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This has to be a joke. Most people don't even have degrees lol. You guys are both highly educated and hardly represent the average person. Also having kids is pointless and bad for the environment. but it's hard to meet women that are also childfree. I live with my parents and earn 17 an hour as a security guard. Most women my age want kids and make more than me. Completely delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 04:32 AM
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The only way to successfully meet women is in person and not through dating apps. The sad part is as a homebody introvert it's near impossible to find someone in your age range that's viable for dating. Especially when your only interests are internet and lounging. I can't stand the apps. They've ruined dating. They've made everyone ambitious and all these hobbies and activities that it's nauseating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:11 AM
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I think the main flaw with apps is that I personally cannot measure someone's attractiveness purely through a photo. There are women who I found extremely attractive IRL but when I see their photos on FB they do nothing for me. They just look whatever. I need to see their aura, mannerisms, voice, facial expressions, etc. Ironically I'm a homebody introvert and I despise socializing and being outgoing. But I'm naturally extremely good at connecting and making conversation with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:06 PM
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I don't want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:23 PM
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explain how I lost my chance for anything long term?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:13 PM
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I feel alot of us men are lonely is because not all of us are outgoing people who enjoy social circles or friends. I just want a partner who spends time with me at home. Friends are exhausting. Socializing is exhausting. Outgoing hobbies are exhausting. I'm good at it but it's just annoying. A romantic partner and family I have infinite energy for.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:32 AM
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I take it I'm the only virgin here in their 30s or older. I feel like being a virgin is a blessing in disguise because I'm a homebody introvert and people with outgoing hobbies and social circles are completely exhausting. Even if I didn't have medical issues which discourage me from sexual activity I still would have issues finding women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:30 AM
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I'm an attractive virgin and I'm a virgin because I have a rare condition where I get sick from ejaculation. I've been hit on plenty of times by women and am good at charming them. I've accepted my fate that I will die alone with no one else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:28 AM
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Like never. There's nowhere to meet anyone as a homebody introvert. Most people have hobbies and activities. People who just like to chill and don't do anything or lounge around are the one's I'm into. All my friends from middle school were just like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 01:29 PM
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I'm romantic and sexual it's just there's nowhere to meet women when you have no hobbies or interests. Or I should say when your hobbies or interests are solo in nature. I'm not interested in sports, bars, concerts, volunteering, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:19 PM
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Video games and music are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:17 PM
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I live in Florida and dating is atrocious here. 99% of women want kids. Such a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:10 PM
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Dating apps ruined dating. Dating would be better w/o dating apps and social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:05 PM
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The study does not show that and stop talking out of your ass. I found that taller people may have short-term increased T levels post-exercise. but that's about it. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/345821241_A_positive_relationship_between_body_height_and_the_testosterone_response_to_physical_exercise#:~:text=Recently%2C%20Kowal%20et%20al.,... ... Recently, Kowal et al. (2021) [34] reported a positive correlation between height and testosterone levels after exercise. Height was not assoc…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:32 PM
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What a gross misinterpretation of the study. This has nothing to do with naturally occurring T levels between people of different height. this is just a study on phenotypes in relation to testosterone and facial geometry. obviously testosterone plays into masculine traits within a population. but it has nothing to do with population differences based purely on height. Research shows that there is no correlation between T levels and one's height.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:28 PM
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I have high T and have a weak jawline, am average height, and am an introvert. My testosterone was recently measured at 905 ng/dl. I don't exercise and eat like garbage. Also, height is not correlated to testosterone. children undergoing puberty too fast tend to be shorter. testosterone fuses the plates sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:18 PM
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This is how single moms are created.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:54 AM
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Simpler? I have Savant Syndrome. Was diagnosed at 10 years old in 2002. I am below average intelligence but I fail to see how brain's simplicity has anything to do with the need for constant contemplation over mechanized movement?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:15 AM
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Creative outlets come from the mind not the outside world. *"All of humanity's problems, stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”* - Blaise Pascal
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:10 AM
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No, a lot of us do that.. we just keep our hands busy whilst doing it. That doesn't count. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:09 AM
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I like to think. Everything I read I regurgitate when I stare at a wall or if I'm sitting outside contemplating. Doesn't matter the topic of discussion. I'm always in tireless contemplation. I can never get bored with thought. Apparently you humans need constant dopamine rushes to get your quickest fix or to fill in the void of your short mortal life. I'm not trying to sound like an edgelord. But it must suck to not have the ability to remain satisfied alone for at least a week with no outside s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:06 AM
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I know. Most people are not enlightened enough to seek fulfillment in their own self reflection and contemplation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:59 AM
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That's exactly what I do. Sometimes I'll just pace back and forth between rooms talking to myself, either in my head or out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:57 AM
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My hobby isn't thinking of fantasy worlds. It's thinking about nothing. I literally spend my free time just pondering about my childhood or other aspects of my life. I have no hobbies. I just walk around my room all day long on my days off doing nothing. Or I'm outside sitting in the front lounging like an old person in his chair. Are people really that lifeless where they need hobbies or external entertainment in order to keep them fulfilled and occupied?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:50 AM
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Are hobbies really that important? I have literally no hobbies and can easily entertain myself w/o doing anything all day. You could put me in a padded room in the loony bin and I'll thrive in my own little fantasy world.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:43 AM
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Are hobbies really that important? I have literally no hobbies and can easily entertain myself w/o doing anything all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:41 AM
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Where did I imply I cared so much about your penis? I'm just saying that lifestyle is a poor sense of character. I don't care if you continue to belittle yourself and have casual sex or hook ups. That's everyone's personal decision. I really don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:49 PM
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I've had chances but unlike you and the rest I don't need it to seek happiness or fulfillment. Casual sex is not fulfillment. It's a sign of weak mental fortitude and character. It's an empty void of short term pleasure over long term love. Studies show time and time again that casual sex / hooks ups do more harm than good. You literally just said it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:41 PM
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Most the women I’ve had sex with it was very short conversation, I just knew she was attracted to me and so we matched, met somewhere, then had sex. Imagine being weak enough to have casual sex / hooks ups rather than actually form a relationship with another human being. No wonder why social media has turned everyone into products that we use as junk food. Pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:35 PM
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Asocial. I'm not a sociopath. Not leaving your house means less interaction with people. And, unfortunately for you, women are people I agree on technical grounds. But regardless, there's nowhere to meet cool homebody people so there's no point in venturing outside with the normies. Just by sheer statistics alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:28 PM
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If less people are introverts than extroverts then logically the world does run on extroversion. I can't think of any real positive benefits for introversion in labor. Humans are social creatures. And yes I'm an introvert like you except I don't need hobbies outside of my house to pretend I'm interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:20 PM
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You have to consider the type of women you're going after. Women who go after men like that end up being single moms. Saying 'just go to the gym, bro!' 'just shower, bro!' is an empty platitude that means absolutely nothing. Looks only matter if your type of women bases her lifestyle on casual sex / hooks ups. And I don't want women who possess such a lifestyle. I would argue most men wouldn't be with such a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:16 PM
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Medical problems and I'm not into these people. Everyone I like is taken and everyone I'm not into isn't. Casual hooks ups are also a sign of a weak character. It means you have an inability to control your urges and desires and harness them for self reflection or knowledge acquisition. If you really are what you say you are, which I believe, then you are truly not a real introvert. Getting laid for the short term primal desire is just a sign of pure weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:10 PM
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I've been hit on by women IRL and have gotten several likes on tinder after creating my profile in less than 5 minutes. I'm no young Brad Pitt. But I certainly possess better facial features than a sizable chunk of men out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:05 PM
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Women care more about money and resources than looks. Looks aren't even the top of the list. They might matter for short term, casual hook ups. But long term looks aren't all that important. Women are superficial and care more about a man being willing to provide than how cool his personality is, how good he looks, his moral character, etc. Trust me. This is coming from someone who's gotten 5 likes on tinder in less than 5 minutes after creating his first profile and has been hit on by women IRL…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:59 PM
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Normal people are extroverts. The world runs on extroversion. Having hobbies outside of the house is a sign of weak mental fortitude and lack of imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:57 PM
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They struggle because they don't want to pretend to be someone else they're not. It'd be great if we could meet people who vibe with us in a low chill, laid back environment. But there's no real solution for homebodies since both are unwilling to go out under the correct statistical assumption that the chances of meeting each other are slim to none. Not sure what "superficial" means here? I assume things are superficial if they're about what "sexually arouses" someone? Sure I guess. Everyone is …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:52 PM
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There's no such thing as standing out. Standing out is just a coping mechanism to make people feel that they need to be someone that they aren't in order to fit in. Be yourself. Notice how we never tell women to stand out? Not all of us have passions, ambitions, or life goals. Some of us just want to chill and hang out all day long. If women cant accept that then move on to the next person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:44 PM
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Personality only matters insofar as if you're a normie or not. A normie is a socially engaging, outgoing extrovert. Who has hobbies outside of his house. If you aren't a normie then you're shit out of luck. I'm a proud homebody introvert so even if I'm better looking than like 90% of men out there my personality wont mean shit. Women are superficial when it comes to money, resources, looks, and even personality. Arguably more so than men. Superficial or selective? Probably both.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:41 PM
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I've seen plenty of average to below average looking guys with attractive women. I see less attractive men with attractive women. Attractive men are usually with average to below average women. I've lived in New York and FL so maybe my experiences are different. The fact that women care less about looks and more about money and resources shows that women are more superficial on average than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:39 PM
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I live in Tampa, FL. There are seldom childfree women down here for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:09 AM
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Those 10 women then need to be compatible with you. And you need to be attracted to them. Those numbers sound abysmal to say the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:27 AM
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I'll take a guess that you're not childfree and drunk the Kool-Aid?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:58 AM
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Abortions aren't illegal nor can they be dangerous if done properly with properly licensed medical professionals. The world needs less people on the planet, anyway. We already have more than enough. What gives?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:50 AM
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I mean there's a risk for everything in life. but that doesn't mean you can't minimize the risks in a responsible way. also, ever hear of abortions? I hear those work pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:36 AM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:34 AM
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I don't think educating women on safe sex is controlling anyone and I don't disagree with you on the political aspect. You made the foolish choice to have a child in lieu of another man's unintended consequences, on average. I'm presuming most births are accidental and not intended in general. Least for single parenthood, no? It's both you and the father's fault in this dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:20 AM
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Ah you're right. I meant have and want kids. thanks for the correction. need to elaborate that. are you childfree as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:16 AM
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Then I might as well not bother dating at all considering there's so few of us out there. Maybe the childless single people are not bothering dating because they also realize that the chances of finding another enlightened one are so slim?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:15 AM
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I live in Florida. It's virtually impossible to find a woman who doesn't want kids and marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:11 AM
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You can have sex and enjoy all of that w/o having kids. look up women's health and birth control. The more you educate women the less likely they are to have children. Educate them on the responsibilities of safe sex and more importantly educate them on the philosophical underpinnings of bringing life into this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:08 AM
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You can have sex and enjoy all of that w/o having kids. look up women's health and birth control. The more you educate women the less likely they are to have children. Educate them on the responsibilities of safe sex and more importantly educate them on the philosophical underpinnings of bringing life into this world. Every person should read Schopenhauer before questioning the idea of having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:07 AM
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Where is your evidence that I'm in the extreme minority? And are you suggesting that I just not bother finding someone at all? You sound as if there's something wrong with me and not society.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:01 AM
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I am and I'm not that rare or uncommon. I'd venture 25-30% of men around my age are in the same ball park. don't have exact numbers, though. I just pulled those out of nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:54 AM
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but if your whole reason for not wanting them is to avoid the burden of having to take care of them, that’s going to telegraph self centered and irresponsibility to potential partners. Uh, no? I don't want the burden of taking care of children because I simply don't care for children. It has nothing to do with my ability to provide as a partner or a man. Also, most people just want kids because it’s a basic human desire to reproduce and build a legacy. It's not just a basic human desire it's als…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:52 AM
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I'm a 41-year-old child-free woman. I have never had an issue finding a child-free man. That's because you're a woman and not a man. I appreciate your empathy, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:30 AM
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I didn't know you can only have a family by having kids. This is news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:29 AM
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In this day in age, it's impossible to find a woman who doesn't have any kids that's over the age of 30. Which is extremely sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:24 AM
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Instead of making the moral and correct choice which is to not have kids and focus on your career or your partner, you end up making it worse by having kids. I don't mean you, personally, rather you as in a whole of single moms. Having children isn't worth it and most of your woes and troubles can stem directly from having kids and having an inability to make the relationship work. We don't want to play step daddy. We don't want children. We just want a loving partner. Well, the smart ones anywa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:22 AM
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Too young. They don't know what they want yet in life. And they generally change their mind about kids in the long haul.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:03 AM
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You're right. I can't assume he is / was a douchebag all the time. I can only assume the fault is usually with the single mom because you seem to statistically have more single moms than single daddy's. That's my intuition so don't take my word for granted. I wouldn't be surprised if my intuitions were predicated on actual statistics, though. In any case, we're not even discussing marriage. We're talking about being parents which is not the same thing as being married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:46 AM
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Single moms made the erroneous decision to have children with a douchebag. They possess poor moral intuitions and lack self-worth and self-love over the choices they make overall. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. The same can be said with the douchebag father. But the douchebag father was charming / suave / socially aware enough to get it on with said mother. That alone shows he has some semblance of competence. Even if his competence lacks in the fatherhood department. I'd love to v…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:39 AM
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Actually women are far more willing to be with a single dad than men are to be with a single mom. This is fascinating. Do you have any evidence to back up this claim? I'm genuinely curious. The West is literally importing people who WILL outbreed you by the millions every year right now. There's more than one way to skin a cat and one way or another society as you know it will cease to exist at some point. Yes that's correct. But it doesn't mean it's what we ought to do as a society since the pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:35 AM
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Doesn't that make it worse for us childfree men? Another slam dunk over the fact that men have it worse than women when it comes to finding someone. There are statistically more young men than young women. At least in the USA.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:27 AM
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This is the case for most worthwhile things in life. Having children is not worthwhile, though. It's neutral. Neither good nor bad. It just is. Most people want their own kids, not other people's kids. I agree. But you have to consider that men are more willing to put themselves in a position to get with a woman who already has them. Rather than the other way around. It shows she's had past desirability for the fact that she was chosen. Inversely, you can argue the same with the father. Man's na…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:25 AM
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No you aren't. And if you're truly all those things then the problem is most likely you and not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:08 AM
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typical bragging top percent redditor who doesn't encapsulate and empathize with the real struggles of the average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 03:50 AM
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With the amount of single moms either the women have terrible choice in men or the men have terrible choice in women. Regardless, women don't need men the way men need women. Women aren't tired of men. They're tired of having to put in effort since men are already tired and exhausted as it is trying to deal with them. Men have to put in so much more effort. Women have a lesser reason to be tired of men the way men are tired of women. Or least, their reasons are less sympathetic to the plights of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:57 AM
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Women don't need men the way men need women. It's really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:54 AM
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they can. I'm just speaking on average. I feel most creative minds operate outside of the boundaries of the outside world. or they use the outside world for inspiration while not directly participating it. you can see this with scientists, artists, musicians, etc. I've also sensed that people who like to travel alot, go on adventures, are particularly boring and unimaginative people overall. they use these experiences to make themselves interesting. whereas, it's really just the experiences them…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:24 AM
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Shut ins make the best BF material. thoughtful, self reflective, empathetic. Social people and extroverts are usually are boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:03 AM
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That's because you're a normie. Pre-selection works for men who are outgoing, successful, charming, etc. If you're an introvert then stay clear of larger social groups / friendship cliques.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:54 PM
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Friends are overrated. I'm an introvert and there's nowhere to meet anyone that's also introverted IRL. Getting back to your main point, they say having a social circle is key to finding relationships. but from personal experience as a teenager, I see it as the opposite. it's usually your friends who are always taken except yourself. regardless of how attractive you are. I was the best looking in my friend group as a teen and I never got laid or got any women because I was socially awkward and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:49 PM
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There's a difference between having standards and finding someone attractive. Having standards means they must oblige by preferences based on your liking. I don't have any standards except the baseline which is empathetic, good communication, good chemistry, and physically attractive. I'm sure most men will agree with me on that as well. Men don't have options if the only options they have are women they simply aren't attracted to. Those aren't options because you shouldn't go out with someone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:48 PM
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A relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 09:22 AM
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I feel the problem is that while you're absolutely correct in getting to know women IRL is the best way to go; the problem is that women don't want to be bothered by men IRL anymore. Women don't care about needing a man to support them emotionally or even financially. Look at the stats, most childless single women are happier than married women. and unmarried men are unhappier than married men. Men need women more than women need men and the whole 'sigma mindset' is a coping mechanism on both en…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:59 AM
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Apps are useless. I'm a homebody introvert. I've been hit on by women IRL and get glances at the grocery store. And I'm no young Brad Pitt. I made a tinder account with a profile pic of myself last year and got 5 likes in less than 5 minutes. Casual sex / hook up culture is not for me. Everyone on the apps wants kids / marriage. I don't want any of those so I suppose I could get laid if I wanted to I just choose not to since it's pointless. I wonder if its location based? I live in Tampa, FL and…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:53 AM
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Women are actually right because that's true. Most men don't have the luxury of choosing their partner unlike women who have all the options in the world. Some people are just constantly not lucky in finding someone. And it has nothing to do with how attractive they are, or how good personality they have, etc. Timing and execution is crucial to finding someone. Most men don't have this unless they're the top minority of insanely good looking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 02:25 AM
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Only 14.5% of men in the US are over 6 feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 02:18 AM
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Nonsense. If you can master posting on Reddit, you can master a ticketing system. You don't want to even *try**. You* like being a victim. And that is your fault, not everyone else's. Not true. I have an extremely poor memory and cannot retain tasks when given to me. Not everyone is smart or born smart. Your anecdotes aren't even the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:30 AM
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I agree with you that I shouldn't be expecting much. It doesn't mean that I'm wrong or that my struggles are without sympathy or valid reason. The world has gone through many milestones in its his history and mainly for the better. It's possible one day there will be a time where these societal elements are regurgitated in a better way for the minority reports like ourselves. Just like how the LGBTQ community has been gaining tide in the past few eras.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:25 AM
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Penalize higher income earners, then. don't most first worlders contribute most to climate change, resource consumption, environmental damage? I read something that you'd need 5.1 Earths if every person in the world lived as comfortably as someone from the USA. That's insane to me. I'm not intrinsically against having kids. I'm not an antinatalist. I just think we should be discouraging people from having them in the first world. and incentivizing on bringing third world kids into the first worl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:15 AM
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I can adapt it would just mean I'd have to change who I am as a person. Why would I do that? On sheer moral principle I refuse. Maybe we can try making the world more inclusive to other people like myself and just normies like you? Just like how we can help fight poverty, hunger, etc? And not accept starvation as a constant element on society?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:10 AM
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There are tons of introverted women who get out of their comfort zones and go out for the sole purpose of finding a potential partner. I doubt it and I would need to see evidence that suggests this is the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:06 AM
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I have a severe learning disability and cannot get a remote job. I am most certainly a victim. Not just myself but all those fellow non-normies who are simply not fitting into the mold of what society wants us to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:02 AM
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I feel dating is more in line with certain expectations and criteria you ought to have between one another based on your resume and whatnot. it comes across as rigid and dogmatic. without the natural sense of connection. alas, dating apps. you can get friends, or make connection via hobbies or interests, or values. but this is near impossible for the average introvert. but it works wonders for normies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:57 AM
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Then simply don't have kids? It's that simple. The risk is obviously not worth it in the long run. Society should be paying people to not have kids and penalize single moms for having them. We should also penalize low income parents who have more than two kids and force them to pay heavy taxes. Kids are terrible for the environment and contribute to climate change. Not to mention destroy ecosystems and wildlife. I'm no innocent little turd, either. But I'm not sociopathic enough to contribute to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:49 AM
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Firstly, I thought you have more younger women in the age 20-40 bracket than younger men. will correct myself if I'm wrong which I may very well be. I live in the US idk about Europe or elsewhere. edit: excuse me, I meant more younger men than younger women. Secondly, you can't really move since everything is expensive and not all of us have the luxury of moving. I have to live with my parents since I can't afford to live on my own. I only make 26k a year. Thirdly, none of those are really under…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:43 AM
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No, I am interested in a romantic relationship. I'm not interested in dating. There's a difference. And I don't care for any of those things, especially sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:38 AM
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There are tons of introverted women who get out of their comfort zones and go out for the sole purpose of finding a potential partner. This is absolutely not true. And not supported by any evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:36 AM
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I fail to see how being mature relates to this dilemma? I'm completely fine with doing things as long as I can see a reward with the risk. Unfortunately, as a man in today's world, the risk is higher than the reward itself. A main problem is that if you go out and do things you don't want to you're going to end up not finding like minded people who share similar values or personalities. Ie: homebody introvert types who I tend to vibe with. There's really nowhere to go when you're a homebody intr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:23 AM
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I wish I could get childless leave for not having any kids. It seems everywhere you go it's just single moms left and right. We should be getting paid to not have any kids considering how we have too many of them right now. Kids complicate relationships and not for the better. Women who are childless should be getting more financial privileges than women with children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:15 AM
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I don't want to date. I want to find connection with like minded people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:09 AM
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You can change who you are in order to attract someone. I love myself and don't want to change who I am as a person. Going out of your comfort zone only works if you're willing to change who you are in order to fit in with other people. I'm not a phony like that. I don't want to do that. I want a world where the world is suited at the behest for you and your values, interests, and genuine self. Unfortunately, we don't live in that world since extroverts dominate everywhere. Your ideas don't even…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:06 AM
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Progressing in relationships is a general marker for a well adjusted and healthy person. Good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:01 AM
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I have no friends. I'm not an extrovert. I don't want to do things or go out of my comfort zone with the small statistical chance of success. Dating is worthless, time consuming, emotionally draining, and devoid of all remnants of empathy. Everyone that has been in a relationship is a tarnished, cynical mess that either has kids or wants marriage. Neither are suitable for me and many childless men. I remain pure and untouched like the virgin snow. I'd rather try to survive skydiving with no para…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:56 AM
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Men outnumber women so your chances of finding available women IRL are no better than the apps. There really isn't a viable way to meet women aside from already having friends, coworkers, or being extroverted. Which not all of us have or are such.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:49 AM
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Dating apps don't work for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:47 AM
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There aren't any places to meet available women anywhere except the apps which are already bad for men to begin with. I don't drink. I don't like sports. I'm not into concerts so those are off the tables. The world is too extroverted oriented and not enough spaces for introverts to hang out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:46 AM
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It hasn't worked for me and I'm in your age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:44 AM
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Notice how it's always women who are talking about how they met their BF and not the other way around?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:44 AM
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They're horrible because we're not meant to designate someone's attraction on a photo with some bio. You have to feel out the person IRL. There are super attractive women who I've met in person at my workplace. but on FB in photos they look completely plain and I wouldn't swipe on them. Vibes only occur IRL. My Spidey Sense doesn't work on those bogus apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:40 AM
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That's because you're a woman and don't know how it is to use the apps as a man. Any woman can meet someone on apps. They can be introverted, live with their parents, work a dead end job. But as long as they're average or attractive enough they're good to go. As someone who is all of those things as a man I'm completely fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:37 AM
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Desperation. You have more men than women by a wide margin on those apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:33 AM
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Desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 12:32 AM
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I don't agree that you need to have experience in order to understand or grasp something. A doctor doesn't need to personally experience dying of smallpox in order to understand smallpox is bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:21 AM
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" My relationships ended because we realized we had different life goals" That's called a failure. If you have different life goals you should've considered that before entering the relationship and remained in the courting phase. And if you loved each other well enough to bypass such future transgressions of changing life goals, then you stick together and reconcile growth with your respective paths. You both are still independent people who love one another. Completely ridiculous how you human…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:08 AM
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You're a small anecdote, though. I was thinking more of of evidence to the average. Also, you've had multiple relationships and presumably failed in them so depending on your success rate of keeping a relationship intact, it's not looking good on your end.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:59 AM
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I don't but like I said that's just my intuition. I wouldn't be surprised if there were any actual research that suggests this is the case. I haven't been ruined or tainted by the hardships of relationships unlike 99% of everyone here. So I can or at least try to look at things as objectively as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:56 AM
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A high body count might show you're not trustworthy in a monogamous relationship. I'd like some empirical research that can prove people with higher body counts tend to be less trustworthy in relationships than those with low body counts. Or are at a more emotional risk of relationship satisfaction. I wouldn't be surprised at all if this were the case. This is just my strong intuition telling me this is so. I have no evidence for this mind you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:52 AM
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I made a tinder account last year and posted a pic of myself and got 5 likes in less than 5 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:44 AM
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I made a tinder account last year and posted a pic of myself and got 5 likes in less than 5 minutes. Made me feel pretty special. I'm not into casual sex / hooks ups, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:42 AM
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I made a tinder account last year and posted a pic of myself and got 5 likes in less than 5 minutes. I must be the only virgin over 30 capable of this enormous feat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:41 AM
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We're fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:36 PM
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We're fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:36 PM
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Why did the one that almost lasted 10 years fail? Why do you people just give up relationships that last for so long? Unless there's cheating or abuse involved, I find it mind boggling why one would give up on a person for that amount of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:05 AM
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Men are usually if not always the initiators and are expected to do the heavy lifting in the introduction phase. Women's capabilities are far more lenient and more versatile than men's capabilities or capacity to provide for the household. This is unoriginal, common sensical thinking. Everyone knows this. I cannot get away being a homebody introvert, lives with my parents, and makes less than 26k a year. This is my life. No matter how many glances I get at the grocery store or in public, I'm fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:00 AM
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Yes. They really don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:48 AM
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you say too much. so you're saying there is a slight decline? I want my cognitive faculties and my processing speed to remain the same now as they will in my 70s and 80s. I'm 32.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 05:55 AM
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Do you mentally feel just as young as you did back when? I'm referring to your cognitive abilities, have they slowed down? Or do you still feel just as sharp today as your youth?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:56 AM
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Tall, white and good looking. And there it is, ladies and gentlemen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:16 AM
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Women can do anything they want and still get a guy. Women can be a homebody introverts, live with their parents, and work a dead end shit job. And as long as they're just average they can get any guy they want. Well, most guys, anyway. Depending on how attractive they are. You'll never get someone like me who actually fits in that criteria with an attractive woman. It doesn't matter how facially attractive I might be. Or how good my personality is, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:08 AM
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Why do you think we have such bad social skills? If the evidence suggests this is truly the case?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:58 AM
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That's a different brand of marketing. They don't need that in order to get men. Men don't have a social media counterpart the way women do. I should elaborate that by saying women don't have to market themselves meaning they're already priceless products worth whatever men are willing to pay for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:52 AM
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You're an extremely rare minority report.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:29 AM
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Men generally have good social skills. Not having 'game' isn't synonymous with not being able to talk to women. We live in a world where dating apps and social media have ruined social engagement for both sides. I also feel men are tired of playing the game and just want to be themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:28 AM
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Women don't want to be cold approached since they have limitless choices on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:25 AM
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Most relationships happen by pure luck and happenstance. Extroverts are easier because they put themselves into positions with a higher semblance of luck involved. The reason why many of us men don't want to market ourselves is because being ourselves is the true form of the product we're selling. Women don't have to market themselves so why should us men? Are we really selling things, btw? Should we really treat each other like products and consumers? On a personal anecdote, I've cold approache…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:20 AM
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Nothing else interests me. Like I'm sorry you're unable to be happy single like myself. I'm assuming you've been in a relationship. But I'd rather stay single for life than change up my routine which makes me happy. If most women cant accept who I am and what my interests are then fuck em.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:32 AM
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Maybe I don't want to try new ones because I'm happy with the ones I currently have now?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:43 PM
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Not so good. But at least I stick to who I am and remain my genuine self.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:41 PM
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You're never going to meet available women whether you're in a generic hobby or not. Unless you're outgoing and extroverted. So what difference does it make? Finding someone is like finding a golden leaf clover. Some people are just luckier than others. Its mostly luck based. Your anecdotes prove nothing to this reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:40 PM
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I don't know about that. I know relationships where both just stay at home all day and do nothing. Both homebody introverts. I'd presume they started the dating thing by going out at first. But performing the 'masculine' aspect of a relationship has no sway as to whether both agree with how they wish to abide in their relationship. In short, you can still play the performative aspect by taking the initiative w/o changing the dynamic of what both of you want or expect in a relationship. But what …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 07:57 AM
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I respectfully disagree. While it's great to try new things and be open to new experiences I don't think that's for everyone. Some people just intuitively know they're a certain way or like certain things the way they are. Whether our intuitions are correct or not is irrelevant. It's like telling someone they might not be gay but straight - they should try dating women. You never know if you haven't tried it. I don't fall into that nonsense unless they've demonstrated intimate elements to sugges…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:46 AM
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I believe the ability to be open minded, well read, and have an interesting conversation makes you interesting. I don't believe having hobbies automatically makes you interesting. But this goes back to what makes something interesting for one person may be different for another. I know plenty of boring people who lack any imagination, creativity, or insight into anything that have a ton of hobbies. All they talk about is their hobbies. They can't reflect on anything nor are they well read on any…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:04 AM
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What's wrong with this line of thinking? Why can't I just be myself to meet someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 02:40 AM
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You can be attractive and still attract people who don't fit into your criteria of what most women want as attractive. Not everyone operates in this overly simplistic hierarchy. Even if most do. It helps and if you're willing to change who you are and be a phony and fake person by all means. But I'm not doing it because I have principles and standards. It’s not my universal traits, it’s evolutionary biology and sexual selection shaping behavior in primates across millions of years You can still …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 02:30 AM
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Do change yourself. Change your appearance, hobbies, personality and interests to become more sexually attractive I don't want to. I love myself. I love who I am and what I have to offer as a human being. I don't want to change who I am in order to find someone. If I have to change myself to fit in then that's the fault of everyone else. Not me. This is because women are extremely shallow just like men, and are attracted to a fairly universal set of traits in men across culture. That's nice. For…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 01:53 AM
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I have medical issues which explains this. In any case, I have been hit on by plenty of women in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 01:47 AM
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Some of us have hobbies that are neither feasible nor practical to meet women. Your espousing the most generic examples that aren't even all that successful to begin with. The problem is mainly society and the inability of people to make social connection in a world dominated by extroversion and dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 01:07 AM
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I don't think introverted men should change who they are in order to appeal to women. I have no interest in being outgoing or taking up things I have absolutely no interest in. If that makes me uninteresting and boring so be it. I'm content with being single and will continue to be based on my solitary interests and pursuits. I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not. Being someone else is a waste of time. Do not change who you are to fit in with people. I don't want to be a pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:58 AM
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volunteering doesn't work to meet women. in fact, you can't really meet women anywhere unless you're outgoing and extroverted with normal interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:41 AM
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I never understood this whole interesting vs uninteresting notion. What makes you interesting might make another person not so interesting, etc. Being interesting is about as vague as saying just work out or just dress nicely. It's a useless upbeat, positive message that holds no value to the variability of people's preferences. While you can slightly increase your chances of success by appealing to a wider group. Ie: outgoing, charismatic, charming, etc. You'd be doing yourself a disservice by …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:40 AM
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It's easier to be a female virgin than a male virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:37 AM
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Hobbies don't make you interesting. Getting out of your comfort zone usually doesn't work. Extroverts told us the biggest lie of humanity. Don't change who you are in order to fit in with other people or find connection. Be yourself. Trust your gut. Do your own thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 12:27 AM
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" For my own safety I wouldn’t until we were in a committed long term relationship." You have a far higher chance of being sexually assaulted, raped, and murdered by a partner or family member than a stranger. By a considerable margin.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 10:49 PM
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Who's side are you on?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 02:36 AM
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I was disagreeing with the other poster in that it doesn't matter if highly attractive women have more options or are more selective. I'm simply pointing out that women in general are highly selective and have more options more so than men. It's completely relevant to the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 02:25 AM
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Dating apps suck in general. I don't want kids and 99% of women on bumble want kids. I live in Tampa, FL. Everyone is infected with the virus mentality of procreate. Dating as a childless person sucks donkey balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:55 AM
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Don't kid yourself. All women have more options than men whether they're bombshells or just bombs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:53 AM
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"she interprets that as you having no other options." No shit. I'm a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:29 AM
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Considering we have police reports, statistics, and data on virtually everything else I find that hard to believe. Maybe these rejection-related violent incidents are so statistically low that they aren't even officially recorded or reported?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:11 AM
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You didn't answer my question for empirical evidence demonstrating violent-related rejections on dates. I look at the evidence and data and not anecdotal episodes. Provide me the evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:33 PM
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Do you have any statistics that back up the 'men are violent when get rejected' argument? You do realize statistically there's a far higher chance of being sexually assaulted, raped, and murdered by your partner or family member, right? By a considerable margin.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:02 PM
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I feel women confuse desperation with enthusiasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 10:51 PM
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Sorry. I meant you need degrees or schooling to add onto your charismatic persona. like you can't just be charismatic or have leadership and expect a high paying job. in today's society you need some academic background.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:56 AM
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you need degrees / schools for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:43 AM
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The biggest mistake women gave to man was convincing them to have children in the first place. Men and women both guilt trip their horniness into believing that reproduction is the solution to happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:17 AM
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I don't believe in ratings unless its the movies. but I've been hit on by women in the past and get smiles / glances at the grocery store. the problem is the single moms that show interest end up ghosting me every single time. I think I'm done with talking to girls cause I got nothing to back me up for it. All the skills I have are not suited for this type of society. Or if they are its the military but I'm too old for that and my brother is already proudly serving his country.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:12 AM
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Not necessarily weird but most people don't like engaging with others who aren't part of their circle. In the sense of actually wanting to get to know them. With the exception of maybe bars and clubs. But I don't drink or smoke so that's obviously out of the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:47 PM
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I can compete with other men just not in this society. If it's a hunter gatherer or survival based society then I'd probably succeed moreso than most, honestly. It's the type of society we live in that I'm unable to compete because it fosters money and intelligence over charisma, leadership, athleticism, brute force, etc. Not in all aspects but in a multitude and majority of domains.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:40 PM
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I'm not intelligent enough for school which brings down my job aspirations. I work as a security guard like a lot of men out there trying to keep it real. I never was in relationships because women never initiate / I was shy and there's nowhere to meet people with my same interests (video games, hanging out, watching TV). World is dominated by extroversion. Man is sunk into the depths of going out of his comfort zone to make his life feel more meaningless than it already is. We buy shit we don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:32 PM
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You do realize not everyone is cut out for school. This idea that school and learning is for everyone is just flat out ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:26 PM
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I'm not an incel. What I'm saying is that not all men are cut out for this type of society. I'm not one of these men. I'm not intelligent enough and no amount of motivational boost will change that. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:25 PM
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Consumerism and materialism among women is one of the worst cornerstones of Western society. Man is designed to be better and stronger than woman yet women want to be on the same playing field. You want a real playing field? Let's go into the woods or the jungle and survive the real way. Most of these six figure men and women wouldn't last a day. The wage slave system has amplified the imbalance of power between man and woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:29 AM
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Women falsely think success is measured by money. Put me in the middle of the woods in the wild and I'll show you a real man. We all can't make six figures but a lot of us men can certainly make a killer meal around a campfire. Modern society is bogus and we're all being fueled by the wage slave capitalist system. We've lost touched with our true roots of survival instinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:23 AM
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I mean I can provide just not in this type of society. If it were Hunter Gatherer or some survival type situation then I'd be better than most.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:21 AM
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I mean your intelligence doesn't change much in your lifetime. you should still be just as sharp now as back then. why are you working in a deli and not a career job?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:38 AM
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those jobs require school. I'm not smart enough for school. I'm willing to do anything for money if it doesn't involve school. I've considered going to NV to sell myself into legal prostitution. I really want more money. But I want to earn it legally.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:37 AM
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from personal experience most are in their late teens / early 20s. mid-to late 20s seem to have the least amount of single moms. and then it boosts to single moms in 30s. but the rate of single moms is lower relative to the rate of late teens / early 20s moms. maybe it's different for your area.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:32 AM
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You just said in other post you were tested as a grad student at like 14. that's insane. that's not stupid even at that young age. You need to accept that not all men are cut out for school or are intelligent enough to learn. Some of us men are better adapted for idk a hunter gatherer lifestyle or something. I'm extremely athletic with high spatial reasoning skills. Which is why I'm such an incredible gamer. the problem is society is all about intelligence and degrees. I'm not that type of perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:21 AM
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I'm a security guard, bro. that should give you an impression of how useful my powers are. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:18 AM
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I'm not autistic and have average writing ability. That's no way an indicator of an incorrect diagnosis or lack of intelligence. Unless you're erroneously suggesting my powers are more common than you think. In which case I'd like to see evidence for such. In any case, you're way smarter and more capable than me in multiple domains. I'm going to presume you have a high intelligence quotient. That's nice. I don't. In fact, I'm far on the left side of the spectrum right on the border of intellectu…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:12 AM
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Rapid mental calculation. I can auto-calculate infinite sums of numbers by multiplying / dividing, etc. say a million numbers multiply a million numbers or whatever. I can instantly see or hear the correct numbers in my head. I was diagnosed in 2002 at aged 10. I'm extremely below average / stupid in literally everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:59 PM
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Women in that category are generally single moms. in the age range of late teens / early 20s. source: work in a hospital and have met countless of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:50 PM
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I can't improve my situation because for a lot of us men we don't have the same intelligence and resources against other men and women. If this were a Hunter Gatherer society based on athletic feats and survival instinct I feel many of us men would thrive incredibly, myself included. Modern society has destroyed the hopes and aspirations of those who's little potential is being strangled by the institutions that serve wage slaves. Men and women are both in the pit. but men moreso than women for …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:46 PM
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Bogus advice. Any man can go to a festival or go outside. It doesn't mean that everyone else already goes with their family, friends, etc. Do you know how weird it would be to just walk up to people and start a convo. Everyone is so closed off these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:38 PM
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There's literally nowhere to earn more than 31k a year (this is how much I make before taxes / expenses) w/o a college degree or school. I've searched far and beyond the depths of the Internet for my location. All I get are bullshit service jobs that make similar if not slightly lower. I can live comfortably at home w/o worrying about expenses so why are women not okay with a man who lives comfortably at home? Yes, living with parents is an inconvenience for them. But it shouldn't have to be. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:35 PM
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I've been trying everyday and I can't get anything. I think you need to accept the fact that some of us men are just not lucky in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:28 PM
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I'm not intelligent enough for school. I have extremely below average intelligence. I can't learn and have an extremely memory. I thought about going to college but some people are just not mentally cut out for school.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:26 PM
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I'm not happy at all with what I'm doing. on weekends I don't do anything and I'm constantly bored. there's nowhere to meet other fellow gamers, though. I don't like sports or outgoing stuff. I just want to meet other chill, laid back introverts like me. sorta like back in HS with my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:25 PM
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I'd talk about just life or whatever. the same shit I talked about in class with my friends being a goofball and joking around. or just get to know them in a friendly way or whatever. I don't understand why going to these things would be such a detriment. you have no evidence to suggest otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:24 PM
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It saves more money living with your parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:20 PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Savant_syndrome
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:16 PM
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What if the person is waiting for that experience but with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:39 AM
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Everyone in this post is a lovable buffoon. You could just lie about it. It's that easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:36 AM
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Ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:27 AM
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what if he's living at home to save his money? since living alone is too expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:26 AM
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what's weird about it? My hobbies put me in a position where it's limited to meet people. you're suggesting people do things they don't want to do in order to meet people. because doing activities is what makes you get friends and not talking to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 08:56 AM
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I don't want to put this personally on me but I think men who are in my same situation as me shouldn't falsely pretend to be something they aren't. Some men are just better looking, more intelligent, and there are those like us who are literally on the lowest of the lows. There's no way out for some of us men. I agree that we shouldn't make excuses but us men should have realistic expectations with the failure of society and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:30 AM
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I don't read books. I said I like reading as in reddit, forums, Wikipedia, news, etc. just general reading shit. whether its educational or whatever. I agree a one-time thing wouldn't do much but maybe every so often I think it might work. there's no way to know w/o doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:22 AM
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Oh I'm not saying I've got it worse than most people, I'm just saying I'm in a bad situation. It's not as bad as all those people you've described. As far as dating/relationships are concerned everyone has made it abundantly clear that unless I amp up my status game I'm fucked. I think there's a threshold of badness as far as where your life is for dating/relationships. Those friends with their douche parents cutting them out they're probably in the same dating spot as me, if not better. Despite…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:18 AM
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Well yeah but the point still stands I'm a fun guy to be around at work. I just despise sports and don't like doing anything else except playing video games and hanging out with my friends. My hobbies as a teen, walking around the neighborhood shooting shit with my friends, hanging out at their house, etc. hasn't changed at all at this age. I don't think I've ever met a single friend whom I met doing the same activities. Activities are after we got chemistry not before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:15 AM
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So every introvert's solution is to be as adventurous and exciting as possible for women if they don't make enough money?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:10 AM
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All of my coworkers I've 'befriended' or were super friendly with and we didn't do a single activity together. We just had interesting conversations about stuff. I think you're way over estimating the idea that activities are what fuels friendships. If someone has chemistry with someone through chatting that's just as good as through sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:07 AM
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I'm in a horrible situation. wat the fuck are you on about? Guys that live with their parents are worthless in the eyes of women. Much less some incredibly stupid security guard with a giant heart but a brain the size of a shrimp. coupled with some super rare neurological powers of calculation. Be blessed you were born normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:01 AM
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No I 100% agree with schools, colleges, work places. That's what I just said about stubbornly forcing people to come together and find the right people. You just provide an outlet for introverts or lonely people by a cookout or BBQ. Invite them and let them know they're welcome. No silly activities needed. That simple. You don't need 'activities' to bond with someone. What you bond with are their chemistry and their values. All of my friends from school I've bonded from this and not 'activities'…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:59 AM
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Because what you're describing are specific venues of socialization. Which further specializes the medium of socialization and narrows it down. If you set up a large base of just meeting and talking to people then the successes are greater. This is why school is so effective at getting to know people, finding the right friends, etc. It stubbornly forces all kids to socialize and play together to find your friends. We don't have a kid version of that for adults. Activities not withstanding due to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:53 AM
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Absolutely. If the message or aim is to go out and find other people I think a lot would. Not most. But certainly far more than the usual amount. By this logic, introverts wouldn't be using dating apps. I fail to see why it supposedly works with apps but doesn't work with IRL. Dating apps make introverts feel more comfortable being confined to their phone. Lonely Festivals offer the same thing with the supposed supposition that you're meeting other fellow people like you who are also lonely. It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:45 AM
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Large gatherings of the local neighborhood like BBQ's or cookouts. Places where people of the neighborhood can meet other people. Get to know each other, etc. A sense of bonding with people in the area. Or maybe have Lonely festivals where the local gov't has cookouts or festivals exclusively aimed to combat loneliness. With the open and direct message is to meet other people and get to know one another and be kind humans, etc. Shit like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:42 AM
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society isn’t supposed to walk you by hand there. I strongly disagree. Many of us unfortunately need that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:38 AM
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So I should make myself unhappy in doing things I don't care for with people who are not even introverted like myself? Shouldn't we meet people that are more like us rather than just meet all sorts of people?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:34 AM
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I'm not interested in doing things I don't want to do to meet people. I like video games, reading, hanging out, and watching TV. I don't like sports and volunteering just to meet women sounds morally dubious at best. If I can't meet people through these activities and not the extroverted-dominated activities you've described then it is society's fault and not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:29 AM
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If I could get a decent paying job that's within my realistic reach I'd take it in an instant. I've tried to search with no avail on the webs and have gotten nothing. Not all of us are lucky and fortunate like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:27 AM
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I have an old HS friend in my hometown who I speak to from time to time. I have no IRL friends. There's nowhere to meet people around my age, including work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:25 AM
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Your post sounds like it's biased to be extroverted and outgoing. This is something that I'm not. I'm happy being introverted and having hobbies that make me satisfied in life. By your life history you sound incredibly ambitious. I don't want life to be an adventure. I can still be interesting and not adventurous or outgoing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:24 AM
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Then who's fault is it? I didn't ask to be of very below average intelligence. I didn't ask to be a Savant. I didn't ask to require decent paying jobs that require school / degrees. I didn't ask to be put in a shitty job situation. I'm not saying I haven't made bad choices or I lack my own choices. I'm just saying you can't put the blame entirely on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:18 AM
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There's nowhere to meet people when you're an introvert. Dating apps are trash and haven't even worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:11 AM
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If you put me in the middle of a zombie apocalypse or with Hunter Gatherers I would thrive tremendously. I think a lot of us with limited potential in civilization also would. I'm not cut out for this conventional lifestyle. It places too much emphasis on degrees / school.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:07 AM
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I can't do anything else because the job horizons are low and there's not much you can do w/o school which I'm unable to do. I'd love to make more money but it's just not feasible with what I have to offer. I'm not smart, resourceful, etc. I'm not what people have to be these days. Does that mean I'm lazy or unmotivated? Not necessarily. Could I be lazy and unmotivated by virtue of my depression or below average intelligence. Possible. The point is women need to be more empathetic and understand…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:05 AM
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I think the problem is that not all of us have that charismatic, outgoing personality. Dirty manual jobs may pay better but they're highly competitive in nature. I can't find any. As for your two incomes I suppose that's a reasonable assessment. But if some people are struggling even with good incomes then why is living with your parents to prevent that struggle such a red flag? Makes zero sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:50 AM
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By living with my parents I'm supporting them which I do. It's too expensive to live out on your own. Whether you're a man or a woman. There's nothing wrong with living with your parents if you can't afford a place of your own. Sure there's a correlation between laziness / lack of motivation and living with parents. But it's not always the reason. You can't be prejudicial in the aspect of accepting that some of us are doing this as a strategic move to save money / help finances. I'd love to live…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:46 AM
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I'm fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:41 AM
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Yeah there's no sales jobs available for people who lack experience. And you need a degree for a lot of them, anyway. Good for you bragging about your 130k. you may be smarter than me, you may make more money than me, you may be more fortunate than me. but you were not neurologically gifted with my insanely OP powers. that you or nor any woman can take from me. Also, about two good incomes struggling that is also my point. If I even get a better paying job and find a partner that still means I'l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:39 AM
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How about we accept that living with your parents is completely okay and as long as both are working, finances are fine, then it doesn't matter. Why the fuck is there such a huge stigma against us men living with our parents? Everything is too expensive. And many of us are not smart enough to get a higher paying job to afford our own place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:31 AM
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Okay. So I have money but it's not as much as the woman also providing. Why can women be at home but not the man? Or why can't a dumbass motherfucker like me work a crappy security job because I'm mentally unequipped for higher paying work. But no, us men are 'lazy and unmotivated' to move out of our parents because rent, and all those things you mentioned are too fucking expensive. I'm not saying all women act like this but a lot in Western society do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:28 AM
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I said I have no motivation for a high paying job. Or if I didn't say that then I apologize and meant that. I can't find any decent paying jobs that require no degree / college / schools. I just want to work a decent paying job like everyone 100 years ago did straight out of high school. And be able to afford a family. Although I don't want children the point still stands. Women need to accept that women can make more than a man and man doesn't need to be ambitious to be worthy of a partner. Thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:25 AM
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I'm gainfully employed and financially responsible I just can't make more than a woman. I'm not smart enough for school / degrees or lack the intellectual veracity to learn. Why can't stupid people like me find love from a good woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:20 AM
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I inherit the house. But that's completely irrelevant. The point is a man who wants to be a 'housewife' should be more open and acceptable because not every fucking man needs a high paying job or career. Or in my case is even intellectually equipped to get such high paying careers What are your abilities? There’s always a better way to make money than to wage slave. Rapid mental calculation. I can auto-calculate infinite sums of numbers by division / multiplying, etc. Say a million numbers multi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:13 AM
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It shouldn't have to be which is henceforth the question / topic of discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:08 AM
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I don't want / desire children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:08 AM
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I think it's women's failure for not accepting that they've spent most of their history as housewives. And now want to play strong independent female. But wont let the man be the 'housewife' of the household. Yet when a man has his own limitations and cannot get a higher paying job due to mental illness, or disability, etc. like myself they now want to over attenuate their necessity for a ambitious, unrealistic goal type of man. Men shouldn't be judged by their career or jobs, but by their chara…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:04 AM
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That's not true most of us don't make a lot of money. That's because most are autistic and inept. And I can't make money off of my powers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:00 AM
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Well that's my problem. Western society or western women in particular seem extremely flawed in that regard. I can't find anyone around me that can accept me for lacking ambition and living simply put with no stresses of work, career, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:53 AM
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Why is ambition so important for women? I'm not saying w/o ambition we wouldn't be at the places we're at now. But why is it such a big motivator to get with a man? Why can't a woman just like a chill, laid back person who has no ambition and is comfortable with where he stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:50 AM
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It’s stressful, impacts quality of life including health, and is a leading cause of relationship breakdown because of above issues. I think what you're describing is modern society. Not necessarily low income. Studies show that many poor people have a high level of well-being and happiness throughout the world. Despite their financial setbacks and hardship. Especially those living in hunter gatherer societies, or the one's still existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:48 AM
1

I'm a non-autistic Savant that make 24k and live with my parents. Do I have a shot at finding a good woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:32 PM
1

Meeting people is easy. I meet people all the time at the grocery store. Finding connection is extremely hard after college.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:26 PM
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Oh I agree with the last part but I disagree that you can meet people in your 30s w/o college or work. It's virtually impossible unless you're extroverted and enjoy doing different things. I suppose someone who's less outgoing is going to have a harder time meeting people and making connection in a world dominated by extroversion. But this is the problem in that we should have a sense of community for everyone. Not just outgoing people. I don't consider socializing to be synonymous with outgoing…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:13 PM
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I strongly disagree as many people have tried most of these things and end up with little to no success. Most people these days have their own friend groups and social circles. People do hobbies with other friends or family. I think you're describing possibilities w/o accounting for the actual reality of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:59 PM
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There's nowhere to go when you aren't into drinking, concerts, and sports. Everything is extroverted-dominated. Socializing is great if you could have like places to meet people and talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:44 PM
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Why did it end?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:38 AM
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I can't make money with my gifts. That's the thing. They're worthless. Unfortunately 24k is well Below average and will damped a young family or even a couple. Then what else am I supposed to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:16 AM
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Dating apps don't work for the average man. You have a better chance surviving the post-apocalypse than getting a match. Meet women IRL. Organic produce is superior to artificial preservatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:13 AM
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First sentence already had me in tears.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:04 AM
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As a non-autistic Savant who's making 24k a year working as a Security guard in Florida, who's saving his money by living with his parents; I greatly applaud your empathy. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:18 AM
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Not smart enough for school. I have an atrocious memory which is further dampened by severe depression. The only skills I have are writing and my savant powers. I'm also a very kind hearted, loyal, and empathetic person who has been shielded by the toxicity of modern dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:10 AM
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I know man. I appreciate the empathy. But there's just not much else I can do. Life sucks when you're born stupid and not intellectually gifted or at least average intelligence. All you're left is scraps and breadcrumbs. I think I'll be okay in the end. I hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:09 AM
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I save my money and I can't think of anything else to improve my situation. Not smart enough for school. And renting with no roommate or partner is complete bonkers on my salary. I'd love to meet a partner where we can move in together and I can get some emotional encouragement to better my situation. But I'm plagued with bad luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:00 AM
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I would if I could make more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:51 AM
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I live with my parents because I can't afford to live on my own at 24k a year. I find that highly disparaging and callous. I am still otherwise a good catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:02 AM
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Nothing wrong with living with your parents or family. It's very normal outside of the US/UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 06:38 AM
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Maybe this is a semantics argument but when you say attractiveness that could mean a million things. It could mean purely facial attractiveness, personality, humor, etc. I don't think that you can lump most of us into the category of socially awkward and ugly. I don't disagree that virgins are of universally low SMV. I just disagree that most are unattractive (face-wise). Maybe for the other reasons they are. Idk. I'm this way due to medical problems and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:06 AM
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More attractive people having sex at higher rates than unattractive people doesn't necessarily tell you about people who are still virgins in their 30s/40s. They could be just as attractive but for a million unspecified or unknown reasons are in the place they're at. That's what I'm getting at as far as creating a stereotypical pattern is concerned. One doesn't necessarily follow the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:51 AM
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The problem is that there aren't enough in depth statistics on people like us to create such false assumptions. We don't have (to my knowledge) any statistics on effort, grooming, social skills / savviness, autism, facial attractiveness, age, etc. and taking all these variables and creating an objective statistical pattern across all cultures or areas. The data just isn't really there yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:43 AM
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If dating were easy nobody would do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:41 AM
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It's assumptions are usually wrong, inaccurate, or stereotyped and I've been hit on by women in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:36 AM
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I don't think society in general cares much about us because we make up a very small percentage of the population. I don't see any TV shows, films, etc. based on our struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:33 AM
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I strive to be exceptional in my hobbies. just not my financial interests. I'm not smart enough for the latter but artistically gifted enough for the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:18 AM
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I make 24k a year and live with my parents. Does that mean I'm fucked?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:17 AM
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Can someone explain why there are more men than women on dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:35 AM
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Almost every woman that I've met in my personal experience with a lot of noticeable tattoos are usually extroverted / adventurous, or LGBTQ. Both traits of which don't appeal to me. The former because I'm not an extrovert and the latter because I'm straight. I wonder if there's a positive correlation between the number of tattoos a person has and the similarities of personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:26 AM
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There isn't anywhere to meet people. The places to meet people are in the places you don't match the same energy levels. For instance, I'm not a drinker / smoker. I don't like bars. I don't like traveling and prefer being at home or in one place to chill. I'm a low energy, chill person. I like socializing but most people out there are extroverts. There isn't anyplace to connect with people that match your energy levels. This whole world is extroverted dominated it's insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:09 AM
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There's nowhere to meet people if your hobbies and passions are just gaming, reading, and hanging out at home. Also, I feel that another major problem is a lack of values. To find people to connect with who share the same values is far deeper and harder to attain than finding people to share a hobby together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:08 AM
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I make 24k a year and live with my parents and I can't seem to find a woman. I don't care if a woman makes more money or is more financially successful than me. I want to be with them because I like them. But to them it seems to matter quite a lot for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:06 AM
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I want the government to create a place where people can meet other people more easily. And not these separated spaces of extroverts doing their own things with little room for introverts to feel comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:39 AM
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So what is your solution to helping out introverts w/o forcing them be extroverts to find connection?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:35 AM
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They really don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:34 AM
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No but I'd venture a very large portion of people, both introverts and extroverts, enjoy video games. And I'd bet my money that a good portion of us would go to Arcades if they did exist to meet other likeminded people. The problem is there aren't any real life venues where people can play like going to a bar, a concert, a stadium, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:32 AM
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The problem is you're falsely conflating social awkwardness with having a disinterest with extroverted activities. I have good social skills and I despise sports and bars as I don't drink or smoke. There aren't any places to meet low key, chill, laid back people who prefer smaller groups or activities like gaming or watching TV / movies. I'm not an outgoing person but I still want to have connection with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:30 AM
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I know they're bad. I was just using an example of how this might be the case for other people, mostly women. less so for men. In any case, you don't need hobbies to have a shared experience. you could make friends in school or at work. those don't require hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:28 AM
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Yes, you must do extroverted things if you wish to meet people which is an extroverted activity. Your hope would be meeting another introvert who is doing this so you can then retreat together provided you're both amenable to that situation. This is wrong and I refuse on moral principle to change who I am as a person to cater to the majority and what they expect or want from me. I would rather die alone than change what I love about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:27 AM
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So here and we have the problem as to how we get society to be more of an equal playing field when it comes to introverts and dating? How do we foster a form of connection for introverts to easier or more comfortably access w/o the toxicity of dating apps? I don't know any introverted activities although I'd say gaming? Maybe writing?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:25 AM
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You're not most people, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:21 AM
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It works for you because you're not most men. Where do you think most people meet their friends they make after college? Nowhere. Work, at the least. So you think people who aren't charismatic or outgoing don't have friends? That's pretty much half of society. They do. Do you REALLY think, that you being a virgin at 31, something that applies to <1% of men, having had no relationships, and no (?) current friends is because the world just changed? YOU are the extreme outlier in a world where peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:08 AM
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Wrong wrong wrong. Dating apps are an example of how this isn't the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:05 AM
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Dating and relationships are not just extroverted activities. You can find fulfillment and connection w/o doing sports or going out all the time and trying new things. The problem is that you think introverts don't enjoy social interaction and this is wrong on so many levels. We thrive on social interaction and connection. We just do it with other people who share our similar energy levels or at our own personal expense of smaller group circles. Society doesn't have that because even these clubs…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:04 AM
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So you're suggesting instead of making the world fairer for introverts in connection and social interaction (in the real world) we should be forced to adapt to an extrovert-dominated world? I have to do things I actively don't enjoy just to take the risk of meeting other extroverts who don't share the same energy levels as me?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:59 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:57 PM
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Pretty much. But not just me also fellow introverted gamers as well. We still make a large portion of the population. Advertise it and set it up at large festivals or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:56 PM
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Pretty much. Not everyone is an extrovert or should be catered toward extroverted activities to connect and meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:55 PM
1

I wish they had that where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:54 PM
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I don't care for dancing. Why do I have to do shit I don't want to do to meet people?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:53 PM
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Government has a responsibility to provide resources to its citizens to fulfill their emotional needs. Ie: community centers aimed and advertised for single people and introverts. That's all you need. Everyone in my age range is already taken and already has their friends / social circles set up from college and work. Nobody is interested in meeting other people these days. Doing extroverted things as an introvert should not be the way to approach social connection. People should have sources to…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:43 AM
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Online dating doesn't work. Nobody is meeting friends in public places or bars or clubs, or at least the majority. Besides, I don't drink or smoke. Most of your social circles and friends have solidified in college / school or at work. You have to be charismatic and outgoing to gain friends doing activities that you don't like to do to meet people. Not all of us are A. extroverted / outgoing or B. charismatic. Not everyone is fortunate like you to have a strong social base and environment where …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:31 AM
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No money or resources. It'd be nice to just go to a place to play video games and meet people or single women who are also into gaming. But these places don't exist IRL, sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:28 AM
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I do. I go to the grocery store a lot and go swimming when I'm off of work. Nowhere to make friends or meet single women in your 30s. I don't drink or smoke so bars are obviously out of the question. I like video games but there are no video game groups in the Tampa area. I dislike sports so sports are out of the question. I guess this leaves volunteering but volunteering for the purpose of finding a girl just doesn't sound moral to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:23 AM
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I think it's worth a shot because it's unfalsifiable / hasn't been done. It may or may not work but clearly the alternative we have now isn't working.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:37 AM
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How am I a troll? If the government literally advertises or creates a big cookout or whatever with the big slogan of 'single people come here!' or 'lonely people this way!'. That's going to get far more publicity and popularity than these smaller groups or clubs or whatever. Which would have far less people and less publicity / inclination to get other people. I'd probably make the national and local news. Are you kidding me?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:23 AM
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And yet none of them are even as efficient as my own suggestion of getting the gov't to do it for us. Bring in the government to help us out. Gov't got money. Gov't got advertising. Gov't got us all by the balls. I'm just a small fry compared to what the gov't can do / is capable of.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:15 AM
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Why don't you arrange a BBQ? Or a LAN party? Or book a movie viewing of whatever movie you like? Advertise those as single mingles. Ah, but that requires effort. Not only does it require effort. It requires time, money, resources. The gov't has more of this than just a single man. Also, the government does a better job advertising than a single person. Like I said, look up community centers, those are funded by the government. Plenty of old, lonely people have found groups of friends in those. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:12 AM
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Lots of groups with focus on movies or video games. This is wrong on just so many levels it's laughable. Maybe where you live but not where I or thousands of other people live.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:01 AM
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If you're seriously using that (mostly) bogus website as a counter to my gov't proposal as a solution then you clearly haven't been paying attention entirely or are oblivious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:59 AM
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On the internet. Not in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:57 AM
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Also BBQ's and cookouts as well, unironically. With big advertisement slogans of 'meet single people here. all welcome'. Another also, are video games even a 'nerd' thing anymore? I thought most people were heavily into gaming now. It's not really 'nerdy' to be into gaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:56 AM
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You form a connection based on talking to people and socializing. You don't need hobbies to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:55 AM
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I never said I wasn't willing to participate but there's no means to participate with the current social climate. The gov't doesn't supply single meetings or large cookouts for the sole purpose of connecting the community. None of these things exist, dude. At least not on the scale of a large public gathering or rally where we're all connected with each other like in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:48 AM
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Because it's not advertised for the sole purpose of connection. That makes a HUGE difference in both the outlook and outcome. There are countless stories of people attending these things where it ends up leading nowhere but further loneliness. Joining groups you don't actively enjoy just to potentially meet people is a high risk of loss and a strong but small probability of reward outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:46 AM
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I was using the BBQ / arcades as examples of how the gov't could bring the community together. With the advertising label of 'meet single people here!'. Of course I have a personal bias towards it as I enjoy eating and gaming. But that doesn't mean the theory itself isn't sound. you don't want to go to places where you might find likeminded people who share your interest because there's no available pussy/they might not want to make new friends, but the government should somehow, magically, crea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:42 AM
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I don't know because everyone is different. But I still feel that everyone has a desire to find connection. If you label something and encourage people to actively go out with these sponsored programs with the advertised purpose of meeting people, perhaps this could be a chance to break ground. We simply don't know if introverts wouldn't be willing or not because like I said such a feat has not been attempted by our gov't. Maybe you need something with its sole purpose is to help you get up your…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:35 AM
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Video games. These communities don't exist where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:32 AM
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I expect the government to provide to help single people or lonely people who are in need of aid and resources. Much like we expect the government to help victims in big natural disasters. Or those suffering from mental health or drug addiction. I agree that it takes voluntary commitment as an individual to get up your ass and do something. but it also takes the correct resources to make that person encouraged to use the resources to act. We don't have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:25 AM
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I don't know what introverts enjoyed or didn't enjoy back then but what I do know is that creating a space and labeling it as 'meet single people here' is a good start to encourage them to get out. Such a gigantic, communal scale hasn't been attempted in such a direct means of advertisement so it's unfalsifiable to say that it wouldn't work for introverts. Dating apps are obviously bogus and aren't even remotely the same thing so and we're not going to go there. I guess an appropriate avenue wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:21 AM
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So go out and socialize. I do. But it leads nowhere because no one wants to make friends post-college or make friends with someone you've just made small talk with at a grocery store. There's no moral failing in not catering to people who need to be provided a pony and a lollipop to be convinced to go out and meet people. Your social life is your responsibility, be an adult and take matters into your own hands. Then give us the tools to assist us in our journey in finding connection. Not just te…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:16 AM
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It isn't society's obligation to help you find a mate. I strongly disagree. It may not be a right to force everyone to be in a relationship to be happy. You can't regulate relationships via the gov't. But it is definitely a moral obligation to keep its citizens emotionally happy and not lonely via giving the means, resources, and tools to see to it that we use it in such a way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:58 AM
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My hobbies aren't solitary. I like video games, watching TV / movies, and hanging out and socializing. If there aren't enough people who wish to engage in your hobbies, you will have difficulty finding friends and romantic partners. You're describing the problem not solving it. If you refuse to engage in activities that would allow you to meet more people, you're going to remain struggling to find people to socialize with. This is where we meet the moral failure of unable to have society be incl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:56 AM
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They um do have those things already. Parades, cultural festivals (yes, some include barbecue), actual chicken bbqs, all government sponsored and often at least partially run. And often well attended by all sorts. Where do they have these because living in Florida since summer 2021 I haven't heard a single one of these big government community festivals? Also, the problem isn't just the funding but the association or semantics of the activity. You need to advertise it and actively label it as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:52 AM
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About your first paragraph, I hear a lot that doing these things ends up being unfullillng because you're not doing them out of genuine interest but for the sole purpose of finding women. So when your hopes are laid to rest you end up feeling like you've wasted your time for nothing. In contrast to 99% of our history in the pre-industrial era, we had more time to do the things we wanted to do and it was easier to just meet people w/o needing to use these mediums to socialize or connect. We need …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:38 AM
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If you want government run clubs for mostly singles, you can always do teach for America, Americore, or the Peace Core. What does the Peace Core and all that have to do with the government actively fighting the loneliness epidemic, the imbalance of extroverts over introverts, and the overall failure of modern dating? No, but really, what do you think these communities would look like if they do not include sports, hobbies, volunteerism, etc.? People in the community getting to know each other. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:25 AM
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That's not being based that's being an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:46 AM
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All Middle aged and boomers. I'm a security guard.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:06 PM
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Yeah man. Their kids will always be first in line and you'll always be second best. I am childless and desire someone who's childless like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:31 AM
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I don't want children and don't want to be with someone who has children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:15 AM
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They say doing activities for the purpose of finding women is a bad idea. Not to mention expensive if you aren't getting any returns and are just wasting time going there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:44 AM
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My ideal is to date a woman with no children or doesn't want children, yes. But the vast majority of women want children, sadly. My options are highly limited. Some men say that they feel like a genetic dead end or like women are breeding them out of the gene pool, do you feel this way or does it not matter to you? I don't carry my self-worth based off my genetic lineage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:13 AM
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I don't want children. I have no desire for children or to help raise someone else's child.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:53 AM
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You're a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:32 AM
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How can I get someone in my age group when everyone in my age group is already taken or a single mama with kids? You're not leaving me a lot of wiggle room here, ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:57 AM
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yeah I'm a certified retard that makes 24k a year and lives with his parents. Not happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:40 AM
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I'm an atheist. Unless you're suggesting I pretend to be something I'm not in order to swoon my way into her bedsheets?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:19 AM
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This is the problem with modern dating is that it only caters to extroverts. I don't like sports, concerts, bars, festivals. Where do I find a low activity woman fellow introvert like me who just likes to watch TV, surf the web, hang out and chill, and play video games all day?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:09 AM
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A few years with 500 matches as an average man? lmao In your dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:07 AM
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I'd rather just be datable and find someone I find attractive datable. Apparently for a lot of us men it just never ends up happening. Interesting that you're asking this question toward men and not women. Women have endless options so even if the woman wasn't a preference for most men men would still take them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:04 AM
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I agree but on average if someone has a high body count it's generally indicative of not being particularly monogamous which could potentially lead to marital dissatisfaction such as cheating, etc. Issues being the term for incompatibility traits with and for their partner. We can see this in research. I'd also say the same for someone with no body count. Just because you haven't found someone to do the nasty with, no matter how old you are, things like luck and timing can massively impact "clos…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:15 AM
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than overly masculine although I am 6’3 And there you go. There's your answer. Also, masculinity has nothing to do with height. Also, you have to consider those that are in for a relationship and those who just want casual sex. I have standards and self-decency so I'm looking for the former and not the latter. Although everything else you say is interesting. All the attractive ones are taken. Like all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:02 AM
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We know through years of research that promiscuity and casual sex / hook up culture are all intimately related. And we know that promiscuity and casual sex is linked to increased divorce rates and marital dissatisfaction. It's no surprise that a high body count, while not intrinsically bad, is generally indicative of more deep personalized issues going on. It's the same with someone like me who has no body count. It's not inherently bad but it shows that there is probably something wrong or inco…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:57 AM
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They mostly exist on universities / colleges. I finished college already. Everyone in my age range is either taken or single but with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:52 AM
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What's worse? Dating an experienced bisexual dude who's had a sausage fest and is now back to tuna fish or someone like me?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:48 AM
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You're in the top 1% of looks. There's no way even an above average person is clocking 500+ matches. I live in Tampa, FL and I've only gotten one match for a whole year. I've been hit on by a lot of women IRL in public places and I'm not even good looking / just average. I just have high confidence and naturally humorous so my aura takes over my average appearance. You can't detect auras on a dating app as opposed to photos. Dating apps are utter garbage and don't work for 99% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:38 AM
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Universities are filled with college kids in the late teens / early 20s range. Try being in your 30s and looking for single women in their 30s with no kids. I'm a childfree gentleman looking for a woman with no children. Living in Tampa out of all places. I'm shit fried out of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:35 AM
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Even if you're attractive dating apps are a waste of time. Source: have been hit on by multiple women IRL who I'm not attracted to at all. I used to get hit on by nurses when I worked as a security guard for a medical office building. But I wasn't into any of them and some were single mamas so I backed off. You can't meet single women IRL anyway (at least in the 30s range) so I don't even bother going out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:33 AM
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There's nowhere to go. all I like to do is watch TV, surf the web, hang out / socialize, and play video games. I'm an introvert. Not interested in concerts or sports. Surely there are low activity introverted women out there just like me? But where to meet them? Also, dating apps are complete trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:12 AM
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I don't care about experience. I care about chemistry. Experience is irrelevant as far as that is concerned. There's nowhere to meet single women in their 20s once you're out of college.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:05 AM
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Owning a home and traveling are too expensive for some of us who only make 24k a year and have to live at home with their parents. I'm a Savant with a college degree and I'm worth peanuts to both society and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:27 AM
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I'm in my early 30s and everyone in my age group is already taken. The only one's that are single are kids in their late teens / early 20s or divorced middle aged people in their 40s. Being single in your 30s seems to be a rarity to behold.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:24 AM
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Not really. I've been hit on women multiple times in the past. I have medical reasons to which I can't really have sex. That's pretty much the only reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 05:22 AM
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nope
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 04:50 AM
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I've been hit on by single mothers who just want to use me for sex and I decline each time. Not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:36 PM
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Your height is in the 96-97% tile in 99% of countries and you're built like a rake. Leave the guy alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:55 PM
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Could you fall in love with Hans Gruber if he took you hostage?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:48 PM
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But what if I don't want to be a father? What if I don't want children? You don't know how many single mothers have asked me for free sex to which I politely decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:38 PM
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Why do you guys have to make things so complicated? If a man likes a woman and vice-versa then you date them and if there's good vibes and compatability then have a happy life together. It's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:10 PM
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It's very hard when you're making 24k a year and living with your parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:03 PM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:03 AM
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I live with my parents. Finished college.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:23 AM
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I agree. I never said I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:46 PM
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I might fall into number 2 but apparently standards are so low these days that it's hard to find me my female counterpart.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:43 PM
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If it makes you feel any better I was baptized and my family is religious / Roman Catholic. We have a bible right on the dresser and crosses in our house.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:10 PM
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I refuse on principle to date a woman who has had casual sex. Judging from all these posts the women who do it aren't worth dating, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:38 PM
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POIS syndrome. Rare autoimmune disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:15 PM
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Video games, watching TV, hanging out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:13 PM
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I'm an atheist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:45 AM
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Condoms don't completely prevent STD's as far as my knowledge is concerned. if you're good looking many of the girls you will have casual with wont have had many partners. You usually get them when they just broke up with their long term boyfriend. This sounds interesting. Are there scientific papers that suggest this to be true? In any case, why would a woman who's just gotten out of an LTR decide to go casual? Does this reduce hope for guys like me who have standards and want a woman who doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:23 AM
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Playing video games and watching movies aren't only solitary. I can't find anywhere to meet and socialize people with these things. You can do it with sports, hiking, concerts, etc. but there's nowhere to meet people who just want to chill at someone's house and play games or hang out. Everything is outside dominated. Especially down here in Florida.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:08 AM
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Why people have casual sex with the high risk of STD's is beyond me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:02 AM
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Meeting people is hard in your 30s. Especially when your coworkers are all middle aged or boomers. and everyone in your age group is already taken or married. Small talk is easy. Making friends is hard. If you have evidence to suggest the contrary I'm all ears.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:47 AM
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I like video games, TV / movies, and hanging out. We need more indoor fun less outdoor fun for meeting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:45 AM
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Meet people as in like go to a grocery store and talk to the cashier? Yes, not easy at all. Meeting people as in getting to know them on a personal level or social circle? After college / university? In your 30s? Exceptionally difficult. and the government already sponsors events and spaces to make people feel less lonely Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:00 AM
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I don't agree that some of us don't want to go outside. It's that there's no outlet to meet other people except unappealing places like pubs or hobby groups which don't cater to their hobby groups. We need a space like the Internet where the gov't can create or sponsor social groups to alleviate loneliness in people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:57 AM
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The point is to create a space to make people feel less lonely. If we live in a society where it's extremely difficult to meet people then the faults need to be addressed. I see nothing wrong with government sponsored events to bring people together. Whether for video games, or just socializing lonely people in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:55 AM
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If it's exceptional then perhaps that shows the significance of its importance. I don't think helping people feel less lonely is being 'catered' to or 'entitled'. Perhaps you could elaborate on why or how this is and relates to moving for a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:42 AM
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It's not entitled. It's asking for basic decency of oppurtunity w/o isolation. The opportunities should be equal to everyone. I don't want it just for me. I'm using me as an example of a broader problem addressing loneliness and a lack of support for bringing people together. We have no real community support. Video games are just a very small microcosm of a real and growing problem in the digital era.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:33 AM
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State-funded community support with the direct and open address of bringing lonely / single people together. Build arcades or spaces for gamers to come together and play with the purposes of community and gaming. Non-for profit gaming spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:30 AM
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I shouldn't have to move.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:26 AM
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People don’t socialize with strangers while playing arcade games But they socialize with strangers playing online. I've met friends online from playing online. Why would it be any different from some game center / Arcade?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:24 AM
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I like video games. Video games are mainstream. The fact that I can't find a place to meet other gamers and just game at some Arcade is a sign that society needs to do better with creating communities to create connection. Video games are just a small example based on my personal anecdote. Society doesn't need to provide me with arcades. What it needs is to provide resources to create communities into gathering together to allow people to do these things to begin with. This is what the Internet …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:21 AM
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Video gaming is supposed to take place online. Are you kidding me, bro? Seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:17 AM
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You didn't I was just asking a question in relation to finding accessibility in meeting people or partners. Many towns have arcades, bars and other venues with dart/pool competitions, trivia nights, watch parties, movie nights, etc. I live in Tampa, FL. show me a place where gamers can come together and play shit and I'm down. There's no space for gaming and gaming is a huge mainstream hobby for many people. Like I said, it's the fault that society doesn't cater to these interests people have. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:16 AM
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I earn 24k a year and live with my parents. If there's someone to be discriminated against in the dating scene it's gonna be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:56 AM
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Not necessarily. Just make it more convenient for people. That's all I'd ask. There are extroverted activities that are way more convenient and ideal for many people (sports, exercise, concerts). But there aren't for gaming in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:52 AM
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That's nice except those things don't really exist in many places or communities in the real world. it's mostly online. Do you really think most people meet their friends or partners at conventions? I'd like some stats on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:48 AM
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But your problem is largely personal. If introverted people wanted to meet like-minded people at board game meet-ups, LARP events, book clubs etc., they could easily organize that themselves. There is no grand societal issue preventing these people from connecting to people in their preferred way. And yet, people are still lonely and want friends and people to share their experiences with them. Why is this? The problem is that there's no feasible way to create the social space because that requi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:46 AM
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The problem is that there are no interest groups that cater to some of our interests in the real world. It only exists on the internet. I can't go to an Arcade or some game center and play video games with a bunch of guys. None of that exists at least where I live in Tampa, FL.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:41 AM
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They are? Where can I go to discuss movies / TV with other people in the real world? Or play video games with other guys? Maybe they’re better online. We don't know that. Has it ever been done before? I don't think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:38 AM
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Online, obviously. Right. So the point I'm making is to take it online and bring it to the real world. And conventions, competitions, store events, bar events, block parties, work functions and socializing. All of that depends on location.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:37 AM
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How else are we supposed to get to know you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:34 AM
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There aren't any and you haven't listed them. I can't think of a single place where I can go to an Arcade or gaming center and play games and meet gamer girls in real life. Or go to a movie or TV place and discuss / talk movies all day long with other movie fans. Maybe I could go to a university / college and discuss politics or philosophy. But that depends on your age group along with other factors as well. Sexual/ethnic minorities are proof of that Loneliness cuts through everyone regardless o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:10 AM
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I think there's a difference between expecting socialization on your terms only vs on the terms of society's predominance. I think both are equally flawed. Get society to stop catering to certain interests and focus on the interests of everyone. Like how the Internet has cultures and communities for everyone. Take that but bring it to the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:06 AM
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So what? Do people have a right to feel comfortable in their own skin when venturing out into the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:52 AM
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It's not that simple. This has nothing to do with coddling, it's about making convenience for different types of people in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:49 AM
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I didn't say that. Although to be fair I think humans are social animals so everyone equally needs to have some comfortability of healthy socialization. Whether they're introverts or not. This ties into your 'sucking it up' point.' The point I'm making in this context is the the world is dominated by extroversion and this dominance has created an asymmetric slant against those who aren't outgoing but still wish to connect with people. or have limited interests or hobbies that don't see the light…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:46 AM
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I suppose that's a fair point on a personal level but it still doesn't address my main problems which are at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:38 AM
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I didn't say there's no socializing where I live. I said there's no healthy means to engage in socializing via my hobbies and interests (video games, TV movies, science, debating politics / philosophy, etc.) Your anecdote is wonderful but it isn't an all-fitting glove to a multi-faceted problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:37 AM
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Because taking precedence over familiarity should be a baseline of comfortability as opposed to taking risks with the potential damage of not getting a return in your emotional / social investment. It's healthy to do things you haven't done before, to try new things. But at your own expense w/o risking the risk of damage to your personhood or self-image. It also doesn't address the fact that we need more ways to get outliers to feel comfortable in their own skin in the real world. That's what th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:34 AM
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I still fail to see how this responds or solves loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:29 AM
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Well yeah that's obviously true but it shouldn't be for everything in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:25 AM
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It's not an excuse it's just realism. If you think creating meetup groups is the solution to loneliness then either you aren't in the same position I'm in or you just lack introspection on how many layers this shit digs deeper. There's a difference between being introverted and finding a suitable space to meet people w/o the toxicity of dating apps. Or doing activities you don't like to do in order to accommodate society.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:21 AM
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We would put in work if we had the materials to reap the fruits of our labor. There is no more connection in modern society.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:18 AM
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The problem is there's nowhere to socialize or connect for everyone which is the main crux of my original post. Forcing someone to do something they don't like or feel comfortable doesn't solve the problem. You're essentially telling them that the reason why you're lonely is because there is something wrong with them. Sucking it up doesn't solve anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:16 AM
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I don't know how else it gets resolved, this is why I'm asking you how we can solve loneliness. I have no solutions to the problem. I cannot afford to move, your anecdote means nothing. Many of us cannot afford to move.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:11 AM
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I never said I'm outgoing in the extroverted sense. I just like talking to people. But there should be places in real life that allow us to cater to our hobbies (gaming, TV / movies) in order to do these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:10 AM
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Being an introvert is now considered special needs? Shouldn't the purpose of curbing loneliness is to address common ground between everyone on all ends of the spectrum?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:50 AM
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I don't think hosting an event would solve anything if people aren't going to join it. It also requires a base concept that would be popular enough for people to join it. I do appreciate the responses but they don't seem to shed light as to how we can fundamentally change society to make it more inclusive to lonely or introverted people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:48 AM
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I can't move because I'm not in a financial position to move. Nor can plenty of other people in similar situations as me, both men and women alike. Moving doesn't solve the problems, either. If people move it just re-shifts the direction of new lonely people into a new land like Lost in Translation with Bill Murray and Scarlet Johansson. What a needlessly callous response.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:45 AM
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I believe they are but its the extroverts who are doing it. The problem is we need to redefine ways to get outliers to meet other people in ways that are comfortable for both us and them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:44 AM
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Aren’t there video games conventions and science symposiums etc that people go to? Not where I live. I imagine that one could find like minded people at lectures at the local community college or event space. Absolutely true. But the window for friends and finding a partner seems the greatest in your college years. For us in our 30s who have no experience or friends, this is not gonna look good. Environmentalists could join local stream cleanup groups/projects. Most towns have astronomy clubs. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:30 AM
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I don't really have niche interests. I just like socializing and talking to people. The problem is all the activities that get you to do that (sports, bars, hiking, traveling, concerts, etc) I absolutely do not care for. I'd rather get together at a house party or play video games with people. Or watch some TV or a movie and have fun with it together. But you can't find anyone who's chill enough to do that because everyone in real life has their social circles already preset or they're extrovert…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:25 AM
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Plenty of people enjoy talking about those things. But usually discuss about them in a "third place" such as a bar. I've been to bars and no they don't. The women at bars are usually taken and the guys are like middle aged dudes with their already social circles. It also doesn't help that I don't drink or smoke. Then why don't you host a community event? Go on to meetup.com with a particular interest you have in mind and see who comes? I don't know why people keep using that site as a barometer …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:19 AM
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I meant anymore as in a means to socialize and connect pre-social media / Internet. Not specifically talking about that part (games, TV, science topics). Although, I do think the specialization of communities on the Internet is something that needs to be seen more in real life. We should be shifting gears from Internet subcultures / interests into the real world. Minus the toxic ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:12 AM
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What if you already have confidence like myself but have no avenues to pursue healthy socialization in both a romantic and friendship context? mental health can be a good contributor to loneliness, there are other factors involved too. Some are beyond our control. Like your environment, luck, unconventional hobbies or interests, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:10 AM
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How is it mostly a mental health issue? Could you care to elaborate. Genuinely curious on your thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:57 AM
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Thanks for the optimism, bro. Maybe I do have untapped potential within me that is just waiting to get released.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:55 AM
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The problem isn't asking for people to be delivered to us like a service. The problem is that society's service is catered exclusively toward extroverts and extroverted activities. Outliers shouldn't have to do things they don't feel comfortable with in order to meet other people. This is also not a extrovert vs introvert battle. I love everyone of all kinds. But rather, there needs to be a means to get society to adjust people's openness on a scale where everyone can find a means to socialize a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:44 AM
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I'm not even dating since I can't even find anyone to date. But thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:40 AM
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If someone's traits and interests are so unique and inaccessible to a great number of potential mates then they obviously do not prioritize cultivating a social life. I like video games, watching TV / movies, science, and socializing and discussing about the former three. I don't think there's any community outlet where I can meet other people that openly like to do that out in the world. Or maybe there is? I have forced myself to nightclubs which I hate just to hang out with friends. Sometimes …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:39 AM
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There's nowhere to meet anyone in the real world. When I mean meet people I mean actually talk to single women or people that you vibe with that is into the same shit that you're into. There are no community dances or board game events to go to. At least to the extent of several hundreds if not thousands of attendees meeting others at once. And when people do go they're usually taken or are already interwoven in their own social circles. Why should we have to do things we don't like in order to …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:36 AM
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I disagree. I don't care for casual sex and I can't have sex so willingly even if I was offered it in the past on numerous occasions by shady women. I have far more self-respect than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:32 AM
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Do you watch porn and/or jerk it? No. I'm not an asexual, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:22 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 11:01 PM
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Correct. Although that case study says the patient was dealing with low T. I have high testosterone levels. So I don't know how effective it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:57 PM
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Can someone explain to me how to meet women who enjoy playing video games? I don't like to do outdoor hobbies like hiking, traveling, sports, etc. I just like to play games and watch TV and just chill out like talk about whatever. That's it. Where do I find super chill, low activity women who are just like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:47 PM
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Can you explain to me where are you finding women to pursue? I've tried dating apps and they run bone dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:45 PM
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I like older women in their 40s and 50s over women in their early 20s. I find women attractive well into their 70s as well. I know I'm a minority, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:44 PM
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Post orgasmic illness syndrome. Rare autoimmune disorder involving ejaculation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:38 PM
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I believe both. https://www.reddit.com/r/Testosterone/comments/15v1hxm/why_do_i_have_elevated_testosterone/
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:37 PM
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I have high testosterone and a low libido. But this is unsurprising given I've never had sex before.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:30 PM
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What women? I can't even find a date let alone women to talk to in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:29 PM
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I'm so used to being lonely and not having a date I just don't really care anymore about romance or sex at this point. I'm like a spectator watching all you commoners fight it out in the arena.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:21 PM
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I have high testosterone (which explains my hairy body and deep voice) and have a very low libido. But the latter is due to being sex starved which I assume many guys suffer from.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:17 PM
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I'm a 31 year old virgin who's never been in a relationship. I'm not ugly, autistic and have good social skills and people are very friendly to my presence. My reasons are strictly due to medical problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:12 PM
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I'm a 31 year old virgin strictly due to medical reasons. I've also never been in a relationship due to medical reasons. It's not all about religiousness or being asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:11 PM
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I'm a 31 year old virgin who's never been in a relationship and only been on one date his whole life. I feel the prime age is over for dating once you hit 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 02:19 AM
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