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Okay, so if being sensitive is all one has to offer, that's not impressive at all, and I am not attracted to just that, unlike women liking charisma or something in their men. And if one does not have even an ounce of self respect, yeah, that's a no for me once again. I am a gutsy woman who probably was the loudest kid back in school, and I asked out my high school sweetheart who was a band nerd, and I did the same once again after over a decade of living separate lives due to me moving to the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:06 AM
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Huh. Yeah. My sensitive guy happens to be a classically trained musician. LOL He got me with his music.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:00 AM
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This has to be one of the weirdest questions I've seen here... High body count doesn't indicate status or high value. That means he likes to stick his dick into too many holes. Community dicks should be gross to women worth your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 07:58 PM
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Yup. I have a friend who got married and then within a week, he punched my friend, so she divorced him right there. He seemed fine before. I had to get the police involved cause after dumping a guy, the guy stalked me. No priors, no sign of violence before. Both men and women seem to need to date who they know are actually good people, even if it can be extremely inconvenient. I am originally from a small town, and they seem to able to find good partners much easier than people in big cities, ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 08:24 PM
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I don’t necessarily think the first thing they lack is morals. It probably is a close second/third, but I think they lack maturity and nuisance.
/r/ExRedPill03/09/22 06:47 AM
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I got out of a shitty relationship earlier this year, and I asked my mom for advice. I was told that I need to learn how to vet better, and while learning, I’m going to encounter shitty people no matter where. They do say if you meet people more organically in school or at work, it is much easier to vet. However, my mom just said to build up my experience level, and that I’m just way too inexperienced (have stayed in LTR’s mostly) to vet properly. Wherever you can meet diverse people was my mom’…
/r/ExRedPill29/08/22 07:21 AM
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I actually think insecurity in women isn’t hot either and is often considered annoying or tiring. Being around someone who compares oneself constantly to others IS tiring.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/22 05:32 AM
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If men feel insecure about how much more money their women make, then the women could lose so much attraction. Insecurity is not hot. There are other ways to be a reliable and dependable partner than to be a breadwinner.
/r/ExRedPill25/08/22 09:08 AM
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Single moms got “pumped and dumped by Chad”, instead of dating good men like them.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 10:41 PM
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I would need a second face to do that with. No way I am associating myself with that…
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 10:56 PM
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I want a man who is relationship oriented, and values that over anything else. So no.
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 07:52 PM
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So it seems like you can get to know each and every woman and tell how each one is different. You said, “for every dominant woman out there, a bunch of others are submissive and enjoy it.” I think it would help you if you started looking for more grey areas too. :) I think you are on the right track. Just don’t have a prejudice, and get to know each person. You aren’t really trying to date the whole population of women.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 06:52 AM
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So since this is exredpill, I will only talk about the relationship aspect of it. We COULD be competing against each other, or we might not be. There comes a time when enough people learn superficial things are only one aspect of life. I am not saying that they don’t matter at all, but it is just one aspect. There will always be people who are similar to you in superficial aspects. Does that make you all the same? No. You need to realize what makes you special despite us having our superficial t…
/r/ExRedPill08/08/22 04:26 PM
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From my understanding, it is being more aware and actually looking for extra ways to combat your inner racism. The best way to combat it is to not make any deal about someone’s race. Just completely forget it. Identity politics is gross. I say this as a mixed person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 02:09 AM
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Anti racism is bullshit. It forces different races into their own little boxes, and make people think more about races, than to forget about the racial differences. A POC would think that or do that, and if a POC doesn't, then there must be wrong with that POC is racism once again, just in a different direction. Stop seeing us for our colour. It is still putting us into our little boxes once again. Stop using us for your politics or to make the so called anti-racists feel better about themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:47 AM
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We only got better at fooling ourselves into thinking that we are empathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:30 AM
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People only want what could come with marriages, but don’t know what it entails, and don’t want to put in the effort required. So many people are weak these days. They like to run from their problems than to fix them, or want their problems to be fixed on their own. They are so prone to giving up. On a personal level, don’t date weak people. As for the society, I think we could be doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 12:35 AM
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Situationships are dumb for women who desire LTR. They are only lying to themselves. Situationships can easily be taken away from them by women who can get relationships with “their” men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:47 PM
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Well said. It is not helpful to be comparing oneself to the people who won the lottery. All can be done is to look at people who didn’t win the lottery, and learn how to get there if one’s heart desires that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:05 PM
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Not very detailed but I hope this helps. wikipedia link
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:36 PM
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Could you list them out in your post please? :)
/r/ExRedPill07/08/22 06:28 AM
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Mainstream Korean feminism is radical feminism. They are nuts over there. I would have voted for him too. The other party there supports communism so that probably doesn’t fly with most people either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:21 AM
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Sounds like my widowed mother is really in trouble. She has decades ahead of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:19 AM
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I feel that it is a trick question. I don't think there's that many people who is worse than me in every way, shape or form. All my friends are better than me in some way, shape or form. What matters is whether I put much importance on those traits or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:58 AM
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Yeah I think a lot of it is cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:05 AM
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It is not worth the effort especially if I can have someone else do it for me. Either I could pay someone to do it for me, or have someone who enjoys doing it do it for me. I don’t like cooking and I have no desire to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 07:51 PM
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They can if they have high enough value. Most don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 07:35 PM
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I tend to just stick to chicken breast and sour cream sauce(with some chives) and refresh my palate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 07:22 PM
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The women/men are evil echo chambers are not helping. Views should be based on one's own experiences, and not feed each other's anger. People being stuck to their socializing and not socializing with others cannot be helpful either. OLD dehumanizes people. Situationships aren't helping with some women's delusions... + I think it would help if more people were monogamous and valued LTR's. There's lack of personal accountability, and so many people are acting that they deserve better when they lac…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:30 PM
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Might be why I aim for men who can cook…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:01 PM
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My parents’ only concern when I started to live on my own was that I’d starve myself to death. Even after a few years of keeping myself alive, they had the same concern. I still have a friend who says she wants to feed my child, cause my child doesn’t deserve what I’ll be putting her through. And the guy I’m speaking to with romantic interest wants to deliver me home cooked meals once or twice weekly… I’m bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:57 PM
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I don't cook. I am very masculine personality wise. That's more a niche than an absolute negative imo. I hold some very controversial views.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:30 PM
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Not weird. Just doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 08:59 AM
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Only high value women can lock down powerful men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:11 AM
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Your posts have improved since your Hoosker days. Yes, being that charming is incredibly difficult without your looks/wealth/status or whatever backing you up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:28 AM
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Hmmm which category would you place pretty women with horrible dads in? They don’t believe in LTR, because they believe there aren’t any suitable men for them. I know two. One is around 8 and the other is around 8.5 imo. They just use casual sex for their pleasure. Would they be considered unicorns or broken women? They aren’t having sex for male validation, and they are confident people. They just have very low expectations for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:15 AM
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No. That money can be made. It doesn't even buy a decent house anymore. And I like my meat. You'd have to promise me my eternal happiness to convince me, not some $.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:47 PM
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Does she though...? I think she usually gets upset and calls men shallow instead. or lose the weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:14 PM
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Female Like age 8?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:17 PM
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General. Oh I'm getting the hate though in downvotes. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:09 PM
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Attractive guys get the rules (I don't excuse them from the rules). Ugly guys don't get anything. At least from me anyway. I've always said, I am a shallow face chaser.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:47 PM
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There exist crappy people, and crappy people will always exist regardless of gender. We can't really expect them to disappear. If that's the case, we do need to develop better vetting skills. Crappy people are crappy people, and I am not excusing them. It is just self preservation tactics we need to have since we have share this planet with crappy individuals. We need to both condemn the crappy people AND learn how to choose better. Sometimes, things could turn south, but hopefully you don't cho…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:03 AM
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If we are to assume there's 100k people here, there should be 1k people who are happy. Let's say that we both are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:12 PM
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Nah. I knew him from school. It was a warm approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:18 PM
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That's how dating works for people with options. I was one of my ex's 12+ prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 05:40 PM
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Before establishing exclusivity, both men and women with options often do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 05:08 PM
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The best indicator of desiring a LTR for me is when someone can easily get women of the same mate value, but still puts in tremendous amount of effort and time on me. "No one would do that for just sex" eventually becomes obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 04:54 PM
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The most beautiful guy I went out with, I only went out with cause he complimented me on being smart. That Chaaaaad really knew what to say, and he gave the best compliments to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 03:43 PM
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To the one who downvoted this, if you don’t want high n women, you’d better only want women to have sex in LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:41 AM
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It is perfectly normal to only have sex in a LTR. Maybe her parents are on the more conservative side? She is already cooking and cleaning for you, so it kinda makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:25 AM
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What should they be expecting then do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:41 PM
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Nah. Then one could argue that having more flaws can be more depressing, because they are simply not good enough. Their cause of their depression could be different, but I don’t think that’s a fair comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:27 PM
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I think it is kinda the same for everyone. Although men are often disadvantaged. Dating requires quite a bit of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:24 PM
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Not a concern for HVM at all. Not sure about lower mate value individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:22 PM
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Not an advice sub. You might want to check out r/exredpill
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:08 PM
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What’s not rape? You forgot to include that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:53 PM
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Or that too. ☝️ very important one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:05 PM
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Lack of vetting skills. It is extremely difficult to vet on an app. Thinner skin. There are some really rude people all over the internet and dating apps. Some women don’t want to deal with it. Unnatural interactions with people you barely know anything about. Not many are good at this. That being said, I do use dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:55 PM
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Oooh I want to see that. I’ve only heard that gay men care. Link it when you do please?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:06 PM
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Confidence is not being afraid of other people’s opinion. There’s always going to be people critical of you. You can’t just stand there and do nothing out of fear. Confidence is a way to be yourself, and to be a little different. Taking a less traveled road. A lot of confidence that I emphasize overlap with courage. As long as you are being a good person, you shouldn’t be listening to people who are trying to keep you from living your life. Know that you are being the best version of yourself. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:56 PM
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Think you forgot pretty in the title by the looks of the text.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:20 PM
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I would not say 10 year age gap personally, but I think 2-5 is pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:13 PM
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What happened to face? I care about face.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:30 AM
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With all the genetically modified food, quite possibly. Not necessarily by mate selection.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:04 AM
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I am a supporter of an ironclad prenup. They can make the decisions together since that’s what marriage is about, but the ownership should be under the person who paid for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 03:45 AM
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Bars with nice views, absolutely. I enjoy getting a couple drinks. I even go with my mom. I don’t drink enough to get drunk though. I’ve never been to a club, and none of my friends are really club people, so I have no idea about clubs. Entertaining flirting or dancing with them is not normal. I feel uncomfortable letting anyone buy me anything unless I’m on a date, and it is a coffee.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:41 AM
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I didn’t really notice a difference after #metoo. I did during and after the pandemic however. I personally don’t care much about it. Cold approach is such a difficult way to vet against.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:24 AM
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if you are a real man, you eat on a paper plate.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:54 PM
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So in some cultures that I know of, the highest value women are women from old money or just powerful families.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:58 PM
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There weren't valued enough by their partners is what I'm saying. It is easy for any high value individuals to cheat. "lots of woman dating "high value" men dont care." I am doubtful that they don't care. They just don't have the power in the relationship to do anything about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:50 PM
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Their perceived value was too low, and probably did a horrible job of vetting. Perceived value matters a lot in upper league relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:42 PM
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Your feminine side most likely won't bring out anyone's masculine side. A person is who the person is. Learn how to find the person you want. The value system exists, and in layman's term, it is leagues. Any subreddit that thinks it knows best is just conceited.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:38 PM
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HVM can have a harem if he goes for women of lesser value. Women will chase the man to have her to herself most likely however. They are chasing the man, because their value is not equal, and they cannot get the man of the same value easily. If HVM goes for lower value women, I mean, the power dynamics is kinda already there. Not saying that it is right or anything. It is the women's delusions that need to be addressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:30 PM
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Thank you for your words though! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:13 PM
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This is the first post you’ve written that I agree with. Especially for women who are ready for something serious, it makes sense to choose men a little older, since there is a higher chance of wanting things at a similar pace. I do find myself vetting out younger guys, since I do want something serious. My age is not an immediate deal breaker if he wants similar things, and sees a similar timeline.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:55 PM
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People are maturing at such a slow rate these days, I feel this discussion is irrelevant. I think traditionally, women’s biological clock could have had on impact on being mature sooner. There have been studies done on brain development differences, so there could be that too… But nah, people these days are maturing at a much slower rate anyway, so I don’t know how much of brain development is actually playing a role. The narrative these days is horrible, and is not often about taking personal a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:26 PM
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Oh I guess I wasn’t picturing the right backpack. If they are those ugly things university students had on their backs, I do see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:59 PM
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Actually, I should answer again. It isn't about whether it is possible for single women to be happy, but if women are actually happier being single. This would greatly depend on how good the relationship is, and whether they are able to not dwell on what they don't have. Some people are able to not dwell on what they don't have. I don't think many can though. And I think a good number of single women could still desire a good relationship, but there should be ones that just stopped caring and/or…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 10:29 AM
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Learned when I was young, not as an adult. I am an only child, so without the ability to make friends, I would have been a sad little loner. I still have no issues making new friends. Most of my closest friends are my friends from adulthood after graduating from university.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:38 AM
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Socks with sandals. White socks when wearing a suit. Clip on ties. And anything out of the norm. I might not like skinny jeans either. Not 100% sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:01 AM
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You don’t like that? Never bothered me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:00 AM
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SOOOOOO MANY THINGS
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:43 AM
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Lack of parenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:43 AM
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You certainly won't get more points for your height. You'd likely have to have better qualities than guys 3 inches taller than you. But I don't think being 5'9" is a crippling disadvantage. Under 5'7" is where it really gets hard I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:13 AM
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The issue could be how much of an exaggeration it could be... Like East Asians being smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:51 AM
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Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 11:29 PM
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If you actually do, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:47 PM
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I am shallow. I do admit that. Just not as much about height.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:36 PM
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He happens to be tall with a good face. It doesn’t mean that I won’t be attracted to shorter guys with good faces however. You know how there are women who like K-pop boy groups who are usually under 6’ but with cute faces. I’m that face chaser. They would not be popular without face chasers. We exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:31 PM
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Been talking to someone in a serious manner, but not yet dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:25 PM
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Step 1 - I am way more shallow about face. I’ve been into charming shorter guys, but never an ugly guy. If you are trying to say that women are shallow, the vast majority of us are. Step 2 - Personality can only play a significant enough positive role in warm approaches. Mate value is not determined by personality, although shitty personality could be vetted against by women who have good access to men of the same mate value. I think it is often about how shitty that person is usually, not how g…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:18 PM
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The old fashioned (and definitely not creepy) way was usually warm approaches though. :/ Gets harder and harder once you are not stuck together in school anymore. Try to find places where you’d be stuck together with women for a few hours would be the best bet I’d say. Like wine tastings and ceramics workshops possibly. Or dog parks? I think cold approach is similar to OLD, and it has always been. Only works for some dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 06:57 PM
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I wondered how Tate could keep talking... That's some skills. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 06:33 PM
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I missed youuuuu
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 06:28 PM
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Resist it as much as you want, low valued peeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 06:17 PM
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I don't post my pictures on Instagram. BOOM! There's instagram crowd, and there's me. I like to have a degree of privacy. I don't need everyone to gush over my life. I don't use Facebook or Twitter either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 05:58 PM
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Even good looking, successful men have to employ some sort of persuasive tactics and put forth a modicum of effort in order to get a date. Actually, once one is in the high value league, both parties have to put in effort to convince each other. The woman will showcase what different things she brings to the table other than her looks (given the fact that the HVM can get with many other pretty women), and the man will showcase the same. Things can be more bluepill in upper leagues, since all the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 05:35 PM
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I am a fucking narcissist. In all seriousness, my life is probably in its most turbulent stages right now. If I'm to get a partner now, he will have to come along for the ride, and be open to new adventures. It is probably a big deal breaker for many. I'm working on reaching that stable point though. I of course have my pros and cons, and it really is about whether they accept them or not now. Let's be real. Not many of us are going to change that much. Once one is decent enough of a person, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:42 PM
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That’s what has been happening for decades, if not centuries. It was prominent in my parents’ generation as well as my grandparents’ if the male was high value enough. It is also why I say pretty girls cannot afford to be basic. They need to stand out in one way or another to not be easily replaceable. If one cannot safely lock down a high value male with her perceived value, she could get screwed real bad. If she cannot lock a man down like that, her perceived value is actually lower. In order …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 03:43 PM
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bluepill is what everyone they disagree with believes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 03:22 AM
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I find myself caring about things on OLD that I'd never care about irl, cause I am rarely given anything else to care about. If one cannot be competitive on the apps with 90% of the users being male, they really should try irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:43 AM
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The hardass dad PPD never had
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:38 AM
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There is a more obvious benefit imo. If a woman is wanting certain things like family, a man in his early 30's are great, and could be looking for similar things. I think a lot of it is about what you want and when you want it to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:44 PM
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Eww.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:56 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:46 AM
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I don't think it is popular... or is it? I don't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:45 AM
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No joke. He plucked his eyebrows. That was the ick. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I grew up in an extremely conservative town that thought almost everything was gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:03 AM
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I think that could depend on the age group. With limited experience, your thought process is limited to what you've been told and THINK you know. I've gotten "the ick" over one little thing when I was younger (in my teens). I was really judgemental over irrational things back then, and didn't realize it. Now I think I fit your description better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:55 PM
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I think they look better than crocs. I can't bring myself to wear crocs...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:40 PM
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Dear PPD, I think most of you have more potential for better social skills than some on other subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:33 PM
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If you think you could be the cream of the crop, then you won't have to worry too much imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:24 PM
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The issue at 34 will most likely be the age group that you are trying to date, and how many of the single women with the qualities you want exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:21 PM
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I think you could be looking at hot 25 year olds. It could really depend on what they've done the last few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:03 PM
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Never, so can’t rate it. I think I am low libido though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:31 PM
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I’m with you on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:18 PM
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I like you and your post btw. Wanted to let you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:16 PM
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Since most don’t have anything on their profiles, you are right. 😂 There’s nothing else to look at. I don’t even know why I scroll sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:49 PM
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I at least scroll to see what they have on their profiles… then swipe left.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:20 PM
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Only a small percentage of people manage to get relationships solely based on looks. PPD using these people as examples speaks volumes to me. Looks aren’t enough to have a functioning relationship, and even good looking people need luck to find true love. They just need to put in less effort to be attractive to many.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:36 PM
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Absolutely. My exes were always appreciative of that. They did the same for me in return, and I was also very appreciative of that. It feels damn good to be the it-couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:12 PM
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So someone commented that wives could treat their husbands better on what women disagree with other women about. I actually agree with that. I have seen a man on TV try to make his wife look good in front of her friends. Like help boost her ego. I've done the same for my parents. I try to be the best model daughter that I can be when I am around our family friends to make other parents envious of my parents. As controversial as this may sound, I'd put on some nice clothes and makeup to look pret…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:52 PM
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Yeah, when you are looking for exclusivity. It should be disclosed before deciding to get into a relationship with that person imo. I think it should be disclosed before the 2 month point (1 month if you talk enough and the relationship develops faster), not a few months. Some people may really want to have sex earlier on in their relationships, and we should respect that just as much as we want our values to not have sex respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:39 PM
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Yeah, but I'd be interested to hear about why people are liking and subscribing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:33 PM
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If you plan to stay a virgin, tell him as the relationship is getting serious. I would not tell it to every single guy I meet immediately though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:30 PM
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Summarize it for all of us please.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:29 PM
1

Oh that’s the guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 02:28 PM
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Good for them. Their currency is going to be solid. Forever inflation for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 02:21 PM
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A combination of B and C. It is an experience I might want but only with the right person. My marriage will involve a prenup however. I'll be using a surrogate, due to how underweight I am being not so good for the baby. Not the best thing for my own body either. Wedding, a small one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:20 AM
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We kinda have to end up with people with similar maturity level to consider the other as a real partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 12:24 AM
1

I'm thinking of asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:35 AM
1

Am I really that pessimistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:26 AM
1

So people actually do it...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:22 AM
1

Chile or Japan?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:20 AM
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Thanks for answering.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:56 AM
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I don't think I would easily be able to make the decision either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:55 AM
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Okay, you adventurous soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:40 AM
1

How about Japan or Chile?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:39 AM
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Q4M: Would you move to a new country and learn a new language for your girlfriend? Seriously asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:24 AM
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None. I only follow cat accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:12 AM
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I have a friend who worked for Tencent for a few years, and is now working for Krafton. She plays a lot of games in order to discover games. I believe her job title is development partnership manager there. Something similar could be possible. LOL I am trying to love what my mom does.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:45 AM
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The secret to winning at life is to find a job that you like. My mom loves what she does. She has won. I am trying to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:35 AM
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I want to tell my daughter to wait five. Either she is legally married or planning to spend the rest of their lives together before having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:32 PM
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I've gotten, "You don't look like you've dated before" from a guy who was asking me out. I didn't know how to feel about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:28 PM
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Btw, if you want your kid to respect your advice, you'd better look like a winner to her, and don't marry a woman who isn't respected in society. I consider my parents to be winners, and I rarely went straight up against their advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:24 PM
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I kinda think the safest measure of woman’s MV is who she can keep without the sex. Wait at least a year with each man could be a good advice, no matter how controversial. My mom taught me that if a guy wants me enough, he is going to wait. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t think I’m worth the wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:28 PM
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Idk. How the person thinks, what the person does. It just shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:52 AM
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Nah. I come from a family that hates losers, and I was given enough to never need a man's money.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:51 AM
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Some people really underestimate the effect of success has on someone. If someone is accomplished, it really shows. It is actually kinda hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:34 PM
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I thought if one person offers to get the bill the first round, it is given that the other person gets the next one. But that’s just what I thought was the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:31 PM
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I thought it was until I saw reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:19 PM
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I guess it is if it only applies to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:06 AM
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Feeling of betrayal. Unmatched expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:52 AM
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I think it is backfiring. F losers and their loser mindsets.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:08 AM
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This sub has made me appreciate self-made winners so much more. Rather than to find excuses and spend another second whining, they did something to get out of the rut. Hell, if my kid whined about why he/she was unsuccessful and didn't do absolutely everything in his/her power to change that, I'd be so ashamed of my failure as a mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:39 AM
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I never really discussed it beforehand. When we are about to pay I suppose. There was a guy who insisted on paying, but that is not really the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:41 PM
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Nah. The bux gets what he can afford with his bucks. What he manages to bux for is his value. Same as a woman’s appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:56 PM
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Money is usually across or up. Looks, not really. There's not enough good looking men in the world. They could attempt to, but I don't think they actually manage to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:36 PM
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I don't know... I know he should be rated as way above average, but does that even count if there's no attraction at all? Now that I'm looking at the picture, I kinda think many women might prefer a bit more real looking people, but still good looking. Like Blake Shelton.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:13 PM
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Neutral. Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 09:28 PM
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Not really. I'm quite happy with what I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 09:14 PM
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Hell no. I grew up with a dad calling marriage a gamble, and I saw too many unhappy marriages growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 08:50 PM
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What's alpha about him?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 08:23 PM
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I don't want to change my eye colour, but I want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 08:21 PM
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Green is the most rare. I think hazel is pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 08:19 PM
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Have you met a lot of people who didn't like travelling? I haven't met many.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 08:10 PM
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I’ve had one 10/10 in my family. She was a wedding dress model when she was younger, and looked better than most celebrities. She almost looked unreal. To my knowledge, she hasn’t had bad stalkers or crazies, but she had people waiting to take a look at her at school entrances. The part that I really felt bad for her was how other women treated her. They were so jealous that they didn’t want to see her life being perfect, and were noticeably happy when she talked about her health issues, and etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 09:01 AM
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I think the issue could be that people aren’t as aware of past cultures outside of the western world. There was an eastern culture more than a millennia ago that lasted until the 17th century, where women had the same financial freedoms as men, therefore didn’t require men for financial reasons necessarily. What I suspect was different back then was stronger sense of community (popular literature contains a widower that went around houses to get his neighbours to breastfeed his daughter), strong…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 05:34 PM
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I think it would be nice to have a bit more time with your parents and your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 04:39 PM
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If they had been looking and they actually underestimated, they could have gotten off the market more easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 06:26 PM
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I think the ones who are lacking in history have a much higher chance of over-estimating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 06:05 PM
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As a lifeless zombie? You must take “until death do us part” very seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:59 PM
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So how many weeks would you be able to endure it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:58 PM
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So a doctor wrote somewhere online that a person may start feeling better in 6-8 weeks. Do you think you could last that long before insisting on getting professional help?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:34 PM
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Yeah. I think my limit is similar to yours, and have somewhat similar expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:33 PM
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A doctor posted somewhere online that a person may start feeling better in 6-8 weeks. So you think you’d wait that long before taking real actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:32 PM
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What if you had to go through him acting like a barely functional joyless zombie doing the bare minimum? Like going to work then coming home and spending the rest of his time being sad? How long do you think you’d be able to deal with that before calling it quits?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:26 PM
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What if you had to go through him/her acting like a barely functional joyless zombie doing the bare minimum? Like going to work then coming home and spending the rest of his/her time being sad? How long would you be able to deal with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:25 PM
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So he is acting like a barely functional joyless zombie doing the bare minimum. Like going to work then coming home and spending the rest of his/her time being sad. How long would you be able to deal with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:25 PM
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What if you had to go through her acting like a barely functional joyless zombie doing the bare minimum? Like going to work then coming home and spending the rest of her time being sad? How long would you be able to deal with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:23 PM
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Oh dear.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:22 PM
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What if you had to go through him acting like a barely functional joyless zombie doing the bare minimum? Like going to work then coming home and spending the rest of his time being sad? How long would you be able to deal with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:20 PM
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So you’d deal with a walking zombie that barely functions and does the bare minimum for 6 months? That’s admirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:17 PM
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When do you think would be your breaking point? 1 month? 2 months? 3 months?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:01 PM
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I meant it in terms of grieving, and no financial support.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 04:56 PM
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Q4A - If/when your SO’s parent passes away, how long would/did you support (EDIT: not financial) your SO until your SO could get back on his/her own feet? Adding: What if you had to go through him /her acting like a barely functional joyless zombie doing the bare minimum? Like going to work then coming home and spending the rest of his/her time being sad? How long would you be able to deal with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 04:50 PM
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If the bald one can pull off the bald look, I don’t see why not. If he can’t, nope. Being overweight is not attractive. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 01:35 PM
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The minimum threshold of financial contribution expected of women is much lower to be considered capable/worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:39 AM
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The minimum threshold of financial contribution expected of women is much lower to be considered capable/worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:38 AM
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Welcome back.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:57 AM
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I just asked if they wanted to hang out or do something. I am extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:54 AM
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u/techr0nin put it well. I meant it in terms of the achievements that lead to status though. I think in a generalized sense women have a higher floor, while men have a higher ceiling, in terms of societal advantages.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:47 AM
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If people really didn't care about achieving anything, we would not have levels or achievements in games. It is just that the system is so skewed that people who would normally have enough ambition to want to do something are demoralized. It is natural to want to do stuff and see the results of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:34 AM
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That’s an underestimation of men’s privileges. Men and women have different privileges. Women often underestimate theirs, and vice versa. There are people who truly want to do something with their lives. Enough people were made to have ambition.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:29 PM
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It is better to be a man if you want to make something of yourself, but it is better to be a woman if you don’t want to do anything with your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:51 PM
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Not at all. My mom was gorgeous. But my dad was a doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:13 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:05 AM
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Poor kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:00 AM
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My mom and my dad had the issue actually. My mom came from a rich family, but my dad didn’t. They made it work, but it presented some difficulties.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:55 AM
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It doesn’t. I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:24 AM
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Nah. I know how many people were hotter than me irl in each group I was in, and who I've been able to attract.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:22 PM
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Female best friend. It could be a bit tricky if she was a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 09:58 PM
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Even though I have a boyfriend, my best friend is my go to person actually. I am a hugger, and I hug a lot of people. I think hugging others could be a lot better than getting a massage since it is not transactional. https://www.healthline.com/health/hugging-benefits
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 09:51 PM
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I saw the Indian man's post as well. If we are to assume his name is what is causing him issues, it isn't his race necessarily, but perhaps the assumption that the is a more recent immigrant. It is the assumption of his culture and background. I don't think your issue is too similar to his. I agree with the "your league is what you can get" statement for everyone. I just think certain demographics are at a disadvantage/advantage. It could be due to the exposure and stereotypes. East Asian men su…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 09:46 PM
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I don’t think what you want is a healthy relationship then. Going behind someone’s back should not be a part of a healthy relationship. I don’t like deceitful people even as friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 01:05 PM
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If I am understanding it right, truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:07 AM
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If she married rich, then sure. But do regular women marry rich?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:52 AM
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It is sometimes a niche thing. I have a thing for classical musicians.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 01:10 AM
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Tier 1 being the top.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 09:46 PM
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5'9-5'10 (extremely average), not small but not big, a millionaire. But being a millionaire means so little in this economy. A millionaire could just mean a homeowner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 09:23 PM
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It is a difficult question to answer. I approached within my league or below my league. Men with even higher SMV than my own are not worth pursuing. I consider myself to be in tier 2 in the general market, and tier 1 men are just too much. I think due to my personality, I've been inclined to approach more. There were some shy guys that would have never asked me out first. But yeah, I don't have to approach to get a decent man. It is just that when I want a man enough, I do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 09:16 PM
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What's wrong with you? There's nothing one of my friends could have done better. Absolutely nothing. My other friend could have taken better precautions, but it still wasn't her fault. Rapists exist and that is an unfortunate fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 08:59 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:43 PM
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I have a nice face, but you probably won't think I'm hot though. I am skinny, and not very curvy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:27 PM
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I didn't either until this one. I'm holding on to this man. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:46 AM
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Absolutely. But the category is compatibility believe it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:44 AM
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I didn't. We are very compatible. He basically found a female version of his best friend of 20+ years. His best friend and I are so similar that it is scary. My best friend asked me, "where did you manage to find him?" I am good at things he isn't good at, he is good at things I am not good at, and we agree with each other enough. It just works.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:42 AM
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Caring about dick size beyond not wanting a micro-penis is just weird. And no. He does not make up for his non-flat stomach in any of those areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:33 AM
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They are probably ending the marriage thinking they would be better off divorced, than to be married to who they are married to. They most likely chose wrong in the first place. Men should care about women's finances more to protect his own assets. My above comment was about women protecting themselves in case of a failure, and men should too. I never understood backup men. If someone keeps potential partners as back up intentionally and knowingly, yes, drop the person. That's just so disingenuo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:28 AM
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I have a flat stomach. My boyfriend doesn't. Fyi, he isn't richer than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:07 AM
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The downside of that is having no back up plan when the relationship fails and her value is in the dump due to age/kid(s) though. Men don't care about women's status/finances as much, but women should for their own good.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:04 AM
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I haven't seen a study done on men, but for women, infidelity rates were much higher for the less attractive ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:44 AM
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I get how men think the risk of sexual violence is over-exaggerated. I have 3 close girl friends. One put a man in prison for attempted rape (stranger), and another was sexually assaulted (stranger touching her vagina from behind in the streets). Neither of them wear revealing clothes. They were both in their late 20's when it happened. We come across thousands of men in our lives, but it only takes one offender for a person to end up with trauma. Most people are not sex offenders. It just makes…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:39 AM
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Dietary choices?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:24 PM
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You might want to look up obesity rates in different regions of Canada. You might live in a less obese region.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:23 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:30 PM
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I think everyone should be able to participate in conversations. What I dislike is others making decisions for me, and not being heard when the decisions are about me. However, without the participation of diverse groups, I think we could end up going in the direction of the radicals quite easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:07 PM
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What an idiotic thing to say. That's racist and sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:35 PM
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One of the worst if not the worst trait a potential partner could have is the inability to feel gratitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:11 AM
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Once it is over, it is over. Why would I think it would work out differently? Not worth the headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 08:58 AM
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Only miserable people do I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 10:18 PM
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I am not talking about the OP. He isn't complaining. The OP is either finishing within his league or below his league OR within his niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 08:06 PM
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I never defined average.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 08:02 PM
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LOL Ask some desirable women around you. Many of them will have guys approaching them from different leagues for relationships. A woman's league is determined by looking at non-outlier serious pursuers that are of higher value (among the pursuers) fairly commonly available to her, not ALL THE PURSUERS.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 08:01 PM
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RMV for women. But pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 05:07 PM
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The ones who complain just don’t like their own SMV, and fail to accept their leagues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:19 PM
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Silk. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 03:46 PM
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Anyone who isn’t able to feel gratitude is always going to be living life on a “hard mode”. Smh. Yes, I have it easy. But I would say anyone who is on Reddit regularly complaining/arguing about things have “life on easy mode” as well. This too should be considered a luxury.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 02:41 PM
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Look at her friend group, and what the people around her are like. The people around her could give you a better sense of what she is like since they have much less incentive to hide their true nature. Similar people usually end up hanging out together especially when it comes to level of integrity or values.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 01:31 PM
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You asked out a fifth of your whole campus? 2 in each faculty should probably be the max. The women you chase within a short time frame cannot know or talk to each other. I’ll just take anyone I can get is the thing women hate. I have standards and I see potential because you are xyz is what women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 11:14 PM
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People, please don't slouch. It is so unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 09:26 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/ve0pxu/comment/icoq0a2/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 Possibly this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 11:04 AM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:30 AM
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I think it is a valid vetting strategy. Edit: but only do it if you can keep up with the “act”. If not, that will be false advertisement, and when she finds out, you could get dropped.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:29 AM
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Good looks for women works like currency. It is bargaining power. They can choose what they want in their men using the currency. That’s how very attractive women end up with okay looking guys. I think second tier women often go for second tier men though. Second tier is good enough, and it is not worth the risk to go for the first tier. I think it is often the lower tier that try to shoot much higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:22 AM
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Awwww little cuties. And they are all bunched up together. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:12 AM
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I think he still needs to be able to “adult”, so volunteering and making no money is not going to work for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:06 AM
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I think a lot of people have horrible vetting skills. I too used to have marriage failure anxiety. The individuals involved need to know what they are looking for and what they are getting themselves into. This is very difficult to figure out without enough experience imo. Marriages last longer when the individuals understand tolerance and compromise. Marriages last the longest when the individuals don’t run from their problems or give up easily. Marriages are most likely to be successful when t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:02 AM
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Not for me. Probably not for many others either. I am fine with a teacher or someone who works for a non profit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 06:54 AM
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If he has no purpose in life, highly unlikely. If he is following his dreams or attempting to make the world a better place, possibly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 06:37 AM
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The quota argument. Allocating a certain number of positions for a specific gender. And I dislike the “feminists” that expect men to pay for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:07 AM
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I thought you were going to say women in their 40's. Women in their late 20's and 30's have plenty of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 12:52 AM
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I too call myself a feminist, but the newer wave seems to be wanting the rights without the same responsibilities or expectations. The respect actually come from meeting the expectations. Most if not all of my feminist ideas came from my dad to this day. I am none of the above 3 cases either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:55 PM
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Not many would be able to afford it. She has to have quite a bit of money, but also has to have enough time for the child. Unless her passive income is in the 6+ digits, or have a job that pays well with minimal hours, it is unrealistic. How many people actually have that? Not that many.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:56 PM
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Where did Slytherin come from? But yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:04 PM
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My boyfriend lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:55 PM
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I think a lot of them could just be indoctrinated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:52 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:14 AM
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Eh. I am not so sure about that. They might not even want to masturbate. I could go without masturbating for months easily, because I simply do not feel like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:07 AM
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The issue isn’t what they can’t quickly learn, but what they can’t unlearn possibly for their lifetime. They could only desire sex when EVERYTHING is right. How they feel about their relationship, how they feel in general, and etc. You’ve read dead bedroom stories, things will most likely be much worse with them. In modern world, for a woman to be chaste, that woman most likely has pretty low libido. She could occasionally feel horny, but it could be extremely infrequent.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 10:55 AM
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Yeah… Tell the conservative Christian town I grew up in that people will die without sex. We were taught to abstain from sex until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:18 AM
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If there’s such trend going on, a trend-follower. If not, someone who is out of trend. Strange fashion to normalize in my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:01 AM
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When it comes to East Asian women, I think a lot of it has to do with how they are painted and often fetishized. If there was none of that, I don't think East Asian women would be nearly as desired as they are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:00 AM
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I think you are under the impression that I am disagreeing with you. I am not. The statement I was referring to was about sex being the glue. If you still want me to elab, I could.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 11:38 PM
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lol exactly. The above statement can be disproved by using people who have plenty of access to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 11:32 PM
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Then for the people who will always have enough options for sexual partners, what holds their relationship together?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 11:22 PM
1

Not necessarily. Socializing can be fun in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:05 AM
1

It is fair that you have a knee jerk reaction, and I hope we both keep that knee jerk reaction. As long as it is both you guys' understanding that once you are out of school, you will be paying your fair share, I don't think there's much wrong with your couple's decision. We all can have temporary financial slumps. Getting higher education included.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:40 PM
1

I thought individuals choose differently was the bluepill narrative. Not ALL women whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:34 PM
2

Women can't post Q4W. Paying more is the biggest nono for me. If you can afford it, you should pay it. If you can't, that literally is a luxury you can't afford without your boyfriend. (Not assuming you can't btw) Respect towards equality has to be earned, not given. We need to act capable to be seen capable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:25 PM
2

status-driven men masquerading as purpose-driven men I was a status-driven girl in my past. I fit the description of a purpose-driven person quite well now. As a person who has been both, I agree with you. It required a lot of self introspection and personal growth. The society produces status-driven individuals. I think one has to be able to feel gratitude and be completely fine with where they are in life in order to be purpose driven. To answer your question though, I don't think I am attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:19 PM
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Some women seem to be attracted to the bad boy types. Which bluepilled person is claiming that ALL women only give sex to the guys with best personalities? The one who said, "women do not make mistakes NOR do any wrong morally" has to be an internet troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 11:02 PM
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I dislike dumb kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:12 PM
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Well if she calls herself traditional, go ahead. If she claims to be a feminist, I hope somebody smacks some sense into her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:03 PM
1

Some people have money to burn. They gotta pay their bills too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 07:03 AM
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I grew up in a small conservative town, and my godparents were against premarital sex altogether and my mom told me to not have sex unless I could be responsible for the child, and only with a man I would choose to raise a child with. However, I am more or less pro choice. I don't think people take potential pregnancy seriously enough though. I think everyone should write up an agreement on what should happen if conception was to happen, not just for the agreement's sake, but for people to be mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:08 AM
1

You can hire an image consultant to have yourself analyzed. You have to choose one that is good though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:21 AM
1

Just a question. Do you find that the “fun” phase lasts longer for adventurous men than women? Could that be a factor in women settling down with “boring” men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 07:26 PM
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I feel that there's quite a few parts that were left out that we need to consider. A decade ago, online dating wasn't as mainstream as it is today. Who were/are actually using the online dating services have to be factored in especially since it was less of a norm. Are the ones who are more likely to succeed in dating IRL on the online dating platforms, or are the ones who are less likely to succeed on the platforms? Who ends up staying? What would make them leave? OkCupid allows people to write…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 06:57 PM
3

If I was born today, and was fed some extreme narrative, I might have believed I was born with the wrong gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 06:13 PM
3

No wonder you are hated by both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:59 PM
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He buys me flowers and holds heavy things for me. But I appreciate those things like I appreciate him cooking for me though. We aren't very traditional and are really bad at being traditional. I am definitely not the first pick for the men that desire a traditionally feminine woman, and my boyfriend would not do well with women that desire a traditionally masculine man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:58 PM
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I’m happy for you. Continue to work on what you think would be the best for you, and cherish the people who genuinely care for you. My absolute favourite song is My Wish by Rascal Flatts. I hope you have a listen. It helped me a lot get through the tough times. Good luck with you life. :) I hope you find meaning and happiness.
/r/ExRedPill13/06/22 07:27 AM
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:)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 01:55 AM
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22.58 = (17.5) / (40 + 20 + 17.5) * 100
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 01:23 AM
2

Why so little for face? Face determines so much more than just 22.58% of one’s looks imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:50 PM
1

Great food. Not just Japanese cuisines, but they do everything so well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:47 PM
1

I prefer to gift things that last longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:14 PM
2

I agree with the grouping method. I think good looking guys do a lot better than PPD seems to think IRL though. The minimum threshold for looks is usually somewhere in between 2 and 3 I think but could be dependent on types.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 10:49 PM
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If you are a man and you can constantly get hook-ups, you're either going to get into a relationship with a decent match pretty quickly, or you're going to just constantly hook-up with women. Agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 07:09 PM
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From what I’ve noticed, wealthy men have more access to good looking women, and are often able to have better looking children. I think who the parents are have a great influence on the income of the children. I think the society rewards good looking people to a certain degree, but having good looks doesn’t lead to high income. Having successful parents helps way more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:49 AM
2

Think they will say you are delusional and she will leave you when a better one comes along.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 09:15 PM
2

I feel like it is “all men are wonderful day” to some here. But no. No large group of people can be wonderful. Might make more sense to have a “why I am horrible” day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 08:46 PM
1

I’m sure I’m hated by even more people. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 08:43 PM
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Pussies are desired by default. Not necessarily women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 08:15 PM
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I wish more would start taking about getting a decent career.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:33 PM
2

I think it is possible to understand through proper studies without empathizing. I actually think there's too many hurdles and could even be impossible to understand through empathy. But confirmation bias is a bitch, and there are limitations of studies always.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:27 PM
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AWALT only makes sense to the ones who have not experienced women who aren’t “like that”. It could be caused by the scarcity of the women who aren’t like that, but also by who they choose to interact with or their social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 03:47 AM
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I don’t think empathy is required to understand someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 03:31 AM
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The ones who have plenty of options IRL are well aware of their options, and the addition of social media doesn’t change anything. Just don’t date anyone who uses social media for validation. That’s a sad life, and I don’t think being around such person is going to bring anyone happiness. I think you may be having troubles getting past the generalization though. An individual can contribute to generalizations, but generalizations should not necessarily be applied to individuals. It could be help…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:02 PM
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If you are with a not so desirable women, okay, I see what you are getting at. The thing is, desirable women know they are desirable even without social media. I can think of other reasons why social media could be bad, but I don't necessarily agree with your example.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 09:57 PM
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If one hasn't had a LTR before, that's a red flag as I only date men with plenty of options. I like people who know what it takes to keep a relationship going. If one hasn't, it is a risk I am not willing to take. It is something I've added once I got old enough, since it is a much easier thing to meet for older people. I strongly dislike people who justifies evil and not criticize when it comes to politics. Either their views align with the policies, or they should criticize, not justify. I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 09:51 PM
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I don’t really differentiate between the women who do that during a relationship vs. who only do while not being in a relationship. Posting sexy pictures on the media is done by women with certain values. If men choose those women knowingly, he chose her knowing what she does. Dating doesn’t suddenly turn people around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:41 PM
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They need to ask the successful men who are in a similar league in both looks and wealth. If there's no one, one has to realize that's the league he is in. Either adjust standards, or work on jumping leagues.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 06:48 PM
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Depends on what you are trying to achieve. If you are aiming to get sympathy, seriously, what's the point? You won't get anywhere with mere sympathy. If you want to improve yourself, looksmax and try to make more money or something. If your intention is to "fix" women's standards, attraction cannot be forced. Try improving. It is what it is. If you are not desirable in the SMP, change what you can change about yourself or just deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 06:22 PM
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Oscar lacks status to use his so-called status as a strength and Jeffrey lacks competence to use his so-called competence as a strength. They would both need to have something extraordinary to offset the lack of status or incompetence. If we are talking about a useless career politician coming from a powerful family with a known net worth of at least 8 digits vs. a self-made businessperson with a net worth of maybe mid-7 digits, the latter is more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 04:03 AM
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Before the pandemic, my dates were always from school, conventions, seminars or once through my social circle. I met my current boyfriend on OLD during the pandemic, and it was my first time using OLD. My current SO seems to be attractive and desirable to other women, but I am not dating up. I would not care if other women showed interest. It is his actions that matter, not other women’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 12:45 AM
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Actually, I don't believe the red pill encompasses the whole reality too well. It can be your reality and of many others currently. It is possible to escape such red pill reality, but such is more likely with enough bargaining power. However, I think blackpill is true in way too many cases to a certain degree, and is much more difficult to find exceptions for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 11:27 PM
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Interesting how you included “complains about reality constantly.” Higher value individuals tend to advance within the unfair reality instead of complaining or making excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 10:35 PM
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I buy him things I think he would need, like or has to replace without telling him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 09:52 PM
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There is a difference between cold approach and dating within one's social circle. Cold approach, it is reasonable to assume exclusivity is not established right away, and have a getting to know phase for both parties. It is the time to showcase one's traits and that's all there is. Shaming for the abundance approach is only reasonable when the two parties involved already know each other well enough to take each other more seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 09:25 PM
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As long as you are able to give your child a reasonable opportunity to succeed, excess wealth should not come ahead of the quality time you could potentially spend with your kid. There's a lot more to life than money. Just be the best dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 08:44 PM
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If she is able to get into LTR with them without any difficulties, no. If yes, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 08:38 PM
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Facially, 5. Body included, 6 or 6.5.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 08:26 PM
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It looks like he has good base genetic features facially. If he lost excess weight, I do not think he would have much difficulties visually. I would even go as far as saying that if he lost the weight, I would not disregard him for his looks alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 07:04 PM
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I don't think it is that difficult to process as a child. It wasn't for me at least. Children can take more than most parents seem to think. They just need to be told that they will be loved unconditionally by their own parents, but out in the society, things are very different. Coddling only raises a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 06:28 PM
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I think they overvalue their own looks, while undervaluing average women’s. There aren’t that many attractive women tbh, and the rest are pretty much seen as “below the men’s league”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 06:08 PM
1

I follow many Buddhist teachings, but I am not sure if I would exactly call myself a Buddhist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 08:24 AM
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Even as a young girl, I got "don't be fat," "life is easier as a pretty girl", and "equality is earned, not given." My relatively progressive parents were far from blue pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 04:38 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 03:36 AM
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Older women with "successful" sons, possibly. Idk. I don't think there are enough naturals if there's male dating strategies and female dating strategies. The sisterhood idea is funny to me, but if there's such motive to benefit the sisterhood, wouldn't it be better to help more fish join the pond if not everyone can end up with a natural? And what's so bad about non-natural if the end product's quality is the same? When I was younger, my peers and I were told how we spend our youth is going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 11:26 PM
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I personally think the ones who are stuck at Square 1 for not taking the same advice were not pushed by their parents enough in their youth. They were given everything so they don't get that they need to work for stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 10:53 PM
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It can be heavily influenced by one's upbringing and one's social circle. Some women don't think very highly of those professions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:43 AM
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Eh… Most of my friends have low opinions of people which includes women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 07:41 PM
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Women, looks. Men, depends on the country. Where people are poor, money can go a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 07:31 PM
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Lose the weight first then see how you do. As a skinny woman with enough options and makes her own money, I date decent looking men. Being financially successful while being visually unattractive is not up for consideration. You’d either be looking for a gold digger or a woman with less options most likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 07:22 PM
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I think money could help one increase the pool of women one has access to. It is unlikely that I would choose to be with a guy with a much lower standard of living. But that’s just me. Others could be less shallow. And there’s always gonna be gold diggers if one actually becomes rich enough.
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 07:13 PM
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Not to that point. That level of ugliness is something you'd remember if you encounter it in real life. He reminded me of Peter Pettigrew from Harry Potter movies. I haven't seen anyone that resembles Pettigrew. I mean, I feel bad for really ugly people, but I don't really see that level of ugliness around me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 04:16 AM
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I don't know. Why don't we just shut up and move on?
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 01:23 AM
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It depends on the area. Some cities have a reputation and actual statistics for sex trafficking. My area is pretty bad, and my boyfriend stays on the phone with me whenever I go out at night alone. I have no idea why it is so bad here in particular though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 08:44 PM
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I have three close girl friends, and among these three one was sexually assaulted, and another put someone in jail for attempted rape. They were both traumatized and the one who experienced attempted rape was even suicidal for a long while. No, they don’t dress slutty. I think it would be better for both men and women if men didn’t have such sex drive. Women claim to not enjoy the sexual attention, and men would not crave worthless women so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 07:52 PM
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Approach it like a discussion, not a debate. Listen to him while he listens to you. Be openminded so that he too could be openminded. However, you need to realize you may not be able to see eye to eye on some matters even with your boyfriend you really seem to like. You need to decide what you would do then. I grew up with a dad who voted for the left, and my mom who votes for the right. It worked for them, and they loved each other very dearly until death did them part.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 10:27 AM
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According to Jordan Peterson, about 10% of women have masculine personality traits, and 10% of men have feminine personality traits. Whether these masculine women are wanting even stronger masculine personality traits in their partners or not, I am not too sure. There could be societal influence or just their personal desire to feel more feminine. However, being a masculine woman myself, realistically speaking, the relationship dynamics work out much better when I am with men with more feminine …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 11:51 PM
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I considered myself a progressive socially until they wanted me to call myself a cis female.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 10:48 PM
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Nope. I like a man with a similar standard of living. I like the things I enjoy. If I end up paying for someone, although I would really hate myself for doing so, I cannot guarantee that I won't hold it over him at some point. I have no reason to believe he would not become entitled to the nice things I provide either. + A man dating me for my money alone is just as bad as a man dating me for my looks alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 10:02 PM
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A man's mate value is not determined by his physique alone. His looks alone could be a 4, but his job is going to lower the number significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 09:35 PM
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But isn't that the case with most attractive women? Especially the ones for LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 06:24 AM
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Please show us their faces when you do take the pics. I remember my cat as a kitten being less furry. Glad Mandingo is living his best life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 04:59 AM
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Do you have more pictures? And pictures of their faces? 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 04:07 AM
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Oh I saw it somewhere in the comments. He said he is yet to be MGTOW, but will be once his wife leaves him or something. But as for your comment being for other people, I acknowledge your views.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 03:41 AM
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It depends on the game, the server location, and how competitive the players are there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:37 AM
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I used to use androgynous usernames to be treated the same on online games. I wanted to be a gamer, and not a gamer chick. It was pretty bad. Whereas my boyfriend used to catfish for free things on games.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:16 AM
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He is married and has a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:52 AM
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So adorable! Have multiple scratchers to figure out which one your cat likes best. Have one in every room you spend a lot of time in. Get a cat tower if you don’t already have one. + Watch Pet Fooled
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:14 AM
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I think you can have both. Good parents are like that. The caveat would be we usually take the urging of our parents to be for our own good. I would probably appreciate it if I was convinced it was for my own good. But everything should come with the premise that I am accepted and loved just the way I am. And I love people who are supportive of my ambitions, and believe in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:12 AM
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Nope. He has called me a He-man and many other things. I call him names too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 11:39 PM
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I think they exist, but women often aren't aware they are orbiters. And they are orbiters because women most likely won't even consider them, therefore not even actual back up plans.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 11:20 PM
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I think the most physically attractive and the least attractive are less subjective, while most people don't really belong in either groups. I find Emma Watson beautiful, but not Lady Gaga. Actually, I find it surprising that you don't find Emma Watson attractive. Anyway, it is more subjective than most people tend to think especially for people who aren't at the end of each spectrum imo.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 11:16 PM
1

9 excluding dining utensils.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 05:26 PM
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Q4M Do you think if women knew who they are up against when pursuing an attractive men, it would solve some dating issues for everyone less attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 05:21 PM
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Maybe you should ask men IRL who have the kind of relationships you’d like to have. And see what they are like and how they seem to be able to achieve what you want.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 02:56 PM
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I grew up in a conservative community but was raised by relatively progressive parents. I think it will be difficult for you to rewire yourself, but it is good to be aware. It is a good starting point. I have a question for you. How do you feel about your own financial stability? Do you think if you were more accomplished financially, the amount a man makes would not influence you to respect his ability to earn as much? I tend to admire people who have accomplished different things than I have. …
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 03:19 AM
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https://youtu.be/IqPATbDhrb4 Not very recent, but the first thing that popped up in my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 12:12 AM
3

Some people really need the hair. Not everyone can pull off the bald look imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:08 PM
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I was about to claim that you must be exaggerating, then I thought about my boyfriend. Yeah, he needs his hair more.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 10:12 PM
1

Think that could be a more personal red flag than a universal one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:46 PM
1

Add a sexy accent to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:41 PM
1

Why only seven? Make that eight figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:41 PM
1

Get off PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:40 PM
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Idk. I would not have broken up with him over his height if that's what you are asking. His height was always known to me, and I was very happy with the way he looked. I even showed my friends his pictures, telling them he is so my type. Unless some kind of surprise deal breaker popped up, I would not have stopped dating him. When I choose to date someone, it means that I am confident in my choice. When I choose, I am confident enough to not want to explore other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 05:59 PM
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Oh so you were serious? So you are only interested in BDSM in the bedroom, and it not being a 24/7, right? Then I would say adventurous and openminded people have a higher chance of experimenting more in bed. I am good at sniffing out kinky people IRL, but it is a lot more difficult to tell which person is which.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 05:23 PM
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Face >>>>> then around average height and a fit body. I like to go out on regular walks and not eat junk type body is perfectly fine. No need for a daily jog or work out at a gym. Not sure if that puts body ahead of height or height ahead of body. I have a minimum threshold for looks, and if that means valuing physique the most, I guess I do. However, even if I vet for personality first, I end up with pretty decent looking men by my standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 05:11 PM
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I wasn't necessarily given any advice on attracting men. I was gifted a pretty face by my mother, and was told that being a pretty girl, my life was going to be much easier for me than it is for other people. I was just told to not get fat. However, I was given advice on how to develop good vetting skills, who to pursue a LTR with, and what earns respect. I found the advice given by my parents to be helpful for me. My mom thinks a lot of women's mate value comes from appearance, and I do too. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 04:53 PM
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I acknowledge there are both dumbasses and sensible ones. The dumbasses will be dumbasses, and they can represent the dumbasses. I like to think that I am more or less sensible and I put my opinion out there only to show NAWALT. My sole goal is to show the diverse opinions. Fighting a dumbass is a pain, and is usually not worth it especially online.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 04:15 PM
5

We had to put a dog down due to her health problems once. I mean, it was sad. But death is somewhat natural, and it is something we all have to learn at one point in our lives. I think kids can bounce back. We got another dog soon after, and we loved that dog too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:52 PM
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I think we may normalize bad behaviours if we grew up around them, and idealize the desirable traits we grew up around more. I think it could be more experience based. I don’t think it is just our parents that influence us either.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:32 PM
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Be with a person who can appreciate what she has, and not dwell over what she doesn’t. Of course, no one is perfect, so there’s always going to be some shortcomings. One’s strengths always come with one’s shortcomings. It is a package deal. If a person doesn’t know that, that person is probably not a relationship material.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:26 PM
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When I was younger, it wasn’t very ladylike to approach guys first, and acting coy was the advice given by the society. People who grew up with that might still have some difficulties I feel despite how much the society has changed. Anyway, it isn’t a man’s job necessarily. It isn’t a woman’s job either. It is the job of people who want to pursue others and improve their chances of being with someone they want. That’s why I’ve approached guys. And no, they were not the typical Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:20 PM
3

Relocated. Was going to be either long distance or going our own ways. We mutually decided on the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:08 PM
3

I believe in gender equality and well, call myself a feminist. I don’t believe in picking and choosing the responsibilities, expectations and rights I want. I don’t know if I would get along too well with 4th wave “feminists”. If English is not your first language, there might be a chance you are from a more sexist country, therefore the feminist movement could still be somewhat “pure”, and what women are asking for could be reasonable if they are willing to take everything that comes with the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:04 PM
1

So add the boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 01:16 AM
1

Would you say that you are a bit younger? Or are you from the generation that used to call JLo thicc?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 01:11 AM
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Yeah. I never remember Shakira being that thicc, so I was extra curious. Curious enough to ask PPD. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 01:06 AM
1

So not necessarily thicc?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 01:05 AM
1

I mean, I agreed that Beyonce was thicc, but never really considered Shakira to be that thicc in her prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 01:04 AM
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Thanks for your response. And I did mean when they were more popular. I had someone say that they are thicc, and I wanted to know what PPD thinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 12:58 AM
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I am curious. Are Shakira and JLo thicc to you? If not, who’s thicc by your standards and how would you describe Shakira and JLo’s bodies?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 12:49 AM
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12771769/ Save eggs and sperms if you are concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 12:13 AM
2

I believe in marginal utility. Excess won’t, but having enough could have an impact. But happiness essentially is about one’s mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 08:39 PM
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NAWALT. Even if it is believed to be a pattern, there’s always exceptions to patterns. If individual women are looking at men in terms of their value, feel free to not feel any sympathy, and say that they contribute to the problem, cause they do. But I’d really appreciate it if people would stop over generalize and apply generalizations on individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 08:25 PM
2

I got another list from Mark_Freed. I got his permission to post this here. I believe this is a list he compiled after listening to one of Jordan Peterson's talks. James Bond - talented, skilled, and intelligent, he's also a badass. His cockiness is only comes off as charming. He always has the perfect rebuttal, the perfect response, and always has a backup plan. The Rich guy The Famous guy Ryan Gosling - The good looking guy Seth Rogan, Jim Halpert - goofy and not very masculine, wit, humor, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:10 PM
2

More people could be broke?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:51 PM
0

I think that's worse tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:50 PM
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I think it is the response given when women feel as if they are being treated as if they are just vaginas and not actual individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:24 PM
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If you have been talking to each other a lot, I don’t think it is strange at all. Congrats btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:20 PM
0

I keep wondering if you are trolling or if you are serious. Lol Go on fetlife or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:12 PM
1

You seem okay so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:06 PM
0

Eh… If a woman is unwanted by a lot of men, and not just a specific group, that could be true. I have had a guy who was chasing me tell me to not study so hard, and that men don’t like smart women. I believe he was one of the intimidated individuals. If he was not chasing me, I would not have been so baffled.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:01 PM
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I think they are often talking about women who have casual sex frequently. I often ask myself if I'm really that conservative and abnormal on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:21 AM
0

I think that could be more applicable to slim men and not so slim women, not necessarily fitness related. Like looking fatter in comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:05 AM
1

Never hooked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 01:16 AM
2

I love Buddhism.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 01:10 AM
1

Don’t cheap out on panties. Some panties are made better, and are way more comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 01:06 AM
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I have someone I call my “in between guy”. He is the guy I think about when I’m in between relationships. It is the guy I had a deal with that we’d marry each other if we reached age n and were still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 01:04 AM
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Nah. That’s the people you usually focus on, therefore notice more of. There are relationship oriented people with options. Guys with options can come in a few different forms. I would not say many different forms, but certainly more than one. Can be a tough competition to secure one, but they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 11:21 PM
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Nah. I personally won’t go for an ugly face ever. The question asked about my preferences, and I am just clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 11:16 PM
1

Surprise surprise. Some people are relationship oriented.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 10:41 PM
1

Please don't have man boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:02 PM
2

I completely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:54 PM
2

I like the wider look better.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:32 PM
1

He oddly looks smaller in the middle photo. Did he cut too much before gaining enough? I would say he looks much better wider.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:24 PM
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I am strangely not that affected by jawlines. I don't really get the talk around it. But when it comes to plastic surgery in general for less attractive people, it could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:18 PM
0

That's hilarious. lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:54 PM
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Where's good face in the comments? A GOOD FACE. Yes, I am shallow, and I want a good face. I dated a shorter than average guy because he had a good face and the cutest smile. Height wise, average is good. I think having a full head of hair matters a lot. Have a similar standard of living. Be able to hold long conversations with ME and not bore ME.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:41 PM
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Once I was not a minor anymore, I mostly dated guys much older than me, because I wanted stability and was looking for people who were relationship oriented. To not give anyone any weird ideas, I was not chasing bucks as I had my real dad paying for my lifestyle. Party girls exist, but I don’t think there’s that many of them.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 05:27 PM
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No idea. Hope she is able to appreciate what she has instead of dwelling on what she doesn't though. Even between the more superficially attractive people, marriages can be rough due to such lack of appreciation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:23 PM
1

You could be missing out food wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:14 PM
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Who is spending an hour a day on makeup and hair? Who has that kind of time? 20 minutes or less on a daily basis should be more than enough. An hour is like a special occasion thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:10 PM
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Nah. Unsuccessful women (in the dating market) need to talk to women who have managed to lock down a man they desire, re-evaluate themselves. My late dad's ex-employee asked my mom how my mom was able to marry my dad. She learned that she was aiming too high, and she is nowhere where my mom was in her level of desirability. She then married an average guy pretty soon after that talk. Real friends are useless if they themselves are dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:00 PM
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I agree with you. Number wise, among those who are able to get casual sex easily, I would say from the age of 18, I would say my comfort zone would be around 1 sexual partner or less per year for younger people. Once one is a bit older, my comfort zone would be 1 sexual partner or less for every 2 years. Now that I am a bit older, I don't get into a relationship with anyone who hasn't maintained a LTR before. That's the indicator I use, not the n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:48 PM
3

I think the societies that are more deprived in one shape or form could be more prone to people acting in RP stereotypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:29 PM
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It is good that you realize that. I hate it when people act as if their words mean nothing. Don't say things unless you actually mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:32 AM
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I felt that the argument was only being applied to one sex and not the other in the post. The comment of the OP seems to have confirmed my assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:10 AM
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I think I have written something different… why the OP seems to have disagreed with my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:57 AM
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I would never be with a man who didn't actively choose to be with me. The more quality options he has, the better. That is a much better indicator of his appreciation for me when he has chosen me for what I am. I don't want to be put on a higher pedestal. That's just weird in a relationship. And sure, if I am not right for him, he should leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:48 PM
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I only know a very few number of people who ever cared about racking up his body count... Could it be due to one's upbringing?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 07:30 PM
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Economic policies have to be tied together imo unfortunately. Canadians lose our health insurance when we are out of the country for over 6 months a year from what I’ve heard. I think residential requirements need to be in place, like how we approve permanent residents to become citizens, and give them the rights of citizens.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:00 AM
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Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:11 PM
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And I want neither to be banned. I think we need smaller regions of governance when it comes to social issues with no limits on moving between such regions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:09 PM
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I think if they talk about men and not women, that’s clearly for men’s improvement.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/22 11:06 PM
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+1
/r/ExRedPill27/05/22 11:04 PM
1

Lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:02 PM
1

Cats and only cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 10:58 PM
3

When I saw a store selling blindfolds in 2-packs, I genuinely wondered why. It took me a quite a while to realize people use blindfolds for sleeping.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:12 PM
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If he only has his looks, possibly? If he has enough money, I would say that's a lot less likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:13 PM
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They are all so ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:00 PM
1

LOL wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:59 PM
1

I’ve been considering it myself actually. Scared to leave but my government is scaring me even more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 02:49 AM
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I think the better way would be to ask if one has gained weight since the profile pictures were taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 09:50 PM
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I think so. I grew up around guys am never awkward around men. It helps me meet and connect with men. When it comes to flirting though, I think it just takes a bit of guts. At least in the way I do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:41 AM
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That expense could also be a benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:35 AM
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No.............
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:24 AM
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A very good friend that you have romance and everything with is the goal. That's why I would be calling the person my significant other, because he would be that significant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:21 AM
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So the traditional wedding vow goes like this, "In the name of God, I, (NAME), take you, (NAME), to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until parted by death. This is my solemn vow." I essentially want to be able to say this, and mean it. I want my SO to be my person, and me his. My boyfriend's parents do almost everything together and spend so much time together, and love…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:05 AM
1

From where?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:05 AM
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I was there myself. Just know too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:46 PM
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NO to ibanker. Give me another job with the same description and I might consider. Guy B... I mean if he is in a place where 60k is more than enough to live a comfortable lifestyle in a good neighbourhood, that's not bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:18 PM
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None. None at all. No piercings and no tattoos. I like the clean cut look. I like to dress up in a more classic style, and I like my partner in such style as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:39 PM
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I would have a conversation about it. I think it is important to be on the same page on things like this. I will see what he thinks, and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:21 PM
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I got confused mid-clip. I would raise one eyebrow and just assume the guy is hitting on me in a dumb way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 10:12 PM
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I started contributing from when I was a minor. Family money is my money, and my money is family money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 09:54 PM
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I don’t know if I’d be able to deal with the “body positivity” thing from my partner. Probably not with my upbringing… I’d first tackle the “body positivity” thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 09:52 PM
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Lysa_Bell’s comment under AutoMod could be helpful. Marketers must know a thing or two about what their audience buys more of. As for the 2nd picture, he isn’t ugly, but looks unrelatable. It reminds me of the common OLD advice to smile in your photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:13 PM
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I don’t think I’d be considered young here, but even as a not so young woman, he is not attractive to me. I have always liked well groomed guys, and I still do. I don’t know what he looks like in other pictures, but I see an ugly guy in the given picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:53 PM
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$
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:17 PM
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I barely cook, and I don't expect my partner to cook either. So 0C10A works, but 0C8A does too. Why not just get more points though?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 02:56 PM
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So this is one extreme case. There's this Gen X friend of my mom's and her husband quit his job with the mutual agreement that he would be handling the housework. Unfortunately, things did not work out that way. She gets home from work at 10PM, and she still has to prepare all the meals for her family. There are days when she gets home past midnight due to work, and if she buys prepared meals on those days, her husband gives her shit for wasting her money, cause it is cheaper to cook one's own f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:44 PM
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He answered, “Totally.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:38 AM
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There are ways to bypass the paywall… although I should not be encouraging it. Ask google.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:29 AM
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I just ended up being the more dominant one usually, and I prefer it that way. I don’t think I am particularly more attracted to either one. I do value competence in all people though. Competence is important in not just the men I date, but all men and women that I choose to have around me. My boyfriend read this post, and started to call me a he-man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:27 AM
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Nah, the bar isn’t that low with all women. If the undesirable women are genuinely wanted for relationships, they probably will have a rather low bar. Somewhat desirable women have much higher bars. Desirable women are mostly taken. If there’s a lot of competition going for the same women, the bar is most likely going to be raised.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 02:17 AM
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Oh you don't do things on a regular basis that you both are interested in? I usually talked about those, not myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:25 PM
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I never really thought much about who texts who when dating. Kinda weird to me how you don't text each other in between though. I usually kept texting the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:04 PM
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Just curious. In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 03:20 PM
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As long as they don’t bitch and whine and actually “go their own way”, good for them. Building a life around oneself is great.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 02:39 PM
1

I don't like young people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:02 AM
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I am a millennial that grew up in a rural area. I got that experience myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 10:00 PM
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I think it is not a very good question for individuals to answer by looking around. I was astonished when my boyfriend said most if not all of the married couples around him are happily married, because that's not what I observed around me. I kinda ended up thinking the happy couple crowd tend to hang out together.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:37 PM
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I too think physical attraction is important to a degree. My current boyfriend is attractive to me, despite not being 6' tall. He is within my tax bracket, and I'm more than fine with that. Like if a woman had to rely on a man's wealth to have the lifestyle she wants, she might go for the money. But I am perfectly happy with my current lifestyle that I can afford on my own. You gotta understand that I am not losing anything from being with my boyfriend. It is quite the contrary. We are so compat…
/r/ExRedPill18/05/22 07:50 PM
3

Something new came up within the first week of marriage. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:01 PM
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Well then, if you think your stats are all good, put yourself out there to let people know you exist, and that you are a catch. If you are a guy, your age shouldn’t be too much of an issue for now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:28 PM
1

You will never know until you see it without the terrible cgi. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:23 PM
1

Damn lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:21 PM
1

Better looking people have more opportunities in the dating market. It can make things easier as long as you are good at vetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:16 PM
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In all seriousness, looksmax. Looksmaxxing opens more doors.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:05 PM
1

Ugh. I hope he got out once his children grew up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 12:00 PM
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Why punishment doesn't reduce crime The severity of punishment does very little to reduce crime apparently. I do agree with capital punishment for a different reason though. I don't want my tax dollars to go towards keeping someone like that alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:55 AM
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I agreed up until the very last part. Manipulation may not be as rare as you think. + I think you might have missed one. If children are in the picture, there are women who choose to stay in the relationship for the children. They ditch the relationship once their kids are adults or when their kids get married off (in more conservative societies).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:48 AM
1

80% Buddhist. I don’t worship Buddha, but I respect and follow a lot of the teachings of Buddha.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 11:01 AM
2

Passive income ftw.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:00 PM
1

First one. 32 isn’t old to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:56 PM
2

I would not marry the person if I needed to check such thing. A prenup is good enough for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:01 PM
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Yeah, that's stupid. My acquaintance(F) from a wealthy family started dating a doctor(M) for his status, and him for her family's money. Marriage was brought up by the guy on the very first date. They got married in like a year I think? Guess how long the marriage lasted. Less than a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:44 PM
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My parents were deeply in love with each other until my dad passed away. My boyfriend's parents are still deeply in love with each other and they are in their 70's. Love exists, and it is something people should strive to achieve. I say "strive to achieve" because it isn't easily obtained, and it takes a lot of effort to achieve and maintain. Of course one should be adding some kind of value to be invited into the other person's life. That's the transactional part of it. Sure, it can be sex and …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:39 PM
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I am a woman, and I have gone out on dates with the best looking man that I have seen in my whole life including movie stars and models, and I was in a LTR with a filthy rich man. They were both 6'4". I now am in a LTR with a man who isn't as good looking as the good looking guy, isn't nearly as rich as the filthy rich guy, and is below 6' tall. I still have no issues getting men over 6', men with better physique or men with more money and status. I still decided to be with my current boyfriend.…
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 07:05 PM
3

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:30 PM
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I am size 00 and am severely underweight (small framed though). My body has been called regal and elegant, so it probably looks good despite being this underweight can be a bit concerning. My menstrual cycle is normal and don’t have any serious health concerns though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:30 AM
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Nah. She definitely has an above average face. Body wise, maybe in the States?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 06:08 AM
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They could have a desire to feel as if they belong to something, and have a sense of commonality/community.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 05:46 AM
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I think there could be names that were popular in prior generations, and when we hear such names, we just think of old people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:09 PM
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I have a penis. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:35 PM
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There sure is less incentive to be accommodating as a highly desirable person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:19 PM
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I think we are given more credit than we deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:52 PM
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Would it be right for me to say that you chose your girlfriend due to your perceived value of her? I think to a certain degree, subjectivity is at play. Her traits pushed her value up by a bit for you to consider her a keeper. And people do say SMV and RMV are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 03:36 PM
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Ummm I am not exactly blue pilled, but I think I tend to act in blue pilled ways in my own dating life. I still believe in mate value, leagues, but also a degree of subjectivity and niches. 1 could be true. 2 is often true but doing so is stupid. 3 could be true for both men and women. 4 and 5 go hand in hand. Available HVM without red flags tend to be rare, and it takes about the same amount of perceived value (by an individual HVM) of a woman to lock him down. I could be wrong, but I think wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:19 PM
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There’s one major issue. Desirable women usually are not attracted to orbiters and don’t consider them as options even. Unless the orbiters believe in actual fairytales, it is smart to not simp as an orbiter imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:58 AM
1

I like my boyfriend’s face.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 11:12 PM
1

I think women with very high value already that they don't have to showcase themselves or don't mind even decreasing their own value could be the exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 05:46 PM
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Yes and no. I personally found persistence to be annoying in all the cases of persistence that I had coming for me. However, I think persistence could work in very limited scenarios. Persistence working well is usually when an individual woman learns the individual man pursuing her persistently would cherish her forever. The wearing down of a wall has to come with adequate effort and patience. The man's own value plus the love for the woman has to offer enough value to the woman compared to all …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 08:51 AM
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I used to think that average was too high until I got to PPD. Oh boy was I wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 07:09 AM
1

I thought that was a gen z thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 11:41 PM
1

What bothers me the most is some men believing that women prefer bad boys. Then claim the women don't go for the nice guys. I think bad boys attract a certain type of women, and could gain a following of these certain type of women. The ones who make such claim and get mad at women are not actually seeing the whole picture imo. I genuinely wonder if these guys making such claims before diving in deeper are willing to get to know women and if they are actually good.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 05:27 PM
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In my younger days, I paid more often than the guys that I went out on dates with, because I was often the one with more money. I think it is nice for someone with more money to be a bit more generous, but that is generosity, and should not be expected of the person. I dumped the guy if he got entitled to such generosity. The norm should be taking turns or splitting. So apparently, some women think men paying is an indicator of interest. I think spending money is such a lazy way to show interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 08:25 AM
1

Disregarding absolutely shitty people with horrible personality and/or major lack of social intelligence, a woman will most likely treat a man well when he is of value to her. It is not too different other way around, and it is why mate value is so important. For example, a hot woman with reasonable social intelligence can still treat people like shit cause she knows what she can get away with. But if you present her with someone she wants to keep around, she will act differently. It is importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 08:03 AM
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I find your argument to be a little strange. When it comes to women's value in the dating market, it is the men who determine it. If looks are that important, I think it is probably the men who made it to be that important. A lot of men claim they don't care about women's education or whatever. That too is determined by men, not women. I am not sure how it is related to gynocentrism. Only looks matter when women are sex objects. Anyway, the rest of your post is ehhhhhh true and false. Better loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 06:08 PM
5

No. I decided to save our friendship instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:31 AM
2

You should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:08 AM
1

Introduction to Witchcraft sounds fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 03:54 AM
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Yes. It is not recommended for me to carry a baby anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:05 PM
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I think if looking for or thinking about relationships hinder you from getting what you want, I think working on getting a stable life could be a priority. You can still look for and find partners, but it won't be easy, and there will be limitations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:03 PM
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Assuming those women are seeing other people too in prior to the exclusivity talk, I would say when you see it going somewhere, you could bring it up, or at least before the exclusivity talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 10:17 AM
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Superficially attractive AND accommodating, nice, and etc guy most likely won't have problems, since he already proved his competence by being successful. I think women tend to look for signs of competence. Like attractive women with desirable traits are mostly taken, I think desirable men are also mostly taken. Then what's left for the masses is superficially desirable men who give women shit, and the less superficially desirable men. So maybe that's why that woman on tik tok divided men into t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:40 PM
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I think some make it obvious. Others may hide it well. It is like noticing some slutty women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:18 PM
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I don't think the women in relationships say they would be happier without (if they are, they should really be single). They could mean that they could still be happy without. People who are in relationships now have experienced both, and they could have been happy being single too. Who knows? I still think it is great to have someone to share my life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:52 AM
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Women liking bigger dicks is a myth. Unless it is actually so small that you’d be considered an outlier, don’t worry about it. Learn to give good oral.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 04:16 AM
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I've always kinda been this way. The trick is to engage in a conversation you think they'd be interested in, and you are also interested in. If they are holding a cat, talk about cats. If they are holding a dog, talk about dogs. If someone is looking at an artwork at a museum, talk about that. Just don't bother people that seem to be really focused. Keep it light and casual, and just be genuinely interested in the topic you are about to bring up, not the stranger him/herself. That's just kinda w…
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 02:38 AM
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Don't think of this as a recommendation, but just something to maybe think about. I like to talk to random people and make new friends. For example, I live in a condo building, and when there was a fire alarm, I made new friends while everyone was evacuated downstairs. We then started to hang out and dine at each other's places, or even bring each other extra food that we cooked up. Along with finding a new hobby, just learning to be social could help as well.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 02:19 AM
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Nah. I made the move when I was ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:28 PM
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My cat is being very clingy today. Do you think she knows? 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:04 PM
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I think ugly face is an ugly face. I am totally a face person though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 11:03 PM
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I am very specific when it comes to looking for compatibility, so probably. I like to be able to see eye to eye on most things, and talk about them with my partner. If someone can’t see the existence of so much projection from each pill (not just red), that’d probably be a deal breaker. My boyfriend and I in fact believe beautiful women and (decent looking) successful men have obvious advantages in the dating market. It could be true or untrue, but I like that we agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 10:32 PM
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Nah. I met him on OLD. Before COVID, I approached many times IRL within my social circle. Unintentionally cold approached once, so I don’t think that really counts as a cold approach. I just like to talk to and befriend people. I even make friends when there is a fire alarm in my building, and people are all standing together downstairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 10:14 PM
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I think raising the children should be 50/50 not for the sake of workload, but for the sake of developing good relationships with one’s own children. That’s what I have the strongest opinion on. Other than that, just talk it over with the partner, and try to be considerate and helpful especially with high passive income (I have high passive income). I think one important part of being the one doing less domestic work is to not make extra unnecessary tasks. Just picking up after oneself makes a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:57 PM
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I don’t think it is about convincing. I think it is about showcasing who you are, and letting the other person decide, and vice versa. I guess you could say it is about feeling the vibe, but the word I use is clicking. There should be a moment where you go, “damn, that’s the one.” It should happen on both sides either simultaneously or at different times.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/22 10:46 PM
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Yeah, I don't try to get the hottest guy I could, but there definitely is a baseline attractiveness for me. That's still bluepill, right? I am not completely sure. I still think looks are important to a degree even to me. I think people dating outside of their social circles is a huge change, and not necessarily a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:58 PM
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I think the issue with every pill is that there's so much projection. There could be trends, but there are also variations. I think the issue with blue pill is that while some may act that way, surely not everyone does. I truly believe there are people who act in the blue pilled ways, but like people say, they could be the outliers. I tend to believe the blue pilled people could often be the more privileged people, as they have so many nice options, that they are able to pick for compatibility, …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 12:05 PM
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That's really messed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 10:19 AM
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An important part of it is that you need to showcase yourself as a keeper. Don't jump into anything too quick, also meaning allow men to have their own space when it comes to deciding if they want to commit to you. Desirable men could have many women they are trying out in non-exclusive manner. If you care about your own n-count, just let them get sex from other non-exclusive women, but you gotta keep him engaged somehow. Be fine with staying in the ambiguous zone until you are done letting him …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 09:30 AM
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I too think it would be wise to be relationship oriented from early age, and work towards that from younger age. For example, like getting to know more people and finding out more about themselves too. It is difficult to find the right lifetime partner, when one doesn’t know oneself or understand others.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 09:46 PM
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I don’t think it is wise for most women in their early 20’s to look then. Sure, their value could be the highest then, but I think people still change so much in their early 20’s that by the time they are in their mid 20’s, they could be wanting very different things. We could rely on the parents to give their children the best guidance on picking a spouse, but I’m not so sure. One would have to be pretty mature to make a good decision. development
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 08:42 PM
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I genuinely wonder if I am a demisexual or if I am the norm. My experience has been the same as yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 03:15 PM
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They are using the label feminist. They aren't actually feminists. What they call themselves don't make them feminists. They are using the original virtue associated with the word feminism to make it seem as if their agenda is virtuous. A wolf in sheep's clothing isn't a sheep, it is a wolf.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:34 PM
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I'm a feminist and I would call you a feminist. Feminism is about gender equality. What those misandrists are advocating for isn't actual feminism. I refuse to let them take that label and act as if they are virtuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:22 PM
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I think you just have met the real feminists that advocate for real gender equality. I've actually seen some fake ones claiming to be feminists when what they want isn't actually equality for both sexes. You might have a very good natural filter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:14 PM
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While I agree with the article, it really is the matter of how much of us are actually wired enough in such modern ways. This may not make sense for people who are attracted to traditional femininity/masculinity. I think some of us are, but many of us aren’t. But yeah, gender equality is when both genders have the same responsibilities, expectations and rights. People advocating for gender equality should not be picking and choosing which ones they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:50 PM
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Smh. The downvotes here probably mean they are jealous of the transparent relationship I have. I know what he thinks, he knows what I think, and we still get along.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:00 PM
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I see it more as a social issue than anything else. America is a fat country. Their portion sizes at restaurants are huge. What some eat on a regular basis often aren't healthy. Finding available thin women is going to be hard. But I don't know if it is something that either women or men should be blamed for entirely. The government doesn't promote healthy living, and corporate greed certainly doesn't help the public. I guess I kinda agree with you? But I think men shouldn't really be blamed for…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:37 PM
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I think it is important to keep the rights we have. When I am taken away such rights, I feel less free. When I am forced to do something, I feel less free. I grew up with some very traditional values, like abstaining from sex until marriage. I would not feel less free from not being able to have sex. However, my country has abortion rights. If that was to be taken away, I would feel less free. It is heavily dependent on the rights I think I already have.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:07 AM
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Well the important part would be that he is actually turned on, but just don't say anything out of courtesy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:36 AM
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Yeah. As long as your son is eating good cat food. Lol the stuff I feed my cat is always made from human grade ingredients.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:22 PM
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I hope you have watched Pet Fooled.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:14 PM
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Eh… I would say the guy could have been raised with very traditional values. There was one very nice guy I went out on a few dates with that really wanted to pay. He wasn’t toxic. Btw, we ended up alternating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:02 PM
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Either she needs to get abs or so very underweight. Abs is a good idea, but being that underweight might not allow for healthy pregnancy. Abs on women are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:51 PM
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🤣 My boyfriend sees my comments from time to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:45 PM
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A woman should. Why would you even waste your time on her if she doesn’t bring some kind of value?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:05 PM
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I think starting to date outside of our social circles more may have contributed. We try to date people we barely know anything about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 07:31 PM
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Yes, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:03 AM
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Yeah, that’s not equality, and I get pissed off by women who demand for such thing. They are only accumulating hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:55 AM
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Sure. You realize it will most likely be super subjective though right? I think unless one is considered good looking by the majority, the rest of the ratings are mostly subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:52 AM
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Ugh. People need to learn how to pleasure each other. Many people fail at that. Btw, women's libido is usually closely linked to emotional closeness. So a happy relationship will lead to a happy bedroom most likely. So be relationship oriented, treasure and cherish the SO, and good things will likely follow. Right, and don't be oblivious when it comes to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:45 AM
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If they look at 80-100% results, they are going to be disappointed. 80-100% is privileged range. I don't think it is supposed to be easy though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:32 AM
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I was raised with a lot of traditional values, and I see the benefits of the society being more relationship oriented. People are usually able to take care of their own essential needs, so what SO can actually offer that's of most value should be companionship/family. Of course this might not be for everyone, but I believe most people want to be surrounded by their loved ones. We should start looking at each other like humans again, and fulfill each other's emotional and human needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:29 AM
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The absolute death sentence for a man is being socially awkward I agree with this. If a man isn't top whatever %, and have girls falling all over him, having bad social skills is a death sentence. I think the kids who grew up around too much technology are going to suffer immensely if they are not already.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:01 AM
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Any man with desirable traits will most likely get picked up by other females. That's what I'm saying. If a man seems dateable enough to be considered a dateable material, some other single woman will think so too. He then will get snatched. A woman likely has to have really high value in order to keep such backup guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:59 AM
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Lol I have seen good looking bald men though. But okay, I will make it sound worse. I think I look for top 20% in face usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:53 AM
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I really am unsure how many women are actually able to keep backup guys. If we are to assume women have such high standards that they have difficulties securing what women deem to be dateable guys, finding a second dateable man who would be a backup already is difficult. Then there’s also the problem of these so-called dateable guys being wanted by majority of women, therefore unless a woman is extremely high in value, she is highly unlikely to be able to keep a backup guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:47 AM
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You could be more generous than me. A somewhat attractive face or above will be a maybe, while an unattractive face will be a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:27 AM
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I'll say it for you. I am fine with average height, but I need a good face. I am absolutely a face person, and I am shallow. Give me a face that I can be at least somewhat attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:58 AM
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I think Gen Z generally lack appreciation for traditional values like companionship and possibly a lot of social skills. That has been my impression so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:47 AM
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I would say 0-20% is screwed, 20-40% is below average, 40-60% is average, 60-80% is above average and 80-100% is well off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:26 AM
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I do think women could lie to look socially acceptable. Other than that, I don't really see a point. Some women could be like what you describe, I wouldn't really know for sure, but I think you are overthinking things in general. I personally have been extremely honest, cause I don't really care as much when it comes to being socially acceptable. There's also that my desires in a guy is reasonably acceptable considering my own value. They are less realistic since I want very specific things, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 11:57 PM
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Meh. Most of us are more primitive than we'd like to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 10:41 PM
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Natural parting when I am lazy. Side part with a lot of added volume when I get dressed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 10:19 PM
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He is being a protector. I think you mean men who are capable of protecting you and your kids, rather than violent men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 09:53 PM
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I think we all need to look for people who grew up in a good household with good values. I too didn’t think it was possible to have a forever relationship, but I met someone who believes in forever relationships. He basically grew up with parents who are still madly in love with each other in their 70’s, and all the married people around him are happily married. Until you meet that rare kind of person, it is safe to assume otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 09:34 PM
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Opportunities don’t mean much when women don’t opt for them. I think that’s the whole point of this post. Avoid women who opt for such opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 09:29 PM
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I think the social skills of younger generation who grew up around more technology are generally inadequate. Talking about the average could make sense in one way, but I think we also need to consider the social issue we have at hand. Average doesn’t mean shit if it is inadequate and people have no idea how to deal with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:40 PM
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I sometimes think it is silly to look at the top 20% benefits and complain about what they have. Comparing oneself to others who are far better off only causes distress. Unless one joins the top 20%, one isn’t going to get the benefits. Let’s be real. It is just natural for someone in the top 20% to have certain benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:29 PM
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No. Equality to me means equality in responsibilities, expectations and rights. Women should not pick and choose what they want and don’t want when advocating for gender equality. Btw, the women at your work incapable of doing their jobs are not fit to be there, if it is a constant thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:19 PM
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Deception perhaps?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:18 PM
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Thanks for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:05 AM
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I'm confused. So attractive women have always had plenty of access to men. Does that mean since they are very aware of all the options they have, being with an attractive girl poses too great of a risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:00 AM
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Once you become completely financially dependent on someone, and you yourself have no credentials or current enough work experience, supporting oneself can be extremely difficult. Choosing between a relationship I do not want to be in and poverty is not something I want to do ever. An easy way out of that is to achieve financial independence. I might be traditional in this sense, but when I get into relationships, I want the emotional connection and companionship. I am not sure how polyamorous p…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:18 AM
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My dad told me that I need financial independence in order to earn respect, equality, and freedom. As long as I am depending on a guy, respect is not guaranteed, equality is not earned but given at best, and I might not have the freedom to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:00 AM
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If it wasn’t actual rape, sex involves two consenting adults (hopefully). Women can say no if men are against using contraception. Women can say no to sex altogether. If she doesn’t, she gotta learn to say no. And rape is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:57 PM
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I am dating one of them :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:27 PM
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Yup. I am getting the downvotes. LOL Idk. I think the nerds often have passion oozing out of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:51 PM
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Haha. Glad it worked out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:48 PM
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I guess I had a much positive imagery of a nerd.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:47 PM
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The whole comment was about how I could have been influenced to like some people that others generally may not be attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:46 PM
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The people who excel at mathematics and/or physics or other specific academic discipline(s) and are passionate about their area of study. They are most often poorly dressed. When they talk, they don't come off as social, but really passionate about what they study.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:43 PM
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Absolutely. Competence and passion are sexy, but when the competence and passion shows in the those specific areas, it seems to do more to me. Sometimes to an "irrational" degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:00 PM
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I was kinda confused to why people were saying nerds aren’t considered sexy while I really really like nerds. And there’s also this side of me that is irrationally attracted to musicians. (Pianists are my favourite.) I have chased both nerds and musicians before, so I found it to be strange. Then I realized, my dad was a musical nerd. Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:37 PM
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Oh sorry, misread the question. Exactly the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:57 AM
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Think you meant to respond to someone else. or not...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:27 AM
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Okay, so I think TRP manipulates hurt men that have been hurt by both the society and women, while there are so many people out there who are having perfectly fine relationships out there. People become so jaded, and believe what they've been taught to be true, while the world is not as black and white as TRP makes it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:38 AM
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Sounds like indoctrination to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:20 AM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 07:34 AM
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I don't like reese's peanut butter cups. I was told by a friend jokingly that we cannot be friends anymore when he found out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 03:23 AM
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In the areas of the world where it is criminal to have abortions, women often try dumb shit to get rid of the baby, or use illegal services. Hook up culture still developed in modernized areas with no abortion rights. I don’t believe people who have casual sex are suddenly going to change their views on casual sex and stop having it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:16 AM
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Yeah. I just wish we could be a little kinder to one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 07:55 PM
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I’m sure most people probably will never know or understand. I am a woman, and I don’t even experience the same things other women might. Being a different gender, we are often going to experience and see and experience vastly different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 07:41 PM
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I think you may be right. I don’t mind dating down at all if he is able to keep up financially with the lifestyle that I enjoy, and does not affect my own finances. I only start thinking about one’s finances if they become dependent on me to a degree. It seems to come down to not wanting to share my resources. I think sharing of the resources could be a good take on this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 05:00 PM
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42 and 22 already sounds strange to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:32 PM
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I prefer men who have standards btw. The more standards I meet, I actually am more of value to the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 03:55 PM
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What I mean by fullest potential is only through the use of makeup and fashion btw. I do think about fashion change in guys too. I don’t have enough knowledge on how a beard could affect each face or what hairstyle, so I can’t really look beyond what’s presented to me. How different my boyfriend looks without his beard is still bewildering to me. I think often times, it is just having more experience in some areas. If I had the ability to do so, I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 03:37 PM
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I only like men approaching me (or me approaching them) once they know what I’m like. It just wastes less time like that. When they don’t know me enough, and vice versa, we would need to take time to get to know each other before deciding whether to be together or not. I never had the time and energy to invest in likely failures. I am not a very well rounded person, and I think I am very specific when it comes to guys I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 03:20 PM
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Women have been going to gay bars for quite a while now I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 03:15 AM
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Good luck with that. Lol Attractive women can usually get the decent men they want, so they can stay in LTR, and often do. Not only you are going to have to compete with other men, but attractive ones who want to be in a relationship are rarely single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 01:53 AM
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I don't know. I don't think we are supposed to be reproducing like bunnies... or are we? There are methods of contraception, but if we aren't supposed to be reproducing like bunnies, sex could be considered a luxury.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:19 PM
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You mean the thing that hurts my skin? Idk maybe it is just me. My boyfriend had to start conditioning his beard better cause it was hurting me so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:02 PM
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Eh I am not too surprised. There may have been cases where men insisted on paying, but I didn’t expect the % of women who paid to be high. There seems to be 32% of women who put their money where their mouth is. Hope the number grows.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:41 PM
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I’ve had a similar talk with my boyfriend. It seems to me that I looked at women at their fullest potential. Men can’t seem to see beyond what’s presented to them at hand. Do you also think the discrepancy could be due to us looking at women at their fullest potential?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:26 PM
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I don’t care so much about the going out part. Anyone who gets drunk enough to not know what he/she is up to anymore is a no for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:36 PM
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I haven’t actually encountered them anywhere (from my knowledge) so I will remain somewhat neutral.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:11 AM
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Your response just surprised me a little and made me chuckle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:03 AM
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Wow. Didn’t expect that response.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:00 AM
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Oh are we getting them too? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:59 AM
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After a while, it seems to be the same stuff over and over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:58 AM
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My tag there is no pill, but I would say I am more blue than red. I don’t subscribe to any pills though. It is supposed to be a place of debate, but people don’t actually listen. I have heard as misogynist subs blew up on reddit, the place got infested.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 06:57 AM
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To make the sub purple pill.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 06:47 AM
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Most men there are insufferable. Men often ask women questions and claim all women are lying. So yeah… It is mostly black pill and red pill I’d say.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 06:11 AM
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I don’t know. I just live my life. I do the stuff that I enjoy doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:52 AM
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I am conventionally attractive, but I am not a 10. I have a family member who is a 10 though. She used to model when she was younger. Anyway, I don’t feel insecure around her, and I don’t know why I would feel insecure about artificial women. I might even get some fillers when I get older to cheat age.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:47 AM
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Yeah, you are looking at a very small minority of women I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:16 AM
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I do sometimes, but usually when I look like a bum. So I guess I look unapproachable normally.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:31 AM
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I haven't seen that where I live, but I have seen it in Asian countries where virginity matters, or abortion is not as common.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:29 AM
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The thing is, if a man is so amazing in one aspect that really matters to me, the other stuff can matter less.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:27 AM
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I think you are smart. You seem to know who complements you well. My boyfriend is a rather passive type, and I am the exact opposite. We are a good match. You being physically weak probably means that you are weak. That’s basically the definition for weak. Maybe if you were emotionally fragile, that could be another one. However, I don’t consider your other traits to be indicators of being weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:19 AM
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Show appreciation for what he does. Communicate well. Be his best friend. Let him know that I care through both speech and actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:09 AM
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Yeah. Some here have said women are attracted to toxic behaviours as well though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 05:36 AM
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Women have emotions just as much as you do. We are not emotionless monsters. Women can fall in love, and hurt when the relationships fall apart. Be a good partner to your lady. When you mess up, you can do better next time. There are deal breakers like cheating, but most mess ups are not deal breakers. Be with someone who values you as a partner. Be with a fellow human.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/22 05:26 AM
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Take a look. link
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 04:48 AM
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The food, the spas, and their traditional architecture. Btw, their public transit is something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:45 AM
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So we have to even lead them on? Meh
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:41 AM
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Japan
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:39 AM
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Idk. Is pushing someone off the ladder to get ahead in life a justifiable thing to do? I see it as cheating to get what you want. Or even a scam. Young boys should be taught to succeed, not cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:39 AM
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Nah. I never really have thought anyone to be stalking or sexually harassing me when men cold approached me. There was one creepy old dude who seemed to have been in his 50’s when I was only in my early 20’s. Anyway, I didn’t go for the guys who cold approached me, cause they know nothing about me. Like I could be a crazy b*tch who is an ex-con. I just always thought it was strange to like a stranger enough when they don’t know anything about each other. Going for the guys who have already appro…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:44 AM
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So the original commenter's claim that "I would say only 20% of people are having the sex and relationships they want" is not too far off for both men and women. While a certain % of men are in desirable relationships, similar % of women are in desirable relationships themselves. The women who are in desirable relationships do their part of the upkeep.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:19 AM
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Maybe that's the next evolutionary question someone would have to answer. Or we could also hypothesize that society's pressuring of men to succeed could have been due to success not being that inheritable. Humans have always seemed to put successful men on a pedestal just like we have for beautiful women. It isn't inheritable like women's beauty as you've said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:56 AM
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In order for women to stay in desirable relationships, they also need to put in the work. So although I am not sure about the %, I don't believe the commenter's "I would say only 20% of people are having the sex and relationships they want" to be too off. My boyfriend used to pump and dump girls until I came along. I have to keep him interested, and happy in the relationship. Good relationships take some upkeep.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:47 AM
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Not exactly. Some have said women choose toxic men. David buss said bad boys can fool naive women into believing such behaviour indicates dominance and assertiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:36 AM
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link According to this link, it could have something to do with evolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:05 AM
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Try Redken all soft conditioner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:08 AM
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I personally don’t suffer from other girls “being easy” at all. I still feel uneasy about it however. I think it could be due to my conservative upbringing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:03 PM
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My money isn't me; my money is just my money. I refuse to be with anyone who would leave me in an unexpected financial hardship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:29 PM
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Grab my best friend and pursue a companionship with her? I think you could use some good friends. It isn't good to rely on just one person even when you are in a relationship. Even when you are married, this still applies. My mom lost my dad quite early in her life. She has her own support network though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:53 PM
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the 80 20 rule as ACTUALLY discussed by the red pill was the pareto distribution, which reveals that 20% of the X are responsible for 80% of the activity in anything. so in a sales office, 20% of the sales force is responsible for 80% of the sales. these distributions are shown over and over. in dating it was originally that 20% of men are having 80% of the casual sex. the OKC stupid picture rating survey came out and showed an 80/20 ratio in women ratingt pics of men, so the black pill glommed …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:37 PM
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I mean… thank you for assuming most of us have such a robust social life? I was last single in late 2020, and I had to go meet strangers to find my boyfriend. My social life hasn’t really improved much since then. You realize all single women are basically “lacking” these “backup men”. I think we stay within our social circles and even if our social circles are small, we just get too comfortable and don’t really go out of our way to meet new people. When I was thinking about this question, I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 04:52 PM
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Babies don’t deserve broke parents…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:12 AM
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Thank you for acknowledging. :) I don’t get to everything obviously, but I don’t condone “insanity”.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:42 AM
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Hello You might not agree with what I've said, but I call out people when they are being hypocrites or don't make sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:32 AM
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Oh no...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:25 AM
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There's plenty of healthy food that taste good.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:24 AM
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I guess one would be choosing cause one cannot afford both. My advice as a non-enthusiast would be to keep the reliable one. I think you are speaking in terms of dating though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:21 AM
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Ugh I don't think whiners should be fighting for anyone's rights. They should take actual action to deserve any respect. I am ranting about a so-called feminist btw. FFS no one is going to hand you the respect that you want unless you earn the respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:15 AM
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I agree. I value what I have with my boyfriend and value him as a person since I know what I am like in relationships, and what I require in relationships. I am confident that my boyfriend is the right person for me, and that it would be dumb of me to not value this relationship with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 10:18 PM
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No problem. He is not as brain cell damaging as some people here. Just saying. lol I guess I kinda do enjoy listening to intelligent people with differing viewpoints. He generalizes a lot, and it is probably due to him being an academic. He has some questionable solutions or passiveness to issues, but I enjoy listening to what other people think and why they think that. It helps me form better arguments and solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 09:28 PM
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He is not as crazy as many people think he is. I disagree with him on some aspects, but he still makes sense to me. If you have the time, you might want to watch the whole video. The below are 3 timestamped links to specific points of the video. 1: "the implication of that part of the New York Times article was that I wanted to take nubile young women at the point of a gun under state enforcement deliver them to useless men. no one has ever believe that." 2: "One of the things I've said continua…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 08:51 PM
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The men that are close enough to me to talk about their dating life have earned at least top 10% income from their 20's, so this should not be the norm. Short East Asian men haven't had an easy time. The rest seemed to do fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 08:07 PM
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I believe that our historic collective opression under the elite class made an "unspoken" agreement of men being provided sexual access to women for their compliance in submitting to the implemented heirchal structure with no resistance. Jordan Peterson basically said the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 07:45 PM
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I don’t get the hype with Leo… Elon though. Forget Warren Buffet. I want to have lunch with Elon.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 06:37 PM
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So here’s a thing. My dad was sure to be the higher earning partner soon when he proposed to my mom. He proposed to my mom within one month of meeting her, which my mom thought he was nuts for. My dad was so sure that he wanted to marry my mom, and didn’t to lose her to another man. Whoever wants to get married more to the other person should be proposing. And hey… if you feel that way, don’t get married. That’s not a good mindset to get married with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 06:18 PM
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Unfortunately, the extreme outliers are not as rare as you think. Of course, there are so many women who could improve their looks dramatically by the use of makeup, weight loss, and hair style change. But I believe there’s many more invisible women than you think. I guess they could get some plastic surgery done to change that, but I don’t know if that’s the best advice to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:07 AM
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There doesn't seem to be an automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 03:34 AM
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You will most likely have to lower your expectations on women or find a rich enough woman who doesn't care about how much you make. The latter is not easy to find. EDIT: (if your expectations were high to begin with)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 02:56 AM
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Nah, you just have to be desirable to the unicorns. Unicorns are out there. If you are able to find a unicorn, get her to like you, and try to get her to introduce you to her friends. Unicorns hang out with other unicorns.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 02:47 AM
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Nah, those are your preferences. My dad was a specialist who married a high status woman. However, my family's lawyer didn't marry a high status woman. People have different preferences and priorities. I see "high status men do not want to date/marry high status women" as more of an over generalization than a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 01:46 AM
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I have just shown this to my boyfriend, and told him he should find a younger woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:08 PM
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I think the society is unfair to both men and women and more so depending on which privileges you want. More women are born with the privilege that the society does not expect too much from or of them. But since the society thinks that way, what women are left with is mostly our looks and youth. Whether you consider this a privilege or not would be up to you. It can be a privilege and a curse. For women who want to utilize this privilege and not do anything really, it is absolutely the greatest …
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 09:50 PM
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Possibly. Not many people like the appearance of obese or overweight people. It seems that appearance is an important factor in attraction, so if everyone could be a bit more visually attractive, more people could have a higher chance of attracting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 05:54 PM
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There was this weird period of time when people were a lot more isolated due to COVID and were using OLD a lot. Apparently, the number of active users used to be very high when there were lockdowns and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:46 AM
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Thought that was always a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 05:45 AM
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There will be one change. Even older guys would be more comfortable approaching you. 40+ think 30+ are fair game. Not saying that it isn’t, but people do think that. As long as you are good looking and have desirable traits, being 30 won’t matter. If all you have going for yourself is your youth, you might want to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:06 AM
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My degree isn't from a STEM major, but I can use logic and I can also code. One's degree isn't always a good indicator of one's capabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:26 AM
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It is more self-respect than leverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 12:42 AM
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True, but not all men are the same. People that over generalize like that severely broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 12:31 AM
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Nothing wrong with that. I think I am there with you myself. I don't have an issue with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 12:26 AM
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If you think one cannot be assertive while being respectful and kind, and believe being unkind and disrespectful is dominance, you aren’t actually an alpha. True alphas don’t need to fake assertiveness or dominance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 10:50 PM
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After. I was raised in a very traditional setting, and while I have adapted a bit to the modern world, I don’t disagree with some of the values I grew up with. They are a part of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 10:39 PM
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I think if one pushes the right buttons, I can be very attracted to the guy. But the guy can’t be ugly looking in my eyes. He doesn’t have to be good looking. There were guys no one understood me for being with, but they weren’t ugly to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 09:08 PM
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I think what he is trying to say is that a lot of men would just approach anyone and everyone, therefore a woman has a lot of men going for her. You are thinking in terms of the number of single men and single women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 06:34 AM
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The end result will be the same. The world would be a better place if people who put in the effort were given the opportunity to succeed. By supporting the hardworking child, you are making the world a fairer place. How I see it is slightly different. One is to get the most bang for the buck. The other is to presenting opportunities to the ones who deserve it but are ignored by society. It is the matter of fairness, and targeting what is unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 06:27 AM
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You might want to word it differently. It isn't about getting the "best returns". It is about giving an opportunity to a child who doesn't have one, but deserves one. I would say it would even be unfair for the child who tries hard if someone else got the sponsorship. It would just prove to him that life is unfair once again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 06:12 AM
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Btw I grew up in a small Christian town with very conservative values when it comes to sex, and I am now living in a major city.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:52 AM
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I think the answer most likely is for the society to be relationship oriented.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:29 AM
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Nah, not exactly. They often go for less conventional way of having sex, and by that I mean prostitution. If women aren't having sex early, the men go find sex elsewhere. Men too would have to sign up to abstinence to eliminate the demand for prostitution, but those societies in modern days are very rare. Once married though, eh. Men would have to have full control of the household in order to have sex with their wives as much as they want. But in societies where prostitution is a thing, and is …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:40 AM
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Getting 100 n-count is certainly possible, but I don't think many are out there doing that for real. I could be only thinking about men I know personally, so I could be very wrong. Most people around me tend to be relationship oriented, and the ones who are have rather low n-counts. But the thing is Top 1% in superficial qualities can get the number as high as they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 12:44 AM
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Professor Snape as a joke. I am very pale with dark hair, and I used to part my hair down the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 12:22 AM
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Surprised you know your exact number.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 12:07 AM
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The idea of having to do it again is worse than the reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 12:02 AM
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Attractive women are taken because they are dating other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:11 PM
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Attractive women are taken by other men assuming they are heterosexual. They are not taken by aliens. They are taken by other men. It just happens to not be you. Other men are in relationships with the attractive women. What do you suggest the other men do? Leave the attractive women alone so that you'd get your first pick? Attractive people will always be wanted more. Even you are wanting to be with one of them. There is going to be competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:59 PM
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We have to all denounce them, and take the label away from them. They are not doing anything good for women. We all need to start calling them misandrists.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:42 PM
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Those ones should not be called feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:19 PM
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Depends on what you think “in shape” means. US Average
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 07:15 PM
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Insert every other comment about OLD. Every discussion is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 07:00 PM
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I looked exactly like my dad and nothing like my mom when I was just born and my mom was kinda disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:37 PM
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Yeah, don't get with women who don't think fitness is important. That's just a horrifying trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:34 PM
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OH NO... Everything else being equal, I would choose dense hair, good body and good skin. But it is also true that I look very young myself, and I don't want to look as if I'm some kind of sugarbaby. I keep telling my boyfriend that I don't want to look like a sugarbaby so he has to take care of his skin. So you could be right that women might not like men who look YOUNGER.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:18 PM
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I had a crush on a guy who wasn't conventionally good looking when I was in school. I would say that he was average looking, but everyone thought I was weird. Everyone knew I liked him though. I was very open about how I felt about him. Never dated though. I did go out on dates with someone else who I guess wasn't considered conventionally attractive in school again. I thought he looked fine, but again, people didn't understand. They really didn't look ugly to me though, so I can't say for sure.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:08 PM
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If those are benefits you care about, you should discuss them with your boyfriend. I think a lot before putting my signature on a document, that’s all. Know what you are getting out of it, and know what you are risking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 03:31 PM
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I don’t know. I am a woman, and unless there’s a clear benefit to getting married (dual citizenship & tax benefits perhaps), there’s not much of a point. Not that we should think about divorce, but there is always a possibility. It just really sounds like a pain to deal with. It would depend on how you view marriages and how he views marriages. I could do a little ceremony and exchange rings in front of our loved ones, but I don’t know if I’d ever legally get married. I want the government to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 03:21 PM
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I thought their parents didn’t push them hard enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 05:24 AM
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Haven’t read what their rants are about, but probably true if they are similar to the rants I see here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 04:45 AM
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You should hear my boyfriend’s stories. He used to catfish guys when he was younger. Smh.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 04:43 AM
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Oh my god. If you lived near by, I would have brought one home.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 04:41 AM
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I do care about history, but not sexual history exactly. I cared if a guy had been in a LTR before, and how it ended. I wanted to know if he has experience with navigating through the hard times together.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 11:23 PM
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Private schools must be easy to find, but are private schools all that anti-social media? I have considered going back to the Christian town that I grew up in to place my kid in a Christian school there despite me not being Christian.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 10:22 PM
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Oh so homeschooling is not the only option? Is it easy to find a school like that? May I ask you which country you reside in and how the political climate is there?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 10:15 PM
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Nah, it is where a lot of people who haven't touched grass in a while come to talk about what they think the outside world is like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 10:11 PM
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The term to me means, "made for each other".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 08:07 PM
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I made my boyfriend read something here last night. It was hilarious watching his facial expressions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 08:00 PM
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She will most likely grow up watching the older stuff I grew up with. They were plenty entertaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 07:58 PM
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I call my best friend my soulmate, not my partner. I believe he is the one for me, but I feel soulmate is something different. My partner embraces my flaws and comforts me. That's everything I wish for. My best friend understands my issues completely which is kinda unfortunate for her, but she does. That's beyond what I ever wished for, and what I thought was possible. My partner is very aware of the relationship I have with my best friend, and he is very supportive of my relationship with my be…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 07:56 PM
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-Don’t get married at 20 -Don’t have kids at 20 -Travel, enjoy your 20s -Be a bad bitch You should not be a bad bitch. But having your 20's is not just about you. It is also about becoming an adult and getting those life experiences you need for raising a child in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 07:47 PM
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Disregarding outliers, looks, genuinity and often agreeableness. Other things don't seem to matter as much. I am an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 07:38 PM
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My kid isn't getting any access to the internet without parental supervision until she is much older and is able to think for herself. Media and social media can easily pollute minds,
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 07:26 PM
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Believe what you want to believe. 95% of social circles consisting of actual masculine men is funny though. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 07:09 PM
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In the social circle you are in, he certainly would be the weird one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 07:05 PM
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He doesn’t care about the count and he thinks it is weird. The people you interact with are just the people you interact with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 06:57 PM
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There are men who don’t care. We end up being around people with similar values and interests. That is inevitable. If you believe that to be true, it probably is for your social circle. My boyfriend couldn’t even finish reading the whole n-count thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 06:34 PM
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In the Christian town that I grew up, it was expected of both boys and girls to abstain until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 06:28 PM
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They are unattainable unless you are a chad apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 06:22 PM
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Yeah. You are right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 10:38 AM
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Wait a second... We were expected to explain what good hygiene means?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 10:35 AM
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Be kind to others. Be respectful. Embrace who you are. Be comfortable in your own skin. Be a decent human being. I think these are more of the personality traits that people speak of. Other personality traits are in the realm of personal preference. Like you have a preference, people do too. There may be some more popular traits, but it never is all or nothing. Learn to be appreciative of other people’s traits around you. When you notice them, maybe mention those things to the people. Even when …
/r/ExRedPill24/04/22 08:37 AM
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Think of what you see here as entertainment. What’s real is out there. :) Go live your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 08:12 AM
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I can confirm. Dealing with grief right now. Not where I want to be mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 08:00 AM
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Which “beta behaviours” are you speaking of? Could you give us some examples? You will be happier with someone who values who you really are. Acting a certain way to get a woman isn’t going to make you happy. You have to realize people want different things. Let’s assume many women like aggressive extroverts. Does that mean all women like aggressive extroverts? I think that would be a rather stupid generalization to be making.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/22 05:57 AM
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Just curious. If a guy's close friend keeps disrespecting the guy's wife, would you say it is fair for the wife to give the guy an ultimatum?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 04:53 AM
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Oh dear no.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 04:26 AM
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lol then you haven't really given anyone a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 04:21 AM
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On my body? or on someone else's body? How would defecation work?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 04:12 AM
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They deserve each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 01:32 AM
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I will impregnate my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:53 PM
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I think the issue often is that they are discussing as if the rich men’s problems are also the average men’s problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:31 PM
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I’m new and I thought it was the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:23 PM
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I don’t think their type is women with careers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:17 PM
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We are always assuming the worst of each other and the worst of each situation it feels. We have some very broken people over here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 10:49 PM
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Go convince the women when there's so many men here saying what they want is sex. Some men here aren't really helping your case, you know. A lot of women just don't believe "men are looking for a quality woman to simply spend time with".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 10:04 PM
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I have plenty of my own money, but I usually don't date low income man. The only scenario where I would date a low income man is when he is doing meaningful work that he is truly passionate about. I like self sufficient, capable men with a passion for what he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 09:44 PM
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3k yearly for a child...? Is that the ruling or is it how much that is actually paid? My cat costs me more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 09:09 PM
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Yup, I would say you have the right idea. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:27 PM
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I want someone to grow old with. I crave the emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:21 PM
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I suppose. “I care about having a reasonably healthy lifestyle” is good. One doesn’t have to be so obsessed with fitness to achieve that much imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:19 PM
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Greetings, fellow human who lives under a rock like I do. They are a Korean boy band.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:00 PM
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Most men are the exact opposite, upon discovering a woman is unavailable we become completely disengaged, and she immediately loses all appeal. I could only wish this was true.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:32 PM
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Like there's nothing wrong with just wanting sex, there's nothing wrong with the opposite either. It is the matter of knowing what you want and finding a person who wants the same thing as you. Dating can be used for "fun" for some people, and there might be people who want to pursue different things. Again, it is the matter of finding compatible people. ​ If they have just sex, she loses nothing. The thing is, she may be looking for different things whether sex being sacred or not. ​ Men have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:24 PM
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I am sure the media and the social media have quite a bit of influence over this matter. So I have read East Asian men have started to do quite a bit better in the dating market once BTS gained popularity. None of them are 6 feet tall, yet are considered attracted by many young women. If the media and the social media would stop idolizing certain traits and more people went out to touch some grass, maybe people would be less disillusioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:34 PM
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When I don't notice the body, that's acceptable. Now that I think about it, maybe my expectations are a lot more rigid than I thought. ​ Slim has some definition like evidence of physical fitness same with slightly overweight? Yes. Potential negative indicators of health and not being health-aware are not desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:27 PM
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We need you as a balancing act.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:16 PM
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For me personally, slim to very slightly overweight. Muscle mass has not been the most important to me historically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:56 PM
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Nope. That’s not in the acceptable zone. That’s a fail in the pass or fail test. Having a bad body is more like a turn off while having a good one isn’t necessarily a turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:41 PM
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No, the idea of being settled for is not okay. One needs to be with a partner that values him/her. That's the foundation of a good relationship. If the partner does not value the person, the person might as well not be in a relationship at all. I don't date the person with the best superficial qualities ever. I date the person who would value me the most, and the person that I would value just as much. My smart and beautiful mom who literally could have chosen anyone chose my dad, because there …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 08:38 AM
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Nah, I really am a face person. Body is more of a pass or fail for me in the beginning. I could go, that’s a nice body, but that’s just appreciation, not a critical part of my attraction. Once attraction is achieved for whatever reason (including face but I don’t think everything I am attracted to is kinda irrelevant as we are discussing body here), I appreciate the body if he has a good body.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:02 AM
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I have different standards for attractive and acceptable. I don't think I "develop attraction" per se, but once I find someone attractive, I do appreciate a good body. Acceptable would be healthy to very slightly overweight. I say these things as a face person though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 01:21 AM
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Go to OP. Like I've said, I am discussing with the given scenario. OP may be the top 15%, and might want to talk about what he has been experiencing. Who knows?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 01:10 AM
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The given scenario was "a guy meeting a beautiful woman with a great personality who he enjoys spending time with". We are discussing with the given scenario in mind. OP never mentioned how likely or unlikely such scenario may be. If you want to discuss using other scenarios, I think you should ask OP or write a post yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:37 AM
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You think a guy is going to meet a beautiful woman with a great personality who he enjoys spending time with According to OP, great personality and a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:07 AM
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I know. But I mean someone more like this. I don't know... I seem to like someone who can hide most of his muscles under his clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:52 PM
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Ultimately, yes. But it isn’t always that easy to tell unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:40 PM
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Yes and no. She could be thinking that, but she could also think that the man is only looking for sex. If all the man wants in her is sex, other things she has to offer could be meaningless. What's offered is only valuable when the other person considers it to be valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:36 PM
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He clearly hasn't trained to fix his muscle imbalance. Eeek.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:31 PM
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I was thinking abut that for a bit actually. lol I don't mean the people who casually play tennis, but the people who train properly and have good muscle balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:20 PM
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I think I like tennis bods.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:06 PM
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Like I've said, my initial response was, "You have a grandma. You can't possibly be that old." You agreed "Nah, you aren't old" is a fair response. You are the person who brought up "older people" can have grandparents to just argue with me. "Older" and "old" are different things. "Older" could be middle-aged. I was not suggesting anyone to say "I feel so middle-aged".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:20 PM
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middle-aged adjective. If you describe someone as middle-aged, you mean that they are neither young nor old. People between the ages of 40 and 60 are usually considered to be middle-aged.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:00 PM
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I've been using urban dictionary to figure out what people are saying for the longest time though... lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:38 PM
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43 isn't old. :) But I think you are very lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:31 PM
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Admit it when you are wrong. "Older people" can have grandparents. However, it is rare for one over the age of 60 to have grandparents. My comment was to her "feel[ing] old". "Nah, you aren't old" is a rather normal response to someone who said, "I feel old."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:29 PM
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"You can't be that old, therefore you must have a grandma" is not the statement I made. "You have a grandma, therefore you can't be that old" is the statement I made.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:17 PM
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If you like her, make a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:09 PM
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You have a grandma. You can't possibly be that "old".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:09 PM
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We shouldn't be over generalizing the world. While studies do carry some truth about human nature, everyone having the same traits and experiences is just a silly conclusion to jump to. Be around the people you like, then you will be living a happy life. If you are disappointed with the people around you, go look for others.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/22 08:51 PM
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I think while many women already acquire things (looks, vagina and whatnot) that many men want from them, many men don't know what women want despite them claiming they do. So when it comes to just the ability to have ANYONE, women have an advantage. Relationship seeking is about knowing one's real audience. Not all men or all women, but the one you'd be going for. Over generalization may be helpful in appealing to the masses, but unless you are the top of the bunch, appealing to the masses isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:30 PM
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What's sad is that it often is easier to live like a "bitch" or carry a persona of a "bitch". Then it completes the whole cycle of the assumed negative personality traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:17 PM
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Of course. :) At the end of the day, most of us just want to be viewed and treated as humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:11 PM
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I think as people are connecting less to each other on a personal level, they are becoming a lot more superficial. I really do feel that more number of people are forgetting the value of truly connecting and looking into who someone is as a person. Only when people realize the value in it, they can “truly love” others. I would say it is possible, but it seems to be becoming a lot less common. If one has good superficial qualities, it has always been on the person to vet rigorously. It is a skill…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:05 PM
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Go ahead and assume stuff about people you don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:25 AM
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I was talking to my boyfriend the other night, and we think it probably has a lot to do with socialization. People who are used to forming non sexual relationships with the opposite gender from young age seem to be better suited for platonic friendships. I basically had mostly guy friends growing up, and my boyfriend mostly grew up around females. My oldest best friend is a guy, and we have never had feelings for each other, and we hang out and talk to each other on the phone. We gave each other…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:36 AM
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Oh no. So no one is safe. No friends for bisexuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:15 AM
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Asexuals!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:12 AM
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People of different gender can have same interests and values, and they can genuinely enjoy having platonic connection with each other. It is already difficult to find good friends, and I am not going to reduce my chances by dismissing half of the population. Sure, there could be people who approach me with alternative motives, but I just have to cut them off if it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:57 AM
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I will start with "maybe I am old" and "maybe it is because I grew up in a small town". I have difficulties adjusting to how fast things are expected to move in regards to pursuing a relationship. I personally need a lot more time to get to know people. I don't have any issues with anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:41 PM
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Idk. Could be interesting to test out. You can always change your profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 08:19 PM
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Not that it is her fault for being harassed, she could have avoided many and could have attracted some good ones. She should rethink her strategy. I disagree with the "only gets you pretty negative attention". That is false.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 08:00 PM
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You know there's some disturbing stuff out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:55 PM
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I grinned at this. You might be the wise one. Depends on one's definition of deviant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:42 PM
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I buy mine skincare.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:19 PM
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Haha Steelcase Leap here. Aeron isn't offered in leather.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:16 PM
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If you are getting some action on OLD, I think the tool either works for you because you are superficially desirable to a certain degree and/or use the tool very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:00 PM
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The whole thing has gone too far. XY should not be competing against XX in sports. I consider myself to be fairly progressive, believing in gender equality (equality in rights, responsibilities and expectations), and respect for all people regardless of anything. I've never really been afraid to speak my mind. Most of us live in a democracy, and being politically correct is when you actually express yourself and take part in the conversation as a citizen. People who disagree need to stop being s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 05:19 PM
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I don't really think it is the matter of morality, but it is due to the imperfect nature of humans. I know many will, but I personally don't even blame someone for losing attraction to a partner who has gotten fat due to having to take medications. Yes, it is shallow and undesirable, but I consider attraction to be out of our control. Immoral could be leaving the sick partner. Immoral could be lying about what one is attracted to and not attracted to. Immoral could be giving false hope. However,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 05:05 PM
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Well you could use a counter argument that women don’t even want female competitors. Some women are like that. Although, I think those women want other women to fail more than they want men to fail. But what TotalTravestry said is generally true. Women who say things as is are not universally liked, and don’t do very well socially within groups of women either. We are expected to lie to each other to a certain degree. Living in a comfortable lie is often easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 04:43 PM
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Okay, that’s a lot more convincing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 03:58 PM
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All I am hearing is I don’t believe in commitment and what others believe to be healthy relationships. Honestly at this point, I don’t even know why we are having these discussions anymore. They just want different things than the normies who aren’t enlightened. For the people who think betraying one’s trust is wrong, we’ve always done substantial amount of vetting, so nothing is really different. Gah, these justifications are just silly to me. Say it with me. I will do as I please. I do controv…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 03:05 PM
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Bisexual. I don't care as long as he is monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 05:26 AM
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People seem to want just sex or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:25 PM
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Yup. Often goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:59 PM
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I’d say it is highly likely. + I think you might have a type.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:51 PM
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Thank you. He was a wise man, and he taught me a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:19 PM
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You can in heaven or in his afterlife. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:57 PM
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Long distance relationships aren't for everyone. I've been in one, and damn, it was difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:11 PM
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I had an unusual dad. I basically have "pay for yourself" drilled into my head. Nothing is actually free and taking something can have consequences according to him. Sure, free does sound good, and I would take things for free if every action didn't have potential consequences. It may lead to nothing or just might affect my image or status. Anyway, my dad also said that while "a guy's money isn't mine, his is." He said his is free, but I shouldn't expect anyone else's to be free. Free stuff is g…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:06 PM
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It is annoying. If someone expects the other to mind read, that person needs to learn how to communicate better imo. If someone doesn’t expect that, that’s different.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:18 PM
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Btw, I have mentioned this a couple times here but according to David Buss, “more than 90 percent of men are able to find a mate at some point in their lives.” So women must have found some kind of value in most men. But with changing social norms, advancement of technology, and social media, who knows how the younger generations would act? There has been such a sudden shift in culture, and it will be hard to tell for a while. I think social media could have fucked us up by quite a bit in variou…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:16 PM
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Extroversion and introversion is a spectrum. I find it difficult to be in a relationship with someone who I can’t communicate well with. It probably is mostly due to my own limitations. I am an extroverted person, and I hate having to read minds when I want to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:07 PM
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I am the worst possible person to be answering that question as I consider myself to be quite stringent. But I read your comment last night on only a certain percentage of men do housework, and there could be a mismatch of values. Would the relationship make one who is going into it happier is an important question we need to consider. You realize many could be just unpleasant to deal with or have in one’s life. I think the question would be better answered by women who have difficulties getting…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 05:49 PM
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Depends on the woman. Ideally, one would want to be with a partner that one values for whatever reason. “I’m so lucky to have this person in my life” should be coming out of both mouths. In top 0.1%’s eyes, anything less than top 0.5% could be losers. In top 1% eyes, anything less than top 3% could be losers. In top 10% eyes, anything less than top 15% could be losers. Who knows. Someone might be more stringent or even unreasonable. Lol Idk the issue might be that losers don’t realize they thems…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 05:33 PM
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Vanilla is vanilla.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 05:07 PM
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For me, I think what matters is whether he is actually a pleasant person to be around on normal days. I do not like grumpy or depressing people. That’s emotional labour I will never sign up for. However, when it comes to one’s ups and downs, I do expect him to have and share all those and I don’t consider that emotional labour. Frequency and the length of time is the issue for me. Oh yeah, I don’t like doom and gloom people. I like people who know one has to stand up strong for the hardship to p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:50 PM
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There’s a minority of women who do pay more. Stop dismissing people for being a minority. Accepting the existence of this minority of people seems to always be the issue. Don’t take it out on the wrong people. You too have free speech. Don’t try to take away others’.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:38 AM
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If the stats are true, 30% is still 30%. 70% is the majority no doubt, but we still should acknowledge the existence of the 30%. It isn’t all or nothing. And why squash the minority’s voice? They might have something to say. Free speech?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:24 AM
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I don’t care for everything listed above, but I don’t believe in settling when I want certain things. I believe in improving myself to get what I want. I am not going to just take what I’m given. That’s not me. Height - pretty sure I’ve dated shorter than average guys. I’m more attracted to face than height. University - if he is able to read and discuss what I take interest in, actual education doesn’t matter. There are university drop outs who are brilliant, and there are plenty of people who …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 05:55 AM
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Yes, good point. These stats should be taken with a grain of salt especially when presented like this. It is why I chose to use the word "seem" rather than "are". But oh dear. That's one stupid way to conduct a study if it wasn't intentional.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 03:57 AM
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I have not looked into the double standard for men and women when it comes to divorce rulings. I am not sure how severe it is. I guess it could be different in each State in the US. Just putting it out there for now. I think this question should be open to all since 30% of wives seem to be earning more than their husbands in the US. Source Anyway, marriage is a big risk for anyone with assets to protect. Divorce is hell-like as well. But then again without marriage, I don't know how people would…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:16 AM
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EDIT: Deleted due to personal info. Assuming the person I have responded to have read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 12:02 AM
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EDIT: Deleted due to personal info. Assuming the person I have responded to have read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 11:24 PM
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Yeah. He was the best looking guy I've ever seen to this day. His face was just gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 10:19 PM
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Nah. I have gone out on dates with an amateur fighter and the only reason I did was because he knew just the right things to say to me. I was way more attracted to his face than his body though. He had a really attractive face. I honestly don't care much about what they do, but I would not choose one as a partner due to potential injuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 10:11 PM
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There’s a lot of bitter and disillusioned people. It is funny. I don’t think their parents did a good job.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 09:23 PM
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It is more like a battleground. Lol They are supposed to be debating.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 09:16 PM
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3 and 1 (only if the sperm was donated to 10 or less women and I was using a surrogate) it would just be weird to have my child’s half siblings running all over the place. I was considering doing that already anyway. I am even willing to pay good bucks for the sperms. The rest are not up for consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 09:12 PM
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Eh I am not sure if women do it with joy. But many of us know doing those things can make our lives much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:17 PM
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If you live in a rather affordable area, low six-figure would probably be more than enough I think. I am only guessing. Many would probably live a dream life on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:14 PM
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I think it would really depend on what your own standards are for women. Women who tend to make a good enough living on her own often don't budge with just money. If it was an astronomical amount, perhaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:57 PM
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There seems to be one here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:31 PM
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I was told my “list” was unrealistic by one person. I basically had a list of my own values that I wanted my potential partner to have. I also had a list of traits and expectations that would complement mine well. It just was so specific that it limited the pool quite severely. I don’t know. I just had a few failed relationships over the years, and I really knew what I was looking for. That list was approved by my oldest best friend who happens to be a guy though. Regardless, I think I am dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:22 PM
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They do get snatched up rather quickly even when they are back on the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:40 PM
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I think medication is way too overused these days. It is possible to overcome certain illnesses without drugs. Many need to read the labels and realize the drugs may come with severe side effects and they might be better off without.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:29 PM
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Oh those sociopaths would be better off flaunting their money. I am talking about low profile upper 6-7 figure earners who deserve to be loved for who they really are, and not for their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:12 PM
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Eh it probably is true for the woman’s case though. Appearance is a huge factor for women whether we like it or not. Choosing to not accept the reality is just pathetic. If they don’t accept reality as a whole, they are pathetic. Say it like it is. My mom said, “pretty girls have it easier” and my dad said, “being fat will get you nowhere.” I consider them to be fairly progressive. Choosing to live in a comfortable lie just makes me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:08 PM
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With the advancement of technology, I feel people’s social skills have been suffering. Many don’t know how to interact with each other as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:17 PM
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If you look at the BDSM scene, not that it must be a good mirror image of the real world, the number of female submissives and the number of female dominants differ by quite a bit. I think there are certain traits and preferences that are quite prevalent in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:15 PM
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Yup. And being encouraged to do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 02:46 PM
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Very true. Are parents less pressuring now? I feel as if many haven’t been properly pushed by their parents. Many are so fragile.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 02:35 PM
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Stealth wealth is often actually a better idea if one wants to avoid gold diggers, and one wants to be liked for other traits rather than money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 01:47 PM
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Yeah I agree. My boyfriend is a bit smaller than you and he has never had issues. He is slightly below average where we live. I assume men much below the average must suffer a lot more though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 01:36 PM
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I have just looked up the average physique. No wonder people talk about hitting the gym. It would do average people so much good. I am not American btw. When it comes to height, the 6’ thing is kinda crazy. Idk why that became a thing. I think I mostly blame the media and OLD becoming what it is today, basically reducing people into a few pictures and numbers. Income… From my experience, I think often the problem is older men going for younger women. I don’t necessarily mean very old, but often …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 01:18 PM
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That makes way more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:30 AM
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Eh I think there was a time when having such social skills was rather normal. Maybe I am old. With the advancement of technology, people don't seem as human anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:44 AM
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I think women vastly overestimate their ability to detect male behaviors. I feel that there's a degree of over generalization, but many do. If you don't think it is over generalization, I suggest looking for women elsewhere. At the end of the day, it is all about who you are attracted to and who you are trying to attract. Who I consider to be well developed mentally stable women should know what are preferences and what are indications.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:41 AM
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Oh no. I don't mean psycho-normative or not being shy by having good social skills. I think people in general have forgotten how to interact with each other or how forming relationship used to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:10 AM
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This reads more like a rant than a question. I like men. Like there are ugly women, there are ugly men. Like there are actions of women that are just simply disgusting, there are actions of men that are simply disgusting. I don't like all men like I don't like all women. Just because I don't like some of them, it doesn't mean I don't like all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:03 AM
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I think that is a bit pessimistic though. If one is really average without huge flaws, I think one could still do well in the dating market given that he has good social skills. I think people in general lack social skills these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:56 AM
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Nobody knows what's average anymore. Well I don't think I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:47 AM
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It would depend on who you are trying to attract. I would not necessarily say toxic, but over exaggerated aggressiveness or adventurousness could attract certain types of females. However, David Buss also said as women mature, they get better at detecting such scheme. If you are going for a looksmatch, I guess no one is stopping you. However, the act would probably not work as well on who I consider to be well developed mentally stable women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:36 AM
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I am an East Asian woman, and I have gone on dates with fellow East Asians (yellow men I suppose), white men, and brown men. The areas that I lived or just where I usually am seem to have very low black population. But considering my favourite male model is black, I don't think I am not attracted to them visually. There was a hypothesis saying, white men have historically been the most powerful in society, therefore women who are drawn to strong men could have had a preference due to that reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:22 AM
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This post is actually quite hilarious. I don't think I have to chime in to tell you what you believe to be true is not true. But... it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:54 AM
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It might be because they often are mislead that big means good and the penis will do all the pleasuring. Like you've said, there's more to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:53 AM
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This isn't as relevant in western cultures anymore, but in less developed countries, I really do think women who are wanting to make something of themselves are at a disadvantage, while women who have no ambition are at an advantage. Privilege may be there to be taken advantage of, but unless women want the privilege, it doesn't mean much.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:50 AM
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When it comes to vanilla relationships, my current one is the best. I would not be disappointed, since I know couples can communicate and learn. The person being skilled beforehand just means less work and less communicating. Even when the person is rather skilled, there still needs to be communication to maximize pleasure. Every body is different. We should all care about pleasuring the other person. Technique is very important. According to this article, "slightly more than 18 percent [of wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:22 AM
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I see marriage as inviting someone into your life, and getting invited into someone else's. So one will join the family, but from that point on, you will be building memories and sharing experiences together which will result in becoming a family. I would call that process building your own family.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:10 PM
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When it comes to vanilla relationships, my current one is the best. I would not be disappointed, since I know couples can communicate and learn. The person being skilled beforehand just means less work and less communicating. Even when the person is rather skilled, there still needs to be communication to maximize pleasure. Every body is different. We should all care about pleasuring the other person. Technique is very important. According to this article, "slightly more than 18 percent [of wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 06:09 PM
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We've been going out for a little over a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 05:49 PM
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His dad cooked for everyone. They were so sweet and I think it went well. His mom now says hi to me when we are on the phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 04:50 PM
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I only read the messages I was getting after a while. (Just couldn’t find the energy to swipe, read, and connect all at the same) Like people say, while many men have it hard on OLD, it can be a bit much for women. Not that I am complaining, but I decided to put all of my effort into reading what was already initiated and connecting. I had a huge wall of text. I checked if the guy had read the entire wall of text by his initial message, and if he found us to be compatible. This got rid of most p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 04:46 PM
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Went to my boyfriend’s parents’ place for the first time. EDIT: Someone downvoted this. lol Wow... That person must be a very miserable soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 04:16 PM
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If you are unhappy, move on. Don't waste any more of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 05:30 AM
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That was very insightful. If you get fucked over, you know what else to look for when looking for someone else. That's how I tried to look at things.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/22 05:19 AM
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From reading your comment, I feel that when possible, it would be nice to not over generalize. For example, we could say, "From my experience", "I think/feel", or even "In most cases". I believe no one really knows everyone or everything. I think giving people the benefit of the doubt is generally, "kinder". I too should be more sensitive I feel. Thank you for your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 05:04 AM
1

Basis for attraction, I have my doubts. Important factor when vetting? Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 04:41 AM
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BDSM Stats I couldn't confirm the validity of the stats, but it says 8% of women identified as Dominants. BDSM community probably isn't the most accurate portrayal of the world, but I think there's some assumptions we could make from it. If you are aiming for dominant women, you could end up having to choose from the 8% which I consider to be a quite small minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 02:33 AM
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I personally do not feel ready to be a mother yet. But I want to share as much experience and whatever they hold dear as possible with my S.O. Therefore, I would avoid dating them for now. Once I feel ready, I don't see why not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 02:13 AM
1

Idk. “Maybe I could change him” bullshit?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 10:30 PM
2

Nah, in my case, it was my first time on OLD due to COVID. I usually preferred to get to know everyone as friends. Please don't let my comment mislead you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 08:33 PM
1

Huh? No. Not that I know of anyway. Do you take care of your looks? I think people could have a stereotype that people in that field dress poorly and stuff. Maybe that's why they have the weird looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 08:22 PM
2

Depending on the situation. I would hope he makes enough to pay for his own dwelling shared or unshared by a certain point in his life.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 08:13 PM
1

I was only on OLD for 3 months in total, so I don't know if my experience is going to be of any relevance or importance. I've had a fairly positive experience though. I had a huge wall of text, and only talked to the people who have read the entire wall of text and liked what I wrote. I only communicated with a very small percentage of people. I honestly didn't know he'd be the one at first. We treated each other more like online friends. Then we talked on the phone for the first time, clicked s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:35 PM
1

Possibly due to what's been "hot" these days. The media usually wants to show what's going to capture more attention. More awareness due to the media could influence the funding. That's as much as I can hypothesize without sounding like a conspiracy theorist. It needs to be studied however.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:19 PM
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OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:15 PM
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I want a prenup. Why even consider walking into a contract that the government drafted for you? Even if the marriage lasts forever, why not just fix the terms of the contract so that you could choose what you want for your own life? It could ruin the relationship, sure. Some people are like that. They could find someone who feel the same. Plus, if one doesn't like the terms in the prenup, and it turns you off, walk away. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 06:44 PM
1

Good for you. People like you most likely brighten up the world more than people like me do. Even my boyfriend tells me that I can be dark and cold at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 06:07 PM
1

Hmmm perhaps. Maybe you think more highly of people, while I don't. I have pretty low standards for people, so my standard for labelling them as either is probably more rigid than yours. Either way, I don't think society would be better with those people who ignore others' issues. I don't like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 05:34 PM
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Hmmm... If they say men deserve those issues for treating women in a certain way for decades, that's misandry. If they ignore something like domestic violence against men, they are actually not feminists, since feminism is about gender equality. I would call it shortsightedness. I would have to think more about the misandry part. If they think women's problems are more important, it does make me a bit confused. Why can't we make lives better for all people? Changing laws usually affects everyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 05:27 PM
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W - Oh yeah. There's crazies on both sides always. How prevalent? I am not completely sure, but I think the crazies are the loudest. Normies are uninteresting and are most likely living their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 05:06 PM
1

I feel as if I'm being looked as some kind of meat. Some may enjoy it, maybe. I sure don't. If one wants to be looked as some kind of meat due to whatever reason (e.g. rarity of attention), that's that person. Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 05:04 PM
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That's stupid. Would it be enforced better if the couples renewed their prenups every 5-10 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 04:47 PM
2

I think you are living in your own happy land or something. Abusive dad is no better than no dad. Abusive mom is no better than no mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 04:39 PM
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Oh my god. What am I watching?
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:42 PM
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I think emotionally healthy people have better success when it comes to forming stable relationships. Maybe your exes were looking for the “protector” type of partner. Maybe next time, try to find people that are seeking to be equal partners. From my understanding, you tend to attract the opposite. You will have to look into the traits of people who you haven’t dated before. I think it is good that you are asking these questions. When I was looking for a boyfriend last time, I had a pretty good …
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 03:05 PM
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Other than the potential emotional security and social acceptance from traditional beliefs, for tax purposes and for a green card.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 02:48 PM
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When they stop questioning, that’s indoctrinated. Well-socialized is when you hold your tongue?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 04:14 AM
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We however can’t live in fear of them. To negate cheating; stringent vetting, open communication, and trust, is still the healthiest way forward. Thank you for saying this. There is an alternative way of living. I hope people do see the light. 'Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.’ - Martin Luther King, Jr.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:15 PM
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What I’m reading is… You don’t believe in women having sex because they want to have sex purely for personal enjoyment… Dude, that’s messed up and sad…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 10:39 PM
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Not sure what difference that makes. Women mostly judge them for acting entitled and being self obsessed. Masturbate all you want. I don’t know what today’s younger people are like, but women over the age of 25 don’t give a shit. If you are self-conscious about masturbating, maybe you care too much about what other people may think of you. And I feel that you are just trying to demonize women. Be just as critical of your own gender and what they say about you.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 04:03 PM
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Oh no. It’s all good. I was just trying to figure out why you were saying them to me. I was like… it seems like we are agreeing. Lol Is she trying to be informative? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 06:53 AM
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I would say they are usually irresponsible overgrown children who want what they want, but are afraid of facing the consequences or just not think about the consequences at all. Their parents should have taught them to take responsibility for their actions, and to not place their blame on others. “She made me do it!” was never a good excuse even in kindergarten. You both get in trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 06:50 AM
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I am not sure if you have read the whole thread. Who else gets eliminated is not the point of the transition. Who survives is. One ones who survive will continue on. The top or the average or somewhat below average can either survive or get eliminated. The transition ends when there isn’t much left of who haven’t adapted yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 06:16 AM
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My boyfriend masturbates and I’ve never had an issue with it. Who are calling those men simps? Except for using sex workers grossing many women out, I think it often comes from the fellow men.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 05:37 AM
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I cannot condone cheating in any way possible, but couples should really consider going to sex therapists if lack of sex is really the issue. By the way, treating sex like "duty" is the worst possible way to view sex. Sex can be enjoyable for both sexes... If you have not experienced such thing, you really are missing out. Talk to a therapist. Please.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:11 AM
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I have a newfound appreciation for the people around me. I am grateful to my parents for raising me the way they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:55 AM
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I do get it. My culture even has a saying, "Men cry 3 times in their lives." Once at birth, once when he loses his parents (should be twice, but idk), and when he loses his country." While I get why men act the way they do, and how society has been so inhumane to them, I just wasn't looking for a man like that. Call it personal choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:34 AM
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If we had the stats for depression caused by the opposite sex (or whichever sex they want) not giving one a chance, and the suicide rate of those people alone, we could try to form a hypothesis on why that is happening. That was just my attempt.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:20 AM
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Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 03:41 AM
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I don't know what's average anymore at this point though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 01:51 AM
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Hmmm I think the last one might have something to do with the social pressure/expectation for the men to approach women first. I am only guessing though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 01:49 AM
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I wouldn't call it hypergamous. I'd call it being more selective and seeking compatibility. Hypergamy is dating/marrying up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 01:32 AM
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Some people just see what they choose to see. It is sad. Also, I believe some people may be more drawn towards a certain type, and end up believing that's all there is to this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 01:13 AM
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Traditionally, absolutely. To be completely honest, I was there myself. Fyi, I grew up in a very traditional setting. I think men and women who were raised or grew up around that kind of social norms still could be like that most likely. Once I moved out into a big city, I have started to adjust.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 12:06 AM
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Okay, I do not have large breasts at all. I have read the comments to see if there’s anything I know that I could add. I think they have said everything I know. Long story short, this small breasted woman is not in any way jealous of large breasted women. Having large breasts definitely is not like having a large penis. Reasonably large could be fun, sure. But large large? Noooooooo. Their back problems are real.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 08:30 PM
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I think I love others for my own heart. It is for my own self fulfillment. Maybe some could say it is unconditional love, but I think I do it for myself than others. There, I question whether it is actually unconditional or not, since I get something in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:14 PM
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I know my solution definitely isn't for everyone, but my boyfriend and I can be pretty self-sufficient when it comes to sex. I really do believe the "in sickness and in health" part. Once you love someone enough, it just becomes natural. If you don't, probably not. Even if it costs you money, time and effort, you could still want to be with that person because he still makes you happy. If he could no longer talk, it would probably eat me alive. I would feel bad if it happened to me, but if it ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 05:46 PM
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Met my boyfriend on OKC. We feel that we are lucky to have found each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 04:57 PM
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How young are we talking? I wanted to become the head of the executive branch when I was in grade 1. I wanted to become a fund manager by the time I was in grade 5. Never got into politics, but I did work in finance for a bit. I guess I still do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 04:55 PM
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Well, that’s why I am saying what I am saying. He has access to these women who are trying to tell him what we are like individually and what most women are like. We see that men are having difficulties and we are trying to help. I never said wanting STR was bad. Giving off the vibes of wanting STR might not be the most effective strategy. Read my last comment again. “Study” them however you might best learn from them. I would ask questions and observe to start.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 04:06 PM
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I think humans got dumber emotionally with technology. I don’t get why less people are valuing companionship. It seems to me that they are wanting very different things now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:34 PM
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I am not assuming that he is not interesting. His mindset that he may not want to be interesting is concerning. He needs to understand the value in that. I think studying lasting relationships is way more beneficial however. I somehow think some men could have it easier shooting for LTR than STR. It could fall apart, yes, but giving off the vibes of wanting a STR is not a good idea imo. Not studying what could result in one’s success because it might lead one to want it more is a weak excuse. Fo…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 03:31 PM
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Oh dear. Being bored out of one’s mind with someone is definitely what we want in a relationship, right? Get real OP. You have to do SOMETHING with your future partner. You don’t need to be interesting to everyone. I read academic journals, research papers and articles with my boyfriend and we have a blast. I know we might look like weirdos in other people’s eyes, but our interests align. That’s the important part. About operating under a scarcity mindset part, I do see what you see. The ones wh…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 03:05 PM
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Why would you not want to be interesting? My boyfriend who I consider to be a quality man would consider that kind of women so boring. He turned down so many women for being boring. If you want to do well yourself, have some standards. Let me tell you, just wanting to get “any woman” is not the answer. No woman wants to be just anyone. She wants to be wanted for certain traits. Preferably for the traits she has worked for and is proud about.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 02:39 PM
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I believe you. If you look at the stats, men getting abused by women is not uncommon. stats I agree that what we see on the media is distorted. I think it is often the influence of the media and what has been more socially acceptable and expected of men have not been helping the male gender at all. We really do need to aim for equality on all matters. We need to listen to male victims/survivors just as much as we listen to the female ones.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/22 02:05 PM
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My boyfriend actually does cry in front of me. 🤷🏻‍♀️ He cries for me too. And no, I didn’t lose attraction. But like I’ve said, I don’t speak for all women or all couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:15 PM
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Well, I don’t think it is a necessarily a common thing. I was a Domme in the BDSM scene for a good while. When I look at the ratio of actual (not posers) male Dominants and female Dominants, I think certain traits are more common for one gender than the other. Tbh, actual female Dominants are quite rare. I think men often being the protector historically might have something to do with it, as well as what has been considered socially acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 04:54 AM
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Well, the thing is, I felt so left out when my ex was going through the pain. Yes, it was very selfish of me to feel that way, but I felt what I felt. I want to be a part of my partner’s life, you know? Now that I think about it, I did experience the same thing with my ex. Ghosting when stressed, back when not. Even I acted in the same way when I didn’t know how to let my emotions out. Wow. 😦 Nice observation. I have read your other comment. I am happy you have a more open boyfriend now. I do to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:33 AM
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Once enough involuntary eliminations take place, there will be some kind of change, like change in mentality. There will be less and less of involuntarily eliminated due to whatever shift there is. The ones who are not eliminated will carry on. I don't think I need to explain further. I am only going around in circles at this point to explain one idea. I almost think you are trolling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 02:46 AM
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Regardless, the involuntarily eliminated are involuntarily eliminated. Them disappearing is the whole point of my comments. Who else gets eliminated is not the point. The involuntarily eliminated getting eliminated is the end of the transition.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 02:30 AM
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The ones who are dumb enough to not be able to have an offspring are less likely to survive. That's my point. The other ones are left out cause they are voluntary. I am talking about involuntary elimination.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 02:09 AM
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Exactly. If one is so dumb that one becomes a volcel (unknowingly), that's being dumb enough to not be able to have an offspring. Incels are the collateral damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:54 AM
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I think women around me are very much like me. But I also believe we end up hanging out with people with similar values. I can't speak for most women, but women around me are certainly more like me. I just go around telling people that I am a millennial online (which I am). Not the youngest of the millennial, but not the oldest of millennials either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:59 AM
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I am the complete opposite. On my OLD profile, I specifically said, I am looking for men who can be emotionally vulnerable around me. Being able to be vulnerable around each other is what companionship is about to me. What's the point of even growing old together if you can't be there for one another? I was so sad with how my ex dealt with his father's death. He basically showed 0 emotion to me. I could see that he was in pain. I was in pain, partly because I couldn't do anything. As selfish as …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:44 AM
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If you are wishy washy with your own opinions, yes. True strength is when you have your own and possibly enjoy debating for your opinions. (and accept when you've been wrong) If you want a partnership with a woman, and want to consider her your best friend, having challenging and exciting conversations with her is never a bad thing. My boyfriend and I have a blast talking politics and discussing current affairs. Neither of us are okay with boring partners. It is about the dynamics you want with …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:10 PM
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I know of those statistics, but we cannot prove anything with those stats. It might be because the highly educated are choosing to not have children or as many children. It might be because they prefer planned parenthood. It might be because they just might not want to pursue having a family at all. The intelligence you speak of often help people spot logical fallacies. In a changing climate such as this one, being able to do so could help one adapt. Since you brought up Newton, Issac Newton was…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 08:55 PM
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I would think he lives under a rock Some people are really like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:16 PM
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Oh dear.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:13 PM
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I think it really depends. Sometimes, confidence shows more and sometimes it doesn't. I think it has a lot to do with how extroverted or introverted one is. With extroverted people who are confident, it tends to show more. Due to my extroverted personality, I think it could have influenced certain types to be more attracted to me. However, I believe having enough self esteem is essential for happiness in general, and could lead to healthier relationships in general. I think happy people tend to …
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 07:06 PM
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Time, perhaps. Emotional energy, for sure. Not too sure about 80% though. I’d have to think about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:07 PM
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Other than being a virgin, nothing is really that concerning. You being a virgin might not even be concerning to some others. Like if you are religious, just find a girl that is religious. I grew up in a small Christian town, and I don’t see it as being necessarily strange. Hope you have been in relationships before though. In terms of cooking and cleaning, if you don’t expect women to do it, they are not even close to being red flags. I too am the eat out, hire a maid kind of person. If you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:55 PM
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Well, I have done “Let’s see where this goes” kind of thing, but I am quite honest with what I’m feeling. Thankfully, I’ve been in relationships most of my adulthood, so no sane guy friend of mine took our friendship for something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:20 PM
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“But look at them!” isn’t the best mentality. Dating apps are merely a tool. Most if not all of them weren’t designed for success. I say this as a physically attractive woman.
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 06:01 AM
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No, it is not just money and status. They can be important to some, but not all. The ones who will chase money and status are often the ones who are lacking in those things. It is very easy for women who are independent, have a lifestyle they want and have a bit extra left over to realize money and status aren't everything. Even if one doesn't have a bit extra left over, if one is happy, one knows money isn't everything. When you have enough, it is enough. When it comes to physical traits, they …
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 04:42 AM
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I am not very informed on what RP is about. I have only been looking into it for about a week or so. The general impression being an outsider of this matter, I think RP is based on the assumption that there is very little genuine goodness and love in the world, and everyone is pretty much exploitative of each other. I think stepping away from that mentality most likely makes one a exredpiller (possibly).
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 04:19 AM
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What happened in the past is in the past. If someone doesn’t want to do certain things now, that should be up to the person. If a person’s decision makes the other person unhappy and ultimately question the relationship, the relationship doesn’t have to be pursued further. I agree that lying to the fiancé is wrong, and is a reason to get mad over. Her past decisions shouldn’t be a reason for her to make the same decisions again though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:52 AM
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I am not single anymore, but I had a brief singlehood in 2020. This is what I was looking for. Til death do us part 1 child (I don't think we need more humans. I am being selfish with my own desire) Marriage is a complicated thing that involves the whole family in my culture, and my family is extremely judgemental. I don't know if I want to put my S.O. (significant other) through it. I'd consider it once more judgemental family members are more anxious to see me get married. Cohabitation is a bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:56 PM
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The ones you are describing should then be labeled naive guys. I consider my parents to be fairly progressive, but my dad had always told me “being fat will get you nowhere” and my mom has always told me “pretty girls have it easier”. What matters more in the world is generally not niceness, but success. Only when one is successful, everything else starts to matter. The unfortunate fact is that immature women often see asshole-like behaviours to signal success. It is not the asshole-like behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:02 PM
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Let me be more clear. The women and men who are unable to adapt to the changing climate will get eliminated along with the collateral damage. The ones who are dumb enough to not be able to have an offspring are less likely to survive the natural selection. I see it as a test of intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 07:08 PM
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The women and men who are dumb enough to not be able to have an offspring could also be natural selection, no? I would say it is also the matter of intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:45 PM
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No. I would do it for a friend, but not a stranger. The most I'd do is give advice on dating profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:26 PM
2

I consider value as something that is more perceived and is often very hard to quantify. Having more quality options is the ultimate indicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:22 PM
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I think we ultimately have to wait it out and wait for our evolution and mentality to catch up with rather sudden societal changes. In countries where women still have limited access to financial resources, men's wealth still determines his value. Now that men's resources aren't absolutely necessary in first world countries, women go, "what else do you bring to the table". It seems to me that once women don't have to worry about resources, women start to choose like men in terms of appearance. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:15 PM
1

Hmmm so I consider sugar dating to be more like, the sugar daddy has no interest in taking the sugar baby seriously. The sugar baby is perfectly content with the arrangement. I have heard there are certain schools with very high number of sugar babies. Sugar Baby Universities (Canada) If you look at UofT, and compare it to their demographics, you get 1%. Mount Royal University has 2%. (If you assume everyone has a profile up then takes down the profile once done with the lifestyle) The culture o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:36 PM
1

6 figures can’t be low 6 figures from what I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:08 PM
2

I was told by a doctor that with such surgery, your legs would not be as strong and you could be dealing with weak legs and leg pain from very early on.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:24 PM
2

Collar bones for some weird reason. Mine are very defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:37 PM
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I like to think that they are a small minority. Keeping my fingers crossed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:24 PM
1

I think reprogramming is possible. Women have only started to earn enough to sustain themselves quite recently (comparing it to human evolution). My mom surprised me when she said it is acceptable for me to date an unemployed guy, and that she'd be fine with it. In countries where females still have little access to money, mate value of males is still significantly determined by amount of resources. I gifted moisturizer to my boyfriend, told him to stop frowning cause he'd end up with frown line…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:22 PM
2

I am a woman who doesn't cook and hates general housework. My boyfriend loves to cook and can't stand the way I do housework. I put everything into the laundry at the same time, while he divides everything up by colour, fabric, etc. I even put silk into the dryer. He is simply horrified by the way I do my laundry. Because I hate doing more traditional tasks, I am well aware of how much work they can be, how much value someone doing the tasks well brings. You are completely right that your value …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 11:47 AM
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That won't ever happen. I come here to be entertained by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 11:36 AM
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If women who give no value rely on men's income, there's no reason to condone that. As an individual, you can choose to be with someone who brings appropriate value to the table. I don't believe relationships are a charity for most people. Most only agree to a relationship if there's something to be gained.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 11:31 AM
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I don’t get why more women are more physically attractive to more men while men aren’t as attractive to more women. This could be why ​ I guess if the higher tier guys raised their standards and stopped going for the lower percentile women and gave them the same scorn as the higher percentile women give lower tier men the dating landscape might change. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 11:10 AM
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To people who think it is leech mentality, people who are perfectly capable can have different priorities. Sure, there are many many leeches, but I really do hope people don't reduce SAHP to leeches. That's insulting to people who gave up their careers for their children. Many have and many do. All of the women related to me by blood except for my dad's side grandmother (normal in her generation) have had their own careers at one point in their lives. All but except one have quit to be with thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 10:31 AM
1

I just think my child will benefit from me being around even with a nanny. I have very specific ways that I want to raise my own child, and I would prefer to be home to do that. My ivy league-equivalent educated mom was forced by my dad's family to quit her well paying job. My dad had always wanted to split his income 50-50 if there was to be a divorce. (He believed housework was hard work, and raising his daughter was the most important job of all, no matter what he did to make money) Then he t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:54 AM
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I think gold diggers are generally looked down upon. When there isn't an evident financial benefit from a relationship, I don't necessarily think people are against it. When someone dates out of the person's socially perceived "league", especially up, I would assume that the person has brought something to the table to convince the other person to do so. I don't think dating is like charity for most people. "Oh dayum" isn't my reaction, but I just think there could be more than what meets the ey…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:53 PM
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Oh yeah. Women from poor countries are "outsourced". It is all quite crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:18 PM
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I think teaching people to not value something they already value is a much more difficult task than giving them something else to value. What I've been thinking is showing people different cases of both failed marriages and successful ones from fairly young age. I think people often fail to seek compatibility. I am a person who believes many should be so much more selective than they already are, just in a different way. I think the superficial standards will always be present, but if compatibi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:31 PM
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No. What a waste of my time. Even having the desire to do that to boost my ego would hurt my ego. If someone did that, she has issues. If you come across one and want to be kind to her, tell her to get a therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:50 PM
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Yes, I was considering the best case scenario. It is just that I am not quite convinced it would lessen the need for human companionship. In the back of your mind, you would always know that the AI is not a real human. It would make me feel lonely, every time I realized that. Some others might not mind at all. We'd never know until it really happens though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:17 PM
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While I think it is a good idea for the men, I also think it would be a great idea for women too. I had realized last night that I was judging one woman much more generously than my boyfriend when we were looking at OLD profiles posted on Reddit last night. We are in a relationship, and we weren't seeing things eye to eye. If women knew how they looked in the men's eyes as much as men knew how they looked in the women's eyes, it would really help the dating scene. Btw, the issue with us was that…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:10 PM
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This is a totally dystopian way to go about things, but there are certain Asian countries that killed females in the mother's womb. That resulted in many males choosing to outsource their mates from abroad. Considering that, if we killed enough male babies in the womb, or just chose females babies using IVF, I guess it could be a possibility. Would I support it? No. If one could be happy with a bought companionship, by all means, go ahead. I am a woman and I am not necessarily against people mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:52 PM
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Oh, the only thing that could be similar to an adult ADHD symptom is my desire to be kept entertained with more data or thought. Other than that, I have the complete opposite traits of adult ADHD symptoms to the point that some people complain about the extremity of my traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:43 PM
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Perhaps, but I am not embarrassed by it or care much about how others perceive me. I was the kid that slept at school but was the top of my class even after skipping a few grades. When the flow of information is too slow, it is too slow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:52 PM
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6 minutes of my time to watch him talk when the same information could be easily be digested in less than 30 seconds in text form seemed like too much. It can get boring when the flow of information is too slow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:04 PM
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I don’t know about the statistics… I might be mistaken, since I have not watched the whole thing, but it seems to me that every sexual assault was interpreted to have been done by a different person in Part 1. It could be that multiple sexual assaults have been done by a single person, which would lower the ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:56 PM
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When I’m walking alone at night, I could even get scared by a woman approaching me. I am an extremely small person, and sex trafficking is scary in my area. I don’t think I am being crazy for being more cautious at certain times. If risk to my safety is reasonably not a concern, someone simply approaching me would not scare me. The person’s actions or speech could though. But that’s just me. When my boyfriend and I were eating together at a salad bar, an old gentleman approached us to ask for di…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:42 PM
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Well I also think media could have had something to do with it. I was reading about how East Asian men were starting to do better due to BTS. When you think about it, BTS hasn’t been that huge until quite recently. I don’t think they have very strong masculine features. Yet, we have younger girls who think they are attractive. I do think media plays a huge role in changing the social norms and human perspective. Media could be another factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:04 AM
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How much this applies to the western world, probably not too well, but this is something I dug up. So this is how one of the matchmaking sites (not OLD) in Korea determines mate value of an individual. For a male, out of 100, 30 points are allocated to occupation, 25 points to education, 20 points to family (social status of the family), 20 points to wealth and 5 points to appearance. For a female, out of 100, 40 points are allocated to appearance, 20 points to family, 20 to occupation, 10 point…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 11:29 PM
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I think those would attract different groups to begin with. I attract people who can stomach me. I know I have not answered your question. If we are talking about just the total number of girls, possibly. Winners are winners regardless. Apparently, there are common traits many of the winners possess. When some of those common traits are displayed often through bad behaviour(probably because it is the most noticeable), they can successfully fool quite a few women according to David Buss. Also acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:22 PM
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I agree. I think assholes who are successful in getting decent girls are actually the guys who can afford to be assholes and still win. For example, I am not exactly the most pleasant person, or the most well rounded person. There's people who are still willing to put up with me, because I bring some kind of other value to the table. My dad was anything but pleasant. He still had people willing to put up with him, because he brought his own value to the table. But... Hopefully, you are still nic…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:45 PM
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Many newer people undermine SSC these days. So... There was a newer "Dom" who even told a respectable Dom that he wants the old Doms to die off sooner so that there won't be any rules anymore, and that the enforcement of the rules is bad for inclusivity. There's just this lack in the sense of responsibility when there is power exchange. "Let us have our fun" seem to be the general consensus among the newer people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:46 PM
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Oh dear. Today's BDSM scene is a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:25 PM
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Everyone who has the ability to get more than a single person is a selector. The person could be fat, have high n-count, old, poor, dumb, ill and every one of the less desired traits. “No, not those people” is already a selective statement. It is true that not everyone is a selector, but more people are selectors than we realize most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:06 PM
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My opinion won't change on cheating being wrong. Feel free to justify it for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:18 AM
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Cheating under any circumstance is unacceptable in a healthy relationship. Break it off if one is that unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 03:58 AM
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I am not talking about whether something is more justified than the other. I am simply pointing out the fact that if they cannot agree with each other on this issue, there's no future. People are not always reasonable, and that's human. They have to really agree on this matter no matter how unreasonable someone might be acting. They have to be okay with whatever arrangement they come up with. No relationship is a healthy relationship when there's such sneaking around. By him not having to unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:05 AM
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No worries. My boyfriend does say I can be dark and cold at times. Lol
/r/ExRedPill11/04/22 12:04 AM
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Oh, I am not talking about walking out of a happy relationship. I am talking about people who can be influenced to suddenly become unsatisfied with their relationship, and the possibility of that happening. I do not think it is smart nor mature. What you've described is very much like Little Prince's Chapter 21, the fox chapter. People who realize the value of such deep connection and intimacy are the people that manage to have a lifelong loving, happy relationship. Unfortunately, not everyone h…
/r/ExRedPill10/04/22 11:36 PM
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Maybe it is an assessment of the statistics that men with certain characteristics do far better in the dating market. Whether the assessment is fair or not, I will not get into. You must be surrounded by women who are more than willing to pull their weight financially, are rather independent, and possibly not mind marrying down financially. Women like that seem to still be in the minority. It is quite natural to end up with likeminded people. To be frank, we don't exactly know how others think, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 11:27 PM
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Apparently, my boyfriend wanted to get to know me because I didn't seem "meek". People do want different things. I know for sure I am an acquired taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 11:01 PM
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I do get you, and I believe love is real. The thing is, people can suddenly be unsatisfied with what they already have. Not as nice man without money to a nicer man with money is a very possible switch. A nice man without money to a nice man with money is much less likely, as long as there is love in the relationship.
/r/ExRedPill10/04/22 10:54 PM
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What I'm saying is that, if she insists on waiting, while he doesn't want to, she is going to let him go. I know what you mean, but ultimately, it is going to be the couple who make this call. The guy doesn't have to understand anything, virgin or not. He could be more inclined to, but still he doesn't have to. She could choose to not wait a full year, but she could stick to the 1 year wait period. No matter what the circumstances are, if they cannot reach an agreement, the relationship is done.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:10 PM
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It can be all very confusing. I'm a millennial from a small town, and I had to learn the new lingo. So... I think by "date", they often mean "go out on dates with" which I see as "spend time with". Like you've said, it could be seen as a friend phase. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, but when I say, "I am dating Tom", it most likely means that I am in an exclusive relationship with Tom. When I say, "I have gone out on dates with Tom", it means that I went out with him, and does not imply …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:56 PM
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No, it should always be about what the couple agree upon. If they cannot reach an agreement, too bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:35 PM
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I get you. When I was on OLD, I only talked to two people at once, although even two might look like one too many to you. My stance on it was, while I could always choose to drop and pursue other people, but while I'm talking to these two, I'll give these potential relationships the best chance they have. I didn't want to divide up my attention too much. I didn't expect others to do the same though, since my perception was that I was only getting to know them better, while letting them know what…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:31 PM
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I think the issue often is that nowadays relationships are pursued with people that weren't a part of your life before. Before, people usually dated within their own social circle. The first few "dates" with a stranger could be seen as a getting-to-know phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:22 PM
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I had been in a relationship with a CEO/President of a multinational corporation. He clearly was way more successful than me. Long story short, no. I would never choose him over my current boyfriend who doesn't even make 5% of what my ex makes. Women who can afford their desired lifestyles, and have a bit extra know money isn't everything. Money alone most likely won't make a reasonable woman switch partners. If the rich man acquires other important qualities (especially in the personality depar…
/r/ExRedPill10/04/22 06:09 PM
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According to David Buss, “more than 90 percent of men are able to find a mate at some point in their lives.” So while it is true that some men are never able to find a mate, a great majority are able to. As an individual, you just want to avoid being at the very undesirable bottom if your goal is to just find a mate. So a person is never all or nothing. Most reasonable people realize that. Your overall value will be determined by each individual differently, and all of your traits will most like…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 04:05 PM
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I grew up in a small Christian town. Sexual abstinence was what the kids were taught to practice until marriage regardless of gender. Coming from that background, I now live in a big city. What’s important to me is what the couple agree upon. No one should be going around the other person’s back. That’s not a healthy relationship to me. It someone wants to wait, by all means, wait. But do it with someone who is going to willingly wait with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 03:15 PM
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Oh dear. You did not just bring up oppression of homosexuals to justify your point. Society seems to be moving in the directions of respecting individual choice. “Who are we to dictate who they love and marry” is the progressive mindset many have. The issues we see in the dating market are largely due to having individual choice. Homosexuals fought to have their individual choice, while the bitter often cry about others having individual choice. I happen to be a POC. Are the cards stacked agains…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 02:28 PM
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Well you know how you end up hanging out with people with similar beliefs and values. Most of my girl friends are similar in this sense. Thank you. He passed away two weeks ago. He was an insightful man who loved me dearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 03:40 AM
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Oh yeah, one funny thing. I am so similar to my boyfriend's lifelong best friend. My boyfriend says he managed to find a female version of his best friend. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 03:36 AM
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In terms of level of desirability, for sure. On a superficial level, I think my boyfriend and I are pretty similar. But I like to have complementary traits, and not exactly the same traits as mine. We can cover for each other's weaknesses that way. That too is part of compatibility I seek. For example, my boyfriend is socially awkward, but I am not, so I often do the talking and socializing for both of us. I am perfectly fine with him being socially awkward, and I do not take any points off for …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 03:27 AM
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One thing about rape in Korea... Victims often don't report because 1. the criminal often does not get unpunished (first sex crime offence is often a warning) 2. the victims are looked down upon and her value in the marriage market goes down as word gets out 3. even the judges in Korea often victim blame. The underreporting is quite severe, and the number may differ depending on who conducted the study, but the percentage of sex crimes that are reported range from 8% to 15%. That's pretty horrib…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 11:52 PM
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Eh there will always be people who are simply bitter. We can’t force them to grow up and accept reality. Sure, the world could be a better place, but it isn’t. They have to learn to live in it themselves. This must be news to them, but the world will never revolve around them. If they never manage to learn that the world is the way it is, they will only continue to complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 09:43 PM
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Traditional Japanese and Korean cuisine is amazing. When it comes to Japanese food, I don't mean just sushi. I don't know about music. I guess British?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:50 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:44 PM
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When I did, all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:29 PM
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Before I go into things, I only approve of being approached with mutual understanding that there is great uncertainty, and what is being pursued is interaction and not a relationship. What I mean by that is, I want the mindset to be "Let's get to know each other without any expectations." The time when I really enjoyed being approached was when I was at an art exhibition, and a guy approached me to talk about the piece that I was admiring for a very long time. We talked about art, some other thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:26 PM
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I do. But it might be due to how I was raised. My dad had always told me that the guy’s money isn’t my money. I do believe in paying my fair share.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:41 PM
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My ex works in cosmetics industry, and my current boyfriend works in fashion. They have female friends. It is fair to assume that they both have access to many attractive women. Personally, I feel that it is about how confident I am about the relationship itself. It is the job of the couple to make the relationship feel as secure as possible. I think if you only feel secure when the other person isn't doing x or y with the other sex, that's just a sign of insecurity. I will choose to drop the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 06:01 AM
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I am wondering what you mean exactly by an authority figure. If two consenting adults have decided together that a certain decision making process (i.e., having the more decisive one decide) is more efficient, would that still be considered a wrong case of an authority figure?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:40 AM
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