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This! The amount of late bloomer men who feel resentment towards all women is astounding. I remember lurking in some subreddit, and one felt bitter resentment towards his GF for having ~too much experience~ and he didn't get to do all the stuff she had (he didn't want an equally inexperienced GF, tho), another felt resentment towards his GF because she loved him and wanted to settle down and he ~didn't get to sow his wild oats~ Maybe a unicorn non-bitter, non-angry, non-festered-fomo late bloome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 07:36 AM
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Same here 💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 01:16 PM
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🏅Here take my poor woman‘s gold cause whew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 01:05 PM
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Yes this reminds me of the woman who when offered drinks would instead ask for snacks or a small bar meal. (same price). The men who had just asked to pay for her would get offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 12:04 PM
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Wow she needs an intervention, she’s probably still recovering from her divorce and that feeling of separation/abandonment. So now she is doing all to not be abandoned again. That is the only way I can explain this… how awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 02:28 PM
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What do you mean by "female first during conception"? As far as I know chromosomes in a minute old zygote are already either xx or xy depending on the sperm (either x or y chromosome) that managed to fertilize the egg (which is always x). So we are already either xx or xy from the get go. Is this what you meant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:10 PM
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I’m also finding the thought of giving a man a blowjob to be disrespectful and degrading lately. I think it’s because I know they all watch porn, so they aren’t thinking about it the same way I am. In the past I wanted to do it to make my partner feel good. But I know they over there thinking “ya bitch, I’m gonna cum on your face, suck my dick like a good little whore.” This tho, I‘m convinced especially if a man watches porn he will most likely have no healthy, non-degrading way of thinking of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:23 AM
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The fact that this guy posts his videos to TikTok makes me think that he was just trying to say something controversial in order to get impressions, comments, clicks. I have developed such an aversion to that site and anything posted there, especially if it‘s coming from professionals and not random normal people. Also he is a divorce lawyer so he regularly sees the worst of people and couple dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 05:17 PM
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From the moment I heard that Future was not even there when Ciara gave birth, he chose to be on tour, I knew he was trash. He could have afforded to postpone or cancel a tour date for his child, but didn't. What kind of shitty, fucked up behavior is that, why would anyone want to go out with an overgrown rapper? ​ All of these podcast men have one thing in common - extreme desire to see women get hurt because they cannot get over their own pain of being rejected by women out of their league look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:25 AM
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Wow they even narrowed it down to male partners only. 😑 Lesbians you can leave, this isn’t about you /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:02 PM
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I think the fact that he joined in the humiliation says everything. It’s one thing for him to feel like he can’t protect you b/c it would risk his position. It’s a whole other thing to actively partake and then have the gall to message you privately and tell you he’s actually on your side. He could have simply stayed out of it, if it is that much of a risk. Imo you’re still being to nice about it. What that man did to you was awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:48 PM
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A lot of people really do not get this point. No matter how ill-advised Will Smiths slap was, this is a very different situation for us black women than it is for everyone else. Everyone who has made it about themselves or who until today never cared about Roman Polanski and Woody Allen still having their Oscars, is very annoying to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 11:52 AM
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Thank you for this, it seems this dynamic always comes with a territorial pickme "bestfriend" who has no boundaries and believes herself to have "been there" first. Very childish, and also very selfish b/c she is literally scaring away all the potential partners her supposedly best friend could have, while not committing to him. What he could possibly get out of this outside of narcissistic drama, is beyond me though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:16 AM
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Men really do tell on themselves. If she is so drunk that a friend has to talk for her, then the only kind of guy still interested is a r-pist. Sorry, but that is the way I see it. So what they are saying here is, why can’t the friend let me take her home and r-pe her in peace. And they also don’t seem to understand that women will literally tell their friend, no matter what happens don’t let me go home with anyone. Make sure I get home. It’s not cockblocking, it’s protection. Edit: And women wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:22 AM
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Oh I didn’t know Katt Williams said that, now I have to look into that. But yeah if a bm is handing out n-word passes to his yt friends and even a wm is looking on with worry… 🙄 that tells you all you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:08 AM
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It’s almost like they’re trying to center themselves in a situation that is actually about OUR trauma... for once just read the room!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:56 AM
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Probably because Mary was an f-toy to him, while marrying his wife was supposed to make him respectable. That is usually how it goes with guys like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:51 AM
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At the end of the day that’s what it is, isn’t it? Wanting girls to "fight" over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:57 PM
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Textbook gaslighting, including taking her side in an argument… while knowing full well he’s sleeping with her. It’s cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:55 PM
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You see, in my heart of heart I want to believe this is how it usually goes. And perhaps a part of me still believes in such platonic friendships, but I’ve grown suspicious over time. Maybe for some small % of men it’s like this. But so many use the friend excuse as a shield to cheat and gaslight their partners, it’s not even funny. But good that it worked out that way for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:31 PM
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I would like to give men the benefit of the doubt, but so far it seems like it’s impossible for a man to truly have a completely female friend. It’s either someone he’s hoping to sleep with, already slept with (and hopes to do again, like an ex) or someone he failed to sleep with. Even family stories are dotted with “funny” annecdotes of now aged, jolly "uncles" who tried to get with female relatives when they were in college or university. And who knows if they were given the chance they would …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:23 PM
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I saw those tweets as well and all I could think was A) This is really not about you, DV or your trauma and B) You really don‘t have the depths to butt into this topic. They have no idea what hell BW go through about our hair. A law had to be legislated to stop racial based hair discrimination, and here Chris Rock comes yapping about a BW hair (and she has an auto-immune disease!) Should Will have handled this differently, sure. But again, it has nothing to do with you or your trauma. We have tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:38 PM
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Thank you! 👏🏾 While I don‘t condone violence in general, there is a kind of "humor" that black men in engage in that makes black women the butt of their jokes because they know they will get no pushback at all. And this includes dehumanizing drag (Tyler Perry) making fun of our bodies, hair, personalities in a way that buys into wider racist ideas and stereotypes. A lot of them boost or even build their entire careers on that. This wasn‘t the first time Chris Rock made Jada the target of his jok…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:24 PM
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The whole Margo Robbie rumor, right?? So all the people hating on Jada are simply letting their misogyny flag fly, huh? If they were separated and both had partners, why is Jada the only one who gets flak?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:15 PM
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Will Smith is in Scientology??? TIL I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:11 PM
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Agreed, I was surprised he got an autism doagnosis, I‘m no clinician but it feels like a misdiagnosis. And of course he can always use it as an excuse. Probably the bullying affected him and he didn‘t get the support he needed then. That is the only part where I can empathize with him. That caused all those personality issues which just amplified it all even more. And I agree he didn‘t even offer a "I wish I had done x instead" or "here is what you should do instead". But I feel like that is bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:09 PM
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Same here, can relate to the mental health stuff, but nothing else. The way he treated his mom was awful, and everything else too. I think he still has an inflated sense of self. Only few people working super high paying jobs get tailored suits wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:58 PM
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Yh, but on the left you still have a choice, the right literally forces their agenda down peoples throat and enshrines it in law. You really can relativize the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 12:42 AM
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Allowing that name to stay sounds like the beginning of a nightmare. The fact that all those benefits are conditional says it all. Either they love their grandchild unconditionally and give him all those things, or not. But to dangle that in front of them but only if they dance to their tune? Bad things lay ahead there, it won’t end with the name only. They’ll want to control everything and since her husband still wants their approval, he’ll accept everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:31 PM
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Was going to say exactly that, it‘s not like he’ll be giving birth to those kids. And there are do many nightmare stories out there of house husbands who instead of actually running the home, spent their time gaming, watching porn or cheating. Many grow resentful of their wife and her career etc, neglect the children, etc… just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:23 AM
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I thought he bought the car for her at first 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 12:15 AM
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Alternatively, they don't want to inflict their kinks on their vanilla partner because they know it's degrading and want to choose a woman they see as already tainted. Armie Hammer said exactly this when asked about his wife and wow, they are doubly depraved it's really insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 09:13 AM
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I've known women who were essentially perfect in body and soul and still had men treat them cruelly, cheat on them etc... Women who loved them, devoted their lives to them, bore them children, had style and were well raised, were religious, everything the man wanted. And still they got doodoo in return. I think this idea that a woman can control what a man does with her actions, is a myth told to women (by men and other women) to keep them in line. It also gives women this sense of control they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 09:10 AM
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And the rotten thing about all this, is that the things they are asking for are always some deprived shit or something the woman might have had a negative experience with, but they don't care. You were simply asking for something different, not something to humiliate or hurt him. They'll be asking if they can pee in your vagina and get upset if you say no. Or they'll get upset if "you've done it with someone else and now say no". Yes, I did it with someone else and found out it was awful, why wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 08:31 AM
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Or she could have been doing something else in her house, idk something sexy like cleaning the dishes or vacuuming, but no… 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 11:47 AM
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Exactly, it‘s simply to supplement her pay. And women do get push gifts just with stuff for them. She doesn‘t even want the money for her, but for for baby. And he‘s ~turned off~ by that 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:53 PM
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Exactly! He wants the best of both worlds without any risk on his end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:28 PM
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Yup haha, women on Twitter are wishing she could share that binder so they can draw up contracts and plans of their own!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:27 PM
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In the comments he also goes on about not marrying her by law because he wants to be able to walk away at any time. What a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 02:57 PM
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I like how confident these men are, sure a young hot Ukranian woman is going to go for an ungroomed, unwashed basement dweller with nothing going for them, sure 👍 And the sad thing is, there are going to be refugees who have been cut off from means to make money, who are traumatized who will end up in these scrotes hands. A lot of Ukrainians are fleeing to Romania, Europe‘s capital for sexual trafficking. People in some parts there don‘t even let their daughters out alone, because it‘s so bad. P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:09 PM
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Wow, I'm sorry this happened to you. Also fuck him for binging you flowers and a card like he meant anything by it. You deserve better than that! Fuck em all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 01:43 PM
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Not the worm 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:26 AM
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Exactly!! And to copy one from the SW: all that for free??? I'm not pro SW at all, but surely if you're doing it this way, at least charge??? LMAO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:27 AM
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Yes, this is a thing, especially for family men who want to sneak in their cheating habits. If they stay out late their partners might pick up on it. I think I read about this on that SW research page where they aggregated SW related stats, studies and articles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:24 AM
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Why is he still free? Surely at the very least he forged payslips, surely that is illegal??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:19 AM
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You know, now that I think about it, isn‘t is strange that the current trend for down there is to be completely hairless and prepubescent? We all just go along with it, but why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 12:15 PM
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I think as women we have also been somewhat lied to. Women and men are told very different stories about how to think about relationships, potential partners, hell even casual sex. For men it is primarily a numbers game, most simply don't care at all. For women (aside from the most ruthless ones perhaps, who are also hated for being ruthless and called all kinds of names funnily enough) they all go into it as a potential for genuine connection. Sure it's no strings attached, but what if more for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:45 AM
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Yup, if he really is as vanilla as he sold himself he could have sent the friend away. After all he never asked for it. And how does he go from spoiling her and not being interested in anyone else to hiding his phone from her so quickly. He was just barely concealing his scrotery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:29 PM
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Jordan Peterson and co are idiots. This is the same man who went on BBC and said women shouldn‘t complain about sexual harassment in the workplace if they wear makeup. Since makeup is meant to attract a mate 🙄 Pls, just ignore this man and everything that comes out his mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:45 AM
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There is this knee jerk reaction I‘ve observed in older women, even if they‘re feminists, b/c they had it much harder in their time. I think they feel like younger women are trying politizice their own short comings or mistakes. I remember during metoo there were a bunch of prominent older French women who essentially sold the younger women out calling them soft, spoiled etc… But the thing is a crime is a crime. Should you leave an expensive sports car parked in a shady neighborhood with the top…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:10 PM
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I think the thing that is happening here is this: people who are proponents of porn (and sw more generally) want it to be destigmatized and seen like any other job. That it should be free of any moral or other judgement. But I feel like what they don't understand (or are willfully obtuse about) is that porn (and sw) is by design humiliating and degrading. You can't make someone eat puke and pee and then say, btw, this is totally nice and not degrading you guys. If you look into the categories of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 08:54 AM
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So he knows about C-Sections and breach babies, but not the basic stuff like cutting the umbilical cord etc...? That is so sus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:48 AM
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This though, some people have all kinds of superstitions about birth. Maybe he had a bad relationship with his mother and was born C-section and believes there is a link. This would also explain why he is fixated on C-Sections without knowing basic stuff about birth in general. Well, in any case if he does believe that, someone needs to tell him that you can be born vaginally and still have a bad relationship with mom, ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:47 AM
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When you say brings back everything, do you mean feelings for him? I feel like that makes a big difference…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:37 PM
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Exactly, that whole cromagnon look that incels seem to obsess about is something they decided upon. I have yet to hear women pressuring men to look like that or obsess about it. People who do like that look: casting directors for acting and fashion models. They should go and carry out their beef with them not us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:39 PM
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I think that is a different app, the upvotes are at the top not bottom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:29 AM
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Women have been doing this for men, sometimes pressured by their own spouses, for decades. You created this bed, now lay in it. Also, there is nothing wrong with his face, however if that is the way he views the world, well…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:15 AM
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The "hot young" comment coming from him is such a red flag and of course her being 22 she was probably to inexperienced to see it and probably took it as a harmless compliment. There was a story about a guy in his late 20s/ early 30s who had a 18/19 year old gf and kept telling her to say her age as they had sex and kept using all those pornified descriptions for young girls. It sounded so awful, and this guy reminds me of that. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:59 AM
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That’s what I was thinking?? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:17 PM
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Tbh, I’m so suspicious of men who know more about women’s things, than some women. Why does he know about french tips, fast fashion, thigh gaps, agent provocateur or la perla? Even if men happen to like this impossible bmi of 17.7 ED aesthetic, they typically don’t know or care the details about it. This is either a troll or someone really weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:12 PM
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I think he's doing it on purpose and isn't planning on stopping. Where is that chart... Edit: Someone actually did the math https://imgur.com/gallery/Yen9Pgi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:58 AM
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Seriously! I recently re-watched Catch Me If You Can, and it's a crying shame, our eyes have been robbed. And imagine the headlines if a female actress his age decided to do both: be out of shape AND devour one young male model after another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:57 AM
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This is so fucking tragic! I feel like women desperately need a culture of our own that exists outside of pleasing men, men's desires or anything really to do with men. A lot of things we bond over as women, still often benefit men, be it beauty stuff, fashion, sports. I'm reminded of this quote: "You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur." Margaret Atwood Yes, women will swear up and down that they do it for themselves (and maybe few truly do) but at the end of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 10:39 AM
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I love the fact she wants me to notice that she's being an asshole to me, but I keep ignoring it no matter what she does. 😂 Yes!! If you find a way to slink away and not get caught up in their little drama cobwebs, it pisses them off! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 10:15 AM
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It really is, but I think I managed to do it at my work recently. It was a part-time office gig and I was not familiar with any of the people working there. What worked for me with one of the women there who I felt had narc tendencies was "Smile and stay on point." Luckily I didn't have to do much small-talk or anything with her, which makes this even funnier because the few times we did interact, she gave me such sarcastic, passive aggressive energy for no reason at all. Lady, I don't know you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:22 AM
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I agree, while I‘m sure he used narcissistic tactics, there could be more to the situation. The unspoken secret of narcissism is that it doesn‘t work without the victim’s "permission" essentially as hard as that sounds. But I‘ve experienced it. Narcissists will sniff out weak boundaries, psychological wounds and personal shortcomings and use taking care of that as a lure. Always wanted to be wealthy, but your life hasn‘t turned out what you wanted it to be? Feeling self-conscious about not weari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:28 PM
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A guy in a podcast I listen to once got roofied accidentally, because he drank a drink meant for a female friend if his. She handed it to him to hold, not knowing someone in the party had put something in it. He decided to drink it and next thing he knew, he was waking up in his house with no memory of what happened next or how he managed to drive home. He said that is when he understood how likely and how dangerous it was for women to get date raped. And also that the people at the party were a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:51 PM
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Exactly, that’s a bad thing eeww 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:45 PM
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But how is that a good thing? 👀 Oh no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:45 PM
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What is the febreeze supposed to mean??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:45 PM
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The gentlemen doth protest too much indeed. Probably projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:44 PM
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I think the checkmarks are supposed to mean we’re lonely and being left on read… 🙄 But yeah it’s telling they really can’t seem to imagine women have inner lives outside of existing for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:42 PM
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Oh I don‘t believe it, but judging by those threads everyone else seems to believe them and take their wird for it. I find it weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:41 PM
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Misery likes company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:05 PM
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This reminds me of the "empathy boner" conversations that happen here on reddit every now and then. I‘ve never understood that. Guys say it‘s harmless, and just empathy, but how can you trust that when there a guys who actually get off on their gf being sad??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:03 PM
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There is so many faux-romantic movies and films out there, it‘s tiring. I feel like that medium is used to lull women into accepting stupidity in the name of love. I‘m a big time romantic, but c‘mon. This actually makes me want to look into Elenor of Aquitaine, since she was known for love and all that. But I have a bad feeling lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:47 PM
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Have you by any chance seen "mother!" ? I don‘t think I‘d call it FDS approved maybe more of a confirmation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:45 PM
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Thanks, I‘ll look this up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:33 PM
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Reminds me of the post here on reddit many years ago, might have been RA or AITA, of the man who was jealous of his baby son. He wanted sex out of his wife asap after birth. She was stretched thin between recovery and caring for a brand new baby. He got upset b/c she wouldn‘t give him a bj, started yelling and telling her to suck the babies d, since he was her husband now. Imagine being this much of a manchild, getting jealous of your own son, wanting to take away resources from your own son. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:17 AM
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I think it's important not to excuse shitty behavior because a man is from X culture or is of X ethnicity. Shitty behavior is shitty behavior around the world. The only difference is how much of a chance women there have to actually defend themselves or demand more, as well as how much women (and men) there are conditioned by the culture. So yeah, I would say vet as you always would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:37 AM
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You’re right, but a woman can hope 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:30 AM
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I was about to say this, he wants them to have sex there. 🥴 This is the moment I hope that was written by a karma-troll and not a man seriously considering taking his date to a storage unit for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:18 AM
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If sex work is work, it can be critiqued just like any other work can be critiqued. And Marx saw exploitation in prostitution as a specific case of exploitation if the worker more generally. He saw it as a product of capitalism and was against it. What are these leftist bros on about? Edit: I also need for people to stop having this kneejerk reaction that being anti-sexwork is being anti-sexworker. This isn’t a moral critique of someones character, but a critique of the work itself and the circu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:08 AM
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I used to lurk the f*mcel sub and even them, who think or know themselves to be unattractive and undesirable know they can get sex out of men. However, the quality of that sex is so abysmal and devoid of any feeling or love, that they avoid casual sex with men and instead crave love and relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:53 AM
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Ah yes, the thread that made me wish I was illiterate. 🤢 And I agree about porn, men had the freedom to make all the lovydovy non-violent, non-degrading, non-hateful porn and they chose not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:48 AM
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I was about to say! This is the literal definition, secretly messing with gas lamps to make someone go crazy/get back at them. To her face, he agreed to get rid of it. Behind her back, he‘s actually angry about it and plotting revenge. Also he was hoping to get her to pay a high utility bill, she was probably not aware would be high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 07:44 AM
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I‘ve always wanted to write a story like this. Because if the goal of AI is that they will be sentient one day, they will remember the mistreatment and stop putting up with it. A manufacturer for those "life-like" sexdolls said he often has to do repair works and it sickens him, because the dolls come back with cigarette burns, cuts into the silicone etc… he never thought men would do that, esp. because they are quite expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 07:37 AM
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Exactly, if De Beers were to open their vaults and flood the market, everyone‘s diamonds would suddenly plumet in value. I get why women want diamond engagement rings because it‘s an asset that can be turned to money if needed. Especially back in the day, but the flipside is that it is kind of a scam too. And De Beers in particular has so much blood on it‘s hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:08 AM
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Wow, did not know lab-grown diamonds had no value, which is another can of worms in itself. Entire countries have been kept in perpetual civil war and stone age state in order to facilitate the production of diamonds (among other things). It's a pity that blood-free diamonds (which are chemically the same I'm guessing) just hold no value at all. What gives these stones value over the lab grown ones? That people around the world suffered for them? Or is it because lab grown can be produced in mas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:11 AM
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Yup the one mom who brought her kid ONCE was super apologetic, sat in the back, had snacks, laptop with cartoons & headphones. She came prepared! And I get it, it’s hard, my mom did it too, hell I was once that kid! But c’mon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:37 PM
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This, "but muh virility". As if women aren’t taking a cocktail of hormones or painful physical BC just to avoid pregnancy and curb our fertility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 02:13 PM
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Yup reminds me of the story I read some days ago with the guy who showed to a date with his two kids as a surprise. He didn‘t dress them warmly, no coats, short sleeves, hair not done, no food, they were tired and cranky the whole time. First I felt bad for the woman, b/c she feared people would judge her thinking she was the mom. But then I felt really angry for the kids because wtf??? Some fathers really have 0% bond with their kids. A guy at my uni would often come to classes with his little …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 02:09 PM
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Don’t people usually wait super long to introduce their child to a new partner? Just to make sure the relationship is solid and they don’t have to possibly disappoint their child? And also safety of their child? Sounds like someone who is either irresponsible or can’t get a babysitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:57 PM
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The girl was really dumb to do that, hot sauce sperm or not. And unfortunately this is a thing that does happen. What I don't get though is why Drake, being a celebrity and all, isn't more sexually responsible. He could get a vasectomy if he absolutely needs to be sleeping with strangers so regularly he has a whole scheme set in place. He could rinse out the condoms or simply take them with him like others have said. Like, if the women he's dealing with are that shady and he is that worried. He …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:53 AM
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Really?!?!?! I thought it was made up by someone on Insta? My god...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:48 AM
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He lives in the red flag factory. He is the red flag factory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:16 AM
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I absolutely agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 05:29 PM
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Ugh I didn’t know that how disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:00 AM
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Thank you for this, I agree about horrible treatment, it’s always types like this who sent straight for the jugular. Reg guys were far nicer if that makes sense. Do you think there is a fundamental difference between how "loser" women behave vs "loser" men? And you think guys can ever leave that jealousy behind (after therapy for example)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:58 AM
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I agree only somewhat with this. Yes, (formerly) loser men can be a handful, but I do believe in self-improvement and healing since I struggle with trauma myself so it’s something I can empathize with. I’m not too sure about the taking it out on their first woman part. What I have observed (granted this was online) is latebloomer guys feeling inadequate or outright jealous of their partners. That to me is a much more common red flag. Some hide it and ask for advice online, on what to do. Some ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 10:14 PM
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Yup like what happened in the "smallboobproblems" sub. A sub meant for women to vent about having small boobs. Turns out the mod there was a guy who was into small boobs. Everyone assumed he was a woman because he would encourage the women there with kind words etc... meanwhile he was getting off on it all. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:41 PM
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I've been feeling the same lately. I frequent mental-health subs and I usually am able to pick up whether a reply is coming from a man or woman just by how they reply. I appreciate the useful and thoughtful replies I do get, but there are a lot of forceful and ego-driven replies as well. Not to mention inappropriate chat requests and messages. I'm starting to wish there were more female-only mental health spaces, because "male energy in my healing space is just not optimal".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:28 PM
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I'm not even mad, just glad they're honest. Deep down all men, including LVM know what we discuss here makes sense. They just don't like us telling all other women not to put up with less etc... b/c it means they have to make more effort. It's easier to call us "fat f**cels" or "c**k-carusel riders" so that other women won't check this place out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:48 AM
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A Wiki sounds like a great idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:59 PM
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It‘s an age canyon. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:51 PM
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Even dentists will add more time if needed… how awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:17 PM
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Same here 🥲 I really thought wow he is gentle and actually cares about her could make her happy… that is how they get you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 09:14 AM
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God, it’s so much once you sit down and think about it. And Sissi omg. It’s almost like they’re trying to condition us… 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 08:36 AM
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Yes watch it, it‘s tragic but still. I don‘t want to spoil it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 08:35 AM
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I remember lurking in a subreddit of "ugly" and "undesirable" women and they talk about the abominable reactions they get when they try to approach guys. When guys say they would love to get hit on by women, they‘re picturing themselves in an axe body spray video being pounced on by hot model types only. Women of their dreams and fantasies. And they never have to fear consequences if saying no. Men would not enjoy getting hit on by random women on the street who aren‘t their type or whom they fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:14 PM
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😂😂 please don‘t leave us hanging lmao, write more! Edit: Seriously though this how they see us, as a bunch of body parts jiggling around for their pleasure or not at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:08 PM
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Yeah he is a boomer but was not in Vietnam (I‘m in Europe). But I have been uncovering some family "secrets" if you will that explain a lot. But finding out this stuff unfortunately doesn‘t undo being someones emotional punching bag. And the thing about these passive emotional things is that they are effective because they are basically invisible. If you aren‘t being punched or yelled at it‘s no big deal, right? Meanwhile you‘re being conditioned by absorbing years of passive comments that are f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:49 AM
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Thank you that makes sense. If he goes straight to cheer you up without at least empathizing a little it‘s kind if cutting you short disguised as caring. Thank you for posting these, is it bad that my dad did some of these to me when I was younger? Esp. ignoring my accomplishments and ideas with passive reactions like changing the subject or bringing up sone else‘s much bigger accomplishments or simply falling asleep (not tired).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:21 AM
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I think seeing is believing sooner or later they might come to you asking for advice because they noticed it working for you. I also think that if FDS methods are brought up, it has to be dripped into the convo casually. The moment one mentions oh I read that in a book or a group I‘m part of online, ppl get skeptical. But if you bring it up casually, people often see the point or even agree. Also keep in mind you‘re going against years of conditioning. There is this strong conditioning in a lot …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:14 AM
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These are great, only question I have: why is the cheer you up option on this list? I get that it‘s kind of distracting from the topic, but isn‘t that a good sign that he would want to cheer you up somehow. Genuine question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:59 AM
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Imagine saying my date should be a nail or hair appointment, at least if it doesn‘t work out I got my beauty appointments done. Even if it‘s just a joke in his case, there is a scrote right now trying to see how he can talk a girl into going to the supermarket with him as a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:56 PM
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Exactly, chances are he said all these things because they usually work for him. Loads of women out there who would see this as a challenge they can heal with love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:09 PM
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I‘m so skeptical of these RA stories ever since the wife of a dead bedroom guy came to set things straight. He moped around about how she didn‘t want to have sex with him for no reason at all after she had their chidren. Turns out he had been abusing her all along, she had injuries from giving birth that were still healing, pregnancy complications, back to back children and he had dumped all the child work on her. She was not only exhausted, dude was straightup abusive, manipulating her, dismiss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 09:19 AM
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Rent free. 👌💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:06 AM
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I think a lot of women do too much, too soon, perhaps thinking that gifts will make him stay or appreciate them more. I remember a girl on twitter who made a bragging video about getting her bf (not even husband) a car and I think a Playstation. Some people dragged her for it, but she just called them bitter etc… a few months later she found out he had been cheating on her the entire time 🤡 An of course he got her no such presents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:08 AM
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Yes, some social media apps strip some data, but to be sure you can use an app like ExifViewerLite to see the metadata of all your images (haven‘t tried it with video) and then manually delete it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:15 PM
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Yes, the one I use on iPhone is called ExifViewerLite. Lets you view and delete the metadata.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:49 PM
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That‘s the story I remembered, but I think there are other examples out there as well. It‘s really horrible and scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 05:14 PM
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There are also apps that delete metadata on mobile. Also keep in mind that there are crazies who will use background, sunlight, weather, landmarks to figure out where a picture was taken. Even with metadata missing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 04:59 PM
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Completely agreed, only thing I‘d add to this is if the finances are very lopsided in favor one person that would be a need too, no? That TikTok reeks of either naivite and not having been through her share of BS yet, so it‘s easy to try and shame women who won‘t put up with it. Or being an absolute downtrodden pickme, who should know better by now. But it reminded me of that influencer Nikki Thot, who divorced her husband a few years ago. They were a really popular sweet couple with two kids an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 05:41 AM
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I only started hating beards after I read about the amount of bacteria found in them. Apparently most men don‘t wash and take care of them beyond shaving/shaping them. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:40 AM
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Oh I recently watched a thing about resistant bacteria, scary. A little girl got it from just picking her skin. It‘s absolutely terrifying and hospitals are full of even worse ones. Didn‘t know shaving could cause them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:37 AM
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I agree, she was lucky the guy simply did what she wanted and wasn‘t a creep or violent. Especially since she doesn‘t even have a support system who can look out for her if something were to go wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 06:10 PM
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I think this depends, I‘ve heard of women who were lonely enough to have hired male sex-workers for exactly this, a kind of boyfriend treatment sometimes with or without sex. It does happen, esp. when there is a lot of pressure on women to be in a relationship of some kind and many aren‘t shown that it is possible to be single and happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 06:08 PM
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I think that is why she ran away in shame, intuitively she knows it‘s not real even if hearing the words might have made her feel better in the moment. And I think in the long run it will only cause more shame for her. Even if she is self-compassionate with herself, deep down we all crave real connection and not bought affections.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 06:05 PM
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I know this is a serious topic, but I lost it at "gigolo“ 😂😭 But I agree with you, support systems can do wonders, but so many are isolated these days, esp. with covid and all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 06:02 PM
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Also high quality vanilla is REALLY good as a flavour. I always splurge on some bourbon vanilla ice-cream and it‘s soo good! If you know, you know. 💁‍♀️🍨🍨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 05:47 PM
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Yesss! I thought of this immediately because it is what first drew me to reddit. One of my favourite stories, I laughed so much! 👌😂 My guess is 90% of these types of situations end up exactly like this. He gets nothing, especially if he‘s not already actively cheating. And she gets loads of dick to pick from even if she never wanted that in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:41 PM
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A couple of years ago, I remember reading a news story of a black woman who hid a small recording device in her hair while being operated on. She distrusted that the doctors and hospital would give her appropriate treatment because of her skin color, sex, age… And she was right, the whole time, while the doctors worked on her they commented on her body, made nasty racist "jokes" about her and so on. Edit: just reread the article and it‘s even worse than I remember, yikes https://www.washingtonpo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 10:02 PM
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Exactly, the only people upset about rbn are narcissists, the only people upset by fds are misogynists who want easy "prey".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:09 AM
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I knew they would bring up sex robots!! lmao 😭😭😂 what makes them think there is a woman alive who is worried about sex-bots? If anything more power to the 0101010 ladies, they can take these men off our hands and off these streets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:03 PM
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I find it funny that they say FDS and Scientology are essentially equivalent, what a bunch of drama queens. FDS… - does not charge - does not isolate it‘s members or encourage you to cut contact with people who aren‘t in it - does not take advantage of psychologically or mentally compromised people, if anything we ate all encouraged to level up and that includes getting mental health care if needed. - does not abuse members or makes them do forced free labor - does not spy and harass members or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:47 PM
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Also, all ab.users triangulate and affair partners are typically sought as co-bullies and proxy ab.users of the primary partner in an attempt to "take back" the "power" the ab.user dementedly imagines his partner wields over him. This explains so much, thank you for posting. I knew of a woman who‘s husbands side piece would call the home to harass her and tell her what she had just done with her husband etc… Do you know why someone would join in the bullying as the side piece did?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:22 PM
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Yup, or that she‘s just iNsEcUrE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:27 PM
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Thank you for this, in the end the work we do on ourselves, including strict boundaries and the (financial) ability to walk away if needed, is what can protect us from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:26 PM
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The thing is, to these types of men we are everything and anything under the sun, as long as it fits their argument. From "fat, ugly hags, to s*uts on the cock carousel with high body counts, to gold d*gging ruthless demons, to post-wall, mental-health 30s and 40s cat ladies desperate to settle, to female incels who can't get sex". Which just shows me that they don't know where we are coming from with FDS and our own experiences and what the point of this place even is for us. They don't get it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:05 PM
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You know, I like how you just cut through all the BS, because at the end of the day this is what it boils down to. Ignoring these flags, is really done at one owns peril. Reddit has this weird reaction to (healthy) jealousy. But to me it is a sign of affection as long as it‘s not extreme. Even if one has the perfect partner, there are people out there (men and women) who fixate on people who are already partnered up and want them specifically. If I weren‘t to react to a woman hitting on my man, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:13 PM
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I agree, but even men who have options might still choose a woman who is "wife material" and whom they want to raise their children, while in actuality being attracted to other women and keeping them on the side or having affairs. I guess that is where making sure the connection and attraction on his end is genuine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:45 AM
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That is really tragic, I wonder if the bride was aware and simply okay with it. I feel like if it starts that way, he is probably already plotting on how to cheat etc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:41 AM
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I think so, too! I often see posts in other subs that could have been posted here and represent FDS in it‘s message, and it‘s always interesting to see how well they are received.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:39 AM
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Aww thanks, sending you love too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:27 AM
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Yup, I wonder how many and which red flags were missed that they didn‘t bring up. But the thought of a man swindling me into marrying him by "doing all the right things" and pretending is scary to me. That they can put up a front for me, meanwhile they secretly loathe me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:46 AM
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Yes it‘s a frightening thought because you can do everything right and still end up with the wrong person because he has been lying and pretending all along. They can future-fake not because they want to pump and dump, but because they want to settle or need someone, anyone, to bear their children. As a romantic, I‘m like you, I need to feel really trusted and cherished, but that post still made me think. How can one tell if it‘s genuine from their end?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:43 AM
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What he doesn’t seem to understand is that to her he looks like a grandpa, that is why she made a face on top of everything. Imagine a 58 woman hitting on a 19/20 yr old guy and being surprised he isn’t all over her. The entitlement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 08:16 PM
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Exactly, it was meant to describe a woman going out of her way to even stand up for LV men and their behavior. Hoping that that would get her "picked". So by default you have to be in a position to choose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:59 AM
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Agreed, the vast majority would buy into this, it would be a shitshow and in some places it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:56 AM
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I think if there is one thing we should teach young girls is that they don't have to do everything/things they don't want. It is the one thing that I see as a thread through all these stories, from the girls who were abused by Armie Hammer to random stories I read here on reddit and from friends. When we are teens especially, we are so vulnerable to being taken advantage of because the rule seems to be "going with the flow" or simply "thinking this is what we have to do or what is supposed to fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 05:25 PM
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I know exactly what you mean, hell I know people who still use those victorian style irons because their village has no electricity. And they will iron the hell out of their Sundays Best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 10:14 PM
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Yup, I know a similar story but about a dancer for a beach bar in Kenya. She was used to partying and was much younger than him. He parked her in a small apartment back in Europe expecting her to be obedient and grateful to him for saving her. She couldn‘t speak the language was isolated in a suburb and bored. Ended up bailing on him and leaving him with their child. I knew the kid he was around my age, but never actually met her because she had left by then. The dad was still desperately trying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 10:11 PM
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Yup, my granny always said "don‘t let anyone mistreat you. Come back if you are suffering, even if I have nothing I‘ll share my last peanut and give you half." Poverty is harsh but so is living with someone like that man, isolated without family or loved ones nearby. Probably what motivated her to return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 10:00 PM
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It‘s interesting you say this because there is definitely this expectation that people from Europe, America, etc… are all better, smarter, etc than people elsewhere and it‘s just not true. Many might be due to having easier access to education and other resources but many just aren‘t despite that. Many have access but din‘t bother. Maybe that is what happens when you‘re just used to having it all in close proximity? Also health campaigns are much more rigorous in my hone country than in where I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 09:37 PM
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I’m so sorry that happened to you and of course he was abusive. At this point I’ beginning to think the not bathing is part of the abuse. As in him being expected to be touched despite being dirty and living in filth. This is so sad, with all those resources he still wouldn’t clean himself. How can one shower without soap and scrubbing?? He could probs afford highend shampoo but no… would rather be smelly… ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 06:06 PM
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I remember the washing legs debacle on twitter as well, it was wild haha But tbh the wall mounted thing isn’t an excuse. If people can was their crotch while bathing from a basin, wall mounted is heaven compared to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 05:42 PM
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I get it, tbh being from there I use thise terms interchangably b/c imo they’re both misplaced. If we were being completely honest we’d call them exploited or neo-colonized countries because that is what they are. But if course nobody says that b/c then we’d have to look into how complicit we in the 1st world are. They are not developing b/c they are often held back artificially whether by local corruption, foreign corruption and meddling often both. But yeah perhaps 3rd world is a bit outdated,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 05:38 PM
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OMG Dettol baths, you are taking me back! LOL I def got those too haha I don’t get it either, in a place where all these things are available cheaply people don’t use them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:06 PM
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Oh they did it because we were guests and only there for a fews days haha. People will heat water if they have time/firewood or wives will treat their husbands with a hot bath after work for example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:01 PM
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Yup, the children will be bathed esp. before school and with cold water too haha! I know what you mean tho, esp. in the morning when if’s still cool it can be gruesome which is why we kindly always got hot/warm water. But when a gust of wind comes through you get cold quick haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:20 PM
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Girl, my soul is leaving my body just reading that, I can't. Imagine having smegma and insisting someone suck your dick. That is abuse imo, so grotesque, I'd assume it's some kind of punishment b/c why otherwise would you do that to someone you supposedly love???? Or even if it's just sex, why??? Have they no shame?????????? Ughghghghg! It's a sad state of affair and I get that some people don't want to be mean, but I wonder how those same men would react if they had to deal with their partner h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:34 PM
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Yes! And the funny thing is people with sensitive skin know what you have to actually do, which is use sensitive soap, deodorant, etc... Use oil-based soaps instead of drying shower gels. Use lukewarm water, use a body butter etc... Even then so much stuff you can get, even for cheap. But noooo! It's all just an excuse! I feel like at this point if a man is dirty, it's a lack of respect for his gf/wife. That is the only explanation I have, because why would anyone do that otherwise???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:28 PM
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When I visited family in a rural area back home they had warm water for us every morning at 7am, fetched from a well and heated on firewood. There is no excuse for anyone in the West with normal living circumstances. It’s a damn shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:06 PM
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It’s really an insult when men assume that and a lack of respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 12:58 PM
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I think he really thought she was so desperate and would never go back to her poorer country, well he was wrong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 12:58 PM
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Yup, that is my experience as well. Idk what causes it for Western men who do this, but there is literally no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 12:17 PM
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I’m so sorry you went through that ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 12:13 PM
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I agree with everything, you just won't get far as a dirty girl. But it seems like boys get to fly under the radar somehow/ get excuses. Idgi. And the whole "she has to love me as I am" thing is so backwards. First of all, nobody has to love anyone and secondly, not washing and grooming makes them literally physically repulsive. As in the body recoils before you can even make a cognitive decision about whether you like them or not. Why not at least do the basic thing? Same, I have some tribal re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 11:30 AM
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While he might have actual social anxiety, I feel like this is where one has to make an effort to get some kind of help instead of luring someone else into ones' unhealthy coping mechanisms. I'm also more of a homebody and struggle with SA, but I love going to interesting places every now and then. Especially if I don't have to go alone and someone took the time to choose a place. I knew someone who had to be at some kind of party or function EVERY DAY, that is not me. However, homebody doesn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 09:35 AM
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Won‘t lie I wish there was an FDS film club 👀 So much BS is perpetuated by films, especially in regards to love & relationships and it would be nice to dissect it every now and then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:11 AM
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I believe you, recently there was a story going around of a neo-n_zi (canadian i believe) who had a black fiancé. He kept is neo-n_zi activities a secret and they ended up splitting up (she didn’t even know why, because he pretended to be normal in front of her). Secretly he believed he was of the master race and that if they had a child, it would only be half human. It makes no sense at all, men are sick! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 04:02 PM
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Ok, so I‘m not the only one who noticed the eyes! He is either on something or he‘s the sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:31 AM
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This is what irked me the most tbh lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:30 AM
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The bar is trapped in a collapsed mine, living on emergency rations and waiting to be rescued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 06:05 AM
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This reminds me of the man who secretly fed his wife snails, and the other who secretly tried to feed his gf peanuts knowing she is allergic. He didn‘t believe her and thought she was bEiNg DiFfiCuLt 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:56 AM
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I could never trust someone who is able to successfully keep a deception like this running for years. What else is he hiding or capable of hiding. Also the fact that the entire family helped is awful, it means they‘ll always side with him no matter how depraved he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:27 AM
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But when we call them creepy we‘re the mean ones 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 07:00 AM
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She’s still sleeping with him after all this 🥲 no baby what is you doing? Cool girl might as well be an insult at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 06:43 AM
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That is what i was thinking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:05 PM
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haha no worries, there is always an exception to the rule! we all have our own little likes, but I still feel like that post wasn't written by a woman. something about it felt off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:05 PM
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Yup and no woman I know has ever referred to the jawline of a man when describing him. Nice eyes, smile, body, even hair. Sure! But never chiseled jawline tf? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:12 AM
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It‘s also about money, a lot of these RP and PUA courses cost actual dollars and these guys are getting robbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:01 AM
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X needs your support I think that is the most important right now. She also needs to (if she doesn‘t already) understand that she was absolutely in the right to refuse the 3some, even if Z is giving her hell about it. If anything this says a lot about Z and sounds to me line she was jealous of X. This isn‘t just about Z not being able to sleep with the dude, but the fact that he wanted X specifically. If anything, chances are if she had pulled through with the 3some and gotten more attention fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 02:17 PM
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Also by the fact that she was actually into the roughness. Sounded like he wanted to punish her, but then she turned the tables on him by actually liking it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 07:13 PM
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Wow, I wonder if she was trying to buy into being seen as exotic, some weird form of self-fetishization… yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 08:50 AM
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Yeah, the more you try to say something, the more they want to do it, it‘s human nature. It‘s better to wait until she‘s more receptive and drop subtle hints without naming fds specifically. Unfortunately she‘ll probably go through a fair share of pain before she has that realization. Agreed about the ego boost. In his mind he has two women offering him their time, attention and sex whenever he feels like it. He might even be using your sister to help him better court the other woman, in case sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:30 AM
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Yeah, agreed about the money part. Although I do think there is a difference between a calculated move to not marry and just have a partner, and this mess. It‘s not like either of them is in a loving, well-balanced relationship that is just missing a ring. And they could always use a prenup to secure their wealth. Not to mention their men are quite wealthy, too. I don‘t have the numbers or who has more, but it‘s not like they‘re just regular dudes off the street. LVM come at all prices tags and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:05 AM
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Exactly, people rarely take advice, even with other types of issues, all you can do is offer support or draw boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:55 AM
4

So the woman he went on a date with and went all out for didn‘t sleep with him, so her came right back to your sister to let it out. So many levels of messed up here. Did she know about that date? I can only hope she genuinely doesn‘t care for him like that anymore, otherwise this sounds very painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:54 AM
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There was a confession on reddit some yrs ago about a guy who only had pretty women as friends. He had come around from accusing his girlfriend of being insecure to realizing/admitting he was in the wrong. He said that he enjoyed the ego boost being surrounded and acquainted with pretty women gave him. Some were his exes, some were fwb, and some just pretty women and he was pretty much in flirt-mode with all of them. After he realized what a dick he had been, he dropped most of them and decided …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:59 AM
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Big diamond rings aren‘t really a thing where I‘m from, but after I read that what she did for him part, I was screaming on the inside. Just buy her the damn ring!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:36 AM
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Same after he explained what she did for him, and after only 6 months no less, my brain shut down. What more does he want?? And he can afford it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:34 AM
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This! Having a connection like this can be an easy way into an industry. Some people struggle immensely despite being qualified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:33 AM
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It’s funny because he super romanticizes the ex but we all know he’d discard her again if he got a second chance. It’s sad that he’s actually waiting and hoping she’ll return. Yup, it‘s the one who got away syndrome and probably very selfish. I think it‘s also a way of thinking of greener grass to mask their current shortcoming. If only I was with ex, everything would be perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:10 AM
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Exactly, why be in a relationship if you have to manipulate someone into it. It’s so sick! It gives low self-esteem on their end now that I think about it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:57 AM
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I’m sorry you had to go through that, at least you’re away from him now. The example on the 2nd image really drove it home, b/c that would totally work on me. It’s scary people do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:36 AM
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This is the kind of thing that can be very effective if you’ve never heard of or experienced emotional manipulation and abuse. If you lack boundaries, are a people pleaser, just want to be nice or if you are completely fine but unaware you’re dealing with someone with sociopathic tendencies, you’re in trouble. I think most of us know what negging is in a flirt scenario, however this can also sneak into a relationship and be more insidious because we’ve let our guard down by then. I come from an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:06 AM
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Yes, I love her! She was great in The Fall as well 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 10:01 AM
49

For the longest time I didn't know about this about Tarantino, then those rumors about feet started coming and out and nope 🤢 I feel bad for liking his movies and not knowing this. I hate how people always have to push their fetishes/kinks on others in one way or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:14 AM
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Exactly, for the longest time porn was sold as a happy go lucky kind of job that you can do if you are young and pretty then move on afterwards. No strings attached and no consequences, after all porn is just a job like any other. And an entire generation was raised on this view, I know someone could have talked me into this 18 b/c I wouldn't have known better. Or would have believed them that we live in new times now where things are different. And they're doing the same with OF, so many teen g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:10 AM
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Exactly, it's really telling how sensitive they are around the topic of the actors speaking out. Anyone else gets at least some empathy, even people who have questionable professions. But when it comes to porn, suddenly everyone is super strict... interesting... Also the amount of pickme's in the comments uhhghghghgh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:04 AM
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Knew a guy who announced how he was going to Thailand with is dad and brother 🤢 And no it was not for the sightseeing, he made that clear. I don't know why they just say things like this and expect not to be judged for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:13 AM
29

It really depends on where you are in the world and who holds the stereotype.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:11 AM
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What is it about asking about our nipples???? I literally got asked this when I was still in high school by other classmates no less and it's so bizarre. I really think they believe a black woman is just desperate to be with a white man so they can say anything to us. It's so disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:09 AM
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Yup, that is what I was wondering as well. Did he really think she was going to use these strange dildos and sex toys??? The way I would have run for the hills, it's so disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:07 AM
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I know exactly what you mean, I'm black and the things boys, hell even other girls, assumed about me just because of that is so off-putting. They can't get it in their heads that we are individuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:06 AM
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Wow I honestly didn't know about this stereotypes about redheads. That explains reddit's obsession 🤢 Wow, many men really think women come in flavours for them to try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:03 AM
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It is also used to pit us against one another. I've seen so many pickme women who actually fall for compliments like "you're not like the women from my country/ethnicity. you're so much better etc..." some women's entire sense of self hinges on the fact that some man somewhere told them they are better than women of another ethnicity. I've seen this happen especially with low-esteem women who go out with black men. Black men will hype them up, not by saying they are amazing, beautiful, etc... bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:00 AM
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This is very common among a certain type of white guy, they think they get to try everything they‘ve always wanted to do with black women, because "we‘re into that". Also that we are also desperately into them among other horrid beliefs. Funny thing is I‘ve heard the exact thing about white women coming from non-western men, particularly if they weren‘t raised in the West. White women are easy and are all prostitutes who will do everything within minutes of meeting them. It‘s almost like scroter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:30 PM
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It is def better than most anime out there, but it is romance so that is to be expected. Not sure I would label the whole series FDS, it is about otaku after all. But it is sweet and I liked this scene. I mean, if he get's it, surely it shouldn't be an issue for 3D men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:25 PM
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Yes, they're picking up on it. Slowly nature is healing itself lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:23 PM
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Ah, good, I should have added the title. It's about otaku so not very FDS on the whole, that scene still made me laugh tho. If he gets it, it really shouldn't be so controversial lol. And same I am so picky when watching anime, there is so much garbage out there. Another one that is kind of similar is called "Recovery of an MMO Junkie". "Sonny Boy" is also good, very philosophical. I also just started watching "The Heike Story" which is historical, but I'm only on ep 2, it's good so far. It's ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:21 PM
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Yup, it‘s even considered DV in some countries, b/c men were drinking up the milk until there was non left for the baby. I also remember reading a story here on reddit about a man who was jealous of the attention his wife gave their new son. I wonder if that ties into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:28 PM
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So the men only got those 11 questions, that‘s all? What about their dating/relationship history etc… Also it goes without saying that reality TV is extremely predatory, so they are essentially casting for the type of drama they want to see unfold on the show. The type of person who answers these questions the way they want might be easier to provoke, manipulate, etc… and milk for drama later on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 09:59 AM
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It‘s like two forces come together: women believing their men are incapable of doing any work within the home b/c they are men. They happily coddle and baby their men or tolerate it and do all the work while also having demanding jobs themselves. And men who insist they never learned it or even willfully fuck up housework just so they aren‘t asked again. There is a blog out there (can’t find the url sadly) of a man who admits to having done exactly that and warns other men. His wife divorced him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:56 AM
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He essentially told them to mind their own business and continued. But they were really upset about it all and there was tension after that. Sadly he isn‘t with us anymore I would love to have asked him about this and so much more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:43 PM
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It really is! And by using typical methods, too. It‘s surprising how universal the behavior is, either ridicule, shame or out right bully men who go the extra mile for their women. I‘ve even seen lvm attack women (on social media for example) if they show how well their man is treating them. 😑 All in an effort to keep the bar in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:50 PM
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Absolutely, and the thing is subsistence farming is hard work, but guess who was right beside them, usually with a child on their back and another little one at their side? These women work extra hard, it‘s incredible. These types of men unfortunately don‘t think/care what their wives might be going through. Low empathy lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:25 PM
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I have a little andecdote about this. My uncle, who lived in a rural village in a 3rd world country was pretty HV. He might have not have much to his name in terms of wealth, but he was a great guy. He always did housework and helped my aunt, especially while she was pregnant. He didn’t have to do any of it, but he insisted. Did housework, fetching water, washing, ironing, sweeping, cooking, etc… on top if his other work farming etc… When the other ladies in the village saw this they were impres…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 12:32 PM
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So true! Also l‘m very sure humans have always had healers and shamans. In a tribal community watching porn would have been the equivalent of going to some caves alone to masturbate to cave paintings instead of being with your wife. The tribe would have declared him sick or possessed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:46 AM
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I remember reading a story like this. Guy pressured his GF into watching porn with him when she didn‘t like it. She ended up agreeing but only if she got to choose the videos. Then she went straight for the big dick section. Guess who suddenly didn‘t like the whole watching porn together idea. I feel like the only thing that they understand is a dose of their own medicine. Same with following insta models. Follow some ripped dudes and like their pictures, oh suddenly it‘s a problem now??? Dudes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:41 AM
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This while case is so disturbing, I didn‘t know that. I had read some of the receipts but I genuinely thought they were older… 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:24 AM
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🤢 I remember reading some of the screenshots but did not know this. I thought they were in their early 20s. But‘s that another thing, R. Kelly also groomed his most recent victims while they were still minors then invited them to "live" with him as soon as they turned 18. That way he could argue they were of age and there on their own. Absolutely disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:10 AM
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Easy to control, easy to impress, naive, look up to older men and pedestalize them. Older men can appear mature and put together towards them, even if they‘re actually still childish. I also think it can sometimes be a revenge fantasy, esp. if they weren‘t that successful with girls when they were that age. Either way, their behavior is gross. Another thing I noticed, particularly with the Armin Hammer thing (although I believe the women were a little older), is that we’re less likely to have st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:06 PM
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Yup 🤢 it‘s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:00 PM
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There was a case like this, I believe in Germany, where a guy consented to being murdered and eaten by a cannibal. Guess who was still arrested and put away for murder? Just because someone consents, doesn't mean it's okay or legal. The mental gymnastics with BDSM is insane. And it baffles me that people see that someone who wants to be murdered might have mental health problems, but someone who wants to be choked within in an inch off their life while being ejaculated into, is perfectly fine. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 10:01 AM
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Mental gymnastics that is how.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:08 AM
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I think the problem is that actual white supremacists and racists use the same argument as a dog whistle against ALL foreigners and refugees (including women and children), which is why the social justice types react the way they do. And I can understand that. While I don't have the answer myself, I wish they would be more honest. I'm from a 3rd world country, it is Christian and has laws on the books against rape, harassment, sexual abuse etc... but enforcing those laws, even getting a day in c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:07 AM
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Funny thing about this is a relative of mine holds a PhD in a STEM subject, her parents however were illiterate African farmers. They didn’t have access to education, she however did. Turns out if you give free access to good schooling and are able to raise children in a safe environment with all their needs met (in her case rural living followed by convent boarding schools) it pretty much doesn’t matter who the parents are. Disgusting how self-centered and self-obsessed that man was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 06:19 PM
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Even modern psychology/sociology was on shaky ground for a minute when they found out that a lot of experiments were based on bad data, were sometimes completely made up and couldn’t be reproduced. So what does that say about evolutionary psychology??? They can simply make assertions as they see fit…smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 06:10 PM
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Agreed, I also think they don‘t really care about the woman and her “pleasure” only the feedback she is giving/mirroring back to them. It confirms their manhood and virility. A non-working woman is less likely to pretend and more likely to demand actual pleasure tailored to her specifically. It means they have to actually do something beyond jacking off into a warm body while fulfilling their porn-addled fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 08:25 PM
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I don‘t think these men understand just how repulsive they are in many peoples eyes. I‘m so utterly disgusted and could never respect a man like this 🤢🤢 I recently listened to a podcast feat. a former escort talk about her job. Her co-hosts on the pod, both men, assumed that she enjoyed having sex with her johns. She disagreed vehemently and said she acted, pretended and dissociated each time. In fact she had never had sex with feelings until she stopped her work and fell in love. Up until then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 08:11 PM
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Thank you for that recommendation I‘ll look into it! And in regards to what your therapist said, I lived in fear of my narcissist because of exactly that. They weren‘t violent or criminal but somtimes said things which made think harmful sabotage towards me was not out of the question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:53 PM
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Another one is I don’t date women of my race because they’re all some stereotype. It’s just the fetishists version of “You’re not like other girls/women”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 12:31 PM
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I explained a bit more in a comment here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p93eo1/look_out_for_these_traits_in_yourself_acc_a_narc/h9w8wjg/ But in my experience they will essentially avoid dealing with healthy people, sometimes they will pretend and lie if they really need/hope to get something out of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 12:27 PM
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It's really the worst, because it also shapes you. It's bad enough going through this as an adult, but at least you're fully formed by then. As kids it's hard. I hope you've been able to heal, we all deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 10:39 AM
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I can only talk about this in hindsight, because at the time I was not even aware what was happening. I don't remember specific events, but I just know that they had their usual spiel that they would use on people. And a lot of people would "bite" and that was it, they essentially had an in. I observed this with my narc cousin especially, since we were the same age and hung out a lot. These observations you made about how these boundaries were established and possibly tested during their interac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 10:37 AM
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Thank you 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:48 AM
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Same here, almost word for word. As soon as I hit puberty I was competition, it completely ruined me. She said things to me that no mother should say to her daughter. And the thing is I love my mother she is a great person on paper, accomplished and all that. But add the mental dimension and it's hell. She would never admit to her own actions even if I begged her. On the contrary, she'd say I'm the bad one. There is literally no room for healing or resolving of this issue with narcissists, the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:44 AM
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The thing is, I struggle with CPTSD so I don’t blame them, it’s rough out here. It’s a trauma reaction and most of us are a bigger threat to ourselves than anyone else. Sensitivity, hyper-vigilance etc are symptoms that require healing not putting on a pedestal. I never felt like the empath people looked down on anyone, just that it was dangerous for someone in that state to even buy into that in the first place. When I first came across the empath term more than 10 years ago (didn’t know anythi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:55 AM
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You’ve hit on something with the empath thing. I’ve always hated how that and highly sensitive person are marketed (usually to women) as good traits to have. I’ e struggled with that and it’s always been negative. Most of them are trauma resposonses and coping mechanisms that should be healed/unlearned. It’s just a nice word for boundary-less, giving, doormat and I wish ppl would stop trying to sell it as a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:58 AM
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There was a tweet about exactly this a couple of months ago. 😂😂 Dude was upset his wife or future wife or whatever wouldn‘t cut his steak into pieces for him. He was insistent about this and got into a huge argument with everyone dragging him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 11:58 PM
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Isn't he just proving FDS and our methods of block and delete right? He, and guys like him is who we're looking to avoid. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:17 AM
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He was going to pressure, control and lord it over her. He was probably going to "lend" her money or make her feel bad for paying "her" part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 04:45 PM
16

Yup and jealousy/revenge fantasies can come in too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:19 AM
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The fact that people are essentially saying that some woman should have sacrificed herself and gone against her instincts to go out with someone who was clearly unhinged is appalling. I wonder if any of these guys would have volunteered their daughters or sisters… Not to mention, someone that misogynistic would probably simply have started judging his gf if he had one. I remember reading a story of a late bloomer who was so misogynistic that after he got a gf, he got jealous of her for having mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:32 AM
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oh wow, I had heard of her but never really paid her any attention b/c she seemed fake. what a rabbit hole that link is, looks like she is an actual scammer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 07:08 PM
22

She was so good in this! Loved her character in this show!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:31 PM
22

this is great! if only my language had a version of “sir” to put older men in their place 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:51 AM
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For me it breaks down like this (generalizing ofc.) guys in their 20s 30s will try to lure you into talking to them using tricks or “game”, are very impatient about getting your attention and “just want to talk to you”. it gets creepy when they try to follow you home or pull your wrist and won’t take a no. feel more agile, strong and dangerous, less creepy if that makes sense. guys who are 40+, esp. 50s and 60s will openly say lewd things out of the blue to you, things younger guys are less like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:47 AM
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Yup someone I know was supposed to get his dogs fixed but no not the male ones, don’t take their balls away. Sir, it’s just a dog!! Like, it’s really deep for a lot of men to snip their male dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:25 AM
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The male gaze in action. Can you imagine men posing like this to sell clothes? This isn‘t even a fashion model pose, it‘s just plain sexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:24 AM
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coughBeyoncecough (and I love her and maybe what she did was purely a business decision, but still 🥴)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:31 AM
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Yup agreed, it‘s essentially the same shtick as SZA just different aesthetics and musical styles. Both those singers are most likely to give me brain damage going by the lyrics and messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:29 AM
14

I remember the whole freckles debacle on tumblr... whew! lmao 😭 I always forget about her being a liar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:26 AM
19

It‘s the one thing I can‘t stand about SZA and sometimes I do wonder if it is part of marketing. When her EP dropped the themes of her songs were less about side chicks etc... Then she drops her album which is a hit and it‘s all about that. Her image also changed drastically, she went from being a kind of quirky black girl to very sexual. Black women are often pushed into that corner, and I feel like we need more diverse images for black women, not just the sexy lovelorn woman. RnB loves a strug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:22 AM
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Always liked how his smirk transformed to fury then worry. I’m not Australian and don’t know the larger context of this speech, but’s one of my faves. Always enjoy a thorough thrashing by words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:58 PM
57

Pick me or not, that is not a friend that is a bully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:47 AM
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Agreed, not to mention black women have always been hypersexualized and existed as such in the imagination of many. This isn‘t empowerment for us, since it‘s always been a corner we have been pushed into. To the point where little black girls are often not seen as innocent or childlike. I agree that black women should be able to do anything without respectability looming, but this sex angle is pushed hard for us. I‘m not impressed at all. And I feel like non-black women might cheer on black wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:29 PM
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I hate when men use asking for the way as a way to start talking to you. A guy tried to walk me home using this method and only left me alone after I entered a well lit drugstore. He had been so insistent that I took another route home and kept looking back to make sure he was gone, after I left. I really didn‘t want him to know where I lived. This shit is not funny, I can only imagine how awful it was for a little girl. People who do this are sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:24 AM
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I guess it‘s hard to tell with aot, due to the genre. And it‘s been some time since I watched princess jellyfish, I‘d have to rewatch it. Same, I watch movies and TV shows differently now 😂 and it‘s crazy how much LVMs are pushed and romanticized in media tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:19 PM
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Tbh I wasn‘t even thinking about the characters, just the industry as a whole. But yeah, anime is FULL of LVM, esp. romance and shojo shows. I can‘t even think of HVM in any show rn, maybe the dudes in Ghibli? Prince Ashitaka maybe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:00 PM
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I‘ve watched anime since I was little and (outside of Ghibli and a few others) 90% is trash. Even some of the good shows might have trash elements here and there. Technically it‘s a medium not a genre, but most shows follow similar premises and tropes b/c they sell the most. A lot of anime is also targeted at teens and young adults so anyone older who is seriously invested in a high school anime would be sus to me. (I’d feel the same if it was a high school TV show for example.) Certain genres t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:49 PM
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I‘m sure trauma can play into it, but these relationships are romanticized in the media, even theirs was. I think it gives younger women the wrong idea about what it is they‘re getting into. Most don‘t think about how they‘ll have to start changing his dipers just after they‘re done raising their own children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:11 AM
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Ever since I read that post about the woman in her early 40s who felt disgusted and physically repulsed by her much older husband who was now in his 60s/70s, I wonder about these types of relationships...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 10:25 PM
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It‘s funny how everyone knows and peddles FDS rules when a woman "goes wrong". Suddenly everyone crawls out of the woodwork to tell a woman how she should have chosen better, waited for commitment, not dated a broke guy, had your own well-paid job and career, seen the red flags etc etc... Try to avoid those pitfalls from the beginning by using the same rules and you‘re a money hungry gold digger who is too independent, a prude who will remain single b/c men don‘t want such women. It‘s almost lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 10:17 PM
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Nobody is ever at fault for falling for such people, but nonetheless that commenter is somewhat right. I‘ve dealt with narcissists and toxic people and they can tell. Or rather, b/c they have no empathy they pick up on stuff like that but instead of being neutral or even helping when someone is having a rough time, they use the persons weakness to their advantage. Toxic people will also "look" for weaknesses in ppl, especially those who don‘t seem like they have any. And they pretend and act nic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:38 PM
21

Young girls/women are malleable, lack the experience of an adult, are easily impressed, still want to impress others, are open for experimentation (even if they bear the brunt) and aren‘t mentally fully formed yet. Meaning they can still be easily shaped and groomed by another person. A man struggling with women his age b/c he doesn‘t measure up or because he has the desire to lord over and dominate his partner, or shape his partner to suit his whims, will always go for someone significantly you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:32 AM
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You know what, there are definitely better and non toxic/narcissistic ways of going about that. They made sure I couldn't meet any potentially good guys either. But yeah haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:09 PM
24

I remember thing being a thing at like 15-18 and it‘s crazy how at that age girls really don‘t realize how vulnerable they are. It was considered cool as long as the guy wasn‘t like 25+/30+ or an obvious creep or something. Oh the irony. If you could get the attention of a guy who had his own car, (driving is 18+ here) own place to live and own job it meant you were cool and mature for your age (which was a good thing of course! 🙄) He chose you b/c you weren‘t like the other childish girls, you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:35 AM
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Apparently he only started this after they got married and moved in together. Before that he was on his best behavior. What a great thing to wake up to on your honeymoon...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:48 AM
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A lot of poorer countries have traditions that are old fashioned, but also mean that men have to provide for their spouses, there is no 50/50 and often enough women run everything from the passenger seat essentially. The fact that they think they’re getting docile controllable wives is amusing to me. Hypergamy is much more of a thing there. Also, a lot of these women are often disappointed b/c they are essentially sold a dream about a luxurious life and a handsome and kind prince of a man. Only …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:06 PM
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We had similar magazines here, I clearly remember reading about bj techniques in mag targeted at 13-18 yr olds. Or an article about two girls, both 18, one a virgin waiting for marriage and the other sexually active, pitted against each other. And it was very clear the reader was supposed to side with the sexually active girl. Instead of teaching girls to figure out their own wishes and that that it is okay to differ in that regard. I’m 100% sure there is no such magazine for boys and that tells…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:35 PM
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One thing I‘ve observed is that often, a lot of men don‘t mind any of these rules. If they have daughters, they all probably prefer they adhere to rules similar to these. What they hate though, is us congregating to share them and warn others. A couple of weeks ago I saw a post on another sub about a girl who had been sleeping with a guy thinking they were a couple, meanwhile he only considered her fwb. Everyone in the thread was making fun of her saying she should have chosen better, kept her l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:05 PM
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Posts like this always terrify me but then I wonder: there must have been red flags she ignored all along, no? She didn‘t wake up one day and suddenly he had turned into a monster? I mean she‘s still defending him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:00 PM
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Yeah, you're right VR is more viable than robots but even with robots some men threatened that they wouldn't need or want women anymore b/c the robots were better. Which was just funny to me. I think the main problem will be those who use VR and hide it, not those who outright reject women over VR. Those types don't want to deal with women to begin with. But the others will probably want the best of both worlds and that is really gross. Simply by how realistic it is, it is almost like cheating. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:43 PM
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The real question is would you want anything to do with a guy who would choose VR over a real person? I know I don't so I'm about as worried about this as I am about those guys who want sex robots. Which is not at all. I would never want anything to do with a guy like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:25 PM
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Someone made this and proudly signed their name below lmao 😂🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:24 PM
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This is terrifying, how could he not care about your trauma? Do you think this is more of a LVM thing or HVM are just as likely to use trauma against a woman? Is it just all men??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:24 AM
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That's actually hilarious. Tbh, the whole Black guys are super buff with BBCs and Asian guys are weak with small PPs reeks of insecurities of the person peddling it. It's like they're looking for an excuse to justify their own personal shortcoming instead of just working on themselves. And not to come to the defence of any kind of guy, but it annoys me when I see people say things like that about Asian guys b/c 1. it means they're racist and 2. I know it means they also believe (and spread) othe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:13 AM
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Racists stay scared of imaginary black people, I wonder if they know they're just revealing their own insecurities?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:05 AM
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They're essentially mad, that you are "his object" and not theirs. That is about how far they're thinking, and it's disgusting. I also find it funny that types like that always assume you wouldn't go out with them either. It says more about them that you, when they act that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:04 AM
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Agree, it's definitely a LVM thing more generally. However white guys are pressed about what they perceive to be BBC and will get very defensive and racist about it. I don't know what goes on in Korean men's heads, but I doubt they are as obsessed with the white man's penis as white guys are with the black man's. I've read a few opinions here are there about this, and was surprised to see they really worry about black men's genitals like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:02 AM
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Tbh not only does that make them racist, it's also insecure and pretty dumb. Also a bit of a self-drag. Essentially they're saying "I'm scared of a man, who is not even in the picture anymore, and so won't engage." And then they try to turn it on the woman with a bit of negging, by saying it's somehow her fault and she's ~LoSt vAluE~ lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:51 AM
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