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dont say i love you too fast. other than that, its all about natural chemistry. anything forced is unnatural and not sustainable.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 04:41 PM
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lol…took me 4-5 years to get there. sex was amazing…typical from a daddy issues gal IMO. once her insecurities cropped up is when my cog dis kicked in. i wish i had known more back then and i have this bad habit of being attracted to those types.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 06:13 PM
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ya casual talk in a non hitting on fashion for just talk is doable but some women just look unapproachable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:23 PM
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i usually wait for the eye contact and maybe a positive facial expression. i would never cold call on a woman without some sorta signal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:19 PM
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that part about opening up….thats real IMO my 62yo girlfriend even said that to me. during a talk about our relationship i mentioned something about an insecurity. from her reaction, i asked if that was an unattractive quality in a man. i got big yes from her out of that. so no more fucking talk about me but its ok for her to open up about all her frickin baggage of fears of abandonment, intimacy issues, self esteem, blablabla in all fairness, ya its a turn off for me too. now i know why she’s c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:17 PM
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yes. attachment theory is real. hopefully he can recognize that and work to improve himself as well. we all struggle with something.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/25 04:43 PM
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did something change since your post 2 weeks ago? you have to follow your gut feelings. sounds like you have all the info you need to make a decision but i definitely wouldn’t be in the “give it time” camp once a woman checks out, theres no coming back in any real sense, IMO
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 04:16 PM
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yep exactly my experience. the ex was never wrong…ever. didnt want to admit anything was ever her fault, although fault is a tough one to parse.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 02:08 PM
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i, 58 now, got divorced and on the market again at 52 and was appalled at the single women in their 40’s-50’s i was introduced to by a buddy and his girlfriend. exceedingly shallow, vapid and yet demanding. met a few older woman at the dog park and wasnt impressed. a young one in her 30’s was intriguing and we talked alot. i think she had a daddy complex thing with me but she stopped coming. i was thinking the younger route would be ok for short term interests. i got to know an asst manager at t…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 12:32 PM
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marriage counseling did ZERO for my marriage of 24 years, twice. the ex hated hearing the truth and the mental manipulations were exhausting as for now, i’ve been with another challenging woman for 6 years now but the up is, she’s mostly a good crazy. everything i dealt with in marriage has made me a better moderator for this relationship. ideally i’d rather not have more drama but this new woman is a drug.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 03:52 AM
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it took me 3-4 years to get my head right. unfortunately i drug some woman through those years and some of her actions delayed me and it still presses on my brain. you’ll know when you no longer have negative thoughts about your ex and that life. can’t be drudging up the past with someone new.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 04:28 PM
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sounds like he has a disorganized attachment too. if he can recognize that and accept it and work to improve himself it will help. a break is good. you two will have a chance to explore your feelings for each other while apart. good luck
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 03:44 PM
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i’d say it has to be organic on your part. you can’t force or fake that stuff. work on yourself in being secure in the relationship. you have to give in and just let it roll and be vulnerable, i know its tough as i deal with some of that too. reading up on attachment theory might help you understand your own feelings. at the end, knowing your weak spots is the first step. you can work on improving after that. my girlfriend has some insecurities with abandonment and intimacy and it causes her to …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 03:29 PM
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er…i kinda get what you’re saying and have experienced a few women like this. they tend to have self esteem issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:08 AM
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good call. keep that FAFO sensor tuned in. she sounds like a keeper maybe. i got right back into a relationship at year from my divorce. it was a lady i dated before my marriage of 25 years and she moved in with me due to some hard times with getting laid off from her 20 corporate job then struggling. she was similar to yours, she had no kids and hadnt been married since her early 20’s before i dated her. after a few years she ended up with some attachment issues that cropped up with us. disorga…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 05:09 PM
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just make sure they have a healthy attachment style. it’ll save alot of headaches.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 04:45 PM
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danger will robinson, danger. lol agreed, err on the side of caution
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 04:45 PM
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attachment theory should be mandatory learning in high school. so many young people would be spared the mental anguish of choosing poorly. i had no idea about it until after my 24 years marriage ended and then i got hooked up with a woman i dated prior to marriage and…wow lookie there…she’s a disorganized attachment queen too. not as bad but she’s got issues and working on them but its exhausting.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 08:07 PM
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8 months and some dude is getting married to your ex? he’ll have fun with that. dont sweat it and just be cool with your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 07:31 PM
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that makes me feel ok. i was half of your pay and paying half of that for 7 years. 20 more months to go! wOOt!
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 04:57 AM
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ya dont lay that on them. you’ll come off as bitter and grumpy. your kids need to see you as a pillar. i’d like to know why you’ll lose your biz though. is she going after half of it?
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 04:55 AM
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dating seemed like the logical thing to do at first but 5 years into a LTR with a woman that now lives with me….i’m wishing i was a free range human. it was a mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 09:39 PM
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fearful avoidants might be considered damaged goods. they are certainly draining on a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:19 PM
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guess defining the mental illness you are referring to is important here too. everyone had a sliding scale of acceptable mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:26 PM
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does any politician? this post is stupid and leftist rage.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:19 PM
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i dont find it all that hard to read the tea leaves on women. most women i know wear their emotions and feelings on their sleeves for day to day behavior on how they feel
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:39 PM
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