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SELF IMPROVEMENTrpwtoss/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 04:28 PM
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It has some added bonuses, too: -I'm less stressed -I get to be the "cool" wife- most of my husband's friends are envious of the fact that I'm super laid-back and not on his ass about stuff. -since I'm not always on his ass, if something really is important to me, it usually gets his attention -because I'm easy-to-please and laid-back, I get invited to do the "guy" things when I want to be (and not in the "I harass my husband to bring me with him and make a big deal if I can't go" way). (I shoul…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 10:50 PM
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It eventually becomes habitual to just start noticing the good things, but whenever I find myself getting in a funk and becoming more and more negative, I like to spend a few months writing it all down. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 07:53 PM
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I struggle with keeping an exercise routine myself. One thing that really helped me with the small stuff is that when I find myself getting upset/anxious, I ask if it will matter in ten years. The answer is basically always no, so then I can let it go. This has become so automatic for me that it's decreased my level of stress significantly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 06:32 PM
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I posted these as a follow-up in the other thread about goals, but wanted to add them here: Okay, I promised an update once I finished MAP and had an idea of my goals, so here goes: Exercise 5 days a week. (I'm going to try Wendler's 5/3/1 I think, plus do one day of stretching/walking/some sort of LISS to start). Diet Get my diet even more dialed in- it's been pretty good, but over the last two weeks it's done a steady slip. Goal: No grains/sugar/processed anything with the exception of up to t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 06:24 PM
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Okay, I promised an update once I finished MAP and had an idea of my goals, so here goes: Exercise 5 days a week. (I'm going to try Wendler's 5/3/1 I think, plus do one day of stretching/walking/some sort of LISS to start). Get my diet even more dialed in- it's been pretty good, but over the last two weeks it's done a steady slip. Goal: No grains/sugar/processed anything with the exception of up to two cheat meals a week (if/when we go out to eat or when DH cooks). Cook three nights/week. Curren…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 05:35 PM
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I can't see what the other commenter said, but... 1. Check out married red pill instead of TRP. There are still some bitter people there, but it's more relevant to your situation. It sounds like she might have a hormone issue- if she's on some sort of hormonal birth control (like the pill), that could be causing your issue. Have you read The Mindful Attraction Plan? I'm not all the way through it yet, but it's one of the books that I've seen recommended around the TRP communities a bunch (someon…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 12:07 PM
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I think this is a really good point. It's honestly more stressful for me to try to keep on top of telling someone what to do than it is to just do it myself (because then I have to monitor whether or not they've actually done the thing that needs doing). In terms of emotional labor- I think the idea is to reference the stuff that's different than housework. Making sure he tells his parents happy birthday on their birthdays, making sure little Johnny has a present for the birthday party he's goin…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 09:08 PM
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I've read about emotional labor- and it's true- it's something women typically deal with and men don't. But here's the rub- women deal with those sorts of things because we are the ones that worry about them (and honestly, mostly what we are worried about is judgment from other people). I'm a strong believer of "the person who cares the most takes care of the issue (this could be about how something is done or the timeline on which it is done)." Example: If I'm going to stress about how the dish…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 05:46 PM
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This was an exact conversation I had with my husband a few months ago. I said I was feeling overwhelmed with all of the housework on top of everything else I was juggling at that point in time- he wasn't willing to take the work on himself but immediately suggested we hire a housekeeper to give me more breathing room. (Three days later my hormones adjusted back to normal and I stopped feeling panicked and overwhelmed and everything was good again. 🙄)
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 05:37 PM
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Once a week seems like it would work well. Frequent enough to keep everyone accountable and participating, but not so often that it becomes overwhelming or totally takes over the sub.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 03:54 AM
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:) I'm going to try to get through the MAP book that was recommended tomorrow, because I'd like to use that as a framework to make it easy for everyone to read the book/follow a similar process, if they'd like. Based on what I've read so far, making goals should be easy once it's finished- the book more or less provides a framework, and specific goals for each person's situation can be set within that framework.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 03:11 AM
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I generally stay off of it as well for the same reason. It's a bummer because some of the information is really good, especially for anyone who values traditional gender roles. That's also the same reason I haven't really sent my husband to any of the RP stuff on Reddit. There are parts of TRP/MRP that I think would be valuable for him to have/absorb, but I don't really want him around a lot of the people there. I also don't want to think that I'm implying that I think he needs to change. It's n…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:39 PM
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Sounds good- and like a book I should add to my reading list! It's hard to know just by looking at some of the thread/sub reading lists which books would be useful for women to read and which would have less value. It seemed like there must be some sort of list that everyone was going off of, but I haven't gone very deep through the other RP subs, so I wasn't sure where the list was coming from.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:12 PM
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If you check out MRP, they do a weekly thread that you can check out to sort of see how they work.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:07 PM
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Once I figure out everything that's going to be on mine, I'll post it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:35 PM
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I haven't been around for a year, so I can't speak to that part, but I'd love to see this be a place that encourages women to work harder to improve themselves, and I feel like a OYS thread would help with that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:34 PM
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This thread is a few days old, but I wanted to toss in a recommendation for Circle E candles. I don't think they are really well-known outside of Texas, but they are huge in central Texas. My husband's favorite scent is leather, so that is typically what we have (I have the outlet/wall wax warmers throughout our house). They used to have one that was like..cotton candy or something like that that was really nice too. I'm planning to try something different for fall and the holidays, I think.
/r/RedPillWives27/09/17 02:59 PM
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I've read through everyone else's responses to sort of get a feel from where everyone is coming from. I really feel for you and the situation you've been put in. My answer depends on so many things- first off, what do your finances and support system look like? Are you in a position where leaving him is a possibility? If not, I'd suggest getting to that place. I'm not necessarily suggesting you leave yet, but you should be in a position where that is a legitimate option for you. I would be conce…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 01:48 PM
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I think everyone deserves all of the things you mentioned...but I've never considered myself a feminist. I'm similar to you, in terms of education level- I also have a masters' degree. My work is tangentially related to my degree (I couldn't do the work without the degree, but I'm not using the degree the way it was intended to be used). I also used to be very religious. The older I've gotten, the less religious I've become- although I still consider myself a spiritual person. I think that men a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 03:15 PM
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I would say that's a fair assessment of my relationship, and many of my friends' relationships as well. It's definitely important to my husband that I keep myself attractive and well-groomed. And while I would like him to look good, I'm more concerned that we spend time together hanging out and chatting (it's also usually stupid stuff- I spend more time showing him goofy animal videos on Reddit than he would be willing to admit).
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 02:17 AM
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Without really spending too much time thinking about it, the three divorces I know of off the top of my head that involved stay-at-home moms were: two instances of husbands leaving and one instance of the wife leaving where the husband was an alcoholic and abusive. And in the cases where the husbands left, I believe there was infidelity on the part of the husbands.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 01:24 AM
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I'm sort of casually looking to see if I can find any specific statistics on who initiates more divorces in marriages where the wife doesn't work, but I don't have anything worth mentioning yet. That one is just anecdotal based on people I know personally, not based on any study I've seen.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 10:33 PM
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That's crazy!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 10:30 PM
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I don't disagree that men have been de-masculinized. But I'd be curious to know what you think has caused the skew in power. I feel like it's been created largely by the fact that women are now expected to hold a full-time job (to contribute sometimes half, if not more, of the income to the house), while also still doing most of the work around the house. That means that roles have shifted- in many cases, women are now in a more provider-oriented role, which relegates men to a companionship posi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 06:44 PM
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I agree with all of this. Feeling desirable and attractive is 100% a libido booster. (And occasionally having another man tell you that you look nice/are attractive can be a mood booster for sure...as long as they aren't creepy about it) Then again, a big part of sex for women is psychological, rather than physical.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 05:43 PM
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TL;DR: Have lots of (varied) sex. Make sure to keep up the flirtations with your spouse. I haven't actually posted here before, but created this account a few weeks ago thinking that at some point I might. I find TRP/RPW really interesting, and I think most of the concepts make a lot of sense. My husband doesn't Reddit, and doesn't know anything about any of this stuff. He's RP in some ways, but in many ways he's fairly typically BP (if that part matters, I'm happy to expand on it more later). I…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 02:37 PM
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I'm relatively new to this sub (and just created a separate account so I could post), but I thought I might be able to contribute a different perspective for you (in terms of positives). For starters, I agree with what someone else already mentioned- traditionally people didn't move in with each other until they were married, but they were also waiting until they moved in together to have sex. If you're already sleeping together, living together (or not) in terms of cows and milk is sort of a mo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 07:35 PM
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