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Also, consider this relationship without the baby. Is it a good relationship? Is it what you want for potentially the rest of your life? Don't stay in a bad relationship because of the baby, it isn't ideal for anyone involved, including the child. It's sounds like you have a fantasy in your head of everything changing after the baby is born, happy marriage, one big happy family. But if nothing changes, and he's the same guy with these vices and fighting with you all the time...then what? Do you …
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/25 06:25 AM
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Girl I wish I had a way to let you read this post as an outsider. I am not going to give you advice on keeping or not keeping the baby, that is completely up to you. And I understand why you would want to stay with the father. But please try reading this back, pretending your friend or sister wrote it. This guy's sounds like so much trouble and not at all worth marrying to me. If you feel like you need to lean into your femininity more, lovely and that could be very healing for you...but for thi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/25 06:17 AM
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Hormonal birth control made me a bit of a "demon," I'm not sure what you have tried and not tried but it is possible it's linked to the BC or SSRIs because they can definitely have adverse affects for some people. Or you could need as others have said a different kind of therapy or mood stabilizer. The fact that you realize you are acting this way is good though. You've been to doctors and therapy, did they diagnose you with anything? Things like Borderline Personality Disorder or other personal…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/24 05:02 AM
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I never said there wasn't plenty of rejection. I'm mostly responding to people that think approaching isn't a good strategy. You're always gonna get more rejections than not, that's how dating works. But approaching strangers is still a thing that works, average looking people hook up all the time in spaces I frequent either for ONS or long term. I get rejected most of the time, but I've met plenty of people through approaching strangers. Same for my friends. Women have better luck, but my male …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:56 AM
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Maybe true. I can only go off my experiences, but I do have male and female friends and I've seen them approached and enjoy meeting both males and females in these situations/places
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 03:04 AM
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Maybe. I live in Denver so it's very sunny although also very snowy in the winter. But we like the snow haha
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 03:02 AM
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I think the culture of the city varies too. Some cities people are much more open to small talk and friendly banter with a stranger and some people want to be left alone at any cost
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:12 AM
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I meant people that are there alone, or with friends but everyone is doing their separate thing. That's how it usually is for me and my friends, and the people I see who are meeting new people. If you're dancing with someone it's not so likely someone will approach, nowadays I'm usually dancing with my boyfriend so I don't get approached as much, but when I was alone I made friends, exchanged numbers, and me and my bf met at a goth club. I find smaller clubs like goth clubs, and raves and afterp…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:41 AM
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I think the setting in general. Approaching someone on a busy street in broad daylight is much different than a calm street in the evening. I think most people would know it will creep someone out to be approached on a sidestreet at night, but even a suburb can be a bit creepy if you're alone. Shit I used to live in a town where people would follow me, be really creepy trying to hook up, then get mad at me and threaten me if I turned them down, in the morning and middle of the day with tons of c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 07:52 PM
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That seems about my experienced percentage as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 07:39 PM
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A lot of people I've met that raped, coerced, sexually assaulted, etc. literally will convince themselves they didn't do anything wrong. The other person trapped them into it by being there, they made it too easy by being around them, they looked too enticing, and put them in a position where they couldn't help themselves. Or they convince themselves that the other person actually liked it and just needed to be pushed into it after saying no. Some people truly don't feel bad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 07:35 PM
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I think this is a big issue. Looking like you're bored and don't want to be bothered, or being surrounded by friends and talking to them the whole time so nobody wants to interrupt. I go out with friends often, and I see plenty of people younger and older, men and women, having fun and meeting new people. But they're having fun and dancing, so it's easy for people to come talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 05:06 PM
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I get approached plenty at "adult meeting" places like bars, clubs, concerts, hobby meet-ups, performances, etc. Any time I'm away from my BF too long someone is asking if I'm alone and can they buy me a drink. I'm not super hot or anything, I'm fairly average, I think I just look approachable because I'm usually alone and dancing and having fun. I don't think it's hard to be approached if you want to be. I think people are either not going to places where people are encouraged to approach (fun …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:50 PM
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I didn't really know how to cook or where to start, so I started getting those meal kits that send you a recipe and all the ingredients. Now I don't need them and I can cook most things! Or at least, I have a basic grasp and can easily follow a recipe and can naturally plan and cook a simple meal without one. I did HelloFresh but there are tons of them that are more or less the same and they generally have good deals for new subscribers so if you're on a budget I'd try one and use up the subscri…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/24 06:13 PM
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I'd argue this sub is much closer to actual red pill than the male red pill subs on Reddit. Most of them lean more akin to Black Pill, or at best the inverted version of Pink Pill - My gender good other gender bad. Bitter hurt people trashing the other gender, but they're straight so they still want the other gender, so they try to take advantage and get what they want from the other gender that they have no respect for and hate, etc. This sub is stricter about banning and muting people that are…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/24 06:01 PM
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There's a reason the stereotype for people in a small town or suburb is a family and not a single person. In my experience, single people past university-age generally try to live near a big city so they can meet other people, among other things (more single person housing, career opportunities, etc.) It's hard to meet people when most people around you are settled down, and for the single people that do exist there aren't really many places to meet. What happens is that he gets lucky and random…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/24 12:13 AM
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To be fair, colloquially I think most people mean the median or even more so the mode when they say average, and not the actual mathematical average. They mean "I look, have, and act similarly to most people around me." Although issues do come up if people are comparing themselves to average numbers they find online, or worse what they see people bragging about online, thinking the average and baseline must be 6ft, ripped, and making 6 figures.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/24 12:01 AM
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I'd argue that most women are pretty into a guy in a well fitted suit. Problem is more suit pics are an ill fitted suit in an awkwardly cropped wedding guest picture in my experience lol. But I agree that if you have a good body, you should make that known, especially when people are quickly swiping through pictures like on dating apps. Having a good body is physically hot but also shows you aren't lazy and have some motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 01:23 PM
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Most of the people I know go to clubs to dance. I have met people that seem to only be there to get laid, which honestly I think is totally fine as long as they aren't preying on anyone black out drunk or harassing anyone. It's a good place to meet people for friends or more, people generally like to socialize with strangers at clubs. But I just like to dance. I met my partner at a club, we both went out after the same concert, and we both still like to go out dancing and have no problem with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 12:31 PM
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I can find relationships easily, but finding a relationship with someone I can see a future with is more difficult. You find someone who may have potential, you spend the time to vet them and get to know them, and more often than not, it doesn't end up being a good match for whatever reason. If I have a good relationship, I'd much rather put in the work to keep it than find a new one. I can find a new one very easily, but a good relationship with someone you truly see a future with is rarer. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:50 PM
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I don't know if I'm a "traditional" woman or not, but I'm not religious. I see marriage as a contract for a partnership, to merge lives and build a future together. I'm not interested in investing in a relationship that certainly won't lead to marriage, I'm open about that early on. Of course, I don't want to rush into marriage, but I don't want to date someone who has no interest in marriage. I don't want to be someone's girlfriend for decades, I want to be their family. A lot of people these d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:34 PM
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So you're a thot...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 07:17 PM
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If she finds the guy butt ugly she probably won't be turned on, but the man who is physically attractive may also not turn her on, because for many women (I'm sure some men out there as well) sexual desire is determined by more than that. Looks aren't the only changing factor, it's only one factor of many. For some people, someone looking hot is enough to make them want to have sex with them. I meet hot people all the time, I rarely meet anyone I want to have sex with. Looks definitely matter so…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:15 PM
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I definitely think there's some overlap between avoidant attachment and the "never good enough" mentality. You never have to get too attached if you have impossible standards. "This isn't perfect, the next relationship will be better." They find a new person, things are exciting and great. Then when things start getting too comfortable, the fear of attachment kicks in, and they're off to the next. Fear of commitment comes out in many ways. They want a relationship in theory, but when things get …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:56 PM
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Since I've been an adult, around two years. Right now it's been over a year since my last hook up. The 2~ish years was between LTRs and I didn't really get to go out much then so I wasn't really trying. Now I'm trying, but nothing has worked out, I don't do online dating so I'm reliant on meeting people irl, and I go out about every other weekend. The people I'm interested in, I'm not their type, and the people that are interested in me aren't my type lol. I wouldn't say it's a huge struggle unl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 08:39 AM
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From my friendships with straight women, I've gathered a pretty large percentage of them like guys who are more feminine or "pretty." Boy-band types. My grandmother was obsessed with Elvis, my mom with Prince, my best friend with sparkly vampire boys and skinny alternative looking guys. The new wave of teens seem to be obsessed with BTS. I don't see a lot of women fawning over big superhero types of guys or rough blue-collar looking guys. I think a lot of guys think girls like a masculine ideal …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 12:31 PM
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I'm a lesbian if you want to ask me anything. I think my experience is somewhere between what the women and men are describing in this post. I do think I notice women more than the women here are saying they notice men, but often it's closer to how straight women notice other women - she's pretty, I like her style, etc but not sexual. Occasionally I meet someone and feel that immediate sexual attraction, I have no idea if it happens to me more than straight women, but I think maybe it does just …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:59 AM
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I think it's definitely subjective, personally I find men more defined and angular and women more soft and curvy. I generally prefer something in the middle but closer to the soft and curvy, so I usually find women more aestheticly pleasing. Speaking of just a naked physically fit human with nothing added. But I think both can be very aestheticly pleasing. Hormones and sexual attraction probably plays a big role in which you find more appealing, as well as culture. I've seen very beautiful men, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:28 PM
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I would consider 80% satisfied way better than "safe." I've only ever had "safe" relationships imo, and it was worse than being single, which is why I ended them. I'd honestly pick the short 95% relationship given the choice, because I think it's extremely rare and I would consider myself very lucky to experience that even for only a year. But I would see 80% satisfied as above what most people get to experience as well, I absolutely wouldn't consider that settling. Shit, I think anything above …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 02:08 PM
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My dream is to rent out some kind of venue or warehouse overnight and throw an all-night post wedding rave.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 09:53 AM
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I find post 30s women the hottest, to each their own haha
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:13 AM
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It's also good for mental health, sleep, general energy levels. "Fit" is the natural state of humans, basically every function of our bodies suffer if we don't get exercise. It's so crazy how many people literally don't get any exercise at all besides walking across a room or out to a car. Basic exercise isn't supposed to be a hobby for enthusiasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 12:16 AM
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I used to do Chaturbate and we only got 50%, 80% is really great as far as online sex work goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:51 PM
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I'm happy single, but would like to have a life partner. I'm not lonely enough to settle, I like being alone way too much for that lol. I have a happy vision of my future life single, and a happy vision of my future life with a partner, and I'm okay with either. I'd want someone who wants to build a life together and has similar goals and dreams, and I want us to find each other physically attractive and feel romantic love for each other, I want us to get along and make each other laugh, be best…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:59 PM
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Eh, I think there's definitely a deeper reason men are "obsessed with sex," if it were just about being horny they'd be perfectly fine jacking off, wouldn't they? I think a lot of men are very intimacy/touch-starved and also crave the feeling of someone being sexually attracted to them. It's got to be deeper than just being horny, yeah? I'm not a dude so idk. But for me there's a difference between being horny and wanting to get off and actually wanting sex with another person with mutual attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:21 PM
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I've never understood this kind of thinking. Is it only the opposite sex, or is it any gender they are attracted to? If someone is attracted to men and women, are they not allowed to spend time alone with anyone they aren't related to? They have to constantly be chaperoned like a little kid? Just keep them on a leash? Lol. And if it's only the opposite sex, does it have to do with pregnancy? If one of them is neutered, are they allowed to spend time alone together? Why specifically the opposite …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 12:40 PM
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Yeah, I guess historically (ie before birth control and abortion and such were much of an option) I imagine a woman would really want to vet a guy before sleeping with him, so that definitely makes sense. That's pretty interesting to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 08:32 AM
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So far in my life I've always been happier single than in a relationship but that's probably because the relationships weren't right for me. I definitely believe being single is better than being in a bad relationship, which most people probably agree with. But even a neutral relationship for me makes me miserable and feel like I can't breathe. I haven't found that person that makes me happier to be with them than single yet, but I totally believe being in a happy relationship could be better th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 09:31 AM
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I'm a lezzie so I don't know that my full answer is really relevant to OP, but I definitely see women I feel immediately attracted to. I know this is a small sample of male-attracted women but it's kind of interesting that most of them don't feel any immediate attraction, I never felt much sexual attraction generally until I started to accept I might be gay. I actually thought I was Asexual for a while because I was trying to date and hook up with guys and couldn't ever enjoy it the way it seeme…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 09:14 AM
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If the only thing you get out of relationships with women is sex maybe you aren't actually into them relationship wise? Like you don't feel romantic feelings or enjoy being with them outside of sex? Some people are heterosexual but aromantic or homoromantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:31 PM
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Idk if this is normal but I only want to have sex when there is a person I am attracted to. Like, I get horny randomly but I don't want to have sex, I just wanna jack off and move on with my day. I'd rather jack off than have sex unless there is a person I specifically want to have sex with. Not just a person who is attractive to look at, but a person I'm physically attracted to and feel that pull, you know? Right now I'm not attracted to anyone so I don't want to have sex literally the rest of …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:00 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with that. As long as it's not some aggressive cat calling kind of stuff. But finding someone attractive and approaching them to try to meet them and have a chat is fine. And if you ask for their number or something and they say no, don't turn aggressive and start threatening them and yelling or following them around. Sadly that does happen often enough that it makes me a little scared when someone approaches me. A few bad apples have made it a scarier situat…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:35 PM
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I'm a lesbian so I have no idea if anyone would be interested in my answer, but I'm already here so whatever lol. I can't imagine why I would date someone that is allowed to date others but expects me to only date them. Unless they're paying me and it's like some kind of sugar relationship, then maybe, but like a serious relationship? I don't understand what I get out of that, just seems like an unfair dynamic. I'm gonna need a lot of benefits. If I'm not getting anything special out of it vs a …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:05 PM
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I can't speak for straight women, but I know a lot of guys into bears which are bigger hairy guys. I'm sure there's chicks into it too. When I've seen pictures of what a "dad bod" is supposed to be it's not really FAT fat, It seems mostly hairy and a little chub. I've also heard straight women saying guys are attractive that fit the bear kind of stereotype, not super fat just a little chubby and usually hairy. I don't know why these woman would tell me they found it attractive if they didn't, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:20 PM
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Oh god I'm not sure how many. I'm 27 and have been hitting on girls since I was like 13ish? Usually less "asking out" and more trying to initiate something sexual or "talking" tbh, if I actually tried to date a girl in my home town I might have ended up tied to the back of a pickup truck and given a free ride home Too be fair, nowadays I pretty much only hit on other girls at gay bars/clubs, or other lgbtq+ types of events, which are usually not very sober. Otherwise, only if I feel very strongl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:40 PM
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I'm a woman who mostly dates/flirts with women so the dynamics are definitely different. I can't speak for gay men but I imagine it's similar. It's pretty freeing to not feel like there are expectations on who asks who out, who makes the first move, who flirts the most directly, etc. Sometimes one person has a more bold/flirty/dominant personality and does more, but nowadays the ideas of "femme/butch" and "top/bottom" aren't so defined, and it really feels like two people on the same level witho…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:47 PM
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I understand that genes are the main driver for evolution, I was just trying to keep things colloquial since I was focusing on human behavior. The genes that survive should in theory be the ones that make us more suitable for our environment , more likely to survive, and more suitable mates, so the end result is becoming a species that's more suited for survival. In theory of course, shitty genes get through as well. I figured people would understand that I was talking about selection of positiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:28 AM
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I mean, this is kind of how evolution is supposed to work, isn't it? If every guy had kids "positive" traits wouldn't become more popular. The females of the species have to be selective if they want their offspring to have "positive" traits, useful traits, attractive traits, etc. So the most attractive and successful men end up with several kids and the unnatractive unsuccessful men end up with none or few. Then we end up becoming a species that's more suited for survival. If you take things do…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:21 AM
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Big boobs. I prefer smaller boobs actually, which based on the convos I've had with people is kind of weird. A lot of people do say that bigger isn't always better, but most people seem to prefer at least medium sized boobs. I like small boobs. Medium boobs are nice too. Big boobs are still boobs and I like boobs, but it's not my preference. But I'm more of a legs and ass type of person. My "ideal" boobed person would have boobs just about the size of my hands, and I have pretty small hands. Blo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:46 AM
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I think there are multiple levels of attraction. First there is base level, I wanna fuck this person level. If it was purely looks, then I would want to have sex with anyone who I found attractive, but I definitely don't. I find a lot of people attractive and I want to have sex with very few people. Obviously looks play a big role, but there has to be something else. Chemistry, spark, some kind of chemical pheromone match up, I'm not really sure what. That's the initial first level of attraction…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 06:22 AM
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I find a lot of people attractive and aesthetically pleasing, that doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to them. Lots of people are attractive. But I'm only sexually attracted to someone when I feel some kind of chemistry, a hormone match up of some kind I guess. I don't know how it works, I just try to trust my body. I used to compliment a lot of people, I try to be careful how I compliment people now because I realized many people take it as flirting lol. But when I compliment people, that alon…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:41 PM
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As someone who is sexually attracted to very few people, if I knew how to make myself attracted to more people I 100% would. I can mentally pretend to be into someone, but I don't know how to force my body to be turned on. Sex with with someone I don't want to have sex with is physically painful and mentally fucks with me. I've tried! Maybe some people can force attraction, but I can't. Telling someone to lower their standards when they have a whole list written out of specific check boxes their…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:21 PM
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I'm not really sure how to explain this, but I think it's really cute when guys are just monkeying around and doing dumb stuff for fun. The best way I can describe it I think is by dropping a link for r/justguysbeingdudes I feel like guys I know are more likely to have the childish horsing around vibe. It's sometimes annoying if it's in the wrong context but if it's truly just wholesome goofing off, playfighting, (safely) lighting dumb stuff on fire to see what happens, etc. it's very cute and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:54 PM
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I don't feel overwhelmed. Somtimes if I'm out and several people want to dance or buy me a drink it's overwhelming, but I wouldn't say I feel overwhelmed by my options, because I only see someone as an "option" if there is mutual attraction, not just them being attracted to me. I don't feel sexually attracted to most people, men or women, even if they are attractive. It's more than someone looking attractive, there has to be some kind of chemistry or something I guess, I'm not sure how to explai…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:25 PM
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I've never had a discussion about numbers with anyone I've dated. I've discussed things like "what's your longest relationship?" If someone has never been in a long term relationship but only a string of short relationships it's a bit of a red flag for me, but it's circumstancial of course. I don't care much about numbers of hook ups, as long as those hook ups happened when the person was single. Nobody has ever asked my numbers either, and I think most people assume I've got a much higher count…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:00 AM
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I'm not sure if I understand why this is bad. Neither person in a relationship belongs to the other, they should be with each other for the time being because they both want to be and it's improving their life in some way. If one or both people aren't happy in the relationship anymore, they should end it. Isn't that a good thing? If one person is taking their turn dating another person, than the opposite is also true. Although I find "taking turns" an odd way to look at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 10:12 AM
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Any time I have PIV sex it's in the back of my mind. I'm on birth control and live somewhere with good access to morning after pills and abortions, but it's always a risk. Plus, abortion and morning after pills aren't something I'd like to deal with. I'm more game to hook up with someone without the ability to get me pregnant (eg. cis women) because of it. Condoms break, birth control fails, shit happens. It's a risk that I really don't want to deal with and I don't really lose much from not tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:05 PM
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If it's a lot of the same person I would be wary. Even if it's a porn star you've never met, collecting huge amounts of stufd of one person seems a little obsessive. If it's just porn in general, especially if it's kink stuff that can be hard to find online, eh. I'm somewhat involved in my local kink community and it's not that unusual for people to save stuff that's a little harder to find. I don't consider it cheating. But it depends for sure, if it's obsessive hoarding or just a spank bank.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:54 AM
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I can only speak from my preferences. I like meeting people in chill situations. A house party where everyone is joking around and talking and you join in and start chatting with the person. A game night where everyone is chatting and joking. Casual group settings, I guess. I also like when someone just comes up to me when I'm out dancing or at an event, and just starts an interesting conversation. Not an awkward compliment, or asking to buy a drink. I like interesting conversations or joking ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:46 AM
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It's not my thing but I strongly disagree that women don't like baldness ever. As someone who knows many woman, I have known many who are turned on by baldness. I don't get it, but some women love bald guys. Usually big buff guys with shiny heads. It's a thing. They usually are into guys who are like, in charge and sure of themselves and yell. Like policemen, military, just giant and buff of unknown career choice, principals, Mr Clean. Most of them have been very...overtly sexual women of a cert…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:27 AM
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Reading through the comments and your replies I'm not entirely sure what kind or answer you are looking for. I think you're meaning, if a 10/10 is someone I see who is absolutely perfect with no flaws, how many flaws would I accept and still be into this person? I don't think I really have a 10/10. I can't imagine anyone that would be absolutely perfect, even an android built to my specifications would probably get on my nerves sometimes. I guess I could turn them off and put them in the closet …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:04 AM
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I don't super understand it either, but I enjoy reading people's opinions about it. I've never fallen in love and I've never had sex with someone I was really attracted to or felt some kind of "spark" or chemistry with, so it's usually painful or boring. I'd like to experience those things someday so I understand, but I don't think it would ever be as crazy important to me as it is some people. I do long for human connection, but I can fill it with friends and I don't really understand what you …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:55 AM
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Honestly same, I like the debate and reading different people's perspectives more than I actually think about dating irl. Dating irl is honestly pretty far down on my list of priorities lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:45 AM
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I was recently looking at old news articles and comics from the 1900s/1910s about first wave feminists from both pro and anti sides, some of them really could have been written today. Men turning into women. Women wanting to turn men into houseslaves or completely get rid of men, although less lesbian than later stuff lol. Women being too emotional to make choices. There's always been some extremists on both sides, of course more things from womens side as women have gotten more rights/independe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 09:18 AM
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I'm 27 and now. I wasn't ugly as a teenager but I was extremely socially awkward, and not in a cute shy way, so I didn't date much until after high school. In my early 20s I couldn't afford to do much besides work so I didn't meet very many people, and I was in a LTR for most of my early 20s and when I did go out it was usually with the person I was dating. Now I can afford to exist outside of work and I'm still socially awkward a lot of the time but I'm much more confident and happy so I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 10:48 AM
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1.) A good match mentally/physically: We are attracted to each other/have chemistry/get along and generally agree with eachother about major things/share values/similar intelligence and mindset/life goals that can coexist 2.) Is self sufficient and independent: can take care of themselves and do adult stuff, has a life outside of relationship, not super desperate to constantly be in a relationship, has friends and hobbies, takes care of their health relatively and life necessities. 3.) Has Ambit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 08:48 AM
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This person is literally posting the exact same posts over and over again. I think they have a bit of an obsession to say the least lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 02:58 PM
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I've been with men and women, and yeah basically. Attractiveness aside, personality wise and generally having your life together it's pretty even in my experience. I don't think the average person is an undateable mess, they're just not anything special. Most people are trying their best, working enough to pay the bills, have some trauma and mental health issues they may be doing a little to fix but probably not any deep therapy work that's going to make them their best self. They try to be a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:07 AM
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Honestly I'm bi and I somewhat agree, the average woman I see I find attractive but the average man I see I find unattractive, and it doesn't have so much to do with genetics as the way they present themselves. Most people aren't ugly, they just look unremarkable without a little effort. The way most women dress themselves, the condition of their skin and hair, etc is usually more attractive to me. I do find more than 1% of men attractive and I don't find every woman that isn't obese attractive,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:34 AM
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I'm curious, how would someone know whether the girl is low n or high n and how quickly she has had sex with prior partners? Is that something some people duscuss before dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:50 PM
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I dont. I've also never been asked my count and have never asked anyone, and nobody I've ever spoken about it in real life has ever been asked. Maybe it's just where I live but nobody seems to care. Usually I don't talk about sex I've had in the past with people I date. It's not that I don't believe there are people that care, of course there are, but I don't know that it's as many people as a lot of people think it is. In a small town where people get a "reputation" or something, I can see it b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 01:02 PM
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If you're interested, in my experience D&D has more women than things like Magic the Gathering. I've never played Magic but I've known people that did, and it definitely seemed like everyone in their group were dudes. And the card/game shop they hung out in, I was always the only girl when I was there. Where I live at least, D&D is a little more mixed. Things with more like, creativity, I guess? Seem to attract more women. D&D, LARPing, historical reenactment, kind of similar vein of "nerdy" hob…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 10:55 AM
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I've hit on guys at clubs before. They were always going all out dancing and having a great time. Even if someone isn't normally my type, seeing someone in their zone having fun not giving a damn is attractive. Going to clubs and lurking in the corners watching people looking like you're trying to single someone out to strike is not attractive. Everyone I've dated, it's because we met when we were both having fun doing something we enjoyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 10:39 AM
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I like to hear people's feelings. In fact, this subreddit is mostly people sharing their feelings back and forth, it's kind of the whole point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 10:27 AM
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I'm just gonna use the terms left and right for simplicity (the US meaning of left and right.) I lean left and live in an extremely left leaning area so I really don't have to think about it nowadays, most people I meet align with my main social and political views at least a fair amount. However, I grew up in a very right leaning area. I moved when I was like 20 so I didn't get a whole lot of dating in there, but when I met someone that aligned with my most important social/political views it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 10:19 AM
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Yes, I've gone a year or two without sex voluntarily, and I'd go longer. For me, hook up sex is almost always awkward, painful, boring, sometimes scary. A lot of them don't stop when you say no, do things you explicitly told them not to do. You have to find a person you're into that's into you, which is a whole extra step. Why would I do that instead of masturbating? No work or stress, no danger (well, unless you're into some weird shit,) and you don't have to deal with another person. I've only…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 01:23 PM
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