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Hey! I know how it feels. I do sometimes go through my partner's history (I know...) and have noticed him looking at his friend's girls. Hmm, it doesn't feel good, but I think that I'm more than just a pretty face to him. I'm very loving to him, takes care, have great s*x lyf and we generally adore each other. I do feel a blow to my pride when I see him looking at other girls, but now I think its just the nature of Men. They like looking at pretty girls and I don't think we can do anything about…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 05:39 AM
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Sex is good! Money is somewhat complicated. Like we do have savings but my husband does have big dreams when it comes to wealth. We are trying to be a bit cognizant these days to ensure that our lifestyles don't get inflated. But we are not living paycheck to paycheck.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 05:54 AM
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Thanks so much for your detailed answer. Yeah, I think with added parents, I feel like I'm in 3 people (him and his parents) against 1 person situations. Like, anything work related to his parents, I feel like I'm doing 'his work' instead of working for a better household. Also, yes, I hardly ever ask more than once. Maybe I'll try repeating myself multiple times. Thanks again! It was a really helpful reply
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 05:43 AM
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What I mean is that I try to be as homely at home as possible. Have read books like 'How to take care of your husband" and other books femininity and try to ensure that my husband feels like a man of the house. I keep bathrooms and bedroom fresh, take care of menu, cook his fav stuff, celebrate his office victories, dress cute in morning as well as have cute sleepwares, all body is properly manicured and trimmed. The thing is, I did use to receive as much as I use to give. Like, he would treat m…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 05:34 AM
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Oh, Hmm, yeah, I never thought of it. Yeah, like there are few more things going on at the moment. Maybe he is reacting to those situations. Its just a bit sad that he has decided to de-prioritize our relationship for in order to handle the external factor. I do try to prioritize our relationship and taking care of his needs. I guess I was not expecting him to deprioritize the relationship first and foremost as soon as some external factor came in. Hmm, how do I communicate this to him though?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 05:27 AM
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Oh, so his parents moved in with us, like, they are living in our house. But yes, you are correct as there is a bit of confusion with what the role is. Okay, so the thing is I was working full time since last month and now I'm still working but for my own company (I'm a developer, so opening a service based company). It does take effort but yes, timing is more flexible than before. The issue is not really the chores but the fact that I used redpill and was very very nice to him. Appreciated ever…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 04:49 PM
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Oh, I mean if you do have some computers background, then one might be able to learn it in 9-12 months. Would be helpful to join some online course where they have a batch and weekly meetings. It helps to keep you accountable. I was a Business and Data Analyst before so Data Science was a natural progression. ​ Please feel free to DM me if you have specific questions.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 03:37 PM
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Oh, this is really helpful. Hmm, I have never thought of this way. Thanks so much!
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 01:01 PM
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Oh, I'm a python developer (Machine Learning). Building my own service company by picking up contract-based projects. I do have a couple of projects in line but they will not pay as much. It is expected for things to be slow and I do wanna give it ~6 months at least before thinking of my next move (go back to the workforce or continue with the service company).
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 10:29 AM
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Lol, Yes, I think i should use better vocab. Thanks for your reply!
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 04:05 AM
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Hi, Thanks for your reply! I just feel weird telling him about "how sick I m" all the time. It makes me feel sicker if I have to repeat it again and again. IDK, I just feel things would be better if I just shield myself and treat ourselves as different people rather than a unit. Then his reconsideration will not hurt so much.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 04:05 AM
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Hi! Thanks for your reply. Hope you and your husband are feeling better now and sorry you had a rough time. Thanks for providing your POV.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 04:03 AM
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Hi! Thanks for the reply. It really gave me a different perspective. I was just a bit down and felt like giving it all up, but your post helped me. Thanks for your honesty! Lots of Love!
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 04:01 AM
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Hi, I agree! I also think that its vital to have a career, given that most of the laborious house work is automated now and there is lots of opportunities to work from home and having flexible hours. Taking out 4-8 hrs 5 times a week (20-40 hours) and use it to continue to improve and climb the ladder is important. Having a career build character. Its important that we learn and deal with the hard work, discipline, disappointments, stress. Having a very easy life don't necessarily mean a happy l…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:17 AM
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Yes, definately a point to consider. I just feel weird that she feels that her life was not fulfilling. I don't know what else is required to fulfill the life?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 10:49 AM
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Hmmmm, so if I can reiterate, you are saying that she kinda just followed what her 'role' expected her to do. She didn't thought of her wants and desires independently?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 10:47 AM
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Yeah, maybe. I'll ask her that. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 10:45 AM
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No, thats what I m saying. Its not like she has not done anything for herself. She has travelled a lot, alone and with family, had a job which she loved (she has said it many times), have a loving family, her son really cares for her, have lots of friends with whom she meets regularly. I mean, if you read the post once more, you can see that she was not really 'bounded' nor is she one of those meek person. This is what we are taking about in Redpill though right? Having loving family and experie…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 10:44 AM
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Hmm, i m in the 'similar' boat.. last week was my last day of work and i m planning on taking a month's break before searching for new one in a different field. I think, we do need some mental simulation and house work just doesn't give it. Maybe ease into it by starting to read some difficult book (old, on difficult subject, like from Sigmund Freud).. we are so use to being productive, counting hours amd it seems wasteful to just let all the hours in day go unaccounted for. Maybe track ur day (…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 01:13 AM
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Hey, thanks so much! I think this is the best advice I have heard in a long long time. Actually, choice A and choice B are not that black and white. I want both. I want to be capable and earn my own money (pride is definitely involved here coz I can't wait to get big checks and get to go on big unecessay shopping spree) and I do want to be effortless beautiful and comfortable in my skin (pride is involved here as well and I want to enjoy my physical body). But yes, I also want to feel good and i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 02:08 AM
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Hey, thanks for the reply. Yeah, no one needs my money. Its more of a play money. But I feel like part of my worth depends on the money I earn. Like, I didn't waste all those years of school and college. Marriage is good. There has been a bit of distance because I m always stressed out and I feel like I complain a lot. We haven't been on too many dates recently. My b'day is coming and he doesn't seem to remember it. And he was one of the guy who would write poems for you or who would actually ta…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 02:00 AM
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Hmmm, interesting. Yes, sleeping is definitely a problem. I can sleep hardly 6 hours on weekdays. Thanks, I think I might create a list of things I m currently doing and things I might want to do. Then make necessary swap.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 01:54 AM
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Hey! Thanks for the detail reply. It was really helpful! I'll try to take your advice :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 01:47 PM
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We can't at the moment. My husband's dad is a bit sick and my mother-in-law can't take care of him and manage home responsibility alone, so I feel it make sense for them to live with us. It's actually our place and his parents are living with us. They don't really interfere much and help around the house, so its not a bad deal. I sometimes wish to move out, but I understand that his parents need his support sometimes. I don't mind it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 01:46 PM
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Not sure yet.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 12:50 AM
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Thanks for your answer. Maybe you are correct about bandaid. Sometimes I feel that I should give my 100% before expecting the other person to give their. Like, I don't like the way I m right now, so I shouldn't expect him to like me. Hmmm, is it the correct way to think? I'm not sure?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 05:47 AM
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Hey! Yeah, I know, I feel ideally I should be able to do it all. But its just too much for me. I can't get rest, I have to entertain my husband's family, I'm not even able to sleep properly. It might sound like lots of excuses (believe me, it sounds like excuse to me too), but sometimes I feel why to make your life so hard? whats the point of waking up everyday wishing for the day to end?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 05:42 AM
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what about coffee or tea? You don't have it either?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 05:39 AM
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No, eventually I want to move out of this line of business and go in something more technical. My current role doesn't match which what I see myself, so I would definalty like to move out. But I don't want to take rash decisions based on 'feelings' and want to be smart here.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 05:38 AM
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Thats so on point. Like, i know, some discipline is required, but if you feel your home cooked meals are tasty and satisfying, going out to eat junk food just doesn't look too attractive. What are some of your fav recepies?
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 02:12 AM
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Hmmm, i always wonder why would guy ever go to all trouble to have a 2nd life. I mean, its difficult to do all this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 09:37 AM
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Hey, what is "girl game in wiki", i wanna check that out as well
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 12:06 AM
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I have realised, that we have gone in the incorrect directions with 'you are perfect the way you are'. Self-improvement is a life long thing, change is the only constant. You will change eventually, so why not to install habits that will make your relationship better? Putting in efforts and making positive life long changes takes time, hardwork and sacrifice and you don't get results immediately, i think therefore mainstream media will say, 'you are perfect' as its easy. Easy things sells. Selli…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 12:41 AM
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I'm have grinded through my career till now and think about possibility of being a SAHM. However, I took a break last yr due to family emergency and to be honest, it feels bad to ask other people for money. I was not able to shop, enjoy nice drinks because I couldn't ask my family to pay (didn't had much savings). So, I have decided that I'll get in a field where WFH is possible long term and eventually create my office at home. But yes, I don't wanna loose my income, it can decrease, but never …
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 12:40 AM
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Hey, I do have hobbies and I do spend time with myself and my bestie (<3). Its just that somedays I just want lie down underwear in unflattering position and laugh out loudly with my husband. But now that I know RP, i do laugh out loud, but always sit in a way that is flattering and dressed in nice clothes that looks good on me. I know its a small thing, and I can do it if I want, but now I knpw that RP exist, now I just can't..
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/20 12:41 AM
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Hey! Thanks! I m glad that I m not alone. I feel like I have to be on show all the time. Sit straight, talk nicely/eloquently, dont cry on petty stuff. Anyways, its amazing to hear that I m not alone in this. Thanks again!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 11:41 AM
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Backpain is definitely due to WFH and long hours at ofc and plus bedroom life. Leg pain I believe is because I stand up a lot during cooking. To be honest, i think its related to Hips thats causing both back and leg pain. I do some exercise and have got some medical help, but its taking lots of time to heal. I use to get Backpain before but they won't presist for this long.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 03:49 AM
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Yeah, its very much possible that comparison actually donot let us see all good things happening to us. Maybe try yo spend more time with ppl who inspire you, makes you feel that you are invincible! This situation is more about confidence, desire to be desired and other things. This is ok to feel that, but when you are with ppl who make you feel better abt yourself, eventually you will see the situation as mere amusement rather than comparison
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 02:17 PM
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Yeah! I can relate. Due to some reason, I moved out of the city and moved back after an year. When I started hanging out with her again, I again started feeling less cool and uncomfortable. I decided to take some time off and be with the people who makes me feel happy, and not threatened most of the time. I think it was because I was thinking too much abt how people are thinking and not too much abt m i having fun. In that 1 yr break, my mind readjusted to know when i was having a great time and…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 12:19 PM
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I guess you are just reading too much into the situation and applying your knowledge on out of context sceanrio. We have a culture of Arraged Marriage and guys who are coming for AM, are actually already prepared. Maybe the time should be spent in understand if they are a correct fir for you or not. Understand they long term goals, finance, family planning, maybe past (if they want to) and other stuffs. Also, good to analyse if they are coming because of family pressure. What you mentioned, is g…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 07:40 AM
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Relationships don't need to be soooo stressful.... I feel stressed just reading it. It sounds like a stressful job. I guess its ok to move forward, take a break. 25 is very young, u don't need to b so worried abt relationship :) Let the guy do what he wants... Its never worth it, to stop someone
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 08:00 AM
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My husband is pretty good. We are happy and I love him. I guess he is not the type of guy who cares about a nice home. I just want to ensure that he is getting the best version of me. Is that too much to ask from me? I don't have history of depression. But marriage was a much bigger change for me than I expected. To be honest, IDK.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 03:48 PM
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Thanks! Will try to do at least the minimum (and let the Compound Effect do the rest :))
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 01:42 PM
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Hello! Thanks for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate it. Also, thanks for recommending the books, I do read self help books but they are mostly career-related/goal-related, never thought that I need to read relationship-related books. I would definitely read them. I just want things to fall in place. If I fix my house and job hunt, the relationship suffers (as my husband doesn't appreciate all my work). If I concentrate on relationship, my job hunting suffers (as I spend all my time w…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 01:41 PM
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Hello! From my experience, it is very possible that u might not like the guy's look at the start of the relationship. However, as you will get to know the guy more, will fall for him more, you will start finding him cuter and hotter everyday. Thats just how attraction works. Of course, if the guy looks way to bad and u can't imagine walking besides him, then thats a different story. But not every guy needs to be Gorge Clooney. However, its just my opinion. Go with your guts. But really, I use to…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 04:16 PM
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/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 04:42 AM
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Hey! This is amazing stuff! Thanks so much! I need to appreciate him more i guess, because he does all the outside work without any complain. And appreciation does work, because when he appreciates me, i do a better work. Picking up my battle is also an amazing suggestion! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 04:29 PM
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Hello! Thanks for your response! I would definitely want more advice. For example, today he left his wet towel on bed and i find it extremely disgusting and want to call him a man-child. But then I think its better to talk than name calling... Like, idk where to put the line. Should i just a accept the fact that i have to dry his towel or should i make him do it? And its an example, there are many other small stuffs that he has stopped doing since i came. I don't wanna sweat the small stuff and …
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 05:12 AM
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