rufusocracy Archive

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2	American History X (My story) Regarding your previous therapist: you don’t say how long ago you saw him, or how much you told him. A common problem in therapy is that the person looking for it has trouble or is afraid to articulate why they are there, may be reluctant to trust, so the therapist has to guess somewhat, but all the symptoms they would use to diagnose you are internal unless you speak them. So he may have been listening to try and diagnose you, without pushing your trust, and wasn’t able to do so without enough …	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/19 09:09 PM
4	American History X (My story) Because the dirty secret of all science is that science itself is a story, and all stories have an agenda. Science is often wrong, especially science that is new and still developing. That’s not to say all science is wrong, or that you shouldn’t trust science...I myself am in training to be a social scientist, I believe in science...but rather that science is a PROCESS with the goal of truth...which is not the same thing as actual truth. Truth is the ideal end product, but not everything provide…	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/19 08:57 PM
1	American History X (My story) Interesting. For the record, that is an uncommon internal state, as you may have inferred from your interactions with others who appear to be more grounded and consistent with a core identity. You might have something more going on than ADHD. In some ways and contexts, this aspect of your personality and internal state might be an advantage but as it seems you are discovering, it can also be seriously maladaptive and affect your life even if it doesn’t “feel” bothersome internally, moment to mom…	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/19 06:54 PM
6	American History X (My story) It sounds like you have a very poor “theory of mind” — which is to say, even though you know you have internal mental states — beliefs, intents, desires, emotions, knowledge, etc. — you struggle to attribute or legitimize those same things in other people, particularly women, and you seem to seriously struggle to understand that others in general and women in particular have internal beliefs, desires, intentions, and perspectives that are different from your own. You just assume for guys that at…	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/19 03:38 PM
3	MGTOWs views on marriage are probably the only thing left that might still make me believe in the red pill? Can someone help me out of it? It’s not immature to not want to get married or to think it’s risky. That’s fine, that just means you are taking it seriously which you should. What is immature is wanting something LIKE marriage without actually getting married. That sounds like you want the good parts of marriage but not to have to deal with the potential obligations. Like wanting a job for the paycheck but not wanting to have to go through training or show up on time or wear a uniform. Or wanting an apartment but not wanting …	/r/ExRedPill	17/08/19 01:46 AM
6	MGTOWs views on marriage are probably the only thing left that might still make me believe in the red pill? Can someone help me out of it? Yeah that’s not how it works. If you get married informally and then call yourselves husband and wife (or whatever combination) but never file the paperwork, and then you split, she can still make a claim on the value of the life you built together. That’s the point of coupling up, you are building a shared vision of a life together that includes assets and choices that you collectively created, including a certain valuation of unpaid labor that improved your life even if it didn’t create moneta…	/r/ExRedPill	15/08/19 03:36 PM
11	What's the appropriate confidense level acceptable for a guy to start dating? One of the things redpill does is create a black and white perspective on a situation that is inherently gradations of grey. In short, the reason some of the redpill advice on women sounds realistic on its face is because women may have very high standards for long term relationships, marriage, parenthood and other big, long term commitments. Not every interaction with women is a big, long term, would-I-coparent-with-this-person-for-18+-years commitment. For you OR for her. THAT is the unrealist…	/r/ExRedPill	24/07/19 02:52 PM
6	Women, do you think nice guys chase after the wrong types of women? Our culture fetishizes these types of women. In fact, both being that woman or dating or marrying or fathering that woman, who is excessively consumptive, performs all the rituals and purchases all the accoutrements we have declared comprise beauty, a woman who decorated herself with designer clothing and jewelry and makeup and perfume and who spends her days pampering herself rather than providing labor that produces a product or service useful to othersSee footnote...being able to be that woma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/19 04:39 PM
7	How can I start trusting again? You won’t like this because it goes against red pill philosophy but I will recommend it anyway because I believe if you do it it will help you. You are essentially being haunted by persistent thoughts and doubts and fears that you believe do not reflect reality or your conscious preferences. This is something that happens to a lot of people who are anxious about something that they care about deeply, and is best overcome with trained professionals who have experience and techniques to help you m…	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/19 04:38 AM
3	How to show more affection to a girl your with? Well for one, showing affection is something people who care about each other so as little affirmations, not to “bait” someone into liking you. They are for each other, a kind of secret language between two people, they don’t have to be and for some shouldn’t be a public, status-affirming thing. They don’t make you weak and shouldn’t be used as manipulation (though some see it that way and they can be used that way, that’s not how they are intended or interpreted by most). Some people have had s…	/r/ExRedPill	06/03/19 09:28 PM
17	There is no point to dating unless you have male model looks Is your therapist talking about your appearance? Because that’s the exact same thing other people are telling you right now. It’s not appearance it’s behaviors or beliefs on your end that the women you go out with are picking up on. Your therapist is not a witness to your behaviors on your dates and probably would only be able to help you if you describe what you do and why you do it, and that assumes you self-report correctly instead of either hiding problematic behaviors (deception) or failing…	/r/ExRedPill	04/03/19 12:00 AM
21	There is no point to dating unless you have male model looks You almost certainly won’t want to hear this but it’s the truth so it should be said: get into therapy. A therapist can help you get objective feedback about yourself, about your behaviors, about your thoughts about yourself, and about what you can do to improve all of that, and will help you do so. Cognitive behavioral therapy is probably a good start lacking other information about you.	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/19 10:14 PM
15	Negative belief about women and sexuality that I'm struggling with You’re problem is thinking that all women only are attracted to and want only one thing. This is categorically nonsense. There are billions of different women in the world and millions in the United States; there are LOTS of different categories an individual is attracted to and lots of different individuals. As another user pointed out, they thought women were only attracted to older guys. Your statement that women are only attracted to guys who are “good looking” but are short and scrawny goes…	/r/ExRedPill	24/02/19 04:10 PM
1	Why so few young women have short hair? That’s the ticket hahahahaha	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 03:25 PM
1	Why so few young women have short hair? Tbh this would be my answer too, gender aside, but the hypothetical scenario is designed to be like imagine what you’d do absent any motivation to give a fuck about social preferences or others in your decision making, not to be an actual test of the practicality of survival alone on a deserted island, haha.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 03:11 PM
1	Why so few young women have short hair? Yeah I suspect that’s the answer for most women tbh. Like, length does have some associations with femininity or whatever but in my experience most women don’t involve the cultural appeal of a given length to men in their length preference calculations, even if they are young. Women who have long hair have long hair because they like or prefer having long hair and would choose to have long hair just for themselves even if there was no one around to see or appeal to or judge and never would be. W…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 03:09 PM
1	Why so few young women have short hair? I mean, the whole point of the scenario is to try and create a situation in which there is no one to ever see your hair for the rest of your life, or after death, to minimize the impact of appearances and giving any fucks about anyone else’s perceptions or social propriety on the decision about what to do with your hair. Literally it’s just, what do you want to do with your hair? But sure, whatever grooming utensils are necessary for you to comfortably manage your own hair to your own personal p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 07:12 AM
1	Why so few young women have short hair? I think it’s worth contemplating a hypothetical scenario: if a given young woman was stranded alone on a desert island and knew she would not be rescued or ever found, so there is no one around to give a shit about what she looks like and there never will be, but she had a pair of scissors so she could cut her hair however long or short she wanted...how long would she choose to keep her hair? The number of women who would choose long hair in this case might be smaller than the number of women wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/19 03:13 AM
1	The "only 2% of reported rapes are false" statistic commonly cited by feminists is misleading Because, sadly, rape is plausible. Very plausible. Because anonymous surveys of men have somewhere between 5 and 14% on average saying that they would rape a woman if they knew they could get away with it, about 3 percent in such anonymous surveys admit that they have raped a woman at least once and some more than once. And that’s when using the specific word “rape;” when asked if they would “force or coerce a woman to have sex against her will” but avoiding using the word “rape” which has clear…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/18 10:25 PM
1	The "only 2% of reported rapes are false" statistic commonly cited by feminists is misleading I do understand the premise of your post. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt that you can be persuaded by evidence and that you had a broad understanding of crime as it actually occurs and is processed by perpetrators, victims and law enforcement in America. That’s why I didn’t say that there are many crimes, of all types, that occur but aren’t reported because the victims know that they wouldn’t be believed by police for various reasons, there is little evidence that would hold up in a c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/18 09:49 PM
-1	The "only 2% of reported rapes are false" statistic commonly cited by feminists is misleading Both your original post and the comments that follow are not really addressing the actual SOURCE of the statistic. That’s somewhat understandable because that debate is actually about mathematics and research that take place at the PhD level that most people don’t have training in, so most don’t understand the source of the controversy or what exactly it means. Here’s a good article that is pretty straightforward and evenhanded in explaining the research without getting super technical about the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/18 06:32 PM
6	Why do women go home from a bar with a dude if they don't want to bone them? If only that were true. Sadly I have heard many not only on the internet but in person wearing their actual faces who claim that once a woman goes home with a guy, she can’t really take her consent back. There’s nothing wrong with being upset at rejection. What COULD be wrong is the way that upset manifests if it’s abusive, harassing, violent, or if you think consent is some sort of permanent one way deal and you can take what you want because she consented to come home with you before. Because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/18 10:01 PM
6	Why do women go home from a bar with a dude if they don't want to bone them? Shockingly, this was not a comment intended to virtue signal about rape being bad, something I’d hope most members of society agree on, but rather a comment about women being allowed to change their mind about fucking someone they had intended to fuck prior to or in the middle of the act of fucking that person, and that being their right and not some sort of heinously offensive, deceptive, or mastermind fuckery manipulative attempt on their part. This opinion — that a woman can decide to fuck a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/18 09:54 PM
27	Why do women go home from a bar with a dude if they don't want to bone them? So I hesitate to answer this because the question itself is a little disingenuous...there are few circumstances where your choice is some kind of irreversible contracts that you can’t go back on for almost any reason. But assuming you really don’t understand...Many possible reasons, including: He started acting different and more assholeish after they got home once he gained confidence or arrogance thinking it was a done deal — changing her mind because circumstances of his actions changed The p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/18 08:27 PM
5	TRP mindset too deep rooted in me - can't stop It’s important you realize the difference between your fears / insecurities and reality. Your therapist can help with that. My husband does this all the time; it’s called “catastrophizing” and “ruminating,” and it stresses him all to shit without any benefit (some stress helps you notice problems or plan — not this kind). A huge part of the problem is you surrounded yourself by a group of people repeating the same story and same ideology so much that it seems like it must be true, like its reali…	/r/ExRedPill	18/07/18 05:42 AM
2	Should pro-choice mentality be extended to male parents too? I’m going to copy and paste a comment I’ve previously made on a related thread about abortion (In that thread, someone was asking why we don’t let men get a “financial abortion”. The answer was that kids weren’t the ones making the decisions and they were entitled to support from both parents, and I was explaining how the difference in “time” women and men had about deciding not to be parents was “fair”.) Edited slightly to help with ease of reading. ————— This kind of thing is always tricky bec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/18 09:53 PM
2	How are you supposed to vet if a man will be a good father/not change after childbirth? There’s not a yes/no about either men OR women being good parents. It’s a scale slash spectrum. Men generally are less involved than women with kids and less involved in household chores than women EVEN adjusting for hours worked AND PAY. The comments here about men being the providers are simply not accurate about how households in the U.S. run, even if it describes some agreed upon arrangements. Most women AND most men work, and male involvement in household maintenance and childcare has incre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/18 06:50 PM