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What G4RRETT and machimus said. Then put the hot sauce on breakfast with a new woman the morning after. Laugh to yourself when you remember.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 11:02 AM
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Thanks for re-emphasizing the validity of my post.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/17 02:54 PM
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It might not be true with you, but I have found that most women who say they intimidate guys are actually just unpleasant to be around. You also have to do your own selection for men who actually want to spend time with you in the way you want. That's why a plate might leave over exclusivity. It's why I never tried with certain awesome women that are hunting for marriage and babies now. You never mentioned your sexual availability with men, which will absolutely play a role here. If you're going…
/r/askTRP10/03/17 12:43 PM
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I have tons more SMV You do realize that it is the market that determines market place value? That, by definition, you don't have more SMV. That someone like Trudeau might be virtue signalling to follow Rule 38 because it helps him win elections... because that is what politicians DO. You might make the argument that in a bar where no one knows about your respective careers, education, wealth, etc that you'd have a higher SMV. Potentially. But... given his apparent hobbies, etc -- I still think …
/r/TheRedPill10/03/17 12:14 PM
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Yes, Reddit is actually a good resource for this. Get yourself to /r/nofap and start the process. Read yourbrainonporn. You've essentially given your brain super-stimulus for years now. Train yourself that when you want to look at porn or masturbate to work on improving your SMV. Read, go for a walk, study a foreign language, combine the previous 2 with tapes, but make sure to manage the situation to where you don't have to think about PMO too much and don't have to rely on willpower to not fap.…
/r/askTRP04/07/16 01:58 PM
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Like many things, this appears to relate to how high your market value is. If you're low value, then by all means the game has changed. If you're high value, then it provides a "humanizing" element that makes you relateable. For example, the iconic picture of MJ after winning an NBA championship does not diminish his value in any meaningful sense. I don't think you cannot show your negative emotions, I think you must show her your mastery of your emotions and within the proper context. You shoul…
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 01:19 PM
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Didn't read anything but first paragraph. Then don't comment on it.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 06:45 PM
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Has your professor explained why?
/r/askTRP03/04/16 03:38 PM
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Remember, it is amused mastery. There's a playful element here, which you have in your text but you just have to relax. She's continuing to shit test / fitness test you by claiming she's taller. Doesn't matter. My easy to think of because I'm on the internet right now reply would be, "Yeah! You're like a midget amazon. Mark me down as scared & horny." with a playful nudge or "Oh, I know! exaggerated sad face"
/r/askTRP31/03/16 12:57 PM
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Friends, fun, and a hobby-ish thing. Showing you have friends is social proof and are not a rapist/murderer. Showing you can have fun means you'll actually be enjoyable to be around. Showing you have other interests means you're not going to weird after. Having reference points in your shots shows your height. For all we know you could be 5'6". To speak broadly and loosely.
/r/askTRP26/03/16 09:57 PM
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Follow up on male friendships: AoM: Joys and Difficulties of Making Friends in Adulthood AoM: 5 types of friends every man needs
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 08:27 PM
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I've looked over your comments some. Definitely continue with the books. Your dad needs to socialize with other people and have the resilience to stand on his own. Too often, men end up only having their wives as their social outlet, which brings everyone down. It also puts him in a position where if he loses his wife, he loses his entire social life -- an untenable situation. He needs to be able to go out with the guys and let off some steam, whether that is golf, hiking, billiards, volunteerin…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 07:49 PM
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Work on creating good habits as habits will make or break a man. The Habit Loop is a good book for understanding habits. I'd also read The Slight Edge for ways to push forward in the same vein. Bring your fashion game up to par as it will only help you and remember that dressing up and dressing well are very different things. Read more, read non-fiction, read the classics. I disagree about reading the newspaper as I find the content to be irrelevant or light due to the pace required in publishin…
/r/askTRP13/02/16 10:07 PM
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You don't even always have to be the best man in the room. Be the best available man AND the man who is clearly getting better. If you're the best man in the room, you need to upgrade. It can make one sad, but you have to leave people behind to get better. If I recall correctly, he's fallen out of favor with a lot of people here but Athol Kay's "Married Man Sex Life Primer" and "Mindful Attraction Plan" would be reasonable to read. Obviously, married RP is different but many of the principles ov…
/r/askTRP08/01/16 01:36 AM
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Checkout /r/nofap and /r/pornfree if you're having ED problems. If they continue, get checked at the doc. However, I've never had a relationship for more than a month or two and feel like I would slip back and become beta after getting comfortable and attached. How else would you learn how to continue to apply the lessons learned here within the context of a relationship other than in a relationship?
/r/askTRP05/01/16 10:59 PM
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I've seen this too -- I'm 28, last hookups have ranged from 22 - 26. Could have gone raw with all of them. Interestingly, more than one tried to just switch from couch blowjob to riding me -- without condoms mentioned.
/r/askTRP25/12/15 07:56 PM
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You're welcome. Glad I could help.
/r/askTRP13/12/15 02:59 PM
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Be slow in judging people. I've got a business mentor who is absolutely BB to his wife. However, he's almost certainly made more than anyone who frequents this subreddit. I can respect him for so many things that aren't being good with women, aren't being AF. He's built companies, helped many of us with our careers, and done excellent volunteer work. And to think that man isn't worthy of respect because his wife can sometimes just walk over him -- that's at best, moronic.
/r/askTRP13/12/15 12:29 AM
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Be more specific -- she helps you with girls, college, and makes you food? You need to do well in school, handle your business here. It is good practice for real life. Get into good work habits and part of that is collaboration and mutually beneficial relationships. She's helping you screw a bevy of chicks? Don't mess that up but do get another supply. Food? Just enjoy it. Riff on it by getting good at making cocktails and punch. Now you have a skill and natural social events to have fun and imp…
/r/askTRP11/12/15 06:00 AM
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I expected better in this sub.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 06:27 PM
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That is the same hot air he's spouting now, just a different flavor. Politico -- "Voters are drawn to Trump more for his I’ll-say-anything style than for his policy views. But a close inspection of Trump’s two published policy tomes, “The America We Deserve” (2000) and “Time To Get Tough” (2011), along with Trump’s public statements in interviews, on Twitter and in public appearances, indicate that Trump’s policy preferences are eclectic, improvisational and often contradictory." This is an inte…
/r/askTRP10/12/15 05:41 PM
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He literally has not, if you're discussing his political points. He's a great example of holding frame in the moment, that's it.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 05:29 PM
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Good points here. I've made the mistake of not understanding and paying attention to, "She's being a slut, the point is to not make her feel that way". A former sort of fwb / plate is now none of those things due to that.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 03:17 AM
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This is helpful, thank you. Agree on the emotional outburst & validation -- I was more surprised by it than anything. Different kind of BB push than I'm used to. I ran into her at Starbucks & said my version of the wine thing. She wants to come over when I get back in town from a work trip & bake christmas cookies. We'll see.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 01:10 AM
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Hey, I know how you feel. It seems all the events of my childhood conspired to make me one blubbery beta bitch. I feel very lucky my instincts remained and I am re-training my reactions to be more in line with my nature.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/15 03:09 AM
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I'm a fan of BJJ. Very little McDojo culture. Progress and promotions come in excruciating increments, because everyone can trace their lineage and many of the tree are still alive (Helio Gracie died in 2009). We all know people who have a black belt in tae kwan do... and know that it means nothing because promotions come easily. If you're going to do MMA, check to see if the gym produces people who fight successfully in competition.
/r/askTRP14/11/15 10:05 PM
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Atheist who was raised Catholic and had all Catholic schooling, except for some courses taken after my bachelors. In the same way, I must see reality as it is. I cannot be happy any other way.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/15 02:50 AM
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Okay dude, calm way down about this. We have some common elements in our upbringing. You're starting a journey that takes time. Remember, this takes time. Rome was not built in a day, you were not trained in a day, and you'll change your habits in a day. Have you read /r/theredpill side bar? If not, do so first. If so, I'd suggest "Models" by Mark Manson. Honesty and directness has natural variety, just walking up to a girl without any context and telling her you want to fuck her is not a behavi…
/r/askTRP27/10/15 02:29 AM
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But try for IMAX & Climax
/r/askTRP27/10/15 02:12 AM
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I don't know your monetary situation but for more social gym time, try going to workout classes, martial arts classes, group bike rides, etc. I work remotely some times as well. Make a point of getting out of the house on a weekly basis -- preferably daily. Coffee shop, library, someone else's office, I don't care. Sitting at home all day creates an inertia and you're constantly exposed to distractions.
/r/askTRP12/10/15 05:23 PM
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You're using her as a crutch. We've all done it, I did it, but we should all learn to stand on our own. Your job forces you to work in isolation -- what kind? Like your tasks are your own OR you're a park ranger who sees no one else all day? I work a ton, I feel you on the complication and demands. Bluntly, you have to make a social life non-negotiable. If she is your only social life, you're going to decay as a person and in her eyes which can only lead to problems. I put my time at the gym and…
/r/askTRP12/10/15 03:43 PM
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I tend to agree. One can ask questions to draw out ridiculous responses. However, one must be careful to be like a matador here and combine law 38 with law 48, assume formlessness. It is very likely that if you make assertions, you can get nailed on something here. Make no assertions, play the fool and make them justify their positions -- "I don't understand why you're asserting women should have safe spaces but male safe spaces are inherently wrong. What specifically makes it such that men shou…
/r/askTRP12/10/15 03:14 PM
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The right person at the wrong time is still the wrong choice. I went through the same situation, we broke up about something extremely similar. It will suck, but I cannot imagine a way to more clearly start to resent each other than being stuck in that situation, divided every morning over breakfast, every weekend over dates, every month over bills.
/r/askTRP12/10/15 02:47 PM
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You can practice being more courageous. Art of Manliness can be silly, but some of the content is is pretty strong. Also, it is unreasonable to expect perfection or to capitalize on every opportunity. You're not feeling confident in those situations because you're new at them and don't have to compete (limited people and limited age range). I compete with guys from early 20s through their 50s for women... you'll get there too and if you pay attention you'll be a lot more prepared than I was.
/r/askTRP11/10/15 09:39 PM
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This is a great example of why I like the point Alex Social hammers home over & over, "There's no reason I'm not enough". There may be many things that can make life & seduction easier, but we are inherently enough.
/r/seduction11/10/15 02:57 PM
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fnordsnord is right that the strongest play is to demonstrate that is doesn't work at all. While I cannot commiserate about this specifically, you could try something back like, "Yeah, I'm short. Shorty. Shaawwwty. Don't care!" and move on. If she continues on, try something like, "As much as you love talking about me, I do as well, let's move back to [previous topic]." If she keeps on still, you might try, "Okay okay, you've worn me down. We can talk about annoying girls who harp on a single su…
/r/askTRP18/09/15 02:53 PM
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I agree with much of what has been said here. However, I can't help but think that nothing will ever supplant actually fucking a woman (particularly a woman you care for, a woman you want to make a baby with, but digress). Battle simulators could never replace battle. Fake sex will always be missing something. Whether its passionate love or rough domination, it just won't fully compare. Call me a Luddite, but I hope it stays that way.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/15 01:00 AM
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I went with this approach. I keep pretty active and blocked some time on my calendar for an afternoon / evening with her. I think the "take her out" approach (which will be fun) combined with the allocating some specific time for her should do the trick.
/r/askTRP13/09/15 12:56 PM
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Understand the concept of behavioral addiction -- pornography, fapping, video games, television, mindless surfing on the web. More than anything, this has been your primary impediment to being the man you want to be and living the life you want to live. Taking the easy, low flow of dopamine made and can make your life into a comfortable hell which will take you years to escape. Trust your instincts about reality. Work on creating good habits for yourself: paleo diet, flossing, creating & followi…
/r/askTRP25/08/15 06:57 PM
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Don't listen to what people say, watch what they do.
/r/askTRP25/08/15 06:42 PM
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Don't worry about people thinking you've got a small dick, no one remotely adult (or ready to have sex) are going to be gossiping about that. Just don't overreact & lose frame (stereotype of the guy worried). How old are you? She's trying to get a rise out of you and she's succeeding. She wants attention and tension. Don't give it to her. An exaggerated sigh with a disappointed, bored stare will get the point across. Then change your attention to other people. If she persists, just say, "Girl, y…
/r/askTRP24/08/15 11:09 PM
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In a different way, I too had some of the aggression trained out of me. Give it time, TRP and just being aware of it is okay. Understand that you're going to lose and take damage in these conflicts which will activate your meek and submissive training both at the start of and after the incident. You might try getting into martial arts, I do BJJ. I recommend trying arts used in competition (UFC, Vale Tudo) for utility and for authenticity. TKD & Karate have benefits, no doubt, but there's no subs…
/r/askTRP24/08/15 02:52 PM
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Just own it and relax with it -- it is important to remember that just because you're holding frame / doing what you love / etc it does not necessarily follow that a particular woman will be as/more attracted to you.
/r/askTRP24/08/15 02:37 PM
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I'm not sure I understand what you're asking. If you're asking, "will I continue to question my worth? manliness? abilities?" then, maybe you will but that is likely due to continually raising the bar. If you're asking, "I think I'm a kind of bad person and don't deserve to be better" then I'd reply, "If you became better a better man, wouldn't he deserve it?" Fundamentally, I don't understand what "deserve" has to do with it. Maybe some people understand calculus more naturally and with less wo…
/r/askTRP19/08/15 12:54 AM
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I agree many people here posture and rant on things they have little experience with. You just sound sound like one of them and really have only acted like a fussy child in this comment section.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/15 11:38 PM
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Yes, well, bully for you for figuring out your life so well so soon. The scenario you purport sets up the conversation like Dwayne Wade talking to a regular guy about getting better at basketball. Perhaps what might work for "a motherfuckingalpha" might not work for someone who has different inherent qualities and different life experiences. I'd have thought a university professor would have picked up on all of this, given the supposed inherent intelligence requirements and the life experience o…
/r/TheRedPill18/08/15 11:23 PM
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I don't think it is wrong to ask people for help when you genuinely need help and want to change. Whining for sympathy, expecting them to push you through it, is a problem -- but admitting you have a problem, planning an attack, and then working to overcome it is the essence of self improvement.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 06:19 PM
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I have to agree with niczar on AA -- they do not measure and improve the process. The best estimates they have pale in comparison to modern treatment centers.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 06:13 PM
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Cognitive dissonance -- basically you don't see yourself as the guy you're becoming. Give it time. As you continue to "act as the man you want to be" and "have the commensurate results" you will begin to see yourself differently. An important caveat -- you are going to fail at something in a drastic/public/embarrassing/surprising way. This happens, don't let it revert you to an unconfident state. Just keep longer term frame and continue to act as the man you want to be. Enough of that and you li…
/r/askTRP18/08/15 06:11 PM
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You're wrong that it not something that men do. Many wealthy & powerful men dress well and have office events. Dress well, not up but well, chat with people, don't make a deal about leaving early even if you do leave early. An important part of advancing your career is being someone who people could see you as part of their social circle. You don't have to be in it, but you do have to be a peer of sorts. Think of this as a time to improve your standing and practice your charisma.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 06:07 PM
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I think back to something I read when studying options trading -- "market goes up, market goes down, we'll make money". Even if I stipulate we can quantify the interaction, I'm not convinced one must "consistently win". I'm happy to let the lower level employees I deal with rag on me about little details (spelling errors, whatever) as it makes the relationship easier when I give them professional criticisms. We have a give & take, shows we can work together with camaraderie and I'll hear them. I…
/r/TheRedPill16/08/15 07:20 PM
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Interesting post. If you keep doing what you are doing, I believe you will start to identify the changes. This video might help. Also, do you watch porn? Because if so, you might want to stop for a while as it is not at all representative of anatomy and might be messing with your mind some. If nothing else, it is a waste of time you could be improving yourself, chasing the real thing, or getting some rest which might help you feel better.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 02:25 AM
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Something that has helped me, consider all of these interactions practice where either you succeed OR you get more comfortable with gaming. It can be a tough mindset to get into, but really it is a no lose situation and helps one relax.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 12:14 PM
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Thank you very much for this reply, it resonates with me. I think the survivor guilt type feeling fuels the fear that without the anger, I won't truly change and will relapse into behaviors and beliefs I find unsatisfying.
/r/askTRP02/08/15 01:40 AM
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Thanks. My only worry is that without fully tapping into my anger, I won't reach my potential. But you're right, don't divert focus from improvement without reason.
/r/askTRP01/08/15 02:04 AM
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I'm glad to hear it. Now we just need to keep on keeping on, which given my experience so far will be the easy part!
/r/askTRP01/08/15 02:00 AM
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Yes, I never had any huge, discrete pain come from a girl (though I now I know how to handle all the other crap). I've broken up with every serious gf I've had either because I no longer cared for them or we had differing life beliefs which wouldn't have worked for marriage. I was lucky in that those girls were perfect TRP wife types, in spite of my own ignorance and our own fundamental disagreements (theology). I guess... I'm just uneasy in that I see things that I should feel angry about but o…
/r/askTRP01/08/15 01:59 AM
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I know what you're getting at, but the Gracie Family disagrees. And that's only one example.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/15 11:31 PM
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I work at a startup, have founded my own holding company on the side for other ventures, one of which I'm currently building and another which we're looking into the legal rights for. So... there's that... which is exciting but not interesting to other people for very long. It is kind of like being a banker or lawyer except the money isn't as good yet and I don't hate myself. Otherwise, crossfit, golf, football fan, read non-fiction, cooking/foodie, failing to learn Spanish, and just generally l…
/r/seduction14/09/14 02:09 PM
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I'm redoing my place so I've been thinking about this a fair amount recently. All else aside, cleanliness is paramount. It depends on the rest of your place and if you have roommates. If you have a great tv setup in your living room and live alone, then the a great bedroom tv has marginal value. Solid wifi always wins though. Oh, and a trashcan for the used equipment.
/r/seduction14/09/14 01:56 PM
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Yes, that would imply that. The earlier decisions to equalize payout by the US Open, Australian Open, and Roland Garros would imply that conclusion false. Shorter matches with higher costs / time for advertising could easily offset that. People may not want to pay as much to see shorter matches in person but would be more inclined to watch the ladies play live on tv. There are a ton of variables here and nothing concrete to say that women should be payed less as they rightfully are in basketball…
/r/MensRights13/03/12 04:23 PM
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Where in that rambling article does it actually revenues? It has an unsourced quote and citations that do not actually support what it supposedly paraphrased. It isn't about who is the best, it is about who is bringing in the money.
/r/MensRights12/03/12 09:32 PM
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Funny that you make claims but do not provide evidence to back them up and instead use "well supported anecdotes". Also, you focus on "equal pay, less work, means more pay for equal work" when the relevant idea is "pay for value delivered". If the payment is based upon the amount of work, rather than the value delivered, then it would logically follow that if a champion didn't drop a set the entire tournament that the payout should be less. Men's doubles would warrant the same pay as the men's s…
/r/MensRights12/03/12 09:20 PM
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Men's final comes last because of tradition and rest scheduling. It doesn't seem like the men's play necessarily brings in more top or bottom line than the women's play anymore -- and those are the lines which pay should be based upon. 2001 discussion when they pushed for it 2006 article In November 2006, Scott was invited to meet with club officials to discuss the pay issue again. He presented statistics showing the strength and popularity of the women’s Tour, including television ratings, spon…
/r/MensRights12/03/12 08:11 PM
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I would understand and accept if from a ratings standpoint -- at that time IIRC the women were bringing in better TV ratings (and presumably advertising dollars) than the men. At that point, regardless of the level and duration of play, they should be making commensurate money.
/r/MensRights12/03/12 04:30 PM
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