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Weird that you ignored the other paragraph they wrote before that one
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:59 AM
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I am 36. I was 8 years old in 1998 I'm not sure OP bothered to do their own math before posting tbh. They seem to have no idea that millenials did grow up/date with the internet, and what makes a good relationship is way more than that anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:34 PM
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old (35+) LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:25 PM
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I focused on economic disparity because I think it's the factor that would affect genuine desire the most, since my comment was a response to OP's post. I didn't say the only reason someone would travel to date is money. It's common for passport bros to go to countries where women have a financial incentive to be with them, and if you are dating for genuine desire, that's going to make it hard. isolating one variable to make a broader point This is a debate post and I took a position, so did OP.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:29 PM
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Being attracted to them because they are exotic is fetishizing them. It isn't a good thing if you want a relationship with genuine desire, because as soon as you get comfortable and they stop seeing you as new and different, any attraction based on how exotic you are is gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:15 AM
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Because it's common for passport bros to go to poorer countries where the women have a financial incentive to be with them. Even without that, is thinking you're "exotic" genuine desire? If you want someone who likes you for you, a relationship based on fetishization doesn't sound ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:22 PM
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That logically does not make sense. If you wanted genuine desire, you would not go to a disadvantaged country where the women have an incentive to marry you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:58 PM
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Loaded question
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:38 PM
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I think perception is a pretty big factor in that. I could see one of my traits as a strength and someone else could see it as average or nonexistent
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 08:02 AM
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Well if it's not that or the context I'm at a loss lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 06:52 AM
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Is it a bad thing to have self-esteem?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:54 AM
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Probably how you said it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:51 AM
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I'm expecting this to get completely ignored since nobody can use it to argue lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:48 AM
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Who's they? Not even one of the 4 billion men on earth is normal? Crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:24 AM
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God the wiping counters off lol. Ex of mine said he didn't know how to use a can opener. Crazy how an adult with a steady job and no mental deficiencies couldn't figure out how to open a single can of food, I hope he hasn't starved 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:52 PM
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Marriage is a big commitment and ties you to someone legally and financially. Living with them beforehand allows you to see if you are truly compatible with them when they're not on their best behavior before you make a potentially life-altering decision. If you move in together and they're not the person you thought they were, you can just break up instead of going through the whole divorce process. I do think you can marry someone and be happy without having lived with them beforehand, but it …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:07 AM
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The internet is good for being aware of different viewpoints, but not for forming your own. Too many bots, bad-faith users, view farmers (both content creators and news outlets), and just straight up liars. I'll take my real life anecdotal evidence over a reddit post any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 12:33 AM
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True af
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:59 PM
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There is no one size fits all punishment. Some cases will naturally have caused more harm than others, and some cases will have more evidence than others. Innocent until proven guilty is all that's standing between you and life in jail for a crime you didn't commit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:57 PM
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Well when we're discussing what should be the legal punishment for the legal definition of fraud by the legal system, the legal definition is the only one that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:54 PM
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I treat my partner differently compared to others. I treat men and women in my life differently in social settings depending on context and closeness. If you think you don't get passes for certain things because you're a man the exact same way women do, you are dead wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:21 PM
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Now you know this isn't true 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:46 PM
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Transition then?? I see so many of these posts but it's 2026 you can do whatever you want modern medicine is amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:45 PM
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I wrote an entire comment. Read that instead of "suspecting" shit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 02:31 PM
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You should be asking my height since the question is literally about me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:58 PM
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I don't think they care, and as long as the woman is consciously choosing that dynamic without being forced then I don't care either. Also why mention a study and offer to link it but not actually link it...?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:29 AM
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Well, my view is based on my experiences too, so who am I to say they're wrong. But even if they're right, with so many people in the world, there have to be plenty of exceptions. I don't see the point in believing the worst in people when they could prove you wrong at any moment. It's exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:17 AM
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I'm not saying this isn't your experience or that an attractive person wouldn't get more matches on a dating app. I think that blackpill views where nothing else matters and everything you do is pointless if you aren't attractive aren't a good way to deal with it, because 1) in reality there are other factors in dating and 2) it places your value as a human on how attractive you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:09 AM
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Reality is often depressing, but blackpill to me seems to not care for improvement or acknowledge that the world can also be good sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:03 AM
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Because it's an unhealthy mindset and it makes society worse. Generally, I consider people who subscribe to those views to be mentally unwell (not an insult) because they're overwhelmingly negative compared to reality and they hurt whoever holds them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:21 PM
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I thought we said no AI posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 08:36 PM
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I want to start off by clarifying that I criticize men for their approach to dating, not their success. Anyway, I think I'd be like my bf if I was a man, since he's the guy who is most similar to me. He treats women well and is successful in dating when he wants to be (he dates for compatibility and doesn't waste his time). I have good male role models and the men in my family are generally successful. Would I be happier as a man? Probably be the same as I am now, just lonelier due to less emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 06:46 PM
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You need a flair
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:15 AM
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I think she's saying that regardless of gender or belief system, if you don't want to be wrong then nothing will ever change your mind, not even hard proof
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 02:01 AM
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Well, I hope to, but I can't really control that. If something positive comes from what I said, it's because someone else chose to grow/change and I just happened to be in the right place at the right time. It was gonna happen with or without me. So... I don't know. Maybe. I like to think I'm reasonable and morally good, but really I'm just like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:53 AM
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Starting with OP
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:02 PM
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You made an entire post to insult people, and you still think you're somehow better than everyone else? It's not a crime to be lonely or sad. Leave the sub if it bothers you, it is genuinely not that big of a deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:56 PM
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I can have mood swings all I want but if I go to walmart and beat up the cashier I'm still gonna get arrested, period or no
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:41 AM
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Speaking of graveyard shifts, night work is really hard on your body in general. When you're exhausted, sometimes you physically can't have sex even if you want to. The way some people talk about this online makes me wonder how they function when they don't have time for sex. Because eventually something will disrupt your life, and if your relationship can't handle a single month without sex, what the fuck is the point of being together?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:32 AM
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I wasn't arguing. I just posted the actual source because I don't think tweets are trustworthy. Even in your latest example, as individuals, men spend more time on work/work related activities Yes, and women spend more time on housework/care. The difference between men and women on time spent working vs time spent doing housework/care ends up pretty much equaling out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:17 AM
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Oh jeez! Sorry for linking the actual source instead of a tweet! I'll do that next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:33 PM
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...the graph you linked was made using the same ATUS data as what's in my comment. It says so right in the bottom left of the picture. If you think what I linked is irrelevant, you should have an issue with the person who posted the graph misrepresenting data to fit their argument. Edit: your graph is also not 2026 data, it is one year behind the 2025 data I linked
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:27 PM
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From the ATUS data on bls.gov: Here is a table showing avg time spent by married men/women, 2015-2019. Link to all tables going back to 2003. Interactive chart for time spent by gender and employment, 2025.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:19 PM
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From the ATUS data on bls.gov: Here is a table showing avg time spent by married men/women, 2015-2019. Link to all tables going back to 2003. Interactive chart for time spent by gender and employment, 2025.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:19 PM
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I didn't interpret their comment this way at all
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 06:14 PM
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Idk OP, this kinda destroys your argument. One guy's relationship ended, but this other couple is clearly in love. What am I supposed to think now??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:26 AM
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Yes! I had the implant for a while and couldn't keep it because of a rare side effect, but if it wasn't for that I think I would've liked it. I actually lost weight when I went from the pill to the implant. Replacement definitely doesn't sound fun though 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:18 PM
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Yeah, you just described men perfectly! (/s please I'm joking) I wish everyone on this subreddit would get this through their thick skulls.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:45 PM
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Neither are better. The only reason some people are okay with one and not the other is that they are only targeted by one. Keep going back and forth and you just feel relieved when the spotlight isn't on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:42 PM
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What career would you have if you were a woman? Genuine question and I am not going to debate your answer, only curious
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:07 PM
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Hormonal IUD 😎 Everyone reacts differently to HBC but it paused mine. The only downside for me is that the insertion hurt and you don't get any numbing or pain meds, only ibuprofen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:03 PM
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What do you mean by genetically strong? Attractive, healthy, prominent secondary sex characteristics?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:01 PM
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They said a lot more than that, but I'm not for the insults so I'm gonna call it here
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:31 PM
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What's a food you don't like? There are 8 billion people on earth. I'm sure we can sit you down with someone new every meal so you can have that food for the rest of your life. After all, those previous meals were with a different person, so you don't really know if you dislike it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:26 PM
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I'd consider inexperience a yellow flag. Most people need romantic relationships to learn certain lessons imo, but I do think it's possible to learn those lessons outside of them if you are introspective, aware of viewpoints other than your own, and you have close non-romantic relationships in your life (ideally both men and women). Inexperience can also affect your confidence/self-esteem. You don't have to be fearless but you shouldn't let yourself be embarrassed about what you want, you know? …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:10 PM
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...So what exactly are you arguing for here? Nothing? God, I'd hate to hear what y'all think about intrusive thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:44 PM
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Every single behavior you described is also something women do. Yes, some men cheat or are criminals. Some women are like that too. But to use the worst people as an example of the entire gender just doesn't make sense when you think about how many people you're lumping together. Put 4 billion people in a room together and they're bound to disagree on something.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:42 PM
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So? The whole thing about humans is that we have a conscience and advanced reasoning. The worst humans are the ones who act as slaves to whatever biological urges or emotions they happen to have. Most people are better than that, which is why we've come so far as a species.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:27 PM
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I think you're describing the worst type of man here, not the average man at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:31 PM
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I'm tired of being asked to prove that I have empathy/sympathy for others. What I do doesn't matter because there will always be a different woman whose actions validate your worldview. Of course some women are mean, we make up 50% of humanity. Look for empathy/sympathy being shown in the world around you (not just from one person) and you'll see it if you really want to. If not, I wasn't changing your mind anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:13 PM
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In a modern society where people can choose when they want to have kids, it's because of culture and gender roles. Take away societal expectations and judgement for breaking them, and you'll have women pursuing men the same way men pursue women. You can see this in the way women and men are relaxing about assuming each other's "traditional" roles. There are lots of ways we as a society ignore biology to make life more convenient. Glasses, for example. I don't see why this is the one thing we'd g…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:43 PM
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"Someone else's bare minimum is different from my bare minimum" Gasp, shock, the horror.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:08 AM
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People have the right to do whatever the fuck they want
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:38 AM
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Makeup is pretty hard to get right and takes a lot of time and effort to learn, even with the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 08:55 PM
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Oof, the grooming and makeup is a good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:50 PM
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If being smart or rich are innate traits in men, why are there so many dumb/poor men and smart/rich women? Wouldn't it make more sense for your financial status to be a product of your upbringing and career?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:40 PM
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What defines success? If it's just getting a partner in any way, I think they'd be the same or better. If it's getting a compatible long-term partner, I think they would be worse or potentially the same, depending on the man. It's a hard question because on one hand, men have seen other men behave in ways women haven't, so they recognize some problem behaviors more easily. On the other hand, men do not see these behaviors in a romantic context like women do. I also think one major thing a straig…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:29 PM
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since the day we were first separated by gender during the 4th grade sex ed talk at school I don't see how this is related to your larger point
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 12:29 AM
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Yeah, with the people I'm around I don't doubt I could've found someone who wanted me to stay at home or something, but I wouldn't be happy with that life. I'm from a long line of stubborn women and independence is in my nature. My guy provides for me when I need it, he still buys me flowers and takes my car to get serviced, I just like being able to take care of him too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 12:08 AM
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I already have this relationship and I'm going to marry him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:02 AM
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As of today, 13 military men and women have died during Operation Epic Fury (Iran). https://dcas.dmdc.osd.mil/dcas/app/conflictCasualties/oefu/deaths
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:02 AM
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If we're blaming the providers, shouldn't we be blaming the companies/porn sites then? They do more providing than a porn star ever will
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 07:15 PM
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You're talking to one person right now, not all the women you've ever met. I don't know where in this conversation you got the idea that I'm opposing myself. To be honest, your question is confusing. If you're asking whether a male rape victim should pay child support, my answer is no
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:39 AM
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So why did you post about how the statement "drunk women can't consent" infantilizes women instead of just posting that we don't take male victims seriously enough? You'd have been right, but instead you're here taking the position that drunk women actually can consent, so it isn't assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:34 AM
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That's for the law to decide, not me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:29 AM
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The career driven and successful women I know don't want a financial provider and are fine with contributing to a relationship as long as they're not being taken advantage of. And while there are always exceptions, I think it's hard to get to that point as a woman while still expecting others to provide for you, since your career will demand that you provide for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:21 AM
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If you agree with this, then why tf are you trying to minimize women's issues instead of actually talking about men's issues? Disclaimer: I have NEVER heard the "drinking = no consent" argument used only for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:59 AM
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As long as you aren't hating on people who do have casual sex that's fine by me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:30 PM
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I agree, but a lot of people think that anyway, whether it makes sense or not. Even if you don't care what others think it can get exhausting sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:49 PM
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Women can be of high socioeconomic status. If a woman marries another woman of higher socioeconomic status, it's not "marrying up"? Hypergamy is a gender-neutral term
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:52 PM
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From reading this post, it did not seem like your mother was urging you to express your feelings, it comes across like she was making fun of you for having them. Whether that was meant to be lighthearted or not you know better than me, I don't mean to disrespect you or your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:39 PM
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Then what are you saying? Because it definitely came across that way ("marry up aka marry a man")
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:33 PM
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most women who are that deeply charmed by a man care little to none about those risks when her emotions are telling her to lock that man down Thanks, I really needed some dude to tell me how women feel about pregnancy today
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:30 PM
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Before my boyfriend (LTR) would even let me kiss him, he asked me what my intentions were and if I wanted a relationship, because he did. That was when I knew he was serious. I've seen guys respect my boundaries and show interest in my life just to drop the act later, but I'd never had a guy stop me from kissing him to have a conversation about the future lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:06 AM
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Am I correct that you're saying men are by default above women in status, and a woman dating a man is always hypergamy because of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 04:07 AM
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Okay, but it being a choice doesn't mean they're overstating the work they do. And I don't think it's automatically bad to complain about something that was a result of your actions. If my dog shits on my bed you bet I'm complaining, even if it was my choice to get a dog lol. Note, I'm not talking about cleaning after children (that's a different discussion) Why is that so different? Plenty of people choose to have kids, but they're still a lot of work. I could easily say "I don't think you need…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:30 PM
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Dude actually asked someone why human contact was so important to her, so maybe he wants women to be isolated.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:52 AM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:27 PM
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Well, let me ask you this. Why would this one experience make you wonder if all girl friend groups are shallow? What about all the other times you've seen girls acting normally toward each other? To answer your question, no, not all female friend groups are shallow. Sometimes insecure people are unhappy with themselves and take it out on others. It's not gender specific but men and women tend to express it differently and you've seen one way that girls do it. It's okay that you didn't step in, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:19 PM
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Why wouldn't you ask what men they admire? Asking because I would want to know, since that tells me a lot about what kind of person they are and what they value
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:44 PM
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Idk if that's a fair statement to make. How much you clean varies greatly based on your living situation. I have a dog that sheds so I'd want to do certain tasks more than someone without pets would, that doesn't mean I'm doing unnecessary work or overstating the work I do. I literally just need to do it more
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:42 PM
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Yes, exactly. And in a healthy relationship, both parties will communicate their standards and come to an agreement on how they'll be handled so that both will be happy and the workload is fair. Then they'll actually follow through and life will be easier for everyone. Insane how many grown ass adults insist on acting out of resentment instead of treating their partner with respect. Like the problem is right there, you both know what it is, just fix it already.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:38 PM
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If this sub even tried to find basic sources to back up arguments then almost nobody would be able to post lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:52 PM
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I see that you have evaded the main point of my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:39 PM
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Do you think there are contributing factors other than hypergamy? edit: wtf? can I not ask a question in a debate sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:03 PM
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Well don't backtrack now. You said they're half-practicing, that they have long-term boyfriends because that's who they're actually attracted to, and now you're saying they're under pressure to claim identities. Straight people can be open about attraction to one gender, but when a bi person talks about their sexuality, it's for social points? You've said bi women are lying in just about every way you can except "bi women are lying".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:56 PM
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I don't think you can speak on what lesbians/bi women consider game. You can think they have no game, but they clearly do if they're getting together easily. They don't have to act like men or care how men define "game" to date each other. Ever think that women don't have to fake laugh at other women's jokes?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:46 PM
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A bi girl with a long term bf is still bi. It's in the definition. So tired of this take that bi people aren't happy with their partners or are lying about their sexuality because they're in a LTR. You don't need to be actively fucking anyone to be attracted to them. Straight people aren't attracted to just one person in their life, yet somehow it's possible for them to be monogamous and not bi people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:20 PM
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Anyway happy pride y'all 🏳️‍🌈
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:06 AM
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I'll feel guilty for say playing video games for an hour or doing one of my more introverted hobbies for an hour...I feel constant pressure to look pretty for him and put together. And he never put that there...I always feel like I should be making sure he's happy and comfortable and feels good and isn't annoyed with me. Damn. It isn't often someone just reads my mind like this, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 02:22 AM
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It's not that it's heavy shit all the time necessarily, it's that you and your partner have to deal with responsibilities, and if you go long enough without any time to dedicate to yourself/your hobbies then you start to not feel like your own person anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 02:01 AM
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There are lots of freedoms you have while being single vs in a relationship. Like, if my bf wants to go on a trip with his friends, I expect him to run it by me first before he buys tickets and takes time off work. If I want to make a major purchase, especially if it's a for the house we both live in, he expects me to run it by him first. When you're that close to someone, almost everything you do affects them in some way. There's nothing wrong with us expecting to be in the loop, but it does me…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:39 AM
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Plenty of people have and promote conservative values without being religious. I think that's more respectable than using religion as a tool to get what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:04 PM
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Why do you think utilizing tax dollars for female-specific resources is ignoring men? The majority of things you pay for with your taxes benefit both men and women (schools, public area maintenance, food stamps, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:55 PM
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There should be a widespread effort to team up with feminists imo. I understand other people have different experiences, but I've seen a ton of feminists acknowledge that men should have access to these resources too as they're just another result of societal gender roles (that feminists already tend to be against). Since male-specific shelters etc are already progressive, I think it'd be easier if y'all just worked with the other progressives
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:53 PM
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People are louder when they disagree. Many RP dudes on this sub come off as mature and seemingly live normal, happy lives. They talk when there's a post here that specifically applies to them. But a lot of times, the crazier, less mature guys won't listen to their experience, and there's only so much you can do before it gets exhausting trying to convince someone to chill the fuck out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 06:31 PM
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Now that's one thing I never expected to be mentioned on this sub 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 01:04 AM
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Y'all up and down this thread saying to do the test behind your partner's back... I hope you never have kids
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:20 AM
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That's emotional abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:19 AM
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You made all this up just cause you felt like being mad? Go take a nap lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:18 AM
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Not who you responded to, but I'll give that there's propoganda against men in the west, just as much as there is against women. Of course there are people manipulating conversations for social/political gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:13 PM
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You think a country being poor is related to the women treating the men with respect? To me this implies that this social dynamic is something the people do out of necessity to survive, or that they are more focused on survival than they are personal happiness and fulfillment, and I wouldn't consider those to be good things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:10 PM
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Well, even with mental and personality disorders, I hope you come to find happiness. This might sound bad but even when I was at my lowest I thought there's gotta be someone out there for me, because how tf do serial killer couples find each other? If those crazy people can be happy then so can I. My dad always says "there's a pot for every lid". And I know you meant low value in a dating market way, but your dating prospects don't determine your value as a person. The real low value ones in soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 09:50 PM
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Not my kind of alt. Your mom is wrong. You can either sit there and waste your life away wishing you were born differently, or you can do something about it. I can only speak for myself, but I'm attracted to men who show that they have personality and passion for things. Something to make me want to know them more. There are plenty of beautiful people in the world but not all of them are interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:20 AM
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I think they mean find a niche. If you lean into what makes you unique you're going to risk turning away some women, but you'll gain the attention of others. I'm alt and of course there are guys who don't like it, but there are others who might not have been interested if I wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:55 PM
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Do not use this subreddit as a guide for real life if you want to be happy. Don't ever let it influence how you think or act
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:16 PM
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Don't you think you're going too far here?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 08:10 PM
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Nice bait, try something original next time
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:37 PM
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Why do you think they do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:37 PM
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fresh and fit ew he will make his female double ew
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:12 PM
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Yes. I'm bi, so if we're following your logic I guess I just can't have friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 11:48 PM
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That's fine. Change isn't always bad. I'm just acknowledging that there's still pressure on people to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 11:05 PM
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There were free black people in the US during the slave trade. Slavery was abolished in 1865 but that doesn't mean they couldn't be free beforehand. There were actually entire water fountains and schools just for black people! Now do you get it? 😐
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 11:01 PM
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Yes, especially any acquired during marriage. Marriage ties you to someone financially. Asset value changes over time and your spouse is part of that. I own property, and when I get married, my spouse will also own that property. It's going to (ideally) go up in value over time. If we got divorced, he'd get his rightful share. If you don't want to do that, honestly just don't get married. A couple decides that since childcare is expensive, it's the best choice for the woman to be a SAHM so the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:57 PM
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Marrying doesn't necessarily give you security. People are the same before and after they get a ring on their finger. What it does do is give you more legal power as a couple, tax benefits, and legitimacy in the eyes of society (which sucks but still affects yours and any childrens' lives). The security it would mainly give is if one person had a much higher earning potential than the other, like a SAHP situation. Marriage helps protect the SAHP from being dirt poor with zero assets if the relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:37 PM
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No, it doesn't mean that. There have always been and will always be loving couples who value each other for more than that. What it means is that women aren't legally forced to rely on men for jobs, money, bank accounts, owning property, all that. So we can choose who we want to be around as opposed to not having the ability to leave or refuse someone we don't like. For example: I'm a solo homeowner and have a career, retirement fund, and bank accounts. I can vote to represent my own interests, …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:18 PM
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My mom is a very caring person who experienced hardships and learned lessons early on, but came out of it stronger. My dad's story is similar. I had to learn some of the same lessons but was able to learn them younger because of their support, and I'm thankful for that. I looked to their relationship to set my own standards more than I realized. So I guess you could say my life is similar to theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 05:38 PM
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Okay? Men have done shitty things to me and I don't go around accusing random dudes of being misogynists because they didn't prevent it. If that's how you look at things then all men must be misogynistic, all white people must be racist, and all straight people must also be homophobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:23 PM
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You mean I'm debating you on your debate post?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 12:04 AM
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You can ejaculate without sex though? Unless you're including masturbation in with "sex". I figured you weren't because I usually see them separated on here
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:37 PM
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I dunno how much more of a payout it would be. Right now if I donated I could get $5k. The client base is already pretty big, it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:29 PM
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if a woman is upset that you aren’t putting more interest in her when she isn’t doing the same to you, leave seconded
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:16 PM
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Okay... so you said don't do it before you get into a relationship, don't do it until you're years deep into a relationship. You're saying none of this has anything to do with relationships, but how is a guy supposed to have a successful, happy relationship if he doesn't bother building on it or showing his partner he cares until he's years deep?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:14 PM
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Nothing in this post has anything to do with a relationship. What? You specifically mentioned relationships multiple times in the body of the post. You don’t need to wine and dine them... That’s reserved for when you’re actually months to yrs deep in a relationship. If you find yourself doing any of that with a woman you just met, she’s just not into you. You fantasized about her and being in a relationship in your head. That’s just not the reality of the situation. When women actually like you,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:53 PM
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Is this a debate or a rant
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:43 PM
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Yeah that's what I was thinking, I see a lot of good here. Would be great for gay couples or people with fertility issues too
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:10 AM
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You can already donate eggs for money there's a reason it's less common
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:55 AM
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Physical need as in you think men can't survive without sex? Because they definitely can
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 10:15 PM
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If there was an emotional connection, wouldn't you think there would be an even bigger difference between that kind of sex and masturbating?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 10:12 PM
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Well, there's a reason humans want sex outside of having kids. Your body releases feel good hormones when you orgasm, and we have what are basically pleasure buttons. If sex felt good to other animals they'd be fucking all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 10:09 PM
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Yeah there's just no substitute for another person. You can live without sex, you can be happy without sex, but masturbation is not even remotely the same as sex for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:58 PM
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So? You might as well have if you keep fueling it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:31 PM
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Yeah let's just make society as exhausting and antagonistic as possible, what's the harm in that...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:22 PM
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You: "stop saying men's sperm quality declines to make women feel better" <--- this implies you think men's sperm quality does not decline, because anyone who says it is lying for women's sake You: "even *if** it slightly declines"* <--- the word "if" implies you think it isn't true the study is saying men age reproductively too, but not at the same rate or with the same sharp decline pattern seen in female egg quality and pregnancy rates after 35 Where does it say that, exactly? DNA fragmentati…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:33 PM
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I think it's still being studied. If it was confirmed we'd probably see it everywhere tbh. People love using autism as a weapon so I'm sure they wouldn't shut up about it. From what I've seen as someone with zero relevance to or knowledge in that field, it kinda seems like we're catching up on learning about the father's role in reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:59 PM
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stop with the whole “oh men’s sperm quality declines” argument to make women feel better Oh? https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12133931/ Men contribute half of the kid's DNA. I don't know why you don't think sperm quality declining wouldn't have a negative effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:52 PM
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Okay, that explains a lot. Yeah homicide is definitely a lot rarer, but it's not the only threat so we worry about more than that. Just like as a man you'd be worried about getting mugged or general harrassment from people not in their right mind as well as homicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:18 PM
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So, I don't go out a lot, and I've been followed. I've been sexually harrassed, yelled at, and pressured to give info out. Had to call the cops. Most of this happened when I was a teen, and I didn't have it nearly as bad as a lot of the girls I knew. I'm not flat against cold approaching, I've even done it myself, but you're talking like the safety issues related to it aren't common and that's just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:15 PM
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I refuse to leave my house You think entertaining strangers is a basic necessity, essential for a human to survive?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 07:01 PM
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I don't know if I'd say men care less about emotional maturity. A common theme is that men value their peace pretty highly. An emotionally immature person is the opposite of that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:36 PM
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Generally from what I've seen/heard, if a woman is talking about dating down, she's comparing the guy to herself, not other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:46 AM
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We need men like Mr. Taint, human trafficker and rapist? What the hell are we smoking??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:19 AM
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Too tired to find a legit source right now so take this with a grain of salt, but I believe men's sperm quality/health does degrade with age and it's connected to health issues in kids, so men do have a "biological clock". People talk about it more now. Also, I don't know what you mean by geriatric starts at 35 for women, but "geriatric" is a medical term specifically related to pregnancy. Some places don't even use it anymore. Nobody's elderly at 35 that's just ridiculous lmao. edit: https://pm…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:56 AM
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If the attractiveness peak is determined by emotional maturity and status, would you also think women peak at ~35 as well? If not, what's the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:30 AM
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I don't know why you, a stranger, think you know better than me. You've completely misunderstood me, and after your first comment I'm not interested in explaining myself further.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 08:54 AM
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Nuance? Holy shit delete this post right now
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 05:46 AM
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What the fuck? You don't know anything about my boyfriend so don't come to me insulting him or our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 05:36 AM
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Clearly not
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:03 AM
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I mean of course it's okay to leave if you aren't happy with the relationship. But if you are, who cares what the men around you think? I don't know my bf's full sexual history. He could have done crazy shit with another girl but I'm happy the way he is with me, so I don't care. When we want something new we just talk about it. If he says no, his history wasn't gonna matter anyway because I don't want him to do something if he's not 100% for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 03:47 AM
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How do you know how she was with a previous man during sex? Were you there?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:23 AM
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I think prenups are fine if both people agree, but if you're seeing a red flag then why marry her in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:10 AM
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https://discreetinvestigations.ca/infidelity-statistics-who-cheats-more-men-or-women/ Frequently asked questions Who cheats more — men or women? Overall, men...20% of ever-married men versus 13% of ever-married women report infidelity in U.S. General Social Survey data...The gap is not universal: among adults aged 18–29, women (11%) slightly exceed men (10%), and the overall gap is driven primarily by older cohorts... Is the infidelity gender gap closing? Yes, among younger adults. Among U.S. ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 07:04 PM
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Women generally only talk about abusive/shitty behaviors from men because the majority of women are straight and primarily experience it from men. I could say the same about men gendering behaviors that both women and men do... gold digging, for example. I'm pretty sure everyone in possession of a brain knows those behaviors aren't tied to gender. If they're stupid enough to think otherwise, you can't do anything about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:42 PM
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I'm agreeing with you. Apologies if I didn't come across clearly What I meant was it's not useful to try to get revenge for things you (general you) didn't even experience, it's just going to make your life worse
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:08 AM
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I'm agreeing with him. Sorry if I didn't come across clearly, I'm hungry
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:08 AM
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And you're gonna face whatever consequences come from that payback anyway. End of the day it's best to choose what will make the world better
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:52 AM
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The way men talk about their standards can sometimes be extremely offensive. Yes I'm gonna have a problem if you say you'd never date a fatty/slut/insert derogatory term here. Learn how to talk without actively insulting people around you (all about framing) or just don't mention it. You don't have to share your standards all you have to do is live by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:37 AM
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I'd assume the other definition is going after a woman who doesn't want you (or is acting like she doesn't). So you could call it flirting, sure, but she's not reciprocating. There's no tension because she's just rejecting you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:25 AM
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One can only dream
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:00 AM
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Did I say I think most men are advocates of force? He's not doing himself a favor by arguing for coercion, though. It's okay to leave if a relationship isn't making you happy. I think some of y'all are comparing dates/treating your partner and sex because the person I replied to directly compared them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:55 AM
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Thanks for answering. Haven't you ever tried a food you don't like, though? I've tried new foods I ended up hating and I wouldn't eat them again, even around new people that I like, because I already know I don't like it. I think that's pretty reasonable, and it doesn't mean my new friends aren't fun. Just, why would I eat gross food again if I already know I don't like it? edit: didn't realize everyone else already talked about food mb lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:48 AM
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The situation I was asking about was a woman trying something once and not liking it, not doing it multiple times. Example: Once upon a time, I thought I wanted to be slapped. Tried it, hated it, they never did it again, I've never wanted it again. If I don't let my boyfriend slap me during sex, does that mean I'm not attracted to him? You say this is not the reason this situation comes up, but it's pretty common for people to try things during sex and not like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:41 AM
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As I said, some people just consider it to be flirting and building tension
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:33 AM
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Imo I think it's okay to say it once just to inform them that yes this is still a dealbreaker and you intend to follow through. If you're telling them because you want to change their mind, or you keep saying you'll leave but never actually do it, then that's controlling to me. There's probably a reason I'm not a psychologist, though. ...in a relationship with good communication I don't think restating your boundaries would be necessary, but hey.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:30 AM
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I was thinking an act that she 100% doesn't like, confident she's not going to like it with anyone, never wants to do it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:47 PM
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I think people have different ideas of what the "chase" is. Some people just consider it to be flirting and building tension, and when you look at it that way, it makes sense that those people would say they enjoy it/believe men enjoy it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:27 PM
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Something she doesn't like?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:24 PM
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When has this person specifically argued the opposite of what they're saying now? Quote it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:23 PM
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There's no way to know who someone is at their core until you get very close to them. It's easy to pretend to be someone you're not to gain someone's trust and drop the act when you're comfortable. The responsibility to keep bad men isolated isn't on women or men, really. How can you expect women to know if someone is truly a bad person at a glance? At the same time, how can you expect men to know which of their friends are horrible partners if they're not emotionally close? All we can do is act…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:19 PM
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Strawman. OP is talking about pressuring someone into a specific sexual act they're not comfortable with, and you're describing a situation where someone is telling their partner they're not going to do multiple vague things that are considered normal in relationships, without the partner pressuring them to. Why do you think sexual coercion is the same thing as wanting to go on a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:43 PM
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So if she tried it in the past and didn't like it, you think she should still do it with you? Even though she doesn't like it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:35 PM
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Conclusion: the two party system fucking sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:04 AM
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Having safety to speak your mind find freely is something you should be grateful for because many men in other countries wont let you, so be grateful for western men who uphold this society This implies that women should be subserviant to men in a free society, and that there is a constant threat of the "good" men turning into the "bad" men. Is that what you're saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 08:58 PM
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Well, free speech is a right that we uphold as a society, and society is composed of both women and men. So... yes, but not in the way that you mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 08:53 PM
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I think trusting someone is a little different than valuing them. Like, if I saw someone playing with their dog I'd be more likely to trust them because it's a sign that they're able to maintain happy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 07:55 PM
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Guess I interpreted her comment in a different way. The way I read it was OP says "women don't orgasm because they don't put in effort", she says "so I don't orgasm if I don't do it all myself? what's the point of having sex with someone who isn't even going to try to please you? at that point they're just using you as a fleshlight" But even your response isn't accurate in my eyes because the physical effort men put in isn't just supposed to please themselves. That effort involves another person…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 07:48 PM
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Glazing? It's literally the truth. Some people like it and some people don't. Either way, it's still weird that his one response is very personal and sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 07:30 PM
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You don't get to say men are the ones physically making themselves orgasm when the reason they're orgasming is because they're fucking someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:08 PM
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Thanks for speaking for women!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 07:02 AM
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big guys can't pound Gotta disagree on this one. People like all sorts of things, I don't think his size is relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:28 AM
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Why is your ONLY response to any comments asking a woman if she wants to be jackhammered? Weird activity from someone who's supposed to have a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:22 AM
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OP isn't saying people failed at something though, he's saying they are failures. That is a judgement
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:16 AM
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Then this post is just meta and holds no value to me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:15 AM
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I agree, but OP is calling people failures instead of saying they failed. It reads like they meant it to be prescriptive, at least to me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:49 AM
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Jackhammering implies no foreplay. Rough sex isn't necessarily uncomfortable but a partner that doesn't care about your pleasure is. Is my girlfriend an outlier or do most women actually secretly enjoy being pounded but just pretend they don't in public Also, a better way to look at this would just be that some women like it and some don't. The ones that don't are probably going to be more vocal about it. There are steps in between "my gf is an outlier" and "most women are lying and secretly enj…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:46 AM
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Why would I consider someone a failure based on other people's actions? Being in a relationship doesn't mean you're morally good, and being single doesn't make you immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:39 AM
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You speak for the average man? I had no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:42 PM
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Well sure, I think it's fine for a woman to go on 0 dates. I just happen to also think it's fine for men to go on 0 dates
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 10:07 PM
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Ohh okay. Yeah, I still wouldn't care. A guy I dated once hadn't had sex in ~12. Doesn't mean anything about who someone is as a person or how good of a lover they'd be 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 10:03 PM
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Damn it's crazy how my comment saying I consider very few dates normal wasn't enough of a confirmation, but this one that aligns with what you expect of women is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 09:43 PM
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I read this as a single session lasting for 15 years but I'm sure that's not right lol. You mean a guy who had casual sex for 15 years? If his sexual health is fine and he genuinely wanted a long-term relationship then I wouldn't care. For me it's more about a person's values and if our goals align. The fact that someone has changed over their lifetime is a good sign to me because it shows they're able to learn and grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 09:38 PM
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I dunno. That completely depends on his lifestyle, how outgoing he is, and how much he wants to get dates. I'm gonna guess like...2 in a year, assuming that the average single man doesn't really try but still cares a little. At what level do I think it's strange? I don't think having 0/only a couple dates is strange at all, considering when I've been single I was dating for long term. A guy having 0 dates in the past year shows me he cares about himself enough to not accept a relationship he's n…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 05:10 PM
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Brb telling all my straight friends they don't exist 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 06:02 PM
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Yeah cause I started dating him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 01:19 AM
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Not one, not a single woman would spend a single second thinking about what shit to say to make you like her. Not a moment will she care enough about you to make you feel better, in fact there is a higher chance she will make it harder What makes you think this? Women are just people, right, so why wouldn't we want the men we like to like us? Why wouldn't we care about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 07:43 PM
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Yaoi isn't how men consume erotic content so it's not valid, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 07:17 PM
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Go on tiktok and look at a male cosplayer's comments and tell me what you find
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 07:14 PM
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Women have a naturally low libido Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 07:12 PM
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theres more male to female transgenders than female to male transgenders Not true. https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/trans-adults-united-states/ Of the 2.1 million adults who identify as transgender, 32.7% (698,500) are transgender women, 34.2% (730,500) are transgender men Now where is your source for the "detransitioning" statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:14 PM
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men generally find every woman who isn’t ugly pleasing to some extent, that is a large majority of women I have to disagree with this part. Out of everyone in the world? I don't think that's a large majority at all. Great comment though, I like seeing nuance in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:10 PM
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Is that supposed to disprove women being taken less seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 09:49 PM
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This happens alllll the time in this sub. Sounds like you're just mad because you disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 09:48 PM
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Well, sometimes you (general you) are a victim. Crimes are committed every day. Some of the societal expectations for men cause harm. Those people are victims. Doesn't mean they chose to be or that they can't be stronger than they were before. Recognizing that you were hurt is the starting point for getting better, but ignoring it can result in people not getting the help they need.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:45 PM
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I don't think anyone has it easy in modern society. The biggest differences in quality of life are from wealth, so as long as you're comparing members of the same class, you'll see that we experience similar hardships. (I bet those mental health numbers would equal out if men weren't pressured to be strong and stoic all the time.) We fight over who has it worse while the ultra rich plot to steal our land's resources and keep us reliant on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:16 PM
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Did you forget to debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:02 PM
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My position against the concept of female hypergamy is that from what I've seen, women are just looking for partners that, as a whole, are about equal to them. If you are planning on doing all the domestic labor and want a man who will provide for you financially, that's not hypergamy, that is an exchange. The redpill argument of "marrying up" seems to focus entirely on money/status/looks, but that's not everything to consider in a potential partner. It's a narrow view of the world, and it's bas…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:14 AM
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...So make a post about a different sex act then?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:23 AM
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Yeah I see what you're saying. In my experience (a) doesn't factor in. For (b), the hurt of disloyalty definitely overrides any admiration. The only way I'd see (b) being relevant is that it generally makes people more angry if the one they cheated with was less attractive than you, but I don't think men are any different in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:29 PM
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I'm curious about what the answers would be if the situation was "I tried it with my ex and didn't like it, so I don't want to do it with you."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:54 PM
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Some guys do genuinely percieve "the logistical challenges of fitting your dick in my ass are insurmountable" and "I don't want to do things with you that I did with my ex" as the exact same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:52 PM
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Would it be a dealbreaker because she's done it before with someone else, or because you just don't want a relationship without oral sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:48 PM
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Do you always speak out every time you see something you disagree with on the internet? I don't
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:18 AM
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I'd leave, but it would genuinely fuck me up. I would need lots of therapy. I don't think there's a gender-based difference in how men and women react, really. We're all the same emotional beings deep down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:23 AM
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How do you know they aren't quietly disagreeing? This statement carries a lot of assumptions. Do you think any woman who speaks out isn't a feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:01 AM
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Yeah it's useful to remind people of that every so often
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:09 PM
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I never said that was the only way to combat it, I just said it was the best way. Talking to people in real life usually reduces animosity for both sides. But I see what you're saying with the internet having a real impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:24 PM
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Lots of things I could say on this topic, but just remember that there are groups actively promoting social conflict using botted accounts, botted comments, and botted upvotes. It happens more frequently than you think, probably on this sub too. Best way to combat this is having open converstions with people in real life who have different views. Extremists are not as common as they seem on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:15 PM
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I see what you're saying with the hating the system/group, but I think that's a slippery slope because probably 99.9% of people (including me) aren't able to emotionally separate systematic hate vs hating individuals when the system is made up of people that you see every day. Your brain just starts to apply those bad experiences to them. Like when a dog is hurt, if you get too close you'll get bit even if you didn't do anything. That's why I think everyone should be saying "some men" "some wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:07 PM
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I don't think half of all of humanity has the same mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 07:35 PM
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Has living in a perpetual state of reacting to others' behavior solved anything for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 06:16 PM
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"I don't care about having friends I only care about having sex" Ohh this one drives me up the fucking wall. Friends = you will know more people = more likely to get sex. You can't be a shut in or actively unfriendly and expect something to happen out of thin air.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 06:08 PM
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evolunarily speaking whinny men meant the tribe is fucked. So women get EXTREMELY anxious about men whinning. Weak men, hopeless men are not good for the tribe. Women relieve their anxiety by typical defense mechanisms. Blame shifting, gaslighting, invalidating, insulting. What men need to understand is that women don't hate those men who are whinning. It's just a maladaptive defense mechanism. Disregard anything the woman says. They don't genuinely want to help you... Do you have a source for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 06:03 PM
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You weren't even talking to me. I'm going to leave you to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:02 AM
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They have a tendency to screech about non issues and be hysterical, much more than the average woman Ah, there's the sexism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:31 AM
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100% there is definitely something trying to get us against each other
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:22 AM
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What part of modern dating is lowering yourself to the status of a vassal, in your eyes? ETA: There are things I don't like that are expected of women and men, but I don't see things being drastically worse for men in terms of their expected role in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 07:42 PM
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This comment was posted before anyone linked the source
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 07:33 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:57 PM
3

Not every biological reality is logical or good for society
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 06:57 PM
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When a man has sex with a woman he knows well, the sex can often be bad What's your reasoning for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 06:51 PM
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Tell me exactly what I need to do better at and take accountability for
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:44 AM
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Fuck you telling me that for?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:40 AM
1

"This seems like a shower thought" is not the same as "we're in the shower together"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:32 PM
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This comment is gross as fuck. Cut that shit out
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:27 PM
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Argument looks weak without a source
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:25 PM
1

If a woman had bad experiences with a player, why do you think she would seek out qualities that those men have?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 09:45 PM
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if a woman is the hottest a guy ever slept with, then statistically the guy is the least attractive she ever slept with statistically [cites no statistics] Do words just not mean anything anymore 🫩
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:57 PM
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Off topic, does it also kinda weird you out that people have started using "woman" as an adjective to combat using "female" as a noun? I feel like it just dehumanizes the word "woman" instead but I haven't seen anyone talk about it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:10 PM
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I'd prove you wrong right now if I could do it without doxxing myself lmao edit: hate that the comments are locked because W response, privacy is important
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:42 PM
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1) It literally doesn't help anything. You can't change the body you were born with. You can only change other things, like attitude, hair, or skills. If you tell someone they're unattractive, you're just being mean and hurting their confidence... which will hurt their chances at dating. 2) Who decides whether someone is attractive or not? I've had friends go nuts over guys I thought were unattractive. It's very subjective. So unless you're the reigning authority on attractiveness and everyone o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:35 PM
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I don't think I'd describe any personal dating standards as too picky as long as he understands that the more requirements he has for a partner, the smaller his pool will get. He can be as unrealistic as he wants as long as he doesn't take negative emotions out on others. His life, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:53 AM
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They notice what they want to notice and completely disregard what doesn't align with their worldview
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:27 PM
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Strawman. Next
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:26 PM
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"Let me tell you how you're actually wrong about what YOU want" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 10:54 PM
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A woman's default state? Brother I have been downvoted on this sub for saying men shouldn't sacrifice their mental health because a woman might like them for being mentally constipated one day. I think you're gendering an issue that doesn't need to be gendered
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 10:51 PM
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You don't have to sympathize. Just be a decent person and treat people with respect
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 12:00 AM
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Dunno reddit's just weird like that sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 11:58 PM
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How many blowjobs have you given?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:01 AM
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Do you think there are promiscuous women who have their shit together in life and are mature with good judgement, they just also like sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:53 AM
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"No, actually my husband is shorter than me. And I make ​more money than him. And he is feminine. And I asked him out. I love men with dark​ eyeliner. ​Normal people are not like what ​you say. Women are not like this. Women are not drawn to men more powerful than them. Negging doesn't work. ​Why are you interested in a small subset of damaged ​women." ​Hmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:45 PM
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Bluepill?????
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 03:16 AM
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Lol you're right that's kinda fucked isn't it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 03:13 AM
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Okay, so where is Megan Thee Stallion blaming all men for Klay Thompson cheating on her?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 03:12 AM
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But in response to her talking about rape threats posted online, you're definitely treating it like it doesn't matter. An incel (a stranger you don't know) would have to do something very drastic like shoot up a public place or kidnap to harm you, but an intimate partner can choose to act when you are vulnerable. They are closer to you, they have a greater capability for harm. It's that simple. Now look up sampling bias. You have no proof that incels are safer than the partners women are choosin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 03:00 AM
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Victim blaming is so cool and fun let's keep doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:18 AM
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Thinking of potential partners in terms of casual vs relationships is not unique to women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:29 AM
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Now that you mention it, yeah, that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:56 PM
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I can understand that. Hope you find peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:55 PM
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No offense dude but you're doing exactly what you're complaining about women doing right now. Every time someone asks you a question you insult them in a passive aggressive way for no reason. All you have to do to answer the question is describe a situation that you think is "nagging" vs one that is "peaceful."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:24 AM
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Have you ever thought about what a good relationship would look like for you? What your ideal partner would be like, unrelated to society's expectations?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:19 AM
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Why do you think so?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:09 AM
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she likes that I radiate a sort of emotional stability That's what got me invested in my bf too. We were already having casual conversations, but it was the way he talked about past insecurities/issues/etc in such a mature way that made me develop feelings for him. It's such a great quality to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:09 AM
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I'm from the south and was insecure as a teen because I wasn't tiny with a baby face lol. Maybe I was misunderstanding what men wanted, but that was definitely the impression I got.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:49 AM
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Men sure aren't my slavers. I don't have an issue with liking them. Have you enslaved anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:38 AM
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Sidon from BOTW/TOTK. didn't think I was that weird for this but after looking at these comments maybe I am lmao <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:44 AM
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You know just because a woman waits to get married doesn't mean she's slept around, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 05:58 AM
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Who cares what women think when it concerns your mental health? If someone doesn't like that you aren't an unfeeling rock, they suck anyway. And those kids wouldn't have a great example of a male role model either. I know this subreddit is mainly concerned with dating, but I can't support something that's going to hurt everyone in the long run just because some doofus might like it one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:50 PM
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A guy who’s got emotional troubles will usually get “man up you pansy” whereas a woman will get “oh you poor darl” A woman gets this response from who? Because when I have emotional troubles, this kind of support almost always comes from other women. The men I've gotten sympathy from are also the type to give sympathy to other men, so they aren't who you're talking about. If you think men should have this kind of support, then you have to be the one to offer it. The only way something changes on…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:17 PM
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As far as I'm aware, most people even in America view dating with more emotion than this. We may be practical, but we're also very romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:03 PM
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I think this is an oversimplification. There are lots of things that can affect your ability to function socially, and it's much harder for some people to learn than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 02:49 PM
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That's fair. I gotta say I like them too. I guess I'm tired and didn't read that the way you intended lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 12:42 PM
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Lots of self-improvement advice (for women and men) is like that because it's meant to guide you into enjoying those things for yourself. If it was "stop focusing on women and work out" those guys would write it off, but since you gave them a "valid" reason, they're going to get into the gym and find out that they actually enjoy lifting. Then they'll actually be more likely to get a girlfriend because they'll have a more fulfilling life with hobbies, and they'll be healthier.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 12:38 PM
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they get the worst motive assigned to them even when they say it normally. a guy can say “I prefer someone with a similar sexual history to mine” or “I don’t think I’m compatible with someone who views sex casually” and people will still jump to insecurity, control, misogyny, small dick energy, whatever I've mentioned here that I broke up with a man who was mistreating me and men jumped to defend him. This is something that's only happened to me online, because people project their experiences o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 12:25 PM
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Oh sure, I agree then. We could be a lot more outwardly appreciative of each other
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:31 AM
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2 weeks of not eating Oh I forgot you've been a woman before so you know exactly how it goes, my b!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:11 AM
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You think in all history of the world there hasn't been a single woman attracted to a man? Not one woman alive who likes a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:07 AM
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You think heterosexual women should be calling men's bodies superior to women's, saying they're God's favorite, and that women are actually just ugly? I don't think that's required to support men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:03 AM
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If, as a woman, you are sexually aroused by other women, you are not straight. This is different from having an appreciation for another person's beauty. Liking someone's visual appearance can come with or without feelings of sexual or romantic attraction. Humans like pretty things. Christ this sub is frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 10:59 AM
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The experience gap and probable finance gap (whatever it's called) is where the harm could come from. A relationship where someone has so much more pull compared to the other person is much riskier and often pressures the other person to do things like say yes to things they don't want to do. Now add in the fact that these women often leave their entire support system behind to be with the men. What if she doesn't have the money to go back without him paying for it? Things like that you have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:16 PM
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I think the fact that you are being forced to act differently might change you as a person. But you brought up a good point. After some thought, my opinion is that there is a difference between who you are on the inside and what actions you end up taking, but only a slight one. Your actions are influenced by others and might not always be what you want, but they still reflect who you are and what values you hold. At the end of the day it doesn't matter who you feel like you are if your represent…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:00 PM
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You just said who you are as a person has nothing to do with how you treat other people. Am I correct...?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 10:04 AM
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I agree with you because I also think obsessing is more harmful than helpful, but a ton of struggling dudes do not want to hear that advice, especially from a woman. I do understand why they feel that way but yeah. That's just not what people want to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:48 AM
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Yeah, this specifically was about a guy at a party, so it's going to vary based on the situation. That's why I added the part at the end. But in general it's better to be careful and save your reputation for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:44 AM
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I get what you're saying, I just don't think that it's as general as you're making it sound in your post. Ironically, maybe I'm taking it too literally
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:40 AM
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Social circles change but you should care about your reputation at work, that shit sticks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:18 AM
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Me 2 months ago: Once you've hit on 2 girls and keep going, every girl there knows you're just looking for someone to fuck, you don't even care who, and they will say no. My advice is to not hit on 20 girls at one party. ("What's a good number before calling it quits?") 2 imo but work up to asking them. You don't want it to seem like you'll take anyone who wants you, so make a connection first Different situation but the overall problem was the same. This kind of stuff makes you look both desper…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:13 AM
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I don't agree with the overall statement but I do agree that a lot of the time people are just getting in their own way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 02:00 AM
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Then it's not any man. Other people have difficulties that make their lives just as hard or harder than people who have autism. If you have to say this excludes autistic people then are you also excluding those with other mental or physical disabilities? Cause at that point your statement doesn't apply anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:56 AM
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It's about specifically do you believe that men approach any problematic situations with women and dating She answered that. First thing she said was I do believe men struggle. the post isn't even about risk in dating It is about dating struggles. She's trying to say that women also face their own struggles. I would personally consider murder a struggle. not a competition yet almost every woman on this feed is making it so I will say, you generalized a lot in your post. They're on the defensive …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:35 PM
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Dude, why do so many conservatives want people whose values they almost always fundamentally disagree with. I see it a lot with alt women too. Like what are we even doing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:15 PM
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this sub...has led me to ask some questions of my husband that I hadn't before Same with my bf. I learn so much because even though I can know stuff by putting the pieces together from the outside, it's different when someone with that experience takes the time to talk to you about it. Just a whole different perspective of the world I'll never have.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:02 PM
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Of course. The reason a man might not think I care is because I can only control how I act. If other people are causing your issues then I can't fix your issues. I also try to consider whether someone wants my empathy or advice before I offer it. Just not always my place. So I don't have much I can do about it, really. Sometimes life sucks and shit doesn't go your way. Some things you can control, some things you can't. Do what you think is right and will make you happier because nobody else is …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 05:49 PM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 01:45 PM
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Advancing flirting too quickly or bringing up sex/porn/any intimate or personal topic before the other person seems comfortable. Overanalyzing body language/texts/whatever social signals from other people. Assuming hostility in situations where there is none. Now for the internal ones: having a defeatist attitude (ex. "this isn't gonna work out anyway I don't know why I'm trying"), disliking women in general/not seeing them as people, and being desperate. These come across in a person's actions …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:28 PM
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No, unless you are pitting men against women/perpetuating misogynistic views in the process. I feel like it is (or at least it should be) commonly known that men experience plenty of negativity as a result of their own expected roles in society. Related rant: I honestly don't get some people's obsession with pretending like every problem must be black and white, me vs you, I'm good therefore you are bad. If we talked a little more openly, we'd probably realize that a lot of our issues are connec…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:12 AM
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For me to seriously think about it I'd have to be on a date. I could experience it before, but not spending much time around him means I'm less likely to know if he's safe to have sex with/if he'll drop me after/etc so I wouldn't consider acting on it. Anything before a date would just be appreciation
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 06:30 PM
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Dude, use your brain. If the woman thinks that good sex means her partner has to have a big dick, then yes, that's what it means. It's not a trick, women aren't conspiring against you, the meaning literally just changes based on who's saying it because everyone wants something different.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:56 PM
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Well if he has this mindset then he's definitely the issue, because I'm sure as hell never introducing another man to my female friend after she trusts me to set her up with a good guy and he fucks it up and complains that he didn't get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:18 AM
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True and I think becoming friends with new people is also an important part of finding a partner if that's what your aim is, so that's helpful either way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:08 AM
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I'm wondering why we're acting like crazy cat lady and spinster aren't used as insults because I sure as hell see them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:06 AM
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Yeah, I agree (as long as it's not those states where women have 6-8 weeks or something). I think it'd be a hard idea to get support for since it could easily be miscontrued, but I think it's the next step after abortion. In my ideal world, both men and women would have a choice. I do have a question though. Does selective service not bother you more than this? Just the idea of it is grating to me, so I think it'd be my priority if I was a man. No hate if you feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 07:57 PM
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Well, yeah. I would think of a DV shelter as a resource that should be provided for safety, not a gift. It's a good thing, yes, but you wouldn't catch me falling over anyone's feet for it existing. I'm not upset if you have a different view on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:21 PM
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Yeah. At that point, though, we're talking about incompatibilities. Not the same thing, but women face a similar issue with boob size. Not every person is for you and it sucks when you don't fit society's image of the ideal woman/man. edit: did not downvote you btw
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:15 PM
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What you're saying about men not having any rights doesn't make sense. We were talking about rights in a legal sense, which men had and women didn't. If we're talking about preventable diseases, women were (are) in the same boat. I don't really know anything about matriarchies, so I can't speak on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:44 PM
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Sure but you asked how someone could provide good sex without a huge dick or strapon. so that's how
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 10:28 AM
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I genuinely think they're forgetting that the women commenting are answering the question in the post. Like the context isn't even here anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 10:22 AM
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You got fingers and a tongue
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 10:18 AM
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Good dick means the sex was good, it doesn't mean anything about his actual body (unless whoever's saying it has a personal requirement for his body to be a certain way for them to consider sex good)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 10:13 AM
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Oh okay thanks lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 09:58 AM
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Not who you replied to, but I think the lessons fathers teach could hypothetically be taught by women, unless the kid is going to grow up and leave to go be around men. In a society of only women, some women are naturally going to fall into more masculine roles, and as long as the kid has a variety of different perspectives I think they could turn out alright. (Dunno how you'd handle raising a male child though... exile them I guess.) I've thought about this with same sex couples a lot. Multiple…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 09:45 AM
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The patriarchy ended up giving women equal rights Let's not act like this was a gift, though. It is because women were subjected in the first place that we didn't have rights; we did not have the power to give them to ourselves. Righting a wrong is always good, but it isn't something I'd list as an accomplishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 09:32 AM
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Hypothetically if I was a male who didn't want a vasectomy and didn't want to abstain from sex, I would secure my finances before nutting in a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 09:05 AM
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If i make something in my stomach, can I ask money from you essentially? Yes, because of this: you can still make someone pregnant despite taking the best measures You guys can use 13 different methods of birth control and she can still get pregnant, that's why you should be required to pay money. Until we have full abortion rights in every state men are 100% on the hook just like we are
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 09:02 AM
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Omg wahhh using a condom and getting a vasectomy and not nutting in women are all things completely out of my control, men are literally so powerless 😥
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 07:46 AM
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Me, 14 hours ago, on a post titled "What would you do if there would be no men on the planet?" I'd probably wear less modest/more creative clothing and makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 07:04 PM
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Yellow pill? Please don't say piss
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:49 PM
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Washing your cooch is manipulation 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:48 PM
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"Provocative" means something different to everyone, so clothing can be intended to come across as neutral to attractive to others. There's no way to know unless you're the one wearing the clothing. PUA is always intended to get a sexual/romantic partner. Makeup can be done for personal expression or outside attention, while PUA is always done for outside attention. (Btw, blush is necessary if you are doing a full face of makeup because otherwise you would look like a ghost.) And that's not even…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:17 PM
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I think same-gender social situations are harder because we tend to "test" each other, so I don't think men or women can say who's more skilled with any sort of accuracy. I was like 23 when I realized men genuinely try to crush each other's hands in handshakes because every time they shook my hand they were nice and gentle lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 06:41 AM
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Not trying to have a gotcha moment, but I don't think you're looking at this objectively. In my experience, navigating social situations with women requires more thought/finesse than with men. Women are also, generally, a little more social. I can speak very bluntly to men because they're more likely to take what I say literally, and I think that's cool. But men are also less likely to say something when they're upset, or tell you when you misstep. That doesn't necessarily mean women on average …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 06:36 AM
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You're so right. Every lesbian couple should have a male sponsor them out of the kindness of his own heart. I wonder if we can make a government program for that <3 /s
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:28 PM
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We do love us some lesbians though
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 07:51 PM
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Unpopular opinion but let's just stop talking about men and women as if they're monoliths, at the very least while we're on the internet (where what we say can be viewed by anyone) or around people that might misunderstand us. If you don't actually mean all men/women then pleeease give me a "some," "most," or even "a significant amount." I can't stand generalizations it would make so happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 07:47 PM
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Generally agree. There is a basic amount of trust society needs to function. If you walk around thinking everyone is about to pull a knife on you, you're a danger to others. Most of us probably drive every day, and by doing that we're trusting our lives to other people just because they also want to get through the day safely. You should of course be aware of your surroundings, but being jumpy is not a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 09:28 AM
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Or maybe those people aren't representing their own arguments correctly. I've seen people say some absolutely insane things on here and then upon further questioning, they meant something pretty reasonable but chose the least effective words to get their point across. Like, they'll say some shit like "Women are physically unable to have accountability," then I'll ask "What do you mean? How many women are you talking about - all, most, about half, some, a few?" and it turns out they actually beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 05:08 AM
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Some of those high trust societies can be downright hostile tbh. Personally I think having diversity is good because it prompts people to learn and grow in ways I value, but with that can come conflict, so I see why some might prefer a homogenous society.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 08:14 PM
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Vague definitions, big generalizations, and the proposed "solution" requires everyone in society to behave a specific way. We can barely agree on the basics, I think it's safe to say people will continue to do whatever the fuck they want. OP is clearly just here to complain, not even sure there's enough in this post to debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:15 PM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:51 AM
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Directly compares women to cows Opinion discarded It's DSM-IV adjacent Oh so you lied then. I see that little edit you did to go back and change your comment like you didn't outright say it was in the DSM-IV. Yeah I can act like I'm right too if I just make shit up whenever it's convenient lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 06:16 PM
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First of all, gerontophilia is not gender specific. Second, like all other mental conditions, I'd assume this term would only be used to describe people whose attraction is abnormal and having a negative effect on their life. Being attracted to old people isn't illegal, and it is normal for couples to be attracted to each other as they age. (Also, are we even sure this is mentioned in the DSM? Wikipedia says it's not but I'm too tired to check.) If menopause was God's way of giving women a death…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 06:09 AM
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Yes, I've asked for a man's number (cold approach) and that resulted in a relationship. Didn't work out, but he was a good person. With my bf, we pretty much just made our interest known with each other (starting conversations, flirting, etc). He asked for my number, I texted him first, it was back and forth. We both put in effort but he took the initiative. I'll put a lot into a relationship, so I prefer to see someone act on their own in the beginning stages vs me setting the expectation that …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 05:48 AM
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Alright OP, let's establish an age range before we start this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:41 AM
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Wow. You're young, I hope you never have to find out how wrong you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 02:16 AM
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Everyone should raise their standards instead of whining about shit they continue to choose for themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:56 PM
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Be real though, most assets divided in marriage are gained in marriage. Most people buying homes are buying them together, usually after marriage. This means they're shared anyway. And the majority of women work, so don't most women probably have some sort of assets too? I have property I bought myself, and after my bf and I get married, it'll be his too. If we divorce, he'll rightfully get half since he will also be managing it while its value changes. If you have a family without considering t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:48 PM
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You literally have the choice to propose and get married or not. That's an extremely passive and almost pathetic way of looking at it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:16 PM
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I would think the red pill view would be offering an overwhelming amount of attention/gifts makes you seem desperate basically?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 12:13 PM
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Wow you fucking suck lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:56 PM
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I have known 0 women like this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:45 AM
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If you can use your words to explain exactly how this relates to my comment, I'd be ecstatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:53 PM
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He doesn't know so he's pulling out all the stops lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:37 PM
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Not sure this dude is capable of actually using his words atp
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:31 PM
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Can you quit posting facebook memes and come up with an actual response already
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:30 PM
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Honestly why would I care about how often some other couple is having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 10:09 AM
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Probably bc they know any argument to try and make it seem like it's not hypocritical would sound stupid, but they still want to feel right I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 07:24 AM
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As a bi woman (who has dated a bi man) I agree and it's dumb as fuck that people are waving this obvious bi/homophobia away in the comments. Yes, preferences exist, but some preferences are literally just homophobia/racism/insert harmful view. You're allowed to have them, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't reflect on why you feel that way. We can substitute "I wouldn't date a man who dated a man" with "I wouldn't date a woman who dated a black man" and wow, you can really easily see what the pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 07:22 AM
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Unrelated but very high quality pfp, love it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:55 PM
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Is sleeping with someone love?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:54 PM
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Prolly the same reason guys like lesbian porn
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:13 PM
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You and I both know most women don't like giving rimjobs and doing anal stuff in the first place. Giving rimjobs is also hard as fuck because your ass muscles are really strong Just because you do explorative stuff with your partner doesn't automatically mean you're worshipping them and vice versa, that's a completely separate dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:09 PM
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I just have to know why we were sleeping with a notorious scatophiliac 😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:58 PM
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Who said men are the problem? Who said sex is the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 08:12 PM
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Well people can be born with both sets of genitals, without them, or with nonfunctioning genitals. There's more to gender than all that. If you think about it, you have no idea what genitals the people you see every day have. All you know is just how they present to everyone else. If someone looks and acts like a woman, you just see them as a woman; their genitals aren't a consideration. It's honestly pretty easy when you think of it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:16 PM
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Would I date a trans guy? Sure why not. Would I date a guy who has dated a trans woman? I don't see a reason to care about that unless he ONLY dated trans women until me, then I'd find it a little weird. For context, I like women so female genitals wouldn't bother me (if applicable). I've also dated a bi dude before so no matter how masculine or feminine their previous partners were, it's not something that concerns me outside of if they were safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:03 PM
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Hear me out: gender has no bearing on whether someone will cheat or not
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:05 AM
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What a username 😭 lmao I would like to clarify, I meant that in this case people have higher expectations for a man's career since he's "supposed" to provide. So this hypothetical woman who has an issue with her partner earning less would have even higher standards for a guy because she's exceeding expectations, so why isn't he? But his career/salary expectations were already higher to begin with because of the whole provider thing. Maybe you're coming at it from a different angle or I'm misunde…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:01 PM
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That is true. Aside from that just being a shitty thing to do, though, I think that's a consequence of gender roles. Like "I went above and beyond people's expectations of me for my career, why haven't you?" when that's not a fair comparison because men are already expected to earn enough to "provide" for their families (even when it doesn't make sense).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:01 PM
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What the hell is this man 💀 I swear some of y'all just hate women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:38 PM
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What is all this "you" and "your" bullshit? Can I give an example to help someone understand a point that's not mine without someone getting up my ass about it? Project onto someone else because you literally do not know me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:48 AM
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Y'all in the comments talking about how you'd like to be harrassed... men do get sexually harrassed and assaulted, every day. Let's not make light of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:56 PM
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Yeah, because you guys weren't raised as a woman and have no life experience as one. You're only aware of the good things, not all the little things that suck. Grass is greener on the other side and all that. And before anyone says some bullshit, this applies to both women and men. Also, you have zero idea how the average man acts in relationships or what the average woman's experience is, so I'm not hearing any of that "this is the average man" nonsense. I don't assume to know how the average w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:39 PM
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who she’d let...string her along for months without him taking her outside That just sounds like someone with low self-esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 06:58 AM
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That's not even what you were talking about in the comment I responded to. You said you rarely hear things like "boys will be boys" in comparison to people complaining about it. I gave an example of people excusing gross behavior because it's locker room talk, it's a guy thing. If anything, you telling me that women had no problem with it supports the point that it's common for people to excuse behavior because men are just like that sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:06 PM
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I think assuming everyone's going to hurt you before you have any reason to is a bit paranoid. You don't know what's going on inside someone's head or what the future will be. All you control is your response to their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 06:58 PM
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Presidential candidate says "when you're rich you can do whatever you want to women, grab them by the pussy, you don't even need to ask," and it gets waved away as locker room talk. He's elected twice. But I guess you're right, barely anyone excuses something a man says because they're a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 06:16 PM
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If you are comparing things that are based completely on statistics, even quoting the statistics, you need to link the source. Not doing so essentially makes your argument meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 06:12 PM
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Thank you for being the first person I've seen so far to actually link a source.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 06:09 PM
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Of course you should try to avoid making other people uncomfortable, but at a certain point you can't be responsible for everyone's feelings. The way you see situations is influenced by your past experiences. Your approach could be totally okay but still make someone uncomfortable because the reason they're uncomfortable isn't related to you. As long as you're respectful, you receive their signals and change your behavior accordingly (as this guy did), and are acting in a socially acceptable way…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 04:50 PM
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No. Creepiness depends on how well he responds to a no and the only reason I'd be offended is if he insulted me. I've had times where conventionally attractive dudes have hit on me and not taken no for an answer, and I always considered them creepy. I've had a lot of guys I didn't find attractive approach me, it's totally fine as long as they're respectful and take no for an answer!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 04:40 PM
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Yeah, I get what you're saying. Tough finding someone compatible like that because you have to see how they act over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 04:36 PM
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Yes. Idk how other people see it, but for me this is actually a big part of trust in a relationship. I know my bf would happily go through life single rather than with someone who isn't good for him, and that means 1) he's with me because he genuinely wants to be, and 2) if he's unhappy he'll speak up. I don't have to second-guess anything he says or does because he cares about his own happiness and wouldn't waste time lying just to keep me around.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 04:20 PM
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If you find a partner who also puts in effort, doing nice things for them doesn't feel draining. You shouldn't be with someone who completely exhausts you day in and day out. Relationships are supposed to make you happy and add to your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 04:07 PM
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Nobody's carrying, it's just called being a partner. My bf buys me flowers, pays for restaurants, and takes me to concerts. I buy him his favorite foods, games/gaming systems he wants, clothes and accessories. We both actively make sure we spend time together. Genuinely if I hadn't found this relationship with someone I love who is 100% on the same page as me, I might not have believed equal relationships existed. But they do, and when you find a legit partner physical leagues/social calibration…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 04:00 PM
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conservative women praise you for breaking gender norms I think what they meant by this is, you know how men will sometimes be applauded for literally just parenting their kids? Conservative women might not expect you to take on any of their work, so if you do the most basic task it'd be a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:39 PM
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I get the impression that they are having dating troubles in general and it's just easier to be mad at people they disagree with for it. + I've seen/heard people say that there are very few young women in church and conservative circles that aren't already taken, which... yeah. Don't know what they were expecting. Dudes super obsessed with tradwives would probably be disappointed if they realized those women are still people with their own lives, opinions, and families (who might hate them).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:31 PM
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Yeah it’s “none of my business” like if I ask her what does she do for work. She is free to not answer and I’m free to make my decision You determine what you want, seek it and are allowed to leave if it isn’t what you want This guy knows boundaries
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:12 AM
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There's no qualifying for a relationship when everyone's standards are different 🤷🏻‍♀️ When serial killer couples exist, there's someone out there for literally anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:10 AM
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Can you link your sources? Not trying to offend, you've clearly looked at a lot of info to compile this and I'd like to read them. more than 80% of women stop having interest or ability Does this mean all interest/ability, or any decrease at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:07 AM
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Why are you assuming she knew before marrying him?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:00 AM
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Same. Like, it wouldn't be a complete dealbreaker, but I know exactly what I'm looking for and I wouldn't want a partner who's still figuring themselves out. Just past that point in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:39 AM
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What's horrible about just having sex with different people over your lifetime?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:29 AM
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Those liberals and their love for consensual sex... smh my head
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:26 AM
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I don't agree or disagree, but I'd like to point out that traditional/conservative women can also have a high sex drive. There are also multiple definitions of traditional, and Trump doesn't have universal support from conservatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:21 AM
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I think one reason people might consider men more violent than women could be because of war. Like, we have plenty of evidence of men being violent throughout history but forget that they were pretty much just commoners forced to kill and die because someone in power felt like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:01 AM
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Agree. The reaction so much of society has to men when they come forward about abuse/assault is disgusting. It also seems like most people are really only violent when they're in a position of power, and you have more power over a partner vs someone you don't know. I think women are less likely to feel like they can be violent without consequences because women on average aren't as strong as men. Disclaimer: I'm not trying to imply women are worse than men, I just don't think violence is based o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:47 PM
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Equal responsibility for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:36 AM
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Gonna just paste part of my other comment here. Insecure teens having identity crises is not the fault of trans people. I hate to say it, but sometimes you get the wrong idea as a teen and fuck up your life. That can happen with drugs, crime, debt, unsafe sex (that can also render you infertile btw), and bad career choices. Unless you want kids to bubble-wrapped society where they can't grow, you have to accept that they'll be exposed to different points of view. I have personal experience with …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:20 PM
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It's not, don't let some dude tell you it is. As a woman who has actually known trans people (I'm very confident that most who form their opinions on trans people have never known a trans person) I feel like the "transvestigators" and people who call cis women trans for not looking like what they think a woman should look like (Imane Khelif) are more anti-woman than anything. Insecure teens having identity crises is not the fault of trans people. I hate to say it, but sometimes you get the wrong…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:11 PM
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What do you mean by "feminism is fundamentally anti-natalism"?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 10:58 PM
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There are plenty of redpillers who hate women. The same could be said about redpill, or any ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 10:54 PM
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I wouldn't call a struggle for equal rights nonsense. I wouldn't call entertainment nonsense either. Those things are a sign of a successful society because people aren't in a survival state and can afford to pay attention to personal fulfillment/emotional needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 10:49 PM
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Maybe, but that still matters. If I was raped I would not want to be forced to have the rapist's child. Just like if a man is raped they should not be forced to interact with their rapist for years to care for a child they never chose to have. Women can't always choose whether they have children or not, and a lot of people can't go to another state to get an abortion. It's not as easy as some make it sound. For example, I have to put in PTO way ahead of time. I can't call in for multiple days wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:31 PM
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You think that circumcision is as dangerous as pregnancy? When you can show me that circumcision causes as many deaths per year as pregnancy in the US, I'll listen. Until then, you're just minimizing women's issues for no reason. Not a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:46 AM
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Do you think pregnancy can kill women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 09:45 PM
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While those are important, they're not life or death issues like abortion or selective service
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 08:06 PM
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I think the fact that those issues both affect people and are under threat from the government is more relevant than the total amount in the history of mankind. What reproductive rights do men lack? I don't really hear men mention that outside of this sub. If you're talking about financial/paper abortions, I don't consider that to be on the same level as female reproductive rights since it does not decide if you live or die. Pregnancy can kill you and the draft can kill you, so I see those in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:37 PM
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When out on a date or if they're at the point where they live together men are more likely to face violence at home than women I do think women are underrepresented as perpetrators of DV, but I've only seen statistics that contradict this (homicide being one of the primary causes of death for pregnant women; these statistics looking like women are generally more likely to be victims). Do you have anything to back it up? I'll take that men are underrepresented, but even with that it looks like fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:08 PM
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Damn, it's sad that favoring equality in the draft means "send everyone off to go to war" instead of "let's not force anyone to go to war."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:54 AM
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It's not legal everywhere in the US, so... no. If your point is to convince others that men have it harder than women, you're not doing yourself any favors by misrepesenting womens' issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:51 AM
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Men have the draft, women have abortion. We're all getting fucked. Also I'd like to point out that regardless of gender, if you sign up for the military then for a certain amount of years after you're separated you're still required to go back and serve again if there's a draft. So selective service to allow men to vote is really just an antiquated tradition that the government won't let go of, because why would they? (To make it clear where I stand, I don't think anyone should be forced to go t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:47 AM
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No, they shouldn't. But men who want to forfeit parental rights should do so before the window for abortion closes so they can't leave the woman high and dry after telling her they're going to take responsibility. And if women can't get abortions men should not be able to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:24 AM
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Wanna know why she didn't mention Israel? Because it's completely unrelated to the topic of conversation. If you didn't cry about the thousands of puppies being put down today because of shelter overpopulation then I don't want to hear shit about Israel.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:25 AM
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I don't even need to read the post. No, deluding yourself is never necessary or healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:20 AM
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If I can only commit to/marry one woman What's your opinion on polyamory? I'm only asking because you seem like you're not too crazy about the idea of committing to one person, and it's becoming more common now to just say fuck it and have multiple partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:05 AM
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Comments on posts like this one are always really thoughtful and mature. It's a nice breath of fresh air.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:02 AM
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One front wheel, one rear wheel. Live life on the edge
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:01 AM
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Cool, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 09:52 AM
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Female reproduction? Takes two to make a baby. Ever been somewhere that has free condoms, because I have. Really though, men should have a lot more options for birth control than there are currently. It's a wonder we've taken so long to give a shit. Subsidizing BC for everyone would be a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 09:47 AM
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just because two beings share the common traits don't means they're even close to having the same experiences Sure, but what it does mean is that I understand well enough to be able to imagine what other people might be going through. Some experiences I naturally know more about than others. If I don't know enough about something to have a reasonably informed opinion, I won't speak on it. your opinion will just be wrong and you're allowed to be wrong so long you don't try to pass it as truth Eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 09:22 AM
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Looks based redpilled? What does that even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:30 PM
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Yeah... that's kinda what I was saying. There's no requirement of me working at a drive thru to have the expectation that I'll go up, order my food, pay, and then receive my food. You are not the only person who has ever had a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:54 AM
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I should have known this was the response I'd get from this dumbass subreddit. Take me seriously or fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 09:36 AM
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Because I am a human and generally share a lot of experiences with other humans, like sadness, loneliness, and rejection. I will never assume I know exactly what other people are going through, but I don't need to live something to have an opinion on it. You don't need to have a job taking orders in a drive thru to know how the drive thru is supposed to function 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:57 AM
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No way you just created two COMPLETELY DIFFERENT scenarios where the people lied about different things just to rationalize that women lying is worse. Of course it's apples and oranges when you intentionally make one worse than the other. Here, let me fix it for you. If a man lies to sleep with a woman, the damage is immediate and the relationship won't last long. It won't take a girl long to find out the man isn't a millionaire like he claimed (for example). If a woman lies to sleep with a man,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:38 AM
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I think it does. If you changed, that was for a reason, right? Your long term partner should know those kinds of things about you. If they're right for you, that won't deter them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:33 AM
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A lot of women lie. A lot of men lie. It's really not a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:29 AM
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That's a lot more reasonable than I would expect just from hearing "I want a submissive woman". You and your wife sound like a great couple!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 08:09 PM
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Having a sexual history means you aren't loyal?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:19 AM
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Damn you're right. Let me get off my birth control and get pregnant so I can have sex during the most hormonally volatile and sleepless time in my life. Stupidest shit I've ever read
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:12 AM
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Well that's how radicalizing happens. You have an opinion and you become immersed into a space that encourages you to hold more and more extreme views.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:09 AM
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he said that the sex is amazing and primal between them, he saw a side of her that her boyfriend will probably never see How the fuck does he know how she is during sex with her boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:07 AM
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A lot of homophobia is based on criticism of feminine behavior in men. That seems more like sexism to me, but either way I agree it's a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:16 PM
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Nobody should settle. If you feel like you've settled, your relationship isn't going to be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:02 PM
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Another thought provoking post. This is what I like to see here /gen
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:26 AM
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That's a big generalization. Evidence needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 05:04 PM
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very small minority Evidence needed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 05:03 PM
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Sure, and there are definitely men who feel that way about women. But that doesn't mean they represent their entire gender. You can find many people saying the opposite if you just look.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:06 AM
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believe whoever you want, it's a free country Then why do you have a problem with someone choosing to believe the woman...?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:30 AM
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Same, agree with basically everything except that. Just because some men don't notice the expectations they have for women doesn't mean they don't exist lmao. I think most of us would agree that people who say men aren't expected to do anything are wrong, so why are we ignoring how stupid that statement is when it's about women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 02:27 AM
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Hard disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 11:41 PM
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I'm sure the quote applies to someone out there, but it's thinking too hard. Women do desire men. "Responsive desire" is, a lot of the time, about romance and foreplay (feeling valued). Our societal norms just do not encourage women to express desire like men do, especially publicly/for multiple people. Edit: I've seen a lot of men say that they want a woman who breaks her "rules" for them, because it means she really desires them. You could say the same for women; we want to see a man break his…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 11:39 PM
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Think what you want, but I'm telling you it came across that way. Your intent does not matter. Edit: did you block me after saying I'm being a victim? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 07:13 PM
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ND people have a hard time socially =/= ND people have harmful views or tend toward the redpill/manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:19 AM
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I agree with what you said about ND people finding it hard to connect, but the original reply was insulting redpillers by associating them with a negative trait and you added autism on to that. Just because some incels are autistic doesn't mean autistic people tend toward those views, and it's harmful for NT people to associate autism with incels/the manosphere. Plenty of bluepill, redpill, and happily married autistic people in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:17 AM
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Seems like you're using autism as an insult. That is not a good thing to do. There are autistic women and men from all walks of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 12:46 AM
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I'm just pointing out that women are judged too, though not in the same way men are. And that was an example, it also applies to unmarried women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 12:37 AM
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generally women are not This does happen but it's mainly between (immature) women. Ever heard "well MY husband does ___" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 06:14 PM
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I generally agree with what you're saying about other factors influencing libido. There are people who have little/no sexual attraction out there though, I don't know if I'd say it's fringe. And it seems like an awkward or weird view of your feelings on sex would be an unhealthy no matter what they are
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 06:11 PM
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I'd consider myself demisexual if we're being specific about sexuality and you are incorrect, it is separate from libido. In my relationship I initiate the majority of the time. When I'm single I still have the drive, it's just not directed toward anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 06:06 PM
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Hypergamy = dating someone you're attracted to...??
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 09:53 PM
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You really can't determine all of it from a first or second date. The way I learned my guy met these standards was I found someone who I thought was promising + met the most basic obvious ones, then over time I watched how he reacted to situations that came up naturally and if his behavior 1) matched up with his words and 2) was what I wanted in a partner. So I just verified the major things (no cats, kids, etc) and then let him show me the rest. You have to know the desired/undesired behaviors …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:50 AM
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If something's a dealbreaker, contradicts your values, or doesn't match up with your life/career goals you shouldn't compromise, but if you don't feel strongly about whatever it is then who cares. There are different levels. Like, Rihanna is beautiful. Most people just don't care that she's got a big forehead. But if my partner's forehead size was something I felt very strongly about, compromising on that would just lead to both people being unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:29 AM
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I'll give another perspective since it's the same situation for me (high standards unrelated to looks/income and I found someone who meets them), just a different list: reasonably nice to other people makes major decisions with the future in mind will speak up if he is unhappy; not afraid of confrontation treats my dogs well; no cats I'm allergic can express feelings well enough for us to properly resolve issues takes care of me when I'm sick will act without my input when needed able to learn n…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:06 AM
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I mean this kindly, do you recognize that you are also someone over 35 who has baggage? (Not the best word, but I couldn't think of another.) You said you can't commit to anyone after divorcing. This woman went to you in her time of need because she trusts you. You know the situation than I do, of course, but does her having a moment where she needed support really mean she's any more emotionally broken than you? Don't feel guilty about something you had no part in. It sounds like you're a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:35 AM
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Of course some do. If you look at comments on videos of women doing normal things you'll see the same thing from men. People are just like that sometimes, and it's worse on the internet where you can imagine whatever you want about others. Just be aware that a LOT of the comments on reddit, instagram, etc are bots. Lots more than any of us think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:06 AM
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Choice for hookups, really. Dudes online want casual and will say they want commitment just to get sex, so I wouldn't use apps as a measuring stick
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:39 AM
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When you say "women," how many do you mean? 50%, 75%? chasing good looking men and failing to secure commitment, instead of accepting they're playing a game they're unlikely to win after they tire of this game, too many women settle for lesser men Would you not say that settling for lesser men is actually women accepting they're playing a losing game and thus choosing a better partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:37 AM
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ChatGPT?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:51 AM
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Easy, anyone who says all attractive men behave that way and all less attractive men want to behave that way is either lying or projecting (and they don't care about what's good for women, only what hypothetically benefits them). What you look like does not determine how good of a person you are and it's silly some people pretend it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 09:32 PM
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I think the definition of a trans woman is someone who has transitioned from a man to a woman, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:34 AM
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Notice how he didn't answer your question 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:33 AM
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Genuinely, what's the point in faking so much of your life that it becomes second nature? Why not just be who you're pretending to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:30 AM
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Good luck, I'm pretty sure they're too busy circlejerking to listen to a single word you said lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:29 AM
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Can I ask why you wouldn't want to trade places with women in the dating world? Just curious since I usually don't hear that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:25 AM
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Women have to do all that stuff too. It's hard to have hobbies in general right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 04:36 AM
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And about the "can't get women their own age," this is another generalization that's only meant to show that 30+ women are less prone to manipulation since their experience helps them recognize the signs and shut down toxic dynamics. A better way to rephrase this could be "older men who want a malleable women will have a hard time finding someone their age since those women know better." Just like how the majority of 30+ men don't chase after very young women, those men absolutely can get women …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 08:38 PM
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That's understandable, thanks for answering!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:56 AM
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Instead of trying to make everyone follow one set of rules, we could just communicate with the person we're romantically interested in and cut it off if they refuse to clarify things or if they don't have the same goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:11 AM
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A lot of arguments and misunderstandings I see between people is because they might be using the same words but they have different definitions of those words Specifically in this sub I've gone from intensely disagreeing with someone to agreeing with them just by asking them to explain what they mean. I wish we'd all be a little more specific sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:18 PM
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"Hey friend, I understand what you're going through, but I've noticed a pattern in the guys you've been going out with. Is it possible you're subconsciously choosing these guys based on qualities you're familiar with, but aren't good for you in a relationship?" If she doesn't connect the dots then, there's nothing I can do. I just won't listen to her complain anymore and/or we probably won't be as close. In my experience, the adult women who are like this (have enough experience to know what to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:43 AM
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There is no context that justifies this 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:34 AM
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Tell a woman to avoid players that fuck around a lot? Misogyny Tell a man to avoid slutty women with high n-count? Believe it or not, also misogyny. Both of these are generally said with the framing that the woman is the issue ("women should choose better" vs "avoid slutty women"). If someone is shaming women either way without giving men the same treatment, I'm calling it misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:34 AM
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What a nuanced comment, I love it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:53 AM
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10 years a while. What made you wait so long, if you don't mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:29 PM
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Then you'll just be cheated on by someone you don't even like lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:26 PM
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I could wear dino slippers and someone out there would have a fetish for it. No point in making outfit choices based on that really
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:05 PM
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Ah, the old "I'm right and you're wrong"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:21 AM
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Why would we lie just to paint women in the best light? That's male coded. See how bad of an argument that is
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 11:38 PM
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It's funny bc the men I know irl are not even CLOSE to being as sex-craved. Plenty of dudes who choose to be single than be with someone who isn't right for them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 11:36 PM
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If it's affecting how you feel toward people I would genuinely get off the sub. That's not good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 11:33 PM
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If she gets some dude by posting a cleavage pic I would not call that scoring lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 11:32 PM
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Eh agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 11:29 PM
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That's what I just said?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 11:05 PM
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Care about his appearance. And not in a "I like guys who are hot and take showers" type of way. I love seeing effort being put into the small things, like good color coordination, well cared for nails, or accesories/jewelry that complement the clothes. They're not really requirements, but to me they show confidence and thoughtfulness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:33 PM
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I wouldn't consider that being fooled unless they were lying to me or acting out of character. If he tries to impress me and it works, that's a win for both of us 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:25 PM
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Yeah, I see what you mean now. Sucks that some people hear it and think they should just be an asshole because it doesn't matter. It does, but being nice isn't enough on its own
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:21 PM
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No, a twink is a guy who looks slim, "cute" (as opposed to "hot"), and sometimes younger depending on who's talking. It used to just be a term used by gay men but now non-LGBT people say it too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:18 PM
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Oh that's genius. I'm gonna see if I can steal this to use in a non-romantic context lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:09 PM
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guys tend to constantly ask us where we wanna go or what we wanna do. When we wanna hangout If a guy's go to is just ask me about everything, I get the vibe that he wants me to plan it all and doesn't feel like putting in effort. That or he's not capable of even trying to make decisions, which is arguably worse. So frustrating
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:01 PM
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I think the conversation about nice/hot is fucked because nobody explains whether they're wanting long term or short term. Short term, hot will get you further. Long term, good is a requirement for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 08:33 PM
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12% body fat is extremely low for a woman. Like competing bodybuilder, you can see every muscle type of low
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 08:29 PM
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To be fair, I hold off on complimenting men most of the time because it makes them (or other people) think you're into them if you do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 08:28 PM
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Women who like twinks exist, so I would not say this is a rule
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 08:26 PM
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Do you understand that there will always be mean people, regardless of gender? That someone out there will always hold a view that opposes yours? Why are you expecting people living all walks of life to agree with you on what good advice is and how to treat people in need?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:00 AM
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Or maybe some people just learn and grow, and they decided they don't want to sleep with people immediately anoymore. This view is not realistic because it does not allow people to change
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 07:02 PM
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Great thread for adding to my blocklist thanks op
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:40 PM
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Eh all these things have negative effects on both genders so I think that's probably a good reason to care
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 10:11 PM
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Huh, this kinda changes how I view the whole "trophy wife" thing. Because why wouldn't you want a partner you can show off in some way?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:24 AM
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I don't get it. You think providing accomodation for people with different needs than you is bad? Of course women will have a separate bathroom. And in my experience free pads/tampons are always provided by the women who use it, not the workplace itself. There are medical problems that men have, like ED, which are covered by insurance that are not relevant to me. If a man breaks his leg he gets extra attention/breaks at work and time off for recovery, too. I've worked with someone who had a kid …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:12 PM
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This is all great advice
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:05 PM
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Sexism does contribute to this kind of shitty behavior, though. If you're a guy who doesn't consider women to be on the same level as men (especially unconsciously), you will end up taking their space without noticing. In my experience, most of the people who are walking side by side and don't move to let me through are men, even though this is behavior that can come from both women and men. I can tell when people automatically assume I, being a woman, would move for them vs simply not being awa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 09:24 PM
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I don't think this behavior is related to gender personally
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:26 AM
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Luck = preparation + opportunity. You could meet a good guy at the wrong time in your life when you aren't mature enough to be a good partner. You could also be ready for the right person and not know someone who fits that role yet. I think you can try to surround yourself with people who are good for you, but outside of that there's only so much in your life you can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:22 AM
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I mean. If you search for a specific thing, then you're going to find examples of that thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 08:03 AM
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I'm confident that my bf can shut women down effectively, but if a woman tries to hit on him while I'm around she's gonna get embarrassed. That's not me fighting over him (I've already won lol), it's me telling her I don't tolerate disrespect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:49 AM
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Since you're curious, I think if a woman chooses to keep a surprise kid the man doesn't want, he should be allowed to give up financial responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:20 AM
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Cut them some slack? I wasn't hounding them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:12 AM
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That's not what sensory overload is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 07:12 AM
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Ok Mr Shapiro
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 06:56 AM
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Learn to live with it. Hair removal is a lot of work and it'd be selfish of me to ask someone to continually do it for me imo. But even though I don't care for body hair, leg hair specifically isn't a big deal for me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 06:31 AM
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The reason Aragorn is a good role model is not because he is a king. That genuinely does not even factor into it except for giving him an opportunity to show off his qualities in the story People who can be widely known as role models are by default going to have something unachievable. Fame, money, smarts. That's how they become widely known. But that's not the reason they're good role models.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:49 PM
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Weren't you the one saying we weren't animals. Can we be normal please
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:48 AM
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Unrelated but that guy who makes videos of the owls and kestrels raising chicks on youtube is my favorite. Highly recommend the video of the kestrel dad learning to raise the chicks after the female left
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:23 AM
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Now let's add that 75% of onlyfans creators make less than $100/mo and being top 1% means you're making like... a livable wage https://worldmetrics.org/onlyfans-income-statistics/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 10:23 PM
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That's fair. I could see either way really
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:39 PM
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No offense but why would I answer if you just said in the post you don't believe we can. What am I gonna say to change anyone's mind lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:14 PM
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Do you ever feel like you wish you could have been the more naive version of yourself for someone that really deserved it, even though you know the lessons you learned are what made you a good partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:05 AM
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Yeah and when you start shooting people they're gonna kill you to stop it lol. It escalates situations to that level when they might not have needed it. Maybe those home invaders were just gonna steal and leave, but then I came out with my gun and they felt like they needed to kill me so they would live. I'd guess that's why, but I need to actually look at a study or two to confirm so take it with a grain of salt To be clear I am not against owning guns, I just think there are potential downside…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:55 AM
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1) We do lol 2) I'm pretty sure owning a gun technically increases your likelihood of being killed 3) Guns immediately escalate any situation to fatal violence and that's not always the best option 4) Being street smart is going to get you out of more situations than a gun will (it's just nice to know you have it if things go south) 5) BJJ is more useful for women imo I don't currently own one because I'm not confident I can safely store it outside of a dedicated safe, and I don't see the point …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:42 AM
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Hmmmmmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:35 AM
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Yeah I've done it, it doesn't work. Idk why anyone but the naive person in the relationship would think this is even an option
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:26 AM
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Some gay people (and even straight people) adhere to gender norms, but plenty don't and are making it work just fine. It's surprisingly easy. Someone initiates or maybe you fall together somehow and just both do whatever feels right. Express yourself however you want. Good communication, especially about your expectations for a relationship, is what's going to make it go smoothly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 06:43 PM
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they went to a club and all the guys stare instead of approaching Genuinely this has to be because we're too fucked from social media to know how to interact with each other, right? If you want men to approach you, try being approachable. You see a guy staring at you and you want him to talk to you, idk, smile at him??? Step away from talking to your friends for a couple seconds to adjust your clothes or get a drink or something so he can talk to you without a live audience?? I feel like I'm tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:07 AM
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You can get emotional connection from other non-sexual relationships in your life, and temporary relief by jerking off. Sex is good but it is not a need the same way food, water, air, and social connection is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 08:37 PM
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Where did I say fantasy romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 08:26 PM
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Yeah and all the fantasy books and stories have taught men that they will get princesses and women with rich/high status families falling in love with them instantly as rewards for doing good. But those are fantasy stories for a reason, aren't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 08:22 PM
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The Satanic Temple seems pretty cool actually
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:33 PM
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Yeah I just think there isn't enough info either way. Sometimes people aren't achieving anything of note, but sometimes the people around them are assholes or just don't appreciate them for whatever reason. I've experienced both. It's hard to judge based off one statement
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:31 PM
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If a woman rejects you, she doesn't wanna be with you. Taking it well won't change anything for her specifically
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 04:14 PM
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I disagree. You don't know anything about their circumstances. Thanks for the downvote though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 04:08 PM
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This is a pretty big assumption
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 03:56 PM
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Makes sense, thanks for answering.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 11:13 PM
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Well let's say this particular woman is consistent in that sense. How do you know she has a strong desire for you or not without her having sex with you? Do you think it's possible?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 11:12 PM
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In your opinion, what does a strong desire for you look like early into the relationship? Specifically in the context of what OP mentioned (women don't want hookups as much as men do, higher risk, etc). I'm asking because of course it's good to not want someone that will use you for resources, but how do you guys tell someone who genuinely doesn't desire you apart from someone who does desire you but is more reserved? Because from the outside, it seems like a lot of advice is like oh if she does…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:45 PM
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Why did you link the search you did with the AI overview instead of just linking the source? If you don't care enough to properly verify and cite your sources, then neither do I. Low quality post.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:47 AM
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This is the only answer I've seen to the actual question so far lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:35 AM
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Most women are neither successful nor independent Can you elaborate on what you mean by this? Do you have a source?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:32 AM
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More men = more food for the tribe = healthier women and kids though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:34 AM
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/s ???????
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 12:29 AM
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I knew what your point was. I am trying to say that if you want a long-term relationship, human evolution does not matter as much as you think it does. You have to think about life beyond just having sex with someone because there is a lot more to a relationship than sex. There is more to life than sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 10:00 PM
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This is going to look different for every woman. And beyond that, what do you do when the infatuation is gone? Drop them and go on to the next person because they aren't having sex with you 24/7? This isn't how you build a long-lasting relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 09:55 PM
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My bad, forgot that people couldn't have different motivations and reasons for the decisions they make. Someone doing bad does not mean that good things aren't possible
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 09:49 PM
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Life is enough of a test. As long as you have what it takes to leave when you see an incompatibility, you don't need to do anything but watch how someone reacts to situations that naturally come up. You will never realistically be able to test someone enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:59 PM
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I'm not perfect, but I care. Lots of people on this sub are here solely because they care
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:40 AM
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Confidence comes from success What does your ideal relationship look like? What role would you play in that relationship? Would you be able to fulfill that role? Yes? There's your confidence. The dating preferences of men and women can only be understood in the context of sexual selection and evolution. Eh, agree to disagree on this one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 10:36 PM
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Yeah I get that, in this case I'm talking about the times we communicate and I'm intentionally being a roadblock. Men do get agressive sometimes when you say no and this is to avoid that. It's just a thing we all do
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 10:34 PM
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Spoken like a dumbass
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:20 PM
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The first one is a moral judgement and the second two are legal. The first one is also legal and I think lots of people would disagree with the other two morally. You're comparing different things
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 07:26 PM
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You should be allowed to drink at 18 in the US considering you can join the military and vote
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 07:25 PM
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Also from a woman's perspective sometimes we do this on purpose because we talked and she told me she doesn't want your attention. Obviously this isn't always the case, but if you're being pushy or overly sexual of course I'm cockblocking you so you don't get aggressive with her when she says no. You weren't going home with her, we were just avoiding direct confrontation. key word sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 07:10 PM
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That's not nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 11:49 AM
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This is exactly what it means. It doesn't mean never act it just means stop focusing so hard on it that you can't think about anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:15 PM
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I think both my bf and I are prizes. I'm not him, but safe to say he agrees. If it were any other way, then I (or he) could easily behave worse because well, he should just be grateful to be with me. But since we both have self-confidence, it establishes mutual respect. I know he wouldn't stay with me if I was an immature dumbass and vice versa. So I trust he's with me not because he thinks he can't do better, but because he actually likes me and thinks I'm a good fit. I agree with you, just exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:53 PM
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I think we've come past basic biology in so many ways that this isn't really applicable anymore. Not sure anything about our daily lives is natural. And nature can be very ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:42 PM
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You don't have to act like women or have a huge ego. Just be confident that you would be a good partner and scrutinize partners accordingly. That doesn't mean making them jump through hoops, it means asking questions, being assertive, wondering if they're the right fit for you/your life instead of you being the right fit for them. Something I think would be healthy for everyone really. Men compete with other men for access to sex and women want to get fucked by the hottest, fittest men The world…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:36 PM
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Sure, but how far are you going with that? Are you being cautious to protect yourself, or are you judging them for something they didn't do? There's a point where it crosses a line.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:01 AM
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That depends on what you want. Some men are so easy that they won't ever put full effort into a relationship because they just took the first thing they could get. They're content to go through life not really caring about much, including you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:54 AM
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Yeah if you go down to the local park maybe. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:34 AM
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From one of my previous comments: The only thing I agree with here is the man proposing. I'm getting pregnant, I'm giving birth, I will probably sacrifice career growth in the future for the family. Even most marriage ceremonies are primarily about the woman if we're being honest ("ball and chain" and all that). The man can do this one thing to show his devotion to the relationship. The price doesn't even matter to me as long as the ring itself is chosen with care.* *as long as it isn't offensiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 11:51 PM
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It does. You have to click not interested and like other things to get them off your feed, it's a conscious decision
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:44 PM
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I hope you didn't think I was trying to say all men are abusive. The view that all men are abusive is a very online one, and it honestly makes me sad because it just seems like the person doesn't know any normal men irl. Abuse can be perpetrated by both men and women, and just because it happens doesn't mean that half the population is made up of abusers
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:32 PM
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They're different (from NT women) bc they're more likely to be abused due to being autistic
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:17 PM
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I think it applies about equally. A lot of RP men here are married and seem pretty mature and happy. There are definitely people, RP and BP, who participate because they are empathetic to dating struggles and/or find the social dynamics interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:14 PM
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I know sometimes people genuinely are trying and only use reddit to vent when they're feeling defeated and don't want to subject people they know to that negativity. How common is that compared to people who aren't trying at all idk, but it does happen
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:09 PM
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You don't have to have casual sex if you want sex. You can just have sex in a relationship lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:06 PM
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A comment I made 4 days ago: As for the other stuff, I'm not against women initiating (I have cold approached before), but I prefer for the man to make the first move because I feel like it helps weed out men who don't put effort into relationships. But the guy needs to know that I want to be with him too, so I can't let him make every major decision by himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:54 PM
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How much casual sex do you think counts?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 02:39 AM
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What's the cock carousel in your eyes?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:49 AM
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That's like the perfect approach. Respectful, honest and with an offer to help. It's cool that she took you seriously and it worked out for her in the end
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:48 AM
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I think if you can decide what advice not to take from men and why, you should be able to decide what advice you can take from women. The only thing that matters if the advice is helpful, and you will lose out on good advice by excluding people based on gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:30 PM
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Thanks, that explains it. I expected the real numbers to be about even, but given that women initiate divorce more often than men, this doesn't surprise me. Wonder why that one study got such different results. Maybe the health conditions they studied? You should definitely include these in your post
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 02:19 AM
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women are more interested in any narrative of victimhood they can use to leverage discord elsewhere Which ones? A certain group, or all of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 12:53 AM
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Thanks for sharing that the study was retracted. Mistakes happen, and I'm glad they did the responsible thing. The article about it is over a year old, though. Did you look for any more information? I'd like to know if they have plans to publish the corrected version. While 515 marriages is not as large of a sample size as anyone would like, that is quite a lot of seriously ill couples, and it does show a pattern. I don't think this study is the end all be all, but it shouldn't be completely dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 12:46 AM
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Even if you and other men don't want empathy, I think it's still a good thing to have. Means they care. Lots of people caring about something is how change happens
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 12:16 AM
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How many women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:39 PM
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Empathy is feeling whatever emotions a person is feeling along with them. They don't even have to be on the same level. If someone's close relative died and I haven't experienced that, but I have lost a pet before, I can still empathize - I've felt loss and grief, this person must be feeling that but so much worse right now. It's just a way to show you care, and when you know someone else is feeling the same, it can alleviate some of the pain. Having empathy does not mean you need to solve their…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:03 PM
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I don't agree with everything in this post or think it applies to all women, but in general, yes. The reaction some people had to Timothee Chalamet... getting older and having a girlfriend (?) made it pretty clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 12:36 AM
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I haven't thought about it from that perspective before so I'm honestly not sure. Maybe just social programming?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 12:18 AM
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Why is love something to be earned as a man through your actions but something you simply deserve as a woman? This is not the dynamic I believe in, but I would think that when someone is chasing you, the assumption is that you're desirable enough in some way that you've already met these requirements. This doesn't mean you can't do anything to fuck it up, of course, but it's up to the man to prove himself now since he chose you. why is the man supposed to make the first move, establish the relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 11:19 PM
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You're married... her future IS your future. Better hope you stay in working condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:45 PM
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I wouldn't even bother because people will believe what they want regardless of studies
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:23 AM
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I agree. I think it's better to not have a strict timeline/requirements for having sex, and instead have general guidelines you follow for yourself so you can decide when the time is right.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:01 AM
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So my main problem here is that even only having sex in committed relationships will still mean you're subject to those same harsh judgements that someone who has had casual sex is subject to, just because you aren't a virgin. It's very regressive and starts to sound like the goal is for women to marry the first person they date, no matter how compatible they are. And that's beside the fact that men aren't judged the same for having casual sex. You can easily apply the same logic to men if you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:54 PM
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Holy strawman
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 05:59 PM
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Women are the ones going through pregnancy so I don't think this makes sense on a large scale. But we aren't wild animals, so I support it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:17 AM
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On the other hand, those people are AMAZING for sewing, cosplay, modeling, or any type of craft where you need to know accurate info. If I'm playing minecraft and I want to build a historically accurate viking longhouse, I'm not reading some random site's basic ass summary, I'm going to find one of these guys' blogs. The more obnoxiously nitpicky, the better lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:21 AM
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That's why I get the triple chocolate smores fudge brownie cookie dough 3000. It's 2% ice cream 98% bullshit. Delicious
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 11:18 PM
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wear nice perfume (women love nice smell) Dior Sauvage. Yes, it's a common cologne. That's because it smells good. Once you have your own taste you can branch out, but if you're new to cologne and want something women like start with Sauvage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 02:54 AM
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So yesterday you guys were saying that women shouldn't tell their male friends about their sex lives, and today it's deception if they don't??? I know different people answer different threads but this is literally the complete opposite of what was happening yesterday
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 03:47 PM
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If someone wants to do that, they will whether you're giving your number to them or asking them for theirs tbh. From a woman's pov the cops will laugh you out of the station if you tried to report something like that. Even actual sexual assault reports won't go anywhere without evidence, and there are people who won't believe it or care even when action is taken. But I do understand the general fear of mob mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 09:41 PM
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Criticizing people when they didn't ask for it is generally considered mean
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:55 PM
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Giving her your number is risking SA now? Gimme a break
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:52 PM
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A common theme I've seen in this sub is that men don't want a women to settle for them, they want someone who is actually attracted to them. Why do you guys seem to hate this idea? Sure, she might not text you, but if she does, it's safe to assume she's attracted to you. This is also more considerate than asking a random woman for her number and making her risk a negative reaction to her saying no, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:50 PM
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He says it in the post. Are you fucking with me or are you actually just stupid?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 06:35 PM
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OP did also include his friends telling him how they "loved this guy" in what he doesn't wanna hear about, so I don't think it's just about sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 06:23 PM
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Why is being mean to people wrong? We have collectively decided that doing unneccesary harm to other people is bad. Shaming someone for having sex, something that literally almost everyone does, is unneccesary harm, and as a bonus the people who do it usually don't have the same view toward men having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:38 AM
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I agree. There are a lot of situations where harmless socially awkward or autistic people don't know how to follow the script the exact right way, and it sucks to know that it can come off as creepy even when you haven't done anything wrong. I hope that's not the conclusion everyone comes to when they try to find an explanation for the feeling of something being off.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 11:32 PM
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I think it would be important at this point to make a distinction between misandry in the systemic sense vs misandry in the way most people would define it. Men aren't discriminated against systemically to the same degree women are, but "I will treat someone badly because they are a man" misandry definitely does exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 11:07 PM
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Do you think that my comment was a reflection of me having a victim complex, or are you just venting? I agree that we can all be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 10:29 PM
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I think gaming is a hobby that often eats up enough of your time that you find yourself ignoring your partner, and that's why some women reject guys because of it. You can obviously have that issue with other hobbies, but with gaming it's just so easy to do. It feels really shitty when you want to spend time with someone but they play games until they're too tired to do anything else. My bf and I both play lots of video games and there are times where we get too into it and have to step back and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:13 PM
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I don't think this generation is any weaker than the others. People have been complaining about younger generations since the beginning of humanity. The only difference now is that social media lets us see more bad things going on in the world, and look into spaces we'd never otherwise go in.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 12:53 AM
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I agree, but I'm not sure some people believe that life even exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 12:40 AM
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I took "Moses from IT" to mean an average guy. From what I've seen, men with self-confidence issues tend to think that they're very unattractive when really they have a mix of attractive and unattractive features just like everyone else. So I'd push back on your statement about unattractive guys because I know there are people who falsely think that applies to themselves. Separate from that, imo it's extremely hard for someone to be so unattractive that nobody will ever like them as long as they…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 11:35 PM
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Well, yeah. I don't think all men are like this or even most. But the ones that are sure stick out
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 11:17 PM
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The answer is that it's not okay for women to hate men either
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:00 PM
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Could men not do the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:44 PM
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Those are some crazy high standards
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:43 AM
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What the fuck?? She think everyone can read her mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:17 AM
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This is a very well-written and reasonable post, and it still expresses a strong opinion. Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:15 AM
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Or they say they're not gonna do it and then just try it anyway because they think you're totally going to like it once you experience it 🫩
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:04 AM
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I've seen heavy justification of abuse and rape from men here too, so I don't think it's one-sided
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 05:57 AM
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How are they perpetuating hookup culture by themselves? I'm sure you don't mean they're only hooking up with other women, so men must be participating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 05:55 AM
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Being into, liking the appearance of, wanting to be in a relationship with. I would raise an eyebrow but I wouldn't question that he's attracted to his wife, you know? It's not like you go from being hot to being ugly if you have an imperfect feature. So if I say I like Moses from IT then I like him, the mix of conventionally attractive and unattractive features this person has, and those conventionally unattractive features are part of what makes him the whole I am attracted to. I may have a pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:57 AM
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How do you explain men like Moses from IT getting married and having kids? I see average couples all the time. There's no way they aren't attracted to each other. Even half of them not being attracted to each other wouldn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:22 AM
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Cheating is definitely not extremely rare lol (men and women)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:14 AM
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My one issue is that when you say you're into someone like Moses from IT, men on here just tell you you're lying. So there's really no winning with these people, either you confirm what they think or you're not telling the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:08 AM
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I don't think it's like this If I’m not attracted in the first second I meet you, I’ll never be attracted no matter what for everyone (for me it's not), but 100% agree with being able to get away with so much shit when you're hot. The difference in how people treat me when I'm dolled up vs just regular old me is fucking stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:43 PM
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I don't consider some of those things to be game? I wouldn't just be doing favors or giving rides because I wanted to date someone. I definitely wouldn't be lending money or letting them live with me. That's not showing them I'm a good person, just that I'm desparate and a pushover. I want them to see I'm capable of being a good partner, but I'm also going to let them have the opportunity to do the same thing. Ex: I look pretty, he picks me up. I guide the conversation and make things easy for h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:26 PM
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Those are two situations where 1) people are likely to lie and 2) even when you hear the truth, it's because the truth was noteworthy enough for someone to go out of their way to tell you about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:26 PM
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most young women nowadays at some point end up having a short-term fling or sexual situation-ship with a handsome, masculine Chad who’s 6'4", built like a QB, and has a 7" dick I would not agree with "most." Have you seen the women these guys get with? They aren't average women. him walking around the house shirtless in his underwear, seeing him in the kitchen making a smoothie or fetching milk from the fridge This is stuff that happens in an actual relationship, not hookups or short-term. Think…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:22 PM
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I guess, yeah. Everyone has different ideas of what the best is though, and to me that's someone loyal and considerate. If you want to reduce it down to survival you can. A dedicated partner will support you and a kid more than a hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:27 AM
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Might being the key word. If we couldn't learn impulse control we wouldn't have been able to get this far as a species
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 12:42 AM
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So you're assuming that I follow an established pattern of behavior instead of taking into account that I have my own goals. I want kids. Why would I waste my time hooking up with someone like a celebrity if I could have a lifelong relationship (and better sex) with someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 11:24 PM
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It's interesting that this is what you took from my comment. Please explain your thought process to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:12 PM
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I think the "you knew what you were getting into" sentiment I'm seeing is interesting. There's no way to know the potential risks of being a financially dependent SAHP if you're young, don't have kids, and have never been married.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 06:38 AM
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I agree with your conclusion but I don't think I agree with how you got there. Even in relationships, you're going to face rejection. Nobody wants to have sex literally all the time, nobody wants to do everything you want to do when you want to do it, nobody agrees with all your opinions. That doesn't mean you're being judged. You should be able to handle those situations like an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 04:46 AM
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What the loaded question is this
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 04:34 AM
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For me, having access to FWB/ONS makes no difference. I only want to sleep with someone I have feelings for in the context of a relationship. I want the emotional intimacy and trust. Hookups just aren't an option. So you make peace with the fact that being single means you're choosing to only be with people who are good for you and want the same things. It's like if I said "why do men care about hookups when they could just pay a prostitute?" Well, there's a difference between sex with a sex wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:48 PM
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Of course it is. Woman sucks your dick? Well, gay people do that. Fucking a woman? Swap her out with a man and it's gay! It makes sense when you really think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:09 PM
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That's a good point. People who practice BDSM in the bedroom don't always want that dynamic 24/7, though. I think there are a looot more people in the first group, especially when you take into account the people who do dom/sub stuff without realizing it. And at this point you're kind of getting into larger societal issues and nature vs nurture, like the question of how much of what you just mentioned is due to lingering sexism instead of women's preferences? I think if half of lawmakers/billion…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 07:51 PM
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Because in real life it's seen as bitchy. Or slutty, if you mean sexually
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:41 PM
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This is one of the most disingenuous arguments I've seen on this sub, and that's saying something. Happy holidays
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:36 PM
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Men need to be more open about liking "emasculating" stuff with each other bc it's more common than they think. Out here thinking it's gay when a woman dominates you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:32 PM
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I would not be surprised. But I'd worry if he found it emasculating? To me that signals some insecurities, and while everyone's insecure about something, having a disconnect between what you want and who you think you should be can really hurt you/your loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:24 PM
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Yeah, and then I said you might as well just let things develop naturally instead of trying as hard as you can to prove she's ugly. I really don't know where you got that I thought women are just ugly without makeup lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 09:04 PM
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Quote where I said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:01 PM
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Idk, I think having an attractive body absolutely would benefit you if you're short or conventionally unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 11:50 PM
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Do men not lift for their own health or for the community aspect? This isn't supposed to be a gotcha, more of a wtf moment for me. Because are all those guys seriously not even doing it for themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 11:40 PM
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Nah, let him think he's got it figured out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 11:32 PM
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Do y'all realize that we know what you're up to when you suggest swimming dates? If she already wants to go on a date with you, you might as well just let things develop naturally instead of trying as hard as you can to prove she's ugly. You're going to see her without makeup before long anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 11:31 PM
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No, they feel the same to me. Physically and emotionally
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 11:01 PM
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Lol, that's fair. I'll have to adjust my wording from now on
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 09:59 PM
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It's to avoid generalizing. I prefer "a lot" over "most" or "all" because I think those statements are pretty much always untrue, while "some" implies that the population who do this is few enough that it's not important. You also can't use percentages for opinions because then you're getting into pseudo-science bullshit. "A significant amount" is also a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:55 PM
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Enlighten me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:53 PM
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More like a copy of another user's post
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 04:31 PM
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Some women say what they want and live by it. Some women don't. The same is true for men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 10:23 PM
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Could she have grouped her points into general categories like you did? I've thought a lot about what I want in a partner and could make a list that long, but really they all boil down to being about the same as what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 10:20 PM
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How does that change anything I said
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:52 PM
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You said him wanting a partner that makes about as much as him is feminine and doesn't affect the relationship, but you also have a problem with wasting resources and not being a partner that contributes much. I assume you mostly mean financially. Wouldn't wanting a partner who makes around the same amount as you be the answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 07:49 PM
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Well, there are more factors that can affect libido. I'm not going to say this is a solution for everyone in every situation, but it's also wrong to say it's just a ruse to exploit men. If your sex life is lacking and your girl is always stressed about something, taking care of that something could absolutely let her chill out enough to want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 05:39 PM
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Preferences are feminine? You think how much your partner makes doesn't affect the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 05:33 PM
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Sex having a positive effect on productivity and focus does not mean your career is, or should be, threatened by not having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:09 AM
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Yeah, everything you do has consequences. Someone can beg and plead all they want but at the end of the day, that's your choice. If you weigh the pros and cons and decide to do it anyway, it's not someone else's fault. during this time he wouldn’t have access to constant sex...it would have a disruptive effect on his mental health which would in turn threaten his career As an adult, you should be able to deal with not having sex enough that you aren't going to lose your job over it. Six months o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:54 AM
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Y'all want people to actually find partners or what? These comments are blackpilled as hell
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:32 AM
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Sounded pretty autistic to me tbh with you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:18 AM
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I don't think there's a way to say this without minimizing the struggles of autistic women. I'm neutral on this since I feel like there's no unbiased answer (and no answer that doesn't pit people in the same community against each other), but I would like to point out that men are more likely to be diagnosed and to receive accomodations/"treatments" for autism, which includes getting help with social skills. The screening and research behind ASD also favors men: https://news.mit.edu/2022/studies…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:08 AM
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To me it's more like if you're always stressed about cleaning the house, someone taking that off your plate allows you the space to want sex (since you don't have to spend that energy on other things) one of the reasons no one takes women's advice seriously I've received valuable advice from both genders. You don't need to generalize to make a point
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:58 AM
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You can simply say no
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:50 AM
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No. Your issue was that if you asked directly if she wanted sex when she wasn't giving good body language, she would get upset, right? That's a potential solution. You should be considerate of your sexual partner's feelings because sex is something you make yourself vulnerable for. There are social consequences for being rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 06:13 PM
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You could try framing it as you being concerned for her well-being ("hey, you seem a little quieter than earlier, are you still into this? I don't want to hurt you"). That way it's not like you're demanding anything
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:48 PM
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I mean that sucks but I'd say that's better than being a rapist
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:45 PM
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Sure. But if that's all I learned from, I think I'd be lacking perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 03:59 AM
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I wonder how much of that 20% is made up of social media vs dedicated dating apps like Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 02:33 AM
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You read one sentence and immediately hit reply? It happens to the best of us
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 02:29 AM
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Did ChatGPT write this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 02:32 PM
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I added the part about men I know as an example, not because I think they're representative of the entire population. But since you asked, if I can't learn about the world from real life, what else would I learn from? I'm not going to get my life lessons from the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:36 AM
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I think that the average man is either 1) doing well enough romantically that they aren't too concerned about getting women, or 2) doing well enough mentally that they're fine not having a partner. Most of the single guys I know are single because they've set standards for themselves and are waiting for the right person to come along. They will cut off/break up with a woman if they think she's not a good partner. But people really are pairing up all the time, go to your nearest walmart and you'l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:28 PM
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I don't think validating it means you're saying it's correct. My view on this is that you can't change the way you feel, but you can understand your feelings and address why you feel that way. Emotions really aren't right or wrong by themselves, what you choose to do as a result of feeling them/how you communicate those emotions is where you can go wrong. So to me, validating would just be like "I feel this emotion because of this thing that happened." You can say you understand someone's upset …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:02 PM
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I'm tired and can't find anything but thinkpieces by googling this guy, can you explain what you mean by Schmittian in this context?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:29 PM
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We should all just wear wristbands that indicate what we're okay with. Taken, single, okay with being approached, don't want to be approached, and gender preference. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:26 PM
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A lot of the advice you hear as a man collapses into "you should have known better" That doesn't sound like good advice. Sometimes you genuinely don't, and sometimes there's no way to know better at all. we should acting like a failed approach means the guy violated some kind of rule I agree, but I can say that a significant amount (not most) of men who have approached me kept pushing after I said no, or they started off being really creepy ("you're standing on a stepstool to do this? I could pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:10 PM
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Yeah, if that's what the reply said I would just ignore it and listen to one that's more helpful tbh. Some people are never happy, but they aren't who you're trying to interact with anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:53 PM
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You are more likely to interact with or comment on a post that you disagree with Different women would like to be approached in different ways If this tells you anything, it's that you should be somewhere in the middle of the two extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 11:26 AM
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This is literally just a revenge fantasy lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:16 AM
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Not who you asked but I think so
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:14 AM
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Expecting help from anyone is how you get yourself hurt. You can only control your own actions
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:10 PM
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I wonder how much of this is due to women not being as physically strong on average. It'd be interesting to see if/how someone would choose to intervene in a situation where physical strength wasn't relevant. Then again, I guess it wouldn't matter in this conversation, because when people say "protector" they almost always mean a physical role.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:08 PM
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I agree with your title, but I don't think it's a double standard when women give men advice that works. If anything, the double standard is from society as a whole. Not sure taking your frustration out on women trying to help is a good thing. As long there are desperate men, women will find partners more easily. Will those be quality partners? Maybe not, but that's a different conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 04:43 PM
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And how is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 04:29 AM
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Yeah, the whole idea doesn't make sense to me. Options or not, if someone wants to cheat, they're gonna cheat one way or another. You just have to suck it up and choose to trust your partner until you have a reason not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:33 PM
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Well, what do you think is the best way to reject someone? From my view, sorry I have a boyfriend is respectful and to the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:20 PM
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Thanks for clarifying, I think I understand better now. I do think a lot of guys could benefit from having someone like that in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:10 PM
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"Sorry, I have a boyfriend" Extremely immoral and hurtful, yes. Right up there with "No thanks, I've already eaten."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 07:46 PM
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You want the government to force women to basically be the office pet/housekeeper/nurse to a bunch of men? Why would they need to be attractive if the goal is for them to clean up after you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 07:37 PM
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Yes, literally the same amount. I don't like talking about my SO online because he has no say in it, and I'm not comfortable using info about him to make a point. You’re saying you put 0 value in what he makes or what his height is? Well, if he's over 5 inches taller or shorter than me, it's going to be physically uncomfortable, so I wouldn't say I don't care at all. But where I grew up, being a tall woman was undesirable. I'm not even out of the norm, but expecting every man to be taller than y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 04:21 AM
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Then I assume you don’t tie a man’s value to his income or height then right? Yes, and I believe my choices reflect this. The guys I've dated have made the same as me, and I've dated men shorter and taller than me (I'm tall). I think he'd be very justified in avoiding me for thinking his value is determined by height or income. What if he loses his job? If he was born just 3 inches shorter, would I still love him? If he's wheelchair bound, will I leave? If I can't support him through the ups and…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 08:21 PM
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If a man thinks my value is plummeting as we both age, he's not going to be a trustworthy and reliable life partner. The goal is actually to avoid locking down someone like that. Every woman is young at some point in her life But not every woman is conventionally attractive, a quality that is determined largely at birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 07:56 PM
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I’ve happily dated women who are the opposite of me politically because they think heavily about the world This is also what's important to me. I don't think I could date someone the complete opposite of me politically since a lot of my views are based on my values, but I'm okay with dating someone who disagrees with me on some things as long as they have a reason for it. I don't care what your beliefs are, I can't respect them if you're unable to justify them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 07:50 PM
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Kind without boundaries = doormat Kind with boundaries = not a doormat
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 07:28 PM
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I believe that men do it significantly less Well, if you don't date men, you're not going to have these kinds of conversations with them in the first place. I think it's safe to say men tend to avoid confrontation with other men unless they feel it's absolutely necessary. The reason why we see this more than you is because we date men and see a different side of them than you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:28 AM
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I've heard these from men. Would it be fair for me to judge men as a whole because of those interactions?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:21 AM
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Either: They have an issue with one or a few women in their lives, so they're generalizing. Having nuance, admitting that your preconcieved notions aren't always right, and not judging someone for their gender is MUCH harder than the easier path of "these people suck so women suck." I don't care how you spin it, you can't make me believe that out of 50% of people on Earth, in your country, in your life, there aren't exceptions. They don't know or like any women on a personal level and they've be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:19 AM
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I think validating someone's emotions is a part of emotional intelligence. You don't have to agree or tell them they're right, just show that you understand they feel that way in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 09:42 PM
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Conversations like these should start off with everyone describing what exactly they think makes someone a slut
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 03:18 PM
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Well, sure. You're always going to get mixed messages if you're combining an entire group's opinions into one. There are more than two ways to approach women, though. That's why I gave an option that's not straight cold approaching or trying to be friends with someone. You establish a friendship, and unless something changes she could assume you aren't interested. You cold approach, and she could say no automatically because she doesn't know you. But if you talk to her and let her get your vibe …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 05:08 PM
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Okay, how? I don't think I've been hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 12:38 PM
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Feminists aren't the ones who arrested her for pornography
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:14 AM
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What the hell is this. If any of my male friends expect me to end up in a wheelchair defending them like they're my child they have lost their fucking mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 03:31 AM
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Well, I don't believe education about consent is the reason for that, but let's say it is. People are asking for consent more, so now they're fucking less. Is that worse than rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 04:49 PM
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That's an unfortunate miscommunication
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 04:43 PM
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I'd say a good middle line is approach, talk to her some, give her time to warm up to you a little bit before you ask her out somewhere. If someone leads with inviting me somewhere, I'll just say no because I don't know them at all. But having at least a conversation takes the pressure off, gives me time to actually think and decide how I feel, and still lets me keep the expectation that they're romantically interested and not trying to be besties. My bad for trying to be helpful on a post with …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 04:25 PM
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is it purely a coincidence to women that they date men they’re sexually attracted to Sex isn't a lesser form of intimacy, but if intimacy is based solely or primarily on sex then I do consider it to be underneath something like sex alongside an emotional connection, physical closeness, and quality time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 04:20 PM
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Imagine you walk up to your coworker's desk and their name plaque says they make $10 more than you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:55 PM
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100%. Even if there's a systemic problem that needs attention long-term, you should still be making short-term changes that directly affect your life, because that's what's going to matter the most. Most of that is just... talking to your partner honestly and figuring out what will make you both happy. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:52 PM
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I think most people would agree that forming a long-term relationship based solely on sex is bad (so do I). I also believe most people would say if you're in a complete dead bedroom situation, you should leave the relationship. Everyone has different priorities, but this is interesting to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:40 PM
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Does it not bother you that any connection with someone desperate for a better socioeconomic status might be inauthentic?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:32 PM
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I agree, but to me, that's not really what the problem is. I've been paid the same as guys and they'll still not do their share of housework. That's more the issue. Even in a SAHP situation, I think whoever works should still be doing household duties when they get home like they would if there was no SAHP, unless they've both decided otherwise or they have hired help. As a SAHP, your job is pretty much to be a nanny, not a 24hr nanny/cook/housekeeper. Sometimes it ends up that way and I feel li…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 11:58 AM
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From your link: the biggest complaint that is actually consistent with the numbers—that moms and dads do different blends of home work and paid work—is not necessarily a problem at all, and to insist otherwise is to devalue parents’ own preferences This is an opinion. Sure, you may not see certain things as a problem, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. They even say the biggest complaint is consistent with the numbers, they just think it's dumb. To be clear, I don't think that women always …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:10 AM
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Sacrifices someone else should make, but not you, of course. You say you'd gladly settle for the opposite, but here you are wanting to force women to sacrifice their independence instead of giving up yours. The fact that people even have this view is disturbing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 09:37 PM
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Because a lot of the time it seems like they're seeking a relationship with a power imbalance, where the woman is reliant on him and would have a hard time leaving if she wanted. Like they want to be in control of everything. It's unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 09:03 PM
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Finding dates, or dating overall? I think finding dates is generally harder for men since men initiating is the norm, but women and men aren't all that different in terms of how shitty we can be. Based on that, I don't see a reason why dating as a whole would be harder for either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 04:46 PM
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You said women don't get shamed for creepy behavior, I provided an example of me shaming a woman for creepy behavior. I can't change the world for you. First of all "Page not found" I linked it correctly but the comment I replied to was deleted, so that sounds like a reddit issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:37 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/nqqutz0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2 Man, I'm glad your husband is happy but that 23 year old should have been jailed. Me on a comment about someone's husband dating a 23 year old when he was 14
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 12:25 PM
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We must be in different areas, because people really do be fucking out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:24 AM
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I agree, though I think there are more good people in the world than it seems. We could all have a little more empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:23 AM
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Thanks, I could have been less combative in my reply so I'm sorry as well. I understand, especially with how a lot of discussion on how this sub can go. In my opinion the main reason birth control is such a big deal for women is because our reproductive/hormonal system is very intricate and can be thrown off so easily (or regulated, since BC is great for some women). Plus, it's all internal, so any actual procedure immediately becomes more invasive. You can make efforts to fix women being left o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:20 AM
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Kinda? If I'm sleeping with someone, that means I'm already into them enough for a relationship. I've never had overall bad sex in a relationship, but I have had relationships end because someone wasn't who I thought they were, not because I lost attraction or decided they weren't my type. So if the question is whether good sex outweighs a shitty personality or not, my answer is no. To me, sex gets better the more you trust and love your partner. Why would I be with a bad person just for sex whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 01:48 AM
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Huh? Where am I blaming men for anything? You're going after points I didn't make here, and the condescension is not needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 01:31 AM
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Same procedure as hormonal but instead of not having periods my periods would get worse? No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 01:25 AM
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Any thoughts on this being a side effect of misogyny? As in, "women are too weak to fight in wars so men should be drafted to go instead"?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 10:51 AM
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Cuck is short for cuckold, try that one. It means a guy who likes when their partner has sex with other men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 02:28 AM
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I don't think that's what cuck means. But if we're going by OP's definition, that's more sad than anything to me. I have some things I'd put my foot down about, and there are things my partner would put his down for, but relationships don't work well when you don't care about the other person. Have boundaries, sure, but why be married if you aren't willing to prioritize your spouse or make sacrifices for their wellbeing?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 02:25 AM
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Hmmm. Abortion/reproductive rights is the main one that comes to mind, but I'll admit I haven't put much thought and research into this. The real question to me is, do you think policies toward men are more harmful in practice than non-policy discrimination against women? They can often have similar effects. I believe the things you listed are results of "benevolent sexism," and the best way I can describe this idea would be ideas like "women are too incompetent to work so men should bear the bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 02:07 AM
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Damn, I wonder how so many people are getting into relationships and hooking up then?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 03:30 PM
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I don't think most men push that idea, but I also don't think most women push the idea that men are creepy for approaching women anywhere ever but massive losers if they don't go after women. For example, I don't mind a guy approaching me pretty much anywhere as long as he's respectful and accepts no for an answer. That's really the biggest part.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 03:28 PM
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Tell a man “get milk,” he’ll get milk. However if you come back with the wrong brand or a different percentage they will get unstable. Did she say the brand and type multiple times and he actively ignores her, showing he doesn't value her? Also, as a grown ass man, you know we need milk. You can see it as well as I can. If I have to take time out of my day to tell you to get milk like you're a child who can't function on their own, I might as well just do it myself and drop the dead weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:07 AM
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The point I'm trying to make is that in your relationship you and your partner might agree it's disrespectful, but in someone else's relationship they wouldn't care. There is no yes or no.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:41 AM
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Everyone has different boundaries in their relationships. There's no one size fits all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:06 AM
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Subreddit full of hypocrites
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:04 AM
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That second thread is a leading question, which is why one of the top answers on the first thread is "my husband is the best sex of my life."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:45 AM
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Unfortunately. I think by 2030 it'll go back the other way again
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:38 PM
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I've also been taught to critically examine my preferences. I wouldn't blame bad parenting/immaturity on an entire gender, but if it makes you feel better, I see criticism of women both online and in person from all kinds of people for choosing guys based solely on things like height. Even if you think there's a gender-wide problem, it doesn't make sense to me to assume that there are no exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:37 PM
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Counterpoint: "child-bearing hips" and big boobs. People are shitty and will use any excuse they can to be horrible, if that's what they want to do. I'm sorry you were treated badly. On the bright side, at least it's more taboo to be racist now...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 09:44 AM
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Not me y'all stay safe though
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:00 PM
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I used the birth control shot for two years and they had to take me off of it because it was apparently discovered that being on it for longer than two years had the side effect of bone density loss. Of course, the shot is hormonal and this is not, but this shot was available for more than two years before they figured that out. I don't know if I would choose to be the test subject for something like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:42 PM
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hormone free effective for up to 10 years God I'm jealous
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:36 PM
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I don't hate 50% of men. Most women don't. Every person you see is an individual with their own beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:29 PM
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So preferences are political, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:36 PM
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It depends on the type of socially inept and how pretty you are. The prettier you are, the more of your weird behavior people will overlook/see as cute or quirky instead, but there are still lines you can't cross. People accept me more when I'm dressed nice and have makeup on. It's a double-edged sword.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:12 PM
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I don't think all preferences are okay on a personal level, but I think there's a way to have preferences without forcing them onto other people. People are going to want what they want, might as well encourage them to be normal about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:01 PM
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You won't even choose a pill
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:28 PM
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I have a different opinion than you on a lot of things, but you took the words right out of my mouth with this comment. Some things I don't need literally everyone in my life to know about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:26 PM
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When your economy is based on continued growth, either your population has enough kids to support that or you let people immigrate. Being vehemently against illegal immigration has the effect of making immigrants not want to come to America legally either
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:18 PM
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I think you should wait until you've made out with someone to be grabbing their thigh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:32 PM
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Are you the same person who said women let men slap their ass platonically?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:24 PM
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what about being manipulated by a 23 year old versus a 17 year old amplifies the trauma from manipulation?... you can approach someone for sex in good faith. It doesn't have to automatically be manipulative if there's an age gap My first comment: "The sex itself is not necessarily traumatizing, it's that they know exactly how to push boundaries to get what they want knowing that you don't have enough experience to recognize the warning signs or stand up for yourself the same way an adult would."…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:19 PM
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where's your outrage about teen drug use? If they can't make decisions at all, why aren't you just as mad about the fact that they are drinking, smoking weed, and doing all sorts of drugs? Certainly, all of those things are more harmful than having sex, which is a normal biological function, right? Are you fucking with me right now? If the subject was teen drug use then I would have mentioned it, but that's not what we were talking about, was it? If a guy manipulates a girl into sex, but she wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:57 PM
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if you're having sex with your same aged peers, why would it be traumatizing to have an age gap relationship? Like how is the sex that different between someone of the same age vs someone with an age gap Because they have enough life experience to manipulate you, the younger and less experienced party, much more easily, and that can cause someone to end up in a dangerous situation. The sex itself is not necessarily traumatizing, it's that they know exactly how to push boundaries to get what they…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 09:23 AM
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I think it's predatory, but not necessarily in a pedophilic way like some people describe. There are a lot of important years between 18 and 24. I could not imagine dating an 18 year old, I have too much experience. You're weird if you do that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 09:09 AM
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Spoken like someone who believes whatever they want no matter what the evidence shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:45 AM
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Here is a link to my conversation with ChatGPT where it chose to save the father in both of the scenarios you wrote out the prompts for (copy/pasted).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:34 AM
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This is just one more reason why we need to stop letting AI run shit. Anyway, here's a link to my conversation with ChatGPT where it chose to save the father in both scenarios OP gave the prompts for, using their exact wording.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:28 AM
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Maybe look at the comments testing his scenarios and getting different results before you use AI as proof of how the world works.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:25 AM
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You haven't had good sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:29 AM
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From my point of view, it's because they're thinking about sex with you. They think you either already are so much better or you would be so much better and you would never treat them that way. 99% of the time I think about my ex is when my boyfriend does something awesome and it makes me think wow I'm so glad to be with this guy, he's genuinely special and I know from experience he's better than all these other guys. That kind of stuff never sounds like a compliment out loud though lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:28 AM
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No. If I don't think someone's a good match then I won't be attracted to them. Most of the time, I don't even let things get far enough that I have to turn someone down unless I'm caught off guard. That kind of stuff only happened when I was younger and didn't know how to redirect. There was one time a guy flirted with me and I remember being really uncomfortable because his type was never one to go for me, though. So I guess I would reject someone if I thought they were suspiciously out of my l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:09 AM
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I never said a minority of men get all the sex? I just said I think there are more men than women who aren't having any sex in general. Either way, I guess it doesn't matter too much, since I can't give you a number on the percentage of men I think aren't getting any, or of what men are getting the most. Any number would feel like speculation, but maybe I could refine my view over time. My point with conventionally unattractive people and nerds is that I don't think they're outliers. I was tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 10:02 AM
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I guess. Life isn't just college, though. Plenty of conventionally ugly people hooking up that you aren't aware of. Even in college, the nerds are doing it. People you'd never imagine having sex are out there, somehow. Two of the most annoying, unlikeable people I've met fucked. It's a strange world. A minority of the men get the majority of the sex is just what happens when distribution is not equal. By mathematical definition, that is always going to be true. I'm gonna get pedantic, but not ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:05 AM
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Maybe for men that's normal, but in my experience that's not something women would say unless they're trying to bully you. You can say I don't think he's interested or he looks like he's got a thing with another girl, something along those lines, but I'd be hurt if a friend said that to me 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 02:08 AM
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So frequent, new partners is what you have to have to achieve this. How often do you think you'd need a new partner for this to happen? And do you think someone's mindset toward their partners matters any?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:17 PM
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Most people don't see it as "performing mannerisms," they just see it as growing and learning. It becomes their authentic self. If something feels too unnatural to them then they don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:41 PM
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I firmly believe that personality, goals, and values are what you should be focused on, so I'm never going to tell someone that they're unrealistic in terms of liking someone "out of their league." I'll tell someone they're being unrealistic if they expect a Disney romance with an unflawed partner, if they're being strung along/treated badly with no actual progress being made, if they have what I think is an unhealthy mindset, or if they think they can make a relationship work with a big incompa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:21 PM
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Sure, to be an asshole after sex then you have to have had sex in the first place. Not sure I agree with minority, but I'll give that a larger percentage of men than women seem to be lonely. I've seen too many average pairings (casual and long-term) to think the 80/20 rule is realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:19 AM
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Flirting can be taught, but there are different "dialects," just like with language. And nobody can really tell you what you're doing wrong without seeing it play out or a very specific description of what went on because body language, tone, and wording is a big part of it (your vibe, basically).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 10:44 PM
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Agree. Cheating is a reflection of someone's values, not their experience
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:22 PM
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ask any man what he thinks of a woman that gave him sex freely and he will really treasure the experience and respect the woman Respectfully, this is not true 😭 I'm glad you have good dudes in your life but a significant amount of guys are just not like this. They will literally just lie to get what they want and treat you like shit once they do
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:29 AM
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Why would you make that assumption? Do/would you believe a woman you're talking to if she says she hasn't had casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:15 AM
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Always? I'm flattered. I didn't know you paid that much attention to me. Or maybe you just assumed because it helps your argument if I'm a lazy bitch that screams misogyny every chance she gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 06:30 PM
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I think your problem is that you just don't like women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 05:52 PM
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Do I think 90+ percent of rapists are men? No. I am personally of the opinion that rape with a female perpetrator is underreported, and there are a lot more male victims than we think. The way the world reacts to male victims of SA is enough for me to believe that (Terry Crews especially). Worth mentioning I don't think you need verbal consent for an encounter to not be considered sexual assault
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 09:41 AM
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Comedians make up a lot of their stories
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:03 AM
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Oh, usually people calling the US a shithole are from here, so I thought that's what you were saying lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:07 PM
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Shithole as in the USA today? How do you know it's so much worse now if you weren't alive then
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:25 PM
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But it's so satisfying though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:24 PM
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Slaves? That's a bold claim. What do you have to support it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 09:41 AM
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I'd say most people would describe me as a feminist, and I believe in no conscription. For men or women. That falls under bodily autonomy for me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 09:37 AM
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Are you going to have a respectful discussion or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:21 AM
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Do you think every woman dislikes having sex with their partner, and no man has ever not wanted sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:42 PM
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So? He's an adult that can make his own decisions, and he chooses to be with me. Why would I be worried about other women he may or may not be attracted to if our relationship is happy and healthy?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:25 PM
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Political propaganda is distributed by practicers who white lie Exactly, and this with what RFK said about the vaccines and autism, and what he said about tylenol is a great example of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:52 AM
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Regular porn consumption will keep you horny for longer time. Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 09:44 PM
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What the hell? Why would you think that's okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 08:13 AM
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Methods like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:53 AM
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Y'all think dead bedrooms and child support is an issue now, have fun with no contraception
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:50 AM
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Everyone is free to their own opinion, but I don't think you understand this dynamic between women. Would this have been said in this exact way if there were no men around?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:47 PM
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Sure, but you know being naive isn't something that's gender-specific, right? Your OP is talking down to women specifically, when everyone lives and learns. It comes across like you have a very narrow view of the world if I'm being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:30 PM
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You are either not a woman or one of the worst pick-mes I've ever seen
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:45 PM
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the group's needs and goals take precedence over individual interests To me, yes. As much as I care about other people, I am always going to put myself first.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:46 PM
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And your attraction to men isn’t even the same as a man’s attraction to a woman Is this a hard rule for you? How do you explain exceptions to the things you listed?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:40 PM
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Some of them genuinely think they're an option. One time an old guy approached me at the grocery store, complained about women not being receptive enough after I wasn't receptive, then offered to pay for Olive Garden like THAT was gonna change my mind. I told him I had a bf, he asked if we lived together. I said yes so he'd leave me alone. He got pissy, called me a cow, and walked off. Still hilarious how serious he was. Thankfully, I'm now an old leathery hag at 24, so I haven't been called a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:26 PM
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So, tall? That doesn't guarantee anything
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:52 PM
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Most women I know aren't on reddit (at least to my knowledge) and I can think of multiple reasons why they'd choose either tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:17 AM
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How do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:15 AM
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It's not universal. Imo large height differences are impractical and bad for your neck
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:11 AM
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Geek. I'm a nerd too, we need to have stuff in common lmao. Pro athletes also dedicate an insane amount of time to their career, and I don't think I could be with someone who's okay with that amount of sacrifice.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:03 AM
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I can't believe they let her get the rest of her sentence out after she said that lmao. If you're gonna start listing things at least have trans or nonbinary at the ready so you don't tell people to fuck DOGS?? But no, that was #3 on her list 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 04:14 AM
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Am I interpreting her advice too favorably? Because it didn't seem that out of the ordinary other than her saying to fuck dogs (seriously wtf?????). I didn't think she said to keep anyone on the back burner or be secretive about your sex life. To me it was just run of the mill "fuck around while you're young because the other gender is immature, unlike you" shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 04:03 AM
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No, attraction doesn't work that way for everyone. Generally speaking, I'm not physically attracted to people until I have some sort of connection with them. And there are some people who don't experience physical attraction at all. Attraction can't be put into a box like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:00 AM
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Funniest fucking comment I've seen lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 12:41 AM
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What did the rock do!!!! 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:13 AM
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I don't think so. In that sort of relationship, the sub should be able to stop anything at any time. So whatever power is gained by being the dom is negated by the fact that they need the sub's consent to do anything (and sexually assaulting a client is risking your pay). Then there's the fact that the whole scenario is the client's choice. Take it all away and you're back with the regular conversation about sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:02 AM
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I'm cool with looking like me; I think I'd be a cute guy. I'm lanky though, so I'd probably try to bulk up some. My ego says I'd kill it with alt/indie girls. The same as what I want now. Low or non customer facing, low social expectations, not physical, good schedule, job security. I just want to enjoy life. Lol I'm sure I'd have a harder time with this, but I know how to specialize. I'd still want a LTR. My goals aren't linked to my gender, I would have to have drastically different values for…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:41 AM
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There's self-improvement, and then there's feeling pressured to chase an impossible standard. You don't have to be perfect to be loved. There's a lid for every pot! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:44 AM
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Another tip: if you're trying to escalate but are unsure about their body language + afraid of ruining the mood, get close to escalating and then say "is this okay?" in a soft/low voice. The point is to make it obvious that you want it before you ask so they have time to mentally prepare. For example, you're touching her already but want to touch tiddie under shirt. Have your hands on her waist/hips, play with the bottom of her shirt. If her body language stays consistent and she looks relaxed, …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:35 AM
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Firstly, why should the exact age of sexual maturity be set at 18? Because there needs to be an age of consent and that's the one we chose for everything else. Are all those other jurisdictions "just wrong"? I'm not knowledgeable enough to make that decision, but 18 sounds better to me. But whether the optimum age for that is 18 is a matter of policy deliberation and cost-benefit analysis, not holy writ. Never said otherwise, but that wasn't the point, anyway. You go from kid life to adult life …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 08:56 AM
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would you consider stealthing and lie about contraception to be on the same level? 100%, either one of those is horrible
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:25 AM
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Yeah, that would've been good, I agree. But even if he did, this whole situation still could have happened, because consent to a kiss doesn't mean consent to anything else. That's why you escalate very slowly and ask if you're unsure, especially if it's the first time. Always better safe than sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:22 AM
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So like. You don't just go immediately from kissing someone (while they're crying, no less) to straight up shoving your hand down their pants. There are multiple steps in between. Slowly escalating with those in between steps and carefully watching their reactions is how you get nonverbal consent. That's not even something I would do in a relationship where I was regularly having sex with someone. I'm genuinely concerned about the pushback I've seen over this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:16 AM
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"Barely Legal" is mostly attacked by women who resent how men-like-young-women. The reason why "barely legal" is bad is because it encourages grooming/creeping on young girls. There should never ever be people counting down to a girl turning 18 or a girl opening an OF on her 18th birthday. The whole "you just hate that men don't like you because you're old now" is a strawman created so people could ignore the actual problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:05 AM
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she fox on my grapes till i mush
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:41 PM
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I think this could be applied to both women and men in different situations. Like other analogies that use objects/animals to describe human behavior, when you try to explain it beyond the initial statement it just falls apart. Humans don't live by the arbitrary rules we set up in these scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:36 PM
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That's not a fact. What's desirable varies from person to person, and you will never be able to tell what every single person thinks. I've seen pics of incels online and thought they were cute. You don't see yourself the way everyone else sees you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:20 PM
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You can filter out people by being honest and direct about your goals and potential incompatibilities. No need to be mean
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:01 AM
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Consider what kind of woman will accept that behavior. Is that really who you want to spend your life and raise kids with?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:00 AM
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I don't think that's true. You don't have to be hard on yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:57 AM
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Some women are less go with the flow than guys are and might clash over that. I would be able to live with my mom if I needed to, but I'd prefer to have my own place because I like to do things my way and she likes to do things her way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 05:03 AM
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I don't think there's much to fix there. She's probably living with her mom because her mom helps with childcare
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 04:54 AM
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He would have been in high school. Those are pretty important years
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 04:13 AM
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Imo, introversion is more of a personality trait. When I say I'm introverted I mean that talking to others drains my battery quickly and I need time to rest after long social events, even if I enjoyed myself. Shy is more situational, where you are hesitant or nervous about talking to people, or you don't speak a lot. So you can be introverted and not shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 04:10 AM
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The muscle mommy "please step on me" thing is preeeetty popular
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:57 AM
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The fantasy is that he's big and strong (and maybe unhealthy in the ways he treats others), but tender and softspoken to her. It's contradictory and doesn't make sense when you think about it, but that's why it's a fantasy. Like porn. Bad boy with a golden heart; it's a classic. In reality, anyone who treats others like shit and is only nice to you is just going to treat you like shit when the infatuation wears off. But it does't really have to make sense to be hot to some.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:49 AM
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What's your debate here?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:45 AM
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This is a debate sub between redpillers and bluepillers in regards to dating/relationship dynamics. Everyone defines them differently, but if I was generalizing I'd say redpillers tend to be manosphere types and bluepillers tend to be feminist types.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 07:07 PM
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Not entertaining random men hitting on you while you're going about your daily life does not equal being timid. Yes, women will be more accepting of attention in social spaces. Men are usually the ones approaching, and especially if you want a traditional relationship, you don't have much of a reason to chase a guy. Not to mention the pressure we put on women to be "pure." I personally have approached men before. If I were single, I wouldn't do it again unless I knew them already. In my experien…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:12 AM
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Most guys aren’t wearing biking shorts in public or in the main gym floor. Most guys in most gyms around the world aren’t wearing string open tank tops. I see these all the time so it could just be different areas. Biking shorts specifically are the only things I've seen men wear on rowing machines or when they're actually biking outside, which is a big thing where I live. Shirtless men are seen as performative and cringey by other men. Doesn't stop it happening. Not so often inside the gym, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 11:17 PM
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Okay. Have you seen a woman scream at a guy for looking at her in real life?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:55 PM
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Layering fishnets underneath other clothes equals like a 25% chance of getting called a prostitute lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:45 PM
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Yeah people wear speedos (and bikinis) here too, they're less common than trunks but I would not be shocked to see one. I think the cops would laugh you out of town if you called them on a guy for wearing a speedo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:43 PM
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You sure? The more clothes you wear, the less airflow you get for sweat to evaporate
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:35 PM
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A woman can even accuse a man of SA if he wears the same tight or revealing gym outfit as her, simply because it makes her uncomfortable That's not what sexual assault is. I agree with some of the observations you're making, but not your conclusion. A video with a woman lifting weights in high waisted leggings gets a lot of attention, while with men it would probably look like a kink video: why? In my opinion, that's a result of how we as a society tend to oversexualize women, their hobbies, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:20 PM
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Biking shorts. Stringy open tanktops. Shirtless men. Speedos. Compression shorts. These things leave nothing to the imagination and they're completely normal. The world isn't just pump covers and loose lifting shorts. I don't like seeing junk, but I simply avert my eyes like I do when a woman with 2" inseam shorts is on the leg press. They aren't committing a crime, so if I feel icky that's my problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:18 PM
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I have never once seen a woman do that in real life. I haven't even seen a single person filming themselves in my gym, now that I think about it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:05 PM
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Ehh that's gonna happen whether it's through a t shirt or leggings. Some people just sweat a lot and soak through whatever clothes they wear. Not wiping should be criminalized 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:03 PM
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I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with supporting content creators. If I'm walking down the street and someone's playing music, I'll give them some money. It's not much different. Yes, some people are unhealthy about it, but they're ultimately in charge of their own life. A lot of industries encourage parasocial relationships, though, and the targets aren't only men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:08 PM
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First of all, cheers for being open to changing views. At one point, you mentioned women who act sweet and shy about sex but actually want casual/are experienced. Sure, some women like to act overly innocent (which imo is a kink thing and a LOT of men are into it), but I think it's more likely that they just don't feel the need to let everyone know about their sex life. Someone's preferences regarding casual sex don't tell you anything about the way they look or act, so why would you wear clothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 10:05 AM
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You don't think emotion has a play in any of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 09:28 AM
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I think social dynamics are interesting, and there are a lot of different viewpoints here
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 10:32 PM
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Is your post not also based on what you've seen?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 10:31 PM
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I don't know anything about sex clubs, but I do know of orgies that have happened organically. Of course people you know would filter for who they want too, but that's going to be a lot more subjective and open than some rando judging you, if that's how it goes in sex clubs. Sex-positive attitudes in society would definitely get some more people into things like that. Especially if someone wants to sleep with others but would feel safer with another person there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 02:20 PM
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I looked her up but don't know more than what I read, so correct me if I'm wrong. I agree that a lot of things are just differences in interpretation, but there are some conservatives who advocate for women to lose rights like voting, owning money/property, divorce, autonomy (marital rape), and that makes me think they never thought about what it might be like without the freedoms they advocate against. Rachel Wilson published a book and is an influencer/podcaster; she wouldn't be able to do tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 03:15 AM
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Don't listen to him, he's not a woman and he doesn't know what he's talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 02:36 AM
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No. Average is average for a reason. How you treat your partner during sex is wayyy more important. There are some women who are size queens or have specific height preferences, but to most it's not that serious. And if anyone treats you badly because of physical characteristics you can't change, they weren't gonna be a good partner anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 02:35 AM
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Also most autistic girls easily manage to join a friendship group of girls early in life because of the things you mentioned That is not true. Autistic girls often struggle socially.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:57 PM
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In my fully armchair psychologist opinion, it's not that autistic women necessarily mask better, it's that they tend to mask more because the social standards for women tend to be higher in general. In dating, yeah, it's going to be hard for autistic men to be suddenly thrown into another layer of social expectations they have no experience with. I can say that men often give me a pass on behavior that I know women would find weird, so I won't deny that. But it's all just playing by social rules…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:56 PM
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The same way we know animal behaviors. You don't think that if women couldn't self reflect, it wouldn't be a proven fact by now?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:24 PM
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There are plenty. Social media platforms just push whatever gets the most engagement to the top, and that's usually disagreements. Also, bots are real and they're everywhere. Now, what actual scientific evidence do you have?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:08 AM
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Yall brain doesn’t allow self criticism Evidence please.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:35 PM
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What do you mean by class consciousness?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:28 PM
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There's no way a grown woman could ever think women's rights were a net negative unless they were coddled their whole lives. Easy to say you don't need rights when you've never had to consider the possibility of being powerless. It's such a braindead take. The tradwife thing... imagine wanting millions of people to lose their rights because of an aesthetic. Girl just buy the fucking butter churn and move to Utah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:20 PM
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What do you think about medical inequality (as in sexism)? This isn't me trying to have a gotcha moment, I'm genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:06 PM
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That kind of thinking is going to fuck up your relationships. If you want something serious you need to be able to trust that someone actually likes you and not obsess over what ifs
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:58 PM
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If you're going to do it, I would make sure you're hiring someone who chose to do sex work. I don't know the ins and outs but I'm sure you can find it somewhere. I don't think sex work is unethical by itself, but there are a lot of questions I'd have about it. Is the person doing sex work out of their own free will? If they were raped, what recourse would they have? The lines of consent can be blurry, and it's hard to make a distinction between someone just doing their job and someone who feels …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 08:55 AM
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The post directly under this in my feed: "How can I get rid of a creepy guy?" from a 17 year old. I'm tired.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:18 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/AskWomenNoCensor/s/fFPLb29vZT Do the responses to this post sound anything like what you wrote? Just because one thing you hear sticks out to you doesn't mean it's a good representation of what's going on. Anyway, I don't think it's a personality issue, I think it's a boundaries issue. If you keep encountering men who play you for sex, you need to really think about ways you can avoid them. It's not your fault, but you can learn from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 03:28 AM
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Bob needs to find someone who shares his values so he can trust them (and if he continues to have issues with trust, he should consider therapy). That way he does not feel the need to worry about her conversations with her friends or whatever she did in her past, instead he can focus on what kind of future they can build together. Bob should sit down and make a list of things that are 100% dealbreakers in any future partners. Then he should remove any that aren't hard nos but are things to be ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:35 PM
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I think most men would pick 1. Only men I see picking 2 would be those who put a lot of emphasis on traditional gender roles in their lives. In reality I think most people want to share the load. Now that I think about it, if the guy was very traditional he would probably just find a traditional woman in his class to marry instead of choosing 2. With the other man, it genuinely just depends on his personality but I'd probably expect him to pick 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:23 PM
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Whataboutism
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 12:34 PM
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Criminalizing adultery would also effectively criminalize consensual open relationships, and that would open another door for the government to punish people for personal choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 12:32 PM
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People say all sorts of things. Do the men think that's going to get them what they want? If so, then they can try it and move on if it doesn't work. Take what was useful and discard the rest. I don't think people need to change to be worthy of love, but bettering yourself is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 01:21 PM
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I'd be willing to bet money I don't even have that you know a guy like this. They can function just fine on their own and seem perfectly competent to people they know. They only act like this toward romantic partners (people they don't respect).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:16 AM
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To me, mistreatment includes things like constantly leaving messes for me to clean up when the person is capable of doing it themselves. I've lived that, being treated like a maid. It's absolutely exhausting. Ime that's usually what women are talking about when you see "he didn't put his plate in the dishwasher, I filed for divorce." But I agree with your larger point. When someone doesn't feel like trying anymore, it's better off ending.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:40 AM
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Are you sure these people are trying to convince you that you'd be happier single, or are they just expressing their own feelings? I tend to give the benefit of the doubt. Just because someone wants something for themselves doesn't mean I have to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:38 AM
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No. Most men aren't a good match for me, but that doesn't mean they aren't worthy of love or happiness, or that they need to change. Not that I'm encouraging stubbornness. If you want a different output you need to change the input, and compromising is fine as long as you stay true to your values. I just think change should happen as you grow and learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:41 AM
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This comment section is an interesting combination of incredibly nuanced and thoughtful comments along with the verbal equivalent of a bunch of monkeys throwing shit at each other
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 09:58 AM
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Every comment I've read so far is "I had empathy until someone did ___" Not everyone is the same. Judge people on an individual basis. That's literally it. Whatever amount of empathy you want to have after that is your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 09:50 AM
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Yeah, that sucks. Those people are shitty and definitely invading. I personally wouldn't say that means women in general are invading gay bars, though, because the lesbians were already there. Anyone who does that is just a pest, like the dumbass dudes I knew who went just to hit on women there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:29 PM
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So both?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:21 PM
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What? Women have their own leagues. I don't know of any major sports with both men and women on teams together other than like... figure skating. Genuinely what are you talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:18 PM
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Are you gay?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:09 PM
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if a gym has womens only time there should be mens only time aswell Sure, why not. I think having specific women and men-only gyms are better in areas that can manage it, though, so that the people who don't care (most people) can continue using the gym without their schedule being interrupted. I don't know about the boy scouts, but gay bars are for LGBT people in general. It's assumed that if you're at a gay bar, you're there for the same gender. I've never heard of anyone having an issue with …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:07 PM
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If that's all you see, you've got to widen your lens. There are batshit takes here from all walks of life
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 11:56 AM
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Reading this after the "reddit is a male space women are invading" thread above, I'm not sure why the fuck I'm here either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 11:52 AM
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Lifetime stipend? Are you talking about alimony? Child support?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 11:30 AM
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Because they're not outspoken? It's tricky, because with how sensitive this subject is, if I was a woman with that preference who started dating a man with a small dick, I wouldn't even tell him "oh by the way, I love small dicks so you're great for me." Odds are he's either insecure or used to be, and I wouldn't risk hurting him for no reason. If someone is super outspoken about it, I'd think it's a fetish. If they're a normal amount of outspoken about it, then my initial comment applies. There…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 11:18 AM
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That's what my initial comment addressed
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 10:09 AM
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You think that in this world where people get off by being tortured, pretending to be eaten alive, shitting on each other, and fetishizing every single body part that exists (including abnormalities), that not one in over 4 billion women prefers a small dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:36 AM
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Boobs has no purpose in sex
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:06 AM
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You got it champ
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:48 AM
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But how do they differ from big boobs and small boobs ?! Depends on the person, not the size never knew Vagus nerve of Vagina flows through boobs through Doesn't need it. It's a sensitive part of the body, like the neck and ears. They're all places both genders generally like to be touched
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:44 AM
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What prompted this question? I don't feel like this is related to anything I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:28 AM
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Well, I'm not perfect, but I'd like to think I do. Supporting your partner, being able to work together and compromise, honesty, clear communication, trustworthiness, the ability to apologize and admit you were wrong. I feel like this isn't the answer you were looking for, though. What do you think the qualities of a good partner are?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:14 AM
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apart from visual aspect they serve no purpose How about the woman's pleasure? I'd say that's more important than the visual aspect
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:06 AM
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Why aren't women who prefer/fetishize smaller dicks more outspoken? 1) Men would call them liars and argue with them, and 2) it's seen as an insult, so they'd be publicly talking shit about their current/previous partners, who probably don't want the world to know their dick size. edit for grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 08:42 AM
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Hell yeah they do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 08:38 AM
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Imagine if there was porn where body shaming women was the kink Imagine? There's a shit ton of humiliation porn centered around women, I'm gonna guess some of it includes body shaming. For women it tends to take the form of slut shaming, though. Degradation (being called a slut or whore during sex) is pretty much mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 08:36 AM
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This is vile, and the mods should take this post down. Exactly my thought, but I don't think there's a rule against this. It's disgusting regardless. Also lmao at subreddit moderation being called Marxist authoritarianism.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:28 AM
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What do you think about male victims who speak publicly + on social media about sexual assault?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:26 AM
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I see what you're saying, a lot of people still do follow traditional gender roles, but I don't think those studies support it very well. Neither split the answers by gender (the second only shows combined male/female responses). The first one has only ~550 participants and lacks a lot of info on their responses. If there's really no better research out there then oh well, but if there is, it might be worth putting that in instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 06:18 AM
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Yes, this is exactly what "it'll happen when you stop looking" means (even though I think it could be worded better). You can still show interest, you just shouldn't pursue everyone all the time. Women can tell when you're desperate and it's unnatractive. I could like a guy, but if I think he's just looking for someone to fill a role, I don't want it. He doesn't actually like me, he'd take anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 08:38 PM
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Cool. Now explain away the crushes I had on short guys. I'm becoming convinced that other men are hurting short men more than women are. Every time I say something remotely positive, a guy immediately jumps in to argue that actually I was never attracted to the people I dated. Find where I said I compromised (you can't). I can't believe I have to say this but physical attraction is not the only reason why relationships start or end. Have one position that isn't entirely based on thinking you kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 07:53 AM
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I wouldn't necessarily be angry, but I would probably think he's not the person for me because he lied instead of communicating. In the beginning of the relationship is where I assume people are on their best behavior, and honest + direct communication is a requirement for me. If a guy told me he had no relationship experience I'd have different concerns (like how does he deal with conflict), but honesty wouldn't be one of them. Imo, if you're wanting a serious relationship, you should just be h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 07:11 PM
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What, like they're required to keep it a secret? It's not a mark of shame to be assaulted.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 06:32 PM
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I can only speak for myself; no. I was around my bf for a while before we started dating, but it was after we hung out some and I saw his personality that I started liking him. Then when we got closer I was like oh, he smells nice, he has good hygiene, he takes care of himself and his things. Of course I think he's physically attractive, but that wouldn't have meant anything to me if he didn't care about himself. There are a million male models out there, but my boyfriend is the only one of him,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 09:47 AM
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at best you'll go from a 3 to a 5.5, which is still a huge glow up. But that's where the ball stops for most average joes, frankly Yeah, but I can tell you I'd rather be a 5.5 than a 3, yanno. What you're saying is what I was trying to get at. Not putting in any effort at all is going to make someone more physically unattractive with the bonus of making them seem like they don't like themselves, which is a turn off to some. Putting in effort won't make you perfect, but you're going to have more …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 09:27 AM
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Hard disagree. Some dudes out there genuinely do not give a fuck about their hygiene or how they look. That turns someone from "okay I could get to know you better" to a no instantly. You aren't touching me with dirty unkempt nails, you aren't kissing me if you refuse to touch lip balm, refusing to shave your head when you're losing your hair is not doing you favors, I'm not going to be seen dressed up with a man who won't put on anything other than sweatpants or basketball shorts. Get a haircut…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:37 AM
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this however excludes most women Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:18 AM
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I dunno, to me that doesn't equal being a doormat. If I give a gift to my friend for christmas knowing they're short on money and probably didn't get me anything, is that being a doormat? My friend appreciates it, and I'm glad I made someone happy. Now, if they were asking me for gifts/money while they were spending all of theirs on bullshit and I gave them money at the expense of myself, that's when it becomes doormat behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:18 AM
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Damn that's a good description of abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:11 AM
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You can't force anyone to mature because society as a whole isn't on the same page, it never will be. People who don't want to grow up will always surround themselves with yes men. Being harsher to people about their mistakes only affects those who care, the ones who don't won't listen. This feels opposed to your previous comments because earlier you said pretty much the same thing, just about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:05 AM
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I don't know what part of my comment you're responding to, but that's a pretty loaded question.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:12 AM
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They regularly joke that men have low standards for casual sex and need to fuck like they need to piss That's still not the same as calling someone a cum dumpster Why do women laugh about the same thing then? Because we're all individuals. I don't agree with them either. Not sure what else to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 07:45 PM
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Maybe it's because you're describing women as cum dumpsters?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 07:25 PM
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No. The aim of marriage is already to stay together for life, and divorce is punishing enough. "No Divorce" groups would only force people to stay in unhealthy and potentially abusive relationships. so long as it doesn't involve violence, provocation to violence or using sex or infidelity as a tool for control. And unless the reasons are for domestic abuse, or infidelity, or using sex and infidelity as a weapon, we shouldn't accept it It's interesting that you include using sex as a tool for con…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 02:23 AM
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If she was clearly flirting? Well, she's not my friend now. I'd bump her out of the way and sit in his lap or something, but after that he'd better make his disinterest clear if the situation calls or I'd be single. Should he do anything specific? He should do whatever he thinks should happen when someone who isn't your gf flirts with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 12:45 AM
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the women here don't understand why the men they want, don't want them I don't think I've ever seen a woman here say something like this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 12:27 AM
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can successfully engage in casual sex, but they have no problem becoming "husband material" I think this is kinda contradictory. If what you want is a LTR, why would you be focused on being "sex material" over being "husband material?" Wanting long-term isn't a great justification for having casual sex; you can just say you want casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 12:17 AM
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Because you're lying Stop right there. You think you know better than her who she's attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 11:56 PM
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because they literally ban anyone who rates a woman over a 5 lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 11:54 PM
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They generally don't believe any studies that involve women self-reporting attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 11:52 PM
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I don't think this is a gendered issue, but an individual one based on self-esteem/ego. Plenty of both men and women think they're more or less attractive than they really are. From what I've seen, there are a good amount of men who think they can't date because they're ugly/short/etc, but in reality they look fine. They just judge themselves way more harshly than anyone else would.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 11:50 PM
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That's true, I was thinking too much about my own experience when I said that. Personally I would be driven crazy with that arrangement and most people I know have more space, but I guess it'd also be very area-dependent. I don't consider having extra space to be avoiding one another, though. To me that's along the lines of having your own friends; you have time together and time to yourself. I love my bf but I'm sensitive to noise and he likes dog-free relaxation, so we have separate spaces to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:33 AM
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"that doesn't sound healthy" "LMAO OLD UGLY BITCH TRIGGEREDDD GO BACK TO UR CATS THIS U? THIS U???"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:15 AM
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If the shoe fits.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:09 AM
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You wouldn't consider having no previous partners at 35 a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:09 AM
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Is "alpha dick" for real a thing?? lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 01:54 PM
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I have personally never heard anyone use those terms. Boyfriend dick sounded like a compliment to me (like he's so good I wanna date him) and holiday dick I genuinely had no idea. Now that I'm thinking about it, any "___ dick" term feels to me like it's meant to be positive. Dunno why. I don't really think it's possible to fuck solely based on dick size because the guy can just lie. I think the only ones who legit do it are people with kinks in circles that are comfortable with casual sex to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 01:42 PM
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does having an extra person live with you increase your rent/mortgage payment? Probably not I'd say this is really only true for someone who already owns/rents a place that's comfortably big enough for two. If you would choose to live in a 1b 1ba while single, then yeah, having another person would increase your housing payment. Personally if I had the money for it and would never have to do chores again I would do that in a heartbeat even with the rent/mortgage increase lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 08:24 AM
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I'd say the difference is in who men chase after. The older you get and the more you know what you want, the less time you'll waste going after women who are pretty but won't be compatible with you long-term (if that's your goal). At least, I would assume, not being a man and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:01 AM
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This isn't a gender-specific experience. She was young, made an immature decision, and ended up regretting it. Tale as old as time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 05:59 AM
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I'm pretty sure this has more to do with the lesbian flag than anything you just said. Im starting to understand why arranged marriages were a thing That's fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 09:30 PM
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I was thinking more female workers in places you'd go like the doctor's office, grocery stores, customer service, etc., but I can see how you could go a while without some of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 09:03 PM
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That makes for a very unhealthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:14 PM
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I didnt move the goal posts, that was merely a foot note Yes, that's why I said "people" and not you. you had to add -"But if someone's intent on never changing their mind, all they're going to see is "my boyfriend is taller than me.""- because you know how it looks I didn't "have to add" it, that was the point. It's confirmation bias. The fact that I've dated and crushed on men shorter than me and my height in the past somehow doesn't matter because I'm now with someone who's taller than me. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 08:51 AM
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women evolved to use language to gaslight men What's the evidence for this? Edit: So no evidence then, got it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 09:41 PM
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its reminds me of when women have a tall boyfriend and swear she wasnt looking for height. who are yall convincing? Nobody, because then people just move the goalposts or use different women to explain why you're lying about your own preferences. I'm not looking for height. I've dated and crushed on men my height, taller than me, and shorter than me. My boyfriend is taller than me. But if someone's intent on never changing their mind, all they're going to see is "my boyfriend is taller than me."…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 09:39 PM
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Interact in what way? If someone doesn't want to have even a conversation with a woman, that's worrying. Definitely something that would disrupt normal daily life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:57 AM
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You can't replace it, but you can learn to be happy with what you have. You just have to try harder to have close relationships with friends/family, find more fulfillment in your hobbies, do more of the things that make you happy, etc. Life is better with a partner for some, but your happiness shouldn't be dependent on someone else. At the end of the day you need to be able to rely on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:54 AM
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I don't think male promiscuity is the issue, I think societal slut-shaming is. Our culture is both purity-obsessed and absolutely sex crazed. If we focused on sex ed, safe sex, birth control options for men and women, more in-person social spaces, and less sex shaming, we'd all have healthier and more relaxed views on sex. People can't help their natural urges, and saying men wanting sex in general is a problem would be a step backward in my eyes. If people are allowed to explore themselves in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:42 AM
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What's the thing with tattoos? Genuine question as I've never met anyone who cares about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:30 AM
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The person who left the initial comment didn't mention height or dick size. It's weird to bring that up in response to their story because it's outright sexual, it insults their character, and because you're talking like you know them well enough to know when they're holding info back when you don't. If someone said this to me in real life I would actually cut contact with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:25 AM
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Seems like it's a good split between insecurity and exes telling them they're not good enough. Not trying to minimize their issues but I honestly expected it to be more toxic like some of the other subs I've seen. You're right. I don't know what it's like for men. All I can say is that people insulting them were probably trying to hit them where they knew it would hurt the most, and you can't trust someone like that to tell the truth. I hope they end up happy, whatever they choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:12 AM
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How can not being well endowed kill a guy's dating life before it starts? Women don't know your dick size until they're having sex with you. Edit: Just want to add that I have been downvoted a majority of the times I've shown sympathy here. I'm going to continue to do so when I'm able, but some people here turn their issues outward and it's extremely off-putting. I don't blame anyone for not being overly friendly, especially with the amount of outright misogynistic posts. (Yes, I know it happens…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:02 AM
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Yeah I got what you were implying and that's a really weird thing to say
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:58 AM
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Wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 08:15 AM
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he also left his pregnant wife for her zoo wee mama
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 07:37 AM
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From a woman's side of things, she definitely is, though I acknowledge what you say about men approaching all sorts of women. There's always that one girl that at least half the guys will go after. I guess it's just a lot more socially gray and hard to pick out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 07:15 AM
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Sure, it's not going to buy you a house or pay rent for you. Therapy is for when you need help processing things in a healthy way, or when your problems can't be solved by something as simple as taking on a few more hours at work. It's not numbing your awareness of real world problems, it's reframing them so they don't feel as overwhelming. Sometimes that's what actually allows you to solve them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 07:01 AM
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This is automatically attractive to women the “mean girl” is not more attractive to me Women are judged as a whole, but men are judged as individuals? The male version of the "mean girl" isn't attractive to me either. She is only the most attractive if she happens to be the hottest physically as well So... exactly what I said was the woman's version of the "contextual alpha."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 03:48 AM
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For a woman, being the most attractive and social would be being the "contextual alpha." Women have completely different dynamics, just because you guys don't experience them personally doesn't mean they don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 09:04 PM
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Yeah, I get why you'd want to do that now. Sorry that happened to you, that's super shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 08:57 AM
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Idk, I wouldn't count it out. I'm goth and I've seen alt girls with every type of guy under the sun, except maybe stereotypical frat boy looking dudes. Do you go to any places/events your type would be at (concerts etc)? Got any piercer/tattoo artist friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 07:08 AM
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Why'd you ask her to record consent? If a guy asked me that I would honestly be scared of him assaulting me. Like he was planning on using my recorded consent to discredit any accusations I made, even though if I revoked consent during sex and he kept going it would still be rape, even if I initially consented.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 06:46 AM
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Well... if someone, while physically able to give consent and without being coerced, consents to a sex act and then decides they're not into it anymore after waking up the next day, that doesn't mean it was rape. Being assaulted and regretting something you did can come with a lot of the same feelings, but that doesn't mean a sex act was rape strictly because you regret it. Someone could make accusations if they really hated you, but that's not going to hold water. I get you're worried that some…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 06:21 AM
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Personally, I think there's a difference between that and wanting someone enough that you would act on it by asking them to hook up
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:54 PM
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I'm in a relationship, so I wouldn't be friends with him after that. If I wasn't in a relationship, I'd have trouble being vulnerable with him knowing he saw me in that light, so I would keep my distance until he was either in a relationship or enough time had passed that he didn't think of me that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:49 PM
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What he said was a personal opinion he has about therapy. The reality is that therapy helps a lot of people. You don't have to do it, but it's not great to discourage other people from something that could help them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:20 AM
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Wtf is the dark triad
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:12 AM
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What? Women pay taxes the same as men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 08:00 PM
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Don't take it personally. If you make a debate post, people will debate. This isn't the place for a circlejerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 07:24 AM
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I get what you're saying. The bad part to me is that most of the time, the person that used the analogy in the first place has something against women and it ends up spreading that view. I'm taking it too seriously because I've heard the lock and key/chewed up gum/crumpled up dollar bill/used car(??) analogies my whole life to justify why women should be ridiculed for the same behavior as men and I'm tired of it. I don't have an issue with analogies in general, just ones used to put people down.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:49 AM
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We're going in circles at this point. Agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:23 AM
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That was pretty rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:20 AM
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Your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:07 AM
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Or the analogy just doesn't work and people try too hard to compare humans to objects to make their point work. I agree with your second paragraph. On a societal level, women who sleep around aren't viewed positively. So why not just say that in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:05 AM
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Using it doesn't mean it's valid either. I could compare men's dicks to pencils and women's vaginas to pencil sharpeners. Now what does that say about human behavior? Nothing, because I just made that shit up and humans aren't pencils.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:03 AM
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It's an analogy that compares people to objects. When you base someone's worth on how well they perform as an object, the analogy doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 10:00 PM
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I think people take the 50/50 model way too literally. Both people should be putting in equal amounts of effort and agree on a split that's fair to them. That isn't always exactly 50/50. If I just had a kid and I'm doing most of the chores and covering half the bills, I'm putting in way more than 50%, so he's either going to have to compensate by paying that much more of the bills or doing more kid duty/housework. On paper it might seem like he's putting in more than 50% when he pays the bills, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 09:28 PM
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Yeah, that happens. I just look for people who can communicate with me like an adult and don't get involved with anyone who plays games. They're harder to find, but it's a lot less stressful when you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 09:06 PM
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Maybe on a surface level, but I could see it backfiring when trying to make friends or date. I think there are healthier ways to build confidence, but hey, not like I'm anyone's life coach.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:48 PM
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Humans aren't keys and locks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:40 PM
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The best concrete example I can think of are countries where women don't have rights and men are allowed to do pretty much anything. They respect each other simply because they're men and don't respect women because they were born weaker and so their "natural" place is beneath men. Other than that, this kind of thing does happen every day where men are given respect for just being men and not women, but since there are laws against outright discrimination in workplaces, etc it's almost never exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:36 PM
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Never said anything about having sex with strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:29 PM
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I know you never said otherwise, but a lot of people do give respect to men just for being stronger than women. That's a strange thing to think about in the context of your analogy and I'm not sure what conclusion to draw
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:36 PM
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Who cares what someone subconsciously wants? It's not like you can change their mind. All that matters is what they tell you. If that doesn't match up with what you want in a partner, they're just not for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:30 PM
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Unfortunately, some men consider women to be on the same level as the cars and the house
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:28 PM
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It means the theory is bullshit and is used to justify judging women more harshly than men for the same behavior, with a side of "women hormonal amirite??"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:54 PM
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But then this sub would have no content LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 10:06 PM
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They should get together and leave the rest of us alone lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 10:03 PM
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What's up with the "men are sooo much better than women" shit here? Being a man doesn't automatically make you better than all women on Earth. That's an insane thing to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:41 AM
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I know some people ask their partner about specifics like that. Imo that's not healthy if you're going to use what you learn to compare yourself to their previous relationships, but hey, that's their choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 01:28 AM
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Huh, I dunno. Now that I'm thinking about it, I imagine "actually I just got engaged" complete with a fake ring and a big smile would be the best deterrent in the world, with the bonus of being kinda hilarious lol. You'd have to be stupid to want to fuck with a guy who just proposed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 01:20 AM
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is willing to break hard rules for you I'd see someone breaking hard rules for me as a sign that they need to work on having better boundaries, especially if they're doing it early on in the relationship. How can you trust someone fully if they don't respect themselves enough to say no or communicate when something's wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 11:45 PM
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What...? Edit: Nevermind, I finally processed what you were saying lol. These responses would escalate the situation, they're more of a last resort. Not worth the risk using them on a stranger if you can just let whatever boyfriend they imagine scare them off for you. But I'm always prepared to start barking and foaming at the mouth if needed lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 11:22 PM
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That's why I put it in quotes. It isn't really "right" because everyone should be able to decide for themselves when the right time is, but it is the societally acceptable way. It's generally seen as the norm for serious relationships to wait, so if you want a LTR, you might have that expectation. Personally I think a guy who will ghost after sleeping with him on day one will ghost you after waiting 2 months anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:28 AM
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I didn't know some guys considered not getting sex on the same timeline as a previous relationship as being treated worse. I can't say I agree, but I do understand the viewpoint now. Thanks for explaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:19 AM
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I also think honesty is the best policy, but when I tried just saying "no" guys wouldn't stop. I'd end up giving out my socials or number and blocking them after (which obviously isn't safe). "I have a boyfriend" is the most reliable way to get them to leave you alone because these dudes come prepared to pester you if you say no. They don't care what you want, they only care about a potential ass beating. There have been a couple times guys would keep pressing even after I told them I had a boyf…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:12 AM
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Truth nuke Unsurprisingly, in my experience the guys who idealize this usually have some unhealthy behaviors in relationships, so it doesn't tend to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:50 AM
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So do I. I'm not sure if some of these guys have seen a traditional setup irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:44 AM
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There are some shitty and very stupid guys out there
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:41 AM
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I have never understood the issue with C(1). The choices she made in the past were guided by different knowledge than what she has now. So what she's slept with guys early on in the past and regretted it so now she wants to play it safe and do things the "right" way? (I've even seen countless times on this sub that women need to learn from their bad experiences, is this not exactly that?) What bearing does any of that have on her relationship with you? This feels like a roundabout way to say get…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:39 AM
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Yes, some do. But that's cruel and childish, and although you should take steps to protect yourself from people who act like that, it's not a reason to deny yourself something that would make you happy. Most women aren't going to do that. Dating in general is scary because people can be horrible and you could waste your time, but that's a risk you take.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:13 PM
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To clarify, this sinking feeling is because you have to let the interaction play out knowing the whole time you're going to reject them. I get this feeling any time anyone hits on me because I don't like shooting someone down, but from the start my response was always going to be "I have a boyfriend."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:08 PM
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I don't think that's what he's saying. It reads to me like he wants to go out with his partner in addition to them having girls nights. He didn't say his partner was his only friend or that he wanted her to stop going out with her friends. I do agree with you, though, and I could be reading things wrong. That's just the impression I got from his comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:18 PM
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Sure, but that's not the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:03 AM
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You're telling me a 10/10 woman who's an insane serial killer would still be someone you'd go for?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:58 AM
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Always thought it was dumb that it's not normal for men to wear a bit of concealer here or there, or keep their nails tidy. Let's give them more fashion choices too while we're at it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:55 AM
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Maybe older men should be going after women their own age
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 10:02 PM
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And a lot of people don't want to be touched right off the bat, right? I know both women and men who wouldn't be okay with someone coming up and touching them just because they found them attractive. I wouldn't be okay with that. As a woman, in that situation I could walk up, say hi, get close to the guy and see if he backs away/looks uncomfortable and then touch him, but you shouldn't go around touching people before you've said anything to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:18 AM
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I feel like you might be conflating OP's post with others' opinions, because I took it a completely different way. Creepy behavior would be things like harrassment, assault, etc. You can have a direct approach while still getting consent from whoever you're approaching, and women can absolutely be perpetrators of sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:06 AM
4

Please explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:02 AM
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I’m not jumping in defending every single man I encounter people are calling me gay for posting this other grown men business is not my business Well, this is how they get away with it. I'm not saying you did anything wrong by not stepping in (you're the one who was there and saw the situation play out after all), but predators do wait until they think they won't be challenged to sexually harrass/abuse. Including women. And then there's the whole "if you don't want sex with literally every woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:01 AM
1

I honestly think this depends on how much life experience/dating experience you have. The more experienced you are, the earlier you'll be able to see what they're all about. But I feel like you need to live with someone to truly know them. How many date until sex would be ok? Up to the individuals Do you believe in the Halo/Horn effect? Pretty privilege is a thing, so yeah. Horn effect, not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 10:11 PM
6

There was genuinely zero reason for you to have left this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:47 AM
11

Yeah actually I think it'd be a great thing for boys/men to have better support
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 05:14 AM
1

Also, it is not uncommon for many female PhDs to be perpetually single. I know many such women as a PhD grad myself. They either end up with a PhD man, or they stay single. Do you think part of this is because some men prefer a woman who is less educated/makes less money than them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 02:44 AM
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I think even parental love is conditional for some, but I agree. I don't think it's healthy to give your all to someone no matter what they do or don't do, or how they change. In a partnership you need boundaries, otherwise you're pretty much giving people permission to abuse you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 02:37 AM
1

You realize you're only seeing the women who do post that they bought a house on social media, not the ones that don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:20 PM
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"Girl math" is a meme though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:16 PM
2

Yeah, I have the expectation that the man will pay for at least the first date or two, but after we get to know each other/make it official we split.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:13 PM
6

If you as a man don't treat women as equals, that is a problem, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 07:50 AM
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