Point about the research cited directly above: the researchers are studying women who struggle with infertility as their base to form those statistics about fertility and age. Fertility is notoriously difficult to study. Researchers often rely on historical data or data from people who seek fertility treatments because they can actually track who gets pregnant, how long it takes, and at what age. Then they extrapolate from that data to give women guidelines about fertility. The problem of course…
Weirdly enough, I understand why your mom does not want to see him as a creep. She probably has a hard time reconciling your dad giving her the stability she needed with the fact that he was way too old for her. Both of those things are true but she probably thinks acknowledging one cancels out the other. I mean, she's been 18 and she's been 30. She knows how much she's changed and what the difference is. She definitely wouldn't get with an 18 year old young man at 30 because she would automatic…
so if they’re going to perpetuate the patriarchy, they need some kind of ultimate authority to prop it up with. Hence evo-psych, which isn’t even a real science. A bunch of just-so stories. Literally had this exact thought. Evo psych functions like a religion for leftist men. They use it to justify misogyny the same way conservative men use religion to justify the poor treatment of women.
Some people move you. bell hooks shaped how I think and how I view reality. I feel this loss so deeply. I will always be grateful she existed. Rest in peace.
Same. When I see a group photo of males, I always rank their looks. Except I have a pass or fail metric AND a sliding scale metric. Eg. I'll look at a guy and think pass or fail in the looks department then I rank from 5 to 10. I don't bother ranking them if they fail 😂. I don't understand men who rank the 0 to 4 category arguing with their whole chest the difference between a 3.5 and a 4. Those are all the same shade of I don't care 🙃
Wow! Thanks for the reply. I'm very wary of a lot of scientific claims made about women. Scientists abused their authority to reproduce justifications for misogyny. I think the same, definitely more so though, about religion.
This post makes me so angry 🤬🤬🤬 She says she's uncomfortable...but she's really angry. Women are socialized not to recognize their anger. Great book I'm reading about this exact topic called Rage Becomes Her. Holy shit!!!!
Ladies, same. I cried all the way through. My life was pre a thousand splendid suns and post. I also come from a Muslim background, but I've since left that misogynistic cult.
This man declared war on your spirit, mind, and your perception of yourself. It was an indication of two things: one, the relationship was over and two, you should've gotten even on your way out of the relationship. It's interesting that men will give commentary on their partner's body. The only question I would ask is "so why are you still here then if you think this way about me? Mate, you better pack your shit and leave. Don't let me stop you from finding those amazing tits that you think are…
Nope, not possible. Islam has a static text that can't change. Muslims literally believe it's the words of God (ie God spoke to a man and the words recorded in the Quran are God's word verbatim). People who argue that reformation is possible don't have this fundamentalist belief in the Quran. In theory, it sounds great and so many problems could be left behind if you don't think the text is God's word. However, the vast majority of muslims are orthodox (sunni) and they have this belief that the …
Same. It is the only way. Too many people don't want to entertain that idea because the religion is an identity, familiar, and the lens through which they filter reality. It's hard to walk away from religion for many people because of these reasons.
Romantic love is overrated. It would be stupid for her to leave him; he gives her what she needs. That's not settling, it just what maturing looks like.
I wish I could be like this...but I'm not. I can still be attracted to men even if I don't like who they are (e.g. stupid, rude, sarcastic, wimpy, I don't really respect them, irritating/annoying, etc..). I guess for me physical attraction is separate and distinct from personality/values. It works the other way around too. I'm not attracted to men just because i think they're kind, intelligent, and successful people who I respect if I don't find them physically attractive. So yeah 😭😭
I hope you find your way out. I'm guessing you have an ethnic background? Please know you're not imagining it and that it's really awful. Hold onto that knowledge, be strategic and smart, and hang on long enough to get out.
Lmao 😂, there really is two modes for men. 1) cute enough to live in your clitoris and head rent free. 2) okay...what else? Silently in my head: if I twist my head sideways and kinda squint my eyes he could almost look cute.
This is such an Important point because scrotes think it's because women like men who are already taken. Women see that man as already vetted and as relationship material (hence the behavior of women towards married men). Scrote logic is insidious.
Same with Muslim women. I grew up one and I just had to stop. It was completely infuriating. Muslims loved putting women in positions of power only when it was time to argue that feminism was bad/evil and that islam was the solution (ugh). They loved quoting alt right material, Christian polemic material about gender (we're separate/different but equal), and Warren Farrell (ugh). Completely infuriating.
The point about fertility uses faulty data (I would suggest reading the Atlantic and slate articles about this), but other than that I thought it was great.
I'm 5'9 too, but I weight less than I should (around 121) and I'm trying to gain more weight plus muscle mass for my health. I feel fatigued and groggy because of my unhealthy weight. They don't know what they are talking about 😂.
I stopped reading at the women women are excited to go on dates with fat bald men, in fact they even prefer them. Me too 😂. She's an elder millennial though. She probably grew up in a different cultural landscape where it was "shallow" to care about looks.
It's from our agricultural past, where men were encouraged to marry a girl (it was always a girl) who was no more than half his age plus seven (the youngest he could go). I think the French came up with it. Anyways, it's leftovers from when women had zero options and were in chattel slavery...so not sure why there are delusional men still trying to artificially inflate the value of old men when they don't have any of the institutional power to implement it 🤷♀️
I could never summarize his ideas into bottom line points. He just went on and on in a circular fashion. I think that's part of the gag. It's harder to pin him down.
Men see themselves as men first. Everything else is secondary and compartmentalized into neat little boxes that exist nowhere but in the figment of their own imaginations.
Lmao. The years I wasted desperately trying to believe that lie... it's a religion that treats women like slaves...very valuable (read: exploitable) slaves. Who're they trying to fool??
This is such an eye opening comment. I never thought about how women are burdened with the responsibility of creating and raising 'legacy' but get erased from history. They're invisible. They're not included in the work cited. 😨😨
Exactly. Women are objects men are subjects. Catharine A. MacKinnon said it best: "Man fucks women. Subject verb object." This is a quote from Andrea Dworkin's book Right Wing Women. Somebody mentioned it in a thread a while back as the book that helped them take off their rose tinted glasses and have a sober view of men and the world. I gotta say as someone who grew up with a Muslim background, this book is the first one to cut through the noise and speak to me directly. Holy shit.
This is hilariously accurate. I grew up with a Muslim background and what you said below is sadly so true. Being a mother in trad circles is just about the best women can be, unless she wants to jump to the top by advocating against women's rights.
It makes you more susceptible to manipulation and believing things without evidence. This is so true! I never even considered this, but it's been true for me .
