notices are from the (suburban) city! And without giving too much information, it has been very humid and rainy, so they do get tall quickly. I agree that it is annoying. They weren’t hurting anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 08:14 PM
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Haha, that would’ve been a cute response! Turns out, he was very grateful without prompt. I do like your logical framework for a relationship. I am currently working on not making any deposits when I don’t have the money, so to speak. I have a tendency to give when I am empty. Thank you for the insight.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 08:09 PM
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So true! Maybe I phrased it weird, but my goal wasn’t to force a smile or pretend I was happy, just to gain some perspective about my bad attitude. And to unravel the resentment. As a side-note, I have been practicing meditation for years. Recently, even though sometimes I’m not sure about religion/god, praying has helped my anxiety so much. They are kind of the same concept, they both end up showing you your thoughts objectively and you let them go if you can. For me, aiming a conversation at a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 08:02 PM
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Thank you so much! :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 07:42 PM
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I appreciate both of your comments. An update: I did it all. I worked really hard. This sounds so pretentious, but, somewhat symbolically, I just started looking at the weeds as all of the bad attitudes and hamsters that I’ve let dig roots in my brain over the years. Truth is, if I didn’t have my man, (who really just needed to take care of himself by going to the gym), I would still be responsible for all of the weeds. And all of the unhealthy ways I’ve learned to cope. So I did my work. Then h…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 06:54 AM
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Okay, thank you! I guess I am just not seeing what he does in turn right now. I will look harder!
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 01:41 AM
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I see you are looking for specifics, which is difficult, because they are very different from woman to woman. Literal things that have made me reconnect with my femininity: I have started to listen to music that sounds feminine. (I have fallen in love with lykke li. The quality of her music is very feminine to me. “If you like the feeling of a hard rain falling. I’ll be a seafull, I can give you an ocean.” Those lyrics make me feel full and restorative.) I used to only be drawn to male voices an…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 01:03 AM
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Wow, if you made a podcast I would listen to it. I had to look up the dictionary definition of dote because I always thought it was a positive thing. Didn’t know it meant being blind to someone’s flaws. Learnin lots over here.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:14 AM
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My heart goes out to you lovely. I hope you will continue to prioritize your well-being and find ways to overcome your suffering. It’s really worth it, I believe.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 07:19 AM
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I love that you bolded life-giving. I’ve had the desire to become a mother for a long time and also had been a little (a lot) scared of it. I’ve found a new meaning in maternalism as a lifestyle recently even unrelated to having a child. I’ve noticed a positive feminine nurturing abundance in me (a lot like water haha-you’re so right!). I think that it was always there but it’s such a softness, I guess I was afraid it wasn’t also strong.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 06:56 AM
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I would like to second this. (Or 36 this because it’s been upvoted so much.) OP, especially where you said “a feminine way to make him more receptive to your opinion,” you lost me. Rpw is not about making anyone act any way. It’s about acknowledging that being able to be receptive and cooperative with a good man, leads to a happy relationship for both parties. Good things about this post and comment: I had a strain of this red pill knowledge before I was even aware of women organizing around it.…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 06:34 AM
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There’s a difference between needing space to think about a confrontation and simply refusing to resolve something to gain the upper-hand. And you don’t want the answer that is walking away, but I truly think that is the only answer, indefinitely. Maybe you’re thinking, if I find a person who uses this method but is great otherwise, is there a way for them to see the light? Maybe! You could try letting them know that you will absolutely not tolerate behavior that ignores your feelings or conflic…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 11:42 PM
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And thank you! I do appreciate my red hair. I’m not mad at it! I just want to look more uniform maybe and be able to dress better.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 07:30 AM
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I definitely thought I was a spring too! But my skin is quite literally porcelain. There is no warmth in it, only pink. And my eyes have nothing warm either. They are saturated blue with.. maybe white or gray flecks? I don’t know man, maybe I’ll just self tan every day haha.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 07:28 AM
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*clashes
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 07:23 AM
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Thank you! That helps! I definitely feel like my skin and eyes look super vibrant with cooler and more vibrant tones/colors and then my hair is so warm that it flashes. It’s nice to know there could be a happy medium, while keeping my ginge.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 07:22 AM
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That is so helpful, thank you! I’ve been trying to grow mine real long for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 07:19 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 12:27 AM
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I have thought of that! It’s a little on the darker side so maybe I’ll go ash brown.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 11:17 PM
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Thank you! I actually have that book (from the library) haha. Did you go to a salon?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 11:16 PM
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I grew up in a Christian household. I started having serious doubts in high school. I had questions that the church wasn’t prepared to answer. I felt like a black sheep and stopped “claiming” I was a Christian. I felt like identifying as a Christian was a disgrace to those who didn’t have doubts. I was happier when I was certain of my beliefs too. I studied evolution in college. Strangely enough, college started answering some of my questions and now I feel closer to reaffirming my faith. Scienc…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 08:01 PM
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I’m very sorry that happened to you. The YouTube channel Nu Mindframe, that explains it very well! I’ve personally been able to adjust my thinking by being very aware of my anxious attachment. However, because you suffered sexual abuse also, I think it would really benefit you to seek therapy for your healing. It could also give you tools for overcoming the impact of your abuse on the rest of your life.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 07:03 PM
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You may have an anxious attachment style. (I have a mild one.) There are three general styles: anxious, avoidant, and secure. The theory is that how you were treated as a child sets a precedent for how you behave in romantic relationships. Maybe you could look into attachment theory and learn to have healthier ways of attaching to people. Clingy, needy behavior that mimics addiction is bad for your brain and relationships. Also it’s very likely that you could be attaching to people who have avoi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 10:22 AM
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Okay, very understandable, thank you. Do you mean in literal terms like: telling him my terms and conditions?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 01:43 AM
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Okay, I guess I’m struggling to see your point a little bit. Maybe a little more background from me. I don’t think anything is guaranteed in life. Ever. Also, he has been the one mainly mentioning marriage and I have not as much. As I said, I am more of a yellow light in this department because I want to make sure I am bringing my best to a marriage. As pointed out, the difference between marriage and cohabitation should be clearly outlined which I think is a fault on my part currently,
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 11:43 PM
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Well thank you! (And yes, I hope most of us are here because we think being ladylike is a virtue)
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 06:50 AM
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I definitely see that it is contradictory too haha. On whose part are you asking if there are doubts on marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 03:54 AM
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I think what real1ator said was very valuable. I would also add that you are putting yourself under pressure worrying that he will take you for granted. I think women have an inclination to put their heart and soul into relationships, which is great, but also means we should be cautious of this inclination and not let anything, especially a relationship, consume us. Maybe try to consciously think of areas in your life that you may be neglecting when giving 100% to your guy- friends, family, thin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 03:52 AM
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I think that “submissive” as a bad word is the overwhelming problem I’ve had with feminism. (College student where radical feminism is at every corner). I also think feminism has little to do with celebrating femininity and that it actually does a disservice to women (and men) to devalue our incredibly powerful feminine energy. I think if you look through the rpw “strategies” in community info you will find that submission does not mean codependency or that a woman is unequal in value to a partn…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 02:59 AM
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Thank you! My twenties not lasting forever is always on my mind haha. I love the detective idea. I feel like just observing would be a better use of my energy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 11:57 PM
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I appreciate your insight. Again, I should’ve clarified that I don’t usually debate with him politically or otherwise. Sometimes we debate about ufc fights. But that’s when he actively asks me who I think will win and it’s for the love of the sport, not about being “right”. And your last sentiment is very true, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 11:52 PM
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Same here! He has offered to help me with school but again, if we’re not married that’s a large investment on his part! I have an associates and am planning to go to nursing school. I just want to make sure I will be able to pay for whatever’s not covered by loans, (books.. and parking was terribly expensive at my university) before I return.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 11:42 PM
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Thank you so much for your insight. I agree that 23 is young to be committed. I think I misconstrued reality when I didn’t point out that I am really not very argumentative with him at all. In our social circle though, I definitely argue about politics and concerns that we both agree on. So we’re pretty united, but he doesn’t argue very much (with friends or otherwise). I do appreciate your take on the usefulness of intellect. The rest of your advice is very applicable, I will remember it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 11:39 PM
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Thank you for your input. I definitely have good-mannered arguments that stay in logic vs. emotion. I use the Socratic method quite frequently. I feel like you distinguished argumentative with combative, which helps me be proud of my intellect, thank you. That encourages me. I definitely want my confidence to come from within.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 05:32 AM
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When my boyfriend started a new job a couple of years ago, I went through this adjustment as well. I think he has been encouraged when I listen to him and ask questions. And when I tell him I am proud of him. I think it’s simple like that, he doesn’t seem to be interested in much more. On dealing with reduced availability: There’s a book called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The section that speaks about men being like rubber bands and women being like waves has been a good analogy for…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 01:36 AM
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Thanks dude, I appreciate it.
/r/MGTOW10/10/18 06:24 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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