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Cool, what do you do? I'm a software engineer, you sound like you're in tech too. My thought process is like. On a personal level I know the guy offering stuff is trying to get lucky, but since I have no interest, and if I was the guy I wouldn't want the girl to take the stuff if she had no interest, so I wouldn't do it either. I wouldn't blame someone else for taking it if it was freely offered though, since that's on the person offering it. As for public perception, if I was constantly getting…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:35 PM
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The whole thing about not taking freebies is a bit personal to me because there are stereotypes about how women who play video games just want male attention, women in STEM have it easier etc etc. So even outside of PPD I feel I have to show I am not a stereotype. Also I'm vocally a stickler for personal responsibility so taking free stuff would just make me look hypocritical. But I do concede I can't really answer that way without coming off as virtue signalling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:14 PM
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I wasn't dissing you or anything, I was genuinely wondering where someone would come from that a woman doing sex work would be the norm rather than the exception, because it's completely alien to my own experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:12 PM
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I mean, the question asked, so I answered lol. I'm not good at feminine charm but I run in male-dominated circles so there are guys who will suck up to any girl with those hobbies, so I have been offered stuff. But I probably couldn't pull it off with more socially adjusted-guys. FWIW I always offer to compensate someone for a favor instead of asking it before free "because I'm a girl teehee". I don't think I am unique in this regard either, I probably got these traits from my mom who is vocal a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 03:55 PM
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Same, that's why I'm holding back from shitposting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:39 PM
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Where do you even find all these dudes. The ones I know just go to work and go home. But then I'm a boringly square office worker myself so eh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:37 PM
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Different life directions. For example one wants to travel frequently and the other wants to settle down. Or incompatible living styles.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:22 PM
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Slightly awkward STEM person stereotype but in female form. Contrary to the stereotype, I do have decent fashion sense though. I think I act roughly the same, I try to engage people in good faith and not be unnecessarily cruel. I don't talk about PPD stuff much IRL though, because I don't want get blacklisted in the tech community. Already lost a friend or two over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:17 PM
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Seriousposting: Never did and never regretted it. My integrity and pride is more important to me. Plus I think doing so would have changed my psyche, because it would have made me view people as marks to be exploited. My attitude bleeds out into other things in my life, and I can tell people respect me for it. People tell me that I am "independent" and "strong", and I'd much rather have that than a few free drinks. On a more pragmatic note, I doubt I have enough feminine charm to pull it off rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:52 PM
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It's one thing if she's super young, but if a girl hits her late 20s NEVER having done any form of sex work at all... like never even looked into it... IDK it just makes you wonder. Uhhh where exactly are you from? Because I'm female and know of exactly 0 of my female friends or acquaintances who have done sex work. And no, we are not super religious or anything. Doing sex work would be a great way to get disowned by your parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:44 PM
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Because he's genuinely a good person. A better one than me, I think. Also we're both kinda antisocial and play video games and make dumb nerd jokes, so that works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:40 PM
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Nice post, did you come up with the ideas yourself or did you see them elsewhere? I ask because I would be interested in reading more about the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:07 PM
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'They murdered Jews because they hated them' is more visceral and personal than 'they murdered political opponents and had policies resulting in mass starvation'. Possibly also because there's been more cultural representation that people are familiar with, like Anne Frank or Schindler's List.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:07 PM
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On a serious note: There's only so many topics or angles a layman can discuss, so it always circles back to the same few talking points. The better posts or comments are usually from someone with particular expertise, like the lawyers/historians/economists, or just people with more life experience. I'd probably be better off reading an actual book if I wanted to learn something, but this is easier 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:00 PM
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I don’t care for the movie because it romanticizes when guys fall more in love with the idea of a woman than the woman herself. The main character does that, but I think the movie itself criticizes that. At one point, Tom's sister says something like "just because you like the same weirdo music doesn't make her your soulmate". And the narrator starts the movie with "this is not a love story", implying that the movie isn't meant to be romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 11:22 AM
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I liked it. It's about realizing you can't change people to fit your ideal, and that a relationship isn't going to succeed just because you "love" them. Can women just not relate to Summer? I would think it's the opposite actually. Summer says one thing but Tom refuses to listen. I'm sure women can relate to men not listening to what they say they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 11:20 AM
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Testosterone levels are dropping, so yes. As for the reasons, no idea why. Could be sedentary lifestyles, could be plastics, could be something else altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 03:29 PM
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Easily disproved by the women in poor countries looking for rich white guys (and a green card). They might even be encouraged to do so by their families. People just like money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 03:27 PM
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Gambling: odds are not in their favour, but people keep doing it because the next time they'll hit the jackpot Marriage: odds (of a good marriage or not getting divorced) are not in their favor (as per TRP's argument), but they choose to marry or remarry because this time she's different/the one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 01:49 PM
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Q4All: Does an attractive partner boost your status? Yes if there are no other significant negative factors. Bringing a partner who is a felon into UMC circles would lower your status, no matter your gender or their attractiveness. Bonus Question: Can we divorce the concepts of status and desirability? Status is contextual, so someone may be very high status in one context (e.g. pro gamers with female groupies) and yet undesirable to someone out of that context (e.g. women not interested in gami…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 07:46 AM
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Hello, I'm 24, SO is 26. I work as a software engineer. My MBTI type is ISTJ and I suspect my SO is INTJ. I am in Asia and he is in the US. We have been dating LD for 3 years (we meet every 3-4 months or so) and are unofficially engaged. We have agreed that after he finishes his PhD in a year or so, I will move to the US and we will get married. Our main hobby is gaming together, but we also enjoy other nerdy hobbies like reading XKCD, and we like travelling together; we went to Japan recently a…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 07:32 AM
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Hello, I think we are rather similar in that we are both more dominant than the average woman, and I've found SOs in gaming communities. However, men in those communities tend to be on the low-dominance side, and you seem to be looking for a higher-dominance man. You mentioned martial arts; I did krav maga for a short while and know a few people who do MMA, and I think guys who do martial arts tend to be on the higher-dominance side. So you could try there. You could maybe also also try workout …
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 06:40 AM
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Asked a guy out: 3 times (+ 2-3 more if you include asking guys out in online dating who didn't respond) Otherwise made interest known to a guy: 1 time Been asked out on a date: 1 time Been asked to "hang out" with a guy: 4 times Mutually expressed interest preceding LTR: 2 times Total of 5 LTRs and 1 casual encounter. I'm excluding messages I got from guys from online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 06:02 AM
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Why is this a pill question? And what's there to debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 04:23 AM
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Q4Women: Do you find it offensive to speak of women using economic terms? No, because everything where demand and supply is involved can be spoken of in economic terms. You might as well ask if it's offensive to speak of humans in scientific terms. I think the people who get offended at this can't accept that we (as humans or as women) are not that special after all, and will follow predictable patterns. Q4All: Do you foresee a future where we break free of the idea that male status is gained th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 04:12 AM
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The author is well-known for writing this sort of article.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 04:03 AM
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Female, red. Pretty sure some of my male friends have used sex workers. It's because they can't attract women IRL. They're otherwise normal in the sense that they don't hold disrespectful attitudes towards women and would like to be in an LTR, so I didn't look down on them for it. I'm sure there are men who treat sex workers in a dehumanizing way, but like someone else mentioned, they would probably also treat one-night stands in the same way. Would I date someone who used sex workers? I would h…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 03:53 AM
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I would have stopped wasting my time in a subpar relationship and stopped hoping that they would change (they almost never do).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/18 08:55 AM
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Heh, I once made a statement like "on average, women are more nurturing than men" to my social circle and got called out for being sexist (including by men). I guess any statement of gender differences is sexist now?? Oh, and I had a friend who fit the internet stereotype of a SJW to a T. Daddy issues, posting on social media about how much she hates her dad (but still happy to take his money to go to grad school to study sociology) and posting "I bathe in male tears"-type memes unironically.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 09:23 AM
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Not a man, but I recommend you read Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl. It was written by a psychiatrist who survived the Nazi concentration camps. The book says, as do the other posters here, that "Life is not primarily a quest for pleasure, as Freud believed, or a quest for power, as Alfred Adler taught, but a quest for meaning". We all have a need to feel part of something greater than ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 09:05 AM
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Not directly answering your question, but one way to improve your odds is to move to an area which is heavily male-dominated.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 08:56 AM
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eating well/staying in shape poor mental health Fix these and your attractiveness will go up considerably.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 08:50 AM
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I think it's real. I've met objectively attractive guys that I've felt nothing for and objectively unattractive or average guys that I've been drawn to, no physical escalation in either case. For how I experience it, I think it's a mixture of conversational chemistry and instinctive physical compatibility. Conversational chemistry would be how you can just 'click' with some people better than others, even in a non-romantic context. There are some people you can meet for the first time and launch…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 05:01 AM
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Well, the salaries in the area tend to be higher too, if that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 06:24 AM
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It's not a lot for a HCOL. 100k is the official poverty line for a family of 4 in the Bay Area.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 04:48 AM
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Even compared to places like shitredditsays or hapas?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 03:55 AM
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Ok, then she's definitely asking for too much lol. Did she link her picture somewhere?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 03:44 AM
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I will argue it's due to gender imbalances. When women outnumber men, men become less willing to commit. When men outnumber women, women raise their standards for men (for example, in cities like Shanghai where men far outnumber women). In colleges and cities like New York, women outnumber men, so hookup culture would be more prevalent. Here is a study and an article with that argument. I also read another article (can't find it, unfortunately) which cited a study saying that women trade their a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 09:44 AM
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Honestly if she's as good as she claims in other threads, she could probably find a guy easily, but she has extremely strict criteria IIRC and meeting guys online "doesn't count".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 04:57 AM
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The average age gap in marriages is 2 years. Ignore what people say on reddit and look at real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 04:49 AM
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Yup. Women in love do not describe their SOs as 'he's reasonable'.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 04:23 AM
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Yeah I think this is a PPD thing. I live somewhere with more conservative social norms and still no one would bat an eye at someone having multiple LTRs in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 04:22 AM
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If I might ask, what is the appeal of branch-swinging to you? To me it's much better to find an LTR and have someone who cares about you, rather than someone who only contacts you for a hookup. Plus the sex will be better because they actually care about your well-being. Sure, the hookups might be better-looking, but...that's not much to go on. At the end of the day, you'll still be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 04:17 AM
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As someone living in Asia, Bali is actually considered a cheap holiday destination for Australians and Asians. Expensive would be Japan or Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 03:31 AM
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"Spiritual consumerism". I like that phrase. And I don't know why you would choose Bali for that, when it's a massive tourist destination. If someone was really serious about spirituality, they would go to India or to live in a nunnery somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 03:27 AM
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If my good friends of 10 years were cheating on their partners, I'd probably rat them out anonymously. Yes I know it's cowardly, and no I don't care cuz I think telling the partner is the right thing to do. I'd probably also lose a huge amount of respect for them too. The only exception I could think of is if they were being abused by one partner and were too scared to leave the relationship, then it would be more understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 03:20 AM
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I would actually prefer that they do blind recruiting. That would stop all the grumbling about "she only got hired because she's a woman". As a software engineer, I think the push to hire women actually hurts the perception of the capability of female engineers, because it makes it seem like women need extra help to get hired.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/18 05:04 AM
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Had this happen with male friends. The target would uncomfortably try to brush her off and the rest of his friends would tease him later. They didn't have very good things to say about her, but it was because she wasn't very attractive, had bad social skills and was too loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 04:17 PM
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Pretty sure she's the one with crazy specific requirements from a previous thread. She could look like a model but it doesn't help if the pool of men she wants is tiny to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 04:49 AM
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Hm, actually no. TIL!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 03:03 AM
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Complete dealbreaker. I know I would be able to find another high-quality guy who would be happy to marry me. If I was single again, it would be something I would ask about within the first few dates. Atlas has mentioned before that high-quality women are not going to agree to that arrangement.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 03:56 PM
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Between the Indian, Pakistani, and Bangladeshi immigrant drivers we work with, customs officers and local police from two different Middle Eastern countries, and my two Puerto Rican roommates who can't get along with anybody (including each other) for more than 5 minutes, this country is turning me more prejudiced than I'd like against people all shades of brown. I think it's a poverty/low-trust-society thing. People who work with the Chinese have similar feelings. I visited India once and I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 06:25 AM
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I've seen some shops doing Stripe on a tablet, I've heard Stripe is easier to set up?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 06:21 AM
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I think it's demographic-dependent, as with a lot of things. There's this article I like to post which talks about how poor men are considered less marriageable. I also read an article (can't find it) about how couples where both parties are college-educated and have higher incomes have stronger marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 05:21 AM
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There was a thread some time ago about vetting men for kids which I thought had good responses, like seeing how they deal with stress or responsibility. I recall you said they were unrealistic, but those are the traits I would vet for.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 05:14 AM
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I'm female, but yeah that's what I meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 05:04 AM
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I would argue that this strongly on your demographic. For example, my social circle is college-educated MC professionals, and most of the men are faithful. My hypothesis is that if the demographic has men with more alpha traits, such as the black community, cheating rates would be higher. If a woman wants to have kids, it's in the best interest of the kid to have a stable household. This would require staying with the same guy for a few years to determine if he's suitable for raising kids with. …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 04:37 AM
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Hm, well, I've read that growing up poor has drastic effects on your brain, such as heavy dosages of stress hormones. People who grew up poor have reported that in adulthood, they would spend money recklessly because when you're poor, if you don't use up a resource quickly, you might lose it (e.g. someone steals it from you). Or they might live extremely frugally and hoard items for fear of becoming poor again. On the other hand, growing up with money means you have more of a sense of security a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 07:04 AM
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But depression rates and male suicide rates have skyrocketed. I think modern life is worse for us in terms of the lack of community. Without that, people don't feel a sense of belonging and purpose, and feel that their life is worthless. And even today, there are millions of people in the US living on less than $5 a day (which is the global poverty line of $2 a day adjusted for CoL in the US). The book $2.00 a Day: Living on Almost Nothing in America talks about this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:26 AM
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IMO it reveals whether each person can see their partner at the most mundane/grossest/boring and still remain attracted to them. I have friends who present themselves well in public, but their places are absolutely gross (like dirty dishes left everywhere). I can imagine that would kill attraction quickly. That being said, I do think staying a week at their place could reveal similar information. The whole “I need to live with you” thing is just a stall men use to get free milk from their girlfr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:16 AM
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Honestly I'd walk. Do you really want to be dating someone who can't keep their promise about important things?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 04:10 AM
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I do comfort test in a relationship. But shit-testing - if we're going with the definition of saying something and expecting another, or getting upset with the answer - not really. I do banter with my SO, but I do the same with male friends and they do it back to me. And I always try to make sure I don't cross boundaries or hurt someone's feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 03:43 AM
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Female, mid-20s, 5 (6 encounters total), never lied. Most guys don't ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 07:05 AM
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I went to a wedding where there was a bbq and we sat around and played video games. It was great. But hey, free booze and catching up with friends I've not seen in a while is pretty fun too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 06:52 AM
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It's not too bad if you're willing to have roommates. You can get a room for 1.5k-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 05:54 AM
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Strange, the software engineers I know in the bay area love to go hiking and skiing, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 05:51 AM
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I work as a junior software engineer. The pay is average for my area for software engineering. Above average for a university grad here. I grew up in a UMC family, which I think had a lot more effect on how I view money than my job.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 05:40 AM
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They tend to cost a lot of money (tens of thousands if people hold them in a hotel), so sometimes people like to get married first and save up for the banquet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 02:48 AM
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It's basically the Chinese equivalent of a wedding reception
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 02:41 AM
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What did you think of this? I'm considering trying it myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 08:24 AM
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The first divorce among my friends might be rearing its head soon. Couple in their early 30s married for 2 years. And I just attended their wedding banquet a month ago. I suspect it might be financial issues. The guy has an office job that doesn't pay terribly, but doesn't pay great either. He makes questionable financial decisions, like high-risk investments and flying overseas often for his hobby. The girl has a certain level of standards, which would be reasonable if they were middle-class, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 08:14 AM
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If you like JRPGs, you should really try Persona if you haven't already.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 07:22 AM
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I had basil for a while, but it kept getting eaten by snails.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 07:21 AM
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To be charitable to OP, if she had to elaborate, she would probably say that they are necessary but not sufficient for those results (since she can probably think of other male-dominated societies that did not lead to female genocide).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 07:05 AM
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I don't get much of the niceties anyway (men hitting on me, buying me stuff or whatever), so it won't make much of a difference to me. My male friends generally respect the relationship status of women, married or not. They know we intend to get married, but that hasn't changed things, fortunately. As for random guys, if it's even more effective at getting them to stop hitting on me, I'll be quite happy. What I am potentially worried about is women hitting on my SO once he starts wearing a ring,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/18 04:51 AM
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I lol'd
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 04:09 PM
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Confession: I like being around my in-laws better than my parents. My parents aren't bad people, but I never got the kind of emotional support from them that I get from my in-laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 03:13 PM
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I hardly even discuss my SO's flaws IRL to someone outside the relationship, because it would be disrespectful and not very productive. Hence I don't like trash him online. And I highly doubt the married women here who have to deal with their husbands and household irritations on a day to day basis think they're perfect. But if I had to make a list: Indecisive Not good at verbalizing his feelings Stubborn (can be both good and bad) Can be reluctant to try something new (then realize after the fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 03:08 PM
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The whole point of the dating period is to find someone who is worthy of trust. If you don't want to be controlled, look for someone who isn't interested in controlling other people. Living that way with your guard up all the time sounds exhausting. You may not be overt about it, but emotionally mature men - who are the ones you want to date - will be able to sense it. Mark Manson talks about this but for guys in Models - if a guy constantly looks down on women, women with healthy self-esteem wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 03:57 AM
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Quiet, nerdy, somewhat socially awkward guys, since that's the primary demographic of my social circles. I'm pretty plain at first glance, so the ones who are attracted to me genuinely like my personality, which usually means they're looking for something serious. They tend to be intellectual, because my conversation slant is intellectual and sometimes gets blank stares from my non-intellectual friends 😂 I'm pretty straightforward and can be standoffish, so I think I give off the vibe that I won…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 03:18 AM
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ENFP personalities are catnip to some guys, from what I've read. (Apparently ISTJ guys.) Pot for every lid indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 08:26 AM
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That would drive me crazy too! I think it's rude to make people wait a long time to eat just because you can't decide on what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 08:10 AM
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Meh I'm an ISTJ and I couldn't be arsed to follow The Rules either. I figure that since my personality type is being straightforward and going for what I want, might as well let the guy see that early. Rather than portraying a false impression with The Rules and disappointing him later when he sees my real personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 06:15 AM
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Not sure where Mark Manson would fit in (purple pill maybe?), but I think he's a pretty good resource. I've seen him mentioned in the TRP sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 04:08 AM
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What about instituting the rule that if someone shoots down a suggestion, they have to suggest some other place?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 03:18 AM
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Haven't they been around for a long time already? If they were going to affect the SMP, they already would have. South Korea is an example of a place where cosmetic enhancement is common (even the men do it). Probably a more pertinent question is how makeup affects the SMP, since it's much more common. I don't think it has a significant effect, since weight is still an important factor, and for LTRs, even if your appearance is younger, lying about your age isn't feasible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 03:00 AM
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Hasn't happened to me. Most of the guys I've dated are from within my social circles, so there's preselection at work, and there'd be social consequences for them if they did. Plus I tend to go for the high-beta types, who are less likely to lie about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:48 AM
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Perhaps it's the overinvestment? It's like if you meet someone and they want to be instant bffs, it'd be a turn-off too. There's the sense that they'd demand too much of you emotionally before you're ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:44 AM
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There's guys who go into it thinking "well she's the best I could do". No one wants to feel like they're being settled for. This would be similar to a woman settling for a BB to have kids with I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:42 AM
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I'm rooting for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:36 AM
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I don't know about plumbers, but drivers certainly will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:30 AM
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Mark Manson describes female attraction similarly in Models too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 02:29 AM
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What makes you think all women are altruistic and peace-loving? Have you heard of Magaret Thatcher, Ayn Rand or Elizabeth Holmes? And because dominant personalities end up in power, they would be the ones in positions of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 02:24 PM
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From what I've read, women being cold to you because they're afraid you'll steal their boyfriends/their boyfriends hit on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 08:17 AM
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But then I'd have to deal with losers saying I'm unmarriageable because I'm not a virgin 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 08:11 AM
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Not sure if the Switch is powerful enough to run it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 08:06 AM
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Probably a result of the caste system.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 08:05 AM
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Out of curiosity, what do you think of all those religious couples who end up on /r/deadbedrooms after they discover they're not sexually compatible?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 08:02 AM
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I'm really looking forward to lab-grown meat becoming mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 07:59 AM
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Crows are pretty darn intelligent! I wish I could befriend one sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 07:58 AM
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I watched about half an hour of it and found it rather blah, couldn't get the humour. That scene was hilarious though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 07:50 AM
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Many marriage-minded high-RMV men will be "taken off the market" early, usually by someone they meet in college. So if a woman wants to marry such a man, riding the CC is not an optimal strategy. I don't know if OkC posted a study online, but according to Dataclysm (the book by the OkC founder), the number of messages a woman receives drops off sharply when she hits 30. However, if she only wants something sexual for the long-term, then she won't have much trouble finding willing guys. then sett…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 07:30 AM
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Yup. Until I met my bf and his family, I had not seen any examples of happy marriages up close. And the way my parents interact is a sure way to sour a marriage. But fortunately I had enough sense from a young age to see that I should avoid treating my future spouse that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 07:16 AM
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I'm only interested in having sex with guys I'd want to be in an LTR with, so very few of them. Single digit. I have 200+ friends total, no idea how many male (let's assume slightly more than half).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 04:46 AM
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Speaking as someone who hangs around RPWives and absorbed most of the theory from the posts by the old mods. I'll use RPW to refer to the ideology rather than the RPW sub. I think a red pill for women would be about exploiting orbiters and trying to find a rich man and realizing how valuable a young woman is RPW starts from the basis that women want to lock-down a high-value (not necessarily synonymous with rich) man. RPW would tell you not to engage in "exploiting orbiters" because high-value m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 04:34 AM
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I'm close to getting to engaged and we've started to discuss what kind of wedding we want. (Feel free to reply with any tips, haha.) For the ceremony, we're probably going to do it at the courthouse with immediate family, since he hates attention, and I don't really want to recite vows in front of a hundred people. For the reception, I'm trying to keep the total budget within 10k. I envision 100 - 150 guests. His priority is on minimizing costs. I'm trying to look for an outdoor venue with lots …
/r/RedPillWives14/05/18 09:41 AM
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2 with him until we got into an LTR. Met him off online dating and he was the only guy I went out with. I tend to fall for people quickly, which is probably a bad thing, but it worked out this time. Before that, when I was in college or earlier, it was meet guy in some setting -> hang out with guy with other people -> "hey I think I like you" -> kiss -> LTR. It was a more innocent time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 05:31 AM
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The massive increase in inequality, outsourcing and automation gutted blue collar work, leaving many men unemployed or underemployed and thus being seen as unsuitable mates by women. Because of the scarcity of suitable mates, the remaining men become promiscuous and unwilling to commit. This contributed to the rise of single-parent households. Article about the topic that I've posted before
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 05:22 AM
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I think it becomes dangerous when there's an unhealthy amount of emotional investment. If it's just a fictional or otherwise unobtainable (e.g. celebrity) crush then why does it matter? Lots of women consume media with hot guys in it while in a relationship, so it's clearly not true for them. I think people are able to compartmentalize and put them in a 'hot people to ogle' box without it affecting their real-life relationships (if they're emotionally mature). As for talking about the person in …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 05:06 AM
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I'm impatient and short-tempered. I also get hangry. So keep me well-fed LOL. I can overreact to things. I have a tendency to bottle up stress until it explodes. I don't like to lie, so while I won't be cruel, I won't brush aside your shortcomings either (though this could be a good thing, depending on how you see it).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 04:55 AM
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You sound like a yandere! I think you're the first female yandere-type I've met, hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/18 04:48 AM
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I like your list and would also add how he deals with stress. Does he react self-destructively, start drinking a lot, etc. Or does he still try to take care of himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 05:49 AM
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Physique: 5'5, slim but with muscle definition, looks hispanic but is actually white-asian mixed. Wears glasses, light brown eyes, has horribly messy black hair. Voice: Normal Californian accent. Not super deep but not high either. Body language: Always looks like he's walking somewhere with a purpose. Gained the moniker 'fast-walking kid' in college. Personality: Unassuming and quiet while hiding a scarily high intellect. Pragmatic, blunt, cool-headed. Extremely logical. Gained the moniker 'rob…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 04:08 AM
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I have some on facebook blabbering on about hypergamy and men age like wine and women age like milk and she'll hit the wall and be left alone and all the usual manosphere rhetoric, some of them don't bother to hide it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:42 AM
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There's still /r/redpillwives which has much stricter moderation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:37 AM
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In this hypothetical situation where I magically know they're my "soulmate" and I would be happier.... If we're married: do nothing. I intend to honour my marriage vows. If we're not married: leave my current partner. If my partner did it: honestly I hope they would have enough tact to keep the reason hidden, as I would. Be upset, obviously. In real life: I don't believe in soulmates, and if I'm emotionally close enough to this person to know that much about them, I already fucked up. I've had c…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/18 03:25 AM
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20? No, lots of people are. 30? Depends on what the reason is. There are some which are not necessarily red flags, like being religious. But if I was 30, I would be reluctant to teach someone 'how to relationship' regardless, because at that point I'd be looking for someone who knows without a doubt that they want to be married and what kind of life partnership they want, and if they haven't had their first relationship yet, that part will be hard to evaluate properly. Currently in my mid-20s, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 07:25 AM
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Sometimes it's not as simple as being "good enough". There may not even be enough available men fitting your criteria. A guy and you might be a perfect match on paper but somehow in person you're just not compatible. Maybe there's something about their body language or your body says you're not physically compatible. Unless you're willing to get married to someone you may not be attracted to, in which case you could try an arranged marriage. Dating for love is a numbers game, which is why people…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 05:42 AM
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I would take internet opinions with a grain of salt, since you don't know the motivations of the user behind the comment. Particularly if you're soliciting opinions from manosphere guys whose opinions will obviously swing a particular way. You should probably get opinions from older women in your religion who have successful marriages. Asking a fisherman how to fish and all that. If you can find the guys who meet those criteria - you aren't too picky. If you can't, you either have to make yourse…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 03:54 AM
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I know a decent number who do. I think it really depends on your social circle. Certainly I've met plenty of immature guys too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/18 03:20 AM
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I think a good approach is to only hang out with him in groups and to not let the conversation get too emotionally intense (i.e. keep it to the non-personal stuff that you currently talk about).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:12 PM
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Could be female ADHD in some cases?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 10:18 AM
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I would be interested in improving the quality of discourse here, instead of resorting to the same tired stereotypes/gotchas (though that's probably impossible to eradicate). With that in mind... All posts that make a claim, such as 'pareto rule applies to men having sex' or 'women initiate the majority of divorces' should be backed up by a source where possible. I am aware that there are plenty of dubious sources, but at least people will be able to critique it instead of a nebulous statement. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 10:04 AM
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This is why I queue with friends lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 09:31 AM
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Approaching 3.5 years in my LDR, with at least 1.5 more (maybe 2.5 if I decide to stay longer in my upcoming job in Tokyo). We'll be taking a call on whether to start the K1 (fiance) visa paperwork this December - I've heard it takes about a year to get approved. My parents are probably also flying to California for Xmas to check out wedding venues. I'm just hoping Trump doesn't turn his eye to marriage visas; I'm assuming he won't, since his wife is foreign, but you never know these days... We …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 09:31 AM
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Is there a womanosphere that helps rational women to gain access to more rational thoughts? Does it already exist, aside from the known and more easily accessible blogs about marriage and traditional roles? Well, there's the the rpw/rpwives subs. I believe this sort of teaching has to be done by women. Just as how it has to be men teaching other guys how to be a man. And besides...I don't see what random guys on the internet owe some random woman on the internet in terms of dating/life coaching.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 09:04 AM
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Female, red pill. I wouldn't say it was particularly difficult, but perhaps the most sobering part was how it laid out human nature plainly. At the end of the day, we're all just predictable dumb apes whose buttons can be pushed. It certainly contributes to a nihilistic worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:29 AM
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Female-oriented porn is a thing. Boybands and shirtless movie star posters are a thing. In the anime industry in Japan, there's plenty of female-oriented content. You can walk into a shop and get merchandise of any guy you want featuring him in various states of undress and in sexual acts with other characters (both male and female). Heck, we just had a thread on the appeal of slash fanfiction to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:22 AM
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I think the popular perception is that CS guys tend to be either socially awkward boring dudes or brogrammer douchebros (i.e. the guys who would have gone to finance in the past). Then there's also how many CS majors are foreigners who are not high on the social status ladder. Basically the perception is CS guys = BB.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 08:04 AM
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Generically attractive traits: decent face and figure and I know how to dress myself. Decent at cooking/baking, and I give good gifts with a handmade touch. I prioritize my partner very highly in my life and will always make time for them. I grew up in a moderately well-off family who lives simply, so I am comfortable in a variety of social situations and do not have expensive taste. More niche-specific: I'm a male-brained woman in STEM who exhibits high intelligence and has male-dominated hobbi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 07:05 AM
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Is there another sub where the original RPW went?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:48 AM
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Out of curiosity, who is she and what did she do to get banned?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:33 AM
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I'm in male-dominated social groups (focused around a video game, in the form of Twitter, chat groups and so on) and there is a ton of gossip that goes on. Who dislikes who, who let slip something from a chat to someone who isn't in it, who said what on Twitter today, who did/said what to who at an event......ironically the women are the ones who are chill and don't gossip, but that's probably selection bias at work and because there aren't enough women around for female social dynamics to emerg…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:21 AM
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Haha same! I like reading hetero fanfics but not slash.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 06:16 AM
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In The Gift Of Fear (which is an excellent book), the author Gavin de Becker argues that it is indeed the rise of mass media that contributed to mass shootings. I think he was one of the earliest proponents of media outlets not publicizing the shooter's details.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 05:51 AM
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I once read an article about how terrorist groups in the middle east banned villagers from owning video games because guys would play video games instead of joining them, so I think there's something to that theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 05:48 AM
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I've heard they front-load the attractive profiles first, so they might be real people, but everyone is seeing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 05:39 AM
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To expand on this, online dating is like single-round prisoner's dilemma, where the optimal strategy for yourself is to be greedy, because there are no repercussions (you'll never see them again if you don't want to). However, dating from your social circle is more like iterated prisoner's dilemma, where the other party can retaliate (by telling other people about your behaviour, for example), so the optimal strategy changes to cooperating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 05:23 AM
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Women tend to cheer each other on, so it's just another variation of 'you go girl', but applied to weight and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:16 AM
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How come breaking commitment is not wrong on itself? There are different levels of commitment. Being in an LTR doesn't entail promising not to break up, that only happens with marriage. All an LTR means is "I wish to continue dating you exclusively at this point in time" but that doesn't mean it might not change in the future if other factors appear. So cheating on the person would be violating the relationship contract, but not breaking it off to date someone else. If you want that level of com…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 04:09 AM
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Show vulnerability early. That way you can see if she's repelled by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 08:52 AM
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The light switch thing happened in a previous relationship. Could you expand on the theory?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 08:50 AM
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I like the definition by /u/Littleknownfacts in a RPWives post saying "Hypergamy can be summed as a woman’s need to constantly upgrade her partner until she gets the best catch that she can." It's not simply "looking for a guy better than her", but also "always looking out for a better guy". I have also seen it described as the female dualistic mating strategy (AFBB) with the end goal being AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 08:46 AM
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IIRC from the mod thread, making generalized statements against pill groups is allowed but not personal attacks against individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 05:28 AM
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(Reposting because didn't see QFM) Don't think it's more immoral than if he broke up with her while she wasn't sick. People are saying she'd be devastated - but that happens in normal breakups too. Plus people break up for shallower reasons all the time like 'they gained weight so I stopped being attracted to them' and no one considers that 'immoral'. Until they get married, there's no promise either of them made to stick around 'in sickness or in health'. If I was the girl in the situation, wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 04:09 AM
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What does everyone else do? And I'm going to assume 'just cope, deal with it, or you should have done more chores, acted more femenine' isn't a real answer. Judging by what I see referenced here from TRP/TBP, the answers seem to be 'just be one of those people or get over it' Those are the only 2 realistic options. You (the hypothetical you) can't control how other people behave, but you have control over yourself. And improving yourself is much easier than trying to get someone else to change. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 09:04 AM
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Why the change in username though?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 08:54 AM
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Agree with this. I have friends studying to be doctors (some in med school, some beginning residency) and you will have no time to do that and monetize your hobbies and find a husband. There are only so many hours in a day. Leave the writing/photography/videography as hobbies. Date other doctors because they'll be more understanding of your schedule. Volunteer work can be treating low-income patients for free/low cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 08:48 AM
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I was reading Man's Search for Meaning recently (which I would recommend to everyone) and it says that happiness is not obtained by pursuing it directly, but obtained incidentally when pursuing meaning in your life and service to others. I agree with this comment as someone who achieved some of their "big goals" - it feels good for a while, but after that you get a feeling of "now what?". There must constantly be something that you are working towards. And for many people, I think fulfilment com…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 08:24 AM
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People can have different love languages in how they express affection and what they like to receive. I like to give people gifts, but I don't expect them much. Don't know if others would agree but if you have moderate to high libido, you should look for a woman whose primary love language is physical affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 07:36 AM
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After reading about the manosphere in general and RPW/RPWives: I've become more observant of relationships dynamics I see with couples. I've become more observant of guys acting too beta and causing women to lose attraction to them. This influences the dating advice I give them. I'm better able to identify anger-stage guys so I can stay away from them. It made me aware of and more sympathetic to male issues, which don't get much airtime in the mainstream (though that has been changing slowly). R…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 07:15 AM
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You might be interested in reading Underground by Haruki Murakami. It has interviews with members of Aum at the time of the sarin gas attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/18 06:48 AM
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Might have been true a year ago but not now
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/18 06:48 AM
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Short-tempered, mild anger issues. I tend to overreact to things I take full responsibility for it, but if we're talking causes, my mom has similar issues, so I might have learned it from her I try to stop myself before speaking when I'm going to speak angrily, or identify when I'm angry so that I can snap out of the "anger haze". I also tend to get hangry so eating helps
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/18 06:01 AM
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Yes because: Average testosterone levels are dropping Blue collar work is being automated away or pays a miserable wage. Men who do well at intellectual jobs have been traditionally less masculine than men who do well at blue collar jobs. Is it a good thing? Depends. It probably means lower crime rates. However, it may make men less attractive to women, resulting in both dropping out of the dating game. Which leads to another set of issues like low population growth and people having low incenti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/18 05:17 AM
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Find introverted guys and approach them. There's also a higher concentration of them among nerdy guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 10:18 AM
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I think it's more likely to be accepted if you're young (college age or younger), but for someone older it might be interpreted as having hang-ups about sex. Your local dating culture will influence your dating success. If it's the norm for girls to wait before sleeping with a guy, then guys have to go along with it. However, if the norm is to sleep with guys quickly, then guys may prefer to date someone who will sleep with them faster. This could be a good way to filter for guys who are really …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 09:22 AM
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Cooking. I love cooking and want to cook together with them. Video games. I want to play them together. Something intellectual, so that we have topics to discuss. Enjoys outdoor activities at least occasionally (e.g. cycling, skiing). Don't want to be stuck indoors all the time with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 09:07 AM
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Let's face it, every woman gets asked out several times a week. I don't know where you're from, but that is definitely not the case for me. If you exclude dating apps, I've been asked out IRL a grand total of 5 times, and I'm not even ugly. (Though I am a minority race, so that could work against me.) My female friends are not asked out anywhere close to the frequency you stated either. I don't have problems with it, since I've had great LTRs regardless and it would be tiring to be asked out all…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 08:13 AM
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I'd like to know too. Had people IRL going all pearl-clutching about gender stereotypes when I made a statement like "on average, women are more nurturing than men" which is about the mildest RP statement I could make.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 07:59 AM
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As someone in the tech industry, I would strongly advise against investing in cryptocurrency if you don't know what you're doing. There are lots of conmen out there waiting to take advantage of people (e.g. Mt Gox or Bitconnect). Plus, the laws that normally protect investors are often not in effect (though that is changing).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 07:45 AM
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Hobbies, online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 07:41 AM
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There are lots of people who work full time and still find time to date/maintain their LTRs. After all, the average age for first marriages is late 20s, and people have to find their spouses somewhere (unless you assume they're all jobless or something?). If you want to spend all your time on work and school, that's fine, but you have to accept that there will be trade-offs. Working vs finding the time to date would apply equally to a man btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 07:38 AM
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Coming from (developed) Asia, I can tell you it isn't better elsewhere. Here, happiness = money, and people are blatantly materialistic and like to one-up each other with their/their children's achievements. (e.g. women in big Chinese cities like Shanghai will openly say that they will only date guys who own a house and car) I think it's a result of capitalism going extreme. Maybe social media too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 06:42 AM
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Do you think people should be allowed to post in bad faith? Since that's what many of those posts boil down to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 06:38 AM
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You're hardly going to get a representative sample here, but if you're happy with anecdata... I'm reasonably happy. I'm financially comfortable (cuz software engineering). I'm probably going to get engaged soon. I like my bf's family and I like where I'll probably end up moving to (Bay Area). I'm pursuing hobbies that I like. For most of my social circle (20s), happiness seems largely tied to how their professional life is going, how financially comfortable they are and the status of their relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 06:34 AM
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TERPs are a very particular subset of men, often with bad experiences with women, so I wouldn't take what they say to be representative of all men. Guys who have had good experiences with women (and thus enjoy being around them) have less reason to be TERPs or explore the manosphere at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 06:24 AM
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But they do get called out for for being misogynist (like Lewis does regularly). I think we should call out both misogyny and misandry as they only lower the quality of discourse, and deter people actually interested in having a meaningful discussion from posting. Plus one of the purposes of the sub is to get away from the echo chambers of the TRP/TBP subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 06:14 AM
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Male-brained woman here. The closer female friendships I have are mostly with other male-brained women in STEM. I'm more likely to disclose my feelings/innermost thoughts to them than my male friends. Never had those frenemy-type friendships, probably because my communication style is too direct for people to bother pulling that with me. I don't really gel well with very "girly" women because we're too different. Plus I get annoyed/impatient at the communication being too indirect/afraid to trea…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/18 06:57 AM
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I'm actually female haha. Pretty sure he's lower in negotiation than I am, so I guess I balance him out according to your theory. But we are both pretty moderate overall, so I'd go with the moderate/moderate theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/18 06:46 AM
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Why do you think so?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/18 02:43 PM
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Your score on the Explorer scale is 18 out of a possible 42, or 43%. Your score on the Builder scale is 28 out of a possible 42, or 67%. Your score on the Director scale is 27 out of a possible 42, or 64%. Your score on the Negotiator scale is 24 out of a possible 42, or 57%. ISTJ on the MBTI. I believe my SO is INTJ and also a Builder/Director.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/18 03:37 AM
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But realistically, what will happen is that there are more unwanted pregnancies, which the state will end up paying welfare for anyway (not to mention hidden costs like an increase in crime). So it would be significantly cheaper to just subsidize BC options. I support subsidized BC for both genders because it's the more pragmatic option.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/18 04:33 AM
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I think there's a conflation of 2 things in this trope - the masculine qualities (male-dominated hobbies, making and laughing at offensive jokes) and the feminine qualities (submissiveness to the guy, maintaining her appearance for the guy) - that are contradictory to some extent. Basically, guys who subscribe to it want the best of both worlds. Speaking as someone who's more on the male-brained side (software engineer and gamer, logic-oriented), I suppose I fit the trope to some degree. I do al…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/18 03:50 AM
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If you are an adult, and someone invites you over for a dinner or party and you show up with nothing, I will think that you were not brought up right. If you were asked to bring something, and do not at least apologize when you show up with nothing, I will think that you are unashamedly freeloading and do not understand the concept of reciprocity, and you will not be invited back.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/18 09:55 AM
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Er...there could be plenty of reasons why they're virgins. e.g. too busy with work/school to date, hobbies have few/no women in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/18 05:11 AM
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If they had family wealth I didn't know about, I'd be fine with it. Anything else, it would really depend on what it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/18 02:50 AM
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Think it should be 'affect' in this case. In the verb form, 'effect' = cause something ('effect change'), 'affect' = influence. Or we can get even more confusing and say affect (v) = have an effect (n) on something!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/18 02:41 AM
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I'll give another side of the story, as an employee at a failing startup. As an employee, all I have to do is show up, do the work for a fixed number of hours (many of which aren't even spent working), then go home, and collect my paycheck every month. But for my boss, who's the founder, there's no such thing as fixed hours, you have to constantly worry about things like cashflow, hiring, funding and legal issues, you have to make difficult decisions when times are tough, which may result in eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/18 04:25 AM
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And even if you do need to buy the equipment, you can get them for cheap at thrift stores and dollar stores. When I was a student, I was using pots from Goodwill and knives from Dollar Tree. Far from ideal, but it'll work as a start.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 04:40 AM
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Haha ikr. I wonder if some of the blues think all the RPW are in abusive relationships or something...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 04:01 AM
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I think she's being genuine lol. She really doesn't like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 03:59 AM
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Nothing constructive to say, but I'm loving the LOTR analogies in the post and comments 😂 Been a while since I read Tolkien, but I don't recall the Lorien Elves stealing stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 03:36 AM
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1) Red, F, LTR 2) Don't have one. Being happy, I suppose. Which to means me means spending time with family/friends and doing things I like. I'm currently in a more self-centered (i.e. not community-oriented) mode, but I suspect that will change as I get older. So I'm also developing certain skills that will allow me to contribute to community. Why get out of bed? Because there's so much cool stuff out there that I'll never finish doing/learning/experiencing. And people I like being around. I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 03:23 AM
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I think it's a pretty accurate representation for at least the pursuing part. Just look at online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/18 02:18 PM
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Well, no one says you have to follow them, just like how no one will force you to go to the gym, but if you're looking for better results, it will help. Also, chances are that both of you have an acceptable level of social skills, a lack of crushing social anxiety, and so on. But some people need help with those areas, hence all the theory, since that stuff is complicated. It's just that people with a normal level of social skills are able to follow the rules of socializing instinctively.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/18 03:54 AM
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People have already covered physical appearance, so I won't. For men: have a meaningful (to you) goal that you're working towards, or meaningful hobbies. I see many of my friends doing nothing but going to work/school and engaging in passive media consumption, and it makes them boring. Chances are that high-quality women will 1) be outside doing interesting things and/or 2) will want to date a guy who does interesting things. Doing those things will give you stories to tell people, which will ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/18 03:32 AM
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My SO has over 700 hours each in 2 games (Borderlands 2 and Skyrim), so it's far far cheaper than going out. Even for some games that you only play once, they have enough content to last 100+h (like Persona 5 or The Witcher 3).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/18 05:09 AM
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Here's an article about it. From what I've read, it's a mix of factors, like intense societal pressure to do well in academics and fit in, and a poor economy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/18 05:04 AM
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I just can't take how much both sexes are driven by their self-interest. Everything that humans do is driven by self-interest (or if not, then by species/tribe interest which may indirectly benefit them later on). Even the "unconditional love" that parents have for their child is a result of them wanting to pass on their genes. I just don't want be an ATM machine kind of husband that's all. There's a big gulf between "unconditional love" and "ATM husband". Sex and resources plays a part in most …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 09:20 AM
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Yeah, 'strong silent type' and 'brooding emo guy' are 2 tropes about introverted attractive guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 09:00 AM
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If love is not real because both parties are using each other for sex or resources, then I posit that friendship isn't real either - it only exists because it's advantageous for members of a social species to form bonds and cooperate. There are plenty of animal species in which friendship does not exist. Your own friendships would not exist if both parties weren't getting something out of it, whether it be socialization, fun, activity partners, a listening ear, whatever. It's transactional in it…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 08:37 AM
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For people who doubt this, it's worth noting that both I and /u/rainbowbarfff came a similar conclusion after asking guys out, though our phrasing was less extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/18 04:07 AM
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Depends on what kind of guys you like really. Atlas likes high-dominance guys while I like low-dominance guys. So asking guys out would work far better for me than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/18 01:36 PM
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1st bf: interest group 2nd bf: another interest group 3rd bf: same interest group as the 2nd 4th bf: college common area 5th bf: online dating I don't like the idea of being approached in the street either. Online dating aside, I'd rather we meet in a situation which is social and where we have something in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/18 01:34 PM
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I've done this and it worked out with my current SO. However, something to consider is that it will skew the kind of guys you date, because not every guy responds well to being asked out. My SO's personality is more passive than average, and I suspect this would be true for other guys which are ok with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/18 07:57 AM
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It's more like, I've seen successful marriages in my bf's family which are going strong even when they're in their 50s or 60s, and I'm optimistic that if I do things right, I can achieve the same thing. I use RP knowledge to conduct myself in my relationship to keep it running smoothly. I'm definitely not in the 'love is all you need' camp, if anything it's the opposite. So maybe 'optimistic realist' would be a better descriptor. I think there's a big middle ground between 'naive idealist' and '…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/18 03:01 PM
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I was an exchange student to the US and went on a dating app out of curiosity for what the local guys would be like, thought I would get a few dates and stories out of it. The first day I was on it, I messaged 3-4 guys. One of them had a profile which was nerdy and he seemed like a nice, simple guy. He was a graduate student at the university I was going to. Photos were iffy because he looked different in each of them, but I thought "well, he doesn't look like a cave troll at least". The rest ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/18 02:47 PM
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I'm something of a romantic idealist as well, so I don't think it's predatory on my part. Plus it's pretty common to not want to date someone who's jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/18 01:48 PM
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I've a friend who has a shirt that says 'SHUT UP SHINJI', I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/18 04:45 AM
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Poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/18 03:36 AM
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Just different values. The kind of guys I like are strongly LTR-focused. Plus, I don't know how true this is, but I feel like participating in hookup culture tends to make people more jaded. I want to date someone who still has some of that romantic idealism and wants to do the whole "grow old together" thing. When I read dating subs, I see lots of people who are frustrated with dating and other people in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/18 02:14 PM
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For a guy in middle to late 20s: Strong preference: under 10 Ideal: under 5 If it's above 10, chances are he's made a habit of casual sex, which I don't engage in, so I'm iffy on that. if he's somewhat attractive it's going to be double digits. The guys I date are usually introverted nerds, so most of the time it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/18 03:20 AM
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The small town/farming areas actually lean red. It's just that most things you hear come from Bay Area/LA.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 03:24 AM
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At the end of The Big Short, they mentioned that the mathematical savant guy had started investing in water.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 03:04 AM
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Besides what people have stated: Not respecting boundaries Bitterness towards the opposite sex Running hot and cold
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/18 07:38 AM
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I'm in an LDR. I live life normally. Go to work, have dinner with friends, engage in my hobbies. I Skype/game with him on weekends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 03:36 PM
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The same way you would differentiate good and bad advice on any other topic. If the post cites sources or statistics, are those reliable? What is the background of the user? Do they have an agenda which would influence their post? What is their experience in relation to the post? For example, if the post is giving advice on women, but the poster has zero experience with women, you probably wouldn't/shouldn't take them seriously. Is the advice applicable to you/your demographic? Advice to omegas,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 03:05 AM
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What qualifies as mainstream? Mark Manson is decently well-known and his advice is accepted by TRP. Also, the demographics of any one particular sub are heavily skewed, so I wouldn't assume them to be representative of "mainstream" thought. A more convincing example would be something from a big publication or media outlet.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/18 03:31 PM
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Where I come from (UMC background), women may even lose status just by choosing the player/bad boy as an SO, because we're taught that they're low-RMV, and such types tend to come from a LC background, so they lose significant points on their background. The exception would be if they work in a high-status profession like lawyer or banker.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/18 03:39 AM
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Living in an asian society and based on other people: Children's grades Children's enrichment activities Husband's wealth Lifestyle e.g. the kind of house you live in, vacations Fashion Based on my own social circle (mid-20s, college-educated): Quality of partner (for example, I perceive one woman I know as low-status because she had a child out of wedlock with a permanent NEET) Professional achievements Social intelligence e.g. how well they get along with other people Their position in the gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/18 03:25 AM
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My mother has openly said my brother was an ugly baby lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/18 03:14 AM
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I found this article on why people cheat pretty fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/18 03:10 AM
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It's not the US though, it's a country where low BMI is the norm for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/18 04:00 PM
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Dating wise? Haha heck no. I'd be Generic Introverted Socially Awkward Nerdy Software Engineer Dude #5001. Doesn't help that I'm brown. But on the other hand, I guess it'd be easier to find people similar to me, so I would feel less isolated and being the odd one out. Fortunately, I haven't gotten that "but girls don't play video games" nonsense for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/18 03:02 PM
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no one cares about the word privilege off of college campuses Honestly I wish that were true, but it's seeping into big companies too. Youtube is being sued for excluding white and asian males from some positions to meet diversity quotas.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/18 06:40 AM
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I'm the same. One of my main priorities when choosing a job is reasonable hours so I can still have a life outside of work. I enjoy what I do and the money is decent, but I don't care about promotions or maximizing my income if I have to make personal life sacrifices.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/18 06:34 AM
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It really depends on what you value. I adore SF but I know many people would hate it. I hate LA. Petaluma seems nice because it has that 'friendly small town' vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/18 06:18 AM
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I haven't been negged before, but based on what people quote here, a lot of them seem kinda obvious. And I'm always polite when conversing with strangers, so if a guy hit me with one, I'd be like 'uh what's his problem' since I wouldn't have said anything to warrant such a response. And I also dislike strangers being overly forward with me. Banter among friends I'm fine with. I engage in it regularly, but reasonable limits so no one feels hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/18 05:58 AM
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Male friend in college asked me for dating advice, the advice I gave him was: He came across as a nice guy (not in the pejorative sense), but nothing about him stood out in particular, so the overall impression that he gave off was rather bland. So he needed to find something that was his niche. Go to the gym. He wasn't overweight, but he wasn't in particularly good shape either. He went on a date with a girl, but her sister came along and was quizzing him job-interview style. Based on that and …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/18 06:30 AM
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GF: I've seen anyone from obese guys to guys with anime girl shirts have girlfriends, so I'd say the minimum is having functional social skills, hygiene and not being disfigured. Casual sex: It's still somewhat frowned upon here, so in order to get pass that, the guy would have to be decent looking and fun to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/18 10:07 AM
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Powerful men, maybe. Ordinary men, which is the overwhelming majority of them, are mostly trying to get through the day and enjoy their lives. Like normal people. The examples you cited are cult leaders and celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/18 08:34 AM
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I'm going to Tokyo for cherry blossom season too. If you have time, visit Miyajima when you're in Hiroshima, because it's beautiful (and a world heritage site). If you have time, try visiting an onsen (they're open at night) because it's not something you'll find back home. Also, how are you planning to travel between Tokyo and the other cities? If by non-shinkansen train, consider taking the shinkansen because it'll save a ton of time, and you can get the Japan Rail Pass to offset the cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/18 08:32 AM
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My mom is in her 50s and has to fend off (married) men her age with a stick 😂 and she's pleasant-looking enough but was never top-tier in looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/18 07:47 AM
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Having self-respect is not something exclusive to Chad. Guys are not split between Chad who has a harem of women and a shy guy who lets himself be pushed over, there's plenty of middle ground. And guys have a mixture of alpha and beta traits, hence why Lewis specified high beta. I'm dating a guy who would appear to be strongly beta at first glance, super quiet and no malice in him whatsoever, but if he gets treated badly, he has no qualms pointing it out or walking away.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/18 07:24 AM
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I'm not currently married. While I think it would be nice to stay at home and work part-time at a small business, something like a cafe or florist, I would also be afraid of a scenario where my husband would be unable to work, e.g. if he loses is job or falls seriously ill. Plus because we are likely going to live in a very expensive city, I'm afraid it would be hard for both of us to retire on one person's income.
/r/RedPillWives26/02/18 06:35 AM
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Some feminists argue that men should pay for dates because women earn less than men, so they want to enforce gender roles in that regard. Also, people tend to end up dating people who are close to them in attractiveness, so Emma Watson's choice of partner is nothing unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/18 03:36 AM
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Thanks, that was an interesting read.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/18 03:34 AM
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Thank you, you too :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 04:41 AM
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This is what Mark Manson says in Models. He says that if you try to please everyone, you won't attract anyone because you'll be seen as too bland. In contrast, if you try to be polarizing, you turn off some people but attract others, and the ones you attract will be more suitable for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 04:14 AM
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From what I recall from The Selfish Gene (which I read 10 years ago so my memory may be hazy), the outcome with the biggest nett benefit to everyone in iterated prisoner's dilemma is for both sides to cooperate, even if each side gains less than what they would have by following their individual imperatives. I believe humans evolved in accordance with this, which is why you see altruism in humans. In the same line, marriage came into being as a compromise between male and female imperatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 04:12 AM
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I'm seeing mine in March. Hopefully we close the gap in a year or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/18 03:58 AM
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Study on intelligence and attractiveness "This brief research note aims to estimate the magnitude of the association between general intelligence and physical attractiveness with large nationally representative samples from two nations. In the United Kingdom, attractive children are more intelligent by 12.4 IQ points (r = .381), whereas in the United States, the correlation between intelligence and physical attractiveness is somewhat smaller (r = .126). The association between intelligence and p…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 08:49 AM
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If you're really that opposed to tattoos, date asian girls. There's still a big stigma against tattoos in asia, not sure about asians in western countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 05:50 AM
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This year, I got him a card and a food chopper to make cooking more convenient. Sometimes I get candy in flavours that I know he likes. If I had more money, I would go for cool experiences like flying lessons, or high-end computer parts because he's a tech geek.
/r/RedPillWives14/02/18 04:43 AM
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Nah not afraid of people here doing it, more afraid of people who know me IRL stumbling across my post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/18 07:57 AM
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Don't want to link it to my main account and have my identity discovered IRL. I work in the tech industry and will most likely be moving to the Bay Area in the future, and most who have heard of "red pill" IRL consider it a dirty word. Even though I'm female, I'm afraid my job or social status could be compromised. I have tested sounding out mild RP comments IRL and the reaction was poor, so I prefer not to show my RP leanings in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/18 07:53 AM
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Haha, thanks. I consider myself RP in that the theory, especially in the RPW/RPWi subs, has provided useful insight to me for things like conceptualizing romantic relationships or articulating my own preferences. But the conclusions I draw usually differ from those in TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/18 07:47 AM
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Not going to address whether TRP is abusive, but whether you should be in an abusive relationship. In the same vein, you could make a ton of money by scamming people, especially with all the crypto hype now, but the question is, is that the kind of person you want to be? When you look back on your life, will you be able to say it was a life well-lived? Also, I'm going to paraphrase Mark Manson in Models. IIRC he says that the way you perceive women will influence the kind of women you attract. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/18 05:24 AM
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There's this one. Black women get the fewest replies from men of all races.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 10:19 AM
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Same for Japan.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 10:03 AM
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Marriage rates are holding steady for the UMC/college-educated though. Could be that the rpw fall into this group.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 09:44 AM
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RP concepts are already present in tradcon societies, so not much.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 08:38 AM
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It's entirely possible that Snapchat itself stores the pictures. And unethical employees (not from Snapchat) have been known to access user accounts for their own purposes, like NSA employees stalking their exes. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 07:47 AM
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If a woman wants to find a more attractive guy, all she has to do is hop on a dating app or maybe even just walk into a club, so by that logic 90% of women in relationships would have cheated unless they're dating a model. Which is obviously not true. Besides the reasons given here, cheating incurs a massive social penalty (the exact amount depending on your social circle). The majority of women are conscious of their social status and would be hesitant to risk it without good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 07:31 AM
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Well, the creator of minecraft said his girlfriend dumped him after he got rich because of the changes in his lifestyle (source), so there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 05:17 AM
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This is going to backfire spectacularly if the "serious" guys find out. It's not just RP men who think this way - go to places like /r/relationships and you'll find threads of a similar nature. There was one posted by a girl who was upset that the guy she was trying to date seriously, but declined to sleep with up to then, broke things off immediately when he found out she was sleeping with someone on the side. She was blasted by everyone in the comments, even the women. No matter how you yourse…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 05:46 AM
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However, redditors say that by doing so, you make the quality men leave because they can find sex somewhere else. They are usually envisioning a specific sort of man i.e. wealthy/successful in career, attractive and has many options with women. If you are aiming for such a man, you must make sure you are on a similar level to him. An extreme example of this is George Clooney and his wife. As for vetting men, others who are far more knowledgeable about the topic than me have written extensively o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 04:15 AM
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Is able to appreciate art and music. Unless art and music is a huge part of your life (like you're an artist or musician yourself), I would suggest dropping this requirement as it unnecessarily filters out high-quality men. If you ask married couples, lots of them have completely different interests. Doesn't expect woman to contribute 50% to the household financially. Why? Do you plan to be a SAHM? Also, be aware that you will probably be filtering out men with more liberal attitudes, which is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/18 03:50 AM
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I maintain that most men who are single would share a hot woman over a dead ordinary woman if they had the chance. I think your understanding is way off. Where do you think the obsession with n-count or madonna/whore complex comes from?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 05:11 PM
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We still have at least 1.5 years to go before we close the distance in our LDR, so I'm using my free time in the evenings to learn to play the piano and improve my Japanese, although it's tempting to just veg out with video games 😂 I'll be taking the Grade 1 piano exam and JLPT N3 (Japanese) exam in July this year. I'm also going to get a new pair of exercise shoes today (my old ones fell apart) and aim to go to the gym at least once a week. I'm aiming to lose 10lbs and also have been cutting ba…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 04:11 AM
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The number one reason for divorce is finances. Finances are not a trivial matter when it's a matter of not having enough to eat or pay rent, which is is a situation many people face.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 05:09 AM
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The lawsuit documents were great. Apparently there are Googlers who think they are dragons and ornate buildings (like, literally, not even joking).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/18 09:20 AM
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I know offmychest bans people who haven't even posted there based on their participation in other subs, which seems like an even bigger undertaking, so maybe there's a way to get a bot/automod to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/18 08:03 AM
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People always forget that there are countries where prostitution is legal. I live in one and I'm telling you, it doesn't change much. The overwhelming majority of men still do the socially acceptable thing and get married, and many end up in dead bedrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/18 07:55 AM
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Unless you count random guys in India (who are likely spamming every profile they see), I don't get DMs on FB. 0 on Twitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/18 07:46 AM
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Don't like either, but Chads are honest about their intentions upfront. And if you reject a Chad, they'll shrug and move on to someone else. If you reject a Nice Guy they might go "but I did xyz for you why won't you sleep with me bitch?!" and then maybe start spamming you with texts or stalking you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/18 07:41 AM
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I'm of the opinion that you should never accept any theory or ideology wholesale, because at that point it becomes dogma and people stop thinking. This applies to religion, economic models etc. Of course, then you have the problem of picking and choosing only the parts you want to hear, but that just means you have to be honest with yourself. It's a necessary process for intellectual maturity IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/18 10:33 AM
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Great video, thanks for the link. Have not seen Karen Straughan speaking before, but I agree with every word.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 01:24 PM
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Yes, that is exactly how I feel. I constantly feel like an outcast from other women. I would very much love to have more female friendships and have your stereotypical female friendship group. I do have a few good isolated friendships, but I find it quite telling that their views and behaviour tend to be more masculine than average. Most female dominated spaces are too liberal or too conservative in their views, not in just the sense of politics. Agree, IME such spaces either end up like twoxchr…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 09:52 AM
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Background: Long-distance relationship, so it would be trivial for either of us to cheat. Neither of us follow this rule and have slept over at friends of the opposite gender's places. I am from an asian country, but here people don't go to such an extent and opposite-gender friendships are normal. As with other personal values, I think it's something private that you decide for yourself and with your partner. I wouldn't judge other couples for following or not following it. avoiding even the ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/18 09:29 AM
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Well, I'm from an asian country, so the reasons will be different. Here, the majority of young women I know have serious boyfriends but do not intend to have kids until after 30. If we're talking about the US, I get the impression that they don't want to be tied down by a boyfriend and want to enjoy the single life/have casual relationships with guys. Or that they feel tired from work and don't want to put in the work that goes into dating. Either way, marriage doesn't seem to be a high priority…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 05:29 AM
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Mid twenties now. Biggest changes that I've identified as compared to college or earlier: Whether our living standards are compatible i.e. what's an acceptable standard of cleanliness and how often to do chores. I attribute this one to not having lived together with a partner when I was younger. Whether we can get along with each other's families and whether our families get along. Nowadays, I'm dating only for marriage, so the family part makes life much easier. In the past, I would just date t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 05:24 AM
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While this is technically true, I don't think such a mindset is helpful within the context of a relationship, because it's combative rather than cooperative. I don't think it's fair to blame my partner for biology, which he has no control over. I don't think of it as "well sex hurts for me so you should pay more financially in return", I think of it as "there exists the problem of sex being painful, so let's work together to solve it - for example, with more foreplay or sometimes forgoing penetr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 05:01 AM
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Besides what Gin said, I think women tend to be more conflict-averse and think that not saying what they want = keeping the peace. Of course, this doesn't quite work if they get frustrated and blow up at the guy anyway. I'm ISTJ, so I'm pretty direct. My POV is that I have a fairly good grasp on whether something is "reasonable" and my partner is free to object to something if they disagree, so I usually just say what I want (within reason).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 04:51 AM
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Well, it's not like people haven't tried, but of course people got upset about it 😂 Although, unless your career is along the lines of doctor or a lawyer, I don't see why it isn't possible to juggle both. Even if you work long hours during the week, you can always go for dates during weekends.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 04:41 AM
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Online: people get outraged about anything. IRL: I haven't actually heard any women talking about it, I bet most people think they only exist in Japan or something. My prediction is that men who use sexbots will be seen in the same way as men who go to prostitutes or escorts, i.e. that they are low status and use them because they can't get access to women the socially acceptable way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 04:32 AM
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You'll see similar rhetoric or worse from places like the Middle East. IMO it's the result of men who are disenfranchised and lack access to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/18 04:28 AM
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RP woman I believe some guys just aren't interested in casual sex/polygamy, I know a few personally. They want the emotional intimacy that casual sex can't provide, someone to come home to, etc. Societal pressure (very prevalent in Asian societies). Marriage is a status marker, if you don't get married there must be something wrong with you, etc. They want kids but don't want themselves/their kids to be ostracized, as they would be if they had them out of wedlock. Religion. Similar kind of press…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 07:58 AM
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My friends and I don't wear makeup or do our hair and we've never had trouble with dating. It's not like we're particularly good-looking either, I'm probably less attractive than the women in those pictures. In college we would also dress more casually, something like this. Having a healthy lifestyle and taking care of your skin is more important IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 07:40 AM
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Being attractive is useful for getting dates or a relationship, but actually maintaining a relationship requires a different skillset, like conflict resolution and having healthy self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 02:54 AM
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I'm not married yet, but want to be. So, older women in successful marriages. Mainly my boyfriend's relatives or RPWives. And learning what not to do from my parents' own marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 02:51 AM
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I never really understood why you found "not reading" attractive, but I think I do now. My bf is very highly educated but he keeps his reading to a limited subset of topics like video games or tech, and likewise he doesn't keep up with all the latest social justice trends and whatnot. I much prefer it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 04:17 AM
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For TRP: First it was to learn RP theory, but then I found the RPW/RPWi subs and went there instead. After seeing the number of anger-stage posters, it was also to learn their thought patterns and jargon so I know what to look for/avoid IRL. I don't go there anymore because I don't think it's psychologically healthy for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 04:11 AM
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This is why I stick almost exclusively to PCGamer, metacritic or Youtube for reviews/gameplay 😂 once a publication decides it wants to bring in social justice (and more often than not, it's thinly-disguised outrage porn) to my video games, I make it a point to avoid giving them traffic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 04:00 AM
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Frankly who is this piece of shit who doesn't want sex but doesn't let his/her partner have some? The people described in /r/deadbedrooms
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 08:53 AM
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Woman here...the solution is to have LTRs and have sex within them. I graduated from college recently and nobody batted an eye about girls dating different guys, I don't see the issue. And I'm from an Asian country, mind you. Not like you have to go on a casual sex spree to figure out how sex works either if you don't want to, one guy will work. "figuring ourselves out sexually" or "hormonal instability" are things that everyone just has to go through, I don't see why a particularly big deal has…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 08:29 AM
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TIL I have low self esteem 😂 The nerdy girls I know, myself included, are mostly introverts who are not interested in casual sex or things like clubbing where you would normally meet guys for casual sex. We basically dated 1-2 guys in college and most of us are still with our college boyfriends. One got married to a guy she'd been dating since middle school.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 08:01 AM
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Otome games are games, usually east asian and primarily Japanese, targetted at a female audience where there are different love interests you can choose to romance. Meek, socially awkward or basically non-dominant guys are not uncommon. Examples from popular otomes: Senri (Norn9). Has social anxiety and refuses to leave his room. Yeon-ho (Nameless). Timid and scares easily. Yoosung (Mystic Messenger). Easy-going, bright and optimistic, has self-esteem issues. Ukyo (Amnesia): Gentle and melanchol…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 06:00 AM
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The book What's a hostess to do? goes into detail about this. It also has information like what kinds of menus are suited to different parties or what is a good composition for a menu.
/r/RedPillWives09/01/18 05:44 AM
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I care about the guys who can't get girlfriends Sex and romantic relationships are important for psychological health for many people, sex with multiple people whenever they want is most likely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 01:15 AM
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RP matches up more with the evidence I've seen and what I've personally experienced than BP. Same reason I'm not religious, even though it would be nice if there was a God that would take care if you after your death if you're good person. It's not a matter of whether it's 'bleak' or not, I'm interested in what the reality is. My personal feelings on the matter are irrelevant. Another way I've seen it described is "BP describes the world as it should be while RP describes the world as it is". I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 12:57 AM
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Look for nerdy STEM guys who can't stand idiots and airheads, they like INTJs. They tend to be xNTx themselves. I'm of the opinion that trying to change your personality for someone else never works anyway. Otherwise, the rest is standard advice: take care of your health and appearance, dress well, don't act like an asshole, put yourself out there. I'm an ISTJ woman myself, which is not an ideal female personality for dating because I am more masculine than the average woman. I don't think I'd d…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/18 12:06 AM
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Depends on the kind of men you want to attract. Emotionally healthy men with good self-esteem will be turned off by rude behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/18 11:35 PM
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Woman here who's decent at both. Learn to identify red flags. Err on the side of caution and be wary of being around people who exhibit them. I say "x behaviour implies y" and sometimes people say I'm overreacting; sometimes it's true but at other times it turns out that the person is indeed scummy. I'd rather be wrong about some people but secure that the people in my life are good people. Be willing to say no and to drop people and walk away. You don't have to be overbearing or dramatic about …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/17 07:39 AM
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I've had crushes on autistic guys before, so definitely autistic, as long as it isn't too severe. My bf has some personality traits commonly associated with autistic people anyhow, though he isn't autistic himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/17 03:59 AM
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This year, I made a photo album with pictures of us over the years. If you want, you could get a photo album which lets you write notes in the margins. If I had more money, I'd like to get him tickets for cool experiences, like flying lessons.
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 03:44 AM
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It means 'numerous'.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 10:16 AM
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It's valid English, don't worry.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 10:15 AM
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Was friends with guy, asked him out over text, he said he wasn't interested. Was crushed for a while then went back to being friends. Drifted apart years later for other reasons. Was distant friends with another guy, went 'fuck it' and asked him out over text because he was going to graduate, turns out he already had a gf. But we were both chill so it wasn't awkward. He moved overseas for work so we lost contact. There were a couple of other times when I think the guy knew I was interested in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/17 09:38 AM
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Pretty sure what happens is that many women do like date nice guys (which does have a nebulous definition but let's assume it's "not an asshole") but the unstated criteria is that they also have to be attractive. And if it's for something like a hookup, the attractiveness component will be more important. Hence the ideal is an attractive nice guy, but given the choice between an attractive asshole and an unattractive nice guy, many will go for the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/17 06:32 AM
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If we're talking about magical solutions, a radical reduction in wealth inequality and poverty. Large numbers of poor men causes the marriage rate to drop as women consider them too risky, which destabilizes society as a whole. The men who can't find wives turn bitter and radicalized. Meanwhile women raise children as single moms, which makes them bitter against men and also results in their children being more likely to remain in poverty and repeat the cycle. Article in NYT about the falling ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/17 03:34 AM
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Would you say you are more a fan of predictability? Yes. The rollercoaster vibe would not be ideal for me at all. I range from confident, calm and easy going and occasionally become mentally unstable, hostile, withdrawn etc. If it were me, I would start panicking, wondering what I did wrong, thinking of worst-case scenarios etc. I would probably also start distancing myself from you emotionally at some point. Could be a low dominance/high dominance threshold thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/17 10:27 AM
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Based on my dating experience, I don't want to date a F because I'd find them too emotional. They're more likely to get upset about random things and then I'd get irritated about having to comfort them. Or if we're debating/discussing something and they get upset and go on a tangent, I'd be like "uh that's not related to what we were talking about?". But with a T guy, like the INTJ guy I'm dating, we're more likely to have similar trains of thought or be able to discuss things without someone ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 04:03 AM
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E/I is extroversion vs introversion though? Did you mean T/F (thinking/feeling)?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 02:45 AM
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lol that comparison of ISTPs to cats is pretty amusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 03:33 PM
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I strongly disagree with this for ISTJ lol. I really don't want to date a guy who's extroverted and a feeler. Though maybe ISTJ male and ESFP female works better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 12:54 PM
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I don't think there's one best type in general because what's important is the relationship dynamic and whether it suits both people. For example, some people thrive on debating an ENTP nonstop while others would find it utterly exhausting. RP ISTJ female, I'm usually drawn to INTJs/INTPs because I go for intellectual types. I think INTJs are the best for me because I want to date someone who's introverted, intelligent, steadfast and responsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 12:49 PM
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For colder weather: I like the standard trench coat/jeans/boots look For warmer weather: Maxi dresses or maxi skirts
/r/RedPillWives21/11/17 02:13 PM
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Excluding guys I'm in an LTR with, almost never. Where I come from, people don't flirt with others openly much. Plus if I'm interested in someone, my preferred approach is to ask them out. One good example I do remember was a guy working at a food stall I patronize. He'd do things like give me a piece of fruit with my meal and ask if he could feed it to me. It was fun because he clearly wasn't being serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/17 05:28 AM
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I like these 2 books on hosting: How to host a dinner party and What's a hostess to do Based on my experience: Stick to recipes you're comfortable with so you don't worry about messing up. Try to prepare as much of the food as possible in the days before the party, if they will keep well. Have your playlists and sound system ready before the party. I've had to spend time messing with the audio during parties before, which adds to stress. Personally, I like to serve stuff like pasta and curry bec…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/17 04:11 AM
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I think it's because Trump has many qualities that RPM admire, like not giving a fuck, being witty, being rich and famous, marrying a hot woman, etc. So they were blinded to his faults.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/17 08:45 AM
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I've been to clubs twice and I hated the experience. The drinks and cover are overpriced and the music is so loud that it hurts your ears. Went to a nightclub in Vegas recently with 2 guys. I got a predatory vibe from the place, like when I saw men pawing at women who were just walking by. My friends were careful not to leave me by myself for the most part, but when I was (for at most like 15mins), I got hit on twice. One of them escalated to physical contact immediately, which freaked me out be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/17 07:39 AM
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I want to point out that academics consider online dating to be a marketplace; specifically, a matching market. So it's a mainstream view. And since people often use online dating services to look for sex, it's not much of a stretch to say that it can be modeled similarly. Economist article Academic paper Another academic paper
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/17 07:22 AM
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What if I say I don't care? Current bf is 5'4.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/17 04:22 AM
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I'm a new CS graduate working as a software engineer in a southeast asian country. This is only an anecdote, but throughout my education and work experience, I have never felt discriminated against because of my gender. There were women in leadership positions for my college's CS club and achievements of female students and alumni were recognized. One of the companies I interned at were thrilled that they managed to get a female engineer to join. At my current workplace, my gender has never been…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/17 10:16 AM
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C if we could see other people. At least I would have companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/17 07:14 AM
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I like the advice Mark Manson gives. For example: Love is not enough Fuck Yes or No The one trait to look for in a partner (spoiler: the ability to see one’s own flaws and be accountable for them) I think following that advice will lead to a healthy and sustainable LTR. His advice may sound simple, but he writes in a way that makes it easy to internalize. My relationship with my bf has those traits, so I guess we're on the right track. Another one that has helped me is Men marry women with the h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/17 04:07 AM
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I have this funny thing where I usually don't feel like eating whatever desserts I bake for some reason, so I just give them away to people. But I found a recipe for blueberry muffins that I like snacking on. It's from the Fannie Farmer cookbook, which is a great cookbook that explains cooking principles. Re. that recipe, the correct portions to use per the book are 1 tbsp. baking powder and 1/2 cup sugar. I also like to add 1 tsp of vanilla essence for flavor. If you like your muffins more butt…
/r/RedPillWives20/10/17 03:37 AM
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I've posted about this before here but tl;dr social pressure + men want the "girlfriend experience", though maybe sexbots can provide the latter in the future. As you will also see on /r/foreveralone whenever someone asks "so why don't you just visit a prostitute/escort". Not gonna specify the country so I don't dox myself, but you can look up countries which have legalized prostitution and check their marriage rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/17 07:56 AM
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WTF. If I hear people saying "oh but all that SJW stuff is just people complaining on the internet with no real consequences" I'll show them the second link.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 10:24 AM
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ISTJ woman here. Once again the distinction has to be made between TRP and RP in general. You are right, TRP does not appeal to me at all. I spend most of my time in RPWives. Since the idea of tradition and authority structure tend to appeal to ISTJs, I think ISTJs would like that aspect of RPW. I'm into RP mainly to learn how to conduct my romantic relationships better.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 06:03 AM
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Dating a INTJ-type PhD student. Initially it was because I'm into smart nerdy guys and we're both gamers. But over time I learned he was a genuinely good person, better than most people I know (myself included). He would never be malicious or harm someone. He's straightforward, simple and doesn't lie. It sounds rather airy-fairy but I believe "goodness" as a quality is not easy to find in people. And of course, I still find him physically attractive. Plus, I really, really like his extended fami…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 05:08 AM
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I suggest you read this post which explains dominance from a RPW's perspective. Not TRP though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 04:53 AM
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Really location dependent IMO. I'm average looking and was never hit on in the couple of months I spent in SF. And it's uncommon for most women in my home country.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 04:32 AM
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I'm not married, but something that's important to me personally is whether you can agree on how to keep house. Things like splitting of chores, what is an acceptable level of cleanliness, when and how chores should be done, stuff like that. I imagine some differences are inevitable, but if you have massive disagreements on this issue, it's something that you'll have to deal with on a regular basis since you both live together.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/17 04:25 AM
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It's very common where I come from (Asian country). Me and many of my female friends are not interested in guys who go for the partying/casual sex lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 04:38 AM
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I've been in an LDR for almost 3 years now, and we are halfway across the world from each other. What helps is that we usually set aside some time each day to Skype, even if it's just for 15minutes. Maybe it won't be possible because he's in residency, but you could try Facetime while he's having a break or eating. We also text throughout the day and spend a couple of hours gaming on weekends. It also helps that I have hobbies and groups of friends to socialize with. With work during the day and…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 10:55 AM
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There have been studies showing that poor people are less likely to marry, so I would guess marriage rates would drop even more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/17 10:34 AM
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They do already exist in the US (list), so women can attend them if they wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 01:19 AM
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I have worked at a couple of (asian) startups and none had that problem. Google and Microsoft also seem to be fine, based on the female friends who work there. I think the majority of tech companies aren't that way, but there are enough who are (including some big ones) and that sort of behavior naturally makes the news, so it dominates the impression that people have of tech companies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 10:55 PM
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I like your list, and I'd add: Unmanaged mental illness Asshole behavior (which can probably be a superset of pressuring boundaries, lying and disloyalty) Any kind of addiction or drugs other than weed High levels of aggression or anger
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 10:27 PM
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Depends on the reason. For example, he could have a career or interests without many women in them. But if he has had ample opportunity to socialize with women, then yes, a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 09:35 PM
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Among college-educated women who get married (90%), only 35% of them end their first marriage in divorce (source). Even if you account for things like not wanting to divorce because of religion or kids, a significant portion of them are presumably happy with their marriages. So, if you're a college educated woman, I'm not convinced that it's hard to find a good man to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/17 08:48 PM
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As I've said before on this sub, it always baffles me when people here/on Reddit are against "travelling". It's super common where I come from to go overseas for vacation, even if you're low-income (you just choose somewhere closer by).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/17 06:33 PM
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You might want to read this article (it's an Atlantic piece, so not exactly right-wing). White men are not a monolithic group, and there have always been poor white people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/17 06:06 PM
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Well, there are countries (like where I come from) where the majority of people have low N-counts but still date. They just go from LTR to LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/17 04:24 PM
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I wouldn't call it "unattractive" exactly but I'd consider it an orange/red flag for relationships. I don't think it's immoral but it means they have very different lifestyles from me. I have only a sexual experience outside an LTR once (with a friend) and I have never done things like use apps or go out to clubs for the purpose for looking for hookups. I am also probably quite conservative sexually relative to many people in the US (I have never kissed anyone I didn't end up in an LTR with). So…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/17 04:01 PM
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I come from a country where people don't normally interact with strangers in public. So no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/17 01:02 PM
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But I like being coupled up too much, ahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 04:27 PM
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Yup I do. All my bfs have been gamers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 04:25 PM
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Nah I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 04:25 PM
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Female. Dating as a man given the kind of person I am (introverted software engineer who likes anime and games) is gonna be pretty hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/17 01:33 PM
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Four scientists were interviewed about it and they basically said the science he cited was sound (link). Also, the author himself has a PhD in Biology, for the record.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 07:29 AM
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I have seen firsthand how nagging by my mom pissed off my dad (and I would argue harmed their relationship). She also often uses a combative tone with him which leads to him getting irritated. So I think she would strongly benefit from that advice. I think the principle behind the advice is - you shouldn't expect your partner to change (hence why vetting is so important), and nagging/criticizing is either 1) not going to be effective or 2) work but lead to your partner resenting you. It also cre…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 07:05 AM
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Finally found the original btw, everything included - link. I downloaded a copy in case it goes down.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:51 AM
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Is there a link to the unedited version?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/17 05:59 AM
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Most of my male friends come from groups centered around common interests or backgrounds (e.g. major in college). For most of them, I'm not that close to them and only hang out with them in a group setting. For the ones whom I'm closer to (I'd count maybe up to 5), we just do favors for each other as they arise. e.g. one of them has helped me prep for gaming tournaments and recently I helped him translate some stuff. As far as 'doing stuff for each other goes', it's not particularly different fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/17 03:27 PM
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16, female, red. With my first bf. Was very meh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/17 11:15 AM
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I just like learning how people think. Same reason I read other people-oriented subs like askreddit. And this is one of the few places that people discuss gender relations and sexuality frankly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/17 10:18 AM
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Not OP but the posters I can think of offhand: Atlas, MrsArthur, sublimemongrel, and RPHusband
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/17 10:16 AM
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Been in an LDR for 2.5 years myself (was exclusive for 2 months before starting it). I'm not sold on the idea of being in an LDR without exclusivity, because in an LDR you already lose out on a lot of the benefits of a normal relationship. That being said, since it's only been a month, it's reasonable that he hasn't decided on exclusivity. I think 3 months is a reasonable amount to wait. But regardless of the amount of time you decide, I think the main thing you must be ready for is to walk away…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 09:57 AM
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Dated 2 guys with unmanaged depression, never again. They dragged me down along with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/17 02:56 AM
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I take 'league' to mean attractiveness level and/or social standing, so in that regard we're about the same. But apart from that, he has certain personality strengths over me which I strongly respect (such as being steadfast or kind), so that helps to keep me attracted to him. On a personal level, I don't like the idea of being kept in check; I try to be a good partner on principle rather than in reaction to a specific guy. My bf is low dominance so if I wanted to act out, he wouldn't be able to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/17 04:09 PM
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One factor no one has mentioned yet is geographical location. Someone living in a small town will have a very different experience from someone living a big city.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/17 10:14 AM
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I don't feel burnt out since I don't participate much, but I feel I haven't learned much because people just keep repeating the same talking points. But occasionally there'll be some really good posts by people like Atlas, MrsArthur or Becky where they expound on some historical/legal/sociological topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/17 10:06 AM
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As someone who enjoys reading books about food and learning about Japanese cuisine, this person is pretentious as fuck. Somehow they just can't accept the idea that what's interesting to them may not be interesting to other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/17 01:44 PM
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RPWi post on their definitions of alpha and beta and corresponding post on women. As for whether it's canon, I'll call upon users like /u/Atlas_B_Shruggin who are more experienced in RP. But canonical or not, I care more about whether the RPWi content helps me with my relationships, which it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/17 10:13 AM
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Being red pill is not equivalent to liking high dominance men. As the post itself states, Low man, low/low woman (LLL) - this is the most common both in and out of the subreddit. Contrary to what many may assume, most rpw are interested in or already with greater betas! To me RP is about sexual strategy from the standpoint of biological differences between men and women. I am using RP to better understand and participate in romantic relationships. No man, no matter how high or low dominance he i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/17 03:26 AM
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I like this RPWi post on relationship dynamics. The women who like "bad boys" are those who like high dominance men. But there are also lots of women, like me, who like low dominance men. As for what the actual proportions are, I have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/17 03:09 PM
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The post specified extremist politics and violence, so that is what I was responding to. I read an article about youth in Japan rebelling "inwards" by becoming shut-ins, rather than "outwards" i.e. violence. I think wealthier societies are more likely to follow this 'inward' trend, because of the abundance of distractions, but poorer societies the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 10:08 AM
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Counter example: Japan. Men have retreated into their anime and waifus. With the rise of VR, the same may very well happen in the West.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 07:40 AM
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Unrelated, but this is a eye-opening article on Dubai and one of the best I've read.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/17 07:27 AM
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On RPWi at least the ECs/mods made a bunch of really good theory posts, like the relationship dynamics ones. As an unmarried young woman, it's also good to get the perspective of older women who have been married for a while. And finally, it is one of the few relationship communities which is both non-extremely liberal and non-religious/Western.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 05:02 AM
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you need to fuck a lot of girls to acquire a genuine DGAF attitude You don't. I know multiple guys who never had a gf but were DGAF anyway. They were busy pursuing other goals. (I say 'were' because some of them have gfs now.)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 06:59 AM
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6, 5 LTRs and 1 ONS (but no PIV)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/17 08:50 AM
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:< never did watch or read Divergent, so it means someone who doesn't fit into one group?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/17 02:33 AM
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On second thought, it's possible that the people around me are all extreme Ravenclaws (think PhDs or software engineers who like tinkering with - or writing - obscure programming language features) that I don't think I'm enough of a Ravenclaw to keep up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/17 07:35 AM
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I've done the Pottermore quiz 3 times and got all 4 houses. The Time quiz put me in Ravenclaw but I don't agree with the result because compared to many of my friends (who are very intellectual, to be fair), I'm not as knowledge-hungry as them, though I am probably more knowledge-hungry than the average person. I'm honestly not sure house I belong to, but given a choice I'd pick Ravenclaw, because I value intelligence. I'd pick it over Hufflepuff not because I think being smart is better than be…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/17 07:28 AM
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For context, we were both college students until recently. Food-wise, when we're physically together we cook most of the time. We might go out to eat once a week, spending about $10-$15 per person at the restaurant (usually Asian or Mexican places, no drinks). When we go out, we're usually doing a low-cost activity e.g. photography, hiking, going to a park, checking out a farmer's market or a store we're interested in. We go to the movies maybe once every 2 months. We tend to stay in and play vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 03:33 AM
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Red pill, female, straight. What I would sacrifice: I've been in an LD LTR for 2.5 years and I'll be moving to his city, so I've already sacrificed quite a bit. Sacrifice sleep, sure. Kidney, yes if we're married, otherwise yes if he couldn't get it from other family members. My life, probably not, but that's because I'm a coward with very big self-preservation instincts. What he would sacrifice: Sleep, yes, kidney, probably, life, no idea. I think we're roughly on par.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/17 04:06 AM
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I also think padded bras are stupid if you're using them primarily to make guys think your boobs are bigger, and if they find out, you shouldn't be surprised if they don't want to sleep with you, and yes, it makes you insecure. I don't know if it's more common in the US, but here I don't personally know anyone who wears them. And if the guy is considering wearing lifts in the first place, the insecurity will probably show itself somehow. Which is more unattractive than the height (which may not …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/17 09:56 AM
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I'm actually dating a 5'4'' man (I'm 5'3'') right now. I wouldn't if he was wearing lifts because it'd look retarded and he'd probably be doing it because he was super insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/17 08:39 AM
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Not every RPW wants to date a conservative (or have kids for that matter). I for one would prefer to date someone who's a moderate or left-leaning. Also, I think you are conflating being RP, being attractive to RPW, and being right-wing. None of those 3 things necessarily imply others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/17 11:57 AM
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Bf was a virgin when I started dating him. So yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/17 01:44 PM
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Eh, aren't xSFx the majority of the female population though? Since the majority of people are S and the majority of women are F. Also, ISFJs at least are loyal and relationship-oriented :S
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/17 02:09 PM
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The problem is that many good guys are taken off the market in college by marriage-minded girls. So as squidracer said, by the time they're ready to settle down, they're competing with younger girls for a smaller pool of guys. Of course, I guess they could just move to the Bay Area and have their pick of high-quality guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/17 12:43 PM
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As someone from a foreign country who has visited the US: Portion sizes are too big. For example, when my bf and I visit Panda Express, we split a meal because they give us way too much rice/noodles. Our cuisine is carbohydrate-heavy but it's easy for me to eat 1500 cal/day without much effort. Cheap food is primarily carbohydrates, sugar and dairy. So poor people naturally gravitate towards them. Whereas in other countries, poor people might eat random vegetables and odd cuts of meat. I believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/17 12:20 PM
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Except top list is probably also going to want someone traditional who didn't sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/17 07:24 AM
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I grew up with the mindset that I want to make it on my own merits. It's a matter of pride. So I would find it embarrasing/insulting to be given a free pass on my bad behaviour or better career opportunities directly because of my looks. (Though maybe if I was actually in that situation, I would think that I'm entitled to it, who knows?) Also, at my current level of attractiveness, which I assume I don't have to trade for intelligence, I don't get hit on by guys but I can still attract decent gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/17 06:02 PM
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To me BP represents the world as it should be, and RP represents the world as it is. ** with the caveat that RP is not the same thing as TRP and is certainly not the same as what TRP users post. I see it as a religion vs specific church thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/17 04:49 PM
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Yeah Sannan would have been my first choice in the original and I was disappointed that he wasn't a route because I thought he had so much potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/17 03:18 AM
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Smart because I'm a software engineer and it means I'd be able to get hired by a big tech company and make bank. And also because the robots are coming so I want to keep my job. I'm rather average-looking anyway so looks were never a big deal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/17 03:13 AM
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"More than anything else in the world"? Dear lord I hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 11:01 AM
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I come from a conservative country and you sound more conservative than even the conservative old people here SMH. Male-female friendships are normal here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 10:42 AM
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Saitou! <3 Also my favourite Hakuouki character. I don't think he's really a tortured hero type, he's just naturally quiet and pensive, which gives him a mysterious air. Though I suppose after the events of the game, it might be more accurate...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 09:37 AM
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Ahahaha I love this question (excuse to fangirl). My favourite fictional guy is probably Faramir from LotR. Had a crush on him since I was 11. He's kind, intelligent, cultured and capable. Definitely good LTR material. His character flaws as shown in the book/movies (e.g. being too eager to please his father) aren't really LTR-relevant. Second favourite guy is Victor from Code: Realize. Personality-wise, similar to Faramir but more gentle and abhors violence. I suppose he could potentially be to…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 09:27 AM
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I'm a left-leaning moderate. If they have intelligent and coherent views e.g. (e.g. Thomas Sowell) and aren't assholes, sure. Their stated position (e.g. Republican) is less important than the reasoning they use to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 09:11 AM
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Don't think so. I've had a crush on a guy shorter than me. I'm 5'3 and current SO is 5'4. To be honest, I've met so few guys who are shorter than me so it's hard to say definitively. But the same height as me or a little shorter is probably fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 09:01 AM
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ISTJ. The J % was a lot higher when I was younger but now I've mellowed out somewhat. In the relationship itself I do like to plan lots of activities. Not sure how it's affected the kind of people I date, but I've always had a preference for dating INTJs/INTPs (and as friends). To be honest, I think the I and T trait has affected it more. Don't think I'd want to date anyone who's an E (because I'd get annoyed at them for talking too much) or an F (because I'd get annoyed at them for prioritizing…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 08:53 AM
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Where I'm from, everyone does it, even older people and families. It's probably because we have lots of cheap flights available. Weeb guys visit Japan every couple of years or more. And the people who aren't as well off just visit the region (SEA) for a weekend e.g. beach holidays in Bali or Phuket. It's probably on par with going snowboarding or camping in terms of planning level/cost/travel time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/17 08:38 AM
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Geez, and here I was thinking they were decent people who just had an instinctive aversion to RP/TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/16 06:50 PM
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Why can't there be emotional reciprocity that doesn't lead to a romantic relationship? For example, if the woman is unattractive, the guy could have a friendship with her but not be interested in dating her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/16 05:56 PM
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Yes. Rejection is after I indicate interest in them and they know about it. I have asked guys out twice over text and got rejected both times (one wasn't interested, one was already attached). Another time, I did the teenage girl thing of asking a friend to ask him and the response was that he wasn't interested. I am still on good terms with all 3 today though. I don't really count this as rejection but in high school, I was pretty obviously interested in a guy, to the extent that other people n…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/16 05:43 PM
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I haven't experienced it, but most people would have the same route on weekdays since they're going to work/school. So it's possible that it isn't geographically widespread but you could still experience it often if you're in an area where it's common.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/16 08:47 PM
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My books arrived! Got all of them for $10 or less because they're second-hand.My Life In France will be a gift for my bf's mom because she loves to cook. I was looking for a decorating book for beginners and Domino came up on Amazon. Gonna spend some time during the holidays trying my hand at it using online simulators. I think Home Comforts was recommended by someone on this sub. It looks like a good book for every household to have.
/r/RedPillWives11/11/16 08:41 PM
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Some women would be disowned by their families if they were found to be pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/16 06:39 AM
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We don't discuss politics much, but I think I would prefer to date someone who's a moderate, regardless of whether they're conservative or liberal. I'm a moderate as well and to me it means they're more willing to entertain new ideas and recognize the nuances of an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/16 06:26 AM
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How do you imagine romance novels or movies work then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/16 06:21 PM
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Honestly, I don't know because this is the first time I'm doing it. But Amazon is advertising it as Black Friday so I assume it starts on Friday. They've also started having daily deals already, so you might want to take a look!
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 06:34 PM
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I'm getting all of my gifts either from Amazon (eagerly awaiting Black Friday) or I've been buying them second-hand (but still brand new) to save money. I have to give at least 5 people gifts, so it adds up quickly, especially since I'm not earning any income. I'm not the one in charge of planning or cooking, so I get to kick back and relax, haha! I'm still planning to help out in the kitchen though. Gotta learn how to make those dinners for when I'm hosting in the future. Unfortunately, my seme…
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 05:37 PM
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The increase in sexual inactivity was far more notable among women than men, and was only significant for those without a college education, the paper said. The phenomenon was not observed among survey participants who had attended college. It's not just men, apparently.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 04:45 PM
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I definitely feel more feminine when I'm dressed in a skirt or dress. And I also feel more confident because I'm putting a better foot forward, as opposed to dressing casually. There's a middle ground between casual and fancy. I'm a big fan of fit-and-flare dresses and skater dresses. As long as it doesn't look like something you would wear to a nightclub or a formal dinner, I don't think it'd be out of place. As for shoes, you don't have to wear heels, but you could get some nice-looking sandal…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 12:37 PM
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I almost never get approached by guys, although I'm in an asian country so there's cultural differences at play. I don't go to clubs either. I've meet most of my boyfriends through social activities or through mutual friends. Get hobbies that have a social element. For me, that includes ballroom dancing, gaming tournaments and various meetups (such as cooking or tech). You can dress flatteringly while still being modest. If you want to appear more feminine, you should be wearing dresses and skir…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 12:18 PM
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I have a friend with Aspergers but he worked really hard to develop his social skills and if you interact with him now, you can hardly tell. He managed to get a girlfriend too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/16 07:46 PM
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Not related but y'all should check out otome games if you like more plot. They're basically interactive romance novels with varying levels of erotica. The caveat is that they're mostly by Japanese or Korean developers and are aimed at young women, so you may not find them appealing if you aren't in the target market or are unfamiliar with the cultural context. I just finished the Hakuouki 3DS game and I'm planning to get a Vita where there are more options. A free but good option is Mystic Messe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/16 05:30 PM
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I haven't personally met men who think like this, but one charitable interpretation is that they want women who sleep with men that they intend to LTR with and, if it isn't already an LTR, shows signs of becoming one. Doesn't have to be on the first date but can still be within a relatively short time (e.g. on the 3rd date). This would exclude things like Tinder hookups, which they would classify as slutty. However, if the men saying this are not looking for LTRs, then I agree that it's very sel…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/16 02:15 PM
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RPW had a thread on that recently. My post For mine, the ideal personality-wise is basically Faramir from LotR - he's kind, has a strong character, is well-read, wise and is very dedicated. For social status, I'd prefer someone middle-class - upper-middle-class as that's how I grew up, so we'll probably have the same kind of mindset when it comes to lifestyles. For looks, I'm most often drawn to east asian or white guys; the best-looking guy I can think of is Liam Hemsworth.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/16 06:15 PM
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For the 4th of July this year, my bf's mom and I made meringues topped with blueberries, raspberries, strawberries, strawberry sauce and whipped cream. Easy to make and lots of fun! The final result
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 06:00 PM
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How I judge social media accounts on whether they're primarily for seeking validation is 1) if they post a lot of selfies and 2) if their picture captions or statuses are written to sound inspirational/surface-level deep/mysterious. IMO if they aren't seeking validation, most of the time the entries will sound like "hey check out this cool thing I saw/did". Which is what you would normally share with a friend anyway. On the other hand, you wouldn't randomly spout some intellectual-sounding turn …
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 06:31 PM
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It should be legal, but if the baby is born with FAS or with conditions caused by drug use, then the mother should be charged with neglect or abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/16 05:13 PM
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This is a study (link to the actual study) that the article mentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 08:53 PM
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Here is an article about orgasming during rape, with links to 2 reddit AMAs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 08:41 PM
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You're not actually serious, are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 08:26 PM
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The case in question is a "he says she says" situation IMO. If her version is true, then it is rape. But if what he says is true ("she had made 'pleasure noises' and told him he was 'amazing' and told him he was 'really good' at what he was doing..She later threatened him not to tell anyone about it or she would ruin his career"), it would appear that the sex was consensual but she regretted it later on. Also, if he was also drunk (the article doesn't mention it), then you can't say that he was …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 08:26 PM
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Dressing well. It'll make the guy look even better but won't do anything if there wasn't a baseline physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 06:11 PM
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I'd always suspected that inclinations to promiscuity vs monogamy were genetic, and that essay (sort of) confirmed it. Thanks for the link!
/r/RedPillWives03/11/16 03:19 PM
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Just FYI, the ice bucket challenge raised enough money to make a breakthrough in ALS research. Here's an article about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 02:39 PM
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I got Director as my primary type and Builder as my secondary. I think it might be other way around though. Builder matches up better with my MBTI type, ISTJ, and I don't have much of a desire to date Negotiators. I suspect I am a Builder/Director who wants to date a Builder/Negotiator.
/r/RedPillWives03/11/16 02:31 PM
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I wouldn't date a man who expects me to support him so I don't think it would be a problem for me. We would both have our own jobs and contribute to the finances. You could also gauge if he's a loyal person in general, like whether he's cheated before or has friendships that have lasted many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/16 08:40 AM
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Right, thanks for pointing it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/16 08:39 AM
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Agreed, and for me it's also that I don't want to feel...superior? to him. It would make me lose some respect for him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 07:08 PM
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Not a guy, but where I am from it is not a common practice at all, and I would find it pretty distasteful if a female acquaintance hired one. Is it common in the US or other western countries?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/16 07:06 PM
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Reposting a comment I made: I really liked "The Secret Lives of Wives" by Iris Krasnow. It contains interviews from women with vastly different types of marriages - successful arranged marriages, fairytale til-death-do-us-part elderly couples, women who stayed despite adultery or abuse, polygamous couples, women in meh marriages who are working on making them better. The common theme tying them together is that they have chosen to stay in their marriages despite whatever unhappiness or difficult…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 06:07 PM
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I don't disagree that men should do these things too, but I think the idea is that giving such advice to women, even though it is valid, would be considered unfeminist or overly traditional; such sentiment has already been expressed in the PPD thread.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 06:05 PM
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Presently: Most important: loyal, responsible, intelligent, kind, non-judgmental, somewhat adventurous. I've dated someone who wasn't as intelligent as me and it's hard to maintain attraction when they can't quite keep up. Also, my parents are somewhat judgmental people, even though they mean no harm. Growing up, this made me feel that I could not trust them with my inner thoughts or emotions because they would judge me for it. So I don't want to feel the same way with my partner. On a side note…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 05:50 PM
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It makes me sad that this would not be considered common knowledge or instinctive behavior. To me, if you exercised some empathy, one would realize the majority of these points.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 04:35 PM
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If you do online dating and arrange a date once a week, it'll only be 2-3 hours per week. You'll be eating lunch or dinner anyway, so you could use that time to go out.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 06:16 PM
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I have the same mindset as those men and to me it's not that casual sex is gross, it's just a lifestyle/personal values difference that is incompatible. Like wanting to settle down vs a vagabond life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/16 03:16 PM
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Not a guy but I've seen some men saying they prefer low-N women because they want to date someone who has compatible views on sex and who treats sex as special. These men do not engage in casual sex themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/16 04:57 AM
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Orange flag. It suggests that I would be their sole source of emotional support, which is stressful. But it also depends on how willing they are to attend social events with me. If they aren't, then red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/16 04:52 AM
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Hahaha! I'm personally glad I don't get horny too much, I would find it annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/16 07:25 PM
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The original comment didn't specify men, so I assumed it was referring to the general population. FWIW my dad liked Legally Blonde and thread about guys liking Mean Girls
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/16 06:29 PM
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I can think of plenty of counterexamples which are feminine characters. Miranda Priestly in The Devil Wears Prada was hilarious. So was Elle Woods in Legally Blonde, and she was also a great role model (kindhearted, non-judgmental, intelligent, sassy, confident). Cady Heron in Mean Girls goes through a fairly realistic teenage maturing process.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/16 06:23 PM
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Liam Hemsworth and Sam Claflin in that Me Before You poster.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/16 06:08 PM
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Sure, pretty sure most/all of the guys I've dated are BP. I have a preference for men with strong beta traits. And most of the guys I can easily identify as RP IRL I think are assholes. I'm into RP mostly to work on being a better partner to my SO, which I think would be welcomed by men on either side.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/16 06:00 PM
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Mine is 6 with 5 being LTRs. For me at least, feeling horny and actually wanting to have sex with someone are 2 different things. I get horny maybe about once a week, but that can be solved by masturbation. However, my desire to have sex only gets activated when I socialize with someone I am (strongly) attracted to. Thus far this has not included the majority of my social circle or colleagues. And finally, casual sex does not make me feel good (did it once with a friend and did not like the expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/16 05:52 PM
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I am from an Asian country where prostitution is legal. Why it does not make much of a difference: Societal shaming. Visiting prostitutes is seen as a shameful thing and many women will not want to date a man who they know has visited prostitutes. Many men themselves think it is "unethical". Based on anecdotes I've read online, men visit prostitutes as a last resort when they are unable to get a girlfriend. Higher SMV men will be able to find ONS from clubs or elsewhere, so this translates into …
/r/TheRedPill24/10/16 10:55 AM
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I'm not gonna comment on the rest of the post since I'm not experienced enough but this post was posted on TRP a while back. Basically, certain factors will lower the odds of divorce significantly, such as the woman having a degree or being asian. So if your main concern about marriage is the risk of divorce, you can vet for those factors.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/16 04:56 PM
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I agree with the other poster that you're trying to do too many things at once. If your school offers language electives, you can take that as part of your classes (or during summers). I find it easy to squeeze in 15-30mins of reading a day, I do it on public transport commutes or right before bed. If you want to learn the basics, you can practice both cooking and baking with some recipes (e.g. lasagna, quiche, shepherd's pie). You can do it once or twice a week and cook big portions each time s…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/16 12:04 PM
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Thanks for your concern, I don't mind at all :) We've been physically together about 8 out of 21 months, so about 60% LDR. I haven't brought up marriage for a number of reasons. This is his first ever relationship, so it's all new to him, and I imagine it would be pretty overwhelming to go from a first kiss to marriage. He doesn't like planning very far ahead in general because plans might change, so he likes to wait until it's closer to the actual date. He doesn't think about relationship issue…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 05:15 AM
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When I joined a cooking meetup on meetup.com, most of the women who showed up were in LTRs or married. So you could try looking for meetups for feminine hobbies.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/16 02:00 PM
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I really liked "The Secret Lives of Wives" by Iris Krasnow. It contains interviews from women with vastly different types of marriages - successful arranged marriages, fairytale til-death-do-us-part elderly couples, women who stayed despite adultery or abuse, polygamous couples, women in meh marriages who are working on making them better. The common theme tying them together is that they have chosen to stay in their marriages despite whatever unhappiness or difficulties they face, some resortin…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 01:49 PM
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Good: I'm (probably) going to end my last semester in about a month, after which I'm going to London and then to California to spend 2.5 months with my bf. Bad: I'm trying to find a find a software engineering job in the US so I can join my bf, but most companies won't even consider me because I don't have a green card, and I just flunked a phone interview. Also, I'm been sleeping at 2-3am every night, which I should fix. Ugly: I'm considering whether I should stay in the relationship because we…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 12:33 PM
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For an LTR, I'm a fan of coffee first dates precisely because they are on the "boring" side and are the closest thing to what the majority of your time in an LTR will probably be spent doing with your partner - in ordinary situations such as grocery shopping or a quiet night in. Therefore, if you don't enjoy just the company of your date when they're at their most interesting - because it's a first date and you know nothing about them - I think it's unlikely you would be compatible in the long t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/16 11:48 AM
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We're apart most of the time (LDR), but what I recall from when we're together: Since we aren't living together, we mostly split the same chores. So sometimes I'll volunteer to do all the dishes or fold his laundry. I also try to make myself helpful e.g. tidying up his stuff or storing stuff that he buys from Costco, or keeping track of his appointments/deadlines/to-dos and reminding him of them, kind of like Google. If I'm buying something, sometimes I'll get him a trinket or snack that I think…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 11:19 AM
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Yeah, this is one case that OP shouldn't let go IMO. What if she's away for a few weeks?
/r/RedPillWives16/05/16 07:56 AM
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There's always Snapchat.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/16 01:39 PM
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If you're going to try something similar to that video, I'd recommend using a glue stick like in the video instead of liquid glue, because that might leak through the paper. I would also use denser paper for the flowers because it would hold its shape better after the card is repeatedly opened/closed (I used 120 gsm paper, printer paper is usually 80 gsm). Good luck!
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 05:37 PM
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I love writing cards and letters. I use them for birthdays, Christmas and anniversaries. I just made my first popup card (youtube video) yesterday - looks complicated but isn't hard to follow, and the end result will impress!
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 05:00 PM
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Does it have to be meat as a main dish? If not, I have a Bolognese recipe that is easy to prepare (the recipe looks complicated, but it's mostly chopping and then frying everything together, then leaving it to simmer). Some modifications: Lots more carrots and celery (I go by one bag each from Trader Joe's). I like having my sauce chunky. Replacing one of the tins of tomatoes with tomato paste because tomato paste is more concentrated. Generally, you can add in more tomato without spoiling the t…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 06:52 AM
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I think what he's saying, judging from his earlier posts, is that women instinctively choose a man based on what she perceives his value to be at the moment (e.g. a common rant in TRP is about women leaving men when they lose their job/are depressed/etc); however, RPW go against this instinct by remembering how he's demonstrated value in the past and/or are far-sighted enough to see that he's a high-value man even if it's not conventionally obvious (e.g. he might be poor now but he's hard-workin…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 06:10 PM
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