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thank you I should definitely be more positive
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 08:46 PM
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adding to my comment, since we don’t live together, all my suggestions etc just feel like nagging!! since I don’t see what he eats or how he exercises, it feels awkward and forced for me to be checking up on it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 08:00 PM
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I currently don’t live with him, I’m kinda traditional in that way where I don’t want to until we’re engaged. I half think that if we did live together, I’d be cooking and encouraging to work out & this might not be so huge of an issue. Or, it would be 100x worse and I’d be way more bitter watching him make all these choices.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 07:59 PM
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his pride is hurt and it’s hard to do anything with shame as your motivator. I have been really trying to open up conversations about him, not me, but he always spins it back to “you think I’m ugly” and then the convo is doomed from there. He also has said he lacks the motivation to be healthy now that he can’t box, which blows my mind considering our relationship is on the rocks with all this.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 10:19 AM
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that’s a really nice thought, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 04:57 AM
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thank you, I’ve heard of those but I never ended up going.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 03:45 AM
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ah thank you! I do love to cook, I’ve been trying to get good at it!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 12:34 AM
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wow, thank you. I deeply appreciate everything you’ve said. I will not preach or mother. I’m aware of the ways a strong feminine can support a masculine (or tear him down) so I’ve been working on myself accordingly, it’s hard. I’ll pick him up those vitamins as it’s hard for me to cook with him while we both live in different places. On the weekends I’ll insist on cooking for him — as an excited girlfriend and not a doting mother. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 12:12 AM
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thank you for your encouragement. I think it’s early enough that it will sort itself out. I just don’t have a great role model of it sorting itself out…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 07:14 PM
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sounds about right
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 06:29 PM
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thank you, he definitely wouldn’t want to leave.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/21 12:28 PM
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I have been honest, too honest. I don’t understand how I’m doing it wrong. I’ll give it one more try. I think he feels alienated from me. Thank you for your perspective sometimes I feel like a bad person.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 08:04 PM
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how do I put a limit and still be a good gf? I feel like I haven’t been empathetic to him
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 04:01 PM
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I think the downvotes are from people who don’t want my bf and i to live together
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:25 AM
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That can be decided in another conversation. so far he says he’s fine and I need to get used to it, which I don’t buy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:24 AM
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I think at a childbearing age women have certain instincts to not want to nurture the man but focus on the wellbeing of children.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:24 AM
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It is extreme anxiety on my part. His depression makes me think not just of me, but of future children. It’s sheer panic that’s how I can describe it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:23 AM
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I think the truth is he’s depressed and I have been very selfish about it and we both need to change for this to work out. if he needs more than I can give then he and I both need to admit that I’m the wrong girl for him. we shouldn’t be fighting about something like this…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:21 AM
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I will and I will keep trying to talk to him
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:19 AM
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I was referring to him saying this is his new normal. But you’re right.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 12:18 AM
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he was perfect to me before this. If he’s depressed I want to see it through but if he’s a changed man who doesn’t care about anything anymore then I will “flee”
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 11:36 PM
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yes thank you for your comment I appreciate it. before learning from every different response, I’d say that verbatim. Now I’m really trying to work on my empathy and selfishness. I’m sure he already knows that from my frustration, our fights, and my attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 11:08 PM
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I will offer that thank you
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:55 PM
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I will
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:54 PM
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I definitely will
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:42 PM
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I’ll look into her I’m going to the bookstore this week anyway
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:33 PM
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Yes I can’t expect 180
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:33 PM
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he definitely needs something. one time he joked about getting a “revenge bod” if we broke up and I almost thought about strangling him
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:06 PM
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He definitely hasn’t had one, unless I break up with him. I don’t mean that in poor taste.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:45 PM
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Yes I just wish he was happy about it
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:41 PM
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Thank you I don’t know where the weight is coming from besides eating crap
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:41 PM
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I agree, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:40 PM
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Thank you for your comment. good to hear you had your wife to support you and I’m glad you got your health back.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:39 PM
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What lie am I telling / what truth do I need to tell him?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:35 PM
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ugh I don’t know. He’s older and likes things the way he likes them. If my boyfriend and I cleaned it together that would be different because then I’m like a helper instead of a Monica from friends type. Cleanliness wouldn’t solve the other problem of it just not being a kitchen where food is ever made from scratch.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:34 PM
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Probably, but I can’t do more than that if I’m not living with him to do it for him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:33 PM
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I agree with you. Gfs have needs at the end of the day and this whole thing clashes with those. But I can be supportive
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:32 PM
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good on you! what is a CTJ? He has some healthy friends but mostly no. He doesn’t care about anything but his cats.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:31 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I’m sorry to hear about your injury and subsequent rough patch. I’m proud of you for coming out the other end. I’ve always thought men hated arguing with women, until I met my boyfriend lol. He is very feisty. I also don’t have people pull me out of ruts, so I have some resentment there for him because it’s always this way. I know it won’t always be like the honeymoon, but I know i can’t marry a man who doesn’t take care of himself. I will give this an hone…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:28 PM
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I agree that if I continue to have these feelings he will be better off with someone as selfless as him. I don’t see myself ever getting fat, but that’s irrelevant because I know he wouldn’t care. I am also thinking of kids. I do not want kids with a man who is unhealthy and can literally do nothing but sit on the couch after work. Not a role model or an effective father.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:25 PM
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Thank you for your comment. Yes he probably has depression. I’ve had bouts of it and I’ve never been like this. I know comparing is bad, it brings up some feelings of resentment, like he can’t do the things I do for him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:21 PM
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Thank you for your comment I really appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:16 PM
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Thank you for the comment. I do deeply appreciate his hard work and the fact that it’s “for me”. He is a great man. I’m realistic about how I expect him to “perform” after work / on weekends. I don’t expect huge gestures, big plans, long intellectual conversations etc. But aside from him being too tired to say, be interested in his old interests, does a physical job really suck up the energy one has to take care of their body? I expect my SO to be healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:14 PM
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Thank you for your lovely comment. Train my empathy. Yes I’ll certainly do that. Is it a bad sign that it needs to be trained? I will try to nudge him in those ways. It would be easier if we lived together. But we both live with our parent/s.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:04 PM
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hi, it’s nice to hear your failures made you stronger and you have a lovely spouse to support you. I’m sure youll never make the same mistake twice. In my bfs case, the new job is a positive change. He hated his old jobs, they were minimum wage and had no career outlook. His new job puts him on a path for a welding career. He prefers this kind of work over typical school, but I’m sure he feels the pressure of needing to provide so this isn’t really his “calling”. Thank you for your comment. I th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 12:59 PM
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probably not as well as I should since it always ends in a fight
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 04:55 AM
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Thank you. Im sorry to hear about your injury. I’m sure you’ll get to 110% soon.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 04:41 AM
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just read your edit. you’re exactly right. I need to humble myself, I’m caught up in feeling entitled to a young, perfect, hot relationship
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 04:04 AM
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I love Mrs Midwest! I always consider how things would be better if we lived together. He has no plans to leave his dads house soon, we haven’t discussed it. I am going back to school for further education so we are both at home, saving up. I’d definitely assume the role healthy cooking cleaning etc. However I’m extremely sensitive. His current lifestyle and attitude might bring me down to a point where I can’t be as positive and feminine as I want.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:56 AM
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Thank you for the perspective. It is a big jump, I am a worrier for sure. It’s his apathetic attitude that is doing me in. The lack of communication on his part is making me feel worse too. I hope I am wrong. I know marriage will have ups and downs, which is why this very significant down is making me anxious. It’s not even just that things are shitty rn, it’s that we are struggling to communicate, be empathetic, objective, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:53 AM
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Thank you. The “lifestyle” refers to his new job as a welder. He is a 4-year apprenticeship, so this is at least 4 years. Specifically, he means work is his number one priority. He has blatantly said he cares less about things such as his looks, his hobbies, etc. I feel like he is equating apathy to maturity.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:46 AM
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I will watch sapolsky’s lecture! I have an attention span for those since college. I can’t clean his kitchen, he still lives with his father and his father would be horribly offended.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:23 AM
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thank you, I appreciate all your comments and I take them to heart. you helped, I’m going to really try to be more helpful to him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:04 AM
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Thank you for your thoughtful words. I will read and reread when we get closer to the conversation. The other day I was over his house. Like usual it was dirty, he’s been eating crap microwave food, not doing laundry, and living in the dark basically no shades drawn. I helped him clean etc and tried to nicely ask if he was neglecting his self care. He told me when someone works full time in a job like his (welding apprentice) he doesn’t care about that stuff. told me I’m high maintenance etc. Ne…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:02 AM
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yes he might deserve better. he’d be happier with someone who has none of these selfish feelings I’ll admit that. but I think he wants someone who is content with him throwing away his health and happiness. and I would rather get advice from people who will never know who he is than ask my friends and family what they think about this while he cluelessly continues to hang out with them. i asked twice because I respect this sub, and I mean this genuinely, I respect and consider very blunt comment…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:51 AM
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I totally agree, especially the last part. i have just been so frustrated with him. I will be better
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:42 AM
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I have standards for health in one’s control. he has told me time and time again that these are choices he is making due to his new lifestyle. he’s gotten offended when I urge him to get help. my attempts at open and honest communication end in fights. it’s getting harder to be as supportive as I know I need to be
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:38 AM
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I think there needs to be conversations about both sides of this. I am going to try to get through to him emotionally to see what’s going on and how I can help him. But I also haven’t had my own needs met in a year so I’m coming from a place of frustration so that also needs to be a conversation. We’re both feeling neglected in this relationship and if I don’t bring that up to him then I’m no more productive than he is lying to me about his feelings / gaslighting about how he’s not really differ…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:31 AM
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Thank you. I needed to hear this. I need to step up. And I try, I really do, but I need to try harder. I have been getting frustrated with him because he gaslights me in those conversations and I am so scared and worried and I don’t want it to be more than a willpower issue, but it clearly is. I think he is internalizing my redpilled nature so that’s why he is getting so defensive. I need to make more of an effort to make him comfortable with his emotions.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:14 AM
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The walk idea is lovely though. I have a very strong dog he can pull around lol
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:11 AM
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Thank you for your suggestion. We unfortunately do not live together — I always think how if we did, I’d do all the cooking, I’d be more able to exercise with him etc. I cannot cook at his house, either … the kitchen grosses me out. that’s another issue related to his new laziness… I am happily fit and healthy, I’m a traditional Italian girl. I try to educate him about the lifestyle (mindful eating, healthy cooking, looking presentable) but he Pooh-Pooh’s it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:10 AM
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Thank you for your perspective. I do feel selfish having these thoughts and feelings. He is a better partner than I in that sense. I love him, even some of the new, more mature qualities that have come with this change. But I liked the old him more. And I hate the version of myself i am with him now — nagging about his health and lack of care for himself. We don’t have chemistry, and that was my favorite thing about us. You’re right about the work, patience, and understanding too. I think I’m ge…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 02:05 AM
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I have decided I need something better. I know it can be better with him. It took a year to get this way, maybe it will take another to get out of it. I really appreciate your response.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 01:47 AM
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I don’t want to leave right now, I’m just anxious and depressed about what’s to come. Me saying I’d want him to leave is a reflection of the guilt I’d feel and my obvious self-sabotage of my relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 06:57 AM
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it’s not only his looks, attraction is a big factor for me and I’ve always assumed it was for him too. I put more effort than most into how I look and how attractive I am to him. I’ve always thought that’s what everyone should do but from these comments and talking with him I’m starting to realize there’s more to it, I just can’t change how I feel though.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 06:55 AM
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maybe I am pathetic but did you read the post? anxiety isn’t giving up on him. I never even said I have it in me / wanted to break up with him as things are right now. I have commitment issues, I’m terribly vain, and I’m a perfectionist and with this new challenge I’m faced with whether to work on it for the sake of this relationship or resolve to be miserable forever, not to mention what that would do to him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 06:53 AM
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whatever / whenever conversation we have, I’m gonna make sure he leaves it finding way more fault with me than with him. I purposely left out details about him in my post because it’s kind of irrelevant as I’m the one with the selfish problems. But to be general he’s been depressed about this, not really doing the most he can. that’s definitely part of it / part of why I’m scared for the future. I don’t think bringing that up would make him feel as bad as the other stuff. the other stuff needs t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 04:24 PM
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he does but I’m going to somehow talk to him about this first.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 04:15 PM
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Well, right now (no kids) I would want him to leave, and if he didn’t then I would break up with him. My boyfriend and I disagree on this definitely.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:27 AM
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So brave and honest admitting that to him. A similar situation happened with us (I know I’m winning girlfriend of the year with this thread) so I think I’d be able to somehow let him know what’s going on. I think he could be hurt and angry though, which makes me prefer to say nothing. I know what you mean about putting you in your place. Thinking about what his reaction could be is making me less concerned with my own problems about this...
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 05:21 AM
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I’ve never tried to deny hypergamy. Of course I’m rationalizing it, I’m thinking through a sad, complicated problem. I don’t know how to change the way I feel, or if it’s even possible/ I should. I’m not trying to decide now if I’m leaving, but I’m addressing the anxiety this is causing me and thinking about what it would take for me to feel solid in this relationship moving forward. as discussed in the comments, I can’t commit. if things started getting really bad, I’d need to either commit to …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 08:45 PM
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I’m sorry for the loss of your boyfriend. I know what you mean about him being your rock even though he’s the sick one. It’s only been a week or so for us but i can see it. I would definitely feel horrible. But I’ve always been a little perfectionistic and vain, to be honest, and coupled with anxiety my brain is making this really hard. If I see him and I’m not attracted to him, I get anxiety, which makes it harder to feel a connection. So in a way I am a couple steps ahead and already self-sabo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 02:13 PM
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yeah. this is quite the moral issue. If I can’t be happy I’m going to have to leave. before marriage, kids. Im young enough to have conditions for a relationship. I want a healthy man who I’m attracted to right now and more importantly will be an active father in the future. I’ll soon find out if that’s possible with him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 05:35 AM
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thank you for acknowledging that. this is not what I signed up for so young. I think a lot of people here are quick to call me selfish and immature but I’m at an age where you sort of have to be. I know I’d feel different if we were in our 40s. I’m giving it a try, but I’m gonna be honest with my own feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 05:13 AM
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definitely, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:39 PM
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Thank you for your comment. He is a good man. This is all still so new, a lot of the anxiety I'm having right now is unfair to him. I guess my best option is to table those feelings and support him as long as he's not giving up. I understand what you're saying about attraction being respect, I just can't help being immature and wanting him to look the way he did just last year.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:08 PM
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I know an honest conversation is due, but I don't know how to bring it up. I don't want to throw my anxiety on him while he's still in the beginning stages of figuring out his own problems.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 06:09 PM
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Thank you, that last part has stuck with me all day. I’m happy for you and your husband. I’m too immature right now.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 05:20 PM
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Oh I know I would. I’m really frustrated with myself/ life and I wish I didn’t feel this way but I do. I think a lot of it is anxiety for the future, so if his condition gets more hopeful I don’t think I’d truly fall out of love.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 05:18 PM
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I’m thinking about my kids too, wanting a healthy and active father to do things with.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 02:22 PM
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I know, I just try to protect my internet safety I get paranoid.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 02:09 PM
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I wish I could do that with him I just can’t get myself out of this panic feeling to be able to. There are days when I can be nurturing and selfless and days when I can’t.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:16 AM
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3 years
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:06 AM
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I honestly wouldn’t expect him to stay through any of that. I feel like he would, but I wouldn’t expect it. I’d feel too guilty or that the relationship would be too complicated. If I had a health crisis right now I would break things off in a heartbeat.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:05 AM
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I love him as much as I think I could. This is just maybe too much to ask from me, it's my choice to be selfish in relationships though and that has never made relationships successful for me, so I know you'd be right about the last part in some form. If this didn't work out I think I'd just choose to be alone.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:40 AM
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he's been committed. I definitely would never find a better man but it's hard for me to change how I'm feeling. I really hope it does too.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:28 AM
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thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:16 AM
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you're right I'll need to be honest if things don't improve. I'm not planning on being a shitty partner and making us both miserable.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:12 AM
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If we were older and had these healthy years full of memories, I definitely could, that's what sucks.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:09 AM
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I am sorry that you just awkwardly lost a friend. But it’s for the best. He does not need a female confidant that is not his wife. You did the right thing backing off. Even if there is zero attraction between you two (which I find unlikely but I’m sure it’s possible) he is giving/receiving from a woman besides his wife attention. It also seems odd to me how abruptly this happened — maybe his wife had expressed her feelings before and he was texting you behind her back and then got caught. Having…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 02:51 PM
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there are some incredibly poised and stylish older (as in not the sexy teenagers everyone loves now) celebrities. Not talking the kardashians obviously. Follow some women on Instagram with nice style. I’ll name a few for you : melania trump, emma roberts, Laura dern, Linda cardellini, kate beckinsale. I tried to include women who not only have good style but also whose instagrams reflect it regularly.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 08:14 PM
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I’m 21 as well. I feel exactly like you do — I have been redpilled for as long as I can remember and enjoy it. But if I find out I am infertile well, I’ll feel worthless but I understand the relief part. What makes this fear worse for me is the fact that I miscarried at 15. Since I was so young, this was both a disaster and a relief. I’ve never really gotten over the confusing sense of loss. It’s now a constant worry as I’m in a serious relationship and hope to marry him. I imagine what our kids…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 02:55 AM
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thank you for your comment! I’ve never considered many of those things. You’re right that most women aren’t perfectly happy with their bodies. To be honest, what makes me feel better is thinking from what I perceive as a male perspective — a tad less critical of the little stuff us women nitpick about ourselves! I’m sure your husband chuckles at you when you wish for a different figure :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 02:44 AM
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I have always been really insecure about having a small chest because obviously breasts are feminine. It makes me feel like less of a woman some days.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 05:23 PM
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I’m sure you are overall a very feminine woman and shouldn’t be worried, but if this is something you feel should change then I’d honestly invest in some nice outerwear. Buy some sexy gloves — the leather kind, or satin if that’s your style. Invest in shoes you feel extra sexy in, maybe a pointed boot. For indoors, tall socks are very feminine and sexy. Above all, they’re only extremities.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 05:22 PM
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Fantastic I’m so happy for you! I’m 21, I hope to feel as accomplished as you do by the time I’m 26 :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 02:31 PM
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The value of a nicely kept house. Amazing! It’s so true — I feel like many people my age (I’m 21) don’t appreciate cleanliness, order, or the ability to cook a decent meal at home. Anyone with those skills should be proud of themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 02:57 AM
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That’s wonderful! I’m sure he appreciates you endlessly.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 04:36 PM
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That’s such a valuable skill to be proud of. Also, it’s so true that you have to be secure in yourself and your own opinions to form a good compromise. I think it takes practice!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 08:19 PM
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I very much agree, I just wanted to clarify the distinction between maintaining your dependency on them versus maintaining your relationship with them. It is definitely embarrassing for a woman to refuse to allow her husband to take on the responsibilities of her parents -- what does that tell him about the faith she has in him as a husband?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 08:56 PM
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I am very curious as to how women from diverse family backgrounds feel about this. I understand this point of view and I think most women should follow this if their family dynamic allows for it. I come from a big Italian family. We have all grown up around each other for generations. I should add that everyone in my family has a healthy marriage and our entire family gets along. When I am married, I can not fathom not being around to help my parents or not having them actively in my life. Finan…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 08:36 PM
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That’s interesting, I’m like that without the pill so I’m excited to see how my first cycle is while on it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 11:56 AM
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I totally feel all your points except I’m surprised about the PMS! I heard BC is supposed to improve PMS symptoms.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 11:44 AM
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Thanks for your comments. You brought up great points. Endometriosis immediately comes to mind when I think of real medical positives to the Pill. I never thought of the male affection component like that, I wonder why some women say they become disenchanted with their boyfriends when they’re on the pill? I haven’t heard much about the eugenics bit... what’s that about? But it’s definitely pushed onto young women just as a go-to when it might not be for everyone. It’s a strong medicine with seri…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/20 04:24 PM
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That’s nice to hear! And yes I’m definitely preparing for if I don’t like the pill, I’m looking into vitamins etc as well.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 11:34 PM
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Not discouraged just more aware! I already have migraines and it’s only the first week :(
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 08:31 PM
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Thank you for your comment. I am also an athlete! I jump horses and life weights to build curves on my lean figure. The muscle mass etc is also a concern for me. My other concern is the sex drive, I’d hate for it to diminish. You’re right that I don’t need to worry about my relationship, and the pill is reversible!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 07:53 PM
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That’s good to know, I’m worried about my libido dropping. It’s high normally and I enjoy it. Fortunately I’ll be able to tell quickly if the pill has an affect!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 06:57 PM
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Good luck to him!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 02:25 AM
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Getting one in is an inconvenience as well ... I was so young... I nearly passed out because my ibuprofen wore off in the waiting room. I’m sorry about the delay of something so exciting! But it seems like it’s working out. Props to you for being so good at your job! :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 01:46 AM
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I just saw the second part of your comment lol
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 01:41 AM
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I’ve heard the hormonal IUD is gentler than a pill because the hormones are more centralized. I’m just afraid to try it right now because taking out an IUD is much more involved than stopping a pill! Definitely not ruling it out though.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 01:22 AM
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I currently have the copper IUD as well and it was fine the first couple years. But suddenly the PMS symptoms were just too much. I’m hesitant to remove it in case the pills end up doing more harm than good. I’ll have to go through the cycle on the pill and weigh the positives and negatives for sure!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 01:12 AM
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Same here
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 01:09 AM
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Yay that’s awesome! And boobs are a nice bonus! Can I ask which pill you’re on? I’m assuming it’s an antiandrogenic
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 01:06 AM
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Thank you. When I think what I’m saying is doing more harm than good I just stop. If my boyfriend ever says to just give him space I do even if I don’t want to. If I think I have a really good reason to be upset I’ll say something, but if it feels like I’m being over sensitive because of my own problems I’ll let it be and bring it up more nicely at a calmer time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/20 04:18 PM
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I hope!
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 11:34 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 11:33 AM
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I agree that to an extent your partner should reassure you of things. But if it’s too much it’s unfair to expect someone to entertain and feed into your insecurities all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 01:38 AM
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You are right, I will keep working on myself. It’s so tempting as someone who just deeply feels they aren’t good enough to find comfort in the fact that their partner obviously does think they are good enough. And while that thought is very reassuring no source of external validation is ever truly satisfying.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 01:19 AM
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Good point, nothing wrong with it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/20 07:51 PM
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Hey I totally get where you’re coming from. I definitely think Suzanne has a distinct audience who receives her message best: middle class families who can afford to have one main breadwinner. In many cases a woman will work to support the household as well. I do think that a woman who works primarily for the money also gets a degree of personal fulfillment. So maybe she could elaborate more on this idea for upper middle versus middle versus lower class families.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/20 06:55 PM
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See there you go. You became a boss in a totally healthy way where you don’t have to compromise your happiness as a woman! Also I’m super impressed how you don’t compromise your family life with such a big job. while it’s my dream to be a therapist, I worry about being able to give my all to my family which has always been my most important goal <3
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 03:11 AM
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Don’t give up on something you really want to understand <3 Read more and practice what feels good to you in your daily life. I’m no expert on anything, I’m young.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 01:05 AM
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read more of her work and you’d get a clearer definition of what she means. This was a very short article so I could see what you mean here. What is it you said you need help with?
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 12:36 AM
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I’m so glad you liked it! To me being feminine means being tranquil most of time, but not apathetic or stoic. Men don’t really need to talk so much. I don’t think I’d be very chatty with a particularly quiet man, but I’d definitely start a conversation or two :) There is something special about a silence that is comfortable because of the presence of the other person. <3
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 11:54 PM
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I have to order it! Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 09:34 PM
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yay! you’re welcome :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 08:50 PM
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I am sorry you read it that way. I don’t think that’s the point of the first article at all. She lays out a reasonable analysis of why some women try to “become the man” and then describes the unique power of feminine energy. She even says this energy can reduce a man to a jellyfish! Haha. I don’t think she meant to come across calling this brainless at all, I found it pretty empowering.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 08:31 PM
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Totally worth the read! The articles are pretty brief and to the point, and that just goes to show she walks like she talks.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 08:27 PM
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Hey girl, sounds like you’re kind of reinventing yourself with being more feminine, which is great! But, that can also make you super self conscious. It sounds like you might be being too hard on yourself. Are you trying to be too “perfectly” feminine? Femininity doesn’t mean perfection. Work with what you have! If your man is handsome and compliments you all the time, odds are you’re stunning. Learn some makeup tricks, get to know your new long hair, and rock some pretty, flattering clothes. Re…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 04:59 PM
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My boyfriend is very loving and adores affectionate attention in return. I definitely give him space but I just love showering him with kisses and squeezes and scratches and hugs! The point about making him feel desirable is so important too! I compliment him all the time and always let him know when I don’t want to keep my hands off him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 08:08 PM
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Yes. Being desired in that way is very validating. Bonus points if the sex is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 02:34 AM
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Well, we can’t really have sex anymore because of quarantine rules (we’re at separate houses), so sex is one thing we’ve been having fun talking about. I’m betting the next chance we get will be one of the best times, lol! Also emotions, self-improvement/ goals. And then in general just being very open and curious about anything he has to say.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/20 12:02 PM
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I am trying to be more interesting in conversation. I am bored, he is bored, and we can’t see each other. When we normally see each other every day, most of our conversations are just fun, not very deep or inspiring. Not as in I am just thinking of exciting topics, but I’m making an effort to be curious and engaging, and even without mentioning this to him I find he’s doing the same.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/20 11:31 PM
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Spot on!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 02:22 AM
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Thanks so much, trying this for sure
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 01:12 AM
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This sounds incredible! Love capers and artichokes. I have to learn how to make this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 12:07 AM
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I’m in college, but learning to cook is my favorite goal right now. I like to cook with my future family in mind :) Tonight I made baked salmon with lemon, olive oil, s/p. Sautéed garlic butter spinach with a little lemon, and a baked sweet potato with butter and a little cinnamon <3
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 12:04 AM
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Not including pure fantasy. Well men shouldn’t expect perfection. That being said, maybe he should have chosen a partner he has more sexual compatibility with. A lot of women do what other women call “porn sex”. The argument that a man could never get all the details OP listed is probably made up by females who prefer tamer sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:18 AM
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How is your sex life? Is he satisfied? Are you satisfied? VR porn would be something I’d expect from a lonely boy who doesn’t get laid, not from someone in a committed relationship. I’d be insecure seeing those perfect bodies so up close and personal as well, but if I was confident in our sex life I’d be offended and embarrassed for him, not just insecure. Think about your sex life, then decide what kind of conversation you want to have. Edit: punctuation
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 07:59 PM
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Yay!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 05:30 AM
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No it’s a total surprise!! My bf and I always use Valentine’s Day to celebrate sex lmao. Unless your man is more shy I’d say totally go for it. I’m so excited to see the look on his face :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 01:30 AM
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I got the lelo tiani in rose gold!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 10:27 PM
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Handing him the remote control to a vibrator I’m wearing while he’s treating me to a sushi dinner ;)
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 06:30 AM
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Teaching your children to listen to science is always a good thing!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 04:26 AM
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That’s very good to know! I didn’t know that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 09:25 PM
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I think it should be a balance between when the child shows interest with when it’s appropriate. Also, teaching the child a version of the practice that’s more suited for children. As far as skincare goes for young children, i feel like for the most part it’s about health and hygiene anyway, which should be taught young. I’ll be lathering sunscreen on my (future) babies since day one. As soon as they can talk I’ll be teaching them why it’s important. Similarly I’ll teach them about lotion, the s…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 02:40 PM
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When I’m home I absolutely will do that, thanks! Unfortunately I’m at college right now with very limited cooking options.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 04:22 AM
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Tried frozen tuna steaks and I over cooked it because I was afraid of eating it raw lol
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 04:14 AM
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Haha I was kidding but thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 12:07 AM
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I am terrified of cooking fish but I am going to try!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 04:37 AM
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I’m taking a break from my phone and I am going to the gym for a while to clear my head and think about exactly this. Thank you <3
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 07:57 PM
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Thank you for this. I wholeheartedly agree with you. You’re right, i would love for him to be my rock in those moments. I think he could stand to take a few more turns than he is currently. Last year I used to escalate the fights more than I’d like to admit, but I’ve since stopped that and now I think I may be dealing with him still learning.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 07:48 PM
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Thank you for this. I want him to be worth it, and I often think he is. I’m very sad and at a loss right now. There is room for improvement on my part, I know his love language is more mushy than mine and there are times when I’m in a bad way when I do ignore that. But his response to having hurt feelings is to make me have hurt feelings, and I’m starting to realize that that may be a key component of his personality. It’s truly sad, I try my best and while it does not feel like work to make him…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 07:43 PM
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You’re right, ugh I always act like they are though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 07:13 PM
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I know, I feel like I’m failing myself sometimes. Things have gotten a lot better than at the time of that post because we started to communicate better, so I really had hope. I’m just so sad right now. I honestly love him, and what hurts is that he’s just insecure sometimes and has a lot of trauma from loss. He’s not your typical drunk captain. I almost wish he was meaner, and that we fought more, so that this would be easy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 07:02 PM
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You’re right, it is insufficient. If you’d like more info: He’s an emotional guy and I’m not emotional when I have a bout of pms because I think everything is horrible for a solid day or 2. This is where this fight comes in. He told me I was using my period as an excuse for being a “cold succubus”. He told me I put in no effort in the last 2 weeks, and when I forced him to tell my exactly why he thought this, he said it was because a few nights I sent him a lackluster goodnight text, which I adm…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 06:54 PM
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Wow, I want to show him this. Thank you for your perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 06:31 PM
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Is the author male or female? I can’t tell by the name.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 05:55 PM
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hah! he refused to walk through it when I tried that. I honestly think he’s just being a whiny baby. He gets his feelings hurt when I’m depressed — what the heck? And then gets angry at me, and then wants to take it all back when I put my foot down! Makes absolutely zero sense. I told him all this and he got quiet (for the first time in his life, lol) and apologetic so I left him alone to mull it over. If when he reaches back out to me, he doesn’t seem like he’s learned anything, I think I’ll fi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 05:26 PM
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Thank you. You may be right about the entitlement, but knowing him for so long I’m not so sure. I want to believe this, because it would make my life easier and I’d end it without remorse or looking back. But I really think he’s just hopelessly insecure, traumatized by loss, and finds the cracks in everything that could make him feel unloved. Which isn’t any better, it just makes my position more difficult... Thank you for your perspective, I appreciate logic over emotion because I struggle with…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 05:07 PM
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I don’t think he’s ready either but he doesn’t seem to care ... any time I bring up a break up he’s ready to take back all his complaints and forget about it, but that is not constructive problem-solving in a relationship :( I will take your advice and make sure we get some ground covered.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 04:35 PM
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I feel like he has some red pill light, honestly, he just lacks confidence sometimes...
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 04:16 PM
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We talked and he struggled to pinpoint exactly what it was, aside from my goodnight texts lacking the enthusiasm he gave me. However I can honestly see how an emotional guy like him would be hurt by a goodnight text that didn’t match his.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 04:14 PM
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Yeah you’re right — I used to enable this behavior because of my “be his peace” attitude. I can honestly say since I started actually communicating with him we haven’t had anything like that until now... but I know I sound stupid :(
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 04:09 PM
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yeah he’s insecure for sure I just don’t know if it’s fixable
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 03:39 PM
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short and sweet and to the point lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 03:38 PM
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Lol no need to apologize, I don’t care. I just said that to add a different perspective to the comment about only high n females like high n males.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:55 PM
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I would consider myself a low n-count woman (5) and I’m dating a high n-count man (don’t know the number, could be 15 could be 50 lol) Although it makes me insecure sometimes, it mostly turns me on knowing I have a very seductive man who’s so great in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:50 PM
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I agree to an extent but I would tweak your take a bit. I think women who make men wait for months just do not LOVE sex. I personally think sex is extremely important in a relationship. So if I got along well with a man for months only to find out the sex is horrible, I’d be upset that I just wasted our time. On the flip side, women who both enjoy as well as value their quality of sex often wait a few dates to do it. This is to a) figure out if they want to have sex with this man, b) build sexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:42 PM
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You totally can practice with one woman. I agree with you. But women are so different in terms of how they get off. It’s quite possible that a man who became a great lover with one woman would have trouble pleasing another. You may be right in your presumption. But in addition, I think low n women would also teach a man how to be a good lover — like I said, just learning how to please a new woman’s body would teach a lot, especially if that woman is inexperienced herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 06:42 PM
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Honestly, I think it’s more attractive for men to be with many females prior to settling down with one. On the contrary, it is significantly more unattractive for a woman to be with many men before settling down. I think this is because there are more evolutionary and sexual benefits to men being with other women before settling down. Something that comes to mind for me is sexual ability. It is acceptable for women to be “virgins” or close to it — a bit inexperienced in bed. However, this is muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 06:11 PM
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I’m a newbie. What is an n-count? Edit: I know it’s about sexual partners, but what does the “n” specifically stand for?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 06:03 PM
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I wanted to get along with my family better, before I go back to school. I keep butting heads with my mom and as annoying as she can be it’s partially my fault.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 07:20 PM
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Yeah it often seems to backfire...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 12:56 PM
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Yes! They are out there. My current boyfriend is very conservative and would never cheat on me. He is so loyal that I wouldn’t mind if he tried to make me jealous sometimes haha. Physically, we are both very attractive people. He could easily cheat on me with any of the girls who throw themselves at him. But he simply won’t give them the time of day. I can’t picture this man cheating in a million years.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 12:56 PM
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Right ?! I think some women, especially submissives or those who just really want to please their man (which I’m guessing is popular on this sub) get stuck being a bit soft in bed. Not bad in bed at all, just on the shy side. I was definitely guilty of that until my bf straight up asked me to be more rough and I was like, hell yeah I can do that, as long as you do it back!!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 09:51 PM
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;)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 09:44 PM
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My bf likes gentle femdom sometimes. He asked me to be a little rough once so now I just do it when I feel the vibe from him. He likes it when I take charge of his pleasure, not so much take charge of him. I’m not forcing him to do anything, degrading him, anything like that. I’m more aggressive with his dick, grab his hair so I can kiss/bite his neck, pretend to pin him down so I can give him a bj, little things like that. I think it’s hot. I don’t think he’s any less masculine for liking it, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 09:27 PM
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In all honesty, she’s probably fascinated by you. And if you were good in bed on top of your nonchalant attitude, oof she’s definitely reeling. Making a girl feel a tiny bit insecure will make her want more, and want to prove herself more. My guess is, if you hook up again, she’s gonna turn it up a notch 👌👏
/r/TheRedPill13/01/20 09:07 PM
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So cute! Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 12:46 AM
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How can I watch that show?!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 12:08 AM
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The matriarchs in my family are my role models too :) They are so important to a family, I hope to grow up to be just like them. I love that you have role models for various aspects of life. No one person is perfect; it’s great to be inspired by the beautiful qualities of so many people.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 09:06 PM
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I absolutely will. I just looked her up briefly and she sounds brilliant.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 08:58 PM
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I’ve come to accept that just because something isn’t being done in a way that makes sense to me, if it’s still being done i should still just sit back and be thankful. I’ve learned that while my boyfriend and I do things pretty differently, like how we cook, clean, etc, the way he does it gets the job done too. I had to learn this through observation though, because I just thought there’s no way he’s doing this right.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 08:55 PM
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I am trying to improve as well! I come from a big Italian family. Every one of my grandmothers, great aunts, aunts, etc is a big nag. To be fair, their husbands laugh it off and don’t seem upset. I’m very serious with my current boyfriend, so I found myself being tempted to do this. He’s not Italian though, lol. So I’m trying to break the cycle for him ;) Sorry if I offended any lovely Italian women! Trust me I think you’re just the best haha
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 08:50 PM
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Haha I loved this cartoon! I’m sure you are a good cook.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 05:36 PM
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Not cheesy :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 04:49 PM
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My parents are this way! It’s truly nice, worth looking up to.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 03:59 PM
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Aw I’m so proud of your friend! Good for her, and it’s lovely you have her in your life :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 03:51 PM
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I do. Not only does it make men more physically attractive, but it shows a masculine dedication and discipline to themselves. Not to mention it’s healthy, and I want my long term partner to be healthy and happy! But I wouldn’t be attracted to a guy who didn’t work out to begin with. If my boyfriend suddenly stopped working out, I’d tell him to start up again or he’ll be losing his workouts in the bedroom as well! Lmao Edit: I think it’s important to add that I work out regularly as well and stay…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 03:45 PM
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UGH! I fell in love with her when she walked at the Olympics! such a family woman too!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 03:37 PM
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I look up to my little sister similarly, and she’s got no idea. I admire some of her more nonchalant attitudes, because I’m usually hyper-aware of things. I think Suzanne is just brilliant.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 03:36 PM
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improve my flexibility by doing a bit of yoga every day make some leg gains in the gym by working out 3x a week and eating more work on my research project a little bit every day learn to cook one new meal every week!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 04:38 PM
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I’m only 20, but I’ve always thought these things. Just my opinion! Not taking responsibility for her own appearance. Prioritizing herself above her children Seeking sexual attention/validation from men other than her SO Disinterest in or refusing womanly/motherly jobs such as cooking and cleaning. Wanting help from SO is not the same as flat out refusing to do these things. Does not value the sexual needs of her SO Thinking attractiveness alone is enough Discourages her SO’s masculinity (etc, d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 06:13 PM
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A few things here. I can understand him being a bit upset that at the end of the day you wouldn’t give him head at least, especially after kissing. However, my boyfriend would have just called me a tease. Throwing you out of the bed is very intense. but maybe he wanted to watch porn and felt awkward if you were around. That being said, he could have just left the room himself or flat out asked if you could give him a moment if he is more comfortable jerking it in bed. In addition to that, the fa…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 05:45 PM
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