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ADVICEscarletcapsule/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 06:25 PM
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Can you share some of the most useful information that you were able to apply in your training and nutrition?
/r/TheRedPill07/02/25 03:43 AM
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Not at all. Many high-value men actively take charge and plan dates while also leaving enough room for their women to do it when they want to plan. His reluctance to plan is indicative of other unattractive traits (such as a lack of resourcefulness). Assess your situation carefully. In the case you choose to leave, vet your next man carefully in the first few dates to see if they are leading on the planning front.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/24 11:06 PM
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Wow how are you not endorsed yet! Excellent comment :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/24 01:05 PM
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Watch his actions, not his words. As difficult as it may be, this is not the time to be physically repulsed by him. Talk to him about it, hug him, and tell him calmly what you want the relationship to be like. Ask him lovingly if he can slowly start to pleasure you the way you would want to be. His intentions may be in the right place but this addiction to masturbation and potential death grip syndrome may be making his actions seem otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 07:52 AM
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In a world where ratchet nudity is abundant en masse, it's the dignified classy look that stands out as most attractive and wifey :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 04:38 PM
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Bless you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 04:36 PM
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On the contrary, this will make you a great wife to a high value man who genuinely cares for you and respects you. Don't change :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/24 07:31 AM
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Woah that absolutely deserves an apology and a big mental reset. The next time you feel like spouting something harsh, remember that it will be interpreted as nagging which will only come back to hurt you in the long run. As long as you can offer your man peace and respect, he will try to be the best man he could be for the family.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 08:12 PM
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Yes this is the only correct reply here
/r/TheRedPill02/01/24 05:00 PM
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In the spirit of transparency, do share your blood reports so we can actually help you out. Otherwise, we are all taking a shot in the dark. The comment by the retired doc is the most on-point here.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/23 05:12 PM
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You got this! Be grateful for everything you have learned from him and vet better the next time around.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 08:35 PM
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While that is most beautifully said, quantity has a quality of its own beyond a certain number 😂 After a couple of waves, it is so much better to seek and learn from the collective wisdom than explore one's own individual wisdom in this ocean of waves.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 06:30 PM
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Create large pockets of time and space for her mind in the house. If the house reminds her of chores, she would never be able to serve two masters- her motherly duties and you. See what's actually bothering her and make her feel that you are legitimately there to not only be an alpha leader but also a reliable provider (emotional one too). While you be there for her, don't fall into her frame.
/r/askMRP09/11/23 08:42 PM
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Top tier reply, this should be its own post! Generational blurring of gender roles has left most women treating their boyfriends as their girlfriends and vice versa (men treating their girlfriend as a fellow man). A lot of conflict can be avoided by just learning more about women and men.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/23 10:38 PM
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You mention two kinds of "jabs"- the playful ones you should learn to play along with and poke him back as a fun shit test and just being a goofy couple. the ones that hurt more - see if there is truth in what he is saying and let him know that you do not have a response right away and will think on it to respond respectfully. If it's a lame shit test, let him know he is being feminine and tell him that women use such tests to evaluate the security of the relationship. Tell him you will feel mor…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 11:40 PM
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Start working out, lifting weights, eating well, and taking better care of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 05:52 PM
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True
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 06:19 AM
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More power to you both! It's common advice on both trp and rpw to follow Fight Club rules and keep it hush hush. It takes a lot to look past the psychological benefits of keeping it a mystery and genuinely loving each other with truth and honesty.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 04:59 AM
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That's reality for you! The real answer is if you can rework your budget to do more with less. If that helps you both free up some time then that alone would be a godsend.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 11:45 PM
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A random helpful nudge from a stranger makes for such a great story.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/23 04:45 PM
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Just tell her that you see the value in the points she has raised and will start working on it. Then STFU and do all the sidebar things. It will take months of consistent work for your situation to improve.
/r/askMRP14/07/23 09:13 PM
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Take a refeed week (not a cheat week) with lots of protein and healthier variants of your favourite foods. You are in "food focus" due to prolonged undereating. Don't ignore this mental signal. Getting out of that mental state is only possible when the body feels full. Eat at maintenance for about a week. Like others have said, it's important to start resistance training to not lose muscle along with fat. Measuring your food intake with myfitnesspal and a food scale will help you cook tasty food…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 08:17 PM
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How does he behave on video calls when seeing your face can potentially make him calmer and happier? Have you both tried calling at a fixed time of day so it does not disrupt his plans? Maybe he is a bad caller and texter or becomes very stressed when he has to call you or anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 05:45 AM
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I can see how the question can be interpreted as bitter. It genuinely came out of concern though. Reminded me a bit of the movie 'Alfie'. If you ever want to make money your strength while pursuing your interests, ask on relevant subs. From generative art to NFTs, there are monetizable opportunities in your field.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/23 01:26 PM
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He is being upfront and open about his intentions. With another wife to deal with, this dynamic will be redpillwomen on steroids for you. You have to make sure you get the best possible partner with whom you can build physical, financial, spiritual, and emotional health. Be prepared to be very emotionally resilient if you choose to go down this path. If you are someone who can maturely let go of things that bother you (and there will be many such things whenever he brings in a new wife), then yo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 10:35 AM
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Why do you have no money if you are so smart and have so many things in life figured out?
/r/TheRedPill01/07/23 10:22 AM
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The world needs more self-aware women like you. So many fixable relationships fall apart for not having the courage or knowledge or maturity to identify these negative tendencies in time. I agree with you on everything except the part where you can sense that your husband is unhappy and you don't have to fix it. Men's psychology works differently when it comes to expressing emotional health (see I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression). If you are sensing h…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 10:15 AM
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True submissiveness and trust is when he doesn't need much convincing to something you disagree with. True submissive is you going with his decision (and choosing to go with it) and trusting him even when you disagree with it on a visceral level. If he breaks that trust, how would you exactly change your mind after knowing him for so long and understanding that he has shown the potential of being an understanding partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:49 PM
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What about The Emowered Wife helped you? How do you think OP can apply it?
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 06:37 PM
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Your comment has objectives, strategies, and tactics for OP to implement in her situation. That's very helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 06:35 PM
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Beautiful answer!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 11:18 AM
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Even if you end up with a man you rationally desire, there will be times where you create unnecessary drama (emotional or otherwise) which will require the guy to resolve. Over time, this argumentative behaviour will tire him out no matter how much you love each other. Therefore it is best for you to work towards not showing these traits so you can start living and loving a peaceful drama-free life.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 05:23 AM
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Very aptly described the situation. Those of them who lift, eat meat, socialize, and somewhat live a trp lifestyle do end up being successful well-rounded men
/r/TheRedPill28/06/23 07:10 PM
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Asking the right questions :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 07:27 PM
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Thank you for sharing examples from your daily life! Looks like the right amount of IDGAF, stoicism, playfulness, and leadership. I am happy for you! Are there areas where you are trying to improve yourself or the relationship even further?
/r/askMRP26/06/23 07:33 PM
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How has your dynamic with your wife changed as a result of that?
/r/askMRP25/06/23 04:41 PM
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You are the true embodiment of rpw principles. Wish more modern women in such situations get this realization sooner than you to save not just their relationships but themselves in the long run!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 04:40 PM
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I'd say majority. Put an airtag in your bag or something and have him add you as "my partner/woman" on his phone :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 08:09 PM
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Gotcha, in the future, read the books by Laura Doyle so it doesn't come to the ultimatum stage.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 06:07 PM
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Why would you give an ultimatum to a sad and hurting partner?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 05:55 PM
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How did that switch flip for you that let you decide that being in control isn't worth it?
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 06:41 PM
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You have dissected the gravity of OP's situation quite well by sharing your experience! What were the consequences from your dad's side like when you consistently tested the dynamics in the house? How did you eventually realize that testing is not the panacea?
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 08:04 AM
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Help her out with mothering in the process! It will only make the relationship stronger :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 02:56 AM
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Sure thing, yeah I am fine with that
/r/askMRP15/06/23 02:53 AM
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I am glad it helped illuminate the situation. Your woman will not subscribe to gender norms just because. She is doing the things she is doing because it is making her feel good in a way that a trad lifestyle would not. She will gladly be a trusting, submissive, sparring partner if she gets the three things you can provide for her- https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/140snox/rpw_adapted_the_trinity_of_security_status_escape Read both that and the TRP trinity article linked in that sam…
/r/askMRP14/06/23 06:50 AM
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Thanks for speaking the truth with utmost love as always!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 08:50 PM
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Cheers to your worldly sentiments, thanks for expounding it with examples! I feel wiser because of it :) You sound like a cool therapist (and human)
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 08:48 PM
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Thank you for your comment! How do you deal with emotional transference from clients who do not share the same values as you?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 07:22 PM
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LoL don't be so harsh on him. He is doing so many things right. What he needs to do is to build trust with his partner so she stops hiding things from him.
/r/askMRP13/06/23 06:34 PM
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When your partner does those things, she feels she is the one making the decisions, she feels free and independent. Since that power is not available to her at home because of the way you lead, she has to channelize her decision-making somewhere and treat her work life and finances as an escape from you.
/r/askMRP13/06/23 06:33 PM
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You are thinking as a man would think in this situation. If she has always been like this, she might have trust issues that go way back before you met her. If that is the case, then there is very little you can do to change her (no matter how much MRP you apply). When the kids are not around, calmly discuss with her about what's bothering her. Ask her what she feels. Ask her sincerely if there is something she is hiding from you. Let her know that it'll be a secret shared between you and her. Th…
/r/askMRP13/06/23 06:25 PM
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Sorry to hear about the split! How are you feeling? Firstly, focus on yourself for a couple of months before beginning to date again. Start living an interesting life with various hobbies that nourish your mind, body, heart, and spirit. Work out. Dance. Embrace your youness. As you attend these interest-based meetups, you will begin to find interesting HVM that are very different from the people who perceive you the way you feel right now.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 06:22 PM
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This is so beautiful to read! Three questions- How much emotional maturity did it take on your and his part to make sure you or him never strained the relationship in any way? How much did either of you have to change for each other? What would a "more feminist" and less "rpw" version of you would have done differently? Wishing you both the best!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 06:13 PM
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Yeah blocking is pretty immature behaviour on his part. He has become numb to your irritation over time and that's a vicious cycle for both of you to be in. This is partly your fault and partly his. Solution- find a mutual friend and talk these things out in person through without getting emotionally agitated (even when things get heated). Write down your points in detail and ask him if he wants to do the same. Tell him your relationship means a lot to you and this is a chance to fix it. Don't g…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 06:01 PM
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"Dear hubby, some things have been bothering me a lot for some time and I want to share it with you because I know you can help solve it. I am finding it overwhelming to do so many things together. Our income is unable to support our lifestyle here. What do you think we should do?"
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 06:08 PM
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What about the converse question- how to introduce RPW to women in our life?
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 02:43 PM
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Was he always like this or did he become more toxic/abusive over time?
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 07:37 PM
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Yes you are right. Most men and women we meet daily are somewhere on that road to improvement. The best we can do is sincerely nudge them in the right direction by calling out their weaknesses in a safe space.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 07:32 PM
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That is just her shit-testing and betafying you. Do you think the situation is beyond fixing?
/r/TheRedPill07/06/23 07:26 PM
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If he doesn't express it enough already, I thank you on his behalf for being his worthy copilot and partner in crime! Wishing you both the best :)
/r/TheRedPill07/06/23 07:23 PM
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ChatGPT is certainly not helping the situation. Increased comfort and convenience is killing attraction at a global scale for normies.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/23 07:17 PM
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Even if they don't think they are equal, they definitely want to feel that way every so often (especially in LTR and marriage scenarios). What should a man even do in this case? Make them feel good by telling them they are so equal?
/r/TheRedPill07/06/23 07:15 PM
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That is why it's a fine balance to reward them when the right combination of security, status, and escape via ever so slightly increasing commitment when they behave well.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/23 07:05 PM
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Every alpha goes through a paper alpha stage :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 03:08 PM
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Short answer- yes Long answer- it's nuanced and depends on how you execute these careers. Most of the time these professions require you to act in ways that reduce your value. Why would you want to be sexualized by men other than your HVM? Look at those careers through the lens of security, status, and escape: This is what men think women want - https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2y175a/the_trinity_of_security_status_escape See the recent post on this rpw sub on what women think that m…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 07:42 PM
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The solution to letting men open up to their women is to give them a safe space to share their feelings knowing that their women won't emotionally react to it instantly or be affected by it. It is incredibly hard for women in a relationship to do this because they are emotionally attached to their man. STFU helps a lot in these cases. If a man is repeatedly receiving strong reactions from his woman to honest feelings, he will only become more and more stoic/reserved and share less and less. This…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 07:06 PM
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Congrats on recognising the appropriate steps for dealing with your childhood trauma! Let's focus on your relationship with your partner before things turn sour- Ultimatums like the one you mention will only strain your relationship with yourself and your partner further. If he is willing to put up with your fights and angry behaviour (that can be considered a red flag), the least you can do is to let him know how you are working on it, thank him for being there for you, and apologize for emotio…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 06:47 PM
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The truth is that you and him are hurting really badly. Accept the truth, acknowledge it, distance yourself from him in the same house, and seek help from friends and forums like these. It will only hurt you and him more if you focus on the symptoms (him installing an app) instead of the cause (that you are both in an emotionally strained situation and need to let go). Apologize to him for not respecting boundaries, for transferring your negative emotions onto him as if it is his fault, and most…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 06:33 PM
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Like /u/RedPillDad said, just let your husband know clearly that you would love to be felt as "present" by saying and doing things like "insert actions here". Such simple suggestions nudge busy men in the right direction without the burden of emotional transference.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 06:19 PM
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Get a full body mirror, start working out or dancing in front of it. Smile at yourself every once in a while. Once the virtuous cycle of appreciating your naked self kicks in, you will begin to love yourself more and more!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 05:41 PM
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Thanks for the direct answer. How do you ensure that you are there for your daughter when she might need you?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 07:06 PM
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That polite way of clear communication is incredibly helpful advice, thank you! Since my post has been removed, I'll attempt to reach out via DM, is that OK?
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 10:15 AM
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What shall we make of this conclusion? The analysis seems thorough so it makes me even sadder that this is the case across professions. It does seem to align with everything RPW stands for. Is it the high stress nature of the job or just branch swinging in action (in order to remarry upwards)?
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 10:41 AM
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This pretty much! Have a direct conversation with her, OP. Find other missions such as purposeful work, exercise, to not only improve yourself and your frame but also to let her know you are doing your duty as a man well.
/r/askMRP17/01/23 10:25 AM
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Congrats! :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 08:07 PM
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