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LESSON LEARNEDrosemarie2020/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:52 AM
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SEEKING ADVICErosemarie2020/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:57 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFErosemarie2020/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:40 PM
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No Anime fanatics 🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:56 PM
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This is my literal definition of hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:48 PM
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This is STUNNING. 🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:39 PM
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A month into the relationship, we were in the car headed back from a date. My ex was driving with his left hand and holding my hand with his right. At a stop light he seemed to have not noticed it turned green, and there was no one behind us to honk, so I just casually said “oh it’s green.” He squeezed my hand quickly and hard - enough to sting. Alarm bells rang in my head that this guy is quick to anger and would physically abuse me. I brought up my concern and he reassured me that he would nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:33 AM
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I love your confidence, Queen. I'm glad you kicked him to the curb. It's never enough for porn-addicts. They can sift through every body type by category like it's a casual Sunday shopping at the grocery store. Meanwhile their girlfriends/wives are scrutinizing every part of their own bodies wondering why they're not good enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:17 PM
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This is what my ex was also into - outrageously huge, fake breasts and thin frames. Being naturally well-endowed, this took quite a toll on my mental health when initially I internalized it all and blindly blamed myself for "not being good enough." I'm sorry you had to endure him evaluating/scrutinizing women's bodies like that. Any guy who makes those kind of arguments with HIS GIRLFRIEND clearly has no respect for you or women in general. I am so glad you are free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:13 PM
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I’m glad you’re sticking to your boundaries and strictly enforcing them, even though the pain of leaving is difficult. I also left a 5+ year relationship/engagement over this same issue. Even though I am thin with natural E cups, exercise regular and stay fit, this still wasn’t enough for my porn-addicted ex. You can be the hottest woman in the world, but even then they’ll want something new. It’s all about novelty for these addicted scrotes. He would be looking at images/videos so frequently at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:40 PM
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LVM ex: Lied about established porn boundary, jerked off to pics/videos at his job after denying me sex. Me: How would you feel if I did that? LVM ex: Why would you do that? That’s so wrong. (🤦🏻‍♀️We can’t make this shit up, ladies.) I want to believe porn free men exist, but I am so unbelievably jaded and skeptical. Thank you for the reminder that this behavior IS cheating, even though society gaslights us otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:51 PM
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I cringe at the lost time spent writing paragraphs to NVM. Not only could they not process that amount of text, but they just didn’t give a shit. Just leave. Never waste time “communicating” or providing an explanation when they don’t deserve one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:36 AM
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Right?! I’m lucky I didn’t end up in a body bag with that psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:29 AM
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Back in my prime pick-me days, I dated a guy who had a questionable IQ at best (and that’s being generous). But he was SO NICE /s, so I gave him a shot. 2 years too long of a shot. After a grueling day at my shitty retail job (I was 19), I texted him “I’ll be there in 5.” I put my phone down, and didn’t even think about checking his responses as I was driving. When I showed up at his place, he came out visibly teary-eyed. This dude thought I meant 5 HOURS and had been blowing up my phone, callin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:11 PM
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Did the abusive maniac from “Sleeping with the Enemy” write this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:59 PM
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Can hardly believe a salutatorian is unable to understand “to” vs “too”. Keep dreaming, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:24 PM
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Or 5 years. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:54 AM
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I had an ex that texted EXACTLY like this. “Beautiful/pretty lady”, “Ms. (my name”, but never just my name. He turned out to be severely misogynistic. Once he joked about having a demeanor suitable for beating women if needed, I was out. I don’t trust anyone now that uses pet names instead of my name, especially when I barely know them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:41 PM
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Annalise Keating (Viola Davis) from How to Get Away With Murder. Let's be honest, Viola Davis is a queen inside and out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:08 AM
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Me in a nutshell before deciding to leave my ex. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:29 AM
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Automatic block. Not even worth a response to such caveman, deprave shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:12 PM
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Abusing your mom, yeah, you should have EVERY say in what is moral and ethical. 🤮And of course this scrote believes he knows exactly what is best for every woman, and will enforce his beliefs with his hands. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:17 PM
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Freaking out over a posted picture of them holding hands? He’s probably cheating on you too, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:23 PM
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Back in my pickme days, I thought BDSM was “hot”. I used to have panic attacks with a NVM ex during sex because he had so many BDSM kinks. I used to think something was wrong with ME that I couldn’t keep it together and go through with it. I’m glad I realized the error of my ways, but still... It is so easy for the patriarchy to brainwash women at a young age to subject themselves to literal abuse during sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:52 AM
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What an absolute pig. No words. I hope she leaves his ass in the dust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:57 AM
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Sadly, I agree with all that you said. He clearly doesn't care about the boundary, and I'm not sure if he really ever did. Perhaps initially his intentions were good, he thought he could go without using it, but clearly he was able to justify continued use of it somehow. I don't want to equate porn as physically cheating, but the pain feels probably on par if he were to actually do so. As you mentioned, it would be a different story if he came to me and admitted he has a problem. Even with the i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:59 PM
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I’m literally having the EXACT same mental debate and also in my late 20’s. I’m not quite sure what the answer is as of just yet, so I’m taking the time to just focus on myself. When I feel ready to date again, I’m considering going on dates with women - and I have also considered myself strictly heterosexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:39 AM
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Supposedly he was planning on proposing this year, but yes... Up until recently, discussing the future felt more like fantasy instead of reality with him. Even though we have lived together for the majority of our relationship. It's interesting to take step back and re-evaluate everything, I should've known much much sooner this would be the outcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:32 AM
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Honestly, this is probably what gets me the most. Integrity and honesty is my absolute #1 value in all relationships - romantic or not. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a shitty LVM for 4 years, but you have a big heart for trying and seeking therapy. You gave him all the chances in the world, it's his loss if he couldn't see that. The point about justification is hauntingly true to the situation with my BF. He came up with every excuse in the book of why he's masturbating at work..."I'm stre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:12 AM
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My brain cells were fried at that point as well haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:47 PM
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Thank you, sis. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:29 PM
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5 years ago, I thought he was worth it and believed he love me enough to give it up. Obviously, I was horribly wrong. If I had adopted this mindset of not wanting to be anyone who is a "project", I wouldn't be where I am now.. I believe an addict CAN change but only under the rare circumstance that they are intrinsically motivated. Not doing it because of a relationship boundary is laughable to a PA; like you said, he has just invested his time in hiding it better. And he has, I found it across …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:16 PM
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I am completely devastated by this discovery and blatant disregard for me and our relationship. On the other hand, emotionally I feel dead inside, which I believe is a trauma response. I am going to seek out a therapist and support groups to heal; I need to focus on this before ever even considering dating. I am worried of the long-lasting effects of this trauma, and I am bitter he put me through this. Thank you for your tough love... you're completely right, I shouldn't feel bad at all for some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:08 PM
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That is so fucked up, I'm so sorry sis. I can't imagine the strain that has put on your relationship with your father, knowing he gets off to abuse of young girls... so sick.. Thank you for your advice. I wonder if your mom knew before she settled down with your father? My mom had no idea, and she actually divorced my father over porn use. So yeah this is fucking me with mentally lol. So many women need to enforce this boundary, maybe it wouldn't be so grossly normalized in our society... Your l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:00 PM
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Because of the constant deception and complete disregard for my boundaries, option b is all I got..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:55 PM
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I'm afraid to know, but it's probably better I don't. I used to kid myself and say this is the only thing, he's such an amazing man... no, he's a fucking con artist. I wonder if he'll ever take accountability for his actions and deception. I'm sure he'll justify it in his head somehow, and then drown himself deeper into his porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:54 PM
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Clearly I should be understanding he has needs and urges outside of our sexual relationship. And I should just comfort him whenever he can't get it up (which just started happening this week, actually)..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:52 PM
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I feel physically sick when I think about for more than 5-10 seconds. Like I can't believe I've given my body and sexual energy to such a LVM. Imagine what his co-workers think if there are suspicions..? Disappearing into the bathrooms for 30mins-an hour at a time is insane..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:51 PM
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Yes... the will to change and realize the addiction has to come from within himself. Clearly, he is in the exact opposite mindset. Instead of focusing his energy towards recovery, he'll just hide it better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:50 PM
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He did say he felt he had an issue/addiction in the beginning of the relationship, but he chalked it up to being "single" for a while and he was still trying to adjust to being in the relationship. Being this was the first guy that had struck my fancy in 6 months+ and we really clicked, I fell for it. At least I'll come out of this relationship not believing the same line. I don't care if it takes years, I absolutely do not want to be with a porn sick man. It is probably always way worse than th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:49 PM
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He'll probably only fall deeper into his addiction, until he meets a LVF who will put up with this bullshit. It's funny, when we first started dating, he discussed how his ex also didn't like him watching porn. He made her out to seem crazy and was also vague why they separated. I am now wondering if she left him for the same exact reason..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:44 PM
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It's funny you mention this, once I discovered the porn addiction the rose-tinted glasses came off. I once thought he was amazing and now view him as just a porn-sick scrote. Even if this is unfair to the rest of his character and how amazing he has treated me throughout the relationship, it helps me gather the courage to move on from him. But pondering on it, I realize he does have a bit of a short fuse and gets irritated often, especially in off days. Combined with porn use I don't deserve to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:42 PM
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Stupidly clinging to hope. It's time I got my head out of my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:40 PM
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Thank you, sis. He has gaslit me for the past 5 years, it's about time I got my head out of my ass and realized what was going on. I don't like playing the victim card, but you're absolutely right that this is real trauma that needs to be dealt with. Perhaps this is why I've felt completely numb to everything for the past month; while I'm not screaming, crying, or flying off the handle, I feel like a shell and not much has made me genuinely happy. I'm afraid this is a slippery slope and I don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:37 PM
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You are so incredibly strong, my queen. I am sorry you had to endure such trauma, but it sounds like you can move on without absolutely any regret with all the effort and hope you put forward to hoping he'd change. At 27, I thought this was the man I'd settle down with. I need to remove these irrational thoughts out of my head that I'll be a spinster lady who never settles down breaking up with someone right before the point of an engagement. I've also been reading these forums of married women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:31 PM
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I try to be forgiving, but this I believe is simply too far. With hard boundaries such as these, he clearly knew what he was doing. There was absolutely no gray area. And it was just not a single occurrence, he probably never stopped watching, and there's probably shit I'll never find out he did, but I guess I'm better off that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:26 PM
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The truth hurts, but you're absolutely right. I don't know how he can literally be SO loving and sweet outside of this - I feel cringey like I've been with a fake these past 5 years. From viewing his phone activity, he has texted me simultaneously while getting off at work. His credibility is zilch with me now... welp. That's awful and insanely disrespectful that you're ex did that you. Like are men such slaves to their porn women that they have such lack of self control? In the long run, he cer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:24 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised if it escalates into worse things. We have sex literally everyday, sometimes multiple times a day, and yet he is downloading his porn videos before even leaving the house....right after we just had sex. I know it's everything to do with him and his issues, but god does that feel like even more of a slap in the face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:18 PM
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He lied literally upwards of a 100 hundred times. He's out of strikes for an entire lifetime lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:37 AM
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Thank you.. If only I could've discovered this sooner before wasting 5 years with him..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:36 AM
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Thank you; now I only wished that he would have respected this boundary, because now I have to end a 5 year long relationship over it. Hope it was all worth it to him. I hope in the next coming years men truly start to understand the harm of porn, and that can only be helped by women enforcing this boundary at the beginning of a relationship. I might as well date women at this point, 'cause I am pretty pessimistic that I will just end up with another porn addict scrote lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:55 AM
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I agree, he has been there for me through so much shit in the past 4 years, but I have never betrayed his trust in this manner. I wish I would've known sooner and I didn't spend 5 years with him.. but I am glad I found out before our lives became even more intertwined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:49 AM
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Exactly. It is the definition of insanity. And he will only crave more sick and twisted porn and act out in even more riskier ways, potentially even physically cheating. I believe some men can be occasional users and not allow it to consume their lives, but I believe my bf is an addict and will torch his entire life for his pixelated women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:47 AM
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The majority of his office crew is still working from home, so he is watching it in the bathroom relatively undisturbed from what he said. Well, it took hours to pry this little fact out of him. He is spending anywhere from 30mins-an hour each time, sometimes multiple times in a day.. As someone who prides himself on being "respectful", it is sickening. All my friends and family believe he is literally perfect and the nicest guy on this earth, and I did too up until this recent discovery. He had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:49 AM
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It's such a shame. He has amazing qualities otherwise. But clearly he is broken, and he can't be ready for the next step in our lives if he wants to act like a teenager with his dick his hands. I'm sorry, I am so bitter atm lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:45 AM
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I do not want to subject myself to a life of dealing with this emotional trauma. I know he will relapse. But even to get to recovery, he has to want it for himself. The only reason he is trying to "stop" is because I caught him - so clearly it is not an inherent wish for him. He probably preferred it when I didn't know. I'm afraid instead of working on getting better, he is just going to work on getting smarter at hiding it. He has gone as far as looking at nude photos on Pinterest of all places…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:42 AM
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Thank you for welcoming me! I am so happy to have stumbled upon this amazing thread of strong women. Queens lifting up other queens. :) It truly sucks to leave someone who I felt was my soulmate, but I realize all trust has been vanquished. And he literally does not respect me at all, clearly..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:35 AM
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Thank you. The handbook is perhaps one of the most enlightening things I have read. I know I have to enforce the boundary, I guess I was just seeking validation as my friends/family see no issues with porn use. This is one of the only places I found to turn to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:32 AM
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Thank you... I want to forgive him out of the deepest corners of my heart, but I'm afraid I actually feel nothing for him. In addition, he clearly has no respect for me or boundaries. Porn is one thing, but now it wouldn't put it past him to physically cheat as well. He clearly isn't satisfied with me and lacks the respect and courage to be upfront. What's worse is that he often talks about how much he respects, loves me, cherishes me, etc. He will text me simultaneously to him masturbating at w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:32 AM
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Ouch. Yes this true, he has already consistently chosen porn over me countless times. Every single damn time he lied to me. I wish I just knew how he can sleep with himself at night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:29 AM
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Thank you so much for your insight. I need to hear some tough love and hard truth. I can't believe I ever thought he was the one. This discovery comes at a time we're discussing moving, marriage, kids, etc.. I feel it's a sign. I'm glad I didn't find out years down the line at very least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:05 AM
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That's where my head is at as well. Not to mention the addiction, it's down right creepy. The compulsion to masturbate at work and jeopardize not only our relationship, but his stability is staggering. I just don't see myself trusting his judgement or integrity ever again after this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:03 AM
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