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This has to be a joke. Most people don't even have degrees lol. You guys are both highly educated and hardly represent the average person. Also having kids is pointless and bad for the environment. but it's hard to meet women that are also childfree. I live with my parents and earn 17 an hour as a security guard. Most women my age want kids and make more than me. Completely delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 04:32 AM
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The only way to successfully meet women is in person and not through dating apps. The sad part is as a homebody introvert it's near impossible to find someone in your age range that's viable for dating. Especially when your only interests are internet and lounging. I can't stand the apps. They've ruined dating. They've made everyone ambitious and all these hobbies and activities that it's nauseating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:11 AM
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I think the main flaw with apps is that I personally cannot measure someone's attractiveness purely through a photo. There are women who I found extremely attractive IRL but when I see their photos on FB they do nothing for me. They just look whatever. I need to see their aura, mannerisms, voice, facial expressions, etc. Ironically I'm a homebody introvert and I despise socializing and being outgoing. But I'm naturally extremely good at connecting and making conversation with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:06 PM
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I don't want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:23 PM
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explain how I lost my chance for anything long term?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:13 PM
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I feel alot of us men are lonely is because not all of us are outgoing people who enjoy social circles or friends. I just want a partner who spends time with me at home. Friends are exhausting. Socializing is exhausting. Outgoing hobbies are exhausting. I'm good at it but it's just annoying. A romantic partner and family I have infinite energy for.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:32 AM
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I take it I'm the only virgin here in their 30s or older. I feel like being a virgin is a blessing in disguise because I'm a homebody introvert and people with outgoing hobbies and social circles are completely exhausting. Even if I didn't have medical issues which discourage me from sexual activity I still would have issues finding women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:30 AM
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I'm an attractive virgin and I'm a virgin because I have a rare condition where I get sick from ejaculation. I've been hit on plenty of times by women and am good at charming them. I've accepted my fate that I will die alone with no one else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:28 AM
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I'm romantic and sexual it's just there's nowhere to meet women when you have no hobbies or interests. Or I should say when your hobbies or interests are solo in nature. I'm not interested in sports, bars, concerts, volunteering, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:19 PM
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Video games and music are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:17 PM
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What a gross misinterpretation of the study. This has nothing to do with naturally occurring T levels between people of different height. this is just a study on phenotypes in relation to testosterone and facial geometry. obviously testosterone plays into masculine traits within a population. but it has nothing to do with population differences based purely on height. Research shows that there is no correlation between T levels and one's height.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:28 PM
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I have high T and have a weak jawline, am average height, and am an introvert. My testosterone was recently measured at 905 ng/dl. I don't exercise and eat like garbage. Also, height is not correlated to testosterone. children undergoing puberty too fast tend to be shorter. testosterone fuses the plates sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:18 PM
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I've had chances but unlike you and the rest I don't need it to seek happiness or fulfillment. Casual sex is not fulfillment. It's a sign of weak mental fortitude and character. It's an empty void of short term pleasure over long term love. Studies show time and time again that casual sex / hooks ups do more harm than good. You literally just said it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:41 PM
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Most the women I’ve had sex with it was very short conversation, I just knew she was attracted to me and so we matched, met somewhere, then had sex. Imagine being weak enough to have casual sex / hooks ups rather than actually form a relationship with another human being. No wonder why social media has turned everyone into products that we use as junk food. Pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:35 PM
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Asocial. I'm not a sociopath. Not leaving your house means less interaction with people. And, unfortunately for you, women are people I agree on technical grounds. But regardless, there's nowhere to meet cool homebody people so there's no point in venturing outside with the normies. Just by sheer statistics alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:28 PM
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If less people are introverts than extroverts then logically the world does run on extroversion. I can't think of any real positive benefits for introversion in labor. Humans are social creatures. And yes I'm an introvert like you except I don't need hobbies outside of my house to pretend I'm interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:20 PM
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You have to consider the type of women you're going after. Women who go after men like that end up being single moms. Saying 'just go to the gym, bro!' 'just shower, bro!' is an empty platitude that means absolutely nothing. Looks only matter if your type of women bases her lifestyle on casual sex / hooks ups. And I don't want women who possess such a lifestyle. I would argue most men wouldn't be with such a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:16 PM
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Medical problems and I'm not into these people. Everyone I like is taken and everyone I'm not into isn't. Casual hooks ups are also a sign of a weak character. It means you have an inability to control your urges and desires and harness them for self reflection or knowledge acquisition. If you really are what you say you are, which I believe, then you are truly not a real introvert. Getting laid for the short term primal desire is just a sign of pure weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:10 PM
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I've been hit on by women IRL and have gotten several likes on tinder after creating my profile in less than 5 minutes. I'm no young Brad Pitt. But I certainly possess better facial features than a sizable chunk of men out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:05 PM
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Women care more about money and resources than looks. Looks aren't even the top of the list. They might matter for short term, casual hook ups. But long term looks aren't all that important. Women are superficial and care more about a man being willing to provide than how cool his personality is, how good he looks, his moral character, etc. Trust me. This is coming from someone who's gotten 5 likes on tinder in less than 5 minutes after creating his first profile and has been hit on by women IRL…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:59 PM
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Normal people are extroverts. The world runs on extroversion. Having hobbies outside of the house is a sign of weak mental fortitude and lack of imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:57 PM
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There's no such thing as standing out. Standing out is just a coping mechanism to make people feel that they need to be someone that they aren't in order to fit in. Be yourself. Notice how we never tell women to stand out? Not all of us have passions, ambitions, or life goals. Some of us just want to chill and hang out all day long. If women cant accept that then move on to the next person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:44 PM
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Personality only matters insofar as if you're a normie or not. A normie is a socially engaging, outgoing extrovert. Who has hobbies outside of his house. If you aren't a normie then you're shit out of luck. I'm a proud homebody introvert so even if I'm better looking than like 90% of men out there my personality wont mean shit. Women are superficial when it comes to money, resources, looks, and even personality. Arguably more so than men. Superficial or selective? Probably both.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:41 PM
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I've seen plenty of average to below average looking guys with attractive women. I see less attractive men with attractive women. Attractive men are usually with average to below average women. I've lived in New York and FL so maybe my experiences are different. The fact that women care less about looks and more about money and resources shows that women are more superficial on average than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:39 PM
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I live in Tampa, FL. There are seldom childfree women down here for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:09 AM
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Those 10 women then need to be compatible with you. And you need to be attracted to them. Those numbers sound abysmal to say the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:27 AM
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Abortions aren't illegal nor can they be dangerous if done properly with properly licensed medical professionals. The world needs less people on the planet, anyway. We already have more than enough. What gives?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:50 AM
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I mean there's a risk for everything in life. but that doesn't mean you can't minimize the risks in a responsible way. also, ever hear of abortions? I hear those work pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:36 AM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:34 AM
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I don't think educating women on safe sex is controlling anyone and I don't disagree with you on the political aspect. You made the foolish choice to have a child in lieu of another man's unintended consequences, on average. I'm presuming most births are accidental and not intended in general. Least for single parenthood, no? It's both you and the father's fault in this dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:20 AM
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Ah you're right. I meant have and want kids. thanks for the correction. need to elaborate that. are you childfree as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:16 AM
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Then I might as well not bother dating at all considering there's so few of us out there. Maybe the childless single people are not bothering dating because they also realize that the chances of finding another enlightened one are so slim?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:15 AM
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I live in Florida. It's virtually impossible to find a woman who doesn't want kids and marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:11 AM
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You can have sex and enjoy all of that w/o having kids. look up women's health and birth control. The more you educate women the less likely they are to have children. Educate them on the responsibilities of safe sex and more importantly educate them on the philosophical underpinnings of bringing life into this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:08 AM
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Where is your evidence that I'm in the extreme minority? And are you suggesting that I just not bother finding someone at all? You sound as if there's something wrong with me and not society.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:01 AM
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I am and I'm not that rare or uncommon. I'd venture 25-30% of men around my age are in the same ball park. don't have exact numbers, though. I just pulled those out of nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:54 AM
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but if your whole reason for not wanting them is to avoid the burden of having to take care of them, that’s going to telegraph self centered and irresponsibility to potential partners. Uh, no? I don't want the burden of taking care of children because I simply don't care for children. It has nothing to do with my ability to provide as a partner or a man. Also, most people just want kids because it’s a basic human desire to reproduce and build a legacy. It's not just a basic human desire it's als…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:52 AM
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I'm a 41-year-old child-free woman. I have never had an issue finding a child-free man. That's because you're a woman and not a man. I appreciate your empathy, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:30 AM
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I didn't know you can only have a family by having kids. This is news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:29 AM
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In this day in age, it's impossible to find a woman who doesn't have any kids that's over the age of 30. Which is extremely sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:24 AM
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Instead of making the moral and correct choice which is to not have kids and focus on your career or your partner, you end up making it worse by having kids. I don't mean you, personally, rather you as in a whole of single moms. Having children isn't worth it and most of your woes and troubles can stem directly from having kids and having an inability to make the relationship work. We don't want to play step daddy. We don't want children. We just want a loving partner. Well, the smart ones anywa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:22 AM
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You're right. I can't assume he is / was a douchebag all the time. I can only assume the fault is usually with the single mom because you seem to statistically have more single moms than single daddy's. That's my intuition so don't take my word for granted. I wouldn't be surprised if my intuitions were predicated on actual statistics, though. In any case, we're not even discussing marriage. We're talking about being parents which is not the same thing as being married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:46 AM
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Single moms made the erroneous decision to have children with a douchebag. They possess poor moral intuitions and lack self-worth and self-love over the choices they make overall. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. The same can be said with the douchebag father. But the douchebag father was charming / suave / socially aware enough to get it on with said mother. That alone shows he has some semblance of competence. Even if his competence lacks in the fatherhood department. I'd love to v…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:39 AM
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Actually women are far more willing to be with a single dad than men are to be with a single mom. This is fascinating. Do you have any evidence to back up this claim? I'm genuinely curious. The West is literally importing people who WILL outbreed you by the millions every year right now. There's more than one way to skin a cat and one way or another society as you know it will cease to exist at some point. Yes that's correct. But it doesn't mean it's what we ought to do as a society since the pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:35 AM
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This is the case for most worthwhile things in life. Having children is not worthwhile, though. It's neutral. Neither good nor bad. It just is. Most people want their own kids, not other people's kids. I agree. But you have to consider that men are more willing to put themselves in a position to get with a woman who already has them. Rather than the other way around. It shows she's had past desirability for the fact that she was chosen. Inversely, you can argue the same with the father. Man's na…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:25 AM
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No you aren't. And if you're truly all those things then the problem is most likely you and not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:08 AM
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typical bragging top percent redditor who doesn't encapsulate and empathize with the real struggles of the average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 03:50 AM
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With the amount of single moms either the women have terrible choice in men or the men have terrible choice in women. Regardless, women don't need men the way men need women. Women aren't tired of men. They're tired of having to put in effort since men are already tired and exhausted as it is trying to deal with them. Men have to put in so much more effort. Women have a lesser reason to be tired of men the way men are tired of women. Or least, their reasons are less sympathetic to the plights of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:57 AM
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Women don't need men the way men need women. It's really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:54 AM
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A relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 09:22 AM
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I feel the problem is that while you're absolutely correct in getting to know women IRL is the best way to go; the problem is that women don't want to be bothered by men IRL anymore. Women don't care about needing a man to support them emotionally or even financially. Look at the stats, most childless single women are happier than married women. and unmarried men are unhappier than married men. Men need women more than women need men and the whole 'sigma mindset' is a coping mechanism on both en…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:59 AM
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Apps are useless. I'm a homebody introvert. I've been hit on by women IRL and get glances at the grocery store. And I'm no young Brad Pitt. I made a tinder account with a profile pic of myself last year and got 5 likes in less than 5 minutes. Casual sex / hook up culture is not for me. Everyone on the apps wants kids / marriage. I don't want any of those so I suppose I could get laid if I wanted to I just choose not to since it's pointless. I wonder if its location based? I live in Tampa, FL and…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:53 AM
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Women are actually right because that's true. Most men don't have the luxury of choosing their partner unlike women who have all the options in the world. Some people are just constantly not lucky in finding someone. And it has nothing to do with how attractive they are, or how good personality they have, etc. Timing and execution is crucial to finding someone. Most men don't have this unless they're the top minority of insanely good looking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 02:25 AM
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Penalize higher income earners, then. don't most first worlders contribute most to climate change, resource consumption, environmental damage? I read something that you'd need 5.1 Earths if every person in the world lived as comfortably as someone from the USA. That's insane to me. I'm not intrinsically against having kids. I'm not an antinatalist. I just think we should be discouraging people from having them in the first world. and incentivizing on bringing third world kids into the first worl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:15 AM
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I can adapt it would just mean I'd have to change who I am as a person. Why would I do that? On sheer moral principle I refuse. Maybe we can try making the world more inclusive to other people like myself and just normies like you? Just like how we can help fight poverty, hunger, etc? And not accept starvation as a constant element on society?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:10 AM
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There are tons of introverted women who get out of their comfort zones and go out for the sole purpose of finding a potential partner. I doubt it and I would need to see evidence that suggests this is the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:06 AM
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I have a severe learning disability and cannot get a remote job. I am most certainly a victim. Not just myself but all those fellow non-normies who are simply not fitting into the mold of what society wants us to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:02 AM
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I feel dating is more in line with certain expectations and criteria you ought to have between one another based on your resume and whatnot. it comes across as rigid and dogmatic. without the natural sense of connection. alas, dating apps. you can get friends, or make connection via hobbies or interests, or values. but this is near impossible for the average introvert. but it works wonders for normies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:57 AM
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Then simply don't have kids? It's that simple. The risk is obviously not worth it in the long run. Society should be paying people to not have kids and penalize single moms for having them. We should also penalize low income parents who have more than two kids and force them to pay heavy taxes. Kids are terrible for the environment and contribute to climate change. Not to mention destroy ecosystems and wildlife. I'm no innocent little turd, either. But I'm not sociopathic enough to contribute to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:49 AM
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Firstly, I thought you have more younger women in the age 20-40 bracket than younger men. will correct myself if I'm wrong which I may very well be. I live in the US idk about Europe or elsewhere. edit: excuse me, I meant more younger men than younger women. Secondly, you can't really move since everything is expensive and not all of us have the luxury of moving. I have to live with my parents since I can't afford to live on my own. I only make 26k a year. Thirdly, none of those are really under…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:43 AM
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No, I am interested in a romantic relationship. I'm not interested in dating. There's a difference. And I don't care for any of those things, especially sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:38 AM
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I fail to see how being mature relates to this dilemma? I'm completely fine with doing things as long as I can see a reward with the risk. Unfortunately, as a man in today's world, the risk is higher than the reward itself. A main problem is that if you go out and do things you don't want to you're going to end up not finding like minded people who share similar values or personalities. Ie: homebody introvert types who I tend to vibe with. There's really nowhere to go when you're a homebody intr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:23 AM
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I wish I could get childless leave for not having any kids. It seems everywhere you go it's just single moms left and right. We should be getting paid to not have any kids considering how we have too many of them right now. Kids complicate relationships and not for the better. Women who are childless should be getting more financial privileges than women with children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:15 AM
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I don't want to date. I want to find connection with like minded people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:09 AM
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You can change who you are in order to attract someone. I love myself and don't want to change who I am as a person. Going out of your comfort zone only works if you're willing to change who you are in order to fit in with other people. I'm not a phony like that. I don't want to do that. I want a world where the world is suited at the behest for you and your values, interests, and genuine self. Unfortunately, we don't live in that world since extroverts dominate everywhere. Your ideas don't even…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:06 AM
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Progressing in relationships is a general marker for a well adjusted and healthy person. Good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:01 AM
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I have no friends. I'm not an extrovert. I don't want to do things or go out of my comfort zone with the small statistical chance of success. Dating is worthless, time consuming, emotionally draining, and devoid of all remnants of empathy. Everyone that has been in a relationship is a tarnished, cynical mess that either has kids or wants marriage. Neither are suitable for me and many childless men. I remain pure and untouched like the virgin snow. I'd rather try to survive skydiving with no para…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:56 AM
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Men outnumber women so your chances of finding available women IRL are no better than the apps. There really isn't a viable way to meet women aside from already having friends, coworkers, or being extroverted. Which not all of us have or are such.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:49 AM
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Dating apps don't work for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:47 AM
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There aren't any places to meet available women anywhere except the apps which are already bad for men to begin with. I don't drink. I don't like sports. I'm not into concerts so those are off the tables. The world is too extroverted oriented and not enough spaces for introverts to hang out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:46 AM
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That's because you're a woman and don't know how it is to use the apps as a man. Any woman can meet someone on apps. They can be introverted, live with their parents, work a dead end job. But as long as they're average or attractive enough they're good to go. As someone who is all of those things as a man I'm completely fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:37 AM
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Desperation. You have more men than women by a wide margin on those apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:33 AM
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" My relationships ended because we realized we had different life goals" That's called a failure. If you have different life goals you should've considered that before entering the relationship and remained in the courting phase. And if you loved each other well enough to bypass such future transgressions of changing life goals, then you stick together and reconcile growth with your respective paths. You both are still independent people who love one another. Completely ridiculous how you human…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:08 AM
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You're a small anecdote, though. I was thinking more of of evidence to the average. Also, you've had multiple relationships and presumably failed in them so depending on your success rate of keeping a relationship intact, it's not looking good on your end.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:59 AM
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I don't but like I said that's just my intuition. I wouldn't be surprised if there were any actual research that suggests this is the case. I haven't been ruined or tainted by the hardships of relationships unlike 99% of everyone here. So I can or at least try to look at things as objectively as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:56 AM
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A high body count might show you're not trustworthy in a monogamous relationship. I'd like some empirical research that can prove people with higher body counts tend to be less trustworthy in relationships than those with low body counts. Or are at a more emotional risk of relationship satisfaction. I wouldn't be surprised at all if this were the case. This is just my strong intuition telling me this is so. I have no evidence for this mind you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:52 AM
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I made a tinder account last year and posted a pic of myself and got 5 likes in less than 5 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:44 AM
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We're fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:36 PM
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Why did the one that almost lasted 10 years fail? Why do you people just give up relationships that last for so long? Unless there's cheating or abuse involved, I find it mind boggling why one would give up on a person for that amount of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:05 AM
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Men are usually if not always the initiators and are expected to do the heavy lifting in the introduction phase. Women's capabilities are far more lenient and more versatile than men's capabilities or capacity to provide for the household. This is unoriginal, common sensical thinking. Everyone knows this. I cannot get away being a homebody introvert, lives with my parents, and makes less than 26k a year. This is my life. No matter how many glances I get at the grocery store or in public, I'm fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:00 AM
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Do you mentally feel just as young as you did back when? I'm referring to your cognitive abilities, have they slowed down? Or do you still feel just as sharp today as your youth?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:56 AM
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Tall, white and good looking. And there it is, ladies and gentlemen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:16 AM
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Women can do anything they want and still get a guy. Women can be a homebody introverts, live with their parents, and work a dead end shit job. And as long as they're just average they can get any guy they want. Well, most guys, anyway. Depending on how attractive they are. You'll never get someone like me who actually fits in that criteria with an attractive woman. It doesn't matter how facially attractive I might be. Or how good my personality is, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:08 AM
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That's a different brand of marketing. They don't need that in order to get men. Men don't have a social media counterpart the way women do. I should elaborate that by saying women don't have to market themselves meaning they're already priceless products worth whatever men are willing to pay for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:52 AM
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You're an extremely rare minority report.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:29 AM
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Men generally have good social skills. Not having 'game' isn't synonymous with not being able to talk to women. We live in a world where dating apps and social media have ruined social engagement for both sides. I also feel men are tired of playing the game and just want to be themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:28 AM
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Women don't want to be cold approached since they have limitless choices on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:25 AM
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Most relationships happen by pure luck and happenstance. Extroverts are easier because they put themselves into positions with a higher semblance of luck involved. The reason why many of us men don't want to market ourselves is because being ourselves is the true form of the product we're selling. Women don't have to market themselves so why should us men? Are we really selling things, btw? Should we really treat each other like products and consumers? On a personal anecdote, I've cold approache…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:20 AM
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Maybe I don't want to try new ones because I'm happy with the ones I currently have now?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:43 PM
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Not so good. But at least I stick to who I am and remain my genuine self.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:41 PM
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You're never going to meet available women whether you're in a generic hobby or not. Unless you're outgoing and extroverted. So what difference does it make? Finding someone is like finding a golden leaf clover. Some people are just luckier than others. Its mostly luck based. Your anecdotes prove nothing to this reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:40 PM
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I respectfully disagree. While it's great to try new things and be open to new experiences I don't think that's for everyone. Some people just intuitively know they're a certain way or like certain things the way they are. Whether our intuitions are correct or not is irrelevant. It's like telling someone they might not be gay but straight - they should try dating women. You never know if you haven't tried it. I don't fall into that nonsense unless they've demonstrated intimate elements to sugges…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:46 AM
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I believe the ability to be open minded, well read, and have an interesting conversation makes you interesting. I don't believe having hobbies automatically makes you interesting. But this goes back to what makes something interesting for one person may be different for another. I know plenty of boring people who lack any imagination, creativity, or insight into anything that have a ton of hobbies. All they talk about is their hobbies. They can't reflect on anything nor are they well read on any…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:04 AM
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What's wrong with this line of thinking? Why can't I just be myself to meet someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 02:40 AM
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You can be attractive and still attract people who don't fit into your criteria of what most women want as attractive. Not everyone operates in this overly simplistic hierarchy. Even if most do. It helps and if you're willing to change who you are and be a phony and fake person by all means. But I'm not doing it because I have principles and standards. It’s not my universal traits, it’s evolutionary biology and sexual selection shaping behavior in primates across millions of years You can still …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 02:30 AM
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Do change yourself. Change your appearance, hobbies, personality and interests to become more sexually attractive I don't want to. I love myself. I love who I am and what I have to offer as a human being. I don't want to change who I am in order to find someone. If I have to change myself to fit in then that's the fault of everyone else. Not me. This is because women are extremely shallow just like men, and are attracted to a fairly universal set of traits in men across culture. That's nice. For…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 01:53 AM
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I have medical issues which explains this. In any case, I have been hit on by plenty of women in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 01:47 AM
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Some of us have hobbies that are neither feasible nor practical to meet women. Your espousing the most generic examples that aren't even all that successful to begin with. The problem is mainly society and the inability of people to make social connection in a world dominated by extroversion and dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 01:07 AM
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I don't think introverted men should change who they are in order to appeal to women. I have no interest in being outgoing or taking up things I have absolutely no interest in. If that makes me uninteresting and boring so be it. I'm content with being single and will continue to be based on my solitary interests and pursuits. I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not. Being someone else is a waste of time. Do not change who you are to fit in with people. I don't want to be a pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:58 AM
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volunteering doesn't work to meet women. in fact, you can't really meet women anywhere unless you're outgoing and extroverted with normal interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:41 AM
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I never understood this whole interesting vs uninteresting notion. What makes you interesting might make another person not so interesting, etc. Being interesting is about as vague as saying just work out or just dress nicely. It's a useless upbeat, positive message that holds no value to the variability of people's preferences. While you can slightly increase your chances of success by appealing to a wider group. Ie: outgoing, charismatic, charming, etc. You'd be doing yourself a disservice by …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:40 AM
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It's easier to be a female virgin than a male virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:37 AM
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Hobbies don't make you interesting. Getting out of your comfort zone usually doesn't work. Extroverts told us the biggest lie of humanity. Don't change who you are in order to fit in with other people or find connection. Be yourself. Trust your gut. Do your own thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:27 AM
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Who's side are you on?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 02:36 AM
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I was disagreeing with the other poster in that it doesn't matter if highly attractive women have more options or are more selective. I'm simply pointing out that women in general are highly selective and have more options more so than men. It's completely relevant to the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 02:25 AM
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Don't kid yourself. All women have more options than men whether they're bombshells or just bombs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:53 AM
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I feel women confuse desperation with enthusiasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 10:51 PM
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Sorry. I meant you need degrees or schooling to add onto your charismatic persona. like you can't just be charismatic or have leadership and expect a high paying job. in today's society you need some academic background.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:56 AM
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you need degrees / schools for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:43 AM
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I don't believe in ratings unless its the movies. but I've been hit on by women in the past and get smiles / glances at the grocery store. the problem is the single moms that show interest end up ghosting me every single time. I think I'm done with talking to girls cause I got nothing to back me up for it. All the skills I have are not suited for this type of society. Or if they are its the military but I'm too old for that and my brother is already proudly serving his country.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:12 AM
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Not necessarily weird but most people don't like engaging with others who aren't part of their circle. In the sense of actually wanting to get to know them. With the exception of maybe bars and clubs. But I don't drink or smoke so that's obviously out of the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:47 PM
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I can compete with other men just not in this society. If it's a hunter gatherer or survival based society then I'd probably succeed moreso than most, honestly. It's the type of society we live in that I'm unable to compete because it fosters money and intelligence over charisma, leadership, athleticism, brute force, etc. Not in all aspects but in a multitude and majority of domains.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:40 PM
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I'm not intelligent enough for school which brings down my job aspirations. I work as a security guard like a lot of men out there trying to keep it real. I never was in relationships because women never initiate / I was shy and there's nowhere to meet people with my same interests (video games, hanging out, watching TV). World is dominated by extroversion. Man is sunk into the depths of going out of his comfort zone to make his life feel more meaningless than it already is. We buy shit we don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:32 PM
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You do realize not everyone is cut out for school. This idea that school and learning is for everyone is just flat out ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:26 PM
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I'm not an incel. What I'm saying is that not all men are cut out for this type of society. I'm not one of these men. I'm not intelligent enough and no amount of motivational boost will change that. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:25 PM
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I mean I can provide just not in this type of society. If it were Hunter Gatherer or some survival type situation then I'd be better than most.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:21 AM
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from personal experience most are in their late teens / early 20s. mid-to late 20s seem to have the least amount of single moms. and then it boosts to single moms in 30s. but the rate of single moms is lower relative to the rate of late teens / early 20s moms. maybe it's different for your area.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:32 AM
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Women in that category are generally single moms. in the age range of late teens / early 20s. source: work in a hospital and have met countless of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:50 PM
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Bogus advice. Any man can go to a festival or go outside. It doesn't mean that everyone else already goes with their family, friends, etc. Do you know how weird it would be to just walk up to people and start a convo. Everyone is so closed off these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:38 PM
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There's literally nowhere to earn more than 31k a year (this is how much I make before taxes / expenses) w/o a college degree or school. I've searched far and beyond the depths of the Internet for my location. All I get are bullshit service jobs that make similar if not slightly lower. I can live comfortably at home w/o worrying about expenses so why are women not okay with a man who lives comfortably at home? Yes, living with parents is an inconvenience for them. But it shouldn't have to be. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:35 PM
1

It saves more money living with your parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:20 PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Savant_syndrome
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:16 PM
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What if the person is waiting for that experience but with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:39 AM
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what if he's living at home to save his money? since living alone is too expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:26 AM
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Oh I'm not saying I've got it worse than most people, I'm just saying I'm in a bad situation. It's not as bad as all those people you've described. As far as dating/relationships are concerned everyone has made it abundantly clear that unless I amp up my status game I'm fucked. I think there's a threshold of badness as far as where your life is for dating/relationships. Those friends with their douche parents cutting them out they're probably in the same dating spot as me, if not better. Despite…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:18 AM
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So every introvert's solution is to be as adventurous and exciting as possible for women if they don't make enough money?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:10 AM
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I'm in a horrible situation. wat the fuck are you on about? Guys that live with their parents are worthless in the eyes of women. Much less some incredibly stupid security guard with a giant heart but a brain the size of a shrimp. coupled with some super rare neurological powers of calculation. Be blessed you were born normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:01 AM
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If I could get a decent paying job that's within my realistic reach I'd take it in an instant. I've tried to search with no avail on the webs and have gotten nothing. Not all of us are lucky and fortunate like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:27 AM
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I have an old HS friend in my hometown who I speak to from time to time. I have no IRL friends. There's nowhere to meet people around my age, including work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:25 AM
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Your post sounds like it's biased to be extroverted and outgoing. This is something that I'm not. I'm happy being introverted and having hobbies that make me satisfied in life. By your life history you sound incredibly ambitious. I don't want life to be an adventure. I can still be interesting and not adventurous or outgoing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:24 AM
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Then who's fault is it? I didn't ask to be of very below average intelligence. I didn't ask to be a Savant. I didn't ask to require decent paying jobs that require school / degrees. I didn't ask to be put in a shitty job situation. I'm not saying I haven't made bad choices or I lack my own choices. I'm just saying you can't put the blame entirely on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:18 AM
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There's nowhere to meet people when you're an introvert. Dating apps are trash and haven't even worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:11 AM
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I can't do anything else because the job horizons are low and there's not much you can do w/o school which I'm unable to do. I'd love to make more money but it's just not feasible with what I have to offer. I'm not smart, resourceful, etc. I'm not what people have to be these days. Does that mean I'm lazy or unmotivated? Not necessarily. Could I be lazy and unmotivated by virtue of my depression or below average intelligence. Possible. The point is women need to be more empathetic and understand…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:05 AM
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By living with my parents I'm supporting them which I do. It's too expensive to live out on your own. Whether you're a man or a woman. There's nothing wrong with living with your parents if you can't afford a place of your own. Sure there's a correlation between laziness / lack of motivation and living with parents. But it's not always the reason. You can't be prejudicial in the aspect of accepting that some of us are doing this as a strategic move to save money / help finances. I'd love to live…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:46 AM
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How about we accept that living with your parents is completely okay and as long as both are working, finances are fine, then it doesn't matter. Why the fuck is there such a huge stigma against us men living with our parents? Everything is too expensive. And many of us are not smart enough to get a higher paying job to afford our own place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:31 AM
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Okay. So I have money but it's not as much as the woman also providing. Why can women be at home but not the man? Or why can't a dumbass motherfucker like me work a crappy security job because I'm mentally unequipped for higher paying work. But no, us men are 'lazy and unmotivated' to move out of our parents because rent, and all those things you mentioned are too fucking expensive. I'm not saying all women act like this but a lot in Western society do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:28 AM
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I said I have no motivation for a high paying job. Or if I didn't say that then I apologize and meant that. I can't find any decent paying jobs that require no degree / college / schools. I just want to work a decent paying job like everyone 100 years ago did straight out of high school. And be able to afford a family. Although I don't want children the point still stands. Women need to accept that women can make more than a man and man doesn't need to be ambitious to be worthy of a partner. Thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:25 AM
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I inherit the house. But that's completely irrelevant. The point is a man who wants to be a 'housewife' should be more open and acceptable because not every fucking man needs a high paying job or career. Or in my case is even intellectually equipped to get such high paying careers What are your abilities? There’s always a better way to make money than to wage slave. Rapid mental calculation. I can auto-calculate infinite sums of numbers by division / multiplying, etc. Say a million numbers multi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:13 AM
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It shouldn't have to be which is henceforth the question / topic of discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:08 AM
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I don't want / desire children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:08 AM
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I think it's women's failure for not accepting that they've spent most of their history as housewives. And now want to play strong independent female. But wont let the man be the 'housewife' of the household. Yet when a man has his own limitations and cannot get a higher paying job due to mental illness, or disability, etc. like myself they now want to over attenuate their necessity for a ambitious, unrealistic goal type of man. Men shouldn't be judged by their career or jobs, but by their chara…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:04 AM
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That's not true most of us don't make a lot of money. That's because most are autistic and inept. And I can't make money off of my powers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:00 AM
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Well that's my problem. Western society or western women in particular seem extremely flawed in that regard. I can't find anyone around me that can accept me for lacking ambition and living simply put with no stresses of work, career, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:53 AM
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Why is ambition so important for women? I'm not saying w/o ambition we wouldn't be at the places we're at now. But why is it such a big motivator to get with a man? Why can't a woman just like a chill, laid back person who has no ambition and is comfortable with where he stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:50 AM
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It’s stressful, impacts quality of life including health, and is a leading cause of relationship breakdown because of above issues. I think what you're describing is modern society. Not necessarily low income. Studies show that many poor people have a high level of well-being and happiness throughout the world. Despite their financial setbacks and hardship. Especially those living in hunter gatherer societies, or the one's still existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:48 AM
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Why did it end?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:38 AM
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I can't make money with my gifts. That's the thing. They're worthless. Unfortunately 24k is well Below average and will damped a young family or even a couple. Then what else am I supposed to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:16 AM
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Dating apps don't work for the average man. You have a better chance surviving the post-apocalypse than getting a match. Meet women IRL. Organic produce is superior to artificial preservatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:13 AM
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Not smart enough for school. I have an atrocious memory which is further dampened by severe depression. The only skills I have are writing and my savant powers. I'm also a very kind hearted, loyal, and empathetic person who has been shielded by the toxicity of modern dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:10 AM
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I know man. I appreciate the empathy. But there's just not much else I can do. Life sucks when you're born stupid and not intellectually gifted or at least average intelligence. All you're left is scraps and breadcrumbs. I think I'll be okay in the end. I hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:09 AM
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I save my money and I can't think of anything else to improve my situation. Not smart enough for school. And renting with no roommate or partner is complete bonkers on my salary. I'd love to meet a partner where we can move in together and I can get some emotional encouragement to better my situation. But I'm plagued with bad luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:00 AM
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I would if I could make more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:51 AM
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I live with my parents because I can't afford to live on my own at 24k a year. I find that highly disparaging and callous. I am still otherwise a good catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:02 AM
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Nothing wrong with living with your parents or family. It's very normal outside of the US/UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 06:38 AM
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I make 24k a year and live with my parents. Does that mean I'm fucked?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:17 AM
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Can someone explain why there are more men than women on dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:35 AM
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There isn't anywhere to meet people. The places to meet people are in the places you don't match the same energy levels. For instance, I'm not a drinker / smoker. I don't like bars. I don't like traveling and prefer being at home or in one place to chill. I'm a low energy, chill person. I like socializing but most people out there are extroverts. There isn't anyplace to connect with people that match your energy levels. This whole world is extroverted dominated it's insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:09 AM
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There's nowhere to meet people if your hobbies and passions are just gaming, reading, and hanging out at home. Also, I feel that another major problem is a lack of values. To find people to connect with who share the same values is far deeper and harder to attain than finding people to share a hobby together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:08 AM
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I make 24k a year and live with my parents and I can't seem to find a woman. I don't care if a woman makes more money or is more financially successful than me. I want to be with them because I like them. But to them it seems to matter quite a lot for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:06 AM
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I want the government to create a place where people can meet other people more easily. And not these separated spaces of extroverts doing their own things with little room for introverts to feel comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:39 AM
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They really don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:34 AM
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No but I'd venture a very large portion of people, both introverts and extroverts, enjoy video games. And I'd bet my money that a good portion of us would go to Arcades if they did exist to meet other likeminded people. The problem is there aren't any real life venues where people can play like going to a bar, a concert, a stadium, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:32 AM
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The problem is you're falsely conflating social awkwardness with having a disinterest with extroverted activities. I have good social skills and I despise sports and bars as I don't drink or smoke. There aren't any places to meet low key, chill, laid back people who prefer smaller groups or activities like gaming or watching TV / movies. I'm not an outgoing person but I still want to have connection with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:30 AM
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Yes, you must do extroverted things if you wish to meet people which is an extroverted activity. Your hope would be meeting another introvert who is doing this so you can then retreat together provided you're both amenable to that situation. This is wrong and I refuse on moral principle to change who I am as a person to cater to the majority and what they expect or want from me. I would rather die alone than change what I love about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:27 AM
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So here and we have the problem as to how we get society to be more of an equal playing field when it comes to introverts and dating? How do we foster a form of connection for introverts to easier or more comfortably access w/o the toxicity of dating apps? I don't know any introverted activities although I'd say gaming? Maybe writing?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:25 AM
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You're not most people, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:21 AM
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It works for you because you're not most men. Where do you think most people meet their friends they make after college? Nowhere. Work, at the least. So you think people who aren't charismatic or outgoing don't have friends? That's pretty much half of society. They do. Do you REALLY think, that you being a virgin at 31, something that applies to <1% of men, having had no relationships, and no (?) current friends is because the world just changed? YOU are the extreme outlier in a world where peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:08 AM
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Dating and relationships are not just extroverted activities. You can find fulfillment and connection w/o doing sports or going out all the time and trying new things. The problem is that you think introverts don't enjoy social interaction and this is wrong on so many levels. We thrive on social interaction and connection. We just do it with other people who share our similar energy levels or at our own personal expense of smaller group circles. Society doesn't have that because even these clubs…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:04 AM
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So you're suggesting instead of making the world fairer for introverts in connection and social interaction (in the real world) we should be forced to adapt to an extrovert-dominated world? I have to do things I actively don't enjoy just to take the risk of meeting other extroverts who don't share the same energy levels as me?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:59 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:57 PM
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Pretty much. But not just me also fellow introverted gamers as well. We still make a large portion of the population. Advertise it and set it up at large festivals or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:56 PM
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Pretty much. Not everyone is an extrovert or should be catered toward extroverted activities to connect and meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:55 PM
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I wish they had that where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:54 PM
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I don't care for dancing. Why do I have to do shit I don't want to do to meet people?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:53 PM
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Government has a responsibility to provide resources to its citizens to fulfill their emotional needs. Ie: community centers aimed and advertised for single people and introverts. That's all you need. Everyone in my age range is already taken and already has their friends / social circles set up from college and work. Nobody is interested in meeting other people these days. Doing extroverted things as an introvert should not be the way to approach social connection. People should have sources to…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:43 AM
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Online dating doesn't work. Nobody is meeting friends in public places or bars or clubs, or at least the majority. Besides, I don't drink or smoke. Most of your social circles and friends have solidified in college / school or at work. You have to be charismatic and outgoing to gain friends doing activities that you don't like to do to meet people. Not all of us are A. extroverted / outgoing or B. charismatic. Not everyone is fortunate like you to have a strong social base and environment where …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:31 AM
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No money or resources. It'd be nice to just go to a place to play video games and meet people or single women who are also into gaming. But these places don't exist IRL, sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:28 AM
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I do. I go to the grocery store a lot and go swimming when I'm off of work. Nowhere to make friends or meet single women in your 30s. I don't drink or smoke so bars are obviously out of the question. I like video games but there are no video game groups in the Tampa area. I dislike sports so sports are out of the question. I guess this leaves volunteering but volunteering for the purpose of finding a girl just doesn't sound moral to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:23 AM
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I think it's worth a shot because it's unfalsifiable / hasn't been done. It may or may not work but clearly the alternative we have now isn't working.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:37 AM
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How am I a troll? If the government literally advertises or creates a big cookout or whatever with the big slogan of 'single people come here!' or 'lonely people this way!'. That's going to get far more publicity and popularity than these smaller groups or clubs or whatever. Which would have far less people and less publicity / inclination to get other people. I'd probably make the national and local news. Are you kidding me?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:23 AM
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And yet none of them are even as efficient as my own suggestion of getting the gov't to do it for us. Bring in the government to help us out. Gov't got money. Gov't got advertising. Gov't got us all by the balls. I'm just a small fry compared to what the gov't can do / is capable of.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:15 AM
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Why don't you arrange a BBQ? Or a LAN party? Or book a movie viewing of whatever movie you like? Advertise those as single mingles. Ah, but that requires effort. Not only does it require effort. It requires time, money, resources. The gov't has more of this than just a single man. Also, the government does a better job advertising than a single person. Like I said, look up community centers, those are funded by the government. Plenty of old, lonely people have found groups of friends in those. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:12 AM
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Lots of groups with focus on movies or video games. This is wrong on just so many levels it's laughable. Maybe where you live but not where I or thousands of other people live.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:01 AM
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If you're seriously using that (mostly) bogus website as a counter to my gov't proposal as a solution then you clearly haven't been paying attention entirely or are oblivious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:59 AM
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On the internet. Not in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:57 AM
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You form a connection based on talking to people and socializing. You don't need hobbies to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:55 AM
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I never said I wasn't willing to participate but there's no means to participate with the current social climate. The gov't doesn't supply single meetings or large cookouts for the sole purpose of connecting the community. None of these things exist, dude. At least not on the scale of a large public gathering or rally where we're all connected with each other like in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:48 AM
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Because it's not advertised for the sole purpose of connection. That makes a HUGE difference in both the outlook and outcome. There are countless stories of people attending these things where it ends up leading nowhere but further loneliness. Joining groups you don't actively enjoy just to potentially meet people is a high risk of loss and a strong but small probability of reward outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:46 AM
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I was using the BBQ / arcades as examples of how the gov't could bring the community together. With the advertising label of 'meet single people here!'. Of course I have a personal bias towards it as I enjoy eating and gaming. But that doesn't mean the theory itself isn't sound. you don't want to go to places where you might find likeminded people who share your interest because there's no available pussy/they might not want to make new friends, but the government should somehow, magically, crea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:42 AM
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I don't know because everyone is different. But I still feel that everyone has a desire to find connection. If you label something and encourage people to actively go out with these sponsored programs with the advertised purpose of meeting people, perhaps this could be a chance to break ground. We simply don't know if introverts wouldn't be willing or not because like I said such a feat has not been attempted by our gov't. Maybe you need something with its sole purpose is to help you get up your…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:35 AM
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Video games. These communities don't exist where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:32 AM
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I expect the government to provide to help single people or lonely people who are in need of aid and resources. Much like we expect the government to help victims in big natural disasters. Or those suffering from mental health or drug addiction. I agree that it takes voluntary commitment as an individual to get up your ass and do something. but it also takes the correct resources to make that person encouraged to use the resources to act. We don't have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:25 AM
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I don't know what introverts enjoyed or didn't enjoy back then but what I do know is that creating a space and labeling it as 'meet single people here' is a good start to encourage them to get out. Such a gigantic, communal scale hasn't been attempted in such a direct means of advertisement so it's unfalsifiable to say that it wouldn't work for introverts. Dating apps are obviously bogus and aren't even remotely the same thing so and we're not going to go there. I guess an appropriate avenue wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:21 AM
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So go out and socialize. I do. But it leads nowhere because no one wants to make friends post-college or make friends with someone you've just made small talk with at a grocery store. There's no moral failing in not catering to people who need to be provided a pony and a lollipop to be convinced to go out and meet people. Your social life is your responsibility, be an adult and take matters into your own hands. Then give us the tools to assist us in our journey in finding connection. Not just te…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:16 AM
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It isn't society's obligation to help you find a mate. I strongly disagree. It may not be a right to force everyone to be in a relationship to be happy. You can't regulate relationships via the gov't. But it is definitely a moral obligation to keep its citizens emotionally happy and not lonely via giving the means, resources, and tools to see to it that we use it in such a way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:58 AM
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My hobbies aren't solitary. I like video games, watching TV / movies, and hanging out and socializing. If there aren't enough people who wish to engage in your hobbies, you will have difficulty finding friends and romantic partners. You're describing the problem not solving it. If you refuse to engage in activities that would allow you to meet more people, you're going to remain struggling to find people to socialize with. This is where we meet the moral failure of unable to have society be incl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:56 AM
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They um do have those things already. Parades, cultural festivals (yes, some include barbecue), actual chicken bbqs, all government sponsored and often at least partially run. And often well attended by all sorts. Where do they have these because living in Florida since summer 2021 I haven't heard a single one of these big government community festivals? Also, the problem isn't just the funding but the association or semantics of the activity. You need to advertise it and actively label it as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:52 AM
1

About your first paragraph, I hear a lot that doing these things ends up being unfullillng because you're not doing them out of genuine interest but for the sole purpose of finding women. So when your hopes are laid to rest you end up feeling like you've wasted your time for nothing. In contrast to 99% of our history in the pre-industrial era, we had more time to do the things we wanted to do and it was easier to just meet people w/o needing to use these mediums to socialize or connect. We need …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:38 AM
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If you want government run clubs for mostly singles, you can always do teach for America, Americore, or the Peace Core. What does the Peace Core and all that have to do with the government actively fighting the loneliness epidemic, the imbalance of extroverts over introverts, and the overall failure of modern dating? No, but really, what do you think these communities would look like if they do not include sports, hobbies, volunteerism, etc.? People in the community getting to know each other. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:25 AM
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That's not being based that's being an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:46 AM
2

All Middle aged and boomers. I'm a security guard.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:06 PM
6

Yeah man. Their kids will always be first in line and you'll always be second best. I am childless and desire someone who's childless like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:31 AM
4

I don't want children and don't want to be with someone who has children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:15 AM
2

They say doing activities for the purpose of finding women is a bad idea. Not to mention expensive if you aren't getting any returns and are just wasting time going there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:44 AM
6

My ideal is to date a woman with no children or doesn't want children, yes. But the vast majority of women want children, sadly. My options are highly limited. Some men say that they feel like a genetic dead end or like women are breeding them out of the gene pool, do you feel this way or does it not matter to you? I don't carry my self-worth based off my genetic lineage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:13 AM
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I don't want children. I have no desire for children or to help raise someone else's child.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:53 AM
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How can I get someone in my age group when everyone in my age group is already taken or a single mama with kids? You're not leaving me a lot of wiggle room here, ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:57 AM
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This is the problem with modern dating is that it only caters to extroverts. I don't like sports, concerts, bars, festivals. Where do I find a low activity woman fellow introvert like me who just likes to watch TV, surf the web, hang out and chill, and play video games all day?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:09 AM
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A few years with 500 matches as an average man? lmao In your dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:07 AM
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I'd rather just be datable and find someone I find attractive datable. Apparently for a lot of us men it just never ends up happening. Interesting that you're asking this question toward men and not women. Women have endless options so even if the woman wasn't a preference for most men men would still take them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:04 AM
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than overly masculine although I am 6’3 And there you go. There's your answer. Also, masculinity has nothing to do with height. Also, you have to consider those that are in for a relationship and those who just want casual sex. I have standards and self-decency so I'm looking for the former and not the latter. Although everything else you say is interesting. All the attractive ones are taken. Like all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:02 AM
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We know through years of research that promiscuity and casual sex / hook up culture are all intimately related. And we know that promiscuity and casual sex is linked to increased divorce rates and marital dissatisfaction. It's no surprise that a high body count, while not intrinsically bad, is generally indicative of more deep personalized issues going on. It's the same with someone like me who has no body count. It's not inherently bad but it shows that there is probably something wrong or inco…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:57 AM
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They mostly exist on universities / colleges. I finished college already. Everyone in my age range is either taken or single but with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:52 AM
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You're in the top 1% of looks. There's no way even an above average person is clocking 500+ matches. I live in Tampa, FL and I've only gotten one match for a whole year. I've been hit on by a lot of women IRL in public places and I'm not even good looking / just average. I just have high confidence and naturally humorous so my aura takes over my average appearance. You can't detect auras on a dating app as opposed to photos. Dating apps are utter garbage and don't work for 99% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:38 AM
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Universities are filled with college kids in the late teens / early 20s range. Try being in your 30s and looking for single women in their 30s with no kids. I'm a childfree gentleman looking for a woman with no children. Living in Tampa out of all places. I'm shit fried out of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:35 AM
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Even if you're attractive dating apps are a waste of time. Source: have been hit on by multiple women IRL who I'm not attracted to at all. I used to get hit on by nurses when I worked as a security guard for a medical office building. But I wasn't into any of them and some were single mamas so I backed off. You can't meet single women IRL anyway (at least in the 30s range) so I don't even bother going out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:33 AM
1

There's nowhere to go. all I like to do is watch TV, surf the web, hang out / socialize, and play video games. I'm an introvert. Not interested in concerts or sports. Surely there are low activity introverted women out there just like me? But where to meet them? Also, dating apps are complete trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:12 AM
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I don't care about experience. I care about chemistry. Experience is irrelevant as far as that is concerned. There's nowhere to meet single women in their 20s once you're out of college.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:05 AM
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Owning a home and traveling are too expensive for some of us who only make 24k a year and have to live at home with their parents. I'm a Savant with a college degree and I'm worth peanuts to both society and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:27 AM
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I'm in my early 30s and everyone in my age group is already taken. The only one's that are single are kids in their late teens / early 20s or divorced middle aged people in their 40s. Being single in your 30s seems to be a rarity to behold.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:24 AM
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Not really. I've been hit on women multiple times in the past. I have medical reasons to which I can't really have sex. That's pretty much the only reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 05:22 AM
2

nope
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 04:50 AM
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I've been hit on by single mothers who just want to use me for sex and I decline each time. Not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:36 PM
15

Your height is in the 96-97% tile in 99% of countries and you're built like a rake. Leave the guy alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:55 PM
1

Could you fall in love with Hans Gruber if he took you hostage?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:48 PM
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But what if I don't want to be a father? What if I don't want children? You don't know how many single mothers have asked me for free sex to which I politely decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:38 PM
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Why do you guys have to make things so complicated? If a man likes a woman and vice-versa then you date them and if there's good vibes and compatability then have a happy life together. It's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:10 PM
1

It's very hard when you're making 24k a year and living with your parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:03 PM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:03 AM
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I live with my parents. Finished college.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:23 AM
1

I agree. I never said I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:46 PM
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I might fall into number 2 but apparently standards are so low these days that it's hard to find me my female counterpart.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:43 PM
10

I refuse on principle to date a woman who has had casual sex. Judging from all these posts the women who do it aren't worth dating, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:38 PM
0

Video games, watching TV, hanging out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:13 PM
3

I'm an atheist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:45 AM
1

Condoms don't completely prevent STD's as far as my knowledge is concerned. if you're good looking many of the girls you will have casual with wont have had many partners. You usually get them when they just broke up with their long term boyfriend. This sounds interesting. Are there scientific papers that suggest this to be true? In any case, why would a woman who's just gotten out of an LTR decide to go casual? Does this reduce hope for guys like me who have standards and want a woman who doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:23 AM
1

Playing video games and watching movies aren't only solitary. I can't find anywhere to meet and socialize people with these things. You can do it with sports, hiking, concerts, etc. but there's nowhere to meet people who just want to chill at someone's house and play games or hang out. Everything is outside dominated. Especially down here in Florida.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:08 AM
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Why people have casual sex with the high risk of STD's is beyond me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:02 AM
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I like video games, TV / movies, and hanging out. We need more indoor fun less outdoor fun for meeting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:45 AM
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I don't agree that some of us don't want to go outside. It's that there's no outlet to meet other people except unappealing places like pubs or hobby groups which don't cater to their hobby groups. We need a space like the Internet where the gov't can create or sponsor social groups to alleviate loneliness in people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:57 AM
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I like video games. Video games are mainstream. The fact that I can't find a place to meet other gamers and just game at some Arcade is a sign that society needs to do better with creating communities to create connection. Video games are just a small example based on my personal anecdote. Society doesn't need to provide me with arcades. What it needs is to provide resources to create communities into gathering together to allow people to do these things to begin with. This is what the Internet …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:21 AM
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But your problem is largely personal. If introverted people wanted to meet like-minded people at board game meet-ups, LARP events, book clubs etc., they could easily organize that themselves. There is no grand societal issue preventing these people from connecting to people in their preferred way. And yet, people are still lonely and want friends and people to share their experiences with them. Why is this? The problem is that there's no feasible way to create the social space because that requi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:46 AM
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The problem is that there are no interest groups that cater to some of our interests in the real world. It only exists on the internet. I can't go to an Arcade or some game center and play video games with a bunch of guys. None of that exists at least where I live in Tampa, FL.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:41 AM
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I suppose that's a fair point on a personal level but it still doesn't address my main problems which are at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:38 AM
2

Because taking precedence over familiarity should be a baseline of comfortability as opposed to taking risks with the potential damage of not getting a return in your emotional / social investment. It's healthy to do things you haven't done before, to try new things. But at your own expense w/o risking the risk of damage to your personhood or self-image. It also doesn't address the fact that we need more ways to get outliers to feel comfortable in their own skin in the real world. That's what th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:34 AM
2

Well yeah that's obviously true but it shouldn't be for everything in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:25 AM
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It's not an excuse it's just realism. If you think creating meetup groups is the solution to loneliness then either you aren't in the same position I'm in or you just lack introspection on how many layers this shit digs deeper. There's a difference between being introverted and finding a suitable space to meet people w/o the toxicity of dating apps. Or doing activities you don't like to do in order to accommodate society.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:21 AM
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We would put in work if we had the materials to reap the fruits of our labor. There is no more connection in modern society.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:18 AM
1

The problem is there's nowhere to socialize or connect for everyone which is the main crux of my original post. Forcing someone to do something they don't like or feel comfortable doesn't solve the problem. You're essentially telling them that the reason why you're lonely is because there is something wrong with them. Sucking it up doesn't solve anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:16 AM
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I never said I'm outgoing in the extroverted sense. I just like talking to people. But there should be places in real life that allow us to cater to our hobbies (gaming, TV / movies) in order to do these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:10 AM
1

Being an introvert is now considered special needs? Shouldn't the purpose of curbing loneliness is to address common ground between everyone on all ends of the spectrum?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:50 AM
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I don't think hosting an event would solve anything if people aren't going to join it. It also requires a base concept that would be popular enough for people to join it. I do appreciate the responses but they don't seem to shed light as to how we can fundamentally change society to make it more inclusive to lonely or introverted people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:48 AM
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I can't move because I'm not in a financial position to move. Nor can plenty of other people in similar situations as me, both men and women alike. Moving doesn't solve the problems, either. If people move it just re-shifts the direction of new lonely people into a new land like Lost in Translation with Bill Murray and Scarlet Johansson. What a needlessly callous response.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:45 AM
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I believe they are but its the extroverts who are doing it. The problem is we need to redefine ways to get outliers to meet other people in ways that are comfortable for both us and them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:44 AM
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Aren’t there video games conventions and science symposiums etc that people go to? Not where I live. I imagine that one could find like minded people at lectures at the local community college or event space. Absolutely true. But the window for friends and finding a partner seems the greatest in your college years. For us in our 30s who have no experience or friends, this is not gonna look good. Environmentalists could join local stream cleanup groups/projects. Most towns have astronomy clubs. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:30 AM
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I don't really have niche interests. I just like socializing and talking to people. The problem is all the activities that get you to do that (sports, bars, hiking, traveling, concerts, etc) I absolutely do not care for. I'd rather get together at a house party or play video games with people. Or watch some TV or a movie and have fun with it together. But you can't find anyone who's chill enough to do that because everyone in real life has their social circles already preset or they're extrovert…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:25 AM
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Plenty of people enjoy talking about those things. But usually discuss about them in a "third place" such as a bar. I've been to bars and no they don't. The women at bars are usually taken and the guys are like middle aged dudes with their already social circles. It also doesn't help that I don't drink or smoke. Then why don't you host a community event? Go on to meetup.com with a particular interest you have in mind and see who comes? I don't know why people keep using that site as a barometer …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:19 AM
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I meant anymore as in a means to socialize and connect pre-social media / Internet. Not specifically talking about that part (games, TV, science topics). Although, I do think the specialization of communities on the Internet is something that needs to be seen more in real life. We should be shifting gears from Internet subcultures / interests into the real world. Minus the toxic ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:12 AM
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What if you already have confidence like myself but have no avenues to pursue healthy socialization in both a romantic and friendship context? mental health can be a good contributor to loneliness, there are other factors involved too. Some are beyond our control. Like your environment, luck, unconventional hobbies or interests, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:10 AM
2

How is it mostly a mental health issue? Could you care to elaborate. Genuinely curious on your thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:57 AM
4

Thanks for the optimism, bro. Maybe I do have untapped potential within me that is just waiting to get released.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:55 AM
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The problem isn't asking for people to be delivered to us like a service. The problem is that society's service is catered exclusively toward extroverts and extroverted activities. Outliers shouldn't have to do things they don't feel comfortable with in order to meet other people. This is also not a extrovert vs introvert battle. I love everyone of all kinds. But rather, there needs to be a means to get society to adjust people's openness on a scale where everyone can find a means to socialize a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:44 AM
6

I'm not even dating since I can't even find anyone to date. But thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:40 AM
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If someone's traits and interests are so unique and inaccessible to a great number of potential mates then they obviously do not prioritize cultivating a social life. I like video games, watching TV / movies, science, and socializing and discussing about the former three. I don't think there's any community outlet where I can meet other people that openly like to do that out in the world. Or maybe there is? I have forced myself to nightclubs which I hate just to hang out with friends. Sometimes …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:39 AM
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There's nowhere to meet anyone in the real world. When I mean meet people I mean actually talk to single women or people that you vibe with that is into the same shit that you're into. There are no community dances or board game events to go to. At least to the extent of several hundreds if not thousands of attendees meeting others at once. And when people do go they're usually taken or are already interwoven in their own social circles. Why should we have to do things we don't like in order to …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:36 AM
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I disagree. I don't care for casual sex and I can't have sex so willingly even if I was offered it in the past on numerous occasions by shady women. I have far more self-respect than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:32 AM
1

Do you watch porn and/or jerk it? No. I'm not an asexual, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:22 AM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 11:01 PM
3

Correct. Although that case study says the patient was dealing with low T. I have high testosterone levels. So I don't know how effective it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:57 PM
2

Can someone explain to me how to meet women who enjoy playing video games? I don't like to do outdoor hobbies like hiking, traveling, sports, etc. I just like to play games and watch TV and just chill out like talk about whatever. That's it. Where do I find super chill, low activity women who are just like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:47 PM
6

Can you explain to me where are you finding women to pursue? I've tried dating apps and they run bone dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:45 PM
4

Post orgasmic illness syndrome. Rare autoimmune disorder involving ejaculation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:38 PM
1

I believe both. https://www.reddit.com/r/Testosterone/comments/15v1hxm/why_do_i_have_elevated_testosterone/
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:37 PM
1

I have high testosterone and a low libido. But this is unsurprising given I've never had sex before.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:30 PM
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What women? I can't even find a date let alone women to talk to in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:29 PM
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I'm a 31 year old virgin who's never been in a relationship. I'm not ugly, autistic and have good social skills and people are very friendly to my presence. My reasons are strictly due to medical problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:12 PM
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I'm a 31 year old virgin strictly due to medical reasons. I've also never been in a relationship due to medical reasons. It's not all about religiousness or being asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:11 PM
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