theres 329.5 million people in USA. 50.8% or 167.3 million are female. 77.9% or 130.4 million women are adults. approximately 60% are in a relationship so 78.2 million women. 11766/78200000 = a .01% chance of being killed by your current husband/boyfriend?
it's impossible to accurately assess or quantify how "hard" a single person's life is — why even attempt to do so for two of the largest groups of people on earth? it's ridiculous