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MOOD FOR LIFEsailorstrong/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 04:23 PM
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My grandparents were married for 67 years. We had fridge magnets made up for one of the last anniversary parties. It had a pic of my lanky grandpa with his arms bear hugged wrapped around my grandma. And the phrase "and I wouldn't change a damn thing" as he said that often. Their relationship wasn't perfect, especially by modern standards. She was a housewife, and there was always a power dynamic there. but he worshipped the ground she walked on, and always made a huge effort at making her happy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:10 PM
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This is a huge one for me. My most recent crush is a brilliant, financially independent, calm, competent confident world traveller. The crush grew with time, but the realization that I wanted to be him, rather than just be with him. Doesn't mean I don't enjoy his company, but helps me put a bit of distance with my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:59 PM
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The French, as a sweeping generalization, and including Quebecois in this, can be absolutely raging misogynists. But they somehow end up being misogynists who genuinely, somehow, like women, and value sensuality. Most North American men, by contrast are misogynists, but disrespectful, asshole misogynists, whose culture has bastardized sensuality and sexuality to such an extent that women are just objects to be used. Why would one care about what an object, a wife appliance if you will, wants? Al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:06 PM
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I graduated high school in '99. I remember to shitty ex I had right after school who called pigtails "handlebars" even way back then. The sexualization of then has existed for a Loooong time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:10 PM
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This is my exact scenario. Gave up my 30s to be a forever girlfriend to a boy who left me for a much younger woman. I continued to work, but gave up a lucrative career out of town to further my ex's company. Yes, I know exactly what I'm entitled to. I still need to come up with some 20k + to pay for a forensic accountant to go over the companies books. I lost my job during covid, in part due to intense stress as he kicked me out and left me with literally nothing. Things are not looking great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:42 AM
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"because he's already forgiven himself" What the ever loving fuck. Seriously. I realize the fiancee thing is objectively worse. But just the sheer hubris of the "forgiven himself". I'm sorry and glad you're out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:46 PM
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A very public man in my community claims to be a Male Feminist. Yet had no issue choking my gf who he had a FWB relationship. Non-consentually, did not stop when she panicked and asked him to stop. And he did it multiple times. Piece. Of. Shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:20 PM
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Another one here. 37, 7 years together, changed my career path for the growth of his company. Met a younger woman, watched them make out in front of me and my friends, dumped me by text on one of the most important days at work in two years, said he never had feelings for me and I was never enough, kicked me out of our home and moved his student girlfriend into our home. And "men" wonder why we have difficulty trusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:39 PM
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An ex took some pics (consensual at the time) of us having sex. On my camera for safety. We'd been together some... 6 months at the time. Yet he somehow got a copy of them, and saved them to a DVD (late 2000s) and labeled it "leverage". What the fuck? I happened to find it either after we split or before. Promptly destroyed but who knows what is out there. But the sheer depravity that he would keep those tucked away with the full intention of using against me at a later time. Go kick rocks, men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:40 PM
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This is the most perfect description!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:27 PM
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Calling a relationship an armistice. Whoa. Each benefits, but man. That hits too close to home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:22 AM
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It's my birthday today and I organized a low-key get together with my sailing friends. I took my OWN boat over solo and met up with some 6 other boats. It's both me doing something entirely for me (solo sailing!) And also being surrounded by my closest friends who love me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:46 PM
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When my LV ex dumped me, one of the issues he brought up was that I didn't completely shave off my pubic hair. We had had a discussion very early in our relationship about that, and I was like "nope". Neat, trimmed and partially shaved but had no interest in going fully bald. He never mentioned it again, until it had become a MAJOR DEALBREAKER .... 6 years later. He was controlling in so many ways. But also incredibly non-communicative about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:31 PM
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Close ... Get married IF I feel like it to a partner who respects and values me. Be responsible for my own retirement. Build a career that is able to support me and any family I might choose to have. Strive to improve and grow Make myself proud by acting with integrity always Find ... Whatever the fuck I want in life. A partner might be nice for some, but in no way is required for a happy, connected fulfilled life. Live a LONG, healthy, joyful, peaceful, connected life. We don't need a timeline.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:42 AM
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Ladies. I just can't anymore. I just can't. How is this acceptable? I want off this planet .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:38 PM
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Certainly not. It's a move I had been considering already, partly as community is so important to me and it's just a better lifestyle where she is. But it is so much easier to level up when surrounded by a supportive community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:12 PM
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But no worries, his porn sick peen doesn't get up anymore, so he won't even bother initiating (but will still skulk around implying you're denying him) for fear his precious fee-fees have to face reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:33 PM
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At my previous job, I was consistently the only woman in the room. I work at an amazing interface between software, mechanical engineering and electrical work, but it is incredibly male dominated. We were on a large LEED building review job, where I was working as the tech, under the PM. Basically I was presenting to the engineering firm. I had been working with their team for some... 4 months at this point so they knew me and my role. I was also the only woman in this meeting. Shortly into the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:31 PM
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My sister's partner just walked out on her and their 18 month old baby she has been caring for solo for 6 months as he didn't get around to looking for work where they had agreed to move to (closer to me, and our family and where she landed a great job). He says he's "no longer in love" and is going back east right now to "sort out where his head is". Yup. For sure he was the one struggling while they were separated. Absolutely zero regard for what she has been dealing with, her feelings or the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:45 AM
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After her first horrific partner (navy, and ended up having -- surprise! -- a mistress on the other coast he knocked up) she was smart, and has a great career. We live in a HCOL area, but she will be fine. Her heart, I'm not so sure about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:04 PM
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Totally agree. He was a bearably ok guy. Nice, decent, on track to a decent career. They seemed happy together. Let her be a warning to all of you. A ring before he moves in or before you even start talking about babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:01 PM
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And feels resentful that you "made him plan something" the whole time...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:29 PM
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My sister's partner just announced that "he's no longer in love with her". They have an 18 month old baby. They had agreed and planned to move to the west coast. She found a great job and moved just before covid. He has barely applied for any jobs (she does it for him) and is still living out east with his mums. He has turned into a manchild (more accurately, the manchild tendencies have gotten out of control) He is abandoning his child to enjoy the single life. Piece of fucking shit. Debatable …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:02 PM
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My ex said that to me after leaving me abruptly for another woman after 7 years together. Apparently I had "never been enough". When asked why he never said anything about that, why if he had been so unhappy, why did he stay and waste my time. "I didn't want to hurt your feelings"* Because saying that to me at 6 months would be so much more hurtful that at 7 years. *Read: I was still getting value out of "being" with you , monetarily, lifestyle, sex and chores domestic duties. Until something sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:22 PM
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I was a forever girlfriend. My sister's partner and father of her child is saying he's "falling out of love with her". Both those men were go with the flow people. My sister and I got caught up in it. My ex moved in with me without ever really discussing it (apart from the conversation where I said "I will never live with someone again until there is a ring on my finger" which I then just let "go with the flow"). My sister's partner was never really active in their relationship. Both bearably pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:15 PM
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Money on he is still sleeping around. Maybe not yet but those habits don't die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:27 PM
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She's cute and his malleable arm candy. He's her meal ticket. They can enjoy each other for as long as they want. Not my circus. We were 38 at the time. She had only just finished her diploma and to my knowledge had never really survived on her own. Like attracts like in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:36 PM
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Here is one area that I split from the FDS tenets. Part of FDS for me, is leveling up, and for me, that is building my character into someone I am consistently proud of. Ghosting, which if you block and delete, is just bad manners. I never feel good about myself when I do. Even piece of shit men, occasionally, deserve bare minimum. 💯, Absolutely, this scrote is not worth a minute more of your time or energy. But for my own self-respect, I would reply with a "This relationship isn't what I'm look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:33 PM
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When my POS ex left me, he harped on me for not "being healthy" and that was what he wanted for me. Yes, I was in the low overweight range by BMI. I was 12 lbs over where I was when we met and I was in the healthy range. 12 fucking lbs. I threw that right back at him. Blood pressure? Optimal. Resting heart rate? Sub 60. Triglycerides and cholesterol? At the lowest mortality point on the charts. Blood sugar? Super stable and low. All blood tests in the optimal to normal range. I could run 10k (ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:59 PM
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I was with a man for 7 years as a forever girlfriend. He was always emotionally distant, but otherwise "high value": nice (never kind) calm (disengaged) successful (after we started dating), tall and attractive (just born that way, not indicative of value) generous (so long as he profited just as much as me, or it was a way to show off). It was a slow decline, but the last two years were full of more and more abusive and controlling behaviours. Cheating, silent treatment, criticism. His LV trait…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:30 PM
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The most vocal, self-proclaimed "feminist" man I know choked my best girl without consent, and continued after she told him to stop and she started panicking, and then left her with no "aftercare". He also watches too much violent porn, can't get it up, has ED, is out of shape. But he's tall, a lawyer and has a big dick. These are the men we need to watch out for ladies. Don't be fooled by surface traits. Vet hard, vet long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:45 PM
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I replied to a Reddit post this spring. Had one socially distanced date (never again). I talked about the rough divorce I was in, and just kind of shared bits of my life, as one does when one is getting to know someone. I wasn't into him, and kind of faded away. I could have been more clear, more direct. He called me on ghosting. I ignored him. Anyway. Posted in my local r4r looking for new activity partners and lo and behold, he comments with an alt (can see his history and it is 💯 him). The ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:01 PM
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Also inheritances are often part of "excluded property", until those resources are put towards a marital home or a few other special circumstances. Again, everywhere is different, but they are one of the very few things explicitly excluded here. That, legal settlements and a handful of others. Even without a prenup, in my province at least, she would have been able to keep all that, so long as it was managed properly from the start. Know your laws in the state/province/country you live in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:09 PM
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I had an awful narcissist ex who undiscovered near the end of our relationship was into beastiality. He told me he got off on it because he doesn't respect women and that was the prime example of that. Why I didn't walk out that very minute is beyond me. Lucky, I got out a few months later. These people are twisted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:14 AM
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I told the guy I'm seeing around 3 months. I didn't tell him details, but just that there had been an assault and that explains part of who I am (very jumpy and also some of my triggers). It doesn't leave me open to being manipulated, shows that I've (mostly) healed but I believe it is something he needs to know about .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:29 PM
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I didn't see these until early covid days, but they seem to have taken over. I went on a few when restaurants were all still closed, but no excuse now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:25 PM
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I'm in Canada, and my rainy west coast city tends to draw a lot of ex-pats. Another northerner "friend" has repeatedly made explicit passes at me, despite being close friends with his GF. Men. Who fucking needs them ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:46 PM
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I matched with a northerner (UK) a while back. He was constantly self-deprecating, and it was incredibly off-putting. There's a middle ground between unnecessary (and un-justified) ego, and apologizing for every little thing. I especially notice it of when I'm off living my life, and not replying to messages for a few hours and they apologize/complain that I don't answer, I must have lost interest. Self-deprecation is not a HV trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:14 PM
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I used to joke that one of the "silliest" reasons I stopped seeing someone was using his washroom, and being horrified at the beard clippings EVERYWHERE. Now I just look back and see the queen energy I once had, and aspire to get back to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:40 PM
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While my city was still in semi-lockdown (restaurants were not open, but we were encouraged to get out for walks) I went on a low-effort walk date with a brilliant academic-turned private sector PhD, UK ex-pat with a "dark sense of humour". Pre-date he jokes about murdering me and putting me in the boot of his car. Why? Why, girl, did you put up with that? I put off the date a few times but he was persistent and apart from the odd dark remark, I found him interesting. My humour can be off-colour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:18 PM
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Meh. She deserves compensation because that's what the law says. He sounds like a POS, but that's not illegal. Our laws are written the way they are for a reason. It's not on the courts to decide on monetary payout if he was a shitty person. That would add even further complication and cost to divorce proceedings. She deserves peace, her self worth and a new life without him. She deserves compensation because he broke a legal contract.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:10 PM
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Love all this except for the "Rip him off". All she will be doing is to empower her client to get what she is legally entitled to. It's not ripping him off. They had a legal contract and the terms are clearly stated beforehand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:49 PM
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My narc ex did this. We met when. We were 31. He'd been living with a girl for 5 years previously, and had "helped" "raise" a previous GFs kid for a few years before that, interspersed with fuckboying. He told me he'd never been in love before. It was an immediate flag. Who moves in with someone, and melds a life with a someone if you don't love someone? I brushed it off for no good reason. He told me I was the perfect for him. Turns out he was emotionally distant and emotionally abusive. He che…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:24 PM
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First conversation (we met online) was him telling me he thought someone was playing a practical joke on him, as I was so perfect for him, someone had to have made me up. Hello, love bombing! 7 years later, our last conversation was him telling me I had never been enough, he had been dating me for my lifestyle, he wasn't attracted to me and never really had been, that he was amazed I was able to hold a job. Devalue. Then he kicked me out of our home to move a 12 year younger woman in. Discard. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:32 AM
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This is me, this week. My best friend of three years and I hooked up during covid. Completely platonic up until that point. I'm healing from a nasty break up almost a year ago. He cared and supported me through it all. We both started developing feelings. He ramped it right up to telling me he loved me, was crazy about me and asking for exclusivity, understanding that if I gave him that, I wanted the full package. He was all for it. I traveled with him for a weekend at the start of his two week …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:24 AM
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Yes for FDSers in Vancouver!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 03:35 PM
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I was left for a much younger woman. It really changes my perspective on age differences. Usually it's indicative of an interest in the dudes side of having a power imbalance, someone malleable and less likely to speak up for themselves. Then again... I'm dating a dude 10 years my junior. The power dynamic isn't there due to genders mostly, but there is almost a generational gap. Things I grew up with are unknown to him. It can be weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:26 PM
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My ex left me in part because I wasn't hot enough. He ended up with a girl 12 years younger and far more malleable. Not my problem anymore. But the things he said to me in those final days. Man, they were cruel. I was 12 -- 12! -- pounds heavier than when we'd met 7 years earlier. Considering the depression I was struggling with, not all bad. No one should spend their life with someone for whom such a minor weight difference makes or breaks the relationship. I'm seeing someone now who damn near …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:02 PM
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After 7 years with an abusive ex, I'm in a similar situation, except I have to see him and the homewrecking ho often. (don't get me wrong. He's the one who done fucked up more, but she's a piece of shit too) It breaks me inside, but all I can do is face it with grace and charm. Big hugs. The aftermath of continuously seeing them in my world (which was my world well before he even came along, and in which he is already neither liked not respected) is hard. The strong feelings will fade. It will b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:57 PM
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Cut it off yourself. You don't deserve that type of behaviour. No one deserves that type of behaviour. "I don't want to do this anymore." Don't preface it with Sorry. Don't apologize. You can add reasons but keep them short. Even just a "I haven't been treated with the respect I deserve". Walk girl. Your life is going to get so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 06:26 PM
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It also has to do with potential. When you're in your 20s, you're looking for the guy who has the education, the skills, the values, the drive to get to where he wants to go. He doesn't have to be there already. Professional career student, or just starting off as an entrepreneur, or starting the climb on the corporate ladder. He doesn't have to have made it. Also remember that for all those dudes 12-15+ years older. He made it there on the back of some other woman, who he abandoned once he "mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:04 PM
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