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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 23 | Absence is your best, most declarative weapon against men’s misogyny.I just had this boy, I won’t even grace him with the word of calling him a man tell me that all this time we had spend together, including us cuddling, chatting everyday, going on dates was us being friends. He had the audacity to tell me that he thought I was being affectionate as his friend. Needless to say, I walked out without even bothering to explain the why of it because I shouldn’t have to teach you how to be a man. SMH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 03:18 PM |
| 73 | Is there a point of continuing this conversation or should I just leave it?Thank you ladies! Honestly I am annoyed because I had to push him in a corner to get the honesty. I just hate the audacity of men and their lack of being honest. | /r/askFDS | 02/09/21 11:03 PM |
| 1 | My ex husband ladies. I picked a real one.Haha. Yes. My friend found it and send it to me. I’m so confused by the audacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 02:04 AM |
| 5 | Swipe right for what you want not need!Agreed. That’s exactly why I said “want” not need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:24 PM |
| 27 | Only pickmeishas get mad at the other womanWhen I found out my now ex husband had flown to another country to see his ex girlfriend ( she was also married at the time) it completely made me lose faith in love and relationships. She had been someone I had met several times throughout the marriage and I had always had this naive outlook that women that know the man is married are never going to pull a stunt like they did. The thing is the notion of love is incredibly fragile. You believe in this naivety of people being faithful and when yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Should I cut this friend off?Done! Thanks :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 02:31 PM |
| 15 | Advice neededI have honestly tried to help her understand in every way I can. I can understand her need to be honest but it really just sets the seed for people to use it against her. Thanks for the recommendations! I’m going to send her these. I wish she could see how amazing she is. She’s so caught up in her own insecurities about people thinking it’s her fault that she fails to see what a catch she is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:11 AM |
| 5 | This was the second time he had talked to me this way while drunk and angry. THIS is when you leave ladies. Like my last post said, leave the first time.Hi OP, To this day, I am asked why I didn’t leave the first time or the second time. Just like you, I made excuses for the disrespect, the lying and the abuse. Every time I would beg him not to drink or get high and he did it anyway, I would make an excuse as to why he did it. He had a bad childhood, he was stressed. He had taken on too much. The truth however is that my ex just like your husband was an adult. And at some point you will have to stop making excuses for him and his behaviour. I’ll… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on Subtle Asian Dating?Interesting. I’m South Asian and hadn’t heard of this before but seems oddly similar to an arranged marriage type of scenario. I can see why you would be open to it but I personally wouldn’t want to get myself into that type of situation. Like you, the cultural and language aspect is important to me which more often than not has minimized the men that I am interested in. However, I find that in these types of situations it is very surface level pros and cons and is a way of you running into peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Someone’s feelings got hurt.Haha. Beats me, I certainly don’t get that triggered by anyone’s posts 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 09:10 PM |
| 2 | How did you guys feel when your ex treated the next better than he treated you?I’m sure you’ve heard this before but there is a silver lining in every circumstance that you will face because truly things do happen for a reason. There are two ways I believe you can look at a breakup. You can view it as a “loss” and keep driving yourself insane by going back and looking at what you supposedly lost. What this achieves is this constant feeling of “ what was wrong with me” and more often than not results in a painful post like this. Or you can look at it as he did you a favour.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:49 AM |
| 64 | I don’t know why this just rubs me the wrong wayExactly. Why should a woman have to try to make you feel better about a traumatic experience that she had to go through? I am so bothered by the fact that she felt the need to ask what he needs from her to feel better. I mean what the flying fuck? Kudos to her for being empowering and being able to have the perspective she has. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:30 AM |
| 9 | Is this seriously the standard for “better than most”?There are many mothers that condone this behaviour as well. When my ex mother in law heard that her son had hit me, she came to my house and told me that divorce wasn’t a big deal in their family and I could leave him. When he cheated she told him he did nothing wrong. Some of these mothers need to slap their sons or maybe themselves at the right time to stop them from turning into the scum they do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:19 AM |
| 16 | Ladies, don't treat your boyfriend like he's your husbandI think that you shouldn’t be doing that irrespective of if he’s your husband or your boyfriend. Only referring to the first paragraph ofcourse but marriage isn’t meant to automatically make any of these behaviours okay. Clean up with him not for him, I’m treating myself to the same standards I treat you. If I chose to get married again, I’m only buying someone expensive gifts if they’re HVM and will do the same for me. Any man worth marrying won’t make you do any of these things on your own. Wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 10:32 PM |
| 5 | My ex posted this on Reddit. I blocked him here as well now.OP. I went through what you’re going through and he painted me as a liar too. He almost made me believe that I was crazy, I doubted myself so much until I broke down infront of my boss one day. He say me down and gave me advice that I will try to reiterate in a way that hopefully brings you peace. He said “ A man who can’t respect you through what is meant to be a difficult time in yours and his life is not worthy of losing sleep over. Don’t worry about the picture he paints of you because the t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Yes, because not having sex with a man is definitely the same as domestic abuse.I didn’t want to have sex with my ex husband for a long time. And to be honest I didn’t understand why and I internalized it and felt guilty for not wanting to. My best friend was begging me to get therapy because she sensed something was wrong for a long time and she couldn’t figure out what. It took him cheating and telling me it was my fault since I had deprived him of sex for me to face things head on and get therapy. Through therapy I started to recall things I had blocked out. From the tim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:52 PM |
| 7 | That's word diarrhea if I've ever seen itIt would be in society’s best interest if this fool doesn’t reproduce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:00 AM |
| 21 | This is what I had sent my ex husband after I found he cheated. My growth from then to now is in the commentsI don’t think you read what I wrote in the comments but yes I agree. Hence why I divorced his ass :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:36 AM |
| 208 | This is what I had sent my ex husband after I found he cheated. My growth from then to now is in the commentsOver a year ago I begged my ex husband to be nice to me and I’m ashamed to say that I had absolutely no respect for myself. Two days after I send this text, I came across this group. And I stayed awake all night reading it and I realized how fucked up I was being. So I left, it was tough and I cried buckets. Now a year later, I’m working in a kick ass job with the most amazing friends. I have more respect for myself than ever and I refuse to be with anyone that doesn’t reach my level. I write th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:24 AM |
| 4 | Anyone else feel they're not pretty enough for FDS?I am you 9 years later and I’m going to give you my advice to stop you from making the same mistakes I did. I’ve never been conventionally pretty but I am cute and I was always confident in that. Somewhere along the line just like you, I started to question my standards and how despite me being successful, well educated and over all just being a HVW I wasn’t getting anyone. So I started setting the bar low and I met this man who I eventually married. During the time we were dating he treated me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 01:18 PM |
| 8 | PSA!!!!!Last year in May, my I got really sick at work and ended up having to go to the ER. My heart rate was going over 190 and my blood pressure was high, they took me in right away. My bosses and a co worker sat with me for four hours while they tried to get in touch with my ex husband. When they finally got a hold of him, he took his sweet time getting there and just didn’t seem to give a flying fuck. Exactly 3 months later he cheated on me. Needles to say, drop a fool who shows you once he doesn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Am I just a bitch? The amount of times he mentioned my school drive me bananas. I think I may just suck at this online dating thing.Haha. I got lazy 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:39 PM |
| 5 | Am I just a bitch? The amount of times he mentioned my school drive me bananas. I think I may just suck at this online dating thing.🤣😂🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:37 PM |
| 3 | Am I just being a prude or is this too much for someone who has only spoken to me for 5 minutes? #datingwhenyoure30Hahhahahaha hahah 🤣 funnily enough yes it totally was | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Am I just being a prude or is this too much for someone who has only spoken to me for 5 minutes? #datingwhenyoure30Amen to that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 05:52 AM |
| 6 | I think the reason men move on so quickly as if they never cared is because they never actually invested themselves into the relationship or their partnerThis rang so true for me. Currently separated but up until the day I realized I deserved better that’s what I did. I cried, I begged and I pleaded. I stayed with him even after I found out that he had lied to me and gone across the world to be with and sleep with his ex. That only lasted a week. That week is when I think I truly found myself and realized I couldn’t be with someone who could see me cry and not give a fuck. Ladies, if the man is able to sleep at night despite seeing you cry or ups… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 11:59 PM |
| 2 | Be difficult for abusers to loveMy soon to be ex husband did that when I found he had cheated on me with his ex girlfriend from 10 years ago. He told me he was going on a business trip, I’m ashamed now to say that I begged him to tell me where he was actually going. I just had an inclination that he was lying. He told me I was “insane” and that I was stressing him out by being a selfish bitch. I cried all night and when he left the next day I called the airline. Told them I had lost my boss’s confirmation number and that I had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 05:49 AM |
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