runesnroses Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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377	Zero Effort Valentine’s Day My ex refused to celebrate V-Day because he thought it was just another made-up holiday meant to suck men dry. My HV father, who always celebrated it growing up, told me this last Monday that “it took everything in me not to drive over to your house and leave you something as a surprise” when he gave me some flowers and a box of chocolates this year. I’ve been thinking about it a lot. Like, it’s not always just about the romance, it’s about being the kind of guy who wants an excuse (however smal…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 02:23 PM
116	Why do men act so nice to other people but seem to hate their own wife and children? This is hugely important. Also, men use abuse to avoid their family responsibilities. If every time you ask a man to wash a dish he shouts at you, or calls you names or does it but is pissy for the next ten hours, you’re being punished for making him do anything. My ex would go on some long explanation that he shouldn’t have to wash dishes because if I wasn’t cooking, he wouldn’t be eating (????); because I took too much control in the kitchen so he was too demoralized to bother. And at the end …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/21 02:55 AM
4	Men Who are Still Friends With their Exes I am a friendly acquaintance of my ex. Amicable split, we usually text “happy birthday”, he let me know a week after his dad died and asks after my parents’ health. I sometimes ask him for career advice because he’s a guru, he asks me questions about cat-rearing once every several years. That’s it. Curious to know if this relationship makes anybody anxious? I mainly date women now and he is happily married. What say you guys?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/21 03:18 AM
51	A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualities After ten years, I broke up with my ex then when he came groveling I asked what he even liked about me. First answer “you’re gorgeous” 😬	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/10/21 09:57 PM
1	FDS approved fiction? The Hamish Macbeth series by MC Beaton if you like slightly dated mystery fiction. The main character is a HVM who is drawn to HVW, agonizes over how to have a meaningful relationship- I got some series feminist vibes from them. They’re cute and relaxing. My mom says Beaton’s Agatha Raisin books are even more feminist but I haven’t gotten to them yet.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/21 01:49 AM
5	You can increase your standards at any time. Try it with me. I guided my NVX from literal homelessness to a six figure income before he became physically abusive and drove me away claiming he was a “self-made man”. He loves his job, owns his own house, and you can bet he won’t say a word about how I supported him in attaining those goals to the next woman. ALWAYS BE VETTING.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/09/21 01:19 AM
59	Since breaking up… Great work!! I’ve lost about 8 pounds, started writing a book, gotten rid of about half my paper clutter, fixed up my house to get ready to put it on the market, and have almost finished preparing my application materials for a job I hope to get. I really needed this positive message today, thanks sis!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/07/21 08:48 PM
8	The 'Spiritual' Narcissist My ex had a lot of this, but I hate religion and am very firm in my boundaries against all kinds of religious or spiritual guidance. My ex found this very grating because he was always trying to guide me with his superior spiritualism, and it was just a non-starter. I think this made him feel inadequate so he started tearing me down in other ways. His own sister referred to him as a “shaman” once. 🤪. I couldn’t take him seriously because I’d seen him punching walls and worse, shouting at me so o…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/07/21 01:28 AM
147	What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn? The whole time I knew my ex, his pupils never got larger when he looked at me. They’re supposed to - when you look at something you love, your pupils dilate because of oxytocin or something. My BFF (who does not look at porn, reads erotica, lol) and I were laughing over coffee once and I looked into his eyes and his pupils were huge, and I always remembered that. I mentioned it to him and he looked away, embarrassed. My ex never looked at me like he loved me that much. Just an anecdote.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 01:32 PM
90	When did it “click” for you that’s what posted here/the principles were helping/helped you? Let’s start a list for others… As we were breaking up (a long and drawn out process), I kept asking my ex “why do you even like me?” And his answers were all about either my physical appearance, his needs (I don’t want to have sex with someone else, I’m looking for the anecdotes you share, you’ve taken ownership of cleaning the kitchen???), or how hard it would be to find someone with equivalent qualities he can boast about. I was like, oh god I’m an accessory and a bangmaid. 🤭	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/07/21 12:33 AM