schrodingerscat94 Archive

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2	Men who dont get dates and relationships biggest problem with women I mean...If you have been paying attention, there have been a rise of AI boyfriends so I don't think that's a men's problem. I don't think there is anything wrong with having a preference of one over the other. The bigger concern is being delusional, such as hoping an AI/robot within recent years can reach human level companionship. I don't think it makes anyone a loser to seek out companionship with a virtual being. A lot of time, that's a way of self-help, i.e. practicing social interactions, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/25 01:52 AM
4	Women, what is the reason you don’t do onlyfans? (not trolling) Because I have better ways to make money while retaining my dignity. When you do OF, you are selling yourself as a product. In a way, you are objectifying yourself. And you are essentially telling everyone the biggest charm of you is your sexual appeal rather than your skills, which simply isn’t the case for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 06:04 PM
5	The patriarchal agenda: setting up men and women up to fail and be unhappy. It’s going to be 2026 and we are still talking about patriarchy in the western world. And no, gender roles are rooted in biology long before religion. It has existed since the Stone Age. The said “patriarchy” was created by both men and women then because it made sense for women to stay at home and raise children in exchange for men’s labor in the field. Feminism today isn’t about free choice either - it has turned into tribalism with female leaders.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 08:26 AM
2	What standards should men and women actually look for in someone they want to date? I have come to the realization that it’s better to list down all the dealbreakers that you cannot tolerate than to list down all the good qualities you want because let’s be honest, human beings are greedy and don’t we want it all? At the end of the day, it’s a bargain of what can I get versus what can I offer. Of course, for many, the dealbreakers only start to surface once you start dating someone. I have only learned much about myself until I have been with a few people. I have learned that d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 04:27 PM
4	We shouldnt give grace to older people making younger people mistakes. OP you seem to not understand why people are avoidant in accountability in the first place. Please do some research on stunted growth. Most stunted growth is the result of trauma. You can’t just yell at trauma victims to “grow up”. The only way that would work is to offer understanding and encouragement, instead of the shaming tactics you are doing here. OP, you are actual the reasons why men are retreating further - being completely unsympathetic and judgmental. I’m not sure if you are as “matu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/25 06:50 PM
–	All preferences are OK? I think having a preference within an agreed upon moral framework. For example, I think it’s widely agreed upon that pedophilia isn’t morally acceptable and regardless of gender, if your preference is dating children then that’s a big no no. Apart from that, as long as it’s moral (do you impose harm on the other person), then it’s largely a personal choice and a personal consequence. I think it’s totally reasonable for men to prefer, let’s say, large breasts or asses. It’s also totally reasonabl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 03:20 PM
1	As a 36 year old virgin, I'm worried about the rise of sexlessness among today's youth I have misunderstood and you are right. That did come off as not understanding. My apologies. I read it again and I understand from your perspective now. I am sorry.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 05:52 AM
-1	As a 36 year old virgin, I'm worried about the rise of sexlessness among today's youth Editing to make my answer less aggressive. I am not saying there hasn't been a larger societal problem - such as increasing stress and fear. Obviously I cannot offer any change on a societal level but we can perhaps do something on the individual level to improve our own situations. And I do agree with all of you that situations are dire. I am asking if there is something I can do to understand the problem and perhaps offer some personal insights. Look, I am just trying to help. I am not saying …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 05:41 AM
1	People have so much woo woo beliefs when it comes to gender. It's not that feminists demand "providers and protectors", it's those specific women in the videos demand men to fit into those roles so they get to benefit from it without putting in effort. Please don't take certain people's words and just generalize to everyone. There are lazy men and lazy women. In general, humans have become lazier and lazier, with the lack of willpower. Since you called yourself a nihilist, you should be familiar with Nietzsche's beyond good and evil, and will to power. Do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 02:55 AM
3	As a 36 year old virgin, I'm worried about the rise of sexlessness among today's youth May I ask what do you think is the major reason you stayed as a virgin but it seems like you want to have sex? And do you ever aspire to build a relationship with a woman? It's easy to move your attention from your personal situation to a societal trend to make yourself feel better, but it won't actually solve your problems. I think the best way to solve a societal problem is for everyone to solve it on a personal level one at a time. Remember, people make up trends. If you want, you can DM me. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 02:19 AM
0	Starting to believe that the man needs to love the woman more The moment someone turns any relationship into a zero-sum game, they are eventually ruining the relationship for themselves, regardless of the gender. Needless to say, I am divorcing my husband. I am taking back that self-respect and self-love. I don't care if I am part of the 70% statistics. I am done babying a boy. It's not good for him either. He is sinking deeper and deeper into multiple addictions (video games and weed). I don't hate video gaming by the way. I am a gamer myself, but not add…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/25 11:54 PM
18	The way women and BluePillers on here talk about "men" and what they have to offer women in relationships doesn’t make sense according to how women themselves idealize, seek, & rationalize romantic relationships. Okay. Maybe this is not what people want to hear. Ultimately, in mating, people choose the other party to share their burdens. It could be economical, emotional, physical or whatever. Some people care more about material comfort, others care more about emotional stability. Thing is, the human minds work in a way that we like to romanticize about the future, and whenever that future turns into reality, the reality almost never ever matches that imagined version, hence causing cognitive dissonance…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/25 08:46 PM
7	Women are much more naive than men If you associate naivety with low reasoning skills then I would agree with you. Women are naive when the definition of naivety is (of a person or action) showing a lack of experience, wisdom, or judgment. Women are not naive when the definition of naivety is (of a person) natural and unaffected; innocent. Women growing up in developed countries tend to be well-protected well into their adulthood and that is most likely the reason why they may seem to be "naive". When women are competing with oth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 07:08 PM
0	Would u be able to date an attractive women if u were a Male?? Yes. In fact I will perform so well that I can impregnate so many women that I would make you feel useless. And yes, I have money, brain, knowledge of romance, knowledge of how to make women feel good, I’m good looking, talented and ambitious. The male version of me would be an absolute chad. And I would assume I’m a lot taller as the male version. OP, as a woman I can pretty much get any man and as a man I think I can pretty much get any woman. But I don’t give a shit about that because I only …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 05:19 PM
2	When exactly is a woman deserving? This mindset is toxic on its own. Why can’t you be nice to people because you want to? Why must you get something in return? The moment you evaluate people based on their worthy, every relationship you have is transactional. And trust me, it will rekt you and make you see yourself as small. Be nice to people because you want to be a good person. If you don’t want to buy dinner, if you want to split because you don’t know the person enough? Be upfront about it. And when you decide to be nice, tel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/25 06:53 PM
–	If you aren’t violent, the dark triad is highly effective for both making friends or sleeping with randoms The biggest downside is that you will easily ended up hurting and losing the one person that matters to you the most. The more you seek control, the more likely you will lose control. I have gamed the system before. Just be careful what you wish for. Because ultimately you will be consumed by loneliness as your strategy does not allow for the growth of your psyche and deep relationships. Good luck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/25 07:26 PM
4	For a lot of lonely guys, they’re incapable of being good boyfriends….because they choose not to be. So both men and women do this thing but I do observe the natural tendency of men delaying problem solving in a relationship specifically. Every partner I have been with has been avoidant, even my current husband. Mind you, he is not even intimate with me anymore and has been like this since the start of the relationship. Except that I was being a dumb ass and treating him like a king since the beginning - giving him bjs, riding him, putting in all the effort. Once I stopped, the intimacy complet…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/25 06:54 PM
4	If you believe in "Nobody is entitled to a Relationship" and "Nobody is owed anything in a Relationship" then you believe in the following: You are confusing two concepts. Nobody is owed sex, love or affection from a stranger, but if one is in a relationship, especially bound by a legal document, then there is some sort of obligation there. The example you have given about a man leaving a sick wife or gf is different from demanding a woman that barely knows you to form a relationship with you. The man in the example given, especially for the case of marriage, has agreed to a lifelong commitment. This is literally the reason why peop…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/25 09:32 AM
0	Why don't you approach men? I don’t do cold approach per se but I’m forward in terms of showing affections towards men that I’m interested in. I have a high success rate with that approach. Happily married and still gives a ton of compliments to my husband on a daily basis.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 10:19 PM
2	Women can't have it all.. There is something called surrogacy. Wealthy women have other women bear children for them. So yeah women can have it all too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/24 06:23 PM
3	Women, what do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of men? Would it be easier if you were a man? No but it got better in my adulthood on its own. It’s not necessarily endometriosis. I only have it when my period becomes irregular due to irregular lifestyle. In adulthood, I started to pay more attention to diet and sleep. During my adolescence, I have body image issues and often skip meals. That really fucked with my hormones.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 06:14 PM
10	Women, what do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of men? Would it be easier if you were a man? Told my husband the same. Ever since I was 10, I have been ravaged by periods. I have passed out in school countless times due to debilitating pain. I have bombed so many exams because of periods. They always come when I’m the most nervous. It’s such a curse. I would rather be a man and have 10 times harder time in dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 09:47 AM
6	Men are superior to women when it comes to sports and lifting weights Bruh even among men there are different categories based on weight because there are bigger and smaller men by genetics. Are you gonna argue that smaller men should not even compete? Do you even know how weightlifting works lol?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/24 05:00 PM
1	I think there's a simple way to get people to understand why men shouldn't risk their lives for strangers. This gonna sound a bit mean but honestly you are just trying to rationalize that you are a rather selfish person which is completely okay to be. If you want to be self-centered, be self-centered. There is nothing wrong with self-preservation, but there is no need to convince others to. There are others in this world that are willing to make sacrifices for strangers and not looking for anything in return. And what rationale is there behind it? A lot of times, not much. Some people see the idea of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 01:37 PM
–	It is worth sacrificing a marriage for a paternity test. I support mandatory paternity test and let’s take it a step further. How about we make a database of all the test results and every new born is tested against the database automatically to find out who the father is. Then the father will be charged with mandatory child support right away unless the mother agrees not to. So not only will it deter women for committing paternity fraud, it will also deter men from committing rape, ons, cheating and so on without contraception.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/24 06:33 PM
5	Why do the majority of people find their life partner between the ages of 25-30? What happens during this time to cause this phenomenon? Does your timeline of having children include 5 years of planning of having the first child and another 5 years of planning of having the second child? XD	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 04:52 AM
5	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? This is because friendship and relationship are vastly different in terms of what’s at stake. You are not as responsible for your friends as compared to your partners. For example, you don’t share finances with your friends but likely you will need to with your partner. When you get sick, your partner might need to make medical decisions for you but your friends cannot do the same. This is why men and women alike are way more careful in terms of finding long-term partners. Imagine your position …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/24 08:44 PM
–	As an east asian woman, I don't get Western women's idea of dating and marriage OP, there are many reasons to why having children outside of marriage is more common and accepted in western society. 1. Western women are more financially independent, at least from a mind-set level. There are many western women that increasingly don’t believe the need to rely on men. This doesn’t mean they don’t want children. There exists a group of women that don’t desire the company of men but still want children and are financially capable of doing so. 2. Having children outside of marriag…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/24 08:38 PM
5	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? OP, what you are experiencing is the rite of passage most people go through. It’s the experience everyone goes through learning how to get to know and deal with people. It’s not just women that do this. Men, women, and non-binary alike. Some people end up with the same conclusion as you, but it’s not something I agree with and I don’t think you can get happiness with that conclusion. I understand it’s very difficult to connect with people especially in today’s world where everyone is manipulated…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/24 08:14 PM
–	The gender ratio is almost even, so why are so many guys unable to land a single girlfriend, while every girl seems to be taken People on the internet are not a good representation of real life because people that are perpetually online don’t meet people. Reddit is an echo chamber. Everyone I know irl is in a relationship past a certain age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/24 01:48 PM
1	Debate: I don't believe up to 3.7% of men raising children that are not theirs is an insignificant number, and here's why. It’s less significant considering that even with that logic, cheating leading to pregnancy is still small. The whole point of marriage is to legally bind two people together and in the event if one person cheats, the other person is protected. The number is not big enough to enforce paternity test for every child born. That being said, nothing is stopping a suspecting spouse to do a paternity test. It’s not a big enough number to ask for a national/international policy. And I’m not sure if men r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 11:27 PM
3	Debate: I don't believe up to 3.7% of men raising children that are not theirs is an insignificant number, and here's why. There is a psychological reason to cheating. Some people get more turned on by cheating because it’s a similar effect to getting your adrenaline pumped up during dangerous act. There is a phrase called playing with fire. It’s unsurprising that people that are cheating will intentionally not use contraceptives because it’s even more exciting. So I’m not surprised that accident pregnancy is more likely in infidelity. Furthermore, infidelity isn’t usually planned. It’s normal for married couples no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 07:47 PM
4	Debate: I don't believe up to 3.7% of men raising children that are not theirs is an insignificant number, and here's why. Commitment is literally the definition of a marriage. Speaking from someone who has taken a vow in front of a judge at a courthouse. Breaking that vow is lesser of a crime now but still a crime. Having an affair baby is definitely breaking the vow. And as such, an accusation of such is highly offensive and should be done with sufficient evidence. Women that complain usually complain because the suggestion is baseless. In professional terms, it’s called a slander.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 07:40 PM
0	Femininity is largely considered inferior to Masculinity and there are no good reasons for women to embrace femininity I don’t think femininity is inferior than masculinity. They are traits that complement each other. In fact most people aren’t 100% feminine or masculine because you need both traits to succeed. For example, femininity is associated with patience and empathy which are very much required to be a good leader. Look at modern leaders today. Which popular and capable leader is about complete domination? In fact the leaders that show largely masculine traits are failing (e.g. Putin).	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 09:25 AM
2	Western women's dating options are shrinking. That’s why it’s a warning to ask them to be careful, not to stop them from doing what they think is right. Love can blind us all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 08:22 PM
3	Western women's dating options are shrinking. Funny on you to assume I'm a western woman. And ask anyone who has actually lived in east asian countries the above is not true. Oh actually not just east asian too, it's SEA as well. :D	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 04:29 AM
4	Western women's dating options are shrinking. For all the passport bros out there, be really careful of whom you are marrying. These ladies from third world countries aren’t dumb. They know how to divorce rape you and will do that intentionally once they get their paperwork. Those girls only appear to be submissive and feminine because they want something from you. And East Asian women have their own problems too (being very dependent and controlling). Pick your poison.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 02:34 AM
1	why do women still want to get married? That’s a very nihilistic view and it’s generally not true. There are many people happily married like myself that would contest that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/24 02:35 AM
2	why do women still want to get married? It will take a long time to reach that point. Probably not something the millennials and up will see in their lifetime. And it’s really beyond that. The biggest incentive beyond legal reasons is financial reason. Pretty much the only way to afford buying a house is to have a two income household. The list really goes on. Of course the basis of all of that is a happy marriage, which I would agree takes quite a bit of effort to maintain. But hey, no pain no gain?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/24 02:16 AM
6	why do women still want to get married? Marriage is great tool to de-risk for both gender, if and only if between two people with comparable income and assets. Being alone in this world gets riskier and riskier as you grow older. A lot of young people don’t recognize that until too late. For example, the chances of you getting sick gets exponentially higher when you are old. Do you think you can still rely on friends to drive you to the hospital every single time? It’s an uphill battle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/24 05:59 PM
1	I don't buy the narrative that single, childless women are the happiest group Well the Harvard research shows that married, religious couples are the happiest people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 08:06 PM
1	Medical Technology will replace Men, and we should plan for it. Idk if the majority of women really want to replace men. It sounds like a small group of women don’t want to rely on men but that doesn’t mean they don’t want men at all?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/24 06:13 PM
4	Women who hate Redpillers do not hate Redpillers Idk your friend group sounds shallow af. My friend group consists of people all making 200k+ and they don’t behave that way men or women wise. Everyone lives a modest lifestyle despite being multimillionaires.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/24 05:53 PM
1	The solution is not women lowering lower their standards - it's males stepping their game up You could have said the above points listed instead of copying and pasting them again in a passive aggressive way. So to me you are arguing in bad faith. Maybe you are neurodivergent and can’t tell social cues. Let me know if you are and I will take notes of it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/24 01:00 PM
1	The solution is not women lowering lower their standards - it's males stepping their game up You are allowed to but you seem to engage with a rather rude attitude and I called you out for it. No biggie tho. :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/24 12:32 PM
1	The solution is not women lowering lower their standards - it's males stepping their game up Well maturity is subjective and that’s why I said it’s my standard not everyone’s. Maybe read better? XD	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/24 12:28 PM
3	The solution is not women lowering lower their standards - it's males stepping their game up This is obviously a troll post but most of the stuff listed could be summed up to be being a mature person in my opinion. Maybe my bar is too high such that the average person is simply not mature by me and my partner's standard because I swear we check almost 90% of the items on that list (either as a man or a woman).	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/24 06:44 AM
8	Women harp endlessly about entitlement and men feeling “owed” but in reality most people expect to be able get someone similar to them in all areas and framing this as “entitlement” is a deflection from the real issue Bruh. People have always talked about compromises when it comes to finding potential mates. I don't know why is it different today. It's almost statistically impossible to find the perfect partner. In fact, most people don't really know what is perfect for them. The trick is to figure out what exactly are deal-breakers for you and negotiate the rest. Some people are not okay with obese partners and some are. Move on if you don't like what you see.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/24 08:14 PM
1	Can you empathize with the other side? I do that to everyone and that’s why I’m happily married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/24 07:17 PM
1	Can you empathize with the other side? That is exactly my point. People don’t empathize with broader group. They empathize with specific person that they share a relationship with. Start seeing people as individuals and you will be able to evaluate them better. Of course you can continue to do what you do and it’s your life after all. Just trying to help.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/24 06:52 PM
0	Can you empathize with the other side? Do men take action on women’s issues? Do men take action on men’s issues? Human beings are fundamentally selfish. That applies to both gender. Empathy also has nothing to do with taking actions. Just because one understands why someone suffers, doesn’t mean he/she can or knows how to help that person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/24 06:48 PM
3	Can you empathize with the other side? It’s generally very difficult to emphasize with a broad category of people. It’s way easier when you are imagining a specific person, like your mother or father. I’m sure all of you have seen at least one of your parents struggle through some sort of life problems. If you haven’t, maybe you should start paying attention to people irl instead of people online.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/24 07:57 AM
3	Can you empathize with the other side? So you are just going to ignore the comments from women and declare no women emphasize with men huh? Why take the extreme? Is it hard to recognize that there are women that can or cannot emphasize with men just like there are men that can or cannot emphasize with women. Not all women are feminazi. I would like to ask what do you think of your own mother? Was she also unable to emphasize with you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/24 07:51 AM
1	Older man/younger woman relationships are ideal Why does that have anything to do with age? Plenty of quiet nerdy guys in 18-30 range. You have a fantasy OP, but most women don't. They fall in love with people and marry for love.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 06:44 AM
1	Prenup recipe for disaster People comparing prenup to insurance don't understand what prenup is. Insurance guarantees payout for events after it is purchased, not before. Prenup splits assets prior to the marriage, not after. There is "pre" in the word "prenup". For most people (ordinary people), their assets accumulate after marriage, and usually due to a joint effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 06:19 AM
7	I am tired of the rhetoric that "the friendzone" "isn't real" and the lack of acknowledgment that both sexes can be toxic in that scenario Oh yes, there will always be people trying to exploit others. I just don't think it's a fair generalization, and I don't think the rejected shall have any fault if he/she chooses to walk away from the friendship. Shit happens. Deal with it is how adults handle matters. Honestly, very rarely do people get the perfect ending in this universe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 05:16 AM
8	I am tired of the rhetoric that "the friendzone" "isn't real" and the lack of acknowledgment that both sexes can be toxic in that scenario I don't think people actually think it doesn't exist. People just don't see the concept of turning down a romantic intent during a friendship/acquaintanceship as a malicious one, which is what "friendzone" is usually implying. Friendzone often implies the woman stringing the man along even though they don't have romantic intent, but in practice, many women are literally treating the said men as friends to begin with. Just because a woman chose to befriend you, doesn't mean you are entitled to th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 05:05 AM
1	Most of the advice women give automatically weeds out introverted men Being an introvert is not an excuse for being socially inadequate tho. Pretty much every guy I know and including myself are introverts but we have no problem holding conversations. And all of us are in a relationship. I was socially awkward when I was a kid and I put in quite a bit of effort to get better. So it definitely can be done.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/24 06:51 PM
1	Men and women can never truly be equal because women get their rights from men. You are correct about one thing - rights are defined by people. And how are they defined? Through discussion and agreement. So no, they are not given. In fact, power is given by people. Back to OP’s take, women’s rights are social contracts that both men and women agree upon. They are not given by anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 02:25 AM
-1	Men and women can never truly be equal because women get their rights from men. LMAO the same can say about men. Average men were slaves to the powerful too. So the same can be said that, the average person only has rights because the rich and powerful gave them??? Such a dumb take.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/24 08:20 AM
21	Why are so many girls wanting to have traditional marriages again? It's just grass is greener on the other side. Women realized that working and competing in modern society is hard so they started to idealize trad life. No matter which route you go, you get both the pros and cons. You only talked about the easy part of being a traditional housewife. What about the painful side? Not having financial freedom, not having a fulfilling career, not having a helper in domestic work, no emotional support from your spouse and etc. Are you ready for those?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 12:57 AM
1	Better to lie to Women than be honest Well it’s not usually a direct cause and effect. Many things come with a cost that will impact you in the short term or in the long term and can be largely unpredictable. An example would be failure to disclose genetic illness and resulting in divorce down the line. I see lying in a relationship as kicking the can down the road.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 11:00 PM
1	Better to lie to Women than be honest I don’t know if you believe in karma, but cause and effect are very real. You lying today can lead to something unexpected down the line. Lying gives short-term benefits but usually long-term net loss. Take dishonesty out of dating and put it in academia or work. Would you be comfortable with cheating in that context? Lying is an unethical thing. Be careful what you wish for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/23 08:54 PM
1	Why is openly questioning "what do i get out of this relationship?" only a 1-sided discussion by societal norms or expectation standards? Erh but that’s just people comparing their spouses. Don’t tell me men don’t compare spouses because I know many do for a fact. :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/23 04:06 AM
2	Obesity, mental health, depression, and responsibility The real reason for women gaining in a relationship is because now they have to sync with the eating habits with their partners which means they will likely overeat since men need more calories than women. If women don’t pay attention to this, like working out more or figure out a way to eat less in each meal, they will likely gain weight. For instance, I’m a small person that only needs 1000 calories a day whereas my partner needs at least twice as much. I gained 20 pounds in 2 years because of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/23 10:57 PM
1	Why is asking for a paternity test a relationship ender? My question is why shouldn’t the father discuss this before the child is born? Surely if one suspects the behaviors of women would bring up the question of paternity at the time of pregnancy right? I don’t oppose paternity test. I’m simply questioning the timing of it. It should be something discussed before or at the time of pregnancy not post birth. I refuse to believe that men only suspect post child birth. If the need for paternity test has always been there, why wasn’t it communicated? I th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/23 05:22 PM
1	What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons? You see the context/premise really matters in this question. If my partner asks me for verification out of the blue, it will sparks a lot of doubts in me. However, if I know my partner was hurt by cheating in a previous relationship and that’s the reason why he needed some sort of proof to make himself feel better, I would think that it’s completely understandable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/23 09:07 AM
1	Why is asking for a paternity test a relationship ender? I agree that “you build trust by proof”, but I don’t think that is done when you literally have a child born into the marriage. Asking repeated verification in an established relationship shows fundamental mistrust. If a man is unsure a child is his in a marriage where he lives with the woman throughout, that really says something about the relationship. How can you not see signs and be doubtful before your partner announces the pregnancy? Otherwise I think a paternity test makes sense when the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/23 08:47 AM
10	Men are considered creeps not due to their actions, but due to thoughts of women I will be interested to know how they will react if a sketchy dude approaches them at a random car park at night and tell them they are hot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/23 07:59 AM
6	Men are considered creeps not due to their actions, but due to thoughts of women How about what are the conditional probabilities of women getting raped if they don’t take precautions vs they take precautions?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/23 07:56 AM
1	What is the evolutionary reason that a woman finds verbally asking for sexual consent (e.g., kissing) to be a turnoff? It’s not evolutionary. It has to do with the surprise element and male dominance usually portrayed in a romantic movie or novel. If you read romantic fictions written by female writers, you can see that they usually fantasize a strong and dominant male figure. Women deep inside want to be protected by strong figures. Asking for consent is not a show of strength.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 11:11 PM
2	If Personality Was Actually A Determining Factor In Attraction… Again, there is a correlation but determining factor usually refers to strong causation which I don't think is accurate here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 10:47 PM
21	Is it ethical to use AI face recognition to filter out women on dating apps? Doing background check for any purpose is not unethical. It will only be unethical if you spread what you have learned without getting that person's permission.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 10:28 PM
2	If Personality Was Actually A Determining Factor In Attraction… Well OP is arguing about attraction not successful relationship. I totally agree that personality is a determining factor in long lasting relationship but not attraction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 10:21 PM
0	If Personality Was Actually A Determining Factor In Attraction… Sure there are repetitiveness but the OP asks for determining factor lol. Your science professor gonna yell at you if you think patterns = determining factors.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 10:09 PM
5	If Personality Was Actually A Determining Factor In Attraction… Lmao man like literally me and all the women I know irl date guy that is not tall nor rich. Some of them are not even objectively attractive (a bit overweight, <5”7, makes less money than them or whatever). Literally every guy I know irl have different preferences in women (tall, short, fat, skinny). Most people literally get together because they have some shared interests or tastes in things. Stop telling yourself lies lol. Everyone has different weights in things, e.g. race, education level, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 10:08 PM
3	If Personality Was Actually A Determining Factor In Attraction… There is no way personality is a determining factor in dating in a general sense. Every individual has different mating preferences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 08:42 PM
0	Let's be honest. Dating for men is an incessantly painful numbers game I love how y’all are pretending like men don’t ghost or reject women at all. Oh wait. You probably think only “high” value men do that. Do me a favor. Make a female dating profile and try to date men that are average and tell me if your assumption is correct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/23 10:22 PM
1	Bullying women to lower their standards Actually it's proven to be NOT pointless because the internet and social media DOES shape how people behave and think. To the blue pills and red pills, by sharing their views and constant debate, they are making a change. I do think that there is some merits to "lowering their standards" as opposed to "being alone". Being alone is never the solution. It's more like a defeatist mentality. It's like I have given up because I cannot find a potential mate and I'm just gonna stay as is forever. It's …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 10:49 PM
1	I believe the concept of "The One" is flawed and is a major factor for the modern lack of relationship satisfaction I think the reason that "the one" is romanticized on many level is because it gives people something to look forward to. It is, exactly like you have mentioned, a fantasy that there is one person out there in the vast world waiting for you. Ultimately, it stems from the author's own feeling of loneliness and therefore longing for the perfect mate somewhere in the distance. In reality, most people will likely find many suitable mates in their lives, but may not stay forever because of internal or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 10:40 PM
7	"A lot of men are not desirable." Do you agree or disagree? Why or why not? I would say a lot of people, regardless of gender, are not "traditionally desirable" by the modern dating standard - being financially stable, mentally stable and having one or two appealing traits. Very few people hit all the boxes and don't come with any baggage. In today's world, having a partner is not as essential to survival as it was in the past, but it's nonetheless a good advantage to have. I would say most men and women still desire a decent partner. The problem is that people in gener…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 10:13 PM
4	CMV : I believe as a man you have two options. Accept and prepare for a life alone or go all in on raising your SMV OP, you are half right and I would like to give some advice that might increase your odds of finding a suitable mate. :D I have three simple rules that I made use of when I was dating and I am married now. 1. Leave a good first impression by presenting yourself as attractive as possible. That could mean working on your shape, putting on clean clothes, getting a hair cut, get a good photographer (can be your female friends) to take some good photos of you. This will contribute the most to your SM…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 09:59 PM
2	Wouldn't it be better for everyone if women initiated and made the first move? I absolutely agree that women should initiate as much as men. In fact, feminism should encourage women to be more confident in initiation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 09:43 PM
1	Men should just refuse to get married OP, in real life scenario, if you want to actually start a family, you kinda need to get married for many legal and healthcare purposes. Very rarely people marry for sex. I would assume you are still very young but likely as you age, you naturally will become more family oriented, especially more so when you meet a woman you love. My husband married me because of love and he is well-aware of the risk (the same for me too as I also have high paying job and assets). However marriage is the way to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 06:19 PM
2	CMV : Most women don’t think they’re deserving of a top men. But almost none would admit to themselves they deserve average or below…. Honestly I’m pretty sick and tired of this topic. Have you considered the fact that most people don’t date based on “value” but rather “having a good time” which arises from having compatible interests and mindset. Why are women choosing to be single? Because they can’t find someone they share a genuine feeling with and for a lot of women, they really don’t care about sex that much. However it’s different for many men such that not having a sexual partner literally brings frustrations. To summar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/23 08:50 PM