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I think it's a shadowban. I can comment but it's delayed. Of course everything looks right on my end. I've tried an appeal. We'll see. If I need to make a new account I suppose I can try.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/26 03:42 PM
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competition anxiety I thought that might be at play, but other than this imaginary situation in another time or another society, I don't know that I've really seen any dread ( except her now also going to the gym). I'll keep working on myself. STFU is never wrong Thank God.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/26 12:39 PM
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You are treating OYS like your journal, not like an OYS. Why? All this thought is filler rumination, i.e., DEERing but in public as if you are doing work, which you are not. Damn. I've been told something similar to this before. The why doesn't actually matter here, does it? My doing this is a misuse of this space. A lot of words in this OYS that don't aren't any actual action. Noted. This is a lot of thinking that is not helping. I was pissed at myself and used all of this to feel like I'd acco…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/26 01:21 PM
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You missed an opportunity to simply STFU and enjoy what she wanted to do with you. I'll take the other side on this one. Sounds like he did take her offer once "he was declined". It would've been worth trying to push through the rejection on what he wanted, it's either LMR or it's an attraction issue. If the rejection holds, then it's attraction. Not much you can do about that in the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/26 01:10 AM
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OYS #25 Stats: 5'7'', 165lbs, 44yo. Lifts: Squat 235lbs x 5 (+5), OHP 115lbs x 5, Deadlift 265lbs x 5, BP 195lbs x 5 Married 18 years. 3 kids: 12 and 13 year old daughters, 10 year old son. Reading NMMNG again Mission: To be the judge of my own life. To live a life where time is spent intentionally, days are filled with adventure. Have fun while doing it. Personal I think I’ve received some kind of reddit shadowban, my posts are delayed in posting, kinda weird but I’ll continue on as long as the…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/26 03:07 PM
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Great question. I don't want to be as dependent on my wife in regards to running my family. I want to show myself that I can manage the kids if I need to rather than be fully dependent on someone else there. I'm still sorting out my response when she brings emotional intensity. It does affect everyone and for the longest time my response has been some form of avoidance. I'd rather that not be my only tool. I'll keep this in mind - adapting from where I am now to simply being a plow horse isn't w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/26 11:57 AM
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OYS #24 Stats: 5'7'', 165lbs, 44yo. Lifts: Squat 230lbs x 5 (+5), OHP 115lbs x 5 (+5), Deadlift 265lbs x 5, BP 195lbs x 5 Married 18 years. 3 kids: 12 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To be the judge of my own life. To live a life where time is spent intentionally, days are filled with adventure, be a great captain and leader. Have fun while doing it. Relationship/Sex I noticed that parts of my last OYS read like I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/26 08:24 PM
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My point is that your ego got so hurt by a comment from an internet stranger This is helpful. You can probably see this goes against one of your goals. -STFU, not running my mouth unnecessarily If some jabrone can get you that easily worked up, this might be a battle
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/26 10:32 PM
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I just reread this, I need to practice better reflection. I'm happy some good things are happening, but I'm doing stupid things. I started asking myself a couple of “why” questions - I'd rather ask, “What did I do?” “What would I like to do instead?” I'm reacting too much to my wife's thoughts. This reads like I'm still afraid of my wife or that I'm just trying to weather the storm of her emotions. Meanwhile the sex is good. What am I afraid of? What is there to lose? Upon reflection I can see s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/26 04:00 PM
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Ignored, forgot, whatever the reason was. They are kids. Keep it light hearted. Simple, this is good. I've outsourced a lot of the assessment of the kids onto the wife. If she feels they're doing this shit on purpose or that it reflects on us as bad parents - I've just agreed that must be true, that must be fixed. I'm taking this all too serious.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 07:11 PM
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OYS #23 Stats: 5'7'', 165lbs, 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5, Deadlift 265lbs x 5 (+10), BP 195lbs x 3 (+5) Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To be the judge of my own life. To live a life where time is spent intentionally, days are filled with adventure, be a great captain and leader. Have some fun while doing it. Personal Last week I received some feedback re: what I was d…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 03:38 PM
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I’m finding this line of thought to be less and less useful. How's that going? Either way he's right about the "with you" part
/r/askMRP11/02/26 02:27 PM
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It's not her. She's not the problem to be solved. Before I found this place, I was in a similar place. My wife liked me - she wouldn't reject me sexually - I wanted a more exciting sex life and she did too - problem was attraction I think - I wasn't attractive enough to her to get that pussy wet. She tried all kinds of shit (wine before sex to lower inhibitions, going off ssri/switching meds, thc, different kinds of lube), I tried being a technician hoping I could unlock something. All of this k…
/r/askMRP11/02/26 02:25 PM
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Yeah makes sense. I'm actually in Great lakes region too, close enough to lake Michigan for plenty of snow. If it's gonna get cold it might as well snow I guess. A lot of work keeping up though.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/26 12:57 AM
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Thanks man. I like this. A good friend of mine has an awesome chainsaw he's always dying to use. And my wife makes a mean chili. There's a good breaking free activity in nmmng about inviting others in to meet your needs that fits what you're describing perfectly.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/26 12:37 AM
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Usually no, I don't think so. But I see I can ask myself that in those moments. The temptation is to say whatever I think she wants to hear so it stops. That doesn't work out well. But perhaps I'm thinking too binary, say/do this not that, when what I want is something different altogether. So I've had one of these situations since writing this OYS where I communicated what I wanted, then used broken record expressing that i had communicated all that I had intended to. Shortly thereafter she com…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/26 12:23 AM
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I have the right to judge my own thoughts, behaviors, emotions. And taking the responsibility for that. I'm sure you're right, I need to work on this. Can I ask a question though. So I identify in my MAP too much self deprecation , I am working on it - I'm getting better let's say. But it still happens, maybe in more subtle ways now and i hate it. Then I see it in how I'm writing my OYS. Goal: no self deprecation in my next OYS. I'm tired of presenting myself weaker than I need to. Then I come h…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/26 08:06 PM
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I might say real people are easier to fool. Or maybe it's easier too fool myself. Regardless I see in these answers that I'm not living in my own frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/26 07:26 PM
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Fair enough. In past OYS I've gone overboard drawing attention to places I was a helpless retard the previous week. I didn't want to write my OYS convincing people that I suck - they know that, I'm here. There's a way to write about how I'm working and there's still a struggle. I need to allow that. I'm here to benefit from the perspective of others who can see through my shit - I can do a better job of being more honest here for that to happen. You're correct, there should be a lot of grit - I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/26 04:49 PM
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OYS #22 Stats: 5'7'', 165lbs (-1), 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5, Deadlift 255lbs x 5, BP 190lbs x 5. Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To be the judge of my own life. To live a life where time is spent intentionally, days are filled with adventure, be a great captain and leader. Have some fun while doing it. Personal Been a couple of weeks of going through vehicle repairs.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/26 03:10 PM
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They often like the “it just happened” (but I kind of liked it) sort of plausible deniability as a way to try / do things that if you straight up asked them about cold, they’d say no. My experience so far has been one hundred percent "I'm absolutely in" when I mention where I'd like to go or just lead that direction during the build up or during sex itself. But asking permission ahead of time or talking about taking it further another time right after having sex will do more damage than good. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/26 02:29 AM
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I realise male friendships are more valuable than female, but I think they both can serve a purpose; It's sometimes nice to have some feminine energy around. You'd mentioned inviting your wife's friends around in your original post. Don't find the female presence you're looking for through your wife's connections.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/26 02:15 AM
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Plenty to work on. When I'm amused it's easier to do what I want and generally have a good time. Feels like I'm playing a character or role at times, but at least it's a character I'm building. Otherwise I'm still playing a character, but a character I've let everyone else build. I'll start some rereading on Pook. Boringandsucks is spot on here Pussy. You are what you think you are. Simple enough, my life is shaped by what "I" think I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/26 03:11 PM
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I read wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/26 10:44 PM
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I'm sure I've done plenty to reinforce this over the years. I do think she really believes that's how she feels. Doesn't matter, but later that same day her audiobook jumped to my headphones for a few seconds as I was taking out the trash and she was doing the dishes. It was at a scene where a priest was explaining how he wanted to fuck the girl confessing her sins. I thought it was my 13y.o. daughters book at first so I was delayed in having some fun with it. I just said Whoa,. She insisted not…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/26 08:17 PM
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She looks at me and I say “you don’t get what you want until I get what I want” with a smile. Then she complains and says, “I don’t feel good and I’m just trying to hold it together and all I want to do is watch the show.” She wants you to push through here. Especially with the smile I think. At the very least you could've put her hands on your dick and said "hold it together? Hold this and you can watch the show." Don't put your wants after hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/26 07:57 PM
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But, also you can ask follow up questions playfully to understand what she didn't like or where are her boundaries. It's an exploration journey for both of you, and most likely her problem is something else. I pursued this a bit and was just told anything I want is an enthusiastic yes..but she doesn't need it. I'm just going to own this and trust she'll push back if she needs. Why was this important to her? Why was that annoying to you to listen to? She caught you off guard, and gave you a lesso…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/26 03:44 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: 5'7'', 166lbs (-2), 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5, Deadlift 255lbs x 5, BP 190lbs x 5 (+5). Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To be the judge of my own life. To live a life where time is spent intentionally, days are filled with adventure, be a great captain and leader. Have some fun while doing it. Personal Lifting - this is going well. When I switched up pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/26 01:41 PM
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Ofc I didn't, a smirk then ass slap Don juan: pretends he is tasting, "ohh that's too much salt". He grabs his wife finger, and put it in the food. "Now that should balance it", he says, a smirk and ass slap." This is way more fun. I was too fragile at a hint of criticism and got caught up into not falling into her frame or whatever - I missed a good chance to be amused or funny. Big difference between anger and controlled anger. There was an article by wmp about this. I showed up here after wmp…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 04:20 PM
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Overthinking is a problem. Solving a problem in my head doesn't typically change much in my actual life. If you are going to think Ask How not Why
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/26 05:56 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: 5'7'', 168lbs, 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5, Deadlift 255lbs x 5, BP 185lbs x 5. Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To be the judge of my own life. To live a life where time is spent intentionally, days are filled with adventure, be a great captain and leader. Have some fun while doing it. Personal: I received some feedback last week regarding being too serio…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/26 01:32 PM
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No lifts. No looks. No personality. No money. You need to sort out yourself before any of the rest matters.
/r/RPChristians27/01/26 03:41 AM
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Spot on. Gave it another go today using your advice. A lot better. I appreciate the advice, I think this is the 3rd time you've given me good direction. Looking forward to adding some new lifts and learning technique.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/26 10:51 PM
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more serious I carry myself The more boring you are! This is good . I'm thinking intentional is a better idea here. Not so serious. Could be fun/amusing, attractive done with intent. Time for action Damn. I'm still trying to solve problems by thinking, when I could just be doing things
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 03:04 PM
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OYS #19 Stats: 5'7'', 168lbs (+1), 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5, Deadlift 255lbs x 5, BP 185lbs x 5. Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To be the judge of my own life. To live a life where time is spent intentionally, days are filled with adventure, be a great captain and leader, be grounded in nature. Personal Lifting - After 6 months on SL 5x5, I’ve switched up to GZCLP p…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 02:02 PM
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And what does that mean, for a day to matter? I want to spend my time well. When I first ran my MAP, stop being lazy (red), and get in control of your time (yellow) were obvious areas to work on. As I've done that there's a greater appetite to keep taking this further. to an "us vs. the world" dynamic when she falls off. How can you go about fostering this in yours? This is a really good pull. Feels like you might've been a fly on the wall during the episode I described. This is exactly where we…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/26 11:35 PM
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You're in OYS #2 and it's already a race of progress. Killing the ego. Also, I've been there
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/26 06:50 PM
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Finished NMMNG last week. While reading it I didn’t connect with it much. The example characters were total wimps. I don’t feel like I have a problem saying no to things, or prioritising myself. This sounds like ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/26 06:02 PM
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Define what is your fitness goal, you will find the appropriate plan. you want to spend your time on. Next time, you do you: Thanks. I see the trend here. The simplicity of "lift" (for me it was SL 5x5), and "STFU" is awesome, partly because it makes the choices for the man. I'll take what I've learned about myself and shape the direction of my fitness, time, and interactions. Time to make some decisions.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/26 04:30 PM
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OYS #18 Stats: 5'7'', 168lbs (+1), 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5, Deadlift 255lbs x 5, BP 185lbs x 5. Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To be the judge of my own life. Spend my time in a way that each day matters. Live a life full of adventures. Push myself as a captain and leader. Be in touch with nature. Personal I was asked about my mission, which for the last several OY…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/26 11:51 AM
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Shitting on other people, namely women, is a part that I wish could be divorced from the whole MRP sub. Guys showing up here have usually fucked their lives up enough a strong insult on an internet forum might do them good. I don't think there's a lot of shitting on women tbh. What I usually see is "it's all your fault" and pushes for the man to be more attractive when they're caught up being tards, simps, or "putting pussy on a pedestal".
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/26 10:17 PM
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seriously, some of the stronger dudes at my gym are dudes well into their 50s. They've been the coolest when I need a spotter too. They make sure to get that extra rep or two out of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/26 05:52 PM
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> I'm assuming you're no longer drinking. That's right. I haven't had a drink this entire time. For maybe the first time I just had a dream about it last night though - I was hiding it. Weird. >Have you been able to figure this out yet? No one is going to tell you what you want. Good pull. Thank you. I can't tell you how hard it was to realize that noone else could tell me what I want, or what to do. I know what I don't want. I don't want to be so much in my head. Running my MAP has given me pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 02:25 PM
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OYS #17 Stats: 5'7'', 167lbs, 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5, Deadlift 255lbs x 5, BP 185lbs x 5. Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To know what I want…to use my life to learn, do, and obtain my wants and desires. Personal: I finished up last week/started this week with some kind of respiratory illness, like 4+ days with fever and still getting over some of the respiratory s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 03:24 PM
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You did the heavy barbell training?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/26 05:12 PM
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Take the shit test and escalate to sex? I see giving her something else to do other than bitch. I wasn't interested in sex this night - I'd just gotten home from work after coming down sick and with a fever. I hadn't mentioned this because it didn't preclude me from being able to get the shit done with my night that needed done. I do need to work on game. I'll keep this in mind and use these opportunities to escalate to sex when I'm inclined.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/26 01:32 PM
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OYS #16 Stats: 5'7'', 167lbs, 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5 (+5), Deadlift 255lbs x 5, BP 185lbs x 5(+10). Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To know what I want…to use my life to learn, do, and obtain my wants and desires. Personal: Caught a ban after my last OYS for breaking rules. On a couple of occasions now, I’ve recognized uncomfortable things in my life, took some kin…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/26 12:08 AM
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I cannot explain it but it triggers something As someone still posting OYS here, I was just thinking about how I get pricked by some comments. These guys in particular are here legitimately swapping notes, take it or leave it. It's an opportunity for a less experienced guy (like myself), to take something or maybe someday hold frame when criticized on an internet message board. NGL, when I see boringandsucks comments, it usually elicits a reaction within me - but these comments been among the mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 08:06 PM
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Family Enjoying this season. I've had a lot of time with my 9 year old son, he wants to do anything I'm doing, its been fun. As long as I can keep him doing stuff with me (chores, errands, games/sports) we're having a great time. But if I slack his autopilot is to find sugar (cereal/candy), get on his screens, and seek attention by acting out - it's rough. I can't be lazy. I can let him be a kid and enjoy that while also providing enough structure for him to thrive. My relationship with my 13 ye…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 04:04 PM
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OYS #15 Stats: 5'7'', 167lbs, 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 110lbs x 5 (+5), Deadlift 255lbs x 5, BP 180lbs x 5(+5). Married 18 years. 3 kids: 11 and 13 year old daughters, 9 year old son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites. Mission: To know what I want…to learn, do, and get those things. Personal: I'm on a slow run back through NMMNG. I read chapter 5 this week, Reclaim your Personal Power. I really enjoy this chapter --> it pushes to action, I may circle back to c…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 04:04 PM
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When you start to realize all that anger is because you suck, let us know. 56 days later I'm starting to realize this anger is indeed because I suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 01:49 PM
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How to fuck your wife's friends
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 09:15 PM
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Thanks fellas. Yes, madonna-whore, from an obstacle to a tool to help get what I want. Wow. And everybody fucking wins. I'm gonna keep going here. Thanks for sharing notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 10:29 PM
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OYS #14 Stats: 5’7’’ 168lbs (+2) 44yo, Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 105lbs x 5, Deadlift 255lb x 5, BP 175lb x 5,. Married 18 years. 11+13yo daughters, 9yo son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites x 2 I've skipped mission the last couple of weeks as it was just a place I was mentally masturbating. I'll try again Mission: To know what I want…to learn, do, and get those things. Current stage on this mission: I need to be doing things to get to the point where I know what I …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 03:07 PM
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Doesn't sound like you want advice. You just want to complain about a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/25 01:32 AM
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Shit. I could do at least that well. I'll gain confidence by doing literally anything here .doing things is better than not doing things
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 06:37 PM
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Good observation. I victory lap doing something different than in the past and easily overlook what's all really going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 05:05 PM
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OYS #13 Stats: 5’7’’ 166lbs 44yo, Lifts: Squat 225lbs x 5, OHP 105lbs x 5 (+5), Deadlift 255lb x 5, BP 175lb x 5,. Married 18 years. 11+13yo daughters, 9yo son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites x 2 Sex/Relationship Last OYS I’d mentioned we’d be staying with the inlaws a few nights around Thanksgiving. They only live an hour away, I’d be going back and forth to work, but wife and kids would more time with family visiting from out of town. They’ve got a big house, but w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 03:06 PM
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This is great. Funny thing - she is a prof. I don't know if I'll use any of these, but I need to do something along these lines. After taking it further sexually I'm still dumb enough to "reward" her by reverting to the unattractive nice guy that does not get the pussy wet. I need to pushing forward here until its instinctive. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/25 01:42 PM
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OYS #12 Stats: 5’7’’ 166lbs 44yo, Lifts: Squat 215lbs x 5, OHP 100lbs x 5, Deadlift 255lb x 5 (+10), BP 175lb x 5,. Married 18 years. 11+13yo daughters, 9yo son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites x 2 I'm doing this all wrong. I'm working hard to improve physically, participating on this message board about sexual strategy, and I can’t help myself from going back to being a head on a stick. Every time I get called out here I want to run back, read something or think thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/25 01:25 PM
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I reread this. Self sabotage maybe. The same old shit that I've been called out on before. I get in my head, maybe read something, agree with what it says and think I've solved a problem or progressed. I don't like this. I intend on having a clearer direction and some action next time I post.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 11:29 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: 5’7’’ 166lbs(-1) 44yo, Lifts: Squat 215lbs x 5, OHP 100lbs x 5, Deadlift 245lb x 5, BP 175lb x 5,. Married 18 years. 11+13yo daughters, 9yo son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites x 2 Why am I here? To reclaim a masculine identity. To unfuck myself after years of hiding my flaws and myself from anything uncomfortable. Mission: To be a man who knows what I want and do what I want. To be a man who fucks. To authentically pursue what brings me joy and accompl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 02:40 PM
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Thanks for calling this out. Yes, I think you're correct. I didn't realize the different variations of rows that exist until I dug around after my last workout. I don't think what I was doing was a great example of any particular version. This suggestion makes more sense and I'll replace what I've been doing with your suggestion starting the next gym session.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 03:31 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: 5’7’’ 167lbs 44yo, Lifts: Squat 215lbs x 5, OHP 100lbs x 5, Deadlift 245lb x 5, BP 175lb x 5, Barbell Row 145lb x 5. Married 18 years. 11+13yo daughters, 9yo son. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites x 2 Why am I here? To unfuck myself after years of hiding my flaws and myself from anything uncomfortable. Mission: To be a man who knows what I want and do what I want. To be a man who fucks. To authentically pursue what brings me joy and accomplishment. Person…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 08:51 PM
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OYS 9 Stats: 5’7’’ 167lbs (-2) 44yo, Lifts: Squat 215lbs x 5(-10), OHP 100lbs x 5 (+5), Deadlift 245lb x 5, BP 175lb x 5 (+5), Barbell Row 145lb x 5. Married 18 years. 11+13yo daughters, 9yo son. Two week ban after OYS 8. I can see I'm not doing anything and that OYS is entirely reactive. I've had no frame and look to be told what to do. I ended up here after realizing I needed to improve myself. I thought I needed to understand myself better to realize how I kept ending up where I did. There's …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 02:19 AM
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I'm starting to see what you're getting at. And that the whiny bitch you picked out of my "successes" plays into a lot of my other shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 03:24 PM
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In what fucking world In a crappy world where the fear that something might go wrong might keep me from going out and doing what needs done. I'm not celebrating that action, it was shitty, I've got to do better which is why i included in oys. I don't mean to rationalize that action. The day was a good day even though there were fuckups in it. whiny Karen I didn't whine. Got angry about the soda spilled on the inside of the car and threw the soda straight in the ground, cleaned it up, and moved o…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 01:33 PM
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Stop lying to yourself. I don't think I'm tracking here. What is the lie I'm telling myself? I try to be as honest here as I can, for myself and for others to pick apart where my incongruencies are.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 12:00 PM
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You're right. I've always blamed someone/something/circumstance for at least part of my anger. That this is ALL on me is a new mindset, but the correct one.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 11:25 AM
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OYS #8 Stats: 5'7'' 169 lbs. 44yo. Lifts: Squat 225lb (+10) 5x5, OHP 95lb 5x5, Deadlift 245lb 1x5 , BP 170lb 5x5 (+5), Barbell Row 145lb 5x5. Married 18 yrs. 3 kids - 13, 11, 9. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites x 2. Mission: To be a man that knows and pursues what I want. To be intentional and get shit done. Be unafraid to fail. OYS has led to improvement in my mind and in my life. For some reason there are guys here that are providing a lot of benefit to retards. Here…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/25 10:56 AM
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Rocket fuel you say? My first reaction is, "oh shit I'm gonna blow myself up." Honestly though, the greater danger for me is having a powerful fuel that can do a lot of work and just sitting on it. I plan on reporting back in future weeks with what I do with this fuel from anger.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/25 09:19 PM
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Great points. I haven't had a drink since February. That was something that clearly needed to change before I started this journey. Kept kicking the can down the road as far as how long I would take off (for two weeks, until baseball is over, etc.) Now it's indefinite. I don't think I can maintain whatever frame I have and use alcohol. The dgaf is a good perspective. The ways you've described dgaf and kind man involve authenticity. Someone might perceive that as an asshole, but you're unbothered…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/25 02:19 PM
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I truly had no idea until you called me out last week. It'll be valuable to have this mirror to look into and expose some deeper rooted shit I've been ignoring.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/25 07:03 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 5'7'' 169 lbs. 44yo. Lifts: Squat 215lb (+10) 5x5, OHP 95lb (+5) 5x5, Deadlift 245lb 1x5 (+10), BP 165lb 5x5, Barbell Row 145lb 5x5. Married 18 yrs. 3 kids - 13, 11, 9. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites x 2. Reading: Not currently reading any MRP materials. Did get Starting Strength book - now that I'm a few months into lifting it's been helpful to improve form, as well as add some dimension to my lifting knowledge/approach. Why I'm here: Found this place …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/25 03:52 PM
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The covert contracts run so deep. It's uncomfortable to see how much I have myself fooled.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 06:18 PM
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My first reaction to this was to defend myself or dismiss this comment as semantics. But you're spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 11:37 AM
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OYS #6 Stats: 5'7'' 169 lbs.(-2) 44yo. Lifts: Squat 205lb (+10) 5x5, OHP 90lb (0) 5x5, Deadlift 235lb 1x5, BP 165lb 5x5, Barbell Row 145lb 5x5. Married 18 yrs. 3 kids - 13, 11, 9. Read: All of MRP 101 sidebar material, course prerequisites x 2. Reading: just purchased a book Starting Strength. Why I'm here: Ended up finding this place after a solid decade of drinking, and using alcohol to numb/cope/soothe/avoid dealing with emotions. Over the last 5 years would be able to stop/cut back just to e…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 02:16 AM
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I've received some good feedback. Will come back next week with 1. Cleaner writing 2. Doing more, especially uncomfortable things 3. Less in my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/25 04:33 PM
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So - do more, think less?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/25 05:05 PM
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That is a lot of the crux of what he's writing in NMMNG. For me OYS should be a place I'm owning my shit, I'd like to be as aggressive as I can in identifying the shit that needs changed, and I'm learning a lot of it runs deep, really deep. I'm happier since I've found this place. It's not been easy. But I'm doing more of what I want to do, I'm looking and feeling better, having more and better sex, practicing assertiveness. It's a process, I've a long way to go. I'd like to see how deep this ru…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/25 04:45 PM
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I also think people have completely bastardized Glover’s intended message of his book. I'm not sure I'm tracking. How so?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/25 03:58 PM
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Yeah. I'm up a pound in a week. You're right, that whole what I'm eating paragraph is shit. I've got to clean up my writing a lot too. There are a million different protein shakes/powders out there. I don't know what makes them different, at this point I haven't cared. Maybe I should/would if I knew what set one apart from others. But rambling/pondering bullshit isn't owning anything. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/25 12:59 AM
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Yep. That's right.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/25 12:51 AM
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Relationship/Sex: Starting to understand "watch what she does, not what she says". Had a night where my wife was anxious about the day ahead, between our schedules and kids' sports. Could tell she was spiralling, told her to knock out the dishes, and I'd make sure everyone had what they needed for the next day - and I'd be the one getting them off in the morning so we'd be good. Proceeded, but shortly after she jumped in the middle of everything convinced we were going to drop a ball, someone wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/25 03:12 PM
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OYS 5 Stats: 5'7'' 17 lbs.(1) 44yo. Lifts: Squat 195lb (+5) 5x5, OHP 90lb (0) 5x5, Deadlift 235lb 1x5, BP 165lb 5x5, Barbell Row 145lb 5x5. Married 18 yrs. 3 kids - 13, 11, 9. Read: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MMSLP x 2, TRM, MAP, Poon, Book of Pook, SGM, WOTSM, Praxeology 1&2, Fuccfiles, The Game, YaReally, Day Bang, Practical Female Psychology. Rian Stone series on WISNIFG and NMMNG, Praxeology vol 3. Why I'm here Spent the better part of a decade avoiding feeling things and seeking comfort and hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/25 03:11 PM
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I don't know if it's over or not but she freaking gave you the blueprint. STFU, give her feels. Hit the gym, STFU, do the sidebar and you'll become a better man. Those are the things you can do right now.
/r/askMRP26/09/25 02:03 PM
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Get your technique perfect on each and every rep and you'll see your lifts improve. This makes sense. Thanks. My wrists have been bent back , I'll focus on correcting this bad habit. Now that the weight is getting heavier and harder I'm also more prone to fall into ego lifting than really doing what you're saying here. That needs to improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/25 03:01 PM
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Why did that matter to you? Just a nice guy who couldn't help but offer them. Probably more to get her out of my way. Still could've kept the ones I started with though if that's what I really want to do. Where I got thrown off was that it was like I'd taken one of my kids, not another adult. This went down then she checked in with me like every ten minutes.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/25 07:16 PM
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OYS 4 Stats: 5'7'' 170 lbs.(-1) 44yo. Lifts: Squat 190lb (+10) 5x5, OHP 90lb (0) 5x5, Deadlift 235lb (+10) 1x5, BP 165lb (0) 5x5, Barbell Row 140lb (+5) 5x5. Married 18 yrs. 3 kids - 13, 11, 9. Read: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MMSLP x 2, TRM, MAP, Poon, Book of Pook, SGM, WOTSM, Praxeology 1&2, Fuccfiles, The Game, YaReally, Day Bang, Practical Female Psychology. Rian Stone series on WISNIFG and NMMNG, Praxeology vol 3. Why I'm here Spent the better part of a decade avoiding feeling things and seek…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/25 04:02 PM
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"If" you don't have any measurable goals or metrics to move yourself forward, you'll always believe you are in a state of failure, and that isn't a good place to be. I understand where you're coming from. I'll keep this in mind. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/25 10:22 PM
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How the fuck do you know what you are working on and what to measure against unless you write it down and go through the OODA loop? I've thought a bit about this. I intend to use my OYS to observe and orient. It's not real fun to document my failures, fuck ups, and fears. Putting that down is motivation to change. I don't want to write that shit down again next week, but I will if it's still there. My mission is fundamentally my goals - whatever is not congruent with that needs to change. I don'…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/25 02:16 PM
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OYS 3 Stats: 5'7'' 171 lbs. 44yo. Lifts: Squat 180lb (+25) 5x5, OHP 90lb (0) 5x5, Deadlift 225lb (+10) 1x5, BP 165lb (0) 5x5, Barbell Row 135lb (+5) 5x5. Married 18 yrs. 3 kids - 13, 11, 9. Read: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MMSLP x 2, TRM, MAP, Poon, Book of Pook, SGM, WOTSM, Praxeology 1&2, Fuccfiles, The Game, YaReally, Day Bang, Practical Female Psychology. Rian Stone series on WISNIFG, Why I'm here Spent the better part of a decade avoiding feeling things and seeking comfort and hiding behind al…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/25 09:47 PM
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**Sex/Relationship** Wife started back up teaching at university for the fall. Night before first lectures she anxious and up late, seemingly doing nothing. Would have normally hovered around until I got exhausted, hoping for possible sex. Communicated I was taking a shower then going to bed- then simply did this, no butthurt. She came into bed well after I was initially asleep, in lingerie, snuggled up and rubbing my arms/chest. Initial inclination was to reject interest and punish her for bein…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/25 11:03 PM
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**OYS 2** Stat: 5'7'' 171 lbs 44yo. Lifts: SQ 165lb (+20) 5x5, OHP 90lb (+10) 5x5, Deadlift 215lb (+30) 1x5, BP 165lb (+15) 5x5, Barbell Row 130lb (+15) 5x5. Married 18 yrs. 3 kids - 13, 11, 9. Read: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, TRM, MAP, Poon, Book of Pook, SGM, WOTSM, Praxeology 1&2, Fuccfiles, The Game, YaReally, Day Bang, Practical Female Psychology. Rian Stone series on WISNIFG **Reading**: The Prince, Praxeology volume 3, NMMNG red pill series by Rian Stone Back after 14 day ban after OY…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/25 11:03 PM
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Sex is good, frequency is good. 4x this week, its always been decent but step up and frequency and quality since starting journey. Shark week this week, which doesn't really change frequency as the variety/duration. Pretty vanilla, but emotion always high on period. Caught a pretty hard comfort test a couple months ago when I didn't pursue for a couple of days during her period (I initially misread as a shit test and asked her what the fuck was the problem, she was upset I wasn't into her just b…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/25 04:40 PM
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OYS #1 Stat: 5'7'' 171 lbs 43yo. Lifts: SQ 145lb x5, OHP 80lb x5, Deadlift 185lb x 5, BP 150lb x 5, Barbell Row 115lb x 5. A fat pussy - but less fat and pussy than a couple months ago. Noticed this week, my squat form was not good - (I kept pushing my heels off the ground) adjustment made. Married 18 years - 3 kids. Conservative religious influence (think Puritan) until the last few years. Read: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, TRM, MAP, Poon, Book of Pook, SGM, WOTSM, Praxeology 1&2, Fuccfiles, …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/25 04:39 PM
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