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One of the difficulties with a mensrights subreddit is that it brings all kinds of opinions out of the woodwork. Perhaps it is correct that all the trolling is being done by feminists, but I actually find this somewhat hard to believe. It seems equally likely that there are some people out there who really are furious at women and see this as a forum where their "fucking bitch cunt whores" speech might get some sympathy. And, every now and then they are correct, and these sorts of comments do ge…
/r/MensRights03/12/10 12:58 AM
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Oh, gosh. First of all, we're looking at The Frisky, and a journalist who explains her interest in snooping with reference to being a Scorpio? Great place to start from. Secondly, I feel I have to point out that many of these "snooping" situations aren't necessarily intentional snooping, just things like opening a computer to find someone's email still logged in, or opening someone's bathroom cabinet. There doesn't seem to be the necessary ill-intention involved. Moreover, almost all of these ar…
/r/MensRights01/12/10 11:58 PM
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What about the men who come here and complain about the same things?
/r/MensRights01/12/10 11:43 PM
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Conversely, if you are breaking it off and they're willing to work on it, how is it not your "fault", in some sense?
/r/MensRights28/11/10 09:07 PM
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And you've never seen a misogynistic post here?
/r/MensRights28/11/10 09:01 PM
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Are you saying that a woman who drinks to the point at which she cannot give consent deserves to be raped? This is poor behavior, but rape is not an appropriate punishment. And if you are dumb enough to drink yourself into oblivion and then unlucky enough to run into someone who will take advantage of that, the fact that you were stupid and ended up in that situation does not mean you gave consent to anything. At which point yes, you should be encouraged to speak up for yourself. No one is encou…
/r/MensRights28/11/10 06:32 PM
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I entirely agree that "privilege" is often used to mean any advantage, and I don't like the way the word is generally used. I just wanted to point out that men do have advantages, and there are some pretty sane people who happen to be sensitive to this. That alone doesn't invalidate any other opinions they may have. Certainly you can talk about white privilege, or the privilege of being born to an educated family, or the privilege of growing up with enough food to eat every day. There are certai…
/r/MensRights28/11/10 06:26 PM
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They are non-verbal characters. That they are gendered at all is a little confusing. This is why I'm having trouble with them being role models. They are certainly pretty cool.
/r/MensRights27/11/10 05:12 PM
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Are we using the FBI's definition? It seems like the US Bureau of Statistics collects statistics of male rape victims. And the FBI isn't the main enforcer of domestic law. I'd consider rape to be non-consensual sex, regardless of gender. Women are privileged in that they are less likely to be victims of false rape allegations. Men are privileged in that they are less likely to be the victims of rape. Those statements aren't contradictory. I'm not asking you to say men have it so much better than…
/r/MensRights27/11/10 05:10 PM
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You certainly don't need to be warm and inviting. However I'd rather have a response that starts dialogue than a snappy come-back soundbite. To each their own.
/r/MensRights27/11/10 05:05 PM
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you are not accountable for anything that evil rapists do You think you are? if you think you might have been raped, then you were. Did you consent to sex? No? Then you were raped. This isn't rocket science. What exactly are we "excusing" here? Women partying? Women drinking? False rape accusations? Be speicfic.
/r/MensRights27/11/10 05:04 PM
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No, men are also discriminated against. There are lots of situations in which being a woman results in privilege. There are also some in which being a man results in privilege. Is that really such a controversial statement?
/r/MensRights26/11/10 05:24 AM
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Fair enough. My issue with Barbie isn't that women are being driven to excel though.
/r/MensRights26/11/10 05:22 AM
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The willful ignorance of sexual differences in behavior, and the inane idea that men can be "reprogrammed" not to act as men, is what puts women in danger. What are these sexual differences? What does it mean to act as a man? And, if we decide that men and women are different, and women need to avoid doing things to trigger male sexuality, isn't that still giving men some sort of privilege, given that a man in the same situation wouldn't necessarily have to avoid the same things?
/r/MensRights26/11/10 05:21 AM
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most women who claim to have been raped(date rape, and so on) are not victims Really? Do you have stats on this? You seem to be implying that date rape doesn't exist. Maybe you just mean most women lie about it, but your phrasing does not make that clear. Women want men to lead, it's the origin of the 'man up' meme No, "man up" is definitely a phrase that originated among men. It's no longer uncommon for women to say it, but it's more common to hear men say it to each other. I helped a homeless …
/r/MensRights26/11/10 05:15 AM
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There is the sense among many that feminism encourages women to engage in risky behavior for the express purpose of demonstrating that rapes do happen. Well, you clearly have that sense. I'm not sure how many other people do. You also seem to believe that prudent sensible women largely have it in their control to avoid that violence. and you're going to have to convince me that this is true. You seem to be saying that the only women who get raped are those who drink themselves into oblivion arou…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:33 PM
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What I suppose I find less harmful about the Lion King than Hercules, and less harmful about Hercules than some of the Barbie stuff directed at girls, is that the male characters are being judged based on their actions. Simba does a lot of really cool stuff. You're correct that being such a badass might be impossible for most of us, but we can decide to do things like confront conflict head-on, deal with past mistakes, etc. Hercules is mostly cool because he's really really strong and has lots o…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:31 PM
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If you are this sure they have nothing worth saying, why are you talking to them in the first place?
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:27 PM
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Most lead movie characters are male. While women do occasionally rape men, this is very very rare compared to men raping women. When you ask a woman for help, you do not have to be concerned that she will decide that since she helped you, you owe her a date, or sex. It's unlikely that women driving by you have shouted lewd comments at you. If you have no-strings-attached sex and let your peers know, they are more likely to congratulate you than call you a whore. You are definitely correct that w…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:26 PM
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My point isn't that Jesse isn't a good character. She's just a relatively minor one in the Toy Story series. I would rather have 5 out of 10 movies have strong female leads, none of which are total bullshit. I realize this is probably too much to ask for. However, recent Disney princess movies do have good female leads...look at Mulan or The Princess and the Frog.
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:16 PM
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I'm not sure either Eve or Wall-E really counts as a role model? They are robots. It's definitely nice Eve is there (and totally badass) but you can hardly compare her to Mulan.
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:14 PM
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In general movies intended for a mixed audience have male leads, because women are better at identifying with men than men are at identifying with women. It's true, Disney could surprise me. However, if you look at most "gender neutral" movies, they tend to have male leads. See: Wall-E, Toy Story, Monsters Inc., How To Tame Your Dragon, Up... These movies are individually great, and it's not bad that producers sometimes want to have male leads. It just means that most female protagonists appear …
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:13 PM
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Well, this is my own opinion on the topic, and there are different ways to deal with it. I do believe that male privilege exists in some situations, and that there are statements some men make that they make because they are unaware of this privilege. However, I think the standard "check your privilege" is a way of dismissing anything men say because they are male. If you're willing to have a real discussion about the topic, asking them to explain what exactly they are talking about is the way t…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:10 PM
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Uh... Beauty and the Beast tells girls reading is good, that you can say no to the popular tool who thinks that because other girls want him you should too, that you are capable of saving your father, and that you shouldn't judge people based on appearances. The Beast isn't a monster, and that's kind of the point. Gaston is the monster. The message that you should pick the guy who isn't so hot but actually cares about you isn't such a terrible one.
/r/MensRights24/11/10 09:05 PM
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The part I've never heard is that women should not alter their behavior in the least to avoid being raped. And yes, it is victim blaming to say that a woman is responsible for being raped because she drank too much. There are things woman can (and generally should) do to lower their risk of being raped, which would include not getting shitfaced around strange men. However, a woman who is really really wasted around a creeper is still not "responsible" for being raped. The person responsible is t…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 07:08 PM
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Young women need not alter their behavior in the least to avoid being raped. It is perfectly acceptable for them to drink to unconsciousness in the company of men they don't know, even if this increases the statistical likelihood that they will be raped, because to counsel that they exercise even a modicum of common sense in that circumstance is "victim blaming." Funny, I don't think anyone's ever told me this. I also like how the only example of rape you're giving is consensual sex while drunk.…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:41 PM
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"Check your privilege" -- ask them to be very specific about what privilege they are referring to. There are areas in which men have privilege, and if they can succinctly put their finger on what exactly you said that bothered them, that's probably worth talking about. If it's just that they've experienced so much discrimination and you haven't, point out that calling basic human rights "privileges" is not exactly helping an argument that says everyone should have them. You could go on to discus…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:35 PM
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Hercules, sure. The Lion King? Really?
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:32 PM
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A lot of the more recent Disney princess movies have very strong female leads. A move towards more gender neutral movies probably means male leads with female support.
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:31 PM
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Are you really citing Jesse as a strong female character? She doesn't even appear until the second movie! Toy Story is a great movie, but all the main characters are male. This is true of most movies that aren't explicitly intended for women. Women tend to be better at identifying with men than men are at identifying with women. It makes sense that movies usually have male leads. However, most Pixar movies do not provide any sort of strong female role model for girls. We can debate whether or no…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:30 PM
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Which "princesses" are you really objecting to? Is it Mulan, who goes to war in her father's place to save the country? Belle, who loves to read and trades places with her father to keep him safe, finally saving the Beast at the end of the movie? Ariel, who finds a way around her father's wishes to confine her and travels into a strange land?
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:27 PM
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Well, yes and no. Fairy tales tend to be pretty ridiculous on the gender equality front, but in recent years, Disney's actually put a fair amount of effort into creating strong female characters. If you look at the more recent princess movies, the female protagonist has been given real personality and agency. The Princess and the Frog or Mulan both have girls as the main characters who are pretty good role models. Pocahontas, Jasmine, Belle, and Ariel are the next most recent, and all of these c…
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:25 PM
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She's complaining that Disney is moving away from female leads in kids' movies. So, I'd say the fact that most movies do not show female interaction except insofar as it is about males is somewhat relevant.
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:17 PM
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I think a company being okay with hiring gay men, but not women, would still count as sexist.
/r/MensRights24/11/10 06:13 PM
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Yes and this bothers me a lot.
/r/MensRights24/11/10 04:56 AM
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Uh... I don't KNOW any 80 year old men, or women. Other than my great-grandmother, but as she's family I guess she doesn't count as a friend. That, and she's over 90.
/r/MensRights22/11/10 10:49 PM
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Are you saying there can be no healthy platonic friendships between men and women?
/r/MensRights22/11/10 10:31 PM
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Wouldn't that be 3 reported cases of men attacking women in your neighborhood? Would a woman attacking another woman, whether alone or in a public setting, be anywhere near as likely to be reported or make the same kind of press? Sure. The three reported cases I am referring to were cases of rape or attempted rape, perpetuated on a woman by a man late at night while she was alone. Of course it's possible that a woman would attack another woman, but probably not under those circumstances, and if …
/r/MensRights18/11/10 09:56 PM
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Just playing devil's advocate: I've never heard of women being attacked out of the blue by other women. This isn't to say it's never happened. Just that when I'm walking alone at night, I know I'm unlikely to be attacked at all, but it seems much much much more likely that my potential assailant would be a man. There have been 3 cases of men attacking women in my neighborhood in the last 5 or 6 years, none of women attacking women. Additionally, a woman trying to fight back against a male assail…
/r/MensRights18/11/10 07:55 PM
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You know, misogyny is not a bad word. I'm not saying you're a terrible person or anything like that. Misogyny is the hatred of women. Maybe that means hating them for fair reasons. Maybe they do, in fact parade around like whores, act like bimbo's and such whenever it suits their needs for: attention, money, or snagging some man they want. If this is what you believe, then I understand why you might hate women. I don't understand how you can then take offense when someone calls you misogynistic …
/r/MensRights18/11/10 05:00 AM
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Oh, wow, a misogynist magazine article supported your misogynistic view point. Thank you for removing yourself from the dating pool.
/r/MensRights18/11/10 02:34 AM
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Yes, it's too bad that everyone is claiming these people are sexual perverts. However, it's happening because you have know way of knowing whether the guy touching your balls is or is not interested in them. There's always that doubt in your mind about whether they like it or not. And it's that doubt that makes people feel they've been sexually assaulted. Additionally, having your genitals touched without your permission is sexual assault, regardless of intention.
/r/MensRights18/11/10 12:01 AM
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double standard of only women being able to search in some areas is totally wrong and does negatively stereotype me Isn't the rule just that you can request a search by someone of the same gender?
/r/MensRights17/11/10 11:59 PM
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It's not a special privilege to be able to hold hands with your gf, it's something everyone should be entitled to. The problem is that some people can't, not that some people can.
/r/MensRights17/11/10 11:55 PM
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No, no one should have to deal with the hassles that minorities deal with day to day. Privileges are special things that only skillful or lucky people get. It's a privilege to go to college, it's a privilege to have a nice car, it's a privilege to be a CEO. "Lucky" is all relative, and I'll agree that someone punching you for saying they're lucky is an asshole. But privilege implies you're getting something special. Basic human dignity is not a privilege, it's something everyone should be entitl…
/r/MensRights17/11/10 11:54 PM
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On the topic of arresting people: Biting someone's arm - yes Scratching hard enough to draw blood - yes Single slap, hitting arms - I don't know, that's much harder for me to judge.
/r/MensRights13/11/10 01:17 AM
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Don't worry, I certainly know men who have not been raised to serve and protect women. And, despite having never had a brother or a son, I am concerned about men's rights. It's not all black and white.
/r/MensRights13/11/10 12:48 AM
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Thanks for your response. I've been wondering about this for a while, particularly because I know you don't need to press charges for an assaulter to be charged with assault. I see what you mean about a contract providing some sort of evidence about the nature of the relationship. I'm still not sure it's something I'd be willing to trust enough to do something that could potentially be prosecuted. Whether or not one feels regret after sex took place is clearly not what determines whether someone…
/r/MensRights12/11/10 05:16 AM
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it gets annoying when it's obvious that the only reason a woman cares is because it effects them. Aren't there also a lot of men who only care about mens rights because it effects them? I understand what you're saying, but I think many people start caring more about abstract inequality when they're put in a situation where they have to deal with personally.
/r/MensRights12/11/10 05:08 AM
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Genuine question here. If you agree in contract to have someone do something to you that would generally be illegal (beat you with a cane, cut you up, iono), does the fact that you consented to it make it legal? Assisted suicide isn't legal. Are there other things like that, where you can't give consent to let someone else do it to you?
/r/MensRights11/11/10 09:19 PM
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Those contracts aren't legally binding.
/r/MensRights11/11/10 11:16 AM
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you're like a stupid chick focusing on the trees and completely missing the forest. These are the sorts of comments that open Mensrights up to all sorts of accusations of misogyny. You are telling someone they're being stupid by comparing them to a woman. This bothers me both as a woman and as a men's rights advocate.
/r/MensRights11/11/10 05:54 AM
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See /r/OneY?
/r/MensRights11/11/10 05:42 AM
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Actually, there is a lot in this subreddit that discourages women from joining the discussion. There have been times when I've felt identifying myself as a woman on this subreddit has opened me up to aimless rage at women. I've also seen comments that contain some message along the lines of "men should be able to craft what men's rights are without any input from women...what are you doing here?". You personally may have no problem with women participating in this subreddit, but there are probab…
/r/MensRights10/11/10 11:16 AM
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How many feminists do you know who actually use the term 'womyn'? I'm curious because I don't personally know any who don't think that word's sillly. I've only ever heard it in sarcasm.
/r/MensRights10/11/10 11:13 AM
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I wasn't responding to kloo2yoo because I thought you'd done anything wrong, but because I don't like the idea that sexual abuse/harassment/whatever you want to call it couldn't happen at a frat party. But I guess he had an issue with the label you had used and not with the notion that inappropriate and potentially illegal behavior could occur in that context. I would honestly be surprised if this girl could win the case in court, particularly if you had witnesses of this entire interaction. How…
/r/MensRights05/11/10 07:36 PM
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You are correct that this does not meet the definition of sexual harassment. However, I think OP labeled it that way. From the quotes he shared, her statements seem to have been "what the fuck, why are you groping me?" and "well well look who's here. the pervert from yesterday." It's not as though she was trying to win a sexual harassment lawsuit, just tell him he was being a creep. Sexual harassment is used colloquially to describe anything in the category of what I guess is defined as sexual a…
/r/MensRights05/11/10 07:13 PM
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I thought the men's rights movement was about advancing the interests of men. Now I realize it only applies to heterosexual white men. Nice.
/r/MensRights05/11/10 07:08 PM
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Because no one's ever been sexually harassed at a frat party? Or because a girl going to a frat party is consenting to any sort of treatment from any guy who stumbles along? Yes, sexual harassment could occur at a frat party.
/r/MensRights05/11/10 06:25 PM
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Oh those pesky numbers and percentage signs. Who needs data when we can just make sweeping generalizations based on anecdotal evidence?
/r/MensRights05/11/10 06:17 PM
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Whether or not you believe that is rape, legally someone who is intoxicated cannot consent to sex. I agree this is unjust, that it's used to blame men for regretted sex in which the woman was a willing participant, and that it's worth discussing this with your friend if she's thinking of prosecuting. However, if what happened to your friend meets both her own definition of rape and the legal definition, I don't think there's anything dishonest about her telling you she has been raped. And as her…
/r/MensRights05/11/10 12:45 AM
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Okay, I see where you're coming from. I also have issues with many definitions of rape. I think this I would immediately believe that she considers what happened to her was rape. is what I mean when I say that I would believe her. A week later if she were thinking about prosecuting, I would might start asking what exactly had happened a little more carefully, but at the point when she first told me, my immediate reaction would be to support and believe her on this sort of provisional basis.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 10:35 PM
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Asking for more information doesn't equate to rape denier. However, on any kind of multiple choice test, the goal is to pick the best answer, not an answer that could be justified. I understand someone might be curious, or someone might think talking more about the situation would help resolve emotions, and that asking questions isn't necessarily an indicator of disbelief. However, when choosing between asking questions or offering support, one seems clearly better than the other.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 10:27 PM
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The OP stated: Clearly no harm could be done by asking Becky questions about that night, to try and help her understand if she was, in fact, raped. This does not sound like innocent and supportive "wanting to know more about the situation" to me, this sounds like someone who has decided Becky cannot make a judgment about whether or not she was raped on her own and needs his help. It's this reaction to immediately distrust Becky's account of what happened that I have a problem with. How would som…
/r/MensRights04/11/10 10:24 PM
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I think your standards for belief might be unrealistically high. Is it possible that she's lying? Yes, but that's a possibility whenever she says anything at all. She is apparently your friend, so presumably you believe most things she says unless I have a reason not to. Your reluctance to believe her seems to indicate you have a reason not to believe she was raped. What would that reason be?
/r/MensRights04/11/10 10:19 PM
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I think questions like was it just now, do I need to take you to the hospital? Was it by your sister when you were a child, do you need a friend to help you find an "incest survival and recovery" group? Do you think you're pregnant and need counselling from Planned Parenthood? go into the category of believing and supporting, not "ask her more questions about the night in question".
/r/MensRights04/11/10 10:07 PM
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On a multiple choice test, when choosing between belief and support and asking questions, given this is your friend coming to you, the choice seems pretty obvious. That doesn't mean you might not change your beliefs if more information comes to light, but in general I believe things my friends tell me about their lives, unless I have a reason not to.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 10:05 PM
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If you're choosing in multiple choice between supporting her and believing her and asking her more questions about the night, it seems pretty obvious which is the right answer. If your friend comes to you saying "I might have been raped", then it makes plenty of sense to discuss the events of that evening. If your friend comes to you saying "I was raped", then given that you're their friend, you should believe them. The same way you'd believe them if they said they'd been mugged, or that their b…
/r/MensRights04/11/10 10:04 PM
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Because it's still his baby?
/r/MensRights04/11/10 08:30 PM
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Both legal guardians have to consent to have a child adopted, I believe. Artificial scenario, but: Say a couple is pregnant and the woman carries carry the baby to term. They have been planning on adoption, but once the baby is born the man decides he does not wish to give the child up after all. The woman has no desire to be a mother. In this case, I think the man is entitled to raise the child alone, and that if he chooses to do so, the woman should pay child support. Even though she only carr…
/r/MensRights04/11/10 08:09 PM
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Okay, you are trolling but you are right I should expand that argument. In the event of pregnancy there are four options: A. both parents want child B. man wants child and woman doesn't C. woman wants child and man doesn't D. neither parent wants child. A and D are obvious. B should be easily resolved based on who has to carry the baby to term. An individual has sovereignty over her body, and a decision to have a medical procedure should be made by the individual who's body is in question. And y…
/r/MensRights04/11/10 05:17 PM
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No, because the fetus is inside someone else's body. You don't get to control what happens inside someone else's body.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 03:31 PM
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This makes a lot of sense if child support were paid to the woman. However, it's not about the woman, or about the hardship raising a child puts on her. It's about the child, who will do best with resources from both parents, whether or not both parents wanted him to be born.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 08:04 AM
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I have completely lost faith in the female side of humanity when it comes to issues like this. It sounds like your girlfriend actually behaved as well as you could possibly expect given the circumstances? This is a good reason to avoid sex + drugs, not lose faith in women.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:36 AM
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lol at body distinct from his soul...
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:29 AM
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You're talking about things as they are, and I'm talking about things as I think they should be. I think rape should be handled differently than consensual sex. Your link was interesting (and somewhat tragic), but I don't think it contradicted my intent. Sorry if that was unclear.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:26 AM
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Honestly kids not liking their mother's boyfriend doesn't mean anything terrible is happening. It's hard to make the adjustment. Maybe ask more about what he's yelling about. Does the 4 year old like him, or at least feel comfortable with him? I am not so sure why you're this upset. It seems normal for a 4 year old to sleep with her mom, at least occasionally, and only a little weird that her boyfriend's also there. Maybe this is something you want to discuss with their mom?
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:17 AM
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Supposing anything sounds fishy from her, ask if the boyfriend holds her in bed or touches her. this can really clear up the waters as to whether there's foul play involved. I'm not sure OP is in a position to ask these questions in an unbiased way. Kids are sensitive and will say what they have to hear. The boyfriend touching her could mean all sorts of things, some of which are totally fine. If he's really concerned about it, maybe he should talk to a child psychologist.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:12 AM
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At the same time, I don't think the standard time children get molested is when their mothers are present. And the child is voluntarily snuggling.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:10 AM
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I don't think men should be jailed in cases when they are unable to pay child support. I agree that is a violation of their rights.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:08 AM
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You know, I agree that it's irresponsible, and I don't see any reason to not just discuss these things ahead of time and be on the same page about them. However when we're talking legality, I just can't imagine legislation that forces a woman to either abort or not abort based on anything other than her own wishes. It's a medical procedure and it's her body. People shouldn't make unilateral decisions to take on those responsibilities, but once the baby is born it does need support.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:07 AM
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Once the baby is born, it's a child. First trimester, it's a fetus, and is not a child. If I thought it were a child, I would be against abortion in all cases.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:05 AM
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I didn't say that was how it was handled, I said I would support legislation to waive the father's responsibility.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 07:03 AM
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2) The issue here is that child support isn't paid to benefit the woman, it's paid to benefit the child. 3) Pregnancy can result in all sorts of other complications. If you're going to say it's possible this could be the father's only chance to have a baby, we should also note it's possible the woman will die due to complications from her pregnancy. I do not think an individual should be able to control another individual's body.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 05:28 AM
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Rape seems like a very different case than birth control failing. When you consent to sex, you consent to the risk of a child. As a woman, you consent to the risk of getting pregnant and having to make a decision, as a man you consent to the risk of your partner getting pregnant and having to go along with her decision. If you don't like it, don't have sex, or get a vasectomy. Rape, on the other hand, involves no consent. That seems like an extenuating circumstance, and one in which I would supp…
/r/MensRights04/11/10 05:26 AM
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No, it's not fair, but women have uteruses and men don't. Things aren't going to be perfectly fair. The responsibility the man has is not toward the woman, but toward the child, who was not involved in the decision regarding whether or not he was born. Child support corruption is a much more obvious place to make reforms. Transparency here makes a lot of sense.
/r/MensRights04/11/10 05:20 AM
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I'm really glad you wrote this. This issue is worse for men, but it can transcend gender. It seems like as an adult you are not allowed to help other peoples' children. While at some level this begins because we want to protect the interest of children, they are probably the people who end up being hurt the most by it. http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/e0rzq/iama_21yearold_girl_who_was_disciplined_for/
/r/MensRights04/11/10 12:49 AM
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I seem to recall men are more likely to attempt suicide via guns or hanging, and women are more likely to attempt suicide with pills. Pills are much less effective. Not that I'm convinced being effective at killing oneself is a good thing. I don't think it makes any sense to say a suicide attempt is a plea for attention. There are many easier ways to get attention than trying to kill yourself. However there is a difference between suicide attempts that are planned out ahead of time and those whi…
/r/MensRights03/11/10 08:04 PM
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As an MRA you don't want anything to do with community service? Sorry, it's hard for me to see a program like the Special Olympics as an evil institution.
/r/MensRights03/11/10 02:12 AM
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I'm glad to hear that. I think you're right to be concerned about the possibility of false accusations, but I'm not sure that possibility is enough to say you shouldn't do something that you enjoy doing. I do think you're right to take any possible precautions, and in this case, making sure the parents know what a wonderful person you are can only help. My father coached my girls soccer team when I was 9-13. He always had a female assistant coach at practices, and got to know my teammates' paren…
/r/MensRights03/11/10 02:11 AM
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Is this about women vs. men, or about attractive people vs. smart people?
/r/MensRights02/11/10 07:50 AM
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In a BDSM relationship, both people have consented to their roles ahead of time, and there are conversations about what both people are okay with. This isn't true for gender roles, so you can't just say whomever's submissive necessarily has the power. Similarly, a slave is submissive but does not have all the power. BDSM seems to be much more about roleplay and fantasy than about actual power.
/r/MensRights02/11/10 06:58 AM
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If you have a good relationship with the parents of the children you're working with, that might make you feel more comfortable. Do you talk to them at all? Do they know about your own story, and your brother? While sticking out might be difficult, it seems very sad that you feel like you're not welcome to help out with a program you're so invested in. I can only imagine that the child's parents would be grateful for your work you do with their son, and while their child's interests would always…
/r/MensRights02/11/10 06:48 AM
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I think there's a difference between the idea that a married woman still has a right to say no to sex and the idea that a woman could simply deny any sex to her husband and that the man should just accept the situation.
/r/MensRights02/11/10 03:27 AM
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