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Great post, clear breakdown of the difference between supplication and just being kind. I do however disagree with the conclusion and would add another note: Even if YOU are genuinely being non-needy, women will interpret your offer or your actions through the lens of previous interactions with other needy guys. So if you say "Hey, come over to my place tonight, I'm making dinner" and you are truly the most non-needy, not trying to impress guy, she's going to read that offer as being needy and s…
/r/seduction28/02/16 03:38 PM
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You've posted variations of this so many times and everyone has told you you're not ugly and looks don't matter much for men anyway... ... then you're back at it again.
/r/seduction27/02/16 11:54 PM
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Yes. First time you play the guitar, you sound horrible. People tell you to stop trying to play, it sounds so bad. First time you play a sport you look goofy as fuck, awkwardly trying to handle to ball or racquet or whatever, moving around like a moron. First day at a new job you do everything wrong and everything slowly, try to copy others and do it all wrong. First time doing ANYTHING you will be bad at it and look retarded. That's part of the process.
/r/seduction27/02/16 10:14 PM
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I've noticed if I'm somewhere like Subway that requires me to have a smile and sound all happy You don't have to smile and sound all happy at Subway. You're feeling pushed into a kind of submissive-compliant mood where you have to be super "chirpy" - that's not the case here. Don't try to be happy, just work on saying "yes" and "no" slowly, calmly, and at a normal volume. The fast-talking "yep yep yep!" answers come from nervousness/fear, not confidence.
/r/seduction20/02/16 11:22 PM
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If you approach well, then yes, but it's also dependent on their mood and how they randomly perceive you. Keep in mind that the good looking ones are approached a lot, so they can get a kind of approach-fatigue where it's just too many guys and it's hard to like it until the guy proves his value. Of course if guys were to stop approaching, they'd be upset and feel lonely and devalued...
/r/seduction19/02/16 02:40 AM
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Read "double your dating" (google the pdf) by David DeAngelo, then read "magic bullets" (google the pdf) by Savoy.
/r/seduction14/02/16 10:01 PM
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Two things: 1) People send messages for casual sex, which men want much more than women. Men would probably prefer to have sex with multiple new women each day (2-3x+ per day), but women want sex less often than that, and usually with just one or two men. 2) You are looking at young demographics. Look at men aged 50 vs women aged 50 and you'll see a different picture. 80% of men would love to fuck a woman aged 18-30, but most women want an older man. So if you're a 20 year old man, you're really…
/r/seduction14/02/16 09:12 PM
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I find this rant to be in distaste because it's aimed at the most vulnerable of men in seduction: guys who don't know how to game, don't know what women are attracted, guys who have been shamed about their sex drive but are still doing their best to be moral and ethical about satisfying it. They're vulnerable, weak, failing with women and have been horribly misled by society on how to succeed and now you're hearing telling them they're awful for doing so at a moral level. These "nice guys" have …
/r/seduction14/02/16 05:34 AM
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One of my classmates heard it and proceeds to shout "wow real smooth man" making the people nearby laugh. This is the issue (how you responded to it in the moment, how it impacted your state/frame and how you FELT about it), not the slip-up. This is an issue of learning how to deal with AMOGs / and your own internal beliefs, not verbal slip-ups that happen to everyone.
/r/seduction13/02/16 02:40 AM
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This is why you have openers, btw - so you can instantly approach and yet have something that can get you into the set.
/r/seduction07/02/16 03:45 AM
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edit: I answered the wrong question, thought you meant flaking as opposed to just ignoring you when they see you. I'll give you the traditional (and tested to be the best) PUA response: When a woman flakes on you, you react like it's not a big deal. You barely react. You want to project to her that you have an interesting, busy, abundant life and that she's not that important - she told you 30 minutes before your meet-up that she's not coming because she of X (X can be anything)? You respond wit…
/r/seduction06/02/16 10:56 PM
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You've posted this like 10 times now over the past month.
/r/seduction06/02/16 10:42 PM
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Absolutely keep going. BTW Your mom wants you to succeed. You're a 27 year old man, she cares about you, she wants you to get laid, be happy and give her grandchildren. There are tons of posts out there about "my adult son can't seem to get a girlfriend, what can I do to help?". It's all in your head, you want to succeed with women, your mom wants you to succeed, so why stop? Is this possible, or is this a severe handicap? A bit, but handicaps make you better. Playing the game on hard mode makes…
/r/seduction06/02/16 09:51 PM
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You're good enough looking to succeed in pick-up, it's your focus on your looks (disqualifying yourself) that is killing your success.
/r/seduction06/02/16 03:34 PM
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A big part of having a successful relationship and family is having a great wife/mother of your kids, and that requires pick-up. You can't just skip the "attract a valuable woman" step. I guarantee if Strauss becomes single again he'll suddenly be interested in all the pick-up stuff again. He just has the luxury of being able to say "that's not important/good" when he's benefiting from all his PUA knowledge/results. Pick-up (the science/art/techniques of getting into a sexual/romantic relationsh…
/r/seduction05/02/16 12:15 AM
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If they don't offer some other time or really deeply apologize and promise to come up with something else, it's a "not interested, sorry" no. Taking advantage of free YMCA for 2 weeks... lol
/r/seduction02/02/16 08:22 PM
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The second one is likely present too. Don't suggest anything long-term or even hint at a second date or anything serious or that you might even ever see her again until the end of the date. Don't let her know you want a long-term relatioship, etc. Also, for the first one, you have to remember that a woman enjoying herself and a woman being attracted to you are two different things. She might be having fun, but without being attracted to you - she certainly has fun with her friends but doesn't wa…
/r/seduction02/02/16 12:02 AM
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Women are doing worse/underrepresented in an industry or group: immediate action is necessary and is taken. Men are doing worse/underrepresented in an industry or group: silence and attempt to silence anyone who speaks up about it. Feminism has become a movement about creating as many privileges for women as possible while reducing those men enjoy. Feminism is about lifting women ABOVE men.
/r/MensRights01/02/16 06:17 PM
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Night game becomes the new college campus. This. Clubs never go away, they're always filled with hot women in their twenties.
/r/seduction01/02/16 02:46 PM
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Do exciting things. Ask yourself what you're afraid of, and then do that (within reason). Are you afraid of making a speech? Join Toastmasters. You afraid of being in a leadership position and dealing with people? Volunteer yourself as a tour guide or something, or volunteer as a tutor for kids or to teach for free whatever you do as your job. Also, do what you want to do, try to make your dream into a reality. I doubt you're in your dream job. Maybe you secretly wanted to be a writer, or an act…
/r/seduction01/02/16 02:40 PM
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It's an important part of the real PUA stuff (ie not the "be yourself and lift weights" nonsense you see in /r/seduction), showing up as always escalating, leading, dealing with shit tests, sexualizing conversations, making her jump through hoops, etc, it all reinforces the "male leading, female receiving" dynamic which is a key part of flirting and pick-up. The problem is that shaming men for displaying their sexuality (in a pure masculine form) is a massive part of our culture -> "did he flirt…
/r/seduction01/02/16 02:17 PM
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Sounds like a good plan. It's unfortunate but you really do have to be super careful in these workplace situations, especially as it sounds like you're in a career-type job (ie not a 16 year old at McDonalds). The system is set up to ruin your career, and that's just too much to risk on someone you don't really know. The sad part is that everyone loses - awesome men who are interested in women have to turn them down because they're afraid of potential fallout if things don't go perfectly forever…
/r/seduction01/02/16 01:20 AM
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I wouldn't date coworkers at all if this is a professional organization (ie if you care about your career at this business or in this field). When these things go wrong, they go horribly wrong and can severely hurt your career. For example, if things go further with her and then you break up, she might accuse you of harassing her in the workplace, make up stuff about you to your bosses, say she felt coerced by you, or more mundane things like office jealousy (maybe your other coworker has a crus…
/r/seduction31/01/16 04:29 PM
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Why not just be honest? Why be fake?
/r/seduction31/01/16 01:35 AM
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After the first flake, I stopped giving her any attention and moved on to other girls. How do I respond the next time she tries to set something up? Just be blunt. Let her know you wanted to hang out with her, but she flaked on you and you felt that was rude and disrespectful and you're not interested in putting in the effort for her anymore. Don't be rude about it, just be honest and assertive.
/r/seduction30/01/16 09:08 PM
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say STUPID and irritating things lol, I bet you do too. What exactly are you looking for? What are they doing wrong, exactly? The problem is that your idealized PhD student / genius is going to say irritating things too - that's part of socializing.
/r/seduction30/01/16 05:33 PM
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Was going to post exactly this.
/r/seduction30/01/16 05:22 PM
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Do the actions that show confidence - initiate conversations, make eye contact, etc. Eventually these become routine instead of new/unusual - this is called "faking it til you make it."
/r/seduction28/01/16 11:30 PM
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99% of self-professed introverts are just people with bad social skills. "Introverts" don't know how to deal with social situations, so they feel uncomfortable and ill at ease, burning anxious energy = "I don't like big groups, I find them tiring." No, you just don't know how to assert yourself. "I find big groups / parties boring." No, you just don't know how to get to KNOW someone. All you know is superficial small talk, which is inherently boring. You aren't an "introvert", you just have poor…
/r/seduction28/01/16 11:23 PM
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I have to disagree that her knowing you're interested in her is a misstep. I think more accurately, you don't want to be just another one of her admirers, complimenting her looks to get attention from her. If you want to sleep with her you need to show interest. I'm a strong believer in the Mystery Method and indirect approaches, and female to male interest always comes before male to female interest.
/r/seduction23/01/16 01:50 AM
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Don't compliment women on their looks. Why? 1) It makes you look like every other guy. Every guy says that. She just unconsciously threw you into the pile of the other 10 guys that approached her that day, all of whom she rejected. 2) It ends the chase - she now knows you want her. She no longer has to earn your attraction. It turns it into a one-sided "now let me show you why I'm attractive" thing as opposed to framing it on an equal footing where she also has to earn your attraction. 3) She'll…
/r/seduction22/01/16 12:56 PM
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lol
/r/seduction22/01/16 02:24 AM
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You're asking that question to a forum that thinks the Mystery Method and RSD are gimmicks that don't work, lol.
/r/seduction21/01/16 07:38 PM
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Anything in the Mystery Method. Indirect openers, consciously showing her higher value, false time constraints, etc.
/r/seduction18/01/16 03:45 AM
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Do what works for you, but these "games" have been getting incredible results for a ton of guys. I mean I'm happy to hear you've been getting all the results you want another way, but pretending that "games" don't get amazing results for others is misleading and wrong.
/r/seduction18/01/16 03:37 AM
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Go out in the field and practice and try everything and keep with what works. "Playing games" is what has been proven to work over and over, tried for over a decade by thousands of people. It's real. But do what works for you. Just give everything a shot.
/r/seduction18/01/16 03:24 AM
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He was rude but also gave you actual advice. "Fuckin deal with it, you're the man and this is our role in life if we want women." There's the advice. Deal with it. This is how it is, like it or not. Women are not going to take the initiative early on, they are not going to chase you, they are not going to put in equal effort. Why? women have 10-100 dicks to choose from to every 1 vagina you have to choose from and it's gonna be like that for the rest of your life. If you're not out there being a…
/r/seduction18/01/16 02:42 AM
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Personally, I hate these games. Then you're in the wrong place. This is /r/seduction. I don't see point in playing them. That's because you're not good at them, and you still seem as some deeply evil game, rather than just part of the mating dance. A girl either likes me, and is ready to communicate, or she doesn't care and we aren't together Doesn't work that way. It's like saying I don't work on building an attractive resume and cold-call companies because companies either like me and are read…
/r/seduction18/01/16 02:32 AM
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I don't get what you want. You want her to take the lead? Because she likely won't, especially if you haven't had sex with her already. It's up to you to do that work, have sex a few times. You have to work for that - women are the gatekeepers to sex. Once she's decided that you're sex-worthy (aka she wants to keep having sex with you), then it's on her end to try and get a relationship out of it - men are the gatekeepers of commitment. But up to having sex the first few times, that's on you. Bu…
/r/seduction18/01/16 02:30 AM
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Don't think of it as a warm-up, that de-values it. The vast majority of people don't have the balls to go out to a sports bar and start a conversation with another guy there. They either stay home or go out and sit alone, maybe hoping someone else will start the conversation. This isn't a warm-up, this is a step. It's an accomplishment if you can do it. It's not super easy, either: you do have to start a conversation with someone you don't know in a bar, and ideally maintain it for a few minutes…
/r/seduction17/01/16 04:36 AM
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90% of people don't have the balls to go out to a bar alone with the intention of meeting people. They'll go out with a big group, look good from afar (everyone laughing), but they can't do it alone. If you can do this alone, you're already more courageous than them. BTW it's always the hardest at the beginning. No social circle, limited skills, limited value, etc. You build all of those over time. Right now is the hardest. This is what you have to push through. Stay positive, stay relaxed, and …
/r/seduction17/01/16 04:15 AM
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Don't beat yourself up over it. This stuff is hard to learn - it's not like learning a guitar where you can sit alone in your room practicing until you get good, you have to be out there IMMEDIATELY at the beginner level, out in public. Good news is once you get good you'll stay better than others because the barrier to entry is high. People are too scared to do what you are doing. Few people have the balls to go out to a bar alone and try to talk to people (even if it doesn't happen). Those peo…
/r/seduction16/01/16 10:47 PM
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You're invested in an outcome and feel it's rare, so your body automatically goes into "gotta make this work" mode. Think of a big interview you desperately need when you've been unemployed for a year vs an interview with a job you don't really want but just decided to check out when you're already in your dream job. Which one are you more nervous for? You need experience, in general, and success, which comes from experience and practice. It's always hardest at the start. You need massive volume…
/r/seduction15/01/16 03:50 AM
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Mystery developed a system of performance for people who are woefully insecure (like himself) to hide the fact that they aren't truly confident in themselves. Sure, you may get some short term success with "game", the Mystery Method, Magic Bullets, or other PUA techniques, but it almost certainly will lead to long term falling-apart like what happened to Mystery. Mystery developed a system that gets results. The ideas of the Mystery Method have evolved and been built on by RSD and other pick-up …
/r/seduction09/01/16 10:07 PM
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Men primarily want physical characteristics, women primarily want status and wealth. The rich banker dates the 22 year old model.
/r/seduction09/01/16 08:38 PM
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Disagree with this. Yes, you can be direct, but often there's a higher success rate in being indirect. There's a reason the Mystery Method exists (and game in general) as opposed to just walking up to the hottest girl in the bar and saying "Hey, you're really attractive and that makes me horny. I want to have sex with you. Do you want to have sex with me?" Sure, you expressed what you wanted, but good luck on getting results. There's a reason why Mystery developed a system around being indirect,…
/r/seduction09/01/16 08:31 PM
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Correct. Absolutely textbook Mystery Method situation here, figured out long ago by Mystery who pioneered the PUA revolution. The solution is, as cgullz1 put it, to follow the method of attraction, then comfort, then seduction (foreplay/sex). If you go too far one night sexually (past light kissing) then try to reconnect later, she is no longer "in state" (she may be tired, bored, angry at her professor for getting a bad grade, etc), and you come in and all she sees is "this guy wants to fuck me…
/r/seduction09/01/16 06:52 PM
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Most recently at a New Years party, was making out and spending time with a chick all night. She was into me from the minute we met at the party, got her number off the bat to hang in the future. By the end of the night, I was fingering her and even though she refused my advances to have sex, there was literally no low point to lead me to think I wouldnt be able to meet her later on in the week and fuck her brains out (well there was a low point...my painful blue balls) ... yet, she barely repli…
/r/seduction09/01/16 06:43 PM
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lol, good post. May as well tell /r/resumes "why even bother writing a resume, just let employers find you?"
/r/seduction08/01/16 02:05 PM
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That's a good frame to have.
/r/seduction04/01/16 05:30 PM
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Yes, I do prefer friends who encourage me. And what value are you providing in return? Why would I invite you out or encourage you? What's in it for me?
/r/seduction04/01/16 05:00 PM
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Possibilities: 1) Your game is bad and you're embarrassing them by being associated with it. You're being creepy and they're seen as legitimizing it by association, so now the entire group gets the creepy vibe/label. 2) You're no longer adding much value to the group. You used to be a guy they could go out with and laugh with, now you're the guy who is holding up the conversation or movement of the group because he's spending 10 minutes talking to the waitress / receptionist. Why do I want you a…
/r/seduction04/01/16 04:58 PM
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According to the Mystery Method, 2 things are wrong with what you're doing: 1) You haven't spend 4-10 hours with her building comfort, so she's unlikely to have sex with you before that happens. You're pushing for too much too soon and likely going to blow yourself out when she turns you down. Now you've gone too far and when you text her another day she'll feel uncomfortable with dealing with you and be cold and avoid you, because she feels like a slut for making out heavily with a guy she just…
/r/seduction03/01/16 09:01 PM
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just go out there, explore, be open minded, try out different things... the throw-shit on a wall and see what sticks mentality is what helped me finding my passions. Great mentality. This really is how things work - you can't really plan what you'll find interesting so much as try a bunch of things, meet people, and do more of what you enjoy / find meaningful / are intrigued by. another key thing is that you could have the most interesting passions on earth and still bore people to death if you …
/r/seduction03/01/16 08:47 PM
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Do something physical, do something musical, do something artistic, do something logical, do something social. Hopefully I can find some that both interest me and will be attractive to women. Be careful about molding your life to be attractive to women. It will only have a minor payoff but will come at a large cost if you're doing something you don't really enjoy because you want to tell women at the bar that oh, you play the trumpet or something (but you hate playing it in reality). I mean, pus…
/r/seduction03/01/16 08:40 PM
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Date younger women. Women 27+ are almost all in the "serious only please" if they're single, whereas a 19-23 year old won't care that much. I want to meet chill girls or get a girlfriend, Yeah you're definitely dating the wrong age group if they're pressuring for more than a gf-bf relationship. You need to go younger or older. The younger women don't feel in a rush, the older women realize they won't be having a family, but the 27-36 or whatever range are on a "husband/father I can show to my fr…
/r/seduction03/01/16 08:22 PM
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As described in the Mystery Method, it's used for many reasons. One is as a qualifying tool. You ask her what her favourite activity is, she says rock climbing. You talk about how you admire people who are into extreme sports because it shows they're risk takers, and aren't content to just sit at home and watch netflix all day. It's also used for figuring out her values and then mirroring them. You also use it (when you're answering) to DHV with your answers (which can be stretched out into stor…
/r/seduction03/01/16 04:51 AM
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For those who haven't read the Mystery Method, what he means by "seduction" and "comfort phase" is that this comes after you've established attraction, after you've already talked alone, and when you're back together in a location you can have sex in (ie your apartment). If you randomly throw this at a woman who you've only talked to for 2 minutes, expect her to not feel comfortable or interested in it.
/r/seduction03/01/16 04:47 AM
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That's what I'm talking about. Go out, find people you like, open them, demonstrate value (i.e. be cool, non-needy, interesting and positive guy) and close them. In other words, go out to events like meet-ups, sport clubs, martial art dojos, whatever, and start talking to the guys there, then don't just walk away when it's over, find a reason to get their number or facebook or whatever. That's how you find and make friends. In school it's handed to you. You sit down beside a new guy on the first…
/r/seduction02/01/16 04:16 AM
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Learn to open and close guys. For example, if you go out to a meet-up and meet a guy who seems cool and you want to be friends with him and join his social circle, you have to start talking to him (open), demonstrate value (be interesting/chill/cool enough that he wants to spend more time with you), then close (Hey man, I have to get going, give me your phone number and I'll let you know about that concert/event/whatever next week). It's friend game. It's both going out to a lot of social events…
/r/seduction02/01/16 04:07 AM
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Agree with parts of this, but disagree with others. If you're good at social interaction then being good with girls will come with that. Disagree. I've seen all kinds of good looking, rich, socially skilled guys get nowhere with women. Seduction is it's own world, with it's own specific skills, and no amount of general social skills will help you with that. But if you're social interaction is shit, no amount of PUA training/hotseat/whatever will make you good at picking up girls because your cor…
/r/seduction01/01/16 11:02 PM
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I just feel like doing something like your example makes everything a lot difficult as i then have to isolate her from my friends to meaningfully converse and to escalate, as she is unlikely to do this in public. She will if she's attracted to you and you transition well. If she's interested and you just tell her "hey there is a cool pizza place near here, let's check it out" and take her by the hand and start walking it will be fine, although this NEEDS calibration and can look weird if you don…
/r/seduction01/01/16 03:18 AM
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"Happy new years name! the last couple months have gone fast! I dont know if you'd be interested but how about you let me take you out for drinks sometime around late january when im back from place? I Had a great time meeting you last year and would love to catch up!" Don't send this. "I don't know if you'd be interested" = I think I have low value and you'll reject me, which you should, because apparently I'm low value. Take you out for drinks Too date-y. Too much pressure. sometime around lat…
/r/seduction31/12/15 11:35 PM
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"I'm a bit autistic and learning challenged, so I know the improvement that needs to happen.. will not happen?" It will happen if you work at it. a 5"3' guy can be better than 99% of guys at basketball if he puts in the hours, a guy who has no natural musical skill can play the guitar better than 99% of guys if he puts in significant effort. Same thing for pick-up.
/r/seduction31/12/15 11:14 PM
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My closing game has been awful for years. It's not that hard in this situation. I mean isolate to a seduction spot (where you will have sex, your room) with some fake scenario (the classic "netflix and chill" is an example, or "I want to show you my comic books" or "I have X that is cool I want to show you" or "let's watch a movie"), then escalate from there physically. It doesn't take much time and if you've got attraction/comfort, the woman is usually quite interested in things working out, th…
/r/seduction31/12/15 10:55 PM
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My question was really just which class is best to get to and stop at on a first date. The answer here is that you don't want to go beyond kissing unless you think you will be having sex that night, otherwise it creates an awkward feeling for her next time. Like if you make-out heavily and then don't have sex and text her a few days later for another date, she'll think you're just expecting sex and feel weird about it because she's not in the mood.
/r/seduction31/12/15 10:52 PM
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This reads like fictional erotica and I don't believe it happened, but I'll try to respond as if it were real (hope that's okay, daddy). If this is real, and as constructive criticism, you got really lucky. Your closing game sounds awful (actually, non-existent). You obviously build a lot of attraction, but you straight up left the party to go to bed. The fact that things worked out is only because a woman (multiple women) decided to take the initiative and make sex happen after you basically to…
/r/seduction31/12/15 02:14 PM
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I'd just forget that and do what you did the first night. It's too late to learn that, and it takes hundreds of approaches to calibrate it. If you try and remember "okay now touch her elbow and hold her hand" it's gonna come off awkward. For the future you can work on that, but don't try to shove it into your brain and follow it within the next few days.
/r/seduction31/12/15 01:45 PM
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You won't learn much from The Game - it's more of a novel than an instruction guide. The Mystery Method is the instruction guide.
/r/seduction31/12/15 01:26 PM
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Mystery Method was built for this, even has a subsection for it.
/r/seduction31/12/15 04:26 AM
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Help me reddit.. Is this some kind of shit test? What, that she's spent like 10 hours talking to you one-on-one? No. That's not what shit test is. I know the most reasonable thing is to get over it, but how? Get over what? I mean from what you said it sounds like she's interested. What you do from there is up to you, but if you want to do something do it soon, you've spent like 10 hours together and haven't escalated at all so she'll be moving on very soon. This is where you invite her out somew…
/r/seduction31/12/15 04:13 AM
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What is a class of kino? Honestly there isn't much that can be learned at this point (if you're going to ask her out within a week). Just do whatever you did before and read "Double Your Dating" or "The Mystery Method" or any RSD self-contained pick-up video course for the future. You're just going to mess with yourself if you try to jam random PUA things into your brain at this point.
/r/seduction31/12/15 03:59 AM
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Game terms and the idea of pick-up artists have become public and everyone is aware of what (they think) a "pick up artist" is and what they do, which publicly means going around "negging" people, which they think means insulting women and being very pushy/creepy. Terms like "opener", "neg", "pick-up artist" are pretty global now - you'll see all kinds of clueless guys/girls using these terms. As for who ACTUALLY uses it, I'd say like 1% at most. Even for this sub, I'd say only 5-10% guys use ac…
/r/seduction23/12/15 02:58 AM
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I understand what you're going through: you were displaying your personality (maybe you were tired out, etc), she showed no interest. Suddenly she learns about your job and how much money you make, your external social status, and now she's saying she's interested. I wouldn't be interested either: I want someone who is interested in ME for me, not for my job/status/etc. This is actually a textbook MASSIVE failure on her part to qualify you. She clearly disdained you when you had no status/money,…
/r/seduction22/12/15 02:27 PM
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So I landed a Tinder date for tomorrow and it needs to be perfect. If you go into it with that mindset, it's over. It won't work out the way you want. You need to relax - women like men are relaxed and not needy, not some guy who is heavily invested in making sure this date is important. It's one of the paradoxes of game - when you don't care, women become interested, when you do care, women lose interest. Basically, "it needs to be perfect" is a desperation mentality. It's saying "I don't have …
/r/seduction19/12/15 09:02 PM
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why am I so afraid to touch girls when I’m talking to them This is one of the big things that sets off their "virgin radar", btw - your own discomfort with being flirty and intimate with women. That's normal, if you're new to all this. What you need is a good guide and the courage to push yourself forward. Yes, you will be awkward and weird at first - that's true of anyone starting anything new. You overcook your first steak, awkwardly dribble your first basketball and sound awful when first pla…
/r/seduction18/12/15 04:02 AM
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Here's my guide to cooking: 1) Have good tools. You want a good pan, a good pot, a high-quality skillet and some good knives. 2) Don't be afraid to cook new things. Just do it. 3) Those fancy gadgets you see on TV and "5 minute recipes to the perfect meal!" are bullshit. 4) Follow the recipe and taste the food as you go. 5) Try lots of different meals and different ways of cooking. This is how you learn. 6) Just be yourself and cook what you want to cook, at the end of the day. Everything I just…
/r/seduction12/12/15 05:48 PM
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He sounded quite confident actually, sounded very much like an act, like he was roleplaying a bit.
/r/seduction12/12/15 03:18 PM
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Stop looking at porn/jerking off. Porn includes looking through pictures of attractive women on any site (like TMZ, facebook) etc, even if fully clothed. It's just telling your brain that there's a perfect 10 around every corner, so why bother putting in that effort and emotional risk for a 7? PS You may just not be into some women too that are considered conventially "not ugly" or "attractive." Happens to everyone.
/r/seduction11/12/15 02:20 PM
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Besides mental discipline, keep putting in the hours. If you do pick-up every night (or day), you won't have time to dwell on mistakes: they'll just disappear into the past as the present takes up too much of your focus. If you go out once a week and do one approach, then yeah you'll be hyper critical of yourself. If you do 20 approaches a night every night, you'll have a hard time remembering any one approach for more than a day or two. An exaggeration, but you get the point.
/r/seduction09/12/15 06:42 PM
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He knows that, he's asking how to stop doing it.
/r/seduction09/12/15 06:41 PM
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Starting doing new things. Start with things that interest you, but you've been a bit too afraid to do. If you have no idea what to do, here's some things you can try: 1) Something physical. Join a team sport (there are tons of casual leagues in every city for every sport, you don't have to be good, mixed group that usually go to the bar afterwards) or martial arts (brazilian jiu jitsu is a good suggestion). 2) Something logical. Join a philosophy meet-up group, go to a programming meet-up, etc.…
/r/seduction07/12/15 04:38 AM
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This is probably a more complete version of what you're trying to do: http://www.theattractionforums.com/mr-m/89861-comprehensive-guide-attraction.html#post556240
/r/seduction06/12/15 04:19 AM
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That's a tough question. I don't really know how I'd handle it if she sent a text a few days later saying she's interested in going out again. The problem is that you didn't resolve the situation when it happened, so it's awkward to bring it up now, but you're still angry/annoyed by it and don't want to be treated that way. I might even bring it up again, just cause I'd rather get in an argument and tell her to fuck off than just go silently along with it. I'd rather have my self-respect and be …
/r/seduction06/12/15 03:52 AM
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Maybe it doesn't show in my texts but I definitely don't think what she did is okay. I mean, that's the problem. Forget pick-up, it's a general social skill problem. It's about assertiveness - expressing yourself and your needs. She just decided to cancel on you, without even telling you, then got upset when you kind of passively aggressively expressed that you didn't like it, then she got sarcastic and aggressive. She's the bad guy here. She's the one who cancelled on you to spend time with her…
/r/seduction06/12/15 03:32 AM
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Kinda bitchy? You need some assertiveness training. She disrespected you by cancelling on the date (and waiting until you tried to confirm it) without even being apologetic. Then when you tried to figure out why or how to work around her bullshit excuse, she got aggressive and in your face. She was being real bitchy, and she was in a place where she should have been apologetic. I would not have taken that shit from her or from anyone. You have to be more assertive, in general. Don't take this sh…
/r/seduction06/12/15 02:18 AM
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This is a decent question for figuring out some stuff, but people tend to be rough on yourselves. Don't use this question as a way to disqualify yourself - if you're going to get rejected, let her do that. You'd be surprised at what women don't really care about...
/r/seduction05/12/15 12:13 AM
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I'm looking for short term flings for a few weeks I have noticed a lot of girls using it as a flirting point and conversation piece There's your answer. It sounds very good. If you're actually in a professional environment (ie job) where it would seem out of place, that might be a problem, but if you just kinda feel like a "young professional", keep going with it. Or just wear a high-collared shirt at work.
/r/seduction04/12/15 02:18 PM
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How do you guys feel about shelving those field-tests for break? I would do that. In the future though you need to become better at time management. That means, at the least, being able to section off time for your classes (attending classes/studying) and spending that time as efficiently as possible. Most students get done in 3 hours what they could do in 1 hour if they actually fully concentrated. No daydreaming, no looking at facebook/instragram/whatever, just 100% concentration on the task a…
/r/seduction04/12/15 03:58 AM
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... I was agreeing with you. You may have misunderstood what I was saying.
/r/seduction04/12/15 12:17 AM
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The truth is acting my way will turn off many girls ...it’s also true that acting your way will do the same. There’s no perfect approach ...girls respond to different things. I’d rather be myself and lose a couple girls than have all the girls in the world pretending to be something I’m not. Trust me …everything I’m saying falls into Mark Manson’s theories. True confidence, vulnerability, it’s all there. It sounds like you've already made your decision before you came here. I'd just suggest that…
/r/seduction03/12/15 02:18 PM
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Strong posts by you, but people are not going to want to read them. /r/seduction is heavily in the "just be yourself, if they don't like you then move on" camp, which is where people start anyway - it's a road to no improvement. Just look at the top upvoted posts here so far...
/r/seduction03/12/15 02:06 PM
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Not really, no. You can't really change them.
/r/seduction01/12/15 03:17 AM
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First of all, I won't reinvent the wheel here by trying to explain to you what women want or how to act around them or how to get them in bed, etc. Luckily someone (many people) have already anwered your question in incredible detail, so you're going to start with reading/watching their material. It's infinitely better and more detailed than what anyone can put together in a reddit post, and the guides are written for newbies. So here's what you do: Download (google) "Double Your Dating" (ebook,…
/r/seduction29/11/15 08:59 PM
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