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rp_findingmyway/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 01:50 PM
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rp_findingmyway/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/17 11:43 AM
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Just ended a 20 year marriage, also with 5 kids. None of this bullshit was in play however. My 2 pesos: 1) Get an attorney. Don't be a nimwit and just randomly pick one and go with that person, but get all the free consultations you can and see which one seems like they will be best for you. 2) You are the one that might be fucked in the near term. If she's a SAHM, you might be liable for both child support and alimony if you divorce now. You might have to go the whole "revenge is a dish best se…
/r/askMRP12/07/18 10:09 AM
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100%
/r/askMRP11/06/18 12:21 PM
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I wouldn't completely ghost her yet, even though this is a severe betrayal. As Matrix says, this is a gift particularly given the developments in your life you mentioned recently. I would get the divorce details locked down first (with the help of an attorney if need be), including asset division, parenting plan, etc. While you're working through all that, of course don't be a bitch supplicating to her but make her feel that you're going to do this amicably and help her swing. When it's all been…
/r/askMRP11/06/18 12:16 PM
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They are what results when a society prioritizes and incentivizes Alpha Fucks (enthusiastic consent) while Beta Bucks is more or less assured by direct and indirect resource transfer to women. Money quote. The knowledge of this reality is what causes my awareness of the Red Pill to be such a kick in the teeth.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 11:55 AM
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Dude, be outcome independent. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. You won't always know why. And trying to overanalyze the outcome to death is completely beta. Be the fun guy. If any particular girl wants to be taken to poundtown you give her a ride there. Don't sweat the ones that don't.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 11:17 AM
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There seems to be a lot of deer in that forest...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/18 10:12 AM
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Damn dude! Well done. Pre-selection on steroids. Pun not intended. Ok it was.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/18 09:26 PM
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Your marriage in good shape, as there's no mention of anything about being the fun guy, leading kids, tingles, etc.? Went shopping and got some nice plain V-necks in a variety of colors, some nice shorts, and new sneakers You following WellBuiltStyle on Twitter? That's his bread and butter right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 09:32 AM
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You're doing alright. Sounds like a very decent marriage. I think MMSLP should be on your near-term reading list and will help you in the bedroom. With any book (particularly your experience with SGM), if 10% doesn't really fit your style and would come off as inauthentic, then discard it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 08:55 AM
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Hopefully my take doesn't jeopardize my ability to get free dental advice from you in the future, but here goes anyway... Why are you still married to this chick (no kids, etc.)? Zero sum game. Would you marry her today if you were single and she were available and she came to you with exactly her current characteristics? You gotta alot of life ahead of you. At some point you're going to regret the time and effort and lost opportunities spent trying to crack this riddle wrapped in a mystery insi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 10:56 AM
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virgin...married a year...shocked me...disgusted... Dude, you should try stand-up comedy. Maybe a youtube channel to get started. Your dry humor cracks me right up. Keep it coming!
/r/askMRP29/04/18 10:35 AM
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No problem bro. Mehlman's got an interesting blog. Iron balls. Even though I have many years on him, I can and am learning a thing or two from him.
/r/askMRP28/04/18 11:54 AM
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Keep on with your mission. Keep on doing fun shit. The right woman will eventually come around. Trying too hard to find her (on socials, etc.) may be the problem. I've got another month before I'm moved out and have my freedom. I've got road adventures and out of country trips planned. Solo. If I meet a woman along the way great. Don't care and certainly not stressed about it. Want to experience life and meet more people and just have fun. Maybe I'm just jaded after 20 years of marriage, the las…
/r/askMRP25/04/18 09:45 AM
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Thanks bud. Much appreciated. Out goes the Peroxide, in comes the scraper.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 02:18 AM
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I occasionally gargle with hydrogen peroxide for 30 seconds or so (had read it was better than traditional mouthwash given the lack of alcohol in it). Haven't noticed any ill effects and manages halitosis for a few hours. What have you heard about this doc?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/18 09:46 AM
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Just ordered as well. Had seen you rec this months ago and forgot to order then. Thanks for banging the pot again!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/18 09:44 AM
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This shit post needs to be deleted. Wasted 5 minutes trying to figure out OP's point. Well, there is none.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/18 10:17 AM
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Great post. But wasn't this originally written as a comment by SBIII on the Cut the Shit sticky?
/r/askMRP21/04/18 10:42 AM
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LOL. There is no cheat code for fat betas. If you throw fame and power into the mix, along with frame which HW has in spades, you're talking fat alpha cheat codes. In any event, for OP he's gotta get his bf% much lower to spark regular attraction from his wife. So he's spot-on in his self assessment IMO.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 07:35 PM
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Don't worry about your "feeble" weights or being "slightly embarrassed". You're in the gym. Doing compund lifts with the grown men. Not hiding out on the machines. The other guys doing much more weight respect you for what you're doing. Gotta start somewhere. Forget 5 or 10 years, be consistent and in 1 year you'll be triple all those numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 07:25 PM
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No sex in 3 years? What the fuck. What stage of dread are you in? Any hobbies worth noting? Might be part of the problem. Get a life apart from your wife. She obviously does not give one whit about you or your needs. She's just a mom. Not a wife. Certainly not a girlfriend You ok with that?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 07:16 PM
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"Can I sleep with you" Don't get so busy with your mission that you miss the forest for the trees. Clearly she was initiating. Whether you want it or not with all the bullshit she's pulling is another matter. Also, the drunkfest with the girlfriend is a huge red flag. Not a great sign of respect from a wife and mother of your kids. Got any boundaries on this shit?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 07:06 PM
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Wut? Harvey Weinstein was a high-status power broker / gate keeper who got all the pussy he wanted. What's that got to do with the AFC on MRP?
/r/askMRP19/04/18 06:46 PM
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You might have read the sidebar (doubt it though) but you certainly haven't internalized it. Adopt more a DNGAF attitude. Tease her. You're the fun guy right? Looks like she wants you to validate her and respect her authority the same way her subordinates at work do. F that. Ultimately you have to realize and be ok with the fact your non-compliance with her demands may or will result in the marriage ending. No kids, constantly fighting, career-obsessed you-go girl? Really, why should you care al…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 10:32 AM
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Women want sex every bit as much as men. I think they want it more. FWIW, that is counter to what Rollo says in RM. IIRC, his point delves into relative testosterone levels (men's being 12x to 15x women's).
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 12:40 PM
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I've defined my personal mission as finding attractive real estate that I can fix up in an economical way and resell for profit. Too simplistic? Don't care. Research, think and act on it every day. My fitness goals are designed to help as well, as a lot of the work in my mission is physical and being out of shape, or constantly nursing injuries, will not help. Not 100% sure this will be my mission five years from now, but it is for now. I have no interest in setting up an orphanage, discovering …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 10:42 AM
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If you're not ready for the job maybe you're not ready. But most people fake it til they make in the corporate world. Until the Peter Principle kicks in. Don't discount the help and support you'd get from upper management in your transition. They usually pride themselves on identifying and promoting (in every sense) young talent. Re other's perceptions, you don't need anyone reminding you that shouldn't be much of a concern. Even if it's true, it happens all the time in the corporate world and m…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/18 10:07 AM
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You're a mess bud. Read this in addition to the Rollo article. But you're really just better off working on yourself and forgetting about reconnecting. No idea why you divorced in the first place, but surely she doesn't find you all that attractive right now and you've got to fix that first. And who knows where you'll be or what you'll want when you do.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 11:06 PM
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I'm kind of amused you posted this in MRP. But I'll give you my take anyway. You have one-itis. You sound really needy. Your clinginess turns her pussy into the Mojave desert. She's not yours. It's just your turn. And your turn might be up very soon. DYEL? She ain't feeling no dread either. Keep gaming girls and live and enjoy your life whether she's around or not.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 12:19 PM
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If anything's going to give in all this, it won't be her new-found "you go girl" lifestyle desires. It's going to be doing the hard work that's associated with having 100% of the kids 50% of the time. In fact, I'm internally calculating a 5% to 10% chance that I'm a sole parent one year from now.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/18 10:13 AM
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Yeah that's my question too. Very healthy lifestyle and ED/low libido issues are a complete oxymoron. What's up OP? Sober up and give us an answer.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 10:10 AM
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That shit your dad has pulled is so fucked up it's beyond words. Also, I read one of your older posts. Didn't realize there was an Ironwood RP Primer for boys. Stealing that for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/18 01:13 AM
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I think she's probably spent the past 1.5 years sorting out her options in the SMP and is now ready to strike. It's amusing to watch. She's sooo frustrated I haven't left the house yet (can't until we have an asset sale, closing scheduled next month) because it keeps her under wraps for now. We'll see about the new guy(s). She's actually protective of the kids in some ways. Wrote into our initial parenting plan that neither of us could bring another SO around the kids until the youngest was 18 (…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/18 12:54 AM
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Hmmmmm. She's mid-40's. Going through menopause. Huge mood swings. Libido is actually pretty decent (never a DB that I didn't cause with my very own knuckleheadedness) albeit starfishy in recent years. Very attractive. She's going to be able to pull some decent guys, there's no doubt. Commitment will be tough from the type of guys she would want. But that's her problem of course. I'm just going to stay out of her life and live my own. In a year I'd love to be able to say I've got a stable of pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/18 12:05 AM
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Lol. True.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 12:27 PM
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Appreciate your take. To be clear, the decision to divorce is hers. She simply upped the cuntiness to non-stop 150% all the time just to get me to ultimately agree that a divorce was in both our self interests. I can handle disrespect - had plenty of that and didn't cheat or run away. Can handle cuntiness - same. Ran BP's dread up to Level 10. Upped my attraction to the best I could in terms of fitness and dress and passive dread and socialness. It wasn't enough. I had to reign her in from some …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 12:26 PM
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Yes. All accumulated in the marriage so it's 50:50.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 06:27 PM
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I get your point. To clarify I work fixing up real estate on average 20 to 25 hours per week. Sometimes more and sometimes less depending on various factors. I will have to crank that up now, when I'm not on with the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 05:34 PM
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Good question. Yep, lift, passive dread game is decent (upgraded clothes to be more fittted and stylish, she openly sweats the gals at one of my weekly leagues). She, on the other hand, I think also swallowed the red pill. LOL. Yoga's every day, runs probably 20 miles a week. No fat on her. Goes more the active dread route ("oh I'm always getting hit on when I go out for chores" etc.). Big into self improvement. She wants the big house, fancy car etc. And for me to go back to office work and mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 05:29 PM
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That's true. A court can impute income to you if need be. And to her as well if you're sharing custody. Lots of variables. But in my case we're both professionals each capable of earning in the same ballpark so it would have all washed out evenly roughly.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 04:12 PM
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Guilty of not bringing the tingles. For many years. Kids popping out every couple years, breast feeding killing libido and alterng her mood. Wasn't until I caught onto RP that all that clicked and I realized I was competing with others every day basically. Too late in many ways for the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 04:04 PM
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Yep, she's going to party alright. Last night she said something to the effect of "you're not going to limit yourself to having just one girlfriend are you. I'm certainly not going to have just one boyfriend". And then "lots of men think I'm really hot, I don't know why you don't ". LOL. Fortunately I took my one-itis down off the mantle months ago, smashed it to pieces and swept it up and threw it in the trash. Because she's going for the jugular, but I really DGAF. 90:10 sounds about right. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 02:36 PM
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Fuck. Lots. Started calling and texting her ex (she was n=1 before me, so that guy). Alpha-widowed? Possibly. Deciding she wanted to write soft-porn along the lines of 50 Shades. That was a surprise. LOL. Church girl my ass. And there was other shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 02:29 PM
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Re-Intro: 5 kids, 20 year marriage deep-sixed, mid-40's, self-employed. Been continuing to own my shit over past few months, but it's been awhile since I've checked in. Marriage: it's over. Proving the adage that RP can save the man but not necessarily the marriage. Got a few more weeks living at home with ex (apartment, not owned) waiting for asset to sell to free up cash before moving to a nearby apartment that keeps kids in the same school district. Was going to post details here on all this …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 11:34 AM
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Well, you seem to be trending in the right direction with all your efforts. If you want to improve the marriage though, maybe put some effort into having more fun with her. Sounds like most of what you do is apart from her. Take her places where the kids stay home and just you two go, get integrated into her social network, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 09:52 PM
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Get your fucking head out of your ass and lead your family. Your wife's dad dies, now she needs you to step up and be an authentic leader and the oak, and this is the best you can do? Pathetic.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 10:45 AM
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Wet, windy, and slippery. Unless you were hoping to win or place at this event, pulling out was the smart approach given your view of the conditions. Live to fight another day.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 10:40 AM
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What the hell is wrong with your wife and why isn't she waking up to the new you? Does she work or have a secret online life? Is she lonely overseas and you're always doing something apart from her?Your hobbies and guy shit are solid. Lifts and body aren't that bad. Are you gaming her? Do you touch her when you're talking? How about the family finances (a 12 day trip to Thailand suggests they're in good shape)? I don't see your OYS reports pointing out any personal weaknesses that could still be…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 10:36 AM
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asked her if I need to start tape recording our conversations Hopefully that was rhetorical because it's fucking retarded. Sounds like you're getting gaslighted though, and that doesn't necessarily magically go away (in my experience). No kids, bitchy and overly ambitious wife who treats you as an unnecessary accessory too often. Yeah, if I were you I'd be moving my seat a little closer to the exit in this crowded, fire-susceptible theater by continuing to work on OI, DGAF and abundance, and nev…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 10:11 AM
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Dude you pretty much mailed in this OYS. Nothing concrete. Lots of this is good, that could be better. If you feel your life needs better direction and outcomes, put some concrete goals down and set a plan to meet them. outside of my work I’m fully in control, demanding respect at all times So...I wasn't familiar with your user name, clicked on it, saw your post from 3 years ago about your wife. You getting respect from her these days?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 09:57 AM
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the ex wife/new boyfriend situation seems to have eradicated my sex drive. Who gives a shit about your ex-wife? She'll always be in a relationship, and when she's not she'll be pinging you to see if you'll take her back (which hopefully you never will beyond plate-status). Just continue to work on you. Improve those lifts - you can do better, keep approaching and improving your social circles. Join a runners club, whatever. Life's just getting started for you. You're doing well on the approaches…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 09:32 AM
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Will continue to trust but verify, I guess. It's good she doesn't hide it. Keep being awesome, improving your lifts, social connections and career/mission, and she'll have no reason to escalate this beyond merely talking. We usually have sex 3-4 times a month You don't need me to tell you that having sex on average once a week or every 10 days is not awe-inspiring for a guy at your age and bf %. Do you want it more that that (setting aside her recent injury)? Have you had your T checked (labs ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 09:15 AM
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TLDR (longer version is in prior OYS) is that quit (after multi-year discussions and agreement from her...heh, watch what she does, not what she says...) full-time, well-paid white collar world to focus on building up my own business and give more time to help her with kids. Coupled with a cross-country move, she thinks the new version of our life stinks and wants out. She's gone off the rails a bit, but hasn't crossed the line to my knowledge/OPSEC. To me, other than her shitty moods, I couldn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:04 PM
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Agree. No reason to be butt hurt about it. She wants what she wants, who am I to stand in the way. We both want the best for the kids. The things I want her to agree on to salvage the marriage are actually pretty innocuous, but she can be so hard-headed I can totally see her balking.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 04:00 PM
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she took my hand and placed it up around her neck Same sorta issue for me a few months ago, except mine grabbed her own hair which was in a pony and pulled it while i was doing her doggy. I kind of chuckled and took over for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 02:58 PM
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Intro: 5 kids, 20 year marriage that (weekly update: very likely) will soon be ending, 47, 5'10" 153 (needle is pointing up...eating so much peanut butter Jimmy Carter is thinking of getting back into the business...), self-employed. BF: 11%. RP: one year. Social: no problemo. Chatted up a very hit HB7 for a good while at party (wife out of town for biz). Maybe this post-divorce life won't be so bad after all. Big unknown is that after 20 years am I ok being by myself most of the time, or will I…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 01:31 PM
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What part of approaching these woman who think you might be an interesting, fun, high value guy are you struggling with? Get over your approach anxiety, and embrace life bud.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/17 11:38 AM
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You can do it. I left the corporate world 5 years ago to be self-employed for those same reasons and haven't looked back. Have had some lean times but trending up for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/17 04:47 PM
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Yeah, what can I say, I'm not ignoring all that. I've done my share of Opsec, failed and otherwise, and nothing substantial comes up. She's shown plenty of shitty behavior however, enough that if she wants to go I'm moving on too. I'm ok with her deciding that after 20 years of marriage she's a different person than she was when we met, or that I'm not meeting her current needs, and wants to divorce. But I'm also ok with continuing the marriage (except if she did in fact cheat) as long as I can …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/17 12:08 AM
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Thanks fir your input. I put as much shit out there as I can so I can get another guys look at my own personal dumpster fire. Yeah seen an attorney and have told her my post-divorce plan, which involves among other things moving into a nearby complex where two of her single acquaintances live. Trying to figure out the right approach as I go. Her reasons for divorce are all beta shit (not enuf provisioning, she drives 10 year old car, wants a mcmansion) that I'm not rolling over on. But I really …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 06:08 PM
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Intro: 5 kids, 20 year marriage that (update: likely) will soon be ending, 47, 5'10" 152 (I know, I know...), self-employed. BF: 11%. RP: one year. Social: league play, coaching soccer, beers with guy friends. Wife heading out for a week out of town for work. Have parties, and lots of school shit to do while she's gone. No problemo. Ditched my attempt at a beard after 8 or 9 days. Even though I shave my head, the beard just doesn't do it for me. Gym: jumped up to 185 bench and 225 squat on 5x5, …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 10:16 AM
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I want to see you pick up some girls" What the hell was that?! Does that fit into how you two conduct the current state of your marriage? Was it playful teasing, a challenge, a shit test ("ok hubby, you might think you're so hot with all your lifting, but I don't think these younger girls will even bother with you")? And did you at least open a couple girls?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 11:29 AM
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Great initial OYS. See a lot of parallels with your life and mine. Get her out of your head (she's living in it rent-free, probably for the last 18 years), yep start gaming her more often with an IDGAF attitude regardless if she's being shitty, and hit the weights hard to build up muscle and get your body fat % way down. Like your new tone on not immediately seconding her when she's disciplining the kids. Used to do that too, would often get yelled at by my wife immediately thereafter (particula…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 11:22 AM
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Don't track my diet too well other than just trying to eat healthy. Thanks for the tip on the book, will check it out. Yeah, I think the divorce is inevitable. Wife wants a lot of the Keeping-up-with-the-Jones style comforts (McMansion, import convertible) and is very frustrated a lot of our peer group has that stuff but we don't. Our life is fine, and driven more towards experiences (lots of weekend out of town weekend trips, in-town festivals, etc.). Naturally, I'm not all that interested in r…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 11:35 AM
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Yep, not strictly on a 5x5 routine, so I have been incorporating some ideas I got here once or twice a week. Gains will come. Thanks for your comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 10:51 PM
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Trying man. Got some stress going on currently. I'll get some weight on when things settle down a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 10:50 PM
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Intro: 5 kids, 20 year marriage that will soon be ending, 47, 5'10" 150, self-employed. BF: 11%. RP: one year. Social: league play, coaching soccer, beers with guy friends. Gotta keep adding to this due to the increased free time I will have with imminent divorce. Gym: got back up to 175 bench on 5x5 and 6 pack is arriving. Goal - want to continue to add additional protein to diet for energy and growth, so have been mindfully snaking on peanut butter every night. Kids: are great, although they a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 12:52 PM
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Ok that's fine. In hindsight, probably should have tied into MRP theory a little more. MRP has been kinda dry recently so thought I would throw something up.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/17 05:32 PM
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Live my life Yep, she can be pumped and dumped by all manner of 8 and 9 Chad like guys. Commitment from them? Ha.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 01:31 AM
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Haha. Been wondering for years why I'm darker complexioned and my sibs are lighter...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 06:08 PM
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Yeah, I gotta do some thinking about what will work best for me. With respect, jamming PB&J sandwiches down my throat at bedtime like I'm trying to gain weight out for the HS football team may not be my best option Not that young anymore, Lots of MRP tactics (frame, game, dress, these 3 for sure) I can work on and improve myself with that plausibly can bring as good or better results when I very likely hit the market next year. Again, I've got to mull it over. I live in warm weather near the bea…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 06:05 PM
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Thanks i'm going to show her your post to get her inflated, entitled ego back in check. Oh yeah, fight club and all that... Will just let her see how her post-wall, post-divorce ass does on her own. A 60 year old BB bf would not surprise me at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 05:26 PM
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Good tips. Will study these further. Appreciate it. Cheers. Edit: except for the "skeleton" comment. Fucker. Ya know, I think I just need to own that I'm a skinny bastard. Have seven siblings. All at or near obese. Not sure how this happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 04:31 PM
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She's 44. Putting her at a 7 or 8 is maybe my ego talking. But given the direction of our relationship, I should probably start thinking of her as a 5 and looking for a deserved upgrade.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 04:31 PM
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Yeah good catch. Being able to get back to running is very recent and I haven't reevaluated my prior goal of adding weight. I guess the rush I get from running outweighs the extra pounds I probably should be carrying so am leaning on dropping the weight add as a goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 04:27 PM
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She claims it's not marital property. I did some research and that seems right. Even if the divorce is delayed and she gets the money while still married, if she keeps it in a separate account it stays outside the marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 03:19 PM
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Yeah I do actually eat a lot of both. May just need to up my snacking between the three main meals.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 03:16 PM
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Thanks. Kids are of course the biggest concern. Our two youngest are particularly vulnerable emotionally. It amazes me that she wants to plow ahead with this.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 03:15 PM
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Intro: 5 kids, 20 year marriage, 47, 5'10" 150, self-employed. BF: 12%. RP: one year. Social: took family out to festival over weekend. League play started last week and so enjoying that. Put kibosh on other sport I play while coaching current kids soccer season. Beers with friends once a week. Goal - increase social outings. Ramp up chatting/encounters with women. Gym: hitting the gym 3 times every week religiously. Don't have the size of others, but am in decent shape (5x5: 165 bench, 215 squa…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 10:13 AM
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She wants to stay where we are. She gets half the assets (which produce most of our income), she will continue working part time. I buy my own place. No alimony, no child support (since i'll most likely have them 50%). So basically no divorce rape. I'm sort of like, where do I sign up. She's really waffling on this. Fucked her twice in the last few days, so intimacy is back on. Chances of divorce are probably 20:80 at this point. I'm unmoved either way.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:25 AM
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Yeah, the divorce talk from her isn't all that new. She's thrown it out here and there over the past half dozen years with absolutely no follow-up. This time she seems to kinda sorta mean it, and in her words, she envisions a post-divorce life where I have my place, she has her place that she's completely in control of and make all decisions in, and the kids rotate between the two, and her and I are still together in some form or another (basically sounds like she wants to be a plate). She also …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 01:00 AM
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Intro: 5 kids, 20 year marriage, 47, 5'10" 155, self-employed. BF: 12%. Lead buried below. Social: got out for my league on Saturday and a different one on Monday night. Tennis with a buddy on Sunday. All fun stuff. Not a complete social retard, so have been meeting interesting people (guys and girls). Will keep doing this. Had beers with a few friends last nite (Thursday). Goal - maintain social outings. Ramp up chatting/encounters with women. Gym: hit the gym 3 times this week. Given some good…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/17 02:40 AM
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Let's you and him fight, eh? Reading between the lines and I do agree with you, I've got a lot of work to do frame-wise and upping the lifting gains.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/17 10:26 AM
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She's all over the place and confused about what she wants because of your failure to provide leadership, a compelling narrative, and frame to support it. Thanks. I think you're right. I need to mull this over more, and how I fully get there.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 10:42 AM
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True. I have to get the hell out of her frame. Really thought I was. I'm not.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 10:40 AM
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so your wife sounds like one of the smokeshow MILF I have in my yoga classes Glad you enjoy checking her out. ;) I definitely outkicked my coverage 20 years ago. But that was in no small part Beta Bux in action. very High Self Esteem Very true in part. At times she's an entitled, strident bitch. Other times, she's literally a little girl curled up in my lap scared of her own shadow. AWALT probably. if your woman kicks ass This is it. In her view, she's at the top of her game. She looks at me, ga…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 12:14 PM
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Yeah, I spent 18 years of our marriage trying to make her happy (in a BP sense). Now I'm trying to make me happy. Wifey no likey.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 10:00 AM
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Yes. My reaction is definitely the problem. I'm internally almost cringing when she brings up decisions from the past. I've got to work on that more. My frame in that sense isn't nearly as strong as I'd like to think.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 09:56 AM
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Going to put this into my journal so that I incorporate this once a week. Thanks for the tip.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 09:53 AM
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Yeah, I definitely make a habit of avoiding her ire. She's got her little house rules that no make fuckin' sense that I make sure to obey since hey we've talked about them previously to no avail so let's avoid setting her off. Need to cut that shit out and reclaim my balls.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 02:14 AM
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Hey those were 15 rep #'s buddy. Yeah I get your point though.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 02:10 AM
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I've done the 5x5 for over a year (before that had made a career of fucking around in the gym - just enough to look like I might be in shape but really nothing there). Will think about getting back into it. Switched to the 3x15 a few months ago to ward off injuries (not a young buck anymore).
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 02:05 AM
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, I really don't think not having another 25+ pounds of muscle is the problem. It's a complicated relationship. She's an attorney. Her head is all over the place. She can't decide from day-to-day if she's Little Ms. Keeping up with the Jones', The Perfect Christian mom or a Yoga Savant. I might be doing something wrong here RP wise. I'm putting a lot of effort into being an awesome version of me, but the more that happens the more it puts her off. Need to get even deeper into the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 02:03 AM
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Intro: 5 kids, 20 year marriage, 47, 5'10" 152, self-employed. BF: 12%. 3x15 - B:135, SQ: 135; OHP: 85; Row: 135; DL: 165. Social: Still getting out regularly for beers/lunch with friends and to play in sports leagues. Some of them are red pill aware so it makes for great conversations. Wife gets bitchy/dreaded when I go to my weekly co-ed sport. Physique is on point (for me). I look shredded in my walk around clothes, get decent IOI's and open when I want. At 152 +/-, I'm sure most people here …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 10:19 AM
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Let me start by saying I take my wife and kids to church every week. Faith is important to us, as a traditional, conservative family. Having said that, I would haul every last article of my wife's shit to the curb if she pulled even 1% of what you let your wife do, and cheerfully start my new life as a single dad. Good luck navigating this dumpster fire of a fraudulent, incongruous marriage. You know what you need to do, but for stupid and pitiful reasons choose not to.
/r/askMRP15/07/17 11:25 AM
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"I didn't clearly set my expectations back then" You still haven't. "I'm sure I don't give her enough credit for what she has to deal with being home with the kids all day" How old are your kids? Unless any of them are of nursing age or have unusual needs that require around-the-clock parenting, they are probably somewhat autonomous and leave her plenty of time over the course of the day to put dishes in the dishwasher. Like others have said don't expect her getting a part time job to transform …
/r/askMRP13/07/17 09:18 AM
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Bingo.
/r/askMRP13/07/17 09:00 AM
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This in turn exacerbated my depression episode and I finished my mid-terms and then spent my entire week off playing Fallout 4 like it was my God-damned full time job. Who let the 12 year old into the men's locker room? Throw that damn video game console out with the trash and come back once that's done.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:24 AM
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Pretty good this week, got home and told her to get naked and put on some high heels, when she asked why I just replied with “because i want you to” then proceeded to bend her over the kitchen counter. Awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:20 AM
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Yep, get some hobbies dude. And it goes without saying that your social life shouldn't revolve around the vegetarian communist. Crap that would depress me too. Think of the fun stuff you like doing, join a club where lots of people do that same thing and off you go. For me and just for example, it's softball, volleyball, tennis, lifting and running. Some with my wife, most without. I could think of 10 other things I could be doing if any of those stopped working out for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:16 AM
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I have a feeling that she will always hold this against me. And you care about her irrational feelings why? Look, I assume your wife had at the every least heard of Mike and knew the grief you felt? It makes sense that an anniversary could slip while all this is going on. Make it up to her with a great time some other day (I agree Friday doesn't sound great timing-wise) and life is back to being awesome for you.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 11:05 AM
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Good job knocking off the booze. For me, a beer at the end of the day is a reward for a hard day's work and something to be enjoyed while chatting about life and kids with my wife/a buddy. If either one of those isn't there it isn't deserved. Re your sales challenges, sounds like you could use an informal career coach. Someone in the business who can guide your way a bit. If you're selling a good product you believe in, no reason you can't be a success. People need good stuff and you're solving …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 10:54 AM
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Lifting: Have been skinny all my life. 5'9'' 145 since the day I graduated high school to swallowing the pill but am up to 160 now. I have really bad APT. 1RMs are: B/190 S/240 D/300 OH/140 so I guess Im somewhere between beginner and intermediate. No idea what APT is, but these are really solid lifting levels, given your height and weight. All of this approximates where I am at. You should have very good definition and (assuming you're not a dead ringer for the Hunchback of Notre Dame) getting …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 10:31 AM
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Social Life - I don’t have one. What is it with guys that abandon their social life and then wonder what happened to their marriage?! Were you a gamer loner living in your mom's basement when she met you? I would take a wild guess and say no. You had friends and a lifestyle and she wanted part of that and now here you are still together many years later. Get back to that fun-filled life you introduced her to years ago, yes even today with a house full of kids, and your marriage will look a lot b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 09:18 PM
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"I'm from the middle East so that's not too much of a taboo here in a way" Ok, if you're in the ME and culturally can pull this off more power to you. But it does sound like she is rebelling against that. In the States, it's pretty normal to set boundaries about certain actions such as staying out real late like they are still a single lady, hitting dance clubs til late night, messaging or friendzoning other men, etc. But telling her she can't even talk to, or worse, joke around with, other guys…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 09:08 PM
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"And I don't except her to be all joking around and having fun with those other guys" LOL. Please tell me you didn't really say that to her. Good God...
/r/askMRP11/07/17 07:55 PM
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Ok, so new wife is withholding sex and generally being a crank. I think she's bored out of her mind in that tiny town your brought her to. Sounds like you should just get her pregnant! Making $290k per year really doesn't mean all that much when you're living in that kind of place. To me this doesn't have much to do with her SMV in that town. Your SMV is only starting its upward trajectory, although it's naturally capped while you're living in Mayberry. Hers is slowing going down. Why are you ma…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 11:44 AM
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Option 1 all the way bud. Really doesn't sound like she physically cheated, given the logistics you mentioned, the fact she apparently throws around "I love you's" to everyone she knows and the way the other dude and her were chatting (not all that sexually). I think as Litz said, he's a pathetic orbiter and she was/is enjoying the attention. BFD. Your OPSEC and the info you have already learned should be kept tightly under wraps. Contacting the other guy or his wife, or creating fake FB account…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 11:12 AM
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Great post. Just when I thought I understood hypergamy and AWALT, you hit me with this...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 10:26 AM
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I don't think you have to look at it all linearly as work all day on the weekends on projects or nothing. Most projects can be broken down into several smaller parts. How about painting windows/repairing the deck/doing other projects from 8 am to 11 am on Saturdays, with the balance devoted to family and such? Might mean it's a several week project, but you'll be making steady progress on a respectable path.
/r/askMRP02/07/17 11:30 AM
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The simple answer is that you need to establish a boundary with her over this behavior and then enforce it. If nexting her over this isn't an option to you, don't be surprised if this problem never gets fixed.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 10:35 AM
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Should I start with online dating or day game cold approaching? Yes. Why are you limiting yourself to just one? You should be doing both, and then some. general jealousy of my relationship You need to make sure the ex doesn't f-up the relationship you have with your daughter. She's by far the most important of the two children in your life right now, and it's not even close. You have an ex-wife who still manipulates you like you're her live-in eunuch. Grow a set already. Stop caring what she thi…
/r/askMRP24/06/17 11:52 AM
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This sounds gay as hell. Are you sure you're not gay? Seriously, your last OYS 5 weeks ago you pointed out a lot of the issues you were dealing with to improve yourself. Hopefully you're still doing them. If you're still actually doing all this stuff consistently, your wife should be moving more and more towards following your lead at this point (RP for 5+ months in a 10+ year relationship). My guess is you're being inconsistent in applying RP to your own life, and still way too much in your wif…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 09:33 AM
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Dude, you're a wreck. And your wife sounds extremely low-quality. Let her go. Don't even try to stop her. Get a favorable divorce and custody arrangement signed and in place while she's on her new-guy high and she appreciates you for setting her free. Work on you. You are going through the motions and not embracing RP. So why are you asking RP guys for advice? Get to the gym, get a better job, make more money, work harder, get better. Read Victor Pride's blog if you need some additional motivati…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 09:21 AM
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Never been on a business trip that didn't have a full-on bender almost every night. But I never fucked around either. I'm sure your wife is out having some drinks with friends and colleagues. Yes, men too. Not a big deal in the vast majority of cases. Be the kind of guy she confides in and doesn't want to lose since you're RP as fuck, and don't be the guy she's got to hide the truth from about what really goes on out there because her man gets all jealous.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 01:40 AM
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Intro: 5 kids, 20 year marriage, mid-40's, 5'10" 155, self-employed. RP: we all have our story about how RP has helped us. For me, it's two main things. The first is I no longer argue with my wife. Used to do that all the time, now I never do, and frankly it's changed our relationship for the better. The second is the awareness that I'm in charge of our relationship, in particular the bedroom. No more fumbling around, wondering is she up for it? Do I have the green light? Now, it's my hand on he…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 01:25 AM
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I delivered the ultimatum to my wife: Cut off all communication with your ex or I will print out the divorce papers. Long story short, she did it but resents me. Who gives a shit what she thinks about that? I hope you don't. My wife was doing the same crap with her long-ago ex (calls, texts) and I put the kibosh down on that quickly once I found out. She grumbled about it, and still does indirectly, but IDGAF. It's a hard boundary for a reason. In my case, if she can't comply, there's the door.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 12:23 AM
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Nice job staying in your frame. Just because your wife comes home sloppy drunk and wants to bang, if you're truly not into it given her drunkenness, then pass. I haven't checked your history, but doesn't sound like you have a DB situation and this wasn't your ONE CHANCE TO BANG OMG GOTTA TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT! Abundance, on your terms, in your frame. Think you handled this fine.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 10:53 PM
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So what did you say that seemingly resulted in a massive loss of frame? She compare you unfavorably to a prior boyfriend or something? Whatever it is, girls go for the jugular when fighting sometimes. You gotta roll with it and be OI. And for God's sake, stop treating her like she's your own personal Oprah, she's not a shoulder to cry on, get back to being the fun, super-confident smart-ass she wants you to be and forget about whatever you said to her months ago. If she ever brings it back up, j…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 10:06 AM
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Good follow-up. Thanks. I think she would dig some surprise/mystery. Will incorporate that.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 06:08 PM
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"Boring, boring, boring..." Thanks for your take on my OYS. Honestly. I tried to keep it from being an exercise in giving myself oral and was probably too brief. But since you asked, from a social standpoint, in the last 2 months I did a 2 day mini int'l cruise with my chica sans kids, lined up a 2 night in a resort in 3 weeks with her (sans kids) for 3 weeks from now, had sex in a hot tub, took kids on a canoe trip while she was out of town, several dinners out, boys nights, tried to have car s…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:19 PM
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Intro: 2nd OYS. 5 kids, 20 year marriage, mid-40's, 5'10" 155, self-employed. Social: going well. Had some beachtime with the kids, regularly getting everyone out for sports in the neighborhood, playing in 2 sports leagues myself, coaching kids team, etc. Wife was out of town for 5 day outing with girlfriends (yes, the dreaded GNO on steriods!) and held frame really well. Just DGAF and kept in touch once per day but otherwise let her do her thing and she was actually much more interested in keep…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 10:59 AM
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Haha. I read your FIL's comment in your post and was thinking "this can't be what fired up OP". But then you doubled-down by drawing your wife back in and CALLING YOUR FIL (WTF!!!!) up to get some more insight into that comment. I honestly and literally LOL'd reading that. Thanks! Not bad for 6:30 am. So if someone makes that comment to me, I'd take it as a compliment actually. What were we all doing in high school? Having fun, hanging with bros, spending time with a girl(s). Assuming you're oth…
/r/askMRP24/05/17 10:32 AM
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Damn dude. You need to shut that shit down. A "bit infatuated with him" and actively flirting? Your wife is a shitty, manipulative bitch. And for the record I don't see that you were doing much mate-guarding. Ok to call her out on her behavior (as others said, if it comes up again just broken record "look that's really not the kind of behavior I'm looking for from my wife". Don't discount that this might have more to do with your wife trying to maintain some dominance over her little sister (see…
/r/askMRP09/05/17 05:05 PM
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The sex is meh and she doesn't really cook. Although she is super cute and has a decent body, she doesn't exercise or eat particularly well. She's pretty materialistic, loves expensive shit and her only real "hobby" is shopping. This looks like a failure of leadership. If your wife is willing in bed but the result is "meh", teach her. Doesn't cook, then cook great meals together with her. Doesn't exercise, hike with her. Etc. etc. Check out TFA before you check out of the relationship. You can d…
/r/askMRP04/05/17 10:59 AM
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I think it went alright. Now for most guys who have been on MRP for 12 months or longer, that wouldn't suffice. But given your situation (ugh), this seems like a positive step. Wife seems playful (I would imagine that's rare for you) but she's obviously reluctant to give up the captain's hat to you. Gotta continue to work on that. 3 weeks in the gym ain't shit of course. Keep it up, OYS and we'll see if things progress.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 11:33 PM
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Yeah, just ignore it. If she wants to discuss what happened any further, just fog "thought it was best if I handled it myself babe...glad we're going to be in one residence now, should be less chaotic...let's go grab some dinner/drink/whatever"....
/r/askMRP03/05/17 11:27 PM
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You do you. Keep your feel-feels out of it and don't be sending your kid any mixed messages (ooooh, is Daddy coming back Mommy???). If my woman divorced me and wanted some D later on, I'd be ok with that. Abundance mentality, OI, etc. I imagine the grudge-sex would be a 10.
/r/askMRP30/04/17 11:43 AM
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We got married in June and have had sex once since then Wow. That's not a great start, and I'm sure you don't need me telling you that. Lift (your excuses are terrible), diet (you're still a fat fucker), sidebar. At least you don't seem to be in your wife's frame as this post was mostly about your own shortcomings. If you're in this for keeps, I look forward to reading about the new, far-more-successful you 6 months from now, slaying it in the bedroom and looking great.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 10:51 AM
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I fuck her and boyfriend well TMI
/r/askMRP11/04/17 12:42 AM
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Hard to give RP advice to a guy who has shown no indication he follows it tenets. Where are you on the sidebar, lifting, dread, etc.? In short, you can run away from this hot mess at top speed if you want, but what are you running to? Will you just develop a similarly disfunctional relationship with another woman? And likely have no relationship with your son? If your wife is now shacking up or slamming her "male friend" maybe you have no choice. Put some more effort into your post and yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/17 11:43 AM
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And I swear to the unmerciful gods in the universe that if you post gym stats that are worse then my girlfriend's I am going to loose it Clearly the funniest post of the day. Well done!
/r/askMRP07/04/17 09:00 PM
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Can you be an alpha stay-at-home dad? Please. The better question is will your wife still respect you after a year or so of this bullshit. I mean, she's a teacher after all (i.e., not paid all that well) not a white collar worker banking serious $$. For background, I stay home with my large brood of kids two days a week. I work the other days in my business (self-employed). If I were to stay home all the time, my pride and ego and my wife's attraction to me would surely all wane quickly. Two day…
/r/askMRP07/04/17 03:48 PM
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I've got a few comments up. I mostly have my shit together so I read for amusement here but rarely post. Ask if you have any specific questions.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 03:09 PM
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Nice! Not only does your wife get your weak-ass passive aggressive treatment, so do your MRP bros. Faggot.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 03:06 PM
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Funny, details of your life sound a bit like mine (homeschooling, sanitary hands requirement, etc.). Regarding your question, I would STFU. She knows what's up, no use articulating it further. But where's the dread in your relationship? Wife doesn't want to fuck you right now, fine. But you have posted about being a man about town, getting IOI's everywhere. Does she see/know this, or are you in her mind still just the numbskull at home who's finally getting some semblance of his shit together?
/r/askMRP07/04/17 02:09 PM
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Dude, fucking a married guy carries a stigma. Maybe P1 is overthinking this, but she sounds like a good girl FWIW.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 01:40 PM
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With the weights your putting up and admittedly maybe I just suck at translating kg's to pounds and the weight of the bar on dumbbells (??), but I'm going to just go ahead and formally diagnose you with borderline gym-fuckarounditis. Get on SL 5x5, do compound lifts of the 6 or so main exercises using a barbell. Results will be noticeable and you'll have no trouble pulling the attention of the loose women who frequent ravefests and creating some dread.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 01:20 PM
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Yeeeesh. Embrace the tough love faggot. Put your ego aside.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 01:16 PM
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This is a tough one bro. You sound like a fun guy with pretty cool hobbies. But you have to keep working on getting your shit together. A few suggestions: 1) Stop being passive aggressive with your wife. Everyone can find a bunch of woman that look better than their wife. Throwing it in their face accomplishes precisely nothing and in reality invites them to start comparing you (unflatteringly) to others as well. And wanting your wife to have an affair. Come on bro. 2) Be a better leader of your…
/r/askMRP07/04/17 11:56 AM
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The other day the cashier at the grocery store flirted with me in front of my wife Do tell. More details?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 03:49 AM
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Dude, what's all this talk of weaponizing the kids? I don't even know what you're talking about from reading your post (and prior comments). Maybe you can re-read what you posted and fill us in a little better. Threatening divorce, saying it's "done", But then it's not done apparently? Your frame (or lack thereof) is showing. The stomp-off at the mall (following your attempts at amateur PI work) wasn't your finest hour. And fuck your wife if she's down without it being an Oprah episode for God's…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 03:47 AM
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triumph of hope over experience Gold
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 06:43 PM
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Oh for God's sake bud, move on from her. She's literally dripping with Top Gun's cum when she gets back from her nighttime "walks". Yes, given she's gone well over the line in the past, all her personal shit should be available for real-time inspection by you. You aren't going to like what you find if you take the time to do that. Lawyer, sidebar, lift. Sorry about the kids. Awful, but not your fault. Edit: typo
/r/askMRP06/04/17 06:38 PM
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Not too much experience there personally, but this guy is persuasive: http://wallstreetplayboys.com/new-york-vs-san-francisco-landslide-for-new-york-city/
/r/askMRP06/04/17 06:28 PM
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Take the "L" on this one for crying out loud. Thank her for her service and get the divorce (edit: fuck, you're not even married...). If it moves you, you can meet up with her from time to time whenever you happen to be nearby and get a nice lay for old times. She'll be available again, she's someone else's problem now, and you'll get many more shots (heh) at her in the coming years if you want it. But don't wife her up or even commit to her in any sense ever again. In the meantime, go get anoth…
/r/askMRP06/04/17 10:17 AM
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I'm also on a every 2 or 3 night schedule. Works for me (I'm late 40's, wife early 40's, so not always looking for it daily) and her. I don't have to stress about overly gaming my wife each and other day just to get some. Just because you have a regular schedule doesn't mean you get lazy and stop flirting, touching her, grabbing ass and pussy and sexualizing conversations, even (and especially) on your "off" days.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/17 12:46 PM
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Good suggestions. Appreciate it. Need to get straight in my head whether I actually want to bulk or not (i.e., get my weight up to 170+ or so). I'm pushing 50 y.o. and have always been within 5 lbs of 155 lbs since high school. Just seems like fate and I'm not complaining (have several siblings that are obese, which makes me appreciate being on the thin side).
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 11:58 PM
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Thanks for the rec. Have 3 boys under 12 that will devour it. Already put it on hold at our library. Appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 08:16 PM
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Thanks. Yes, still at 155. I"m probably going to plateau in how much I can put up on the bench pretty soon, without adding more body weight. Would like to get to 185 and can do that for 1 or 2 of the 5 sets on the 5x5. It's a physical and mental struggle for me to get there fully.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 02:09 PM
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What language? Was a CTR.
/r/askMRP23/02/17 12:07 AM
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Assuming you're starting to plateau? Definitely. Struggling to get past 175 on my bench. Can do a couple sets of 5 at 185 but nothing more. you need to eat more and get bigger. Chicks dig muscles. Thanks for the feedback. Really. I'm leaning towards tweaking diet here and there, adding protein, but not really looking to add much weight. The girls I'm attracted to (smaller, more petite) don't seem to DQ me for not being a big guy. To me seems like the girls who really dig bigger guys (and find sm…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 02:55 PM
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Actually beach volleyball. Yoga is on my list of new hobbies if I ever move to post-married life. But don't feel the need to go there just yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 02:43 PM
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Intro: First OYS. Swallowed pill 8 months ago when 20+ year relationship with LTR started failing in various unsettling ways which in turn was basically due to me not applying any dread, not being regularly absent, not being OI or having abundance. Have done reading, followed MRP board, applied principles and voila marriage now in good shape. That simple. But like the Robert DeNiro character in Heat... "Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 01:39 PM
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You gotta let this go, develop some OI and DGAF and move on. If you somehow find out your wife has cheated, you draw up papers, discuss nothing beyond logistics and move the hell on. For background, my wife travels a lot (she's mid-40's, outranks me SMV-wise if I'm being honest). She's out of town every two or three months for business for 4 or 5 day stretches at a time. She goes back to the city we moved from a year ago to see her old girlfriends. I set some boundaries, but are they honored? I …
/r/askMRP21/02/17 11:46 AM
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Interesting. Probably went too hard with the Rambo. Ironically, during sexy times with my wife last night, I also started out missionary and then wanted her to flip over. I didn't tell her to "get on all 4's" but rather just said "turn over and show me your gorgeous ass". She happily complied. My guess is that your wife wants the assertiveness/dominance from you but without feeling like she's being ordered around by a drill sergeant.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 11:24 AM
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Doing the 5x5, but not through an app or anything - just tracking myself, ensuring I'm moving towards higher weights every week or two. Not sure about getting "proper" rest though. I guess I average about a minute rest between sets. I've seen gurus advocate as much as 5 minutes rest between sets. That would involve too much inactivity for me while in the gym. Can't do that.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 11:09 AM
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What about adding barbell curls? Are you doing all 5 of the lifts above 3x a week, or are you doing them each 1 or 2x per? I have a similar workout schedule, doing the 5 you mention plus curls, all 3x a week at the same workout. In and out of gym in less than hour. Been doing that since August. Gains (in terms of pounds lifted and overall look) have been substantial. The other 4 days of the week when I'm not lifting are for other athletic stuff (running, volleyball, softball, tennis, whatever).
/r/askMRP07/02/17 10:56 PM
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Wow. Sounds like my situation (calls/text to out-of-state ex-BF, my ensuing ED when I found out) 8 months ago before I found RP. Once I got things right in my mind (and after re-establishing some boundaries with wifey that I thought were understood and universal and that now have teeth) and doubling down on abundance and OI, ED problems were long gone. Good luck. Figure out if she's worth the effort. Like I said, my issues were pre-RP. Would be bewildering to me if they happened now with the min…
/r/askMRP29/01/17 11:36 AM
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