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Happened to me
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:35 PM
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I read that as you agree it's accurate, but our society isn't a homogeneous socioeconomic mix, so in some places those %1 men will be in higher concentration.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 01:23 PM
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It's definitely real.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:20 PM
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This has been my experience. Hookups happen on all the apps. Most women need me to polarize immediately or they don't keep talking to me. I admittedly have old crappy photos but I am always the picture taker and don't have any from friends or family that really show me off. Maybe I'm selling myself short as I am very fit, and I know a lot of men's profiles showcase that. Eh. I've had ok luck meeting women, but meeting quality women I'd want to date has been harder. My area is fairly sparsely pop…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:49 PM
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Same issue here. I meet other guys but they all have social groups and it's a lot of work to move from gym acquaintance to friend. I think going to more social events will help but I'm a single dad so I have inconsistent and limited time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:10 PM
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grifters
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:09 PM
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I've read the opposite about a profile that's just selfies, it doesn't showcase you in social settings or doing anything exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:26 PM
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There's adult sports leagues(which I still haven't found around me), and here at least there's a young professionals group that I'm almost aged out of, but I'm making an effort to attend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:24 PM
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but I still need to go out of my way to stage a picture. Women can get away with a profile of all selfies, I've seen what I'm up against with some of the well manicured male profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:02 PM
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seconds? really? I don't have to wear anything nice, groom myself, make sure the lighting is decent, set up the camera with a timer or a remote shutter, take lots of poses only to find they all look like crap, try a few more times and then I have .... 1 new photo. nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:06 PM
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I assume my profile is an issue but I don't have the time to prioritize a photo shoot for a friggin dating app..
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:11 PM
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Interesting. Most of the time I'll get matches and I'll initiate and ask a 'deep' question like that, or a question about something I see in their pictures, or an interested they maybe mention in a bio...and a 9/10 times I get ghosted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 05:19 PM
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Most of them have high expectations and almost zero free time. In 6 months I've matched with a lot but only a handful have wanted to meet. I'm open to single moms but single moms with more than 2 non adult children is baggage that definitely shows things. After my divorce I'm just not interested in settling. I like dating and surprising but the oil here is limited and because of that the value of the women is inflated(so it seems from the OLD perspective).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:55 AM
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I am slowly expanding my social circle, and so far, no organic contact with women I'd date. OLD is a crapshoot. I am a single dad, and I mainly only match with single moms. Randomly I'll match with a 30-something( I'm late 30's) without children, but most of the matches ghost if they aren't wow'd in the first few messages. Or they shit test before I can even suggest a meetup. I am landing dates, but most of the women are fresh out of relationships, have kids and barely any free time. Could be a …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:10 PM
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I've seen it play out in real life. With myself, my best friend, my brother and my father. So have millions of other men in the Nice Guy groups around the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 04:57 PM
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He was unhappy in the marriage. It was one of convenience. My mother followed him through college and he shrugged his shoulders and said "sure". He still is obviously unhappy with a lot of aspects of his relationship. His perspective is exactly what a "Nice Guy" is conditioned to believe. He puts his SO first, and gives up a lot of his wants/needs which ultimately make him unhappy, which ultimately make him resentful(though he wouldn't admit it).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:53 PM
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That's what Robert Glover, who coined the term 'nice guy' suggests. He presents a good argument for why in his book "No More Mr Nice Guy".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:41 PM
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But it didn't. My dad was told the same thing by his mother, who primarily raised him, and he had a failed marriage and series of failed relationships and he still whines about things with his current long term relationship instead of taking the lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 01:54 PM
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My Dad was raised by his mother, and he is a devout 'nice guy'. To this day says it's the mans duty to fall on the sword for the family and sacrifice his interests and needs. There's been more than one generation of this happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 01:51 PM
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I think you've completely misread the 'pill world'. Making meaningful connections with men is a big part of self improvement. Interestingly for "nice guys" it's difficult. I make a lot of acquaintances, but it appears for whatever reason no one follows up to grow relationships. If I don't take proactive action, the friendships just fade away. If I am proactive, mostly other guys respond positively. It's weird. At the same time, I'd love to have the company of a woman in my life that I find attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 02:30 PM
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That's entirely my point. Pre-judgement. It's not 100% of my matches, but A LOT, or a match and then no response to an opener or a greeting. What do women want a man to say to them as an opener when they have nothing written for a profile and pictures that showcase nothing about them other than a skill in taking selfies? For the ones that do have locations, or specific features (lakes, mountains, destinations) I'll make a comment and ask a question about travel or be sarcastic and say "I take it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 01:15 PM
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That's just it, we made two jokes, she says something about having a ten month old and adds (RUN!!). Then I joke back "I gave up running a few years ago" and ask her a question. Then no response. This is just one example. She learned nothing about me at that point beyond my profile details.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:56 PM
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No, they don't even get past openers, really. Like many suggest, men(myself included) will look past certain red flags, but in the OLD world even women with the most baggage, huge red flags(had one match with me that has 3 kids and one of them is a 10 month old!) have more options than I do as a healthy, fit, professional. I'd love a partnership, but through OLD I doubt that's possible because the women are generally pre-judging me and aren't getting to know me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:32 PM
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It's true, I have matched with women admitting to having a mental health issue, or ADHD, or having 3-4 kids and wanting more and THEY ghost me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:14 PM
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yep, that's it!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:40 PM
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Help me understand what you're getting at. I'm at 12-13% BF and my BMI is 27. Says my FFMI is 51.3 on here- https://www.omnicalculator.com/health/ffmi I have only ever used creatine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:28 PM
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I think, generally, a woman can carry a higher BF% and still look sexy/feminine while a man with proportional fat will look soft and not masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:24 PM
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I notice this at the beach as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:23 PM
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I have been told by several woman I'm attractive, but as I never practiced picking women up, my options are limited to Online Dating, which seems to be full of woman who don't want casual dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 06:57 PM
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Yes, I'd feel pretty secure, though if she came off as desperate, or co-dependent, I'd eventually get bored of the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:47 PM
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Childish, somewhat immature came to mind as well. From the title I was looking forward to a fun discussion :(
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 11:59 PM
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The third average woman is what true average is in the US. The first few examples are pretty women I'd absolutely date.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 11:55 PM
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My dad is a "nice guy" and as my parents divorced at a young age, I didn't have a strong masculine figure in the majority of preteen and teen years. I don't blame him, but it's because of this that I believe I have a hard time making male friends, and have always considered being a martyr in relationships a good thing up until my own divorce. I have also never in my life cold approached a woman in public and there's a lot of anxiety around that for me. He was also raised primarily by his mother …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:17 AM
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That's the goal
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 07:19 PM
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My ex didn't believe I'd been with so few women...to the point she almost wouldn't date me because she didn't think I had enough experience. Now we're divorced because she'd prefer polyamory. Maybe she's an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 07:08 PM
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I met a beautiful woman. Emotionally intelligent, compatible interests, beautiful facial features. Not at all attracted to her body. Am I suppose to suck it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:32 AM
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Saying my standards are too high?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 12:17 PM
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The women I'm attracted to aren't available or don't match with me. I'm still working on the cold approach in person angle. So those that I do connect with I'm not attracted to enough to want anything more than casual. So it's early stages after a divorce and I'm only meeting women interested in a relationship. At the sane time they aren't meeting my attraction needs for long term compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:50 AM
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I know this. It's a confidence and insecurity thing. Also, even though I'm the healthiest I've ever been, I can't do too many drinks in a week as it affects my skin. The only place I'm familiar with in the area that women congregate socially, is the bars..we have no clubs. I suppose cold approaching at a gym or super market is a possibility, but I rarely see women in my gym, and I'm not grocery shopping too often. So...like I know I need to, and I know expressing that vulnerability will help me …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 02:44 PM
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I can visually determine...fat wrists/arms and thick ankles? hiding fat...but necks and faces can give it away. On dating profiles if they only show their face, it's generally questionable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:52 PM
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I'm 39 28-40. I like a woman who is leaner. Needs to be interested in taking care of her body. A healthy, lean feminine figure and of course prefer shorter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:41 PM
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I dunno...just recently divorced at 39...so I hope so? In the best shape of my life, earning the most I've ever earned and on a path to financial freedom. Also have a decently supportive social circle. All of this suggests my smv should be decent but I haven't gotten out there yet, just apps. Hopefully the apps aren't anything to go by....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 08:13 PM
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I get nothing in either, really. Maybe it's my area, pretty rural. Most women are 4's or lower on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 03:55 PM
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my stbx and I both joined tinder...within 6 hours she had 100+ matches. Over the course of a month I get ~3. The thirst is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 06:36 PM
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Help a guy out!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:21 AM
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No. I'm attracted to my soon to be ex-wife. I even have the option of sex with her, as we're amicable. I'm just not interested given what's happened in our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 01:13 PM
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