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| 488 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to? | PICKME CULTURE | rosepinks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Implementing FDS strategies in your 20s | DISCUSSION | rosepinks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:17 AM |
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| 10 | Men who say "What do you want me to do, say no?" when they take sexual advantage of women need to be stopped.Men admit they will fuck any and everything but then get mad when we don’t want to sleep with anyone but then ALSO get upset that women aren’t all virginal traditional housewife robots…….make it make sense? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:55 PM |
| 25 | Women Don’t Know. Old Scrote = Birth Defects, Developmental IssueAnd there’s a reason for this: to control women & create a double standard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 03:06 AM |
| 4 | Message to Male LurkersThis is so true tho. When 40+ men hit on me I just wanna 🤮🤢 like dude we have nothing in common, gtfo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 06:11 AM |
| 18 | I can't think of anything I could say that would be better than her responseAs a 21 yr old, I am SO sick of seeing these gross guys use girls my age to put down other women!! News flash old gross men: no one my age who actually has self esteem wants you!!! Everyone in their 20s finds u disgusting for preying on young women bc it’s very inappropriate 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 04:40 PM |
| 9 | What kind of dumbass neckbeard neggs Azealia Banks online?! LMAO!I know she’s problematic as hell, but sometimes she says EXACTLY what needs to be said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 04:14 PM |
| 15 | Stop worrying about 🍆, invest in yourself and the sisterhood. The Queendom will follow, sis 👸🏻Thank u for this post! I totally agree about being a WOC & navigating the workplace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 04:09 PM |
| 3 | From the interview “Prostitution is rape, and men know it” with Rachel Moran.I can’t see the link for some reason? Can someone reply with the link? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 10:32 PM |
| 35 | Not to mention there can be professional repercussions for not performing femininityI always tell myself I must wear makeup and look beautiful before any professional/academic presentation or interview. That rly illustrates how girls are pressured to value our looks above our knowledge | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:03 PM |
| 30 | Please don't give them any more excuses..Exactly. They act like everyone else didn’t have problems. Typically women are actually the ones to have it worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Why we don’t do clapbacksEXACTLY. and yall have to understand that for these men who dont even see us as real humans/dont get many opportunities to speak to women, ANY attention is valuable & they will still think they have a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:16 PM |
| 6 | Why men cheat.this might be one of the more depraved things ive ever seen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:13 PM |
| 190 | Please don't give them any more excuses..I grew up pretty sheltered and I have anxiety and when I brought that up to my therapist she just said "but you're an adult now, you can't just keep relying on your parents. You need to figure it out yourself." Honestly, at first it hurt but now I'm so much more empowered and independent. I feel confident enough to do things on my own & figure out my life. Men LITERALLY never have anyone say that. It's so weird how they just use their upbringing as an excuse until they are 40 or even after that.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:11 PM |
| 14 | In my experience, most men who call themselves “good guys,” are just comparing themselves to the predatory men they keep in their friend group. and they’ll call themselves the “good guy” in comparison, but they very obviously aren’t because they’re still hanging out with their predatory friendsWOW this is SUCH a good point tho?? I always wonder why these so called "good guys" can explain to me so much about how their friends are being disgusting players and how they can tell me so much about the creepy guys they know. it all makes sense now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:03 PM |
| 84 | A trend I've noticed among LVM.LOL im sorry but how do you not realize someone has had a boob job im dead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:32 AM |
| 42 | A trend I've noticed among LVM.I used to be "natural." And my ex-LVM would comment on any hair on my body - I have very dark hair so its hard to always be hairless. He would neg me and put me down. He wouldn't want to be seen with me. I spent all of my time arguing with him and being gaslit that I truly neglected myself. I wouldn't eat well and was always bloated even tho I had always had a flat stomach. Now I take care of myself. I put *all* of my energy into being pampered and relaxed. I always look my best for me. I feel l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to?I agree with absolutely everything you're saying - you're so right. I got tired of looking at the dating app subreddits bc its all just guys posting their horrible attempts at getting women's attention and then whining and complaining about how little female attention they get. Uh yea...what women would give a man attention when he just makes his love life out to be one huge joke thats beyond help? yet somehow we are supposed to be attracted to that? Yes I get that self deprecating humor is a co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to?ikr. i finally unfollowed after this. this was the last straw for me. its actually very harmful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to?theyre far too lazy to do that. its like its unfathomable to them smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to?It's funny tho bc when someone hotter actually does ask them out, its a disaster. They start having a mental breakdown bc they *know* they don't deserve it. LVM literally destroy women who are better than them out of resentment. I will never ask a man out again - especially not a man who isn't up to my standards - bc its literally dangerous. idc what anyone says. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:16 AM |
| 65 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to?THIS OH MY GOSH. Men beg amazing women to give them a chance but then do NOT respect those women bc they KNOW that they dont deserve it. They see the woman as stupid and lacking in confidence because she gave them a chance. I am so glad FDS showed me this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 05:01 AM |
| 89 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to?I was disgusted to see that this was posted as if its "wholesome" and positive. Just gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 04:32 AM |
| 75 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to?I'm disgusted by LVM like that because they don't accept women who aren't fully formed. They don't accept girls who are "pathetic," yet they love the idea of themselves being entitled to the love of women who are too good from them. YUCK. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 04:31 AM |
| 114 | Why do men romanticize the idea of women who are too good for them settling for them? How is that something that these losers look forward to?that is just so twisted and sick tbh. its what LVM do when they try to manipulate confident women instead of going for pick-mes who are desperate for any man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 04:29 AM |
| 31 | I just felt like this belonged hereWow Im so sorry. But the things thst comfort me are just that my true friends hate him and have my back. And i know thst he is actually a very unhappy person, he just pretends to be nice and happy. Even tho no one knows the truth about your ex, stick by friends who can remind you that they also know the truth and will validate your emotions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 03:09 AM |
| 6 | Dating detox/detoxing from romantic propagandaCan I just say thank u so much for this thread? I’ve rly been struggling w trying to realize why I’m so obsessed with the idea of love and why I feel so uncomfortable being single and not knowing whether I will find someone. I always wonder how men can just not care and even enjoy being single while all my female friends feel terrible about being alone. This TRULY gave me the answer and i will be taking the media i have been consuming into account to try and process this, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 02:11 AM |
| 18 | These guys are around us, ladies.Ok but here is a conflict I notice in these guys’ statements. The first guy says that you can’t make a man wait for sex because he will just go for a girl who gives it up earlier. However, most men admit that they quickly lose interest in a girl when they sleep with her before developing a real connection. So...wouldn’t the man just continue to crave sex with the woman he cannot have? Wouldn’t that actually make them like the woman he has to chase more? Bc he can hookup w many girls but there wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:58 AM |
| 47 | These guys are around us, ladies.This. It’s funny bc I’m a black women and when I hear someone say something racist I immediately can acknowledge how invalid it is and dismiss it from my mind. Yet, I can’t do the same thing with these kinds of misogynistic statements as easily because they’re so insidious. I’m learning tho to be stronger as a woman and not let these harmful statements get to me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:53 AM |
| 26 | These guys are around us, ladies.You’re totally right! They love to generalize us and find the formula to manipulating us but we still have ownership over our own lives. They just hate seeing women as individuals that they cannot control | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:50 AM |
| 4 | Girl posts about not liking her boyfriends hentai habit, gets flamed in the comments for being apparently insecure and jealousIm saving this because this is an amazing point and something women need to hear, esp young ones like her. These are powerful words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:44 AM |
| 21 | Girl posts about not liking her boyfriends hentai habit, gets flamed in the comments for being apparently insecure and jealousFor me it only took one at age 20 so I hope this guy wakes up asap 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:42 AM |
| 90 | I just felt like this belonged hereI still feel angry towards my toxic ex. I see him a lot now that I’m back on my college campus and he has a great reputation and a lot of people see him as a super nice guy. I thought I was done being emotional over the breakup but seeing him again this semester has made me upset all over again. I feel angry that being with him made me feel so insecure, angry that he always made me feel like I wasn’t good enough, and angry that now everytime I meet someone I just assume I won’t be good enough fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Might be controversial even here, but I thinks BJs as demeaningThey are demeaning bc men make them demeaning. Ex: pushing the girls head down, moving her w her hair like shes a sex toy, forcing it further down than is comfortable...etc. Plus idk its just genuinely *such* an uncomfortable thing to do yet theres this expectation that we are supposed to do it perfectly?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:03 AM |
| 40 | What 👏🏼 a 👏🏼 comeback 👏🏼 👏🏼Women get shamed for having a body count higher than 0, but this guy dates 100 women in 25 years and that’s somehow ok??? Taylor Swift couldn’t even days like ten men during the last decade without being endlessly shamed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 07:08 AM |
| 9 | Mood for 2021 😂Yess love seeing sooyoung on an FDS page | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:03 AM |
| 4 | Imagine conceiving, birthing, and raising a male only for them to turn into such a pathetic, depraved, disturbed individual as an adult. I’m truly sickened.WELL SAID!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:48 PM |
| 7 | Imagine conceiving, birthing, and raising a male only for them to turn into such a pathetic, depraved, disturbed individual as an adult. I’m truly sickened.Men truly see us as objects. Stuff like this reminds me to never compromise on vetting bc there are sickos like this out there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:46 PM |
| 96 | obese entitled scrote thinks he deserves better than his gf despite being a LVMSuch a good point lmao! Men always beg women to give them a chance at their worst but then punish them bc they secretly hate themselves. Imagine thinking you deserve something else just bc you lost two pounds omg... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:04 AM |
| 1 | Men need to stop complaining that they do not receive compliments from women.When you compliment men they think u want to have sex with them. It’s literally that simple. If they want compliments they have to stop being such creepy mofos | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 10:49 AM |
| 3 | That’s a pretty low bar for ‘relationship goals’. And they say women are gold diggers.SIMONE BILES is literally a legend and deserves sooo much better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 07:09 AM |
| 8 | It’s a pandemic of LVM men everywhere!! Another story of an LVM man taking a woman out on a date. PandemicHe’s not into her at all and seems like a weird ass guy. Why do guys go out w women they don’t rly like? Why go out w a girl who you think is a good digger if you can’t even pay?? Yikes! This is why I don’t feel bad for rejecting/ghosting tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:34 AM |
| 37 | geee i wonder whyI love how he literally expects women to like him when he brings NOTHING to the table and doesn’t even date? mEn aRe tHe lOgIcAl gEnDeR | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:57 PM |
| 11 | I was scrolling through a post discussing school stress management and happened along this little number. Absolutely appalling. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is how most men view their wives and children.How entitled of a life did you had to have had for this to be your attitude? Your only problems are that you're sleep deprived and you have a young son and this is how you act? The wife works - comes home later than him - and no doubt cooks, cleans, takes care of the baby while he does...what exactly, IDK even tho he's not getting sleep??? This is just so sickening. My Dad tells me so many stories about my childhood and how he would take care of me at night after he got home and how he'd stay up… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 10:35 AM |
| 17 | Aww poor baby is insecureReading this shit honestly makes me thankful that im single bc like .... wtf are these women dealing w?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 02:57 AM |
| 3 | What does FDS think of this short story? This dude was lurking outside her apartment, negged her outfit, and wasn't able to be patient while she dealt with her issues on her own terms and timelineHonestly a great film & I'm glad it was shared here. It rly highlights the experience of BW at the intersection of race & gender. We have to deal w men negging us - as was shown in the vid along w racial trauma. Obviously no one is entitled to someone being with them if they aren't in a good place but the fact that this man just insists that "he was helping" yet gets mad at her for "shutting him out" shows that he wasn't truly being as patient and understanding with her as he says he was. This f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 08:23 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I would love a post like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:24 AM |
| 7 | Some scrote posted this on r/Bumble talking about how SHE'S deranged???? LMFAOIt’s always a red flag when guys complain about response time. It’s like ur still a stranger, you haven’t done anything for me and will probably just turn out to be another loser...why tf would I prioritize responding to you?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 03:32 PM |
| 25 | know your worthPerfect response 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 03:22 PM |
| 1 | scrote finds out his fiancée had one night stands in college and cancels marriage because he had to wait three months to bone her 🤡Any guy who thinks this way is disgusting. How tf did she “lie” by making certain choices in college yet not sleeping w him for a couple of months 🤢🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Prime example of the type we don't give our valuable presence to. A date with a woman is worth far more than $18.75. He had the audacity to call himself a "gentleman" after all that! 😂It’s interesting how easy it is for men to just defend their disgusting actions and then flip it on the women and make it seem like their reaction is the problem. He was like “why are you acting all weird?” As if he has lived in a bubble all of his life and doesn’t know that it’s expected to pay for a woman when u go out , esp when YOU ask her out.. Hes clearly beyond help, anytime this happens women should just pay and cut contact, bc the man has already decided he isn’t going to put in the eff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Reframing of the Pickme PhenomenonAmazing post. I think the term “pickme” is useful bc it sort of “scares” women out of acting in a way that hurts themselves, but it can also cause a lot of guilt bc we beat ourselves up for past actions. I love how you reframe it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:33 AM |
| 4 | I am in need of sincere advice [possible TW: assault]He doesn’t respect your boundaries or your feelings. You’ve told him over and over to stop pressuring you to open up abt that and he won’t, I’d suggest you leave him or distance yourself at least. I was in a relationship w a LVM in college who didn’t respect me and it only gets worse. You can’t say anything more or do anything to make him respect you or change him, men don’t change bc of anything women do, sadly...especially when they don’t respect what you tell them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:30 AM |
| 6 | Self Care DayThey sounds messy asf and like they’ll make each other miserable. You def saved urself more pain by not being with him. Block them both and enjoy your new car, queen! We are proud of u 👑💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:21 AM |
| 21 | Can We Tell The Truth About Plastic Surgery?THANK YOU I am so tired of people saying “well most women get plastic surgery for themselves, it makes them happy!” Like yea it makes them happy bc they get validation .. stop trying to normalize it! Some things should be stigmatized bc they lead to health risks and only exacerbate self esteem issues | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:14 AM |
| 40 | Rant about guys my ageI agree and have had a similar experience. I’m in college and dated a LVM there for my first two years. That REALLY showed me how messed up our generation is. He was super popular and well-liked, and even was the president of the sexual assault prevention club, yet would make sexist jokes, loved p*rn, and would play misogynistic rap that degrades black women around me even when I told him that kind of music makes me uncomfortable. He expected me to put up w things bc he viewed women as lesser an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 02:37 AM |
| 7 | This is why we don’t dress for scrotes, dress for yourself sis!Sounds like he’s projecting his own insecurity onto her tbh. She’s probably attractive and looked rly nice when dresses up but he got insecure. He knows he’s not good enough for her now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 07:50 PM |
| 3 | I “ built a man up” and now I know why a lot of women refuse to do so anymore.The last two lines you give; SO IMPORTANT!! Thank you for this post and I’m so proud of you for going thru that and still coming out alright ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 07:42 PM |
| 19 | To my Black FDS women, we really need to start watching after ourselves because it’s clear that our communities don’t care for us. To non-FDS women, please be there to support and believe us when no one else will. We really need to have each other’s back in the men-centered world.FDS core values are so important for black women to follow bc this is our reality. The only way to make people value us is to put as much energy as we can into ourselves and make everyone else literally earn our time/energy/support | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 01:55 AM |
| 6 | Stay awareThis is so depraved wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 01:48 AM |
| 15 | How long should I date him before moving on?If he’s 42 and still afraid of commitment he will never change ... not until he’s old and suddenly wants a woman to take care of him 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:07 PM |
| 63 | Broke: financially, spiritually and mentallyAbsolutely. And now that many black women are becoming more picky (esp dark skinned bw), we are constantly met with attempts to bring us back down to being a pickmeisha and accepting any LV/NVM by being told “you’re black no man will want u anyway.” But now, thankfully, high value bw are waking up and realizing that it’s BS and we have options/don’t have to settle 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Imagine being this insecure that you feel the need to go around and humble those GORGEOUS, confident black woman...patheticYEP and FDS is so compatible with it (: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 07:45 AM |
| 3 | Imagine being this insecure that you feel the need to go around and humble those GORGEOUS, confident black woman...patheticYup. FDS is crucial for black women bc of this. We are so accustomed to stuff like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 07:44 AM |
| 11 | Major trigger warning!!!What kind of sick husband wants his wife to relive trauma and carry a rapist’s baby?? It’s like he’s valuing the rapist male over his own WIFE. DISGUSTING | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 05:15 PM |
| 7 | More proof men just see us as warm flesh lights. He expects her to warm herself up, give herself her own orgasm and be satisfied with just pleasing him??? I’m disgustedHe definitely sounds like he’s cheating 🤷♀️Also why have children, a house, and joint bank accounts unless ur married? He’s using her :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 05:12 PM |
| 42 | Won’t someone please think of the men?!?!There are always posts like this screaming that aLl mEn shouldn’t be punished for the predatory behavior of certain men but..the “good guys” still allow for that predatory behavior by perpetuating harmful norms like not checking fellow males who make inappropriate jokes, watching porn that glorifies/fetishizes age gaps, not allowing anyone to criticize rape culture, etc. If men were so against predators, they would have collectively tried to push back against them - but they don’t. They excuse t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:21 PM |
| 7 | This is why I don’t date short men.WOW this is beyond weird. It's wild how insecure men get and project their insecurities onto women. Yet somehow she is the bad guy just for *talking* to a tall guy..WTF? And what exactly is he going to do if she says anything to the female friend...dump her for something she said in conversation just to confirm his own inferiority complex? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:22 PM |
| 1 | For those of us with unhealthy attachment styles, and overactive imaginations.Any other tips on how to combat this? Even though I work so hard to focus on my job, school, reading/etc I feel like guys are on my mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:44 PM |
| 1 | I’m a big fan of doing what you want, but stepping back and seeing the rising amount of $ made off of women to fit popular beauty standards is unsettling when you think of where these ideas are coming from in the first place.I agree completely. I don’t like the look but sometimes I feel like I don’t measure up just bc I don’t like to spend a ton of time on my eyebrows or contouring. I just like to be myself but it’s so much pressure to basically look like a snapchat filter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:07 PM |
| 3 | This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodgedThat sounds like pure BS. Real talk, men will literally fuck anything that breathes. Theres no reason to "ensure you're a good match in bed"... Def gonna be aware of guys like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 06:19 AM |
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