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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
595	Men’s Childhood Never Ends		seashellsupplier	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/10/21 07:34 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
54	The red flags, the entitlement, the audacity 🤡🤯 I could not imagine dating someone who is 18 years at old at 26. I remember being 23 at a freshman party and thinking of the people there as children and needing my protection, and that feeling has only gotten stronger with age. Men who date women so much younger than them are disgusting.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 07:34 PM
7	So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree? Well in that case I wish you all the best! Scary how men can switch up so quickly, there is really no preparing for that. I am very sorry you have to go through this!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 01:37 PM
17	Sex work is EmPoWeRinG but you "have to face the consequences?" Just because they were 18 and adults doesn’t mean that these women knew what they were getting into. Men seem to understand this in the context of military and how barbaric and cruel it is to enlist young men with the hope of a better future but can’t extend their humanity to encompass women and their plight.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 12:55 PM
6	I'd leave. Straight up would not make it down that aisle if my man was dressed like this Nah, there were a million red flags before, can almost guarantee he told here he was going to do this. She is deep in pick-me hell.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 12:52 PM
7	Ladies please be careful about who you have children with. She is pregnant but he is trying to dictate how she gives birth… also he doesn’t know about the umbilical cord? 🥴 The baby isn’t even born yet but she has to start mothering already. I wish women realized they can leave at any point! He will still have to pay child support and she would likely be better off apart than together.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 12:49 PM
20	So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree? After you have gone through with the breakup and had the abortion, if that turns out to be the right thing for you to do, i highly suggest you take a break from dating. From your own comment you say you have ignored red flags and it’s important for your safety and wellbeing to contemplate on why you did that. Please also read the handbook, as it seems like you have not. For your safety, have a couple friends or even the police be present when he picks up his things/moves out (sounds like you are…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 12:46 PM
9	Men will not compromise on their space and living arrangements just for being in a relationship. They can use the woman's place as their own when it suits them but not return the favour. Women who compromise for the men that don't, disrespect their own boundaries. I’d say staying over or coming over no more than once a week. And this can’t replace a date. He would still need to get dinner or order delivery or plan some other activity that night and plan regular dates in between. Dating doesn’t end! Not after moving in together or even marrying. He should still be putting effort into your relationship , being groomed etc.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/22 03:56 PM
39	Men will not compromise on their space and living arrangements just for being in a relationship. They can use the woman's place as their own when it suits them but not return the favour. Women who compromise for the men that don't, disrespect their own boundaries. I would never show up to a friends place unannounced, but If I did I would bring snacks and offer to get delivery. Anything else is unacceptable unless in a complete emergency.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/22 03:37 PM
11	Men will not compromise on their space and living arrangements just for being in a relationship. They can use the woman's place as their own when it suits them but not return the favour. Women who compromise for the men that don't, disrespect their own boundaries. I bet he doesn’t even help with grocery bills and it’s likely her utility bill and grocery budget that could be halved without him there. Also telling that she was counting on a promotion but didn’t receive it. He is holding her back. He is emotionally manipulative and I think especially young women don’t fully understand how draining that is in your day to day life. She can stay in the apartment, lose the man and be better off than with him. Even more, a guy in his 20s who lives with roommates …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/22 03:34 PM
8	This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'. The guy is a joke, but yes this is one of the reasons to not do sex work. It is not respected at all in the wider community so you are setting yourself up for judgment for the rest of your life. Would not be surprised if there are men who habe folders full of ‘dirt’ on the women in their lives who they know use only fans.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/02/22 07:02 AM
26	A quality 1ct diamond can be over 10k, BUT Reddit society agrees that $7500 on an engagement ring is INSANE I mean to be fair, I‘d rather have my debt paid off than a ring. 7500$ might not be a lot for a diamond ring, but it‘s a lot in the context. I wouldn‘t bother with a guy like that, because to only be making 55k in California means he‘s in a bad career and just not well off financially. It also sounds like he doesn’t have a college degree (or is significantly older than her, since he doesn’t mention his debt). They are mismatched and she should find someone more in line with her values. My guess …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/01/22 10:23 AM
18	Men Double Texting This is so manipulative. Double texting is more than fine in my book, I do it all the time. Like I‘ll have a conversation thread going, haven‘t had time to answer yet and see something that would interest them so I send it to them. But I would never ask like that, people will answer in their own time, if I‘m not a priority to them I will know. I don‘t have to chase after anyone and neither should a HVM. But while not in a committed relationship you have no obligation to answer within a certain t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/01/22 10:25 AM
44	Ask Amy: I think my wife is lazy for not having a career while raising our kids Notice how he doesn’t actually talk about divorce? He knows he can‘t do better, which is why he locked her down straight out of college before she could start a career. Now it’s her fault? This was a calculated move on his part. His great career isn‘t as great as he would like us to believe and he wants to find a way to belittle her into staying.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/21 10:13 AM
19	Should I still go out with this man tomorrow? Pizza places near me usually don‘t take reservations, so this could be a ploy on his part to get you to do takeaway at his. Also why did he not answer on the weekend? To me it seems like he had dates on the weekend that didn’t pan out the way he had hoped and only now decides to lock down plans with you. Block and move on. Also read the handbook.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/21 01:18 PM
21	US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your womb I shared this sentiment with a friend of mine and she was SHOCKED! Why would I have standards that high for a simple hookup. The problem is a simple hookup doesn’t exist, at least not for women. So be safe!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 03:19 PM
62	Men’s Childhood Never Ends Exactly! I don’t think I was able to quite articulate that childish behavior and play is normal and healthy for children, yet girls get criticized for it even as children, while men are allowed to be childish independent of age, even when their behavior has become almost pathological. I am so sorry your neighbors criticized you for having being a healthy child.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/10/21 12:55 PM
185	Racist scrote had it coming ‘she gives me permission’ implies he’s the one that asked and badgered her to let him say racist stuff. Not her asking him, which would have been bad enough but someone knowledgeable about race issues would have felt uncomfortable and refused.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/10/21 02:49 PM
5	Ghosting is the only way of dumping. Saying goodbye always opens you to being gaslighted, manipulated and places the burden of explaining what went wrong on you. Just disappear. Or slowly fade. Or run. I feel like ghosting is always appropriate if the motivation is that the other person ignored your boundaries or hurt you in some way. This applies to friends or dates and I don’t think it matters how long you knew someone for. Red flag, immediate block and delete. If the person was nice but there was no direct reason or you can’t pinpoint it I do think it’s better to say something (i had fun but don’t think we should see each other anymore etc.). That way if they’re a creep you can still block …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/10/21 12:48 PM
24	[Update] Good news about the post with the fiance telling his fiancee he wasn't attracted to her for two years. She left him. Meh, I mean better than them being together, but he has not fully taken responsibility while she has taken on some (toxicity on both sides). So she leaves the relationship feeling like she is somewhat to blame which is absolute bullshit.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/10/21 09:27 AM
170	The most requested item at the Afghan refugee camps are condoms! As an Afghan American this disgusts me. So these men that already have 4+ kids while their wives are probably exhausted with no real home of their own and he’s just thinking about his penis. Not surprised. Most of the men in these camps don’t actually fulfill the requirements for asylum seekers. All women do. But of course when talking about asylum seekers only woman are shown (despite making up only around 1/4 of refugees) to garner sympathy. For these women it’s literally out of the frying pan into the fire. The men have access to a whole new population who have been raised in relative security and who will feel bad reporting them because they don’t want to make their lives harder and it was jus…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/09/21 07:25 AM
29	Man using biology to disprove the myth men are biologically programmed to search for multiple sexual partners. From: "Living with limerence" Wouldn’t it actually make more sense for the woman to have as many partners as possible, maximizing chance of fertilization? I read that the reason for moaning was to attract as many mates as possible. Of course the male partner wants her to have no other partners, maximizing his own chance of reproduction. So woman’s and men’s goals are not actually aligned, and the man is in the losing position, as in he can’t be sure if the child is his. So biologically the man would have to be as attractive …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/09/21 07:14 AM
19	Dear Nanobot Scientists: Please don’t help lazy Sperm reach our valuable eggs. Signed, Women. To be fair, female birth control would not be approved under todays guidelines either. But I feel like that means we should either get rid of it or find something better. Letting women suffer because men aren’t willing to use condoms (cheap, absolutely zero side effects, very effective when used properly) or get a vasectomy isn’t the answer, it’s just what’s been happening for millennia.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/09/21 12:56 PM
20	Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with men LVM will make any existing disorders (anxiety, depression etc.) a million times worse. It’s especially devious because if you a have a diagnosed anxiety disorder you will be much less likely to trust your intuition. Listen to your gut, it tells you more than a million tests ever could.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/21 09:03 AM
7	Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home Dads I think it would be great for both parents to stay at home for the first year. But obviously the father has to provide for this time.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/09/21 09:12 AM
2	Men Who live With Parents or Roommates Depending on the circumstances and wether or not he is willing or able to live on his own. For example if he’s finishing a doctorate degree or comparable and is living with his parents or roommates to save money, I would have no issue with that. Or if he has just moved to a new city and lives with roommates to have some contacts in the city. My issues would arise from what happens when we are in a relationship. I live alone, will he expect we meet at my place all the time? Will he expect to move…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/09/21 10:15 AM
6	This is a silly question but I don’t know where else to ask, pls help 😬 Look at yourself, is this really how you want to be living? Always doubting yourself and him? Leave him!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/08/21 09:13 AM
14	The controversy on engagement rings shows how far liberal feminism has gone I was recently at a hen do and the topic of engagement and wedding rings came up. Most of the girls where literally falling over each other trying to prove how little they need in terms of a ring (Tungsten rings anybody?), that was if they hadn‘t outright rejected the notion of rings as something unnecessary. I told them I would like a stone surrounded by diamonds for my engagement ring and a memory ring for a wedding ring. They were so shocked I would ask for something like that and kept making…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/08/21 08:57 AM
3	Financial abuse by male relatives and friends. A lot of men seem modern and progressive by expressing their wish to be a ‚homemaker‘ or ‚house-spouse‘. If you dig any further nine times out of ten they don‘t want to do most of the work that comes with that (cleaning/cooking/bills) and think most domestic duties should still be split 50/50. Not to mention even if they wanted to their standards are usually lower, so even if they were to do all the domestic duties you‘d get a PB&J sandwich for lunch and have to get used to not having clean laun…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/08/21 09:46 AM
3	Keeping in contact with Exes My ex broke up with me and asked to stay friends because I was his best friends and he still wanted me in his life (🙄). I was pickme in every other way back then but I said no. My thoughts immediately went to what happens when one of us has a new partner and how awkward it would be. So I said no and stuck by it. I was kind of bummed that he never contacted me again (pick me tendencies) until I found out he started dating someone new about 6 months after we broke up. We would have had a weird FWB…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/08/21 09:31 AM
96	Women should not go on hiking dates whether as a first one or as a married couple. If you go hiking you always have to follow the cardinal rule: Tell someone where you are going and when to expect to hear back from you. I love going hiking with my boyfriend or in a friend group and I am not scared that they would do something to me. But there are a million things that can go wrong and it’s so easy to shoot a friend a quick message for peace of mind.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/08/21 08:51 AM
10	I’d like to hear your opinions here. I don‘t understand this woman at all, why would you marry someone if you you have highly mismatched capital, much less someone with this outlook. I don‘t think it‘s HV at all, it sounds very pickme to me. If she was high value she wouldn‘t marry someone who didn’t have their life in order. I think the prenup and his signing away ownership was her parents doing, not hers (as condition for the money/house).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 11:12 AM
79	Opinion: surrogacy is on the same transactional spectrum as porn and prostitution This might be harsh, but I just think if you can‘t naturally conceive (including IVF) and don‘t want to adopt you simply can‘t have children. Because even with family members and friends there are still so many ways it can go wrong and paying for surrogacy seems barbaric. Not to mention it is so expensive, I‘ve heard of cases from poorer families that are paying of the surrogacy into the child’s teenage years. So you’re not even setting your child up to succeed later in life. It just comes down …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/07/21 08:30 AM
9	The new dating scam. Thank god it‘s not common to split bills down the middle where I‘m from, if bills are split everyone tells the waiter what they had and pays for that part. I would be so furious if I was on a budget and ordered what I can afford only to subsidize someone else’s meal.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 07:48 PM
1	A man texted me out of the blue a little over a year later to apologize... (story in comments) New phone, who this? But really you should block him everywhere.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/07/21 06:36 AM
35	Cry me a river. This makes me so uncomfortable! Skilled manipulators will bring it up again along with the waterworks in a group setting. ‘She said i hurt her doing this but I’ve had so much on my plate with my breakup/ectopic pregnancy/college/job loss. I would never hurt her blablabla.’ Now they are the victim and you look like an ass and doubt yourself because the group will be on their side. Really dangerous in family settings.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/07/21 06:45 PM
83	My friend showed me a pic of the guy she is seeing and I said "he looks way too old for you". She said "oh he's actually a year younger than me" 💀💀💀 Honestly I think there is a huge alcohol problem that affects both men and women. But women at least do things to minimize damage (skincare, lots of water, healthy diet). But for men who drink a lot that will show up on their skin. For me personally any man who drinks a lot or with any kind of regularity is a deal breaker.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/07/21 10:31 AM
18	Article about 3 women in their 40s who are unmarried. One HVW shares her basic standards This is like the absolute bare minimum to be considered a functioning member of society and has basically no personal requirements (like must listen to this kind of music, like this genre of film, enjoy these weekend activites). The range of men with these requirements is huge, if anything she’s not picky enough!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 07:27 PM
18	Mainstream UK magazine casually glorifying age gap relationships... Why on earth is florence pugh together with zach braff? He was handsome 20 years ago, but time has not been kind to him. She is only 25 with her whole life ahead of her, and likely has more money than he has. I don’t get it at all.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 07:11 PM
5	Your Friends Are Not Free Therapists When your don’t pass the bechdel test with your friends you know you have a problem. Yikes, glad you where able to end it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 09:45 PM
1	It finally sunk in. 50/50 is unfair. Also valid, I think should I ever get married I would have a personal checking and savings and Shared checking and savings. But that’s something everyone needs to decide for themselves. I do think every woman should have on secret account (or at least one that the partner has no access to) for safety reasons.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 07:40 PM
17	The Porn Paradox \| Megan Johnson \| TEDxGreenville A lot of porn is actually a crime against humanity. You cannot consent to torture, so how are these images so normalized? Where is the outcry from the UN and world leaders? Further for every bigger movie that uses animals someone has to be on set to make sure the animas weren’t hurt, yet women do not get the same protection? Every college experiment needs to be approved by the ethics committee, but porn producers can do and show whatever they want?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 06:15 AM
54	It finally sunk in. 50/50 is unfair. 50/50 only works when you have shared finances, i.e. you get half of my salary and I get half of yours. Edit: I want to add this should only happen after you’re married! Do not commingle finances with a boyfriend!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 06:08 AM
41	Don’t talk to any of your exes. ANY. My ex literally broke up with me a month after I started therapy and had set the tiniest of new boundaries (he was away on a intership and I told him he needed to call me more than once every three weeks). Two days after I had set the first real boundary in our relationship he broke up with me! Just made me realize how weak he was. All of the breakup reason were pure projection and the only real bad thing he could say about me was that I was clingy (hard to not be when you’re only getting crumbs…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 07:54 AM
182	Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job. But his family is just as bad, if someone skips one meal you can ignore it, but one meal a day for what I’m assuming was a week? Especially since it’s likely it was dinner (would be the most expensive meal). The only way I can explain is it his family did ask if it was a money issue and he lied and said if wasn’t. I also find it strange that the parents wouldn’t pay for meals on a family vacation anyway, that’s what mine would do. But so cruel, she couldn’t even enjoy her vacation and was likely…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 07:39 AM
2	Doing "boring manly job" is actually really fun! Talk about male PR I love building IKEA furniture, i would always help my dad growing up. And I’m proud to say that friends call me to help them.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/06/21 08:02 PM
16	Men don't want a FWB That’s why they call these women ‘fck buddies’. You are a hole to fck first and a friend second.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/06/21 07:50 PM
6	Seemingly HV until you find out how he wants to raise your children This is good! I’ve always been shocked how little friends talked about a hypothetical future with their partners. I would even consider it a red flag if your partner says he wants to have children but doesn’t check with you about how you plan on raising children. A man who wants to be a father would vet you just as you vet him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/06/21 06:34 AM
18	Update: reining in the sub I’ve just found it better to not seek out this kind of stuff, i’ve never learned anything new and it’s just depressing to know how sick and perverted people are.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/06/21 10:05 PM
49	Update: reining in the sub Be happy you missed it, it’s about a horribly abusive man and his girlfriend too gaslit to even know if she is allowed to leave because of his disgustingly abusive behavior. You already know the rest. Absolutely vile, and nowhere near as funny as the nest guy because the woman was harmed.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/06/21 09:09 PM
5	He called me a princess This is great vetting! A HV who was interested would have set up a date in your city, especially after you making clear that is what you want. A LV or a guy who wasn’t interested might have tried badgering you or just told you he was no longer interested. This guy has anger issues, why would someone you haven’t even met bring up so much anger? Bullet dodged imo.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/06/21 05:50 PM
40	There are no safe spaces Or he preyed on her sense of empathy. ‘I’m having such a rough time, I’ve lost all my friends.’ Something like that so she would pity him. She probably thinks they are going out as friends but he has another thing planned. I hope she stays safe!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/06/21 07:24 AM
29	Have any of you experienced worse street harassment since lockdown? I feel it’s gotten worse. I live in an extremely safe neighborhood of an extremely safe city and for the first time I’ve had to ask my boyfriend to start picking me up from work after one experience with a stalker at work and being assaulted on the subway. I hate feeling like I need a man to protect me, but I know that if he wasn’t around it would be worse. I am in the process of changing jobs so I won’t have to work nights anymore and am hoping that will change my circumstances. But even during…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/06/21 05:49 PM
13	If I see one more beautiful woman with an ugly man, I'm going to scream I am so with you, it‘s totally unfair and not very progressive. Making it out like only beautiful women are treated badly (the subtext being ugly ones should expect it I‘m assuming). I can promise you from experience that getting a HVM has nothing to do with looks and evrything to do with personality and the woman you are. I think getting rid of the mindset that beauty is everything for a woman is hard, even for fds women. I wanto to add, that just because society‘s idea of beauty is so narrow d…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/06/21 08:01 AM
8	Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted. Omg, I would have never thought about doing this but it makes so much sense. Women who testify against the men who raped them need to be perfect saints for a verdict to stick, yet we don‘t look at the mens private lives. So disgusting but honestly not surprising.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 05:52 PM
2	What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc? I would like an antique ring or stone, doesn‘t really matter what kind, could be sapphire, ruby, emerald or diamond. The main stone needs to be at least 2 carat, since I have relatively wide fingers and anything less looks tiny. For the proposal itself I would like a nice restaurant meal, but someplace small and intimate because I wouldn‘t like a lot of attention on me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/05/21 08:04 AM
2	The loneliness of leveling up. I feel like if you meet once a week and talk about the same issues every week it‘s too much. Venting can‘t take up all the relationship. In this case I‘d say no more than once a month? Because you also need to give the other person room to vent and a relationship will only work if there are more happy moments than tense moments.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/05/21 07:53 AM
5	I love this trend! More men who hit the wall; once considered one of the hottest men out there, now... 🤢 I don‘t like this trend at all, the point isn‘t to get down on mens level, we are better than that. So they aren‘t handsome anymore, so what? I‘m not trying to standard shame here, to each they own, but this really isn‘t what we should be focusing on, in my opinion. Lifestyle catches up with you, it does for women as well, women have just been brainwashed into thinking that‘s bad and forced to do anything they can to minimze aging, and that their body is the most valuable thing they have. Your h…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/05/21 02:45 PM
1	Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By Abusers It really is eye-opening! And this post is a great overview of the most noticeable things to look out for. But it‘s like a muscle, you need to train it and it becomes easier the more you do it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 08:46 PM
3	Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By Abusers It also made me realize how abusive behavior builds on top of each other. You will rarely find an abuser that gaslights without other abusive behavior building on that uncertainty they have created. That is why all abusive behavior needs to be recognized so you can act immediately.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 08:24 PM
5	Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By Abusers Isolation is so damaging. An ex-friend did this to me. She would meet with old classmates of ours, and maybe a year later I would meet them as well and tell her about it. Suddenly I was evil, didn’t I remember that one time this classmate bullied my friend? When I brought up her meeting her a year prior, she said she hadn’t realized how mean she had been until now. Or when I started distancing myself from her, she was concerned my boyfriend was abusive and wouldn’t stop contacting me, even if I …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 01:19 PM
21	A Scrote is trying to turn his partner into a single father. Don’t have kids if you want to live a solitary life. You have lost that right as soon as you put children into the world (and don’t put them up for adoption). How unbelievably selfish, kids aren’t books you can pick up if you get bored or want to try something new.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 01:07 PM
19	Why you should avoid moving abroad for a guy Never move for a boyfriend. I would only ever consider moving when married and when moving is beneficial for your career as well as his. If moving to his home country you should be able to speak the language.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/05/21 05:58 PM
10	All of the top voted answers were about periods, while all the real answers were downvoted to hell. Sorry that the most annoying thing about having a vagina isn't the subtle plumping of my tender breasts during periods 🙄 Men don’t want to accept that men are the worst thing to happen to women. Illness, loss and death are all universal human experiences and women are well equipped to deal with that. But half of the human race hating you for simply being a woman is so damaging and makes everything a million times harder and worse. All womens lives would be improved if men didn’t exist (or were like women) and even on a thread meant to give women room to express this sentiment men want to be coddled.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/05/21 05:39 PM
23	CoMmUNiCate they say because obviously she is the problem 🙄 ‘Get a grip’ he OFFERED to take photos of her. The cousin didn’t ask him to take pictures, if that had been the case I doubt she’d have asked this on reddit. But him offering is weird anyway you want to spin him. Who else thinks the cousin is a teenager which makes this so much worse.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/05/21 05:34 PM
3	As a woman with a PhD in a hard science, who was told too many times that I act too masculine and "I'm not a real girl" by my own family, all I will say is this: DO IT ANYWAY. I don’t actually like this, because if a woman had made the same point it would not have been printed.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/05/21 02:39 PM
10	As a woman with a PhD in a hard science, who was told too many times that I act too masculine and "I'm not a real girl" by my own family, all I will say is this: DO IT ANYWAY. Devaluation has already begun, women are called stupid for pursuing higher education because you can make more money in the trades. Society has started no longer trusting doctors and biologists (vaccine-deniers). And science has become about feeling rather than fact. It’s all about where you can make more money(for men), and as long as men hold all the money they will make sure it continues going towards male pursuits.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/05/21 02:36 PM
3	good morning <3 I think it’s fine, as long as you pay well and clean up extreme messes yourself. If you’re out of the house even better. I think the problem comes from treating the people who clean for you as lesser than and becoming a slob the rest of the time. At the end of the day, they provide a service you don’t have the time for, it’s no different than picking up take away if you’ve had a long day at work or hiring a landscaping company.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/21 07:37 AM
13	True closure comes from within! What you did is really selfless and you seem to have learned a lot from this experience. I hope it no longer weighs on you. I would like to tell other women though, that you don’t have to be sefless. Just because it’s ‘the right thing to do’ doesn’t mean you have to be the one to do it. My mom cared for her dying, abusive father, out of some sense of duty, and hoped he would apologize, but he never did. Protect your time and your heart, if he wants to offer an apology or an explanation he will d…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/21 07:10 AM
24	Women are being shamed online for having standards now Jesus Christ, that puts it in perspective doesn’t it? They buy rings worth less than a pair of shoes they are only going to have for a couple years. Tells you a lot about how much scrotes care about women ☠️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 03:07 PM
12	Women are being shamed online for having standards now I think she’s telling the truth, but not that they just recently got it. As in she hasn’t had a ring for the last 20 years 🤮	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 03:03 PM
16	I guarantee there will be comments saying “hAve a ConVerSatiOn” disgusting 🤢😡 This wasn’t an easy read. https://wecantconsenttothis.uk/	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 08:43 AM
17	Oldie but a goodie! An excellent book on this subject is ‘Who cooked the last supper’ by Rosalind Miles. I gave my copy to my sister, who gave it to a friend and it has been traveling the world being passed from woman to woman. 🥰	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/04/21 05:39 PM
4	That's what you get when you build a man This is why you shouldn’t build up guys. Any man you let into your life should meet your standards for grooming and clothes, there shouldn’t be any ‘work’ left to do. If you make the mistake of building him up, especially on your own dime, he will feel emboldened to look for someone else, because in his mind he has outgrown you and he now deserves better.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/04/21 08:06 AM
1	How is this even a question??!! My ex was literally like this. Down to the cent 🤡	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/04/21 07:52 AM
19	This is why we must be extremely careful about the kind of men we procreate with, lest this happens. She's still trying to hang on instead of divorce. Meanwhile some pickme in the comments is saying they could "bOtH bEnEfIt fRoM cOuNseLinG." OP has suggested it, but surprise, he never went. Men on reddit really think women are writing paragraphs at the first sign of conflict and not after years of abuse and no progress being made. She is describing abusive behavior and they are telling her to go counseling. You can‘t go to counseling with your abuser, that would be extremely dangerous. Reddit just hates women.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/04/21 07:48 AM
8	High Value Dates Only Good thinking, I still think he should pay for the taxi or uber if you want to take one?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/04/21 07:25 AM
2	(Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working! He‘s not even looking for a relationship? Just a fwb-deal. And he‘s dumb enough to say that out loud. But some pick-me will come along and think they can change him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/04/21 07:13 AM
1	Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forward Definitely! I do miss her, but I realize that it was an act of self-care to end the friendship and it felt good finally standing up for myself. I feel calmer and more confident!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 11:04 AM
10	Opinions on surrogacy? You should read the handbook and I think there is also a glossary to find FDS phrases.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 09:07 AM
2	Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forward I just did that last week with my best friend of 15 years. I didn‘t want to do it and kept putting it off and making excuses for her behavior, but I knew what I had to do. It wasn‘t actually that hard in the end, she had completely ignored every boundary I had given her. I have learned to love myself in the last couple years, and the problems in our friendship started when I started therapy. I would try to set small boundaries and she would bulldoze over them. It is almost impossible to change t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 08:59 AM
1	I said what I said. When I first heard ‚don‘t kinkshame‘ it was in context with BDSM. I was really confused, because I thought (and still do) that you‘d need to be traumatized or mentally unwell to want to that kind of stuff to a person. Funny how previously being a victim of violence only ever excuses men from being violent towards others. I think it needs to be completely removed from our understanding of violence and kink. Most women are victims of violence but don‘t become violent themselves, only men use it as…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 08:31 AM
11	Opinions on surrogacy? NVM Negative value man, actively hurting the women around them LVM low value man, brings nothing to the table HVM high value man, has a plan and the means to bring it to life, adds value to your life Of course not! What wealthy women would put herself through that!?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 08:23 AM
1	“First time dads needs their mommy’s support in the delivery room and that mom is not the most important person in the room.” Comments pickme. Ugh, it was better back when men would wait outside the delivery room to have the baby brought to them clean and ready. At least the men understood there wasn‘t anything they could do. Now, men have inserted themselves so far into the birthing process. Its fine, if the mother wants it, but if I was only allowed one person in the birthing suite with me I‘d choose my mom, someone who has been through it before.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 08:11 AM
3	First time poster--I need some advice, and hopefully asking here is ok? It's about male behavior and how to deal with it because I'm feeling lost. I wouldn‘t answer any question they write to you personally. Just tell them, all question need to be asked in the public discord and someone will answer their question there. Don‘t ever write anything else to them, don‘t get upset, just keep copy-pasting the same message.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 08:02 AM
28	Opinions on surrogacy? I am so with you on this. There was a documentary on youtube I think, where the surrogate mothers were interviewed. It‘s an extremely traumatic process to go through, the children are their children, they care for them for 9 months! Not to mention, these poor women in countries like India are often forced to do it by NVM, wo refuse to work and say it‘s easy money for the woman. It was interesting seeing known patterns play out. The men would convince the woman to perform surrogacy and then criti…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 07:59 AM
54	OnlyFans is an experiment in mass grooming teens into a Sex Work Pyramid Scheme, for which most of them will NEVER see more than $180 I just can‘t help but think that all these 18 year olds have been groomed from childhood to basically be sex dolls! The trauma doesn‘t start with only fans, it‘s just a logical conclusion. If the only positive attention you can get from men is by being sexually available, you‘re going to start being as sexually available as possible.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/04/21 10:44 PM
26	Can we please stop praising fathers just for "trying" This is why you should only have children with HVM, and if if that‘s not possible a rich man won‘t do. Sure, he can pay to have everything done, but why put children on this earth if you aren‘t going to give them the love and attention they need? I have plenty of friends with rich parents and it doesn‘t really help as much as one would like.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/04/21 07:36 PM
20	Lundy Bancroft on Porn I remember being shown pornography from the 70s in sex-ed and it was so awkward, but at the same time genuine? I didn‘t get any ‚ick‘ they looked like they enjoyed themselves, and it wasn’t just for one persons enjoyment. I have never seen modern pornography look even similar.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/04/21 07:04 PM
173	OnlyFans is an experiment in mass grooming teens into a Sex Work Pyramid Scheme, for which most of them will NEVER see more than $180 I am so sad that so many young women think the only thing they have to offer the world is their bodies. Women are so kind and intelligent and inventive, and to reduce ourselves to the least interesting thing about us is a tragedy and does not bode well for the future. I think things are going to get worse before they get better.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/04/21 06:57 PM
2	Our society lives on women's unpaid labour This! I have been showing a lot of these posts to my mom and she has slowly opened up to me. I love my dad, but he‘s a LVM and has been able to have a great career because my mom is such a devoted wife and mother. I used to be so mean to my mom until I realized she is permanently stressed and has been doing the work of two adults for years! It has helped motivate me to to better at uni, I want her to feel like she can leave my dad without worrying about pension and money, since I feel that is th…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/04/21 06:49 PM
17	My favorite part of being an FDS mod... 😂 Finding this sub has literally been one of the best things to happen to me. I finally feel understood and have improved the quality of my life so much. It is so important to hear that you are allowed to live life on your own terms.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/04/21 06:43 PM
9	Fat lvm hitting on fit women Also I still think it‘s easier for a man to maintain a healthy weight and muscle mass than it is for any woman. Just like it‘s easier for a man to get promoted or a well paying job to begin with. We need to have higher standards, we‘re matching commitment and hard work, not end result.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/21 09:48 AM
7	Allure Magazine Posts The Most Toxic, poorly thought out, male pandering, Sex Advice. Women’s magazines are pick me garbage. A friend of mine used to teach sex-ed at schools, and I met some colleagues of her who taught at university (and where paid) to teach students how to have safe anal sex, ease into bondage and other extremely dangerous sex acts, implying not being interested in these ‚kinks‘ made you not only a prude and boring, but also not in touch with your own sexuality. Kids as young as 13 where asking my friend and her colleagues on how to perform anal sex. No one can make me believe that this is part of no…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/21 05:53 PM