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I wonder if it’s a novelty issue? He’s young and therefore moderately less self-aware than he’d be later in life. There are many studies around long-term impacts of porn on young men, and they all kind of tease at the notion that the on-demand dopamine-dispensing can dull the real-life experience of consistent partnered monogamous sex. If your man is low or dopamine-deficient, he’s going to likely not even be aware of why he doesn’t want to initiate sex with you. You are still vetting him and so…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/25 12:51 AM
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This is such a lovely, nuanced question - I’m really looking forward to learning more from what other RPW think/feel. In essence, positive ownership for me feels like masculine containment. Imagine you’re invisibly architecting the space around her to ensure it has what she needs in order to thrive. That it is absent of anything that takes from her ability to thrive. For me - this is key because it allows me to access my feminine desire to submit to him. It’s essential to feeding those feelings …
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/25 11:01 PM
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Are we really sure this is about the car? Are the problems in your marriage coming from other, subtler things, like your not wanting his help? dismissing his car-knowledge? I feel like we hate to admit this as modern women, but the male ego is also something we can work with; it sounds like you’re working against it. When we combat it by fighting and making things hard, or when we take the advice of another man over our man’s, we invite our own disaster sometimes. Modern society sucks sometimes,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/25 12:04 AM
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I think the problem is that you misunderstand nuance and complexity. You know enough to be dangerous with your data, but not enough to understand your blind spots— why you’re wrong. Before you argue with two of my favorite endorsed contributors, I would suggest a thorough review of what it is you think you know about data and meaning. “Empirical evidence via controlled trials are always ideal.” While randomized controlled trials (RCTs) are often held as the gold standard in scientific research, …
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/25 03:03 PM
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I think it’s easy for people these days to mimic or model emotional maturity without ever really knowing what it feels like, how to obtain it, or how to spot its lack or development in others. Since there’s no agreed upon maturity model, we struggle to identify others that are working on emotional maturity. And since emotional maturity is a prerequisite to practicing emotional discipline, I think we need to build our recognition muscles maybe?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/25 04:16 PM
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I want to offer advice from a completely different perspective in hopes it makes some sort of sense to you. It all hinges on one idea though: that ya’ll vetted one another and you made sure she’s a woman of quality. I say this because it’s easy to take for granted/not think about. Our words are shifting and the society of the spectacle has taken over much of our perceived experience. That said, her body is doing the mitochondrial work of creating a whole freaking human. And it’s freaking rough i…
/r/askMRP19/05/25 03:36 PM
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I have pmdd and get really bloated sometimes, regardless of being my ideal weight/BMI for a couple years now. One thing that has worked for me is a supp called ARMRA. I tried the small pouches and they were amazing. Then I got the full size jar and I was hooked. Not only did it stop me from feeling bloated during my pms times, but it kept my immune system healthy. No lie: my partner, son and i flew and got stuck at three airports for 30 hours. Both of them got really sick and I didn’t even get a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 01:59 PM
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Thank you so much! This makes my heart feel so happy. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/24 06:25 PM
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“Apathy is one of the characteristic responses of any living organism when it is subjected to stimuli too intense or too complicated to cope with. The cure for apathy is comprehension.” Another quote by another author I haven’t read but when I was your age, impacted me greatly. What I took it to mean is that it is completely normal to feel jaded when you’ve been repeatedly let down, hurt, neglected, or otherwise damaged by life’s experience. Like numbness, it’s a sort of callus that your body in…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/24 08:11 PM
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Oooff. You may as well be telling tales from my own heart and soul from back when I was 19. I feel this. There are a few important takeaways here. You won’t find yourself in something or someone else. In all you will ever know in a lifetime, you are the one thing you’ll never leave or lose. To the questions of your life: you are the only answer. To the problems of your life: you are the only solution. You are still developing into your essential womanhood. In fact, I’d bet that since you grew up…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/24 06:46 PM
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There’s an article in the sidebar about spitting up the blue pill that really helped me with learning more on how much inner work has to be done - almost perpetually - just to peel back the layers of feminism and societal conditioning. I’ll find it and go link it here. ETA: the whole section on unlearning feminist indoctrination, submission, and understanding men. Will change your life. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/qjJj5yVndB
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 08:55 PM
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It is good that you are here and that you are aware of some of your behavioral / relational patterns. Look, here’s the deal. You have to cultivate and pursue a relationship with yourself first and foremost. Prioritize it. Period. End of story. While you are doing this, study men. Understand them. Work on understanding them deeply. There’s hours of important reading on all of this, in the sidebar. What you are saying essentially, is that you never developed yourself. Your Self. Here’s something i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 01:48 AM
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When you say now the arguments have gotten out of hand, can I ask what kinds of arguments? What types of submission are you comfortable with? Which types are difficult for you?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/24 07:26 PM
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I really feel this in my soul. It sounds as if you are going through a lot of uncertainty surrounding your mutual living situation - I too am dealing with this right now and I can tell you it’s been brutal on my ability to show up in my relationships. My thoughts may feel a bit counterintuitive. Here’s what I’m hearing: you mentioned that you wanted him to know it’s totally ok if he doesn’t want to get married but just to let you know so you can deal with it together. (I’m paraphrasing.) But lat…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/24 10:51 PM
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Blame is the wrong mindset. You are responsible for your actions. If you want a relationship, especially a male-led relationship, you will have to eventually surrender your fear of abandonment. When I was younger, I did this a lot. And I needed constant reassurance. Feelings ebb and flow. That’s a truth that you need to remember; there will be times when he doesn’t have the capacity to deal with your emotions. You are essentially lacking a sense of self worth while in this relationship, and inst…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 12:15 AM
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Can you please tell me the defining moment where you knew you met your future husband? I feel for you. It is true that when you know, you know. It is also true that it is OK to not know, and that sometimes, knowing can take time. If you are feeling rushed, try to take a breath, slow down, and understand that 'focusing on one partner' may be what you want to do right now, but maybe you lack the information. It sounds like you are still vetting. I agree that the 33m sounds like a better partner...…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 05:25 PM
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Don’t quit commenting. They win if you quit. I imagine it’s hard to be the only sane person in a room full of hallucinating folks. Typically, just by allowing your voice or words to speak for you while the others sort themselves out. It’s perfectly reasonable to be angry about the idiocy! People don’t understand that it will always be fundamentally easier to tear something down and destroy it versus building and creating a world and sharing an intimate life with one’s chosen. That takes courage …
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:50 PM
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this is beautifully said.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:41 PM
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It’s easy and natural to want others especially friends and those that know you, to validate your new status as a couple. Especially after being friends for so long! I wouldn’t worry about it at all, tbh. I’m in a similar situation with my man in that we got to know one another deeply as friends first. Typically in your twenties, new relationship energy is what dominates the mental model of what pop culture perceives as couple status. That being, you can’t keep your hands off one another, obsess…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 08:43 PM
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Our entire world is broken. It’s not as it is supposed to be, and we can talk about all the reasons why, or we can accept that the red pill is hard to swallow and we can work together to create strategies to heal and help one another. I deeply resonate with what you are saying. I started my RPW journey almost two years ago now, and I can say wholeheartedly it has been a JOURNEY. I had to completely stop social media - something that was essential to my entire friend group. I was a loud and passi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 03:04 PM
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It’s not an ego blow. I know it feels like one. This is a man being honest with you about who he is. The red flag was the second date phone call. You had the right instincts; he backpedaled and talked his way back into your life. It’s actually a blessing in every conceivable way that he broke it off. Can you imagine if you actually married and had kids with this guy? He’s a train wreck. Chemistry is so easy to create and nurture. Genuine ethics and a moral compass in a masculine man? Not so much…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 02:48 AM
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Thank you so much! Also, I am cracking up over here; adding the pirate to the captain/first mate analogy is apropos of the danger in too hastily scanning the ships in the harbor. The ocean is a vast and wondrous place and it’s not safe to go alone. Here, take this. It’s an emergency escape submarine. Break glass in case of pirates. Anyway, I appreciated the way you expressed that just as much as the ⭐️.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/24 03:40 AM
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Did you read the second half of my comment? She is only now starting to become aware of what she wants. I'm not sure how you can state for certain she learnt nothing; in fact, if you re-read her post you can easily see she's become aware of many new things. These things are not easy in our modern world and especially when a woman comes from liberal friend groups. And yes, the first paragraph is meant to address feelings. This is a key moment for women in our rpw journey, and wanted to make sure …
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 06:19 PM
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Hiya. I hear you and feel this in my soul. It sounds like you have experienced something that a lot of us have with feminism and politics. What you are feeling is completely valid. You also are in an incredible position - it is hard to see right now, I know - wherein now that you see the absurdity and invertedness of it all, you can take steps towards actions that get you closer to what you truly desire. Women in general are vulnerable to social pressure from peers, especially when it is in the …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 07:38 PM
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You may want to delete your own comment and save the mods their time and energy. It's the second time this has happened for you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 07:24 PM
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This is a good start. I don’t think you’re ready to be on the dating apps, even if you do decide you deep down truly want a relationship right now. Why? Because you don’t know what you want yet. You only know what you don’t want. You don’t know what you can offer, re: intimacy, if your sex drive works through responsive desire, or not at all. This is a bad way to begin looking for a relationship. Sit down with yourself and figure out who you are. What lights you up? What excites you and makes yo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 01:35 AM
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Reflecting on past relationships I’m floored at how much of my overwhelming daily anxiety was fueled by being subconsciously pressured into the ‘strong working feminist’ / more dominant leader partner in all my previous relationships with men. I was playing a role for years and years and didn’t have a clue why my relationships were not fulfilling. My first experience with my man was the absence of that existential anxiety; I felt safe and protected from danger when he was nearby. It took me ages…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 05:53 AM
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Yes, this, wholeheartedly agree. According to a 2009 study, a five-minute conversation with an attractive woman can increase testosterone levels by 14% and cortisol levels by 48%. The study also found that spending the same amount of time with men causes a decrease in testosterone levels by 2% and cortisol levels by 7%. Talking to and meeting and interacting with pretty women makes men feel good, scientifically.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 02:33 AM
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Oh my goodness gracious the article you linked. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 02:30 AM
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I would try to stop this line of thinking if I were you. The ring, and his making of you as his wife, doesn’t mean anything if you question his character. And at the root of your initial post is that question. It doesn’t seem like you can quite bring yourself to trust that he will follow through on what he’s committed to, and you are still making sacrifices for him. I would pull back a bit and let him feel that. When it’s a good moment, and or if he asks, tell him your concerns. Let him feel you…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 05:52 PM
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I would add that it seems like he needs time to work through these issues before he’s ready to reconnect. The first thing I’d do is allow him that time. Respect his need for time and space and boundaries and as our other amazing women here have said - maybe work to improve the space around him? Note and accept that your need for forgiveness and reconnection should be prioritized after his need to calm down and move past the argument.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 03:36 PM
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Great point! Yes, there is wisdom there. Trust me, it's normal to get triggered sometimes and when you love whole-heartedly it can feel terrifying. Try to trust yourself; trust your judgment and your choices. Ask yourself whether questioning his character is helpful or harmful to the goals you have for your relationship. You've got this. :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 03:47 PM
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I think your hamster wheel is spinning off into the wilderness. Instead of looking at his actions in this scenario, try and consider if you want to be the type of gf who refreshes her phone for five minutes because you either cannot or will not trust your man to be honest. You can't control your partner's actions, but you can control your own, and personally I would not like myself if I became this kind of gf.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 03:35 PM
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Losing interest in him, how? Were there other reasons? What else is going on in your life or mind that makes you doubt your choice? We can't negotiate desire, and if you lost interest, the question becomes, do you even want to try and get it back? "Harsh" isn't the word I would use since we are talking about what you are and are not attracted to. Deconstructing the scenario, what does it represent to you, when a man can't/won't/doesn't change his own tire? If you perceive that his skills and mas…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 03:25 PM
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The core of this question is that you suspect he is not trustworthy and him lying has not confirmed it for you. Should you confront him isn’t the point. What on earth would you hope to gain from doing so?
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 12:24 AM
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Ope! I relate. Actually I relate profoundly, lol. It's like on one hand all those things he does is part of why you love him and what makes him sexy. On the other hand, you really want some quality time, affection, attention and to be prioritized. I think you also might want to find a hobby that excites you? In WMLB, she talks about how the best way to handle this kind of situation is to pull back and assess. What exactly has triggered your feelings related to the hobby? Is it that he has someth…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 02:56 PM
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Thank *you* for knowing the language of your own heart! So many of us spend our whole lives chasing illusions or solving the wrong problems. The amazing part is that, if you've discovered the root of your pain, you have also discovered countless ways to address it. What would reignite your own passion for living? What would make you feel excited again? My whole life changed when I became a mom. That is normal. What 'they' can never encapsulate is how I'd feel about my whole life changing. For a …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 07:49 PM
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I'm so glad to hear you're learning new things here too! I feel a genuine sense of connection or belonging here, and make it my goal to try and understand so I can learn as much as possible. Thank you for having the courage to ask questions; I think they are wholly underrated and so so powerful. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 05:11 PM
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My whole heart feels for you; this seems to be a classic case of trying to solve the wrong problem to get to a desired outcome. Hint, your solution isn't necessarily incorrect; it is incomplete because it doesn't take the whole picture into account. The reason I say this is your question. Does anyone have any tips that may reignite our passion and my husband’s interest in me again? You already know what you need to do, deep down. You are suffering from disconnection and feeling neglected, and yo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 05:04 PM
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I was asking questions, not commenting my own thoughts; I’ll elaborate here. Thank you for asking. She said she was afraid of intimacy. That’s not at all uncommon. I feel that way often too as I’m sure many of us do. There are countless possible reasons why she could be afraid of intimacy. The reason men deeply commit in relationships is because of a woman’s value. Her value of course is much more than sex. It’s multifaceted and complex but, at its core, it is feminine. Feminine energy is open a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 10:51 PM
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If intimacy scares you and you don’t have much of a sex drive, what are you hoping to offer a man? What are you hoping to be able to gain in return?
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 03:11 AM
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Absolutely! It was such a helpful post - here you go.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 04:50 PM
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Sweetheart, (literally your name, but also I say this to myself and to the hearts of all women here) the chemical rush that happens when people first 'fall in love' is well-documented. The goal of those chemicals is to get you to not be able to keep your hands off one another. It is the time when the environment between you is set up to grease the wheels, so to speak, for easier pair bonding. Now that doesn't mean it won't *ever* get better. We can't tell you that because we don't know him like …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 03:52 PM
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This is not about sex. This is about someone who you want to spend a life with methodically dismissing your needs as selfish when the reality is he’s the one who sees your needs as too much pressure. There are men who get really turned on by turning their women on. I’d find one of those because he’s not ever going to change especially since the beginning stage has passed.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 02:41 PM
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^^This! This is where RPW has been so incredibly valuable for me. We are all in some ways struggling with a broken cultural / societal system. This is such an important place to come to ask genuine questions about one's particular blind spots. Modern liberalism -and feminism- make such a big deal out of specific trigger words and those create thought terminating behaviors. Ever heard someone say something that your brain just goes 'woooow yeah not gonna touch that one; what a circus,' etc? Thoug…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 04:09 PM
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I'm not RP, but I've heard RP men and RP women are different and that RP men are not who RP women should be dating. Wait, where did you hear this? I'd love to learn more. I know that generally speaking, if he's just swallowed the pill it's likely that he's angry and resentful and that doesn't make for good LTR material.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 08:30 PM
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Otherwise, why try to make you feel bad about your inevitable aging? Why try to make you accept that he’ll be wanting other (younger) women? I’d move on from this one, personally. A man who loves and respects you will want to make you feel secure. That last sentence hit me someplace important. Someplace very important. *imminent crying sounds on the horizon* One caveat to add to this. There is a reason why a man will do this to a woman; it is a valid reason and yet still painful to experience. I…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 07:58 PM
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I’ve paid attention to your content for a solid chunk of time now, (8 months? Maybe more?) as I’m also a lateral thinker and your perspective just resonates with me. The question you asked about the meaning of one’s life is profound; I’m unpacking that right now and so excited to see what lil gems of wisdom I can excavate! I resonate deeply with what you said re: the last two generations of women. I also think community building and camaraderie has shifted/changed so much I find myself longing f…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 07:48 PM
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Fascinating Womanhood - the vintage edition.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 06:06 PM
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Feminine strength is nuanced. I wouldn’t listen to the words since he’s stumped too. It sounds like he’s trying to communicate more of a feeling. Instead of using logic to listen to his feelings, try using your intuition if you’re properly attuned. It sounds like you both went through a rough time wherein you were both sick and needed care. When both parties in a relationship are at their worst and in need of care, all you can do is try your best to stay present, grounded, and responsive in your…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 05:59 PM
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Link broken: Is incremental reciprocity a subreddit?! I needs it. 🥺
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 08:20 PM
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I’d revise to say they don’t GAF about how you look only IF you meet the initial threshold for “attractive enough.” Because visually, if you don’t meet the criteria they will consider you for sex but not a relationship. I agree that the OP needs to read the sidebar and dive more into what RP is all about because it seems she’s distracted by surface level considerations and doesn’t know what SMV is, etc, but we all start somewhere!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 07:43 PM
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Ding ding ding ding!!! OP, both options are possibly externalized concepts stemming from your personal insecurities and/or the opinions of others. What lights you up? What fills you with the kind of passion that you can’t help but share with the men around you? During the first part of my RPW journey, I was overly focused on superficial aesthetic improvements too, because our culture is one of quick fixes, easy consumerism, and instant-gratification. Whatever we focus on, we enhance within our c…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 07:32 PM
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I really enjoyed this perspective. I want to go look at the thread you mentioned! The section that you quoted also reminds me to ask the OP if she is being honest with herself. I don’t think anyone wants to be taken advantage of. Is it possible that you are starting to become resentful because you’re doing all this work and not seeing reciprocity?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 04:52 AM
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Yessss this! Self care. Maybe a shift in focus - rather than using RPW to improve your marriage, I’d recommend using it to improve yourself. You are the first mate and if there is a hole in the ship which, to be sincere, it sounds like there’s a hole in the ship… you release the need to control anything related to his decisions and this includes the (natural, normal) desire to influence how he feels. But us womenfolk, we care about the feels. He needs to feel like you respect him, trust him, and…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 04:42 AM
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I love what you’re saying here, and I’d add that it also is the idea of a potential relationship / family, versus the safety of an actualized career and childhood family. Us women, well, we are hardwired for security. It’s bred into us and there’s no shame in that. I loved what you said about number 3; it resonated deeply with me and my own risk tolerance /confusion about my own priorities. OP, it might be worth mentioning that when you meet your captain, it’s possible you will want to actively …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 03:10 AM
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I really love the way you explained this. It resonates with my experience. I think the insidiousness of internalized feminism made it so that I felt I needed to mirror the males around me and that is so wrong and tainted. It’s a constant battering and brutalizing of our natural instincts on both sides and it is heartbreaking.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 05:22 PM
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That makes sense. However, what we hide from others, to an ephemeral extent, we also hide from ourselves. RPW advocates for the woman being the absolute best version of herself. If you breadcrumb and do not share your intimate feelings with your partner, you run the risk of hamstringing her growth, your intimacy, or worse, failing a series of comfort tests and lose her anyway. Here’s a truth we don’t always know how to verbalize: When our strong, capable man shows weakness, it impacts us. and ye…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 05:16 PM
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Yesssss. I will say that these are skills not just for us, but for men who have to operate in ‘polite’ society as well. I recently helped my man with a work situation wherein another man accused him of being condescending. I shared this resource because it is much more practical / tactical than the first book on NVC: https://www.amazon.com/Living-Nonviolent-Communication-Communicate-Skillfully/dp/1604077875?nodl=1&dplnkId=942dd9fc-28ae-4d02-95b4-a28e12d97cf0
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 07:57 PM
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It’s not just about “opening up” for the sake of feminizing the man in the relationship with flowery feelings. But opening up and communicating intimately is necessary for a healthy relationship. Women instinctively understand how important it is for men to have connection and emotional support. When the woman wants him to open up, a good clarifying question is ‘why?’ Intimacy and emotional wellbeing are also intrinsic to men’s health.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 07:52 PM
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I agree with this. Also, even though it’s called permanent makeup, it isn’t actually permanent. A couple of years and it fades. I’d also like to say that if it is done well, you can’t actually tell that it is there at all whatsoever. It should look natural and enhance the natural features of the face.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 07:25 PM
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Hiiiii. Yes. I recommend this site because the reviews are usually real, and it’s all kinds of procedures, not just PM (permanent makeup.) https://www.realself.com/nonsurgical/permanent-makeup https://www.realsimple.com/permanent-makeup-7506106
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 09:52 PM
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I highly - can’t stress this enough - recommend permanent makeup. I do natural eyelash extensions - not the crazy volume ones. I have a lip blush and a ‘baby eyeliner’ tattoo along with microbladed eyebrows. Long story short? I wake up looking like I naturally have makeup on so long as my skin is good. No joke! I feel beautiful too haha. The eyebrows frame the face; the lashes and baby liner give depth and contrast to my eyes. Lastly with a bit of lip gloss or chapstick, it looks like a full fac…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 06:32 PM
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If you’re in England still, you have some really great options available. Don’t give up hope. This is your life and you were not culpable at age 12. You were a child. Now that you are 18 and you are aware that you desire more of an education and a career, please remind yourself that you are worthy of these things and capable. As for my recommendations: Look at catch up programs and moocs. This example is year 12 maths you can learn online for free. You might want to check out math for 9th and st…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/23 03:55 AM
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I resonate deeply with your last paragraph. In fact, I think that media has done us a disservice in that formula; we are a storytelling species and what good is it to show us only the highlight reels while neglecting all of the rock-tumbling high-pressure stimulus that it actually takes to make a diamond? The struggle is what makes it. We never show the journey to the top of the mountain; we only like to post refined images of the triumphant pose atop the summit. We fail to understand that the t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 05:41 PM
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I’m a curious lurker. What about an 8 or 9 that has also been red-pilled? Or has substance and intelligence and emotional depth and doesn’t sleep around? The ladies over at the women of redpill sub talk about how ridiculous it is to use dread as a woman. Men know that beautiful women can always get male attention; reminding him of this is stupid and doesn’t add value to the relationship by making him question your loyalty. Interestingly enough, dread for women is about gratitude. It’s about maki…
/r/TheRedPill30/09/23 05:32 PM
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I have troubles with boundaries, saying no, and setting limits. I used to be completely disembodied - overweight and unhealthy and I’ve dropped from 40% body fat to 26% body fat. I think perhaps worst of all, I grew up like a sponge, always mirroring and soaking up the ways/mannerisms of the people around me. I was a tomboy and did not have any idea at all how men actually worked and I was overly masculine, unconscious that I was mirroring the men around me but that that would never mean attract…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/23 03:42 PM
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I want a dominant man who can provide me with containment. But I also make a six figure salary doing something I love. I work from home so I can also contribute domestically. Should I feel bad about not wanting a provider? I do want my captain and I want to be protected and cared for by a strong man.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 05:29 PM
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I can relate to this because I make solid six figures and have great income in my profession, but I’m sometimes abysmal at the most basic intrinsic things like keeping house, grocery shopping, meal prep/planning, etc. Yes, those things are definitely added value to make your friend a good life partner. I have a similar friend who is older, married 20 years, mom of 3, and she is like a domestic goddess to me. She just got her driver license yesterday and she’s in her 40s. She’s never had to worry…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 03:15 PM
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I think it’s good to know that you’re highly hypergamous; you can mitigate that the way we’d expect more quality/alpha men in LTRs to mitigate their desires to sleep with every pretty girl around. When you want to commit to someone seriously, I believe you will. It’s not about lacking capacity imo; I think it’s about fit. Also, you may have a lovely vision of what you want for your life, but if you really want to respect your captain, you will actually desire to have the ability to set that asid…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 07:32 PM
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What is COL?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 07:27 PM
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I feel this in my bones. Trying to be "more feminine" is imho, somewhat of a lost cause because it is field dependent and externalized. Instead, I would cultivate small but graceful things that you already find to be feminine about yourself. I tried to change them but I keep failing to my old habits Habits are hard to break when the mind disagrees with the why behind the habit. One thing I found that helped me is reading James Clear's Atomic Habits. It helped me develop a more healthy sense of w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 06:01 PM
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