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I’m assuming she wasn’t a virgin when she met you (correct me if I’m wrong). Just remember then that she slept with guys before you, and now your just one of the guys she’s slept with before the current guy. I read this recently here, but we like to think our ex had a unique set of physical features, but they’re actually pretty standard on all models. Hang in there buddy. You’re not alone. We’ve all gone through it. But time does heal. It just takes time, is what sucks, so try to pack your calen…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 12:00 AM
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So true
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 07:29 PM
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To add to this, always stretch sufficiently (esp since I assume you’re older now like me). I failed to stretch when I went into beast mode post-divorce, and then injured myself after two months and could no longer lift per doctors orders. Went into severe depression during this period, and body never fully recovered despite eventually needing surgery. On the plus side, I eventually got into road cycling because I couldn’t lift heavy weights anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 07:26 PM
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Two years and I still ruminate and feel extremely lonely at times. I can be at an event with longtime friends, enjoying great food, after a great week at work, and my team wins the game in OT, and we’re all pumped. But then I’ll step outside or go to the restroom, and all of the sudden I feel immediately drenched in sadness missing the person I should absolutely hate. I’ll think of the time we were watching the giants-pats Super Bowls (she hated New England) and how excited she was to see the gi…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 01:43 PM
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Yeah, that’s a good point. I have no doubts anymore that if we didn’t divorce now, we would have divorced eventually. Amazing how some women can change at the drop of a dime. Never in my wildest. But while I have bitterness and resentment, I also have no doubt that she wasn’t who I thought she was. (Actually, she was who I feared she could be).
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:30 AM
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Seriously. Please share. And if it were me, just fly back to the US 2-3 times a year. Do whatever it is that makes you miss the US (Costco runs? Concerts? Gambling? Sporting events? Driving? Golf? Hunt? Fish? Shopping?), and then find ways to find your paradise in the country where you currently reside.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:26 AM
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Ha. The very first video I watched when my wife wanted to separate was jocko’s video on breakups. His advice: “MOVE ON!” And my dumb, inexperienced ass didn’t listen and thought I would be the exception to the rule. I played the pick me game for a year, only to find myself in a worse position after a bunch of simping, letting her run over me (after SHE cheated on me). So pathetic in retrospect. Downloading the book now.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:12 AM
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If she wasn’t already sexually active with someone new, she was definitely fantasizing about other men (maybe someone from work, someone from her past, someone she was chatting with online) way before things were finalized. Literally touching herself at night or in the shower thinking about that other guy. Need to let that sink in. Really sink in. Really really sink in. The woman you loved, trusted, and married is now symbolically dead. Call her [Lisa] I. The woman who left you for someone new (…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 06:01 AM
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Sounds like a weird thing to say, but an uncle of mine once told me (after he met my first girlfriend who was smoking hot when I was in my 20s) to marry the least attractive women you still find sexually attractive ENOUGH and still has the other qualities: trustworthy, kind, normal history / no drama. It didn’t make sense then, but it makes perfect sense now post-divorce in my 40s.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 09:31 PM
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Ah thanks
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 04:57 AM
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What is AP?
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 04:39 AM
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Great idea
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 02:47 PM
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3 is great. I’m going to use that. I think my mistake when my ex cheated/left me was I developed a 3-yr plan. This is great in theory, but months in, I got impatient that I hadn’t seen real results, and crashed really hard. Writing my 4 goals for tomorrow right now. (It’s been two years since my divorce, and I still get lonely and depressed). What hobby/hobbies did you pick up?
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 04:12 AM
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More like one of a billion
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 01:19 PM
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Same. Are you in a band?
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 01:13 PM
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I think of some of the girls I dated back in the day. They weren’t as hot as my ex-wife (still cute), but they were absolute pleasers in bed and just much better people in terms of character and values. My ex was an insecure narc who always cared about how other people perceived her. And she cared a lot more about being pleased then pleasing. She may be hot now, but she won’t be hot forever. None of us will. Father Time is undefeated. When those looks fade, all that will matter in a relationship…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 12:41 PM
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Yeah, and if you can, get outside of the house. Even if it’s just going to a park to have lunch or doing your work at a Starbucks. I tend to dwell on the past more when I’m at home and don’t have new external stimuli.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 10:36 PM
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Hang in there. One other thing I’d recommend is to keep a journal. It could be a hard journal, an excel file. But use it to track your progress. If you can graph it, even better, as nerdy as that might sound. I kept a journal after we broke up and there were several things I listed: What am I thankful for How much do I weigh How much did I sleep How many fun things did I do today How many challenging / meaningful things did I do today I stopped keeping the journal after several months because I …
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 03:22 PM
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By the way, are you and your friend both in your 40s? What age range are you dating?
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 04:37 AM
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Excellent. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 01:15 AM
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You’re asking some great questions here, and I can sort of relate to your situation. I’m Cambodian and wife left me for a European guy. Interested in seeing some of the responses, since I have similar questions tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 12:36 AM
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I think therapy in general is good, but even licensed therapists are fallible. They deal in frameworks, and a few of us and our relationships are so unique that they don’t always “prescribe the best medicine.” Also, not all therapists are high quality (it’s difficult to confirm whether or not their diagnosis are the cause of improvement or just correlated with it), but modem society has put them on such a high pedestal across the board that you’d think think they were more skilled than brain sur…
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 06:10 PM
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Society is always changing due to technological innovations, which then leads to changes in both cultural norms and eventually the legal system. The patriarchy as I think you define it is coming to an end because technological innovations have made it possible for women to support themselves, their self-defense, and their own happiness in the absence of a male partner (e.g. increase in non-physically demanding white collar jobs, birth control, firearms, etc.). Divorce laws haven’t caught up, and…
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 03:53 PM
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Number 2 is really important. My ex and I used to love scuba diving. A few months after we broke up, some friends advised I go scuba diving on a group trip so that I wouldn’t give up a hobby I loved so much. Huge mistake. I was an emotional shitshow on that trip which was full of happy couples and newlyweds. I threw ALL my scuba diving gear (books, photos, wetsuits) into a large bin, “put duct tape all over it, and wrote all over the duct tape, do not open until January 1, 2025.” I also threw 10…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 08:32 PM
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You’re already dating? I was married for 12 years, been divorced / separated for two now. I’m still not ready to date and I know that. I don’t plan to date until I’m comfortable being alone and am sufficiently over her. If I date before I’m over my ex, I’ll probably hurt the next person, or enter in a LTR with the next person who happens to say the right things. I made a huge mistake marrying this woman, but if I repeat the mistake, that’s on me. Picking up new hobbies, improving career, and get…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 03:33 PM
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Yeah. I’m 46, so I’m already past mid-life. Fortunately, I don’t have kids so I can grind non-stop until things are better. (Kids are great, but I’m glad I don’t have them with my ex.)
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 12:54 AM
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Thanks, I appreciate this
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 08:33 AM
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Glad to hear OLD is working out for you. Do you consider yourself to be an “attractive” man? Lmk if you got tips. It’s rough for a lot of us 5’7” divorced Asian men with receding hairlines haha. Also, what app do you use and what city are you in (you can dm me this info if you prefer). I’m planning on moving this year.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 07:04 PM
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Exactly. And single women in their 40s are probably the most cutthroat, because they are constantly comparing themselves to their happily married and wealthy friends with seemingly perfect lives. Couple that with OLD were they have endless choices and reality TV dating / love shows . . . What’s worse than being an unmarried 40 yr old? Being an unmarried 40 yr old with no single friends.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 05:35 PM
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I’m Cambodian-American, avg looking, and only 5’7”, but in addition to owning a restaurant supply distribution business in Cambodia, I also owned a small restaurant / bar / cafe in a popular tourist spot there for several years. At the time, I was probably the only fluent English-speaker with a grad school degree from the US in the entire area (I’m also former U.S. military so I was pretty fit back then). I also play guitar. Basically, I was kind of a unicorn for every young college grad girl lo…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 05:11 PM
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Yup. I know they’ll bail on her as soon as they find “theirs.” She’s known these friends for just a year. They’re probably just using her as a wingwoman, but that’s her problem now.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 04:40 PM
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I’m the same. I reflected and apologized. She never apologized for a single thing. My ex had a lot of pride. Even if she wanted to get back, I think her pride was so strong that she’d be embarrassed to take me back because he friends might look down on her (and since all her friends are divorced, I’m sure they encouraged her too).
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 01:04 PM
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You’re 26? Man, I’m not saying things are any easier for you, but you’re still really young and can meet someone easily and better no problem. Just take care of yourself. Some guys don’t even have the first serious relationship until they are near 30. Hang in there. It’s gonna be tough regardless, but you’re still young. Learn from your mistakes and grind. Dating as a guy is at its best in your early 30s I feel.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 01:01 PM
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Can you elaborate on this? What is pick-me-dance, and what do you mean by did not sooth your emotions. I’m 46 and struggling after two years from a 12 yr marriage. Ex cheated on me.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 12:59 PM
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I like to think I made all the right moves after she wanted to split. Lost 40 lbs, got better job, transformed / improved my style, took communications classes. But after 9 mts when she was still no longer interested, I crashed and crashed hard. Gained back 50 lbs, sucked at work, let myself go, flaked out on friends. It’s literally day 3 of me trying to get my shit together again. My advice is to “move on” as quickly as possible. Easier said than done. I failed to do this. Second piece of advic…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 12:56 PM
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I’m 46m. It’s been over two years now, and I’m still processing the loss. It was bad at first, but I was high on hopium of getting back together and had a lot of support. But now that it’s been two years, it’s in some ways worse, since I’m embarrassed to tell friends I’m still not over her (we were married for 12 yrs). Maybe if I was 30 or even 35, this would be easier to process. But I feel like I gave my best years to her, and now that I’m past mid-life, dating is a lot tougher (and different …
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 12:48 PM
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Damn, were we married to the same person? My ex was a covert narcissist and I was an empath. I never understood it until I finally had to see a therapist. If my ex apologized, it would always be an angry apology for trivial things, not root causes, which would make me look like the bad guy. She’d also accuse me of things like belittling her and looking down on her career when I was always so proud of her and always talked her up to my friends. Turns out she was attracted to a new colleague of he…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 03:00 PM
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Nothing personal against single mothers, but I would never date a single mother. I did once (before my ex), and it was the nastiest / toughest breakup ever with drama that didn’t end until I moved to a new country. Some can say they’ll date but not marry one, but it’s just a slippery slope and not worth the risk even if you’re thirsty. Sad to say, but single mothers also tend to be more desperate (not all, but in general), so you really can’t always trust what she tells you. Hot single mothers a…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 12:30 AM
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Great point about being made out to be the monster. My ex would never compromise, and I was the monster.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 12:27 AM
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I’m in the same boat. It took me a decade to fully realize, but my ex of twelve years was the most giving, selfless person in public, but made me her servant when we were together. Don’t look at it like it’s your loss and some other guy’s gain. Look at it like you dodged a bullet that some other guy is now getting wounded by. The real women (and there aren’t many) would never do what our women did. My mom is a real one. My sister is a real one. My best friend’s wife is a real one. My ex is not a…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 12:02 AM
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I felt this same way. I was with someone for 12 years. Carried so much guilt and blamed myself after she left, even though friends told me not to. Have you seen a therapist? A relationship expert? My ex is with someone new now, but it took me over a year to realize that if someone truly loves you, she might have a hundred reasons to leave, but only needs one reason to stay. I gave my ex a hundred reasons to stay, and it wasn’t enough. A wealthy doctor comes along, and she’s gone like I never exi…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 11:56 PM
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Yeah I’d move overseas today if I could. Sadly, I think things are changing in dating overseas as well, and not for the better.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 06:04 PM
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Genuine question. Does one partner’s infidelity count for anything? Does it affect alimony? Child support? Custody rights? In any state for that matter
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 02:46 AM
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Sadly, I feel exactly the same way now. At 46m, I don’t want to risk what I have left (I don’t make a lot) and would rather spend my healthy days doing active hobbies (scuba diving, snowboarding) then spending money on dinner dates that lead to nowhere.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 01:15 AM
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What a nightmare!
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 01:12 AM
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Go to Tijuana to pick up some tacos. Just tacos, nothing else. No one needs to know how many tacos you picked up. Another option is to pick up pad Thai in Thailand. Just pad Thai, nothing else.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 01:02 AM
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In a similar boat. Painful divorce after ex met someone else. We were together over 12 yrs. She left when she got a better paying job with high status colleagues, and you can assume the rest. Actually have had problems dating again even after being apart for two years. Partly because I let myself go mentally after the breakup and had “oneitis.” Also because I held onto hope and didn’t want to take a chance we’d get back. I’m still struggling. I’ll have a week where I’m fine, but then I’ll crash …
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 01:16 AM
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That’s great. Yeah my ex was not a fan of my mom. She was always jealous of her even though she is one of the sweetest women in the word. Her mom was always high-maintenance, judgmental. She def had mommy issues although she’d never admit it. As hard as it is for me to be alone again, I’m thankful that I get to spend more time with my mom and dad. I can always meet someone, but that’s just not a priority for me now. Work on myself, take care of my folks, enjoy being with friends, create new expe…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 03:09 PM
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That’s fantastic. Similar to me and my folks. Most of my hobbies I shared with my ex, but I have a couple hobbies that I didn’t (working on cars, attending baseball games). So I now work on cars with my dad and watch baseball with both my folks. You’re so right about taking advantage of the time you have left on this earth with your parents.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 02:26 PM
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Same here, and I’m in my 40s. Haven’t even started dating yet because I’ve got a lot to work on personally. Biggest thing is gaining the ability to trust again.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 08:20 AM
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Great point right here. I wouldn’t have made it without my folks after my ex left me when I was at my lowest (but still supporting her and all of her dreams and ambitions). I’m more thankful for my folks than ever.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 08:18 AM
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Interesting
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 01:31 AM
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This makes sense. Why pass on money to heirs you don’t even you like when you can “treat yourself.”
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 01:30 AM
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But there are ways to pay that don’t involve marriage, right?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 01:29 AM
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I don’t know if he’s an idiot or a genius. Either way, he’s fearless.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 01:29 AM
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When you’re a billionaire, you probably have thousands of different ways to have your “needs” met
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 01:27 AM
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Those don’t eliminate alimony, child support, future inheritance. But then again, why should he care at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 01:26 AM
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Real possibility she gets back with the deadbeat when all is said and done as part of the scam. I’ve seen it happen to loved ones. Few things make me angrier. Hang in there. Just be the example for your child. Twenty years from now, she’ll know who the real adult parent is.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 06:39 AM
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Hang in there. I went through something similar that’s cause me to lose trust in people (and my own judgement). Still trying to process everything that happened. How old are you?
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 06:37 AM
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Thanks for this good advice
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 02:09 AM
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Yeah, I enjoy that process too. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 02:18 PM
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Some great points here. I do feel like I need different types of challenges at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 06:33 AM
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Great advice. Will try this asap.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 06:29 AM
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Haven’t tried tinder. Heard it’s a bloodbath unless you’re a total chad, but if I’m just looking for rebound sex, do standards really matter? Go out with a bang I guess if I plan on leaving my current location?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 06:27 AM
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Yeah, I’m ashamed to admit that I purposely avoid going to certain stores at certain times since I don’t want to run into her esp with her new guy (she’s a pretty routine person).
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 06:25 AM
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This is gold right here. Thanks for this perspective. You’re absolutely right in the second paragraph about needing new stories to tell.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 06:24 AM
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Thanks for your insights. I was adamant about staying put for the first year, but now it’s been two years and I’m still not in a good place emotionally and mentally. I know moving locations won’t be any sort of cure-all, but if it speeds up the healing process in any way, it’s worth the cost and effort at this point. Right now I feel insane going back and rereading the same books, rewatching the same videos, starting my 3-month workout program again expecting different results.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 06:19 AM
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You’re not alone man. I’m really trying, too. Hope you’re hanging in there.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 06:16 AM
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I’d pick up dirt biking, but injuries are a huge concern for me. I’m in a situation where being injured and missing work would set me back big time.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/23 01:25 PM
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Thanks. I think the line that’s been in my head of late is “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.” Part of me wants to move just to try something new, have new surroundings, and hopefully build enough momentum toward a higher or different purpose. I also have this recurring nightmare that my ex and her friends (many divorced) are catfishing or following my OLD profile and making fun of me. But at this point, who cares? Weird to have this recurring drea…
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 12:46 PM
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Thanks. I don’t know if there’s a term for it, but I’ll have great frame for several days, and then almost like clockwork, insecurity, fear, jealousy set in and I become a wreck for several hours or an entire day. Then I watch a YouTube vid, talk to someone, and I’ll feel fine for a few days again, then I’ll crash several days later. I’m also just generally less happy, and that’s ok (life could be much, much worse), but i know I enjoy life a lot more when I’m not alone. Several times, I’ve told …
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 12:41 PM
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Thank you. Good advice.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 11:46 AM
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Possibly. If this was ten years ago, I’d say definitely. But given how online dating is extremely favorable to women, it’s quite possible she met him after we separated. Either way, our last six months together was rough on her because I was dealing with a lot of stress at work and wasn’t a great partner. Having said that, I was incredible and almost sacrificial every year prior to that, and that’s where some of the resentment and bitterness comes in. “For better or worse, for richer or poorer, …
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 11:43 AM
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Oh different ballgame if you have kids. Sorry didn’t realize that. I’m not fit to give advice in this sort of scenario. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 03:57 AM
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Yeah, I was in denial but I’ve always had a never give up personality. But once things became clear, I forced myself to move on and not waste anymore time dwelling on her. It’s tough, it’s really tough. But make sure you’re making daily improvements to your own life each day, so when you look back a year from now, regardless of what happened, you have something to be proud of or feel accomplished about. For me, it was losing a lot of weight and getting a new job. At a certain point, i also block…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 03:32 AM
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I was in a similar position with my ex of 12 years (when we were trying to get back together) saying she was worried about me slipping into my old habits even though I was on a path of recognizable self-improvement and hadn’t deviated. (She hadn’t changed at all nor ever apologized for anything). Well, come to find out, after everything was final, a week later she’s seeing someone who I suspected she was interested in (a “platonic” work friend of hers while we were married. I know, my mistake fo…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 03:04 AM
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Women I’ve known don’t like to be alone after being with someone for a long period of time. They’ll do whatever it takes to not be alone, and will be in self-denial that they’re better off now than before, even though the only reason they’re better off is because they actually compromised with the new guy whereas they wouldn’t compromise with you. Why? Narcissism and pride. The capacity for self-denial in some people (men and women) is an incredible thing, but it’s elevated when a woman breaks u…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 11:28 PM
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I was in a similar boat. What helped me cope (with my ex being with someone new as well as other major setbacks) is realizing that she, me, and everyone I love will probably be dead and gone within 60 years. So just make the most of the short time we have on this planet. I’m in my 40s, which kind of helps me see how quickly life passes you by. If I was 25 or 30, I would feel like there was so much time left. Now that I’m 40, I realize how quickly a decade comes and goes. Just focus on your own h…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 06:17 AM
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If she’s a good mother, then do what’s right for you regarding staying in for 20 or getting out. Most of life is unpredictable, so just control what you can control, in this case, your career and retirement.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 10:12 PM
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It kind of depends on how often you think you’ll deploy and how much you trust your ex watching over your daughter while you’re overseas. If you think she’s a good mother but a bad wife, that’s one thing. If she’s a bad mother, too, it’s a much tougher decision. What’s good is you can make this decision for you and your daughter. Your wife is out of the picture now and should have no bearing on your decision besides shared custody. Either way, I recommend taking a weekend whenever you can and ha…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 09:54 PM
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Do what you need to do with the divorce, and then radio silence aside from shared custody logistical issues. I was / am in your position. I was simping, volunteered to take all the blame, begged for her to come back, etc. Ex never apologized for a single damn thing. I was the root of all evil, even though I sacrificed my career so she could pursue hers (my ex is a doctor now). In retrospect, I should have just alpha’d up and started dating as soon as my ex said it was over. Would have saved me t…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 09:45 PM
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I’m kind of in the same boat (wife left me for someone else. Not sure if there was infidelity during marriage), it’s been two years. I didn’t mind being in pain the first year, because that’s natural and expected. But at this point, I’m embarrassed to even talk about it with friends or colleagues since I feel like such a simp. I dreamt about her at night maybe 4-5 nights a week up until last month. And then I couldn’t go back to sleep. I would then overcaffeinate and feel lethargic by afternoon.…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 03:36 PM
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Desire for an open marriage isn’t a red flag. It’s a red oversized billboard. Bounce.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 04:29 AM
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If she can dismiss an NDA drawn up by a billionaire’s lawyers, then prenups for the average millionaire (or avg working glass guy) are just lipstick on a pig. Am I right?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 04:09 AM
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What kind of skills do you need to work at your firm? Looking at a career transition. Retired military
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 01:05 AM
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Well in that case . . .
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:31 AM
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These aren’t rock solid from what I’ve learned
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 12:55 AM
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Would you still get flowers in the absence of kids?
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 06:05 PM
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Depends on nature of your relationship and breakup. For me, hard no.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 06:03 PM
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You’re young man. Don’t give up hope this early.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 12:47 AM
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On a good note, you’re only 25, so you still have literal decades to find someone. On a bad note, hypergamy is only increasing, so it’s prob safe to assume that divorce rates / cheating / unexpected breakups will only continue to increase as time goes on unless you’re a total chad. Even then, divorce doesn’t favor the wealthier partner. If i were you, I’d focus on your career the next few years, build up a small fortunate, and try to move overseas before you’re 35. You have plenty of time to loo…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 11:46 PM
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I see. What city do you live in?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 02:51 PM
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I’m assuming you left your wife and she didn’t leave you?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 06:03 AM
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How would you describe top of the dating food chain?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 04:12 AM
7

Fair point.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 11:54 PM
3

Thanks for sharing this. I was warned by some that tinder is most bots and escorts. Can an avg guy find ONS and FWB on Tinder?
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 11:54 PM
2

The worst thing about narcissists is they don’t they think they’re narcissists. They think they’re victims. Number one sign someone is a narcissist: they never apologize for anything. Best thing to do is no contact. It might not seem like it, but they lose their shit when you go no contact. Next best thing: date someone better than they ever were, and better than they’ll ever be.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 07:49 PM
1

Good info. I was probably an 8 before I got married. Was in better shape, looked younger, military. Didn’t manage my career well in the latter years of my marriage, so kind of starting over in some ways.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 11:44 PM
1

The big revelation to me that took 40+ yrs for me to learn is that guys are actually the romantic ones.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 06:34 PM
1

Oh that’s really interesting. Counterintuitive indeed.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 06:21 PM
1

Are you more protected in an at fault state? Or does it just become a he said she said scenario.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 04:42 PM
1

Or to share a hobby with your ex who then leaves you
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 11:16 AM
1

This. Serious dating as you get up there in age post-divorce with kids sucks. It especially sucks when you’re in a small town.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 01:22 AM
1

Do you see yourself getting married again?
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 10:59 PM
2

Yeah curious to know what state and county this was in
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/23 10:44 AM
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