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secret-sauce/r/seduction09/01/14 09:11 AM
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Practice being incredibly comfortable in your body. This will translate visually. When I first started going to bars regularly (later in my 20s) I actually got the comment that "you don't come to bars much, do you?" from a bartender. I wasn't feeling comfortable, and she could tell! Here's the actual technique. Credit for this goes to James Marshall. Just before you walk into the place, or anytime that you feel nervous energy start to spike, focus on the soles of your feet and the sensation you …
/r/seduction01/02/14 04:15 PM
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Yes, agreed that this is important. I've communicated that I'm still actively "in the game" and seeking other partners. It definitely helps!
/r/seduction20/01/14 03:58 AM
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Thank you for this! Definitely helps me out - I'm new to this whole casual sex thing, having been essentially a serial monogamist for many years. I'd say what I'm after right now is "casual dating." The recoil that you're describing - in this case, I have been enjoying the attention from the girl I've been seeing, but I got the sense that it was based in projection, aka wanting to fall in love with me. Since being quite honest about not feeling a "spark" for her, she has come around and everythi…
/r/seduction20/01/14 03:53 AM
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Ouch! Sounds like a little zing at the end there. The main reason I want to stay at FWB: I'm pretty fresh out of a LTR and still feel somewhat guarded emotionally. I've been seeing a lot of this one girl who I really respect and am physically attracted to, but I don't feel a romantic "spark" with her. Have communicated as much, and she finally got it, and...we are FWB! Awesome.
/r/seduction20/01/14 03:53 AM
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Thanks for the specifics, that is helpful. I think part of my problem is that I have been a serial monogamist for years now, and don't have these "lover" traits ingrained yet.
/r/seduction20/01/14 03:27 AM
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Cheers! This is excellent advice, and I actually have converted one such situation to FWB by sticking to my guns and continuing to be honest with the girl.
/r/seduction20/01/14 03:13 AM
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OP here! Let me clarify: I'm not telling girls "I just want to bang," the reason I've posted it that way is because we are in /r/seduction. I may have oversimplified in the title - as I said in the actual post, I'm looking for some emotional connection and mutual respect, which I'm learning are prerequisites for the type of great, no-strings sex I'm after.
/r/seduction20/01/14 02:58 AM
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Yes.
/r/seduction20/01/14 02:48 AM
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Knowing what you know about this girl's relationship history, I'd say you really don't want to try to start a relationship with her anyway. 5 years with a controlling BF and she's only 3 months out? Of course she wants to be single for a while - she's probably carrying some serious baggage around, and will be for a while. That said, it sounds like neither of you is after a "serious relationship" so maybe you can hang. My advice is to go on the date (not to the movies though - you won't learn any…
/r/seduction20/01/14 02:46 AM
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You say you eat healthy, does that include taking vitamins? Vitamin D is great for alleviating seasonal affective disorder / winter depression. I take ~1000 IU / day when sunlight is scarce, and it seems to help. If you are taking vitamin D, make sure you get some vitamin A as well, because you can't absorb one without the other. Also, fish oil is tits, it has totally improved my mood and sleep patterns.
/r/seduction28/11/12 06:54 AM
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I'm in! Also, first post ever. I've been sarging with my housemate but he's moving back to the Bay area soon. Would love to make some local connections.
/r/seduction07/08/12 08:25 AM
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