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Betrayal is awful no matter the circumstances. Not trying to one up you, just trying to commiserate. Merry friggin Christmas, right? Bitterness aside, truly, I hope you find whatever joy there is to be had this Christmas.
/r/RPChristians24/12/23 04:23 AM
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Me too. I found out while I was in labour with kid #4. Our 10 year anniversary is coming up in a few days. It could be worse!
/r/RPChristians24/12/23 04:19 AM
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I am Roman Catholic, as is my husband.
/r/RPChristians04/07/19 07:10 PM
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Those don't seem like ships in the traditional RP way of the ship analogy, though. I'm struggling to understand your analogy; in the usual RP analogy, these would be duties on the ship that the captain delegates to the First Mate so that he can get on with pointing the ship in the right direction. In an actual ship, there are lots of things the captain doesn't do, but gives expectations that the captains mates fulfill to their own discretion and judgment. Furling the sails doesn't need it's own …
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 11:03 AM
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They had two babies within three years of marriage (yikes). Why do you say this is a "yikes?" I'm coming up on 4 years of marriage and also had 2 within 3 years; I conceived my first the first month we were married, and the second when he was 10 months old. The story that was told to me was that my grandfather, a farmer, had had a bad crop one year and couldn't afford to pay his promised tithe to the church. The family had shown up one Sunday and found that their name had been removed from 'thei…
/r/RPChristians07/10/17 04:14 PM
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It's not even so much that it's 8-10 days of abstinence, it's that they're back to back. Like, most couples probably have sex 4-6 times a week; it's the rare few that, even if RP, have sex every day. But, much like fasting from food, once or twice a week is once thing - not eating for a week is another business. And, to be completely honest with you - it is the single hardest teaching of the Church for me to accept personally. Celibate priesthood? Sure. Hyperdulia of Our Lady? Bring it on! A bel…
/r/RPChristians05/10/17 08:01 PM
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So oral is an option for a married couple during this time Nope. All sexual activity must end with orgasm and semen in vagina. The reasoning behind this is that the Church teaches that sex should in its nature be ordered towards both unitive and procreative ends. Obviously not all sex results in conception, but the sex itself must be ordered in such a way as to point towards the procreative end. The flip side of this is also why the Church forbids faithful Catholics to use IVF; it fulfills the p…
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 06:12 PM
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Nail on the head. Well said all the way around. We just have a word for Catholics who hold such errant beliefs: heretics. ;)
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 05:47 PM
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Now this is a grand gesture Right?! There was some difficulty selling it because the MOT papers (basically the insurance + bill of health for a vehicle) had run out, so whoever bought it would not be able to legally ride it until they sorted out the papers. But Jon had made me a promise that he was going to be there on May 19. And on May 15, he sold it in cash to someone who was willing to walk it home. Went inside, and the tickets were the exact amount he had sold it for, down to the pound. If …
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 05:44 PM
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I did and I found them very useful. I had the great blessing of an RCIA instructor who didn't teach from a "Spirit of V2" theology of watering down the faith. He taught solid theology and I had a great priest at my first parish as well. But I took a lot of my learning into my own hands as well and I think that RCIA is not enough on its own. I read a lot of patristic writings (I still love the writings of the Desert Fathers), apologetics, and talked a lot with my fiance and his best friend who is…
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 04:24 PM
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My conversion is something that can pretty much only be chalked up to a miracle. I grew up Protestant; my mom was nominally Baptist and my father was Methodist but as parents they tended to choose the denomination they attended based on location and youth things rather than denominational theology. When I was in uni, I rejected Christ wholeheartedly, fell in love with Nietzsche and his writings, dabbled in the occult, and hated Christians pretty much on sight. But through all of that, I had alwa…
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 03:29 PM
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Now that we have flair, I can just say "look at my flair" but I'm 26; I got married at 22. I was also a frothing-at-the-mouth feminist atheist when I met my husband. To be quite honest, I have no idea what he saw in me. I mean, I'm not going to pretend I'm a perfect lovely RP wife that greets my husband with a cocktail into a perfectly clean home with smiling children. I mean, I'd like to reach for that, but I think it's that he's the kind of guy that I want to do that for, even when he screw up…
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 01:56 PM
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Here is a good start. Basically, it's really really hard to separate the variable "NFP user" from "devout Catholic," both of which affect the divorce rate. Given that the Catholic Church is the only one that forbids contraception and even then, most Catholics ignore that teaching, the subset of people who use NFP are already incredibly unlikely to divorce. You do find secular NFP users (who prefer to call it Fertility Awareness Methods; FAM) but I don't think there's been enough research to come…
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 10:37 AM
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Oh yeah, for sure! It's hard because the times of abstaining are right when both parties tend to want to have sex most (men can actually smell fertility in non-Pill-using women, and it ramps up male libido), and generally libido takes a plunge after the egg dies, due to the rise in progesterone and the drop in estrogen. If a couple doesn't have the grace and fortitude and attraction to build a sex life on anything other than raw attraction, NFP can be difficult. But in my experience both in my o…
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 10:24 AM
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I can confirm that NFP, although incredibly frustrating, is really good for my marriage. It's a form of fasting, more or less, and there's tons of evidence that fasting from a good thing is an even better thing.
/r/RPChristians03/10/17 12:18 AM
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Yeah, and this is exactly the topic that Pope Francis covered on his recent encyclical Amortis Laetitia (links to pdf). This document has the Church absolutely up in arms on both sides because there's a small footnote that suggests that there may be scenarios where a person in a second purported marriage may be able to receive the Eucharist, even while they continue conjugal relations with their purported second spouse. I tend to take the very hard line on this because I find that the number of …
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 08:05 PM
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Indeed, and that's my poor wording. I think we agree 100% on the idea of the indissoluble marital bond. But on the other hand, I am legally and physically capable of getting a second civil marriage and having a very long adulterous relationship. It would simply culminate in me suffering for all eternity in hell. When you're talking about areas where there is a difference between legal and spiritual, terminology gets tricky. I suppose the best way of putting it is, "I am not capable of breaking t…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 07:58 PM
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The article by Piper that you linked sums up the my thoughts almost perfectly. I have a slight qualm with his point 8.2 (returning to a first spouse upon realizing that that person is still, in fact, your spouse, in God's eyes), but shy of that he's hit the nail on the head. Very refreshing to see.
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 07:50 PM
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how can your husband know that for a fact, though? I'd tell you to ask him but he doesn't use Reddit. What if he cheats on you, then decides to murder you so he can be with his lover, so he stabs you with a knife and starts threatening to kill your children too? Would it still be "a fact that i won't divorce my husband"? Leaving != divorce. Obviously if my husband used physical violence on me or, God forbid, our children, I'd be out of there faster than you can say Godspeed. And yes, I may even …
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 07:41 PM
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Your estimation would be somewhat flawed. Just paging /u/Red-Curious so he can chime in/see. Given that it was the Catholic Church who compiled the Bible (remember, the church didn't have a solidified canon until the Synod of Hippo in 393), it seems a bit backwards for Protestants to claim that Scripture is not rooted in the preceeding four centuries of Tradition. There are Marian hymns almost a hundred years older than the first assembled Biblical canon, for example. If Protestants trust that t…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 06:34 PM
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Well, I am a wife (rpw = redpillwife), and I happen to be in control of my own choices, so I know for a fact that I won't divorce my husband.
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 06:19 PM
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The point is the overwhelming majority of Christendom accepts scripture as an ultimate authority, even Catholics, while only Catholics, and some Eastern Orthodox, will accept papal / apostolic authority as more than a suggestion. Incedentally, the Cathodox branches make up an easy majority of Christians, and that's not even counting the branches of Protestants that do hold to some Apostolic Tradition, such as high-church Anglicans, some Lutherans, and independent pseudo-Catholics not in communio…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 05:34 PM
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ANd I'm not going to take your sola Scriptura bait either. Scripture itself says that Scripture does not contain everything, so I'm not going to argue down to the least common denominator for the sake of people who don't recognize the authority of Tradition. There are plenty of Protestants who don't think Baptism is a sacrament either - that doesn't make them right. But, for the sake of leaving a verse, Mark 10:9 explicitly states that God Himself joins the spouses together, and that they cannot…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 05:07 PM
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That's funny, it was officially declared as such in 1184 under papal decree, and understood as such from the Apostolic Church under the writings of Ignatius of Antioch, writing in about 110 AD. If the protesting Christian sects want to argue that, that's on them, not me.
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 04:57 PM
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If the state had my interests in mind whatsoever, then maybe I would take the risk. As of right now the deck is heavily stacked against men in legal marriage. I'd rather go without the current "benefits" in order to avoid the current laundry list of pitfalls. I'm afraid I don't know of any "pitfalls" in marriage that don't involve the pitfalls of a divorce which is by definition the failure of a marriage and a failure on both spouses part to keep the marriage together. Can you give an example of…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 04:49 PM
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Women who won't divorce and are happy to act in a first-mate position, allowing their husbands to lead their marriage into happiness and holiness. Vet women for these traits, and you won't have to worry about divorce.
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 04:47 PM
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So you're quite happy to get the state involved if you divorce but don't want the state "involved" in your marriage? That seems awfully like you're putting the cart before the horse. This is all about finding the right woman, and not so much about whether or not you affect civil marriage alongside the Sacrament of Matrimony. Civil marriage comes with legal and financial benefits as well as potential drawbacks. Avoiding the drawbacks is simply a matter of vetting for the right woman. I'm speaking…
/r/RPChristians02/10/17 08:36 AM
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I love Finer Femininity! She also has an Android app that links to various snippets of her blog. Def one of my favourite bloggers. As far as the post itself I don't think I have a superiority complex. In fact, my usual problem lies the other direction in self-pity and being overly sensitive to criticism which is really something that I'm working on.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/17 09:16 PM
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You can also specify a particular translation when using VerseBot! u/versebot [John 1:1-5 Vulgate]
/r/RPChristians12/09/17 09:45 PM
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Ooh, I'm also interested in finding like minded groups! I'm in the Northeast though. :(
/r/RedPillWives12/09/17 06:17 PM
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Yeah, today's full circumcision for no good reason is really only practised in America. It's almost unheard of here in Europe. (I'm an American woman married to a British chap.) Our one (and any future) sons will be intact, but more than likely the circumsision of the Jews was a simple cut down the base of the foreskin - enough to prevent phimosis (which may have been more prevalent, who knows), but not enough to compare to today's full removal. It may have been mirrored by menarche in women, bu…
/r/RPChristians11/09/17 06:14 PM
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There is reason to believe that covenental circumcision was not a full removal of the foreskin but rather a "notch" - enough to bleed, but not enough to cause harm. Hellenistic sources as well as Holy Scripture (1 Maccabees 1:15) show that Jews were able to hide their circumcision, which would be impossible with today's full removal of the foreskin.
/r/RPChristians11/09/17 05:49 PM
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Give us an update when you do! I'm glad to hear it's something you're at least intrigued by. Feel free to AMA about being adopted in the USA; I spent 6 years in the foster care system and 1 in an orphanage, I'm also happy to source my parents and/or sister for answers too. My parents had always wanted a second child but my mother had postpartum infertility which is what moved them to consider adoption, and they are grateful to have sidestepped the whole diapers and incomplete sentences thing, ev…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/17 08:06 AM
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I see - I think I understand what you mean by the difference now. Thank you for the clarification. In the Cathodox world we called the latter (what you call Scripture memory) lectio divina because we always have to have a fancy Latin/Greek word for things! ;) In all seriousness though, I had assumed that Scripture memory was merely committing verses to rote memory the way one might memorise formulae. I agree with you on the Grace of the Sacraments - we can only receive graces insofar as we have …
/r/RPChristians29/08/17 08:01 AM
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Have you considered adoption? Many of your concerns about having another child seem to stem from pregnancy, labour, and infancy problems. Undertandably so - those stages are brutal! I was adopted at the age of 11, however, and while obviously bringing in someone with their own history and baggage can be super difficult, it may also be a way to avoid most of the problems you mentioned while still adding another child to the family. I don't know if that's something that you guys would consider at …
/r/RedPillWives28/08/17 10:01 PM
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I've posted this elsewhere, but I'll give a quick recap. My husband and I are both Catholic and Catholic theology does not allow for the possibility to end a sacramental marriage (irrespective of civil marriage). What that means is that even if I were to civilly divorce, I would not be permitted to date, have sex, or civilly remarry, as my husband and I will be sacramentally married until one of us is dead. I mention it only because it's an important caveat - I don't have any real deal breakers …
/r/RedPillWives28/08/17 09:57 PM
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An excellent post and I can confirm that I am much more attracted to and happier to be around my husband when he is steering our ship towards Christ. My only nitpick would be that, in all likelihood, Bible study and Scripture memory would have such a strong correlation as to be able to be rolled into one. Personally, I'd replace that empty slot with Grace of the Sacraments. In sects of Christianity with a strong sacramental theology (Catholic, Orthodox, some Anglican/Episcopalian) attending the …
/r/RPChristians28/08/17 08:41 PM
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Yes I think the scholastic nature of the West led the RCC to favour getting as much onto paper as possible. A leads to B, B leads to C sort of deal. Whereas the East tends to focus more holistically I think. The West likes to peel back the curtain whereas the East doesn't mind leaving it in place. I too hope for a healing of the schism, whatever that might mean in regards to our genuine theological differences (which are, by the grace of God, fewer than some make them out to be).
/r/RPChristians18/08/17 10:34 PM
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It's definently related to the idea of Mary as the New Ark! In the same way that the little-w word of God was held in the old Ark, the capital-w Word of God was held within Mary. The RCC doesn't see Mary as divine, either, don't worry! (Before I get folks calling me an idolater!) Compared to God, Mary is less than dust, as are we all. In the West, the idea behind co-redeemer is based on the idea that because God made himself dependent on Mary's consent (not that God was by nature dependent, He i…
/r/RPChristians18/08/17 05:28 PM
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RC here, but with a distinct fondness for Eastern theology (I'd probably be Eastern Catholic, except it's hard enough finding Latin Rite where I live). In True Devotion to Mary we see that Mary is the "mold of Christ" - just as you pour chocolate into a mold and let it cool, and Christ himself was (literally and figuratively) formed within the mold of Mary, so we too, if we are to be brothers to Christ and true sons and daughters of the Father, must pour ourselves into Mary and allow her to form…
/r/RPChristians18/08/17 11:03 AM
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Hello folks! I'm a 26 year old Catholic convert who has been married to a wonderful Catholic man for 3.5 years. We have 2 children, with the intent for at least 3 more! Like others here, I'm Catholic and hope to give insight on things like the Catholic understanding of marriage (hint: civil divorce is a final option, remarriage is not), desire (Gregory Popcack's Holy Sex! is an excellent book), and contraception (which is always and everywhere immoral, particularly within marriage). Secondary to…
/r/RPChristians15/08/17 11:44 AM
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It's the superlative form of being wifey! ;)
/r/RedPillWives06/08/17 01:59 PM
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Everything Tolkien writes belies his Catholic faith and it's really enjoyable to see that Catholic sexual theology is so broadly applicable, even if people don't realize right away the foundational theology that these sexual ethics are based on. When you raise marriage to a literal aqueduct of grace, the teachings that follow are profoundly beautiful.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 05:54 PM
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Educating men that birth control makes their women fatter, uglier, and less interested in sex than they would be without it - for a start. Then removing the idea that you can dope yourself or your partner into getting all the fun from sex without any of the consequences, including pregnancy. Then a more widespread teaching of fertility awareness methods, which are as or more effective than the Pill and approach the IUD in efficacy rates. They have no side effects, high efficacy, are immediately …
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 09:49 AM
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I nailed the wife thing by pulling a blackberry pie out of the oven right as he was walking in the door from work and his face lit up! As he took a bite he looked at me and said, "This is divine and you are the wife-iest." Fresh blackberries picked straight from the country lane, too. Mm mm. Made my evening!
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 06:10 PM
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If you're enjoying thinking about having sex with X, you are already cheating. You have intentionally put yourself in precarious situations where, if you had had maybe one more drink, that would have pushed you over your self-control line. My advice would be to cut all contact with X, probably avoid the event altogether (any event with casual drunk sex is not somehing you should be attending alone anyways), and focus on the future marriage in front of you.
/r/RedPillWives31/07/17 08:53 AM
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I imagine that the rising amount of estrogen in our water is certainly aggravating this issue; they have found similar problems with exponentially increasing quantities of intersex fish and infertility among fish and marine mammal populations. It would not surprise me at all to find that estogen is decreasing fertility in human men, especially since the time frame lines up almost exactly with widespread use of the contraceptive pill. Study on anti-androgens AHRP study on contraception in drinkin…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/17 08:36 AM
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"The truth is, you are tacky feminists." Amazing. I love that the camera panned over to them right after that.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 06:46 PM
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Savage and brilliant. She does a great job of pointing out the bizarre "enemy of my enemy" mindset of "feminists, Islamists, LGBT, all working together." Mme. Le-Pen is sharp. I only wish she didn't hunch over the podium quite so much, if I may be permitted to make such a small note of criticism.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 03:00 PM
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I got a 7 on Type 2 "The Helper" and 6's in both Type 6 "Skeptic" and Type 7 "Generalist."
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 11:22 AM
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You may also want to try out /r/FeminineNotFeminist - it's more beauty and fashion centered, where as this is more practical. I've loved some of the tips I got from there as well, and I believe there's quite a lot of crossover between the communities.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 11:05 AM
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Hi there! This is my other username (I sent you the message not long ago about this sub, reference on /r/Catholicism)! Glad to see you diving in; the ladies here are really wonderful!
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 10:59 AM
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Wow! Do you have a recipe for said cake? I love baking. Glad to hear you guys had a great evening! :)
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 05:37 PM
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Ahhh, Babys-R-Us is the most tempting place!! They do a really great job of making you feel like every. single. gadget. is going to make your life as a new parent 9000 times easier, even when you know, rationally, that it's another piece of junk to clean/put away/lose/swear at/break, etc. So much fun, though, to just go through and look!
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 04:58 PM
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That sounds lovely! I wish there were more indoor play areas near me - they're a great way to kill two birds with one stone. Plus J loves to jump around with our son in those sorts of places! Yum, cakes!
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 04:56 PM
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I can't describe how calming your husband can be during labor. Yaaaaaas, this. I did not want an epidural and made it pretty clear to everyone. But there was one doctor who came in (was not part of the normal birthing team, hadn't read my birth plan) and sort of gently suggested it, as my labour was progressing pretty quickly and they wanted to slow it down a bit. My husband physically stood between me and him and said, "She's been very clear that she doesn't want an epidural. Please leave." Eve…
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 10:34 AM
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For me, what helped was making a birth plan and actually physically writing it down. I want this. I do not want this. Offer this only if that. In the US, I feel like labour and birth is treated, by default as a medical emergency rather than a perfectly normal thing that happens. Obviously, medical emergencies can happen, but labour in and of itself is not a medical emergency. So having this written plan really gave me this sense of control over what was going on to and around me. (For example, I…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 08:04 PM
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I'd divorce over abuse, neglect (me or children), illict "hard" drugs, and infidelity. I'd seek temporary separation over apostasy or pornography, or smoking (not talking like, a single smoke on a night out; I'm talking daily here). That said, as a Catholic I understand that because his vows were true on the day we married, any civil divorce is exactly that, civil. We almost certainly would not be able to get an annullment and I would not be free to remarry, as we would still be sacramentally ma…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 12:59 PM
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Smoking/illicit drug use Pornography Apostasy from the Catholic Faith Infidelity (for me, porn falls under this, but it's unusual enough that I felt the need to clarify) Abuse, neglect, etc. Those are in rough order from least severe to most, obviously.
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 08:26 AM
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I love everything about this website, but this post in particular makes me both smile and realize that sometimes I'm not very good at accepting. I love where she says "acceptance is not the same as tolerance" and I think that often times I tend to tolerate thinking it's "good enough." Acceptance means you accept your husband as he is today with no changes. You realize that maybe he could and even should be better, but this is HIS responsibility. You realize he has weaknesses (as you do) and you …
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 09:54 AM
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Ahhhh! Yes I love both of those! So beautiful. I still use Be Thou My Vision as a lullaby for my kiddos.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 03:17 PM
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Much the same reason as you did - talking about death at a wedding is blegh! I think it might be fun to also share what readings, etc we had/want to have at our weddings, too! That has a lot more variety and I think it can really showcase a couple's bond! I had these: Blessed the husband of a good wife, twice-lengthened are his days; A worthy wife brings joy to her husband, peaceful and full is his life. A good wife is a generous gift bestowed upon him who fears the Lord; Be he rich or poor, his…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 02:16 PM
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I, (name), take you, (name), to be my husband. I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life. Being Catholic, we only got two options, hehe.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:56 PM
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GK Chesterton is my all time favourite philosopher. Closely followed by St. Thomas Aquinas, the Angelic Doctor. (In case it's not obvious, I'm Catholic!) The Angelic Doctor writes with more of an objective, back-and-forth question and answer style; is most famous work is probably the Summa Theologica followed closely by the companion Summa Contra Gentiles. But of them are unquestionably theological in nature, but do a great job setting the bedrock of the theological argument on sound philosophy.…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/17 08:37 AM
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I wanted to try and talk to people here and learn if I can. Fair enough. Much like the actual Matrix, most people do experience a little bit of "wtf" when they encounter RP ideas for the first time, because they are so different from what is mainstream. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt here and engage. Someone here told me to read the sidebar and I will after I finish responding. Yep - the sidebar is the go-to resource for the basics, but it also always nice to have someone to talk back an…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:50 PM
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#goals xD
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 01:53 PM
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u/phantomdream09 - you're so popular - they love you over on TBP. Sorry, OP, I read your post history. Given that you're coming in with a pretty severe bias, I don't think it's likely for anything we say to register as anything other than "trophy wife Stockholm syndrome" to you. Are you actually interested in engaging on this topic or are you trying to get enough responses to have a laugh at?
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 09:50 AM
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TRP Hates Ignorant Slutty Lowlifes. :) FINSW
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 04:12 PM
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Ugh, me too. Otherwise, that's just sad.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 07:55 PM
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Ugh. I saw a Facebook post where a mom has boy/girl twins. She was breastfeeding the girl but refused to breastfeed the boy because she didn't want to "give him too much advantage." Like, what?
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 04:19 PM
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We share maybe 30% of our hobbies? We're both really into gaming (we met on League of Legends) - and we both love to read, mostly fantasy but all sorts of stuff, really. We are both also really involved in our Catholic faith life. He also enjoys coding, orienteering, and shooting ranges, meanwhile I love to write and create fictional worlds with lots of theoretical evolution and geology, and I am also learning Latin and getting into gardening. I also want to start meadmaking! I feel a bit lonely…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 05:23 PM
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Hurray for friends! I'd be happy with even a single friend, but a group is nice too. It's looking like I might get both!
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 02:10 AM
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OMG yes. My grandfather is such a fixer-upper and my dad definitely inherited that. He never goes too long without some sort of project! And my 2yo son was a huge fan as well, working alongside with his wooden toy toolbox. Made my heart nearly burst.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 02:09 AM
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I'm super grateful for my dad. He came to visit from the US this week and he did so much for me to help me get back on track; things like appliances and some home repair that DH is too busy to get to. He also helped us get a new dishwasher (no more handwashing dishes) and a dryer (no more drying clothes on the radiator!!). He even looked after the kids for a night while DH and I went on a date! Segues nicely into being grateful for DH's back-breaking work at university. He's doing a comp sci deg…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 08:24 PM
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Hi there, thanks for your detailed response. Just paging u/TempestTcup so I don't have to type out two detailed replies. Firstly, while I have said that my husband and I use the Biblical definition of adultery, I made no statement on whether or not I am actually religious. I have made no appeals to God, to sin, or anything else. So I would appreciate it if my valid and entirely secular arguments were not refuted with "well not everyone is religious." A non-religious woman can use all of the argu…
/r/RedPillWives12/12/16 08:57 PM
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No, I am shaming men for refusing to exercise self-mastery over base desires. EDIT: if porn is part of "being a man" you are equally shaming men who don't. Porn = men being men. No porn = men being not men? Also, some actions deserve shame.
/r/RedPillWives12/12/16 06:42 PM
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Only if you're not willing to date religious men. And I was under the impression, but correct me if I'm wrong, that increasing our SMV and RMV is precisely what allows a RPWi to be more discerning. Are you advising that porn use be something that a woman "puts up with"? Why?
/r/RedPillWives12/12/16 06:41 PM
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It's not great for divorce rate, as this study shows. Unless you'd watch folks having sex out in the park, viewing porn is disingenuous and dishonest. Porn is an addictive behavior that causes dopamine exhaustion and changes in neurochemistry. It removes imtimacy from sex, for both the actors and the viewer. It creates unrealistic expectations about sex, genital appearance, and the interplay of sex and relationships. It's selling sex for profit, which is essentially prostitution. (Not that many …
/r/RedPillWives12/12/16 06:35 PM
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I'll assume that MSN is phone-auto-correct for man, haha! We do have a choice. It's just a matter of which one is a dealbreaker, I suppose. There's plenty of non-religious gents over at nofap. It's just about where you place porn usage on your list of traits and what you're willing to give up to find someone who doesn't.
/r/RedPillWives12/12/16 01:31 PM
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I'm saying that the study shows that women with strong religious beliefs tend to hold the indissolubility of marriage to a higher and more stringent standard than did their non-religious counterparts. I admit my earlier comment was not worded correctly. Of course religious women tend to be against the use of porn. What I meant was: if two women who are otherwise equivalent except for one is religious and one isn't, and both of their husbands started porn, the religious woman is more likely to st…
/r/RedPillWives11/12/16 08:23 AM
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If religious women were against porn, you would expect to see a stronger correlation between porn use and breaking the relationship. Instead, you see that religious women are less likely to divorce over porn than non-religious women.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 07:44 PM
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Sure. Another discussion of the same study, but with graphs and a bit more discussion. The study found that starting porn use doubled the likelihood of divorce for men and tripled it for women. This is consistent with the prevailing ideas that men in particular are more visual creatures and "can't help themselves." (I'm not saying this is the RPWi outlook, but speaking broadly.) It is also consistent with the idea that men would find physical promiscuity more damaging than emotional, with the re…
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 03:46 PM
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To me it's very strange that many on this thread and elsewhere think that looking at attractive members of the opposite sex is okay, as if where or how or through whom arousal comes isn't important at all. As to porn, if you wouldn't watch people have sex out in the open live, why would you watch it filmed? It's such a massive contributor to the divorce rate.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 07:50 AM
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My husband and I both define cheating Biblically: But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:28 The inverse is obviously true for me as well. Porn is infidelity, intentionally looking at the other sex with desire is infidelity, and emotional connections are infidelity.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 11:19 PM
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I admit that I'm mostly a lurker. I was active on the IRC a few months ago under another name, but I don't like the IRC interface - it's very clunky. I think something like Discord or Vine would be a bit more slick. Is there a reason why the mods chose IRC over newer text communication methods? For example, Discord has the ability to set roles (like flairs here on Reddit) and channels, so there could be one channel for memes, another for debates/discussions, etc etc.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 03:13 PM
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Me too! Yay bananas!
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 11:47 AM
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Ooh! I'd rather have no one show up to my funeral. Weddings are a celebration of an irreversible bond. At my funeral, God willing, I will already be on my way to eternal happiness. I would rather be in jail for 10 years. I would at least get to see my family periodically, and any suffering would be spiritually beneficial. Waking up to grown children, having missed their life, would crush me. I'd rather lose my hearing. I couldn't imagine not seeing my children or husband ever again. I've never h…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 12:52 PM
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Captivating is another great book! It has Christian themes, but has lots to offer non-Christians, too! It has a male-centered companion book titled Wild at Heart.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 03:58 PM
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Yes. How should a man in a relationship comport himself around other women? How is it different vs how is it the same?
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 10:30 PM
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How does this work in the inverse?
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 02:32 PM
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Yes, the maternal frandfather effect is very curious! It's difficult to pinpoint why it's just that one, but I know my husband remembers his maternal grandfather in a glowing light, and my own little boy has a great relationship with my dad, so my anecdotal experience confirms this! I also think it's amazing that (a good) marriage acts as a healer even if you had a difficult childhood.
/r/RedPillWives10/10/16 05:30 PM
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This study was started in 1938 and they are now analyzing the results over seventy years, the long such study ever completed. This is specifically about men, but it can go a long way to detailing the best way for us to enable our man be the best he can be!
/r/RedPillWives10/10/16 09:37 AM
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I don't have the luxury of carrying a purse and a diaper bag, so I just use a single bag for both! wallet phone & headphones pens & small notebook 2 diapers in each kid's size + wipes toddler's sippy cup a couple of small toys or toddler books a copy of Josemaria Escriva's The Way a rosary Bath & Body Works' Hemp Hand Protector which is amazing a tin of Vaseline Lip Therapy
/r/RedPillWives10/10/16 08:29 AM
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Hello again, ladies! I used to be fairly active on the sub a few months ago, but life got super busy. I've decided to come back on a clean account, so I can keep RPW stuff separate from all my other Reddit stuff! I'm 25, I have 2 kids, and I've been married for nearly 3 years to my awesome husband. We live in the NE UK.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 04:32 PM
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