sayin20 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	How do you handle traits in your SO that feel too alpha? What was the conversation about? Was he answering a question or did he say that out of the blue?	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/19 04:41 AM
1	(Discussion) How much does having a feminine personality matter? How much does being feminine matter and what does a feminine personality look like? https://frithluton.com/articles/anima/ A little abstract, but in my experience, it depends on the characteristics of a man's anima and its level of integration with the psyche. The more you match his anima, the more attractive you will be to him on an emotional, subconscious level, even if you're objectively "bad" for his mental health and/or incompatible with his conscious standards. The less integrated the anim…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/19 11:37 PM
1	Reassurance? Hey, happy to help, hope you're feeling a little better about everything. Does absence make the heart grow fonder? I'd say so, but I'd be wary of viewing the growing fondness as a "sign" of anything significant until enough time has passed. "Love" gives you a cocaine-like high (source: brain scans); a withdrawal period is to be expected. You can have 100 rational reasons for breaking up with someone, be 100% done with the relationship, and still "miss" them once they're actually gone from your l…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/06/19 08:49 AM
2	Reassurance? As someone who has been in your shoes and almost broke my relationship in the process, the only reassurance I can offer is to help you rationalize the problem and break it down based on my experience & on what you wrote. The point of the break, as I understand it, is to demonstrate to him that you will be so OK without a constant stream of reassurance from him to sustain you that you can respect his boundaries when he says he needs space, even if a time frame isn't specified. He wants to see whe…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/19 10:23 AM
1	What is the difference between seeking justice and getting revenge? Justice can become too rigid, revenge too chaotic, but there's a definite overlap between them. Both seek compensation for a wrongdoing, but the nature of the compensation and the methods of obtaining it tend to be different. Justice seekers are socially acceptable and can count on support (whether in the form of legislative laws or moral ones). Even if we don't agree with their version of "justice" (which is more common and OK in the West than in culturally stricter, purity-based societies), we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/19 11:13 PM
1	What is the difference between seeking justice and getting revenge? What if the only compensation the wronged party seeks is the satisfaction of watching the guilty party burn?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/19 09:06 PM
–	Simple Questions Apologies for the late response. Your ideal type sounds like a real catch! The men you mentioned who were unnecessarily cruel to you... not so much. I'm so sorry you've been treated this way. A couple of things stood out to me. I'll be blunt. First, the discrepancy between your ideal type and the mean men you've met is too high. One could say your standards are too high, and that's why no man you've met comes close to reaching them, but I don't think that's the case here. If it were, then imo yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/19 09:50 AM
1	(discussion) Why is there almost no ACTUAL advice for women on "how to girl" like there is for men? Why is all the girl information kept a fucking secret??? Where are the systems and the strategies and mantras and shit??? Consider that men and women tend to communicate differently. Listen to how men and women tell stories, for example. From your post, I gather that you tend to communicate like a dude and really want the equivalent of a war map for women. The likelihood of finding a woman who can systemize info like a dude and be willing to write relationship advice that works for you is alread…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/19 11:00 PM
–	Simple Questions What types of men do you aspire to be with? Also, if not too personal, what types of toxicity are you noticing in the men you do attract?	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/19 05:57 AM
53	Obedient vs Doormat: Contradictory advice in RPW literature I think it means: Invest the largest percentage of your time and effort in your SO and relationship, to the extent that he knows you deeply care about him and will always have his back. But, not to the extent that you lose everything else that makes you who you are as an individual. This includes means of happiness and fulfillment outside of the relationship (like hanging out with friends or journaling). Because once you do this, and your SO becomes your entire world, you will become oversensiti…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/19 05:43 AM
1	Q4W. Are there partners you are emotionally attracted to and then others who you are physically attracted? (self.AskWomen) I'd say dominance manifests in different ways. Physical dominance: Beating other men in physical confrontations, whether in basketball or in a street brawl next to the local bar. Looking like you could defend your woman and your family from harm if the need ever arose. Athletes and military men are popular here. Unfortunately, so are felons. Not always mutually exclusive, whoops. Professional/Niche dominance: Doing well in the field of your choice, especially if she likes the field. This is usua…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/19 05:09 AM
1	Q4W. Are there partners you are emotionally attracted to and then others who you are physically attracted? (self.AskWomen) There's a reason why the bad boy with the secret golden heart (bonus: for one woman only) is the ultimate female fantasy. Whether you're a bad boy is immediately obvious. Whether you have a secret golden heart is much less so... unless you're a lot more golden heart than bad boy. So, to be blunt, if the hot alpha guy has any hint of commitment-worthy behaviors (i.e. caring), then most women would be emotionally and physically attracted to him (even if in large part due to projection) and choose …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/19 01:45 AM
3	Discussion: Introversion and the effects on dating for men vs. women "Why is dating online so much different than in-person interactions?" Because it's easier to maintain a fake persona online than it is in-person, especially if you're above a certain level of intelligence (both IQ and EQ). You have a profile to go off of from OLD, but who's to say that the profile is actually representative of the person? You have a lot more time to think through your responses / whether you want to respond in the first place. You also don't have to worry about managing your bod…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/19 10:46 PM