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Big klavan vibes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:34 AM
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I highly doubt this woman is actually ugly. It’s so sad what men will manipulate women into thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:25 PM
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This. One thing I have learned during my time around high percentages of men is that the “few bad apples” mindset is a fallacy. When I was being sexually harassed by a FEW men, the majority of them did not care. Furthermore, the reason I became more vehemently against slut-shaming was not because I think excessive promiscuity is ok, but instead because I learned that men will try to convince others that a woman is promiscuous specifically so that they can justify subjecting her to abuse. I was s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 08:16 PM
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Not that his behavior is excusable but he seems to struggle and act irrationally when facing higher levels of stress. The baby is simply a stress factor. Similar behavior can be observed in most men who don’t handle stress well. Vet for ability to stay calm under tough circumstances
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:24 PM
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“It is hard to believe that there are people out there that would behave in this way, especially when you yourself would never behave like this.” Yes, I know. This was my exact point in the first place when it comes to certain males. Some of them genuinely are good people that don’t understand how more insidious males operate. I didn’t understand the mindset behind toxic females or pick-mes for the vast majority of my life either. If men are willing to talk about things and genuinely think and l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:36 AM
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I personally have found that those with truly bad intentions tend justify bad behavior whereas a lot of times, that so-called “dismissal” is a genuine lack of understanding. It shouldn’t be our job to educate however I’m willing to, simply because at any given time any person with morals and a life plan has multiple ideal logical battles to fight. Feminism and the fight for equal rights is one of mine and it’s an important one, however it is far from the only one. If I dismissed every person who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:29 PM
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Thank you for engaging in these conversations with those who are politically different than you but still share common ground. There are good people of many walks of life who simply disagree or lack understanding. The main communication barrier that I find with many conservative men is that a lot of them hear our complaints of extreme low-value men and think “well that’s not how it should be and I would never treat a woman like that, so therefore it can’t be that common” when in reality most wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:48 PM
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Surely you understand that affection through parenting for legal minors is COMPLETELY different than romantic affection for legal adults. If not, then you may be looking for a mommy bang maid instead of an actual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 08:02 PM
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Ladies, if you are healthy and doing what’s right for your body, then you shouldn’t give a damn when men have something negative to say. I take health and fitness very seriously, and I am shaped in a way that is considered conventionally attractive but I am not thin. Let me tell you, in my experience it is ALWAYS the ugly scrotes that have something to say about your weight or what you eat. Many men genuinely like thin women, however it is still typical for them to portray this in a respectful w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:17 PM
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This is a case where 2 things can be true at once. There is significant evidence that females mature faster than males and it is not entirely due to social conditioning because we can observe it with physical maturity as well as emotional and mental. However it is also wrongly used as an excuse to allow males to behave absolutely HORRIBLY. There is a difference between “immaturity” and acting like a spoiled brat. These teachers should be reprimanded and eventually fired if they continue to jeopa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:10 PM
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Often times, low value people are attracted to other low value people. Other times you will see good people with bad people because those bad people either hid their bad traits or disguised them as good traits. The important thing to note is that this behavioral pattern you witnessed does not apply to most women and the women who it does apply to are often not in the best mental or spiritual place. If you’re truly worried that being “too nice” will make you appear soft or boring then just make s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:49 AM
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This is a type of controlling behavior. Any adult who truly loves food THAT much would be cooking and shopping to contribute. There’s just no excuse for his behavior and using the daughters to guilt trip his wife is just adding insult to injury. This man is not redeemable, he is a fucking pig to be taking from his wife and daughters like that. The easy fix upon eating all their food would be for HIM to order takeout from the restaurant and have it ready for his wife after she worked till fucking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:19 PM
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My good friend is 6'3-6'4 and as he has turned into just about the sweetest guy ever. We are 22 now. He used to be a bit more on edge because he had an inferiority complex about being very thin and gangly. He was never mean or toxic but was visibly insecure with himself. As he grew up, he put on muscle and filled out a bit and now hes around 190lbs. Talk about an absolute teddy bear. One of the reasons we are so close is because of how genuinely supportive he is when I talk about my goals and pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:11 PM
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This is such a mood. I'm in the millitary so it's not like I dont value fitness but a lot of people, especially women, just aren't meant to be super lean. Similar to a lot of other females, I have a pretty normal upper body, but large legs and have been shamed/criticized so much for it, which blows my mind lmao. Body shaming in general is bad, but imagine shaming a woman for having hips...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:26 AM
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I completely agree with your line of thought. I think that it's important to be healthy, however I also wish people were more realistic about what "healthy" can look like. I'm 5'7 with a lot of muscle and at 170 pounds I still have a flat belly. I feel incredible and I dont really want to lose weight because I dont even get regular periods if I drop below 160.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:49 PM
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Yes, but I learned a lot about low value men from him and today my confidence is higher than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:26 AM
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This "unnatractive men are less likely to be mean or abusive" stigma needs to fucking DIE. For SO MANY reasons. First of all, almost nobody is saying to only date chiseled 6-pack guys with perfect faces, and it's not wrong for women to seek men who they have a baseline level of attraction for. And no it's not a high standard. I find the vast majority of men in my age group who are taller than me, physically fit, and have decent hygiene to be somewhat attractive. Second of all, it victim blames w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:51 PM
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Oh my god, I was literally sexually harassed and bullied by 3 men for 4 months straight at one point. Regularly called fat, a slut, etc. The second I started firing back by mocking their height, bad skin, ugly features, small dick somehow I was the bad guy lmao because "oh you can control your weight, but we can't control that we're short." Keep in mind that I have an athletic build and a perfectly healthy body fat percentage so there is quite literally NO REASON WHY I should even have to lose w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:59 PM
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If you're fit and healthy then you deserve a partner who is too. Plain and simple. Personally, I dont mind if he has a little extra chub, but overall fitness is a must. Dated a fat, out of shape guy once and it was a huge mistake. He had no respect for himself or others, deliberately made me insecure, and wouldn't encourage me at all when I would pursue self improvement. Compare that to one of my HVM friends who keeps himself in shape and despite being just a friend has consistently encouraged m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:11 PM
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This whole thing would seem a bit more reasonable if ANY of his concerns involved the men feeling guilt over sleeping with a child.....but no, if it was legal a lot of them would do it all the time without second thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:47 PM
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Too much. The thing is that I try to give everybody a fair chance at first so if I'm approached by a guy, I cant always tell what he's like right off the bat. Plus men will often lie about what they want if they're extremely attracted to a specific female.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 05:16 PM
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Thank you so much! And yes I do have quite a bit of muscle. Honestly I'm very happy with the size I'm at, I just understand that a lot of women often prefer to be a bit smaller and more petite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:21 AM
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Thank you for linking the study!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:06 AM
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Thanks so much for the advice! I've started doing it a little bit without even realizing, just because it's nice to hear when other people think the guys are liars and assholes too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:40 PM
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Honestly that makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the wisdom 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:24 PM
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AND they shame women who are on it. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:20 PM
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I wish. They still are bizarrely obsessed with me. It was wierd. They talk about me CONSTANTLY even though I actively avoid them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:15 PM
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Omg yes! They start accusing me of "getting out of everything" when in reality I'm just trusted because I work harder and longer and know more. Seriously, I go in earlier, always study up and just generally outperform them. But sure I "get out of everything"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:13 PM
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Oh yes, a healthy sense of humor is MANDATORY in my field. I dont mind jokes. But the guys I was having issues with were taking it a few steps too far in person and then actively spreading lies about me behind my back to create an unsafe work environment for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:11 PM
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Thank you! Much love 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:39 PM
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Yeah...less sensitive when it's caring about others lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:58 PM
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Lmao thanks. It has its pros and cons. I'm strong but I'm also a bit "big" for lack of better words. Im not exactly plus sized and my midsection is pretty small, but I'm still about 170 pounds at 5'7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:57 PM
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You are very correct about TRP and dark triad. However, where I disagree is that jnstead of acting colder to the other gender, these days I personally don't recommend dating anybody you dont already know and trust. Male or female. The thing is that in the context of a long term relationship, a lot of men like providing for the woman and a lot of women like feeling taken care of. This includes things like the men paying for dates and holding the door and in return, the woman provides numerous oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 04:04 AM
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Yeah the milder aspects of red pill philosophy arent all bad or wrong. Men and women ARE different, and acknowledging that isnt wrong. But the movement genuinely has a TON of men who just straight up hate women. Some of them have genuinely had bad experiences. Others are just so entitled they THINK they've had it bad but in reality they're just psychotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:41 AM
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My type is very sweet, smart and morally strong guys that want marriage and kids. What I attract is fuckboys
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:11 AM
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I completely agree. And "Baggage" isnt always bad if you learn from it and improve beyond it. And you are right. Not many women under 25 have the same maturity unless they are millitary, and even then....I'm 22 and while I'm still a bit immature, but some of my peers are just ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:39 AM
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Then this doesnt really apply then, does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:36 PM
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Chances are, you went for decent ones right from the bat. Good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:33 PM
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Let me guess. You aren't married.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:36 PM
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Lmaooooo AS IF men don't fuck a certain type but marry a different type when they settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:14 PM
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Every so often a premature ejaculation is bound to happen. Especially in younger men with low body counts. I'm not gonna be a bitch. But if its constant, he just has shitty self control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:41 AM
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It's not "what it looks like". Its what's happening. I regularly turn down men I think are physically attractive if their attitude is off-putting or if our morals dont align. I barely care about money. At all. I literally joined the poorest US millitary branch because I literally dont care about material wealth so long as I can afford food, internet and a gym membership.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 01:50 AM
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Oh so when YOU observe human behavior its accepted and scientific but when I do it its an "anecdote" and not helpful for discussion lmao. Okayyyy dude. Many people everywhere frequently observe people "dating down" lookswise. The dual mating strategy quite literally only applies to gold diggers. I'm an attractive, young, financially independent female and I'm primarily looking for a guy that shares my morals, and hobbies, treats me right, and wants the same things I do in life. Most of my friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:58 PM
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Well neither is a study specific to dating apps, which is where those 80-20 "rules" come from.... I understand the complaints about hook-up culture, but contrary to popular beliefs most young women really aren't that into it. Red pill even admits it. The reason tinder girls have unreachable standards is because there are so many more men using those sites for sex. So tell me why exactly THEY are somehow representative of the whole female population.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:04 PM
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Lmao AS IF decent people of both genders don't regularly date below their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 05:50 PM
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This is possible, but even then it still shouldnt be a "very small percentage." While I agree that obesity is bound to make people unattractive I also frequently see men refer to fairly normal sized women as fat because they expect a supermodel and view chubby girls as what should be easy sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 12:08 PM
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Well yes, those specific men are just bad men but I'm not about to lump them in with a guy who occasionally watches porn because hes desperate and lonely. He shouldn't do it. But he doesnt realize the effects its having on him or that's its changing the way he views women. He isnt even considering the harm he's doing to the women IN the videos because in his mind hes simply watching a video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:37 AM
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If you're relatively young, and you think only a "very small percentage" of single women your age AREN'T fat, then you either aren't looking for women in the right places, or your definition of "fat" is a bit too extensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 12:35 AM
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Most people aren't attracted to people in an unhealthy extreme. It usually isn't hatred, it's just preference and biology. Also, most fit people are disheartened by extremely out of shape people in general. As for women who are chubby or thicc but not unhealthily so, a lot of narcissiatuc guys are sexually frustrated by the fact that they're attracted to them even though they don't obsessively diet. I've always been athletic, but as I grew into adulthood I put on weight, but developed a somewhat…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:12 PM
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I don't hate them, nor do I hate the customers. I simply think both are very misguided. The attitude throughout society for a very long time has been "if its consensual to all parties involved then it can't be morally wrong." This ideology makes sense for legal reasoning, but is deeply flawed in terms of other ethics. Things that can directly damage self and indirectly damage society are still problematic and should be criticized accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:32 PM
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I don't think you understand the definition of a pick me... it isnt about something petty like who pays for dates. I like a lot of aspects of FDS and I still will gladly put money into a guy if he's worth my time and energy and I want to treat him. A pick-me is a girl who caters to male attention so much, she fakes personality, values, etc for male attention and actively puts down other women because she inherently views other females as threats. The mark of a pickme is not that she pays for dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 10:45 AM
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Once again, individual historical occurences of women being allowed to do things does not excuse the much broader accounts of women not. Until you understand that we cannot have a civil or conducive conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 11:38 PM
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You suddenly care about geographical context and limit the focus of interest to the US. Do you really want to bring other, non western countries into this? Do you WANT to talk about the treatment of women in the middle east, because I will GLADLY do that. I mainly mentioned the inventions of women in the western world in recent history because those tend to be the ones that made the largest difference. And I brought up the US because the US has had a fairly decent track record compared to the mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 09:42 PM
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That article literally admits that she was the originator of the idea that machines could generate more than just numbers and symbols, but also genuine code and she verified it through the bernoulli system. The bernoulli system was the first computer program Even if the article considers her colleague to be the first computer programmer instead of her, her contribution is still extremely important. That exact article literally calls her a visionary.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 09:15 PM
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The first woman to receive a medical degree in the US achieved it in 1821, 1879 was the first year women were allowed to practice law in the US, hell we didn't even get to vote until around 1920. These are clean cut laws. Linking a few articles that question whether or not some women may have owned property for a short while in the middle ages doesn't disregard entire HISTORY BOOKS worth of evidence of discrimination.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 08:56 PM
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Sure man, continue to just say I'm wrong without providing any actual argument. Seems fitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 07:53 PM
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made up excuses I'm beyond speechless lmao. I clearly outlined what women had contributed in recent years when we gradually gained more rights, then pointed out that we LEGALLY WERE NOT ALLOWED TO CONTRIBUTE very much in the past and that's a "made up excuse." Lol ok buddy. Death and imprisonment just didnt exist I guess. And let's face it, the past decade of radical anti-feminist content isnt a particularly strong argument as many of them, like you, realized that low quality men benefit when wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 07:30 PM
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No? Everybody has urges but most people can keep it under wraps.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:36 PM
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While women did nothing but coming up with excuses on why they do nothing. Hmmm that's wierd...in the short time in history in which women have been ALLOWED to pursue an education, own property, vote, etc (you know, basic human rights) they have contributed quite a few noteworthy advancements including Kevlar, more effective life rafts, residential solar heating, the modern medical syringe, the first published computer algorithm (ada lovelace), and wireless transmission technology. It's really n…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:34 PM
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I dont think either gender is INNATELY morally inferior, however if you look at the course of human history it would appear that men have behaved far worse. Pull from that whatever conclusion you will, my point is simply that if you still don't actually care about women and simply pretend to, then of course the goal posts will continue to shift.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:48 PM
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So its impossible for you to have females that are JUST friends because you're attracted to qualities like cooking?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:04 PM
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-yes. I do like having some male friends because many males are good people with similar interests to me -our friendship is an even effort -I buy the food or alcohol sometimes when we hang out and they do the same for me. I listen to their problems and give them advice -i imagine I'm like a sister to them or like their other male friends It's not a hard concept
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:09 PM
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It's kind of crazy to me how men find this concept so difficult. If this is your belief it usually means one of two things: you don't seek friendships based on common interests, humor, liking people's personality, etc or your brain is so sexually wired that it interferes with your day to day life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 02:34 PM
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I promise you if that's something that you're commonly running into, then you need to pursue different types of women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 02:04 PM
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Let me explain it like this. A parent has 2 children. One is a spoiled brat that constantly deliberately throws tantrums, breaks things, hits the other, verbally bullies the other, and never does anything they are asked. The other child is a typical, decently behaved child. Eventually the parent decides to discipline the other when it breaks things and hits things but this child still throws tantrums, verbally bullies the other, and never does what they are told. And yet parent acts like the chi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 02:01 PM
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And yet you expect an award for not being an alcoholic wife-beater...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 12:03 PM
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I don't take a damn thing for granted. If I choose to become romantically involved with a guy, I absolutely spoil him because I want to, and because I find it fulfilling. That being said, why would a girl like me ever waste energy on a man who's morally lacking? Who doesnt even actually care about me, and only does the societally established minimum to make it SEEM like he cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:06 AM
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Fine by me. I get my pick of men and I tend to find ones with a sense of morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 12:21 AM
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You either fucking care or you don't lol. It's literally not my job to teach empathy to a sociopath.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 12:15 AM
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And women initiating divorce occurs most often when a man loses his job. That's not caring about him, but about his money Correlation does not equal causation. If a guy lost his job and has no other viable career options there is more going on. Addiction, laziness, legal issues etc. Also, stress brings out the bad in people. Abusive people arent abusive 24/7. They're toxic traits often come out when stressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 11:08 PM
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And yet women are statistically FAR more likely to stay in a marriage when their partner falls critically ill than vice versa. What exactly is YOUR definition of caring? That 70% could simply indicate that men tend to be poor partners and women are sick of it. This is also backed up by the fact that married men live longer than single men, yet the opposite is true for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 10:46 PM
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There will always be toxic and fake women. I'm not saying there aren't. But as a general rule, yes. We really do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 10:38 PM
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It's all projection and laziness. He doesnt recognize women as people worthy of respect to the point in which he'd rather replace them with robots. Therefore, he proposes this ideal as an impossibility so he doesnt have to take moral accountability for his lack of human decency.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 08:42 PM
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A lot of y'all still dont actually care. You just pretend to. And women have caught on. It really is that simple. The standard for feigning empathy, hygiene and basic morality wouldn't keep shifting if you just genuinely embraced and understood those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 06:32 PM
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The key is to master relaxing and stretching as well as tightening. A lot of fit women, especially distance runners experience discomfort or even incontinence because their pelvic floor is too tight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 08:59 PM
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It is a possibility, but it's just a type of muscle injury. Overly tight pelvic floor is a real thing which is why the science of HOW to do kegels has slightly changed. It's not a lie, it's just a reason to make sure you're doing them right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 04:33 PM
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Alright man. Just don't turn around and bitch about chameleons or AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:28 PM
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....you realize that pickmes are the FDS word for chameleons, right? They aren't putting in the effort out of love for a partner, they're doing it desperately for attention. So yes the term is often thrown around by women who want to put in no effort at all, but what they get wrong is that the defining characteristic of a pickme is that she is fake. She doesn't actually love you, she just wants things out of you and is essentialy simping for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 05:32 AM
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There are many different types and levels of "pickmes" however their defining trait is that they change and mold themselves specifically for male attention. This is why they are trash. They are not true to their actual beliefs r personality and many of them put other women down in the process. It's a good strategy for getting A guy, but not the best strategy for getting a good guy, and it's a strategy that will never ever find you "the one". Real relationships require real behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 05:15 AM
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Because I'm early 20s I still keep an open mind about students but it's an absolute must that they have a good work ethic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:00 PM
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I can imagine. A size 00 at 5'7 isnt just slim, it's an unhealthy extreme. I dont doubt for a second that you attracted a lot of toxic or even abusive men. Preferences are all fine and good, but most normal men are attracted to most females in a healthy weight range. I'm completely fine with a guy not finding me attractive. What I don't like is when a sexually frustrated man takes his angst out on me. And I've noticed a very strong pattern with the type of men who call me fat and it's not the on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:42 PM
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This is very true. I think these particular men weren't so much worried about "what would the bros think" as they are just desperate to trash women and act like none were good enough for them. Ironic because most of the guys are pretty ugly. In marine corps, truly fat people are fairly uncommon but they still need to use their "fat girl" jokes on somebody I guess. Makes them feel better about their micropenis lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:28 PM
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Anybody else feel like most men who only like either very lean or very thin women are walking red flags? I'm a fit girl but I am also very "thicc". I have a healthy body fat percentage but am still softer than most athletes. I have a flat stomach and small waist with huge thighs, hips and butt and I'm a 34 DDD. I work hard on my body as far as excercise goes, but I've always been a big eater. I look good, but at 5'7 I weigh in at nearly 170 pounds. Some men are ASSHOLES to me and it goes deeper …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:08 AM
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I honestly don't agree with everything posted in this sub and that's ok. I agree with the overlying philosophy so I'm ok with having different viewpoints or standards and still tuning in. I really don't understand why it gets so much hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:18 AM
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Please explain what is so toxic about FDS philosophy. No I don't agree with every single post on the subreddit, but there will always be toxic individuals that don't define the whole group. They openly embrace men who exhibit good moral qualities and are good to their partner. I don't get upset or feel attacked when men hold women to the same standards, so how come when we put certain boundaries in place or hold men to a standard its viewed as "toxic"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 10:37 AM
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Nah man. I literally want a guy who wants the same thing as me (marriage and kids) who cares about me, isn't toxic, has similar interests as me, and has sound morals and character. My standards are pretty high, but I'm far from a leech.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:51 PM
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Ok dude lmao. All I'm going to say is if you're a decent guy then you shouldn't be offended by that stuff because it isnt about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:12 PM
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You are quite wrong. The "Roast a scrote" tag is almost entirely used for humor and is not used to define all men. They already know it's not all men. The entire term "scrote" is literally a parody of the incel insult based on female genetalia: "roasties". And again. Low value isnt describing all men. Just men who are in fact low value. I don't really understand what's so inflammatory about that. I can't speak for everybody on the sub but I also understand that women are not perpetually the vict…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:44 PM
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You'll have bitter people in any movement, but as a whole the philosophy itself really isn't. Its helped me recognize toxic behaviors in other people both male and female in time to cut them out of my life. My relationships both romantic and not, are important to me and FDS has helped me build confidence and recognize narcissistic behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:04 PM
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"If women didn't have pussies, they'd be hunted for sport" Is probably the first one that comes to mind. I really don't care much if a joke truly is just a joke, my point is that you have to apply that standard equally.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 06:58 PM
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I understand the point, but your caricatures are a bit odd to me because most people either have their life together or they dont. What I mean is that in real life theres a lot of the Guy #1 types who wants a family and wife, and theres a lot of guy #2 who aren't boring because they put their future first, they're just boring period. I personally wouldn't pursue a relationship or "fuck" either lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 04:15 PM
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There really isn't anything so terrible about FDS. Yes, every once in a while you get a toxic person or post but that's about it. A lot of the comments that seem nasty or cruel is truly just humor. TRP men literally joke about genocide, rape and murder and say "calm down, you cant take a joke", but let a woman make a joke about a balding man and its "look at these heartless bitches". Another main reason that I don't view FDS as being toxic at all compared to a lot of subs in the manosphere is be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 04:08 PM
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It's pretty simple. Your partner should be in tuned to what you want and what you need. Expensive clothes and jewelry aren't it for me personally. I just want a man who fucking cares. For example, I work out a lot and therefore have a big appetite so a guy buying me food is a small gesture that means a lot because he is in tuned to my needs. I have male friends who brought me chocolate because I mentioned that I was on my period. They weren't "simping" or trying to get with me. They were just be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:53 PM
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I suppose that would depend entirely on what the university education is in. Also, does this other man know a trade? I don't scorn degrees, but I also appreciate self education and trade school. If the other man only appears super smart but has nothing to show for it then yes I would prefer the man with some type of formal education. Not because I'm attracted to the degree itself, but because I'm attracted to dedication and intellect and a degree is often a testament to that. Especially a STEM d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:09 AM
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I didn't say degree. I said education. Large difference. I also do not yet have a degree but am halfway through one for mechanical engineering. And while I do not equate education with intellect, there are also men who quite literally say "i do not care about a womans intellect" so my argument still stands. Also your argument is a bit off because any truly intelligent and curious person will pursue some type of higher EDUCATION, formal or informal. Not only am I halfway through a degree, I am al…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 11:26 PM
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And my entire point is that you don't speak for all men, just the shitty ones that I've learned to avoid. Lets face it. Intellect is probably something you should appreciate if you are choosing a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 10:13 PM
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(and again, it is so, so disappointing that you didn't get this Be honest. You're just dissapointed because I pointed out that it's a shitty analogy lol I completely agree that you're allowed to be attracted to whatever you want, however I'm also completely allowed to make personal inferences about your value system and views of women based on those desires. I also am not "wrong" for saying that I bring my intellect to the table, just because you personally do not value it. I am not trying to at…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 08:19 PM
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I don't expect all men to care, and I'm not mad that some of you don't. I just observed that men of higher character usually do, whereas in toxic people, "I don't care" is code for: "I'm intimidated by". As for the rest of your assertion, if he's low value that means he has poor morals and toxic personality so yes. Therefore yes. I dont care. Simple as that. Morals before all else. But that isnt what we are talking about. I'm referring to when a decent, kind woman brings more to the table and yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 04:49 PM
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Lmao that was a REAL argument somebody made when I was in an argument about whether or not low value males are intimidated by intelligent women. He says "I'm not a female, I dont seek out a powerful partner to live vicariously through them. I generate my own power." Welp so do I, "king" and I'm here to tell you that weak men fucking hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:05 PM
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I understand your point and I agree, however I read the original content and the writer seems to put a bit more of the blame on women, because "women can easily change their garments whereas seduction can only be avoided by strength of character". I really dont like that mentality because men will literally ALWAYS stare. It's not a matter of females being these intentional seductresses. I've literally heard people make the argument that women shouldnt even wear pants because they're too exposing…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 01:06 PM
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I don't see this as particularly empowering for the woman in this story, however I do see it as a testament to what single moms have to endure and still get treated like garbage by men. It just really goes to show that when a man ends up in this situation he is applauded whereas with women it's considered "normal" at best or she's viewed as trash, a slut, etc at worst. It absolutely blows my fucking mind how many "pro-life" men absolutely HATE single moms. If you genuinely take the pro-life argu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:09 PM
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I understand your point, but I don't think that's the entirety of what he is saying. The main problem with the argument is determining what is "revealing" enough to elicit temptation. You could literally eventually justify putting women in burkas if the goal post shifted enough. I am an attractive, fit girl, with a well endowed figure. In college, based on what other girls were wearing, I could downplay my looks if I chose to. I don't wear makeup, didnt do special things with my hair, wore a spo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 11:37 AM
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The thing with shitty men is 1. They don't know what they want, and 2.they equate a woman eliciting temptation (deliberately or not) to justify their thoughts or actions. It's a mentality that they can excuse their desires and behaviors if they accuse you of something just as bad or worse. In other words, they never have to self analyze or feel guilty. It's always the women's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 11:22 AM
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I rarely hear short women say that lmao. Most short women I know also just want a man taller than them. If you are consistently getting rejected, it's probably not because of your height unless you are literally under 5 foot. I know plenty of males 5'3 to 5'6 who regularly get with attractive females because they're fit, clean and have sweet personalities. A LOT of short men have short man syndrome whereas most tall men are literally teddy bears. It really is a personality thing too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 10:10 AM
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Yes. I think we mostly agree, I'm sorry for my aggression. I misunderstood you. I looked up the exact definition and you are correct, it usually refers to wealth and social status however I always generally interpreted it as just wanting the best. I always thought "hey, what's wrong with that? I want the best man I can get for myself." Compatibility is important, but I ultimately want a little more.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 10:59 PM
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Like I said, I'm tall and fit myself. I prefer men who are bigger and stronger than me, and as a woman it's a natural desire. Most men I attract are tall anyways because I'm physically imposing for a female, and small men aren't always the most comfortable with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 10:53 PM
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I know men like that lmao. Poor listening is something I can work with. My ex literally just didnt care. He displayed it in virtually every way, not just poor listening. Your housemate sounds quite sweet lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:43 PM
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I ain't the loser in any relationship babe. I have a lot to offer and if he's with me then he probably likes what I bring to the table. Besides, being deemed the "loser" is mostly about social status which isn't all that important to me compared to education, fitness, morals and personality. Yeah, I want the guy who's the best guy for me. Why wouldn't you want the same for yourself? Red-pill-philosophy males have trained you to associate "hypergamy" with "gold digging" and that's just not always…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 10:39 PM
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You dont have to be THE CHADLIEST CHAD to have this effect. But you also can't be a total beta. Women ARE hypergamous, meaning we want the best mate, however this doesn't necessarily mean we are only looking at visual and social cues. When I say I want the best, I want the best FOR ME. Therefore intellect, moral values, personality and even hobbies take precedence. Yes, I do like them tall and fit (I'm tall-ish and fit, so why wouldn't I?), but I also like them smart, sweet and a little nerdy. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 07:36 PM
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I literally had to tell my ex like 10 times that I didnt particularly like dark chocolate. He would talk about buying me sweets and add "I know you prefer dark chocolate". Uh no I don't. But yeah the shittiest part is that he never once actually surprised me with the chocolates, he'd only talk about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:51 PM
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You make a good point and yes, women get gamed out of panties a lot by jerks however I still argue that we are a bit better at reading male behavior than vice versa because usually we eventually read the warning signs and get tf out. Men on the other hand will voluntarily marry psycho bitches and still be clueless. Both genders are bad, men are still worse at least in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 08:25 PM
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......that was literally your argument as to why "men avoid me." I believe you said something to the lines of "nothing us more unattractive than a woman who eschews kindness, self introspection, objectivity etc." And then you continued when I said I attract better men now you simply claimed that they were less experienced with women like me, and therefore maybe their naivety was "better for me". Thus heavily implying that I'm manipulative or toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 12:18 AM
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Being cheated on sucks period. I'm sorry that happened. This is cold, but my advice for both genders is that if you are athletic and really value fitness, don't date a severely overweight person that you aren't even attracted to. Nowadays I only date fit guys. I've been an athlete my whole life and it's the only way I know how to live at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 12:10 AM
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Then what made you so certain that I am not introspective, self critical, or kind? And if you admit that the two can frequently coexist, why bash women who value intelligence? Also I find it a bit laughable that you think women need to live vicariously through a powerful mate. Yes I'm sure SOME do. But where I'm from we call those dependas. I do me and I don't see it as a power move. Just independence. I created my own "power", while retaining my femininity, attractiveness and softer qualities. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 11:59 PM
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I'll admit that you directly asserted that it "can" be negatively correlated as opposed to "necessarily" is, however my counterargument is still valid because the rest of your argument is framed based on the correlation and therefore I will not throw it away until you provide some insight as to why you assume that I "eschew kindness, self critique, and introspection" simply because I'm intelligent in the typical sense. Because if you DONT see them as correlated then that's quite the conclusion t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 09:59 AM
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Welp you heard him ladies, time to stop giving ugly guys chances lol Obviously I'm kidding but seriously. Those women who do that already look stupid. People already know that if you have to showcase your "charity" then it isn't genuine. I gave an ugly, fat guy a chance once and regretted it. He very much tried to portray himself as a nice guy at first then turned out to be manipulative and awful. I was regularly told how far out of his league I was (no makeup btw), I didn't broadcast it and he …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 01:00 AM
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Hey man, I made several attempts to continue a civil discussion. When I misinterpreted that one sentence I politely asked you to rephrase your main point so I could get a better idea of what you actually believed. It wasnt a strawman or an error, it was just that the context of the rest of the points you made seemed to be trying to support that central claim. I provided examples cited in your argument, remained polite, and asked for clarification. It's no surprise to me that you don't like smart…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 12:30 AM
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Ok dude lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 07:56 AM
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You really don't have a point, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 07:48 AM
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If I am misunderstanding your point then restate it, however if you admit that both types of intellect often coexist, then why would you have such an adversity to women with the standard connotation of intellect? When I admitted to valuing it, you immediately assumed men avoid me (they do not, lmao), and that I "eschew" the other positive traits you previously listed (I do not). Reading into an argument and holding it to scrutiny is neither bad faith nor a strawman. I now understand that you all…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 07:36 AM
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Not smaller and weaker than men in general, but small and weak compared to my boyfriend yes lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 12:35 AM
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For me, it's not so much about wanting to live vicariously through my partner as it is wanting a partner who's interesting and strong. Social and financial power mean very little to me. Intellectual and spiritual power however absolutely do. Why? Because I want a partner who I can love with every fiber of my being. Not caring about mind or soul makes you more shallow. Not less.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 12:16 AM
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I'm so glad you understand my meaning. I do not support women being bitchy, toxic or rude. I do however think that a bit of confidence is really great for warding off people with bad intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 12:11 AM
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It isnt a mistake. I meant exactly what I said, and I provided a very reasonable explanation for my analysis. If that isn't the backbone of your argument then you are completely allowed to tell me what is. My interpretation could be wrong, but that's very much how you presented your reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 12:05 AM
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I understand the emphasis, but the nature of your argument appears to be contingent on the assumption that those two are negatively correlated. For example, numerous times you explicitly demean women who display the type of intelligence that as you claim "attracts social power". You also automatically assume that I lack introspection and kindness simply because I admit to valuing the other type of intellect as well. Nowhere in your counterargument do you adress any possible flaws of my argument …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 02:15 AM
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Your 3rd paragraph says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 11:43 PM
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I know guys like that too lmao. Honestly, get a bro you can nerd out with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 10:24 PM
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For one, I agree that self observation, curiosity, and introspection are both absolutely forms of intelligence, which makes your original statement that men don't care about "intelligence" a bit confusing. I also agree that kindness is an important virtue. However, the fact that you think its necessarily negatively correlated with the standard connotation of intellect, to me, genuinely indicates that you are intimidated by it. Yes, there are very noteworthy cases where this is such, however, it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 10:20 PM
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As a general rule, any man who claims to not care about a womans intelligence is intimidated by it lmao. For the simple reason that this type who supposedly doesnt care about their partners personality or accomplishments values submissiveness above all else. High intellect makes a woman less gullible. Plain and simple. I've met men who like smart girls and I've met men who don't. I attract far more men by dumbing myself down, however I attract smarter, better men when I dont. It's a quality vs q…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 06:47 PM
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For real, for real
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 06:40 PM
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My intent was not to shame anybody. I encourage people to do what they want with their own life. However if a long relationship is the goal, then waiting for a short while is typically the wiser choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 06:59 AM
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Most guys I'm interested in view dating as trying to find a lifelong partner. That does EVENTUALLY involve sex, but other things should come first.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 01:40 AM
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Nobody is denying that women like sex... The argument is that some women believe not having sex right away is better for sustaining a healthy relationship. This logic is backed up pretty clearly by divorce statistics and its neither sex-negative nor delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 11:52 PM
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If you do well and fitness and confidence can be improved with work and practice then what still troubles you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 11:16 PM
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Well yes, because high quality women are bringing a lot more to the table than just pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 11:13 PM
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There isn't just one way to do it. Being fit and confident are usually the first steps. After that, looksmaxxing is a real thing for both men and women. After that, what you need is going to be unique to you. For example, if you are a science geek then get a STEM degree and make bank. There are infinite ways to improve yourself. You are probably your own worst critic. I know guys who don't think they're anything special but they most definitely are.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 09:55 PM
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I dont disagree. And I encourage them to improve themself. However you can be both a chad and a good person and partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 09:34 PM
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I agree. However a chad that enjoys healthy relationships will have mutual respects and interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 09:09 PM
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So basically in your eyes, dating is only a transactional means to get sex. Duly noted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 09:06 PM
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If I really have to dumb it down that much then here: Better yourself. Become a "Chad". But know that lasting relationships stem from mutual interest and respect. The "if you dont fuck me in 3 dates you must not be interested" mindset will drive away a lot of high quality women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 08:35 PM
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Because your advice that their goal for a healthy, lasting, relationship should be to get girls to fuck them within 3 dates is seriously flawed. For one, if a relationship cannot survive for at least a short while without sex, then chances are there is no emotional or intellectual connection. Two, having sex too early in can actually work against successfully cultivating a healthy bond. Three oftentimes if a woman is willing to wait for sex then it shows that she values herself and is in a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 08:25 PM
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Lmao I as if i need help. I just despise misinformation and the mindset it stems from.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 08:02 PM
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you're going to have to become the guy she bangs in 3 dates or less to have a good relationship with her. I strongly disagree with this notion and would argue the contrary. That if you want a good relationship, you should wait more that 3 dates for sex for multiple reasons but the main one being that fucking somebody you just met is a primal urge and does not constitute having a healthy mindset or respect for that person. whereas if you want a relationship that's an entirely different pool of wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 07:52 PM
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I'm deeply sorry. I honestly did not experience anything like that in high school or college. Nothing prior to millitary lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:02 AM
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I'm deeply sorry that you had to go through what you did. For the most part, high schools arent like that anymore (thank god). Owever I'm a female US marine and there was a group of a few males who gave me the most awful time throughout schooling for our MOS. I would get called fat, ugly, stupid, and a slut literally every day in 5 different ways. I was cornered by them, asked sexually explicit and innappropriate questions. They talked about me obsessively behind my back deliberately spreading r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:34 PM
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This shit is why I only go for guys with moderately traditional values when it comes to dating and chivalry, but more modern values when it comes to supporting me in my career, education and hobbies. It gets me accused of "wanting to have my cake and eat it too", but it's quite literally the best accurate way to weed out the manipulative and abusive guys. I know what I bring to the table. If you cant pay for a date like a gentleman AND be emotionally supportive of me when I pursue my dreams then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:29 AM
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The twist he's putting on this is so fucking stupid because while I dont approve of sex work, it is EXTREMELY rare for adult female sex workers to specifically target underage boys in this manner. While porn addiction is a huge problem amongst underage males, it's really unfair to act like women are taking advantage of their poor little minds for profit. No, they're putting content out there intended for adult men and teenagers are seeking it out. This is a shitty situation all around as sex wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:49 AM
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And yet women are somehow the "manipulative" ones that use men lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:15 AM
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Sounds good to me lmao. Some things are mutually compatible but others very obviously are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:45 PM
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Exactly! People act like it's such a high standard. What's so difficult about wanting a man that actually wants me to be the best woman I can be??? Then you realize that the reason it's so "unrealistic" is because a lot of men want a submissive woman above all else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:04 AM
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Honestly the safest bet seens to be the moderately "traditional" guys that still respect female strength and self improvement. I try to be a very kind person, but at 22 I've already turned myself into a person that completely repels most toxic, domineering, abusive men simply because I intimidate them. I'm conventionally attractive, a US Marine, and I'm pursuing a degree in Mechanical Engineering. I have a lot of pride and I make sure people know it. Long story short, the quality I've noticed in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:52 PM
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I'm just going to come right out and state my own personal biases. I tend to be a very free market supporter in general so right away ased on my preexisting philosophies I can't support this. But from the FDS strategy perspective I have a few additional points to make. For one, I dont agree with replacing what was historically a dependance on men with a dependance on the government. Look how many people they have abused throughout history. Second, the whole "motivation" behind this seems to be t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:43 PM
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Same. People seem to forget that this post is focusing on the joke aspect of it. He very well may have made up for it later, and it just wasnt included in the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:54 PM
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Let a motherfucker try this shit with me lmao. He will get kicked to the curb SOOOOOO fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:41 PM
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The only situation where this is ok is if HIS hustle is 80 hours a week and it's what she wants him to pursue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:45 PM
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This! As a naturally caring and generous person, I was a pickme throughout my entire first relationship. Not because I was manipulative or wanted to put down other women, but because I was very young and genuinely underestimated how shit some men were. I'm still a very caring and generous person for people who reciprocate but I've learned to draw lines and spot bullshit because nowadays the assholes just seem to be jumping to out themselves. It awakens the bitch in me and I LOVE it. I'm 21 now. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:47 PM
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"Meanwhile I give you nothing but stress and uncertainty" is the other unwritten half lmao. I'm willing to do a hell of a lot for a man but IF and ONLY IF he has proven himself worthy and spoils me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:57 AM
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Wow. So basically he's admitting that typically women do, in fact, like good men, so in turn, "bad boys" have no choice but to lie to attract good women and now it's women's fault for making that poor bad guy pretend to actually be a decent human with morals. I cannot believe the mental gymnastics at play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:27 PM
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