sadgirlji Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
33	When an older man tries to ask “what do you bring to the table?” RUN!!! This post has weird almost pick me empowerment vibes. The list of things a young woman brings to the table seems like it’s regurgitating the same things men say when you ask the why they date extremely younger women. I agree overall the question about what you bring to the table is the brightest red flag ever but this messaging is problematic for me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/08/21 03:16 PM
10	Multiple kids without marriage- thoughts? I came here to say this. A HVM would want to provide a stable foundation for their kids and that includes marrying their mother and ensuring their legal protection. In my state (US) you can’t put a mans name on the birth certificate if you’re not married (or at least that was the case when I was born) so these kids are bastards essentially.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/08/21 02:54 PM
132	That’s why you should always demand proof, don’t just accept their words This is bad, like terrible. I feel so bad for her and I hope an annulment is in her future. But I do want to ask, how should we navigate getting “proof” of income and debt? Like what’s a tasteful way of asking for proof or tips on how to navigate the conversation around debt?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/08/21 09:15 PM
710	Living large and proud to show the world his mad skills as a home decorator Um...where’s the sheet for the mattress?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/21 05:39 PM
2	There's everything wrong with society if having the locks changed and being locked out isn't grounds for divorce That’s what I gathered from that line too. He doesn’t like the sister and cousin probably because they’ve been trying to convince her to leave his ass.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/21 01:46 PM
40	Why his music taste is extremely important during the vetting process. I honestly think most mainstream music has pretty LV themes, so I’m curious why rap was singled out as aggressive. But I definitely agree that a persons music choices are reflective of their values. If someone’s favorite artist is Eminem that’s dealbreaker for me. If their favorite artist is an abuser (looking at you Chris Brown fans) or an enabler (Bella Poarch) it’s a red flag for me. I don’t believe in “separating the artist from the music” so that’s a difference in values that I can’t overlo…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/21 01:41 PM
220	I can’t believe what I just found on Facebook! Most of the comments seem to agree with her. 🤡🤮 Every time I see posts like this, I wonder how their parents raised them. I usually see this mentality in people who had controlling parents and they now conflate love and control OR they had no guidance at all from either parent and they want stability and they think allowing their partners to control them is the path to stability. Of course these people always end up with psychos cause a healthy, mentally and emotionally stable partner wouldnt want the responsibility of controlling another per…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/21 12:27 PM
100	HVM Behaviour: He speaks highly of you to people you’ll never run into I remember reading a quote that said “Your name is mentioned in rooms you’ve never been in.” And this is a beautiful example of that! Wishing y’all well!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/08/21 07:24 AM
45	Imagine needing pixels to get in the mood.. I cackled so loud!! I know that’s right!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 06:00 PM
16	Reminder: Thank you for sharing this, seriously. I started healing when I moved out but kept getting into self destructive cycles because of familial obligations and being raised by narcissistic parents. I’m reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents right now and it is putting so much into perspective.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 05:57 PM
16	FDS Fiction - What Are You Reading? I’m not sure if these are feminist but they have strong women characters whose focus isn’t men or even romantic relationships: Kindred by Octavia Butler The Testaments by Margaret Atwood Such a Fun Age by Kiley Reid The Vanishing Half by Brit Bennett How Stella Got Her Groove Back by Terry McMillan	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 05:25 PM
105	I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands. Why would you unwrap something in a trash can in the bathroom in toilet paper??? The rest of this is bad but I can’t imagine digging in the bathroom trash can???	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 05:13 PM
165	Silly question Then these same men will victim blame women if they are hurt or killed and scream Not All Men!! Like if you want women to take “personal responsibility” for her safety instead of holding men accountable for their actions then this is how women are going to view a majority of men	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 05:11 PM
64	I was on urban dictionary to look something up, and what do you know... today's word of the day is "pick me" While I love to see FDS spreading and women being empowered to live their best lives, it’s important to also acknowledge that “Pick Me” is a phrase used in AAVE prior to the creation of FDS.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/07/21 09:54 PM
270	Woman’s NVM husband constantly bends over backwards to ogle at other women and underage girls in public, right in front of her. A shitload of pickmes in the comments are coping with their husbands who do the same. I hate her use of “fully developed” it seems like she’s using it to distance the behaviors from pedophillia.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/07/21 12:34 PM
1	For my Vanilla Queens! I think so! But I know for sure they’re at target and Kroger/Harris Teeter if one of those are accessible to you. There’s normally a coupon on their website as well if you want to save a few coins!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/07/21 08:06 AM
4	For my Vanilla Queens! Try the so delicious brand!! They have the best vegan ice cream and they even have ice cream sandwiches	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/07/21 05:04 AM
21	Not having children in this pedophilic society. I was listening to a podcast that debunks societal myths/ misremembered history and the particular episode was about Sex Offenders. One of the stories covered was about a father who molested his daughter to get back at his wife for cheating on him. I don’t think I would trust a man enough to want to have kids with him. The number of child sexual abuse cases happens mostly someone the child knows including a family member or friend and I’m sure that number is severely underreported.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/07/21 02:25 AM
12	Expect harsh judgements of your HVM and yourself and swan on This! And they don’t want their wives to start thinking that maybe they deserve better!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/07/21 01:59 PM
19	How to avoid falling back into old pickmeisha habits? Recent college grad with a few tips here: Ditch the dating apps. I know that’s a general FDS principle but once you get on campus it will seem like every one is using them and you may feel pressured. Don’t do it. Remind yourself that yourself that your primary focus is learning, growing, and getting that degree. Everything else is secondary and dating (or more specifically being in a relationship) is last on the list. Just because your friends accept something in their relationship or situations…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/07/21 05:17 PM
7	Texting all day is low value. I agree. Texting is my least valued form of communication. You can’t infer tone or body language over text which can lead to miscommunication. I hate having a full conversation through text and it seems like my generation has lost the art of talking on the phone.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/06/21 06:01 AM