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CMVrsvpxo/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 05:47 AM
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I am living the opposite of this. I just got hired as the only male in an office of all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:03 PM
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I agree if they are dating 25+ but if they are going after girls not old enough to rent a car let alone legally drink in the United States it gets a hell of a lot more sus.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 05:04 PM
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You don't think all of the chemicals and toxins that pervade every facet of modern life couldn't be contributing to the issue? I'm not a fan of Alex Jones but there are literally pesticides we are all exposed to every single day that do in fact cause frogs to undergo sex changes. What's really crazy is that some of the sex changes frogs can literally produce viable offspring. They couldn't perform a study on human exposure to micro plastics because they couldn't find a control group who lacked e…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:06 AM
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Really because I feel like I gave pretty solid examples of a lot of the oversights people ignore. Of course it's relative but so is everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 09:02 PM
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My bad, I am on mobile and the heading got lost but your point wasn't super clear in the body. Successful women absolutely will mock poor women, but it's really more of a thing with old money types and those who cap out on their social security tax contributions. Women making under six figures won't do much cause a dude making low six figures is often down to date a barista but that chick making six figures will absolutely shame them both. It's less common with women in sort of middle-class inco…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:43 AM
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Hard disagree. I won't seriously date someone without a respectable college education or a professional career like a well paid stylist or paralegal. A lot of men don't care but those are the same guys that bitch about alimony. The secret to avoiding alimony is to date in your income bracket. If you date up, you might even get alimony, just ask Adele's ex-husband. Passport bros are also pretty ignorant to a lot of the realities. If they are pumping and dumping their way across the country theyll…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 03:40 AM
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I actually agree with you. But, I think prostitution should be legalized and regulated. Tbh as a man my primary concern with porn isn't the one you've outlined. But the psychological damage it does to both men and women due to the extreme nature and astonishing ease of access, which is astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:44 AM
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That's kind of the whole point of the sexual marketplace. As long as someone's buying what you are selling you can stay in business. Some women aren't all that motherly, and some men want nothing more than to be stay at home dads. A lot of men are not comfortable with themselves and feel emasculated when their significant other makes more than them. Too much of the discourse in the manosphere just indoctrinates men into thinking they are less than if they aren't the provider. But then those same…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:10 PM
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That entirely depends on what someone wants. If you want a Stepford wife SAHM like a lot of redpill people preach about, I guess it's a bad thing. In the modern world most households cant afford to survive on a single income. Some of us actively filter for career-oriented women. I personally want a partner, not a dependant. I really only seriously date women with either a college degree or some type of professional training, such as a hairstylist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:38 PM
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I think it's a lot easier for women to ship a least viable product, whereas men have an easier time becoming an overwhelming force of nature. This is supported by the idea that 50% of women are competing for 10% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 11:58 PM
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To play devil's advocate and drive home the whole point of this thread. Look at the way a whole bunch of women responded to Chris Brown. There were literally women commenting they would happily let him beat on them and it wasn't just innuendo they were saying bring on the black eyes. He still seems to have no trouble with women despite numerous allegations since the big-time headline. I don't agree with a lot of the dialog because it's making a bunch of generalizations about both men and women. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:12 PM
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That's like saying gambling addiction isn't real. But people lose their cars and homes to casinos every day. Literally anything that can cause a chemical reaction in your brain can become an addiction. I don't think masturbation is necessarily the problem but when it is combined with the never ending novelty of porn it can become catastrophic. There are plenty of internet dwellers who will admit to beating off 3 or 4 times a day regularly. Our grandparents couldn't do that with just Playboys but…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:02 PM
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Ukraine is a weird situation I had trouble finding information on that. But the claim women have to register for selective service in the US is completely wrong. https://www.sss.gov/register/women/ I'm not trying to diminish women's impact on the military because I agree many have served the country and their sacrifices are why we get to have these conversations. And in regard to ukraine the numbers I found in my Google search indicate that the total army is about 1.3 million people and 60k of t…
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 02:47 AM
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I'm not trying to shame you I'm pointing out what you are overlooking and this is how I speak. There's a reason I'm not a therapist or a teacher. I felt you were being intentionally obtuse, given the fact I had pointed out Ukraine and then you mentioned the draft is not a thing. I realize now you are focused specifically on American issues instead of considering a global scale. Admittedly it is less of an issue on a more localized scale but gynocentrism at its core is an ingrained function of bi…
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 02:38 AM
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I'm not trying to say it's an all encompassing argument. You asked what they would use as an example and I am playing devil's advocate. You are also missing a few key points. Men are still required to register for the draft, if you don't register for selective service you are unable to qualify for financial aid for college and risk being imprisoned if they feel like prosecuting you. You also conveniently ignored that a forced draft literally happened in Ukraine because of the current war. Also R…
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 02:12 AM
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I think the point people make is that the small list of specific things almost all entail putting your life at risk. Whether it is dangerous jobs or military service. That isn't to say there aren't other problems, but no one is rushing their daughters off to war.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 01:45 AM
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A big example of this is the fact women don't get drafted. Look at the Ukraine, women and children were ushered out of the country but every able bodied man was forcibly conscripted. Stuff like that is what is pointed as gynocentrism. That isnt to say they are always better off, but when it comes time to risk lives they don't typically put women on the front lines.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 01:13 AM
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I think the only redeeming factor on ppd are the sprinklings of genuine conversation that occur in between all of the rhetoric and bickering. The most vocal people spouting vitriol just want an outlet for their propaganda but are best treated like sidewalk doomsday preachers. The genuine responses from people with vastly different perspectives are what keep the rational people on here coming back. The way I have best enjoyed ppd is to try and challenge my beliefs more than anyone else's. Sometim…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 01:04 PM
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You see no connection personally, but they are both things that many people will have major moral objections to. We seem to personally disagree, however we can acknowledge that the majority of the world would take serious issue with both sides of the equation. The past matters for mate choice is the whole point, but you don't get to decide what other people take a moral issue with. We don't get to decide other people's dealbreakers and if someone actively hides a well known one, they shouldn't b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:35 AM
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You don't care about them in the past because you enjoy them presently. A current coke user 99/100 times isn't going to be turned off by his current girlfriend having a history of hitting the rails, especially when they like to go skiing together. But my response was off the cuff during a break earlier. Either way it's just a different set of morals. You are also kind of missing the whole point of my initial question because you are over emphasizing the sexual aspect. But we don't get to decide …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 10:22 AM
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Interesting it makes sense they have made advancements. I guess my information was outdated, but the last time I looked up the specifics of this particular surgery was probably almost a decade ago when I wasn't as comfortable with myself. When I last actively researched it was only being offered in South America at some speciality clinic, but I guess a lot more people want it than I expected. There was also a lot more warnings, and it appears this surgery is now much more readily available. So i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 10:04 AM
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That surgery is straight up retarded, when I was last reading about it, it severely weakens the strength of your legs. Like people are warned against strenuous lifting for life after the procedure. Or your leg is gonna snap like Anderson Silvas did. Plus at the very best they get 2 or 3 inches of added height, and then your arms are disproportional for the rest of your life. If you look at the before and afters it's hilariously sad. Apparently this surgery was so in demand they have made signifi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:58 AM
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Honestly you can't really get a picturesque physique after 25 or 26, maybe pushed to 30 for a lucky few, unless you are supplementing with something a lot stronger than protein and creatine. The ease of getting professional TRT and full body builder stacks at an increasingly early age is definitely worrisome.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:24 AM
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It sounds like y'all are doing well which is wonderful. But like most others it's kind of missing the point of my statement. Having the past isn't a problem, being accepting if someone's past is an absolute sign of maturity. However, your wife was honest about her background which is commendable since everyone should be. My point in the past being the past needs to apply for everything or nothing. People shouldn't get to decide some portions require full disclosure and others do not when they kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:16 AM
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Id argue it says different things about your personal morals. People are entitled to having different morals, however the logic is the same. If someone believes the past is the past then it shouldn't matter because people can change. But this just highlights how morals are a grey area. I specifically used the drugs example because so many people do have personal hangups about drugs. And criminal stuff for that matter. However if someone argues the past is the past then it shouldn't matter. The b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 12:30 AM
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You changed the hypothetical by making it present tense. The question wasn't what are you okay with now, it is in regard to past actions. You are probably in the minority of people who are okay with their partner participating in a gangbang. That's your business, but you have misconstrued the point of my question. The consistency was about the importance of past actions. Not what you currently like. I'd be interested in your take if you can address it from that perspective, but given your curren…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:19 PM
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Btw pinning test isn't exactly IV drug use. IV stands for intravenous whereas pinning test is usually intramuscular unless I am mistaken. But steroids are their own class of deal breaker for a ton of folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:11 PM
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It's a big deal because of the risk at the time, but this hypothetical is talking about years or a decade after the fact. But I am not trying to debate what specific types of drug usage are kosher. The question was about what level of disclosure people expect from their partners. If someone is comfortable omitting a gangbang from their history they shouldn't have a problem with someone neglecting to mention they were a former IV drug user.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:20 AM
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I agree with that sentiment which is why I am always forthcoming with my own dealbreakers and background. However I'd take it a step further and say if someone explicitly asks they are owed the truth, and they in turn owe the truth. Everyone knows that someone pleading the 5th means we assume the worst anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:15 AM
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If you are using clean needles and good dope, how is it different than having a beer? People have moral hang ups about drugs because of scare tactics from the war on drugs. Not every incidence of use ends in an overdose or lead to an addiction. Would it make you feel different if the question was about recreationally using morphine pills?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:11 AM
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It's mostly the same but it can quickly become a slippery slope. Both start out equally fucked. However, if the woman attempts to pass the illegitimate child off as her husband's I'd argue that's worse. That's not always possible, but I've seen an episode or two of Maury with women giving hilarious justifications as to why their baby is black even though both supposed parents are white.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:00 PM
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As others have said, all of the celebrities you posted are bad examples for your argument. They are all masculine looking, the big thing in common is that they are all well groomed and clean shaven. Styles are cyclical there has been a resurgence I'd emo and goth fashion that had a peak in the early 2000s with scene kids. Harry styles fashion choices can sort of be considered feminine, especially some of the more elaborate outfits but he in no way is trying to present as a female the way crossdr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:25 AM
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Fantasy is mentally performative. It's not that people are too inhibited, it's that fantasy of this nature is adults playing pretend. Having your girlfriend dress up in a sexy nurse outfit or a set of scrubs to play pretend, is vastly different than actually dating a nurse. It's not necessarily what we truly desire or we would actually seek it out. Instead it's sort of mentally masturbatory. Tons of guys will jerk off to porn depicting a mmf threesome or even a gangbang, but those same guys woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:00 PM
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The point is, that men can be on the hook for child support for children they did not contribute towards making. To simply say that men are never forced to pay child support on someone else's bastard is a lie and does a disservice to any men actively dating. By all means date whoever you want but men need to be aware of all of the risks of dating single mothers. I guess the alternative is true for women and single fathers but I have never seen the reverse case discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:22 AM
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That person is either completely ignorant/stupid or just outright lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:09 AM
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You are wrong. Read the sources being shown to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:08 AM
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There have been a few studies that have shown hormonal birth control affects the type of men women are attracted to. Women will go from loving the smell of their husband's T-shirts to being repulsed by it. That is just a second-hand account and self-reported thing I haven't read a lot of the research in a while, but here is some stuff to peruse. https://nypost.com/2019/09/26/birth-control-pills-may-affect-you-are-attracted-to-experts-say/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intimately-connec…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 06:35 PM
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I definitely agree with you to a certain extent. I suppose it's how liberated the woman in question is. If OP is continually pressuring her for sex, she may just not view him as a worthwhile reason to increase her body count. I say that in the removed sense but the reality is if she sees no real future with OP why even bother? To add to your train of logic, this girl like most well-adjusted people are, is probably somewhere in-between the two extremes. I agree a strict conservative wouldn't be d…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:16 AM
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I look at things objectively, it's a stereotype but definitely one that is based on some metric of reality. The idea I was referencing is that women want winners, and others are just looking for an escape. Some are willing to take a bet on you, for better or worse, depends on where you stand personally. Why do you think chicks will baby trap a rapper or pro athlete, that's an 18 year paycheck to a lot of them. Others are more than happy to help you try and build something. It's about finding the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:02 AM
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That's kind of the sad thing depending on the reality. OP is so wrapped up in hypothetical game he's missing the forrest for the trees. Is she playing him? It's possible, but it's equally possible that he is escalating at a rapid pace and making her uncomfortable. A hoe would have slept with him, an uncomfortable or begrudging handjob isn't how a hoe will trap someone unless they can smell the desperation and are just toying with their next meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:46 AM
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I'd argue that redpill is just the starting point. People should be reading academic papers if they want something truly credible. A bunch of redpill stuff is confirmed in some way or isnt directly disproven by the available research. For example, every man who wants to get married should be sure his hypothetical fiance isn't taking hormonal birth control for their entire relationship before he proposes. But to answer your question, I have a friend who is very attractive, dating a guy well below…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:27 AM
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This entirely depends on the nature of the risk and the woman in question. There are plenty of social workers who love to party with white girl. Being financially risky wouldn't be the end of the world unless you end up losing your shirt. Some might hang around and see where it plays out. But a 34 yo that is trying to make it as a sound cloud rapper is only gonna attract damaged girls who are barely 18 with a combination of gaslighting and delusion. The dude willing to mortgage his house to open…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:16 AM
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This isn't a redpill advice sub. You already gave her an ultimatum, if you want tips on gaslighting this really isnt the place. You're a random dude she met and are already moving fairly quickly, especially for a chick from a conservative upbringing assuming she has a healthy family background and isn't seriously damaged in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:03 AM
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This was my thought exactly. It is same mental pitfall that misogynists fall into.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:28 AM
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Id also be willing to bet that a lot of the grief you get is from 2 groups of people, men who don't make as much, but more so women who don't earn as much or don't want to work. You are the 0.1% or possibly even the 0.01% when it comes to income. Tons of women have the 6 figure rule in place but tbh you are looking at a lot of them in the rearview. This will upset the type of woman who wants to be taken care of, think stereotypical pro-athlete wives or real house wife type chick. I thought I had…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:25 AM
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I think the biggest problem especially with the more mainstream discourse, is that they all still put pussy on a pedestal, the difference being some of them do get a bit. Like anytime one of the supposed gurus is chatting with a follower the topic is centered around a breakup, often with the host mocking the individual for being an ignorant simp. They are being ignorant no doubt, but the hosts prescription is almost always "She's being a hoe, so you need to be a bigger hoe." That is still puttin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 11:21 PM
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Whats not to get? not everyone who consumes redpill media will see a tangible benefit, but there are absolutely outliers that stand out that in turn attract new readers. I don't know the exact fraction because it's not a tracked demographic, but if only 1/20 guys see real tangible success, and maybe 1/1000 will be the stereotypical posterchild that attracts new readers. Not everyone needs to benefit for something to be worthwhile. Many of us have seen measurable success. Our successes do not mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:51 AM
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The general audience doesn't mean it's the only audience. I can comfortably say I was never average but redpill seriously helped me evolve. The outliers who find success will always be the motivator to the average who often become tryhards or unsuccessful. It's why America is full of struggling billionaires, not oppressed poor people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:24 AM
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Those of us with common sense don't go around advertising it. It's a philosophy, not a brand or organization men tend to advertise unless they are overcompensating, and if that's the case they probably have a shitload more work to do on themselves. The loud outspoken people like Andrew Tate and his followers claim redpill philosophy to mask and promote the toxicity and misogyny that unites them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:32 AM
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That's when you have to find someone to give you the benefit of the doubt. Admittedly I'm not as well versed in a lot of the autistic experience as other mental health issues. I know the spectrum can be quite wide. I've worked with one girl in particular who disclosed but had done enough to socialize normal enough, and then I have a distant cousin who I don't see that needs a caretaker constantly to help navigate being around other people. The coworker did share that she had been through quite a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 08:34 AM
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It has mixed results. I learned to read social cues pretty well. It's kind of fake it til you make it, but if you aren't able to interpret the way people are responding, then there won't be any real growth. Fake it til you make it, but consciously be aware of how people respond and adjust accordingly. Some 20 years old are totally game for someone just under 30, others will think your are a mega creep. Gotta learn to find out which one applies to the situation. I started think this way to mostly…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 08:22 AM
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I think your comment highlights an interesting dichotomy. What if I were to say that I view high-end escorts who do so to live well beyond their means the same way you are describing drug dealers. That ideology is true for a small portion, I can't speak from experience on the SWer side but I can assure you, that most of the small time dealers are hobbyists or just trying to survive the same way you have painted the majority of sex workers. It boils down to a difference in arbitrary moral values.…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:54 AM
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Any mental or even physical health condition can be a deal breaker for a ton of people. It's often how you present it. I have disclosed a schizophrenia diagnosis on multiple first dates and the majority of the time I am the one who breaks things off. While many autistic folks do feel empathy, the inability to read and predict social norms is interpreted by the uniformed as a lack of it. Because men need to prove that they are not a threat and women need to be convinced of that lack of threat. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:43 AM
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The terms neurodivergent and neurotypical are used regularly but the emphasis is almost always on autistic people. I am as neurodivergent as it gets, I literally have a condition with psychotic symptoms. I have friends with long-term girlfriends I would bet the farm are BPD. I personally have no problem when I stay in my league, and often even socialize my way out of it. I wonder if the results you are referencing have anything to do with the fact men are expected to approach. Autistic women wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:31 AM
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If anything it might make some guys less desperate. Outside of the casual arena most men don't date for something strictly physical. Hunting is a lot of fun, but most men would eat a lot less protein if grocery stores didn't exist. That doesn't make venison any less delicious. Also if you talk with any actual swer talking and emotional support is a huge portion of what they do. Thats why the girlfriend experience is so popular and well known. If prostitution was legalized there would probably be…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:08 AM
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Unless it is peer reviewed research, and even then, you should take all of the theoretical discussion with a grain of salt. Based on some of what you shared I think it is worth highlighting, we should recognize that not all "chads" are alpha and vice versa. I also think it's worth noting that like all aspects of the dating market it is relative to the market. A dude who is exactly 6 ft ta may stand out, but if he shows up to the club on a night NBA players are partying it up, his 6 ft don't meas…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:00 AM
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I think part of what so many of the wannabe gurus miss, that Patrice nailed was above all you should do what makes you happy and content. If some dude wanted to cuck himself Patrice said give it a shot, and if you can't stand the sight of your girl after the fact, be prepared to dump her and don't do it again. Patrice contradicted a lot of what some people claim are nonnegotiables. He ended up essentially married to a former ratchet / single mom. And at his funeral his adopted daughter had more …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:27 AM
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You seem to have put your social circle on a bit of a pedestal. Those jobless broke losers get attractive women, those women just tend to have coke problems and BPD or some other combination of a narcotic and mental health disorder. You and your supposed friends may be mostly uninterested in strictly carnal relations, but there is probably a near equal number of women down to pull a train given the right situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:22 PM
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I am also curious about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 09:50 PM
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I'll be honest, I have no real qualms about a chick hustling on onlyfans. The old adage, a fool and his money are soon parted, definitely feels appriate for the simps that pay for that kind of thing tho. However, when an artist with a bit of a following, I can think of two musicians off hand, suddenly start an onlyfans even if it is just provocative and not actual nudes. I immediately and subconsciously lump them together with all onlyfans models. I personally have no problem with it, but uninte…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:11 AM
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Hahaha everyone wants simple answers in life but reality is just too complicated. I had to think about it and when I look back the only times I have been "hit over the head" with overt signals is when I had already built a platonic relationship of sorts, not necessarily friends but we were around each other for work or school and were on a first name basis. The reality probably varies a bit, I am not built ike a stereotypical Chad, so I am well aware my personality and conversation skills allow …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:52 AM
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I think this is an interesting bit of thought process. Some would say that is the bare minimum we should expect from a partner. Alternatively, this is very similar to one of the great debates about religious morality. If someone is only behaving a certain way because they expect that it will provide them with some type of existential reward, are they really a morally virtuous person or are they just afraid of breaking the rules that they have been instilled with either by choice or indoctrinatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:02 AM
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Honestly ppd has gotten pretty disappointing with so many bad faith arguments and willful ignorance. OP for this thread is either borderline delusional or being intentionally obtuse. The way they are answering and responding reminded me of this video. https://m.youtube.com/shorts/rx3K1f-ormw Money is great, but that doesn't mean I'm jumping at the chance to go down on Oprah.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:47 AM
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No they couldn't. Women only obtained the legal right to have a bank account in only their name in the 60s. Some of them might of been fortunate before that, but it would have been like a black person trying to vote in the south before literacy tests were outlawed. Women used to have to get married for their own economic survival. Unsurprisingly for some reason, a shit ton of men now have trouble dating because women are no longer backed into a corner for survival. It'd be like if a Muslim chick…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:37 AM
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Tbh it entirely depends on the person. Everyone's voice and mannerisms are unique to them. We all also put on different masks depending upon our intentions and who we are talking with. Because of that, the vast majority of people appreciate someone who is genuine. If a dude is talking to his friends and then does an immediate change of disposition talking to a chick, that shit is obvious and a turn-off. It'd be like if a dude could hear the dressing room conversation between strippers, or the ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 08:45 AM
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This a question for women so I am commenting under the automod. But, a trick to set oneself at ease is to imagine a beloved pet. It creates a feeling of comfort and genuine inner peace which should extend to how you are consciously or subconsciously carrying yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:27 AM
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I agree with you, the problem is that most men can't read the subtext of a conversation. A compliment can be completely genuine and innocuous, or it can be a signal to indicate interest. A lot of men like your friend lack the communication skills to discern the difference and would actively pursue a devout nun if she complimented their haircut. This has caused a lot of women actively avoid complimenting men randomly. With fewer women actively complimenting random men idiots like your friend thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:15 AM
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If this is sarcasm, well done for getting me to respond. If you are being serious, seek professional help. Edit: I should have quoted what I originally responded to. But to respond to your edited question: People don't talk like that it would be awkward. I regularly compliment women I work with about well-done makeup or their outfit. 9/10 I have no interest in dating them, but everyone likes to be told they look good. The reason I haven't had any problems with HR is because my comments are alway…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:01 AM
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I'm a dude who gets matches on bumble. In my experience the norm is women will send a gif of some sort and I am generally aware that actually starting the conversation is on me. I don't have any problem with that as I am used to doing so already. In fact I'd say bumble makes it a bit easier because there is usually a little more to work with. What I have noticed is that bumble tends to have more professional or at least semi-professional women, which is why I generally prefer it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 10:17 PM
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How about being stuck paying alimony to an exwife or two? I agree that promiscuity is often viewed differently depending on gender. But that type of argument is in the same vein as the belief that men need to be the primary breadwinner. If we are going down that road, a man with a sizeable alimony and/or child support obligation could be considered used up. Especially if the financial burden is great enough to impact daily life and long term goals. This whole discussion however is based on typic…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:10 AM
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That entirely depends on who you are attracted to and how comfortable someone is with themselves. A lot of men are terrified of being perceived as gay, so they'll consciously or subconsciously suppress a bunch of opinions. Think of Henry Cavill or Jason Momoa, both of them are widely considered to be incredibly attractive by most people, even if that is admitted begrudgingly. Some of the scenes in their recent productions could definitely be defined as eye-catching. I use them both as an example…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:02 AM
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Again the sidebar isn't half of what I remember it being. But who knows, that's just my opinion. There used to be a ton of recommended reading of actual books. I would have to go through the posts individually to see which ones I disagree with now. Also, I just did a quick read-through of "Michael's story" as old as it is, it should be read as a warning, not a way to commiserate. The old saying is to enjoy the decline. If you can't tell by my flair, I did and do just that. Hedonism isn't for eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 06:02 PM
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And that is genuinely quite sad. I gave the sidebar a quick once over for the first time in years. It's a relic of its former self. Last time I looked there was a whole list of suggested readings and not a single endorsed podcast. Its current state is just the male equivalent of what FDS inevitably became. Just like FDS did they are trying to lead people to their own platform. There used to be a lot of good information and I am sure you can filter through a lot of it. I only immediately recogniz…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 05:08 PM
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That's the kind of shit that people like Tate and his supporters would say. I haven't been to the RP sub in quite awhile but a couple years ago the sidebar was still golden. In fact a common piece of advice when the sub still had some respectability was that don't bother reading anything except the sidebar because nothing else was worth a damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:51 PM
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That is all of the pick up artist tactics that are now prevalent in the redpill community. That isn't all it was originally, but it is what became most prevalent because it is also the most controversial. One of the foundational things was originally to start lifting. It was repeated like a broken record. Sometimes that was all a guy really needed to hear. But then that involved hard work and those who couldn't cut it wanted easier answers where they were told society was the problem, not them. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:54 PM
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I am totally happy with the current google lineups. After switching to stock android from Samsung, I couldn't ever go back. The biggest annoyance for me isn't the green bubble, its how much fuckery imessage plays with fundamental features when an android in introduced. The automatic compression of all pictures and videos is infuriating. Plus, group chats often become a total shitshow. But after apple fucked me over early I swore off them completely, the fact I hate their general business practic…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:40 PM
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I guess it depends on how you define redpill followers. The modern state of the sub and most of the mainstream discussion is glorified PUA. Some of the fundamental self-improvement is golden no matter where it comes from but people needed a shiny new package. Looks matter for everyone, so that isn't a great example. Anyone who goes through the public school system is aware looks are important. A lot of the more fundamental redpill stuff that changed a lot of men's outlooks was more behavioral. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:33 PM
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I am regularly chastised by my friend group because I don't use iPhone. It's all good-natured enough, but there is undoubtedly a huge societal stigma pressuring people to use iPhone. Redpill originally was meant to help break a similar type of social conditioning that was instilled any many a young man. It was meant to help the men who already understand that "No means No" break a level of passivity that society actively encouraged in many ways. Guys who didn't care were more inclined to be in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:10 PM
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I think a big part of early redpill discussion was breaking a lot of false narratives that were instilled into a lot of millennial-aged men. Not as much of the extreme or controversial stuff, but a lot of the less-than-pleasant truths and a healthy dose of reality. Like all philosophy, anyone who interacts with the redpill will leave some level of impression. I'd argue that a lot of the more problematic aspects of the redpill became prevalent when the community began having significant overlap a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:00 PM
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That's a great history fact, but how does it change the legitimacy of my statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:47 PM
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Choosing to become a parent is entirely optional in every country where abortion is legal. How would you feel if your voting rights were explicitly tied to giving up the right to ever considering abortion? Childbirth and going to war are both tied to the greater good of the nation so it should be a small sacrifice to remain eligible to vote right? You hope you'd never be forced to decide but it'd hang over your head. Btw I am for legal abortion within reason, and in all cases to save the life of…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:41 PM
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Yeah well all the men McNamara sent over probably should have had factory jobs and a lot of the women who had those jobs would have had better chances at surviving.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 08:36 PM
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Yes but true equality would mean women can also die for their country. A utopia would be ideal, but I think if women also were eligible to be conscripted a lot more people would push back harder next time there was the potential for war. It's the same argument a lot of people have highlighted, men are viewed as dispensable. This is the best example of it. When a country is forced to go to war, it's never the daughters that get sent. If that were to change I bet there would be a hell of a lot big…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:48 PM
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Hahaha, I don't think men should get special privileges for registering but, until the possibility of conscription is completely eliminated, women should have to register for selective service and face the same obligations and penalties as men until the entire practice is done away with. I think that is a much fairer practice than the current system. I understand OP's frustration because after you register for selective service, you start paying a lot more attention to news about war and things …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:22 PM
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Yeah but it must mean something because you sure seem defensive about the theoretical idea that you'd have to fill out the same form. It's the worry about what could happen. Plenty of women worry about walking alone at night worrying about what might happen. It's not that they experienced it it's the worrying about what if. Yeah it's all theoretical and yeah it's two different extremes but it's still something in the back of all young men's minds anytime there is talk of war.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 01:16 PM
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That would be nice, but until that utopia is reached, women should have to fill out the selective service forms and be subject to the same obligations and penalties as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 01:00 PM
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You act like we give two shits about other peoples kids. The sperm is cheap, and eggs are valuable argument only works at high levels of societal order. If someone is in a position of power, they are not on PPD. Most men couldn't care less that the random woman is limited in how many children she can produce unless they subscribe to the Quiverfull doctrine. And in that case, get cozy with your sister-wives and let us know how it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:41 AM
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Well, technically you are in the US. Some companies are lumping together all PTO and sick time into one abomination to minimize employee down time. You can use sick time for a headache if you feel like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:35 AM
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We also have a lower level of enlistment than ever before, The military is doing away with all sorts of requirements and literally can't keep up with quotas. Men don't need special treatment. Let women fill out selective service cards and call them in equal numbers if need be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:31 AM
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Shifting strategy is great, but what sample group are you basing this claim on. Most women are not outlandish or more extreme, the ones we notice most are, because when a girl has dyed hair and a tongue ring, most men are suddenly a lot more interested, even if the only objective is to pump and dump. Like the basics say, just be careful which ones you commit to long-term. Women have more freedom now than ever before. I mean 50 or so years ago, a woman literally couldn't have a checking account i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 07:59 AM
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I don't feel like putting the effort to debate in earnest or even in good faith when the audience has no real interest in an open discussion. The SMP is survival of the fittest. And survival of the fittest doesn''t mean who can bench the most, although that may help a bit. It means whoever can adapt to the environment wins. Maybe some people get left behind, oh well. If someone is trying to blame society for their problems I just assume they don't want to or are unable to accommodate to the cult…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 07:36 AM
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I am not the one upset and defending anything other than my own point of view. Free speech is great for condemning Nazis and assholes. You seem to want to condemn women for the same standards you are choosing to hold. This gets right back down to the idea that we should all strive to do better. But misery loves company, so c'est la vie.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:14 PM
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Has the Russian propaganda really made it all the way to ppd?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:43 PM
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That's some great whataboutism. You should hold women in your life to higher standards as well. It's quite possible to condemn extremists on either side. If all of the women you meet and your interactions with are yielding the same type of awfulness you need to evaluate the common denominator.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:40 PM
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Just because you are exposed to something isn't an excuse. We still condemn the past actions of the now geriatric Nazis. You can't just dismiss something as the product of an era. I am in the same age bracket at Tate and can comfortably stand by what I have said. The point isn't to fit in, it's to be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 12:29 PM
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No Tate takes a kernel of truth and blows everything out of proportion and to an unhealthy extreme. There is underlying truth to a lot of the redpill and Tate has just made himself rich by marketing a lot of the redpill stuff in an extreme package that appeals to people looking for someone to follow. The kind of people who will cut off their nose to spite their face. If you want to hear someone crude with actually decent stuff to say go look up the old Patrice O'Neal material. Even Patrice had e…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 12:06 PM
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I think that depends. People who subscribe to the snake-oil salesmen like Tate probably not in any healthy capacity. If they fall into blackpill territory, they are probably too bitter. A lot of the more stable "redpillers" will say take what works for you and leave what doesn't. Which is a pretty good philosophy for just about every aspect in life. Some guys just want to fuck super hot unstable women, some guys needed an extra push to improve themselves and have the confidence to actually appro…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:30 AM
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Well it is self reported and men may be prone to lying to protect their own egos even if noone would really know the truth except them. Another possibility would be sample bias, who were the men surveyed. Men who have sex tend to have more partners true, however if those men have 0 partners they are not sexually active at all, so would they be counted in the study? Like if the survey participants were recruited from a health clinic, yeah those people are having sex, but how different would the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:53 PM
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The majority of them are doing it of their own volition, they just make bad choices. Many are addicted to the easy money. Doesnt mean some dont treat it professionally. I am referring moreso to countries like Australia and the Netherlands where it is regulated. Even the ones in Nevada have a better grasp on reality than your typical freelance escort. This argument is honestly one of the weakest. People can have whatever contradictory standards they want. But to argue your point, I view it like d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:31 AM
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I don't blame them for wanting easy money. Its not a regular thing but I have no moral reservations about hiring a professional from time to time. Overall I think it is just an easy way to get money without having any marketable skills or special training, other than being attractive. Most likely not. There are levels to it. If it's a tamer onlyfans that's way more agreeable especially if she is successful. I think I draw a fairly rigid line in the sand at full service providers. I'm also not to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 01:07 AM
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I fully agree and support a living wage. I actually think we are getting very close to needing a universal basic income, if isn't already overdue. I agree the definition of lifestyle is a bit different, but I have worked deadend minimum wage jobs and it was way more mentally grueling than the work I do now. College is expensive, but no one has to go to a big-name private school to make good money. I do believe there is a problem with higher education as it currently stands, but that is a totally…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 07:05 PM
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What constitutes a living wage depends on the lifestyle you want to have. Budgeting is always necessary but I'd rather not do without when all things are considered I appreciate ambitious women, so while I respect those who view their profession as a calling, or take joy in their work. It's not something I can always get behind. That's the reason I no longer have an interest in teaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 05:43 PM
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People need to realize being emotionally open is not the same thing as being emotionally secure. Men who are emotionally muted give off the aura of being emotionally secure and when the facade crumbles so do your chances. If you are actually secure with yourself and comfortable with who you are, being emotionally open isn't a problem. There are just too many insecure unstable people. I regularly disclose stuff that is at the top of a lot of people's red flag lists on first dates. But I am comfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 05:24 PM
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That actually sounds like a great job, I was speaking more along the lines of a dollar or two above minimum wage for an assistant manager position with a major chain. If you are making commissions I consider that sales. But those jobs are becoming less and less common in my experience. Although I haven't worked in that field in quite awhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:00 AM
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I really prefer dating professional women who have a degree. I tend to avoid performing arts majors or anything that isn't marketable such as gender studies or philosophy. It's not a deal breaker if she didn't go to college, but she will need to be able to hold an intellectual conversation. I don't date women who would need my financial support to maintain a lifestyle. If we have kids that'd be a possibly different discussion. But for now she needs a respectable career. I don't care if she's a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 10:31 PM
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I suppose the definitions would be similar, but in practice there is a difference. The way I used it is more of a connotative definition, but in practice that's what it ends up usually being. I'd bet there are a ton of people who do not realize or recognize a difference between being traditionally nice and being placating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:32 AM
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I disagree, in that there is often a conflation between being kind and being nice. Nice people get walked over, kind people help someone else get up. We dont need more nice people, we need more kind people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 09:43 AM
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Oh I agree traditionally men have a bigger issue with it because of gender norms. A few decades ago it was common place for educated women to give up potentially promising careers do the husband could make much less money doing whatever he decided to do. But I think the stress that arises from relying on another is universal to a certain degree. I wonder how inaccurate the reportings are. Because it is a mostly modern phenomenon. There's probably a fairly wide margin of error when recording ment…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:22 AM
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To counter one of your points, anyone who is financially dependent upon another person will feel some level of stress and hardship. It's the old cliché of the housewife who cant leave because she cant afford to. Alimony is a thing for a reason and more men are beginning to receive it than ever before, just ask Kevin Federline. (tbh I wish I had a more timely reference but I don't really keep track of celebrity alimony situations.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:07 AM
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It does sound like y'all have a very functional marriage. Kudos on trying to retire early. With all this discussion of gender norms its a bit fascinating to have an inverse example. Despite being a respectable profession it sounds like your law practice is more of a calling and less of a business venture, which is generally the opposite of what is show in most media and general discussion. I know the popular cliche is that the CEO dude will marry a barista, but that pretty much never works out i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:57 AM
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My thought was admittedly the same thing. The way op described their clientele it seemed to imply they chose to represent poorer people or take on pro-bono work. Everyone is always looking to flip the conversation in their favor instead of having a dialog. Seriously, could the wife take on less extreme hours if lifestyle was reduced, or could the attorney rep some clients with deeper pockets if childcare wasnt such an issue? Nothing is as reductive as people on this sub want it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:51 AM
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You worded this quite well, and this is literally the argument that I believe men should sympathize with. It is a completely separate issue, but deserves recognition, both sides do. They are completely different problems but problems none the less. I have seen the dudes my female friends match with and give chances to. They arent even the top 25% of looks and they are generally pretty shitty people. Ranging from failures to launch, to just generally manipulative, the adage that I feel best fits …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:16 AM
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as someone below said, it isnt just sex but nearly all romantic interaction that some of these people are completely deprived of. I am not discounting the issues you are raising, but they are entirely separate issues. For some people dating isnt worth the hassle anymore, but those are people who are actively deciding to remove themselves from the pool. That's just some kid taking his baseball home because he doesnt like the game, while other people arent even allowed on the field. Admittedly som…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:02 AM
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I actually agree with most of what you have said because it echoes what my female friends have told me, and I have heard their dating nightmares. However, I believe you are overlooking the fact that for those who are truly challenged in dating, they are looking at dry spells that are approaching and passing a decade. The sources vary but there is a huge percentage of adult men who have had zero sexual experience, and then that isnt even considering those who had one awkward experience when young…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:07 AM
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It's not going to completely rewrite what you are attracted to, unless you are explicitly attracted to morbidly obese women, you never will be. But there is a world of difference between being a landwhale and being 20 or 30 pounds overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:52 PM
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I think porn warps the standards of most men. If most men would cut their porn consumption in half, they dont even need to completely stop, the women they are attracted to would totally begin to shift. Porn set men up to expect totally unrealistic levels of beauty from women. Even if they are not consciously aware of it it still totally shifts their perceptions. I know it did mine, after I seriously cut back after abstaining for like 30 days, I found myself doing double takes and considering app…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 02:13 PM
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I am 5'6 and heavy set. I work out, but am built stocky.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 02:01 PM
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Here's the thing, too many men have historically relied on being the breadwinner as there only means of maintaining viability on the dating market. Women don't need men as a source of survival anymore, they need to actually desire you as a person. Too many people overinflate how genuinely likeable they are. It's the whole nice guy stereotype, people in general but women especially can tell when you aren't being genuine in some way. There is the whole philosophical discussion relating to religion…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 01:42 PM
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