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Don't overthink it. That's what's going to mess you up. Just do whatever feels natural in the moment. Ask her out for coffee. Give her the hat. Talk. Tell her you like hanging out with her and you think she's cute. Do it with confidence and don't press her if she says she's not interested.
/r/seduction27/11/15 06:08 PM
1

Never used the stuff and generally I don't think they care much at all.
/r/seduction20/11/15 06:53 PM
0

Depends on what you're going for. For some girls, I make it clear that I'm just looking for something short term and fun. For other girls who are potential relationship material, I tend to be less clear on that note and simply state that I like to feel things out. When asked, I always indicate that I am constantly meeting people because that's just the type of person I am. When a girl you are just sleeping with gets attached, you drop her. Tell her it's not working but you really enjoyed the tim…
/r/seduction20/11/15 06:30 PM
1

Size means nothing when it comes to good sex. The most sensitive part for women is the first 3 inches and you've got that covered. Be amazing at foreplay. Get a girl to orgasm repeatedly using nothing but your hands and she'll think you're the most amazing guy she's ever had.
/r/seduction20/11/15 04:48 PM
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That's for next time. You can invite her over again. You can go for the "was feeling a little off that day. Let's give it another shot" approach.
/r/seduction19/11/15 05:30 PM
24

Thanks for making it available. Content like this is very valuable to the community.
/r/seduction19/11/15 01:06 AM
0

Offer her a drink. Have a seat on the couch or bed with her. Talk a bit if you like. Look her in the eyes. Make sure to lock eye contact. Look at her lips and then her eyes again. SLOWLY go in for the kiss. The rest should come naturally.
/r/seduction19/11/15 12:50 AM
1

I completely agree. As a late 20s grad student, I have lots of early 20s and late teens girls in my university chasing me. Most girls who worry about age are the ones who are using it to justify not dating you for some other reason. (Usually their insecurity or a difference in social status)
/r/seduction18/11/15 10:58 PM
5

Talk to other girls outside of work. You deal with it the same way you deal with oneitis.
/r/seduction18/11/15 10:53 PM
52

Go talk to another girl. Abundance mentality.
/r/seduction16/11/15 07:10 PM
1

This is true. Been there and done that. But that's all about knowing what your limits and values are. Some girls are just not worth spending time with other than sex. This would be an example of "managing it". IE: don't deal with her shit but still have sex.
/r/seduction16/11/15 07:21 AM
1

Looks matter but you can compensate for them with style and personality. Believe me, as a balding guy in my late 20s I totally get you. Thing is, I have good style, and an amazing fun extroverted personality. Women overlook my faults all the time and just see this fun and exciting guy that they want to get to know. Game doesn't come over night. It isn't even about going out and mindlessly doing routines every day. You need to work at it. You need to train yourself. It is a skill. And you can dev…
/r/seduction15/11/15 09:52 PM
1

Never let someone else's actions to directly affect your disposition and mood. Always keep yourself positive, energetic, and follow your own way of thinking and doing things, regardless of how the rest of the group is.
/r/seduction15/11/15 06:54 PM
9

Is she really allowed? If you are a guy with an abundance mentality then you might drop a girl for any one of those reasons. It's only the guys that are over invested in getting a specific girl who have a problem with this. Don't frame it in a different light. Just respect yourself and know what your limits and boundaries are. If she crosses them, manage it, let her know, or drop her.
/r/seduction15/11/15 06:40 PM
4

Just the fact that you are learning is something that women will find very attractive. It shows a motivation that you are trying to better yourself and pursue your dreams. Just make sure you are passionate when you talk about it and it will do wonders for you. As for actually playing, yes. A women who already finds you somewhat attractive will melt as soon as you play a beautiful (even if it is simple) piece of music. Playing the piano for her will be tough as you will probably only be able to d…
/r/seduction13/11/15 09:22 AM
1

Balding is not an issue. Does it affect your appearance? Yes. Is that effect bad? Depends on your look. If it is bad, can you make it good? Usually. Does any of that really matter for seduction? No. Confidence is king. Style it as best you can. A confident bald man is very sexy to a lot of women. A completely shaven head sets you apart from others. It makes you more recognizable. It shows confidence. It shows focus. It is the hairstyle of a leader who takes whatever he is given cuts away the cha…
/r/seduction13/11/15 01:42 AM
2

Sure. But I'm pretty sure all you'll get is my guest's "audio commentary".
/r/seduction13/11/15 01:16 AM
2

You do need to calibrate for her experience. If she's practically ripping your clothes off as you're doing this, that's a clear sign to move faster. For some of the more experienced women, this entire process can take only a minute or so and you can even skip some steps.
/r/seduction12/11/15 06:52 PM
1

There is nothing ambiguous here. She is sleeping with other guys as per your arrangement. FWB does not imply exclusivity. Arrange a time for you two to meet and have sex. Don't make it the same day. Give her a day or two notice.
/r/seduction12/11/15 06:25 PM
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Read the sex subreddit. Learn foreplay. Learn all the "secondary erogenous zones" like the hands, back of the neck, stomach, ears, inner thigh etc... Learn to eat a girl out, how to finger her properly and learn all about the G spot. You can apply all this with the next girl.
/r/seduction12/11/15 06:21 PM
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You did fine. Any time you push yourself to make a move is a good thing.
/r/seduction12/11/15 06:14 PM
12

I prefer to experience it instead.
/r/seduction12/11/15 06:00 PM
3

You assume too much. Some people can be very poorly calibrated to reading these signals. Also, this is a step by step guide for going from sitting next to each other to having sex. It needs to be clear, concise and direct without any ambiguity. Even the point of when to stop and how to do it needs to be covered. Also, giving head isn't to get her off. It's to get her even more worked up for sex. You want her literally begging for it. A guy who is good at eating a girl out is rare and demonstrate…
/r/seduction12/11/15 05:47 PM
3

Right. Forgot about the hip thrust. This is 100% a green light telling you that you're doing it right.
/r/seduction12/11/15 05:40 PM
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You don't shrug it off and go back to eating her out. You follow my advice and stop. She will be horny and not getting anything from you. If she likes you, she will be concerned that she did something wrong by denying you. When you get back to it, in about a minute, probably less, she will be more likely to have sex with you. If all else fails and it still doesn't work out, you try again on another night. There is very little you could have done to have sex with her that night.
/r/seduction12/11/15 05:37 PM
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You need to put the awkwardness behind you and take control. She obviously wants to sleep with you. You start with looking her in the eyes. Hold her hand. Look quickly at her lips then back to her eyes. There should be a note of tension here. You want to see a similar reaction in her. Then SLOWLY move in, tilt your head and kiss her. If she doesn't push away, you're good. Keep kissing her for a bit. The rest is easy. I am going to copy paste a message I sent someone else over a similar question.…
/r/seduction12/11/15 08:34 AM
11

You sir, have oneitis.
/r/seduction08/11/15 11:29 PM
4

No. I've been in that situation and I have other stuff going on in my life. Sex isn't everything.
/r/seduction08/11/15 09:30 PM
2

Get over it. I had the same experience. After my 6th lay I realized that I just didn't care anymore. The past is exactly that. The past. Long gone. Nothing but memories if even that. The only thing that matters is what you're doing now and where that will lead you. Once I realized that, I raised my standards and started going for real relationships with decent women.
/r/seduction08/11/15 09:28 PM
2

What the other guy said. If she was interested she would have gotten back to you within a week. Just say hi and ask how she's been. There is a small chance you can reinitiate with that but chances are you'll get nothing.
/r/seduction08/11/15 09:07 PM
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Nothing. Your best bet at getting a response is to let it sit. Just mark it up as a rejection and forget about it. If you do decide to check in then you should wait a few days.
/r/seduction08/11/15 05:10 PM
1

So do what you should do and stop doing what you shouldn't. You are completely in control of your own life. Own up to it.
/r/seduction07/11/15 07:09 AM
2

The only person you need to be good enough for is yourself. This is the key principle of inner game. Care only about how you perceive yourself and draw your self value and self worth from within. Naturally this will project outward in the form of confidence, and a strong positive energy that brings people in towards you. What you need to do is the same thing the rest of us do when someone we're interested in is unreceptive or unavailable. Move on. But only do so genuinely and if you feel actual …
/r/seduction04/11/15 07:41 PM
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Silence is amazing. Done right, in a conversation it builds sexual tension like nothing else.
/r/seduction04/11/15 07:29 PM
1

You said yourself that you don't like him in a physical sexual way. You just like flirting with him. You want to see how far you can push him and twist him around your finger, playing him like some kind of puppet. You know he has a girlfriend and he is happy with his relationship. You can't stand the idea of him being interested in another girl and not you. It hurts your ego. Why the heck are you interested in messing with his life? That all screams manipulation and a desire for personal validat…
/r/seduction04/11/15 07:25 PM
1

Depends on the rapport I've built up. "Who knows. We'll watch a movie, have a drink and just see what happens." "Come with me and you'll find out"
/r/seduction04/11/15 06:57 PM
1

You have to make a move at some point before she friendzones you. You don't have to be pushy or sleep with her but even some passionate kissing with your hands moving around her back and on the outside of her legs will go a long way.
/r/seduction04/11/15 06:51 PM
1

Right. This is incredibly manipulative of you and it shows that you are just using him to embellish your own personal sense of self worth and need for validation. Do him a favour and disregard my previous advice and just don't spend any time around him.
/r/seduction04/11/15 06:45 PM
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This is the way the female mind works. With you she's more interested in you as a person and is developing an emotional attachment but not necessarily a sexual one. She also doesn't want to scare you off by acting slutty because it will hurt her. The truth is that you wouldn't be in this situation if you were forward and direct with your desires and intentions much earlier. You said months in your post. Really you should have slept with her a long time ago. You've got a bit of an uphill battle. …
/r/seduction04/11/15 08:09 AM
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You're always meeting people, guys and girls. It's just part of your daily life and you would never have met her if it wasn't. She will likely pry further at which point you can tell her that you like to take a very "we'll just see where this goes approach to relationships" and you don't know where this is going yet. OR you can flat out tell her that you're not looking for anything serious right now but you like her and you want to keep spending time with her. Figure out your own wording that wo…
/r/seduction04/11/15 12:40 AM
1

It's a good thing I'm not just looking for a friend then.
/r/seduction04/11/15 12:19 AM
7

"And you love it." With very strong eye contact and a very sexual smirk.
/r/seduction04/11/15 12:14 AM
0

Hey. It's been a while. How have you been? Direct and simple.
/r/seduction03/11/15 08:33 PM
1

Sleep with her. Seriously though, once she's invested the most important thing about your dates is that you are spending time together. If you want to go out and do something fun then do that. Otherwise, just spend time together doing things you both enjoy.
/r/seduction03/11/15 07:47 AM
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I just meet women throughout my day. I honestly couldn't even tell you how many random girls I talk to in a week. It fluctuates a lot but I would say I go on an average of two coffee dates a week. Just strike up conversations about whatever you want and you'll do fine.
/r/seduction03/11/15 07:36 AM
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Depends on what you're looking for. I tend to have a very "we'll just feel it out" kind of approach to dating so for me I tend to go with what seems like a bit of a half answer. You tell her it was a wonderful night and you felt a connection. You're just feeling things out and don't know where this is going. You do want to keep seeing her but you don't want things to get too serious right now.
/r/seduction03/11/15 06:57 AM
1

Good luck. Trust me. Do this the way I described it and you won't need it. ;)
/r/seduction03/11/15 06:12 AM
1

Take a bus or drive to somewhere in the city and walk down a random street introducing yourself to cute girls.
/r/seduction02/11/15 08:39 AM
1

You are overthinking this. Relax and just be yourself. Go talk to him and just be direct. Honesty helps a lot. You can directly tell him that you like him and feel like you might have bothered him by acting flirty if you want. The worst that'll happen is that he'll say he's not interested. Is that any worse than not even asking.
/r/seduction02/11/15 08:35 AM
1

To quote the wise men of Nike: "Just do it." You just need to put those thoughts out of your head and focus on what you want. It really is just that. Act in the moment and blank out other thoughts.
/r/seduction02/11/15 08:26 AM
1

True success doesn't come from a routine. That said, it sounds like you need to work on the way you project yourself. A little enthusiasm goes a long way. Try practicing talking enthusiastically in front of a mirror. Then try holding enthusiastic conversations with people. That's about the best advice I can give.
/r/seduction02/11/15 08:19 AM
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You don't have to be funny. You just have to be interesting. Being funny is just one way of doing that. I know one guy who never cracks jokes but is so passionate about his life and the future he's building for himself that all kinds of girls are interested in him.
/r/seduction02/11/15 08:17 AM
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I've tried this before a few times and it's honestly not a big deal. You just need to be direct about it. That's the only way to not ruin things. If she says no, just forget the subject and act like nothing happened. Here's a good line to start the conversation, "You know, I really like hanging out with you. I actually think you're really cute." You should be doing your best to read for IOIs here. From this point on you really need to calibrate to her response which can range from "I think you'r…
/r/seduction02/11/15 05:37 AM
2

Oh. That's the easy part, assuming you've already built attraction, gotten past kissing and have her in a safe place where you can actually have sex. The key thing to remember is that she will say no if she doesn't want to do it. Respect that and stop. If she just sounds unsure, you still stop but you can start back up in a minute or so from the beginning. If you stop, play it cool and act you you don't care. You might even want to half ignore her for that minute. Anyway, here is the process tha…
/r/seduction02/11/15 04:56 AM
2

People like talking. Women are people. Talk to women. It's really that simple. I can't actually remember a time when I approached a girl during the day and got a seriously negative reaction. They always seem at least pleasant enough to say hi. Realize that the worst that can happen is that the conversation goes quiet and ends. Is that really any worse than not having the conversation in the first place?
/r/seduction01/11/15 11:37 PM
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No. But to experience all this after college you need to actively pursue it. Work can be boring. The people at work can be boring. Many of them will only have hobbies and interests related to their families and their homes. It's very easy to fall into a lifestyle of going to work, going to the gym and going home to watch TV. Don't do that. You have to get out there and live a real life.
/r/seduction01/11/15 11:27 PM
1

Looks matter but baldness does not mean you look bad. It's just something you need to work with. Done correctly it can create a very masculine, strong and sexy look that will set you apart from the other guys. Shave it. Either all the way or to something very short. Walk with confidence and dress properly. You'll do fine.
/r/seduction01/11/15 07:13 PM
1

My advice comes from personal experience. The huge shitstorm that came afterwards was not worth it.
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:55 PM
0

Don't go there. Your sister will never forgive you.
/r/seduction27/10/15 04:35 AM
3

Did you notice how she doesn't seem care that it didn't happen last time? Keep that in mind. She's completely into you and wants you. You have nothing to worry about. Just give it another go.
/r/seduction23/10/15 05:55 PM
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Well, it was kind of a dick move. You could have said that another girl flirted with you. That even demonstrates more value and doesn't hurt your reputation as it isn't your fault that other girls are coming on to you. That said, don't stress. Sounds like she may have had a bad experience at some point and just has a low tollerance for anything she perceives as potential cheating risks. There are other women.
/r/seduction23/10/15 08:22 AM
1

Yes but I do recommend avoid visibly drunk girls. They can be a little unstable. I actually had a rough run in with of those last week. And not drinking is a good thing. Getting tipsy or drunk will only hurt your game. Always stay sober. Also, dancing with your hand wrapped around a beer is nowhere near as fun as dancing with your hand wrapped around a girl. ;)
/r/seduction23/10/15 08:11 AM
1

Don't do it if you don't want to. But it is your call. The sex will just be boring and average at best if you're not into it.
/r/seduction23/10/15 07:19 AM
1

Yes and no. The general rule is to only go after the girls you actually want. Ignore what society thinks is attractive and just go after the girls that actually spark your interest. But, that being said, when I first started, I was asking out pretty much anyone that didn't immediately repulse me or look like she might murder me. The only solid advice I can give you is to not let yourself get bogged down in spending time with your practice dates when you should be asking out girls YOU actually wa…
/r/seduction23/10/15 06:20 AM
1

Yeah. That post got deleted by the mods before anyone else got to comment on it. I'm glad to see that it has motivated a move back to the original intention of this subreddit.
/r/seduction23/10/15 12:38 AM
3

It's always dependent on the situation. I've done everything from commenting on the weather, how busy the bus is, the study notes the person was holding, the logo on a backpack, what to order at a cafe and several others. Give it a try. As long as you don't try to force a conversation by continually opening the same person, you have nothing to worry about.
/r/seduction22/10/15 09:10 PM
1

Great post man! This is the stuff that a lot of the new users on this subreddit should read.
/r/seduction22/10/15 05:24 PM
3

Personally, I have developed a way of acting where I just start conversations with random people throughout my day. I regularly have discussions with people during bus rides or while standing in a long line. I talk to the instructors in my yoga classes and occasionally if I see a very interesting piece of clothing on someone I will compliment them on it as I see them walk by. I find it has worked pretty well for me to the point where I'm not even thinking about opening. Sometimes I see a cute gi…
/r/seduction22/10/15 04:50 PM
1

Maybe. He might just not do it every other day. Only he would know that. If he's 20, a normal everyday guy, and only having sex once a week at most, he probably does do that stuff. And of course he has time. It's not like he has to book time off for it. He can pretty much do this whenever he is in his bedroom alone.
/r/seduction20/10/15 05:30 PM
1

You two might have completely different sex drives. It's completely normal. Generally speaking you just need to accept this. Now, if he masturbates (which I'm assuming he does) that could be a cause of a lowered sex drive. If he's willing to, he can abstain from any sexual stimulation for about a week or two. That includes masturbation and porn. If he does that his sex drive should increase dramatically and the resulting sex would be amazing. Of course, you can't and shouldn't try force him to d…
/r/seduction20/10/15 06:20 AM
1

First of all, you have no idea what she is thinking. Women have a completely different mindset from men. They base their attraction on completely different things than we do. Focus on doing what makes you happy. And by the way that might not be exactly what you think. Sure, playing a video game alone at home is fun but it might be more of a distraction from sadness than a source of happiness. Get out there and try new things. Keep yourself busy. Start putting effort into putting positive things …
/r/seduction20/10/15 12:27 AM
1

Coffee shop
/r/seduction19/10/15 09:48 PM
2

Keep acting like the guy she was interested in. Don't stop talking to other girls and don't revert to the guy you used to be. If this is a serious relationship, treat it with respect and don't K-close or F-close any other girls.
/r/seduction19/10/15 09:46 PM
1

Hahaha. I should try that sometime.
/r/seduction19/10/15 09:43 PM
3

It's not a bad idea but you are dragging it on too long. It needs to be quick. Within a couple of sentences you should have already stated your intentions to ask her out. Also, to pull this off you need to project a level of confidence and focus as you already know. The best move is to directly ask her out. Your approach, pulled off correctly can come off as suave but risks being very awkward. Personally, I would try it for no other reason than I would have fun doing it. Your call though.
/r/seduction19/10/15 06:36 PM
1

Actually that's exactly my point. If you don't sleep with her by the 4th date at the latest you're probably not going anywhere with her.
/r/seduction19/10/15 03:44 PM
1

It happens man. I just had to relearn some of the basics of escalation after I broke with my last ex two months ago. It takes practice and you'll lose a lot of good opportunities in the mean time but don't worry about it. Read the material (I found models was what finally helped me connect the last few dots), get out there, take some risks, get rejected and succeed. Good luck.
/r/seduction19/10/15 02:59 AM
3

This is a pretty standard third date and honestly, if this isn't a part of your second, third or at least fourth date plan, you're probably just making a friend.
/r/seduction19/10/15 02:52 AM
2

Damn. What kind of girls have you been spending time with? If a girl ever said stuff like that to me I would have dropped her instantly. And believe me, most girls I knew, knew that. I never had a girl pull something like that.
/r/seduction18/10/15 11:54 PM
1

I hate to tell you this but if you go in with that attitude you will probably fail and fail hard. You really just have to do whatever feels right in the moment. No pick up lines, no awkward conversation starters. Just say hi and go from there. In fact, why even wait for her to talk to your friend again. If you see her just go up and say hi. Be a man. A real man. Don't beat around the bush. It's unattractive. Be direct, honest, say what you really want to say and do what is right for you.
/r/seduction18/10/15 09:11 PM
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Don't overthink it. That's what will screw you over. Go to your friend. Say hi. Introduce yourself to the other girl. Talk about whatever. Be honest and direct. If she likes you, she will talk to you. Tell the girl you think she is cute. See what happens. Remember: Don't force a conversation to keep her interested. Only talk if there is something interesting to talk about. (And there always is). Also, if there is something you want to say, just say it. Hiding it will make you look bad.
/r/seduction18/10/15 08:18 PM
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Directness regarding intentions and interests, an unapologetic honesty regarding ones views and beliefs, boldness when it comes to talking to girls AND guys, respect for the girls you talk to and a natural charm that comes from a positive, fun and outgoing lifestyle. Works wonders.
/r/seduction18/10/15 08:07 PM
1

It means you are not projecting a confident and secure frame of mind. The phrase "you need a girlfriend" is USUALLY said to someone who seems lonely and can't seem to get a girl. There are exceptions, of course, but they are exactly that. Remember that these girls are taken. You are being foolish to go after them (more often than not). The smart move would be to ask them to set you up with someone.
/r/seduction18/10/15 08:02 PM
2

Within the first month of you meeting a girl she will decide if you are relationship material or not. This is based on two main things: How much she likes you, and Whether or not you make a move. If only the first one is true, then you are friendzoned and basically stuck there. Think about that. That means that you had a chance with those girls when you first met but that's it. Those opportunities are lost. Going forward, if you meet a girl you like and you think the first one might be true, the…
/r/seduction17/10/15 06:50 AM
1

You should post this in the relationship subreddit. To be honest, you are overinvested, have oneitis and are not being assertive enough. It sounds like you heaven't read any of the material or studied anything in this field. If you did, you would probably already know the answers to some of your questions. This girl sounds like a pain. It also sounds like you are both very young and inexperienced. Conventional wisdom states that you should look for other girls regardless of the situation. In thi…
/r/seduction17/10/15 06:42 AM
1

Depends. Any girl that legitimately wants to spend time with you won't care if you pay for them. They are just happy to have fun with you. Any girl who wants free drinks, free food and free entertainment and sees you as a wallet and not much else will care. You CAN bed the latter using paying for her as a form of bartering for sex (in combination with the right attitude but you shouldn't and honestly, why would you want to. There are better women out there. Paying for a girl is something you do …
/r/seduction16/10/15 07:30 PM
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Have her pay her half. There is no reason for you to pay for the both of you. Just send her a link to buy her ticket online or just remind her to bring $X for her ticket. If she complains about having to pay, this is either her flirting or if she's serious, a huge red flag. You should be able to tell the difference. Stick to your guns either way.
/r/seduction16/10/15 07:17 AM
1

Here are a few things I do: Smile and say hi to people on the street, especially if you make eye contact. Start a random conversation while waiting for a bus. Hum your favourite song as you walk somewhere.
/r/seduction14/10/15 06:00 PM
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Two tips: 1) Be interesting. This means being enthusiastic, funny and yet showing that you have other things going on in your life. Part of the secret here is to relate. Relate something she said to something exciting in your life. Maybe make a joke. Make sure what you're talking about is something that she actually cares about or is involved in at that moment. 2) Know when to shut up. Don't try to drag a conversation out of her. It needs to feel natural. If you keep asking meaningless questions…
/r/seduction09/10/15 06:03 PM
1

This. Also, taxis can help you get from place to place pretty easily without the whole "we need to take 3 buses and wait 10 minutes in the rain to get to my place" (at a price of course).
/r/seduction09/10/15 05:53 PM
1

You were dealt a bad hand. Shit happens. Fortunately the super crazy ones like that are pretty rare. Forget about it and get back out there. Maybe try going for girls who seem to have their lives together (professionals and/or well educated and mentally balanced university students).
/r/seduction09/10/15 05:51 PM
1

Usually you want to reference things you've already talked about and just play it off in a funny way.
/r/seduction08/10/15 08:25 PM
1

Be direct and more passionate. Less playful than normal.
/r/seduction08/10/15 05:48 PM
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I didn't tell her when it was my first time. She didn't believe me when I told her afterwards. I suggest you read up on the sex subreddit. Study up and you'll do very well. Best of luck. Remember to just be confident and whatever happens, don't worry about it. Sex can be funny and it can even be a little awkward sometimes, especially if you're new. Just live in the moment and enjoy the experience, whatever happens.
/r/seduction08/10/15 05:25 PM
1

You had one bad experince. Don't let it ruin you. You just need to work on the confidence and enthusiasm/being interesting. That last part is probably what hurt you the most.
/r/seduction07/10/15 05:46 PM
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Be funny and a little flirty. You don't always have to ask questions. The best texts aren't questions. They are statements that are so engaging and interesting that they almost force a response.
/r/seduction07/10/15 05:02 PM
2

If she's a close friend then you can talk to her about it. Say it's not cool.
/r/seduction06/10/15 11:50 PM
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Your loneliness is most likely what's holding you back. You need to focus on enjoying your single life. I just moved to a new city and didn't know a single person here. I didn't care. I went out and joined a gym. I went for day hikes. I sat in coffee shops and just soaked in the atmosphere. I loved every second of it. Eventually I started meeting people. Then I talked to and got to know people I would come across regularly. Even random people at bus stops. Now I have a bunch of people I can talk…
/r/seduction06/10/15 04:31 PM
1

Nice first try. The first one is always the worst.
/r/seduction06/10/15 04:17 PM
2

A condom is the only thing you really need. You can use contraceptive foam too if you are nervous about it but that's just adding extra protection on top of the condom. Don't feel nervous about buying plan b if you have any problems. And pregnancy tests are good for her to do. As for birth control. That stuff is amazing but you really need to trust her to take it correctly and TELL YOU if she thinks it might not be working for some reason. It also takes a couple months to be effective but it doe…
/r/seduction05/10/15 09:28 PM
2

If you're smart, youre only going to do that once. The second time you'll know how important it is to make the call.
/r/seduction05/10/15 07:45 AM
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No. I made up for it and even got some of the experiences I never thought I would have because I thought I missed those opportunities.
/r/seduction04/10/15 07:28 PM
3

That's a good point. I was thinking you would use a slight smile throughout the whole thing but going 100% serious and then flipping it to a joke might actually be better.
/r/seduction04/10/15 06:58 PM
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I think it's a really poorly done shit test. I've never dealt with it myself but getting angry is not the right response. At the same time it's not okay to just take it. The correct response would be to call her on it and put her in a position where she is either embarrassed that she did that or at least has to explain why. My response would probably be "Excuse me. Did you just slap me? What was that all about?" All with a confused look on my face. It's not really playful but it's just confronta…
/r/seduction04/10/15 05:49 PM
3

I would say that the best approach would be to have a series of shorter term or longer term relationships but to never let yourself fall into the trap of solely dedicating your life to one girl. It's the whole putting all your eggs in one basket situation.
/r/seduction04/10/15 05:35 PM
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The trick is not to stay with someone if it isn't working for you anymore. It can be tough to make that call though.
/r/seduction04/10/15 05:32 PM
2

I was once in the same situation. I feel for you man. The truth is, you are still young and you can still easily get college girls. Work on yourself now. Work on your game. When you start succeeding you will quickly stop caring about your old regrets.
/r/seduction03/10/15 11:05 PM
2

That's exactly what being an alpha male is. Deciding to be an alpha. Every man has the same basic tools and the same basic capabilites. You are no different from the jock who has an entire harem at his call. Choose to be the man you want and you will become that man.
/r/seduction03/10/15 04:20 PM
6

Lies. You never need to pay for it. Work on yourself and you'll make it. This guy is just trying to break your game.
/r/seduction03/10/15 04:18 PM
2

That I get a bad rep in the clubs I belong to at my university. Gotta be careful when multiple girls are chasing you.
/r/seduction03/10/15 04:12 PM
2

By living for yourself and doing what you want with your life while not worrying what everyone else thinks. Be a leader, not of men, but of yourself. Always challenge yourself. Realize that you're not perfect (and nobody is) but that life is a journey and you can go out and make whatever you want of it. Never let life get boring. Always have something on the go and always be working to make yourself better. Do all that and everything else will just start falling into place. You'll do fine, man. …
/r/seduction03/10/15 12:38 AM
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I meant spend an hour talking to different girls. And yes you can talk to some random person for an hour. That's what a first date is. Realize that the only person limiting you is you. You can do the same thing everyone else does. You have the same faculties, the same basic tools everyone else has. All you lack is the practice. Go practice.
/r/seduction02/10/15 08:44 PM
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Willpower. That's all there is to it. It's also why I gave you a very low risk way to get started. Throw caution to the wind and just see what happens.
/r/seduction02/10/15 06:40 PM
2

This is good advice and a great way to start.
/r/seduction02/10/15 06:38 PM
2

Exactly what I told you. All you've really said is that you're too scared to try.
/r/seduction02/10/15 03:26 PM
2

Approach anxiety can come from a lot of places, both internal or external. Yeah, you should just go for it but something about the situation is telling you not to. The truth is that 90% of the time you should ignore that thought and just go for it. The reality though, is that unless you've burned it into your personality, it's going to be very tough to do. Dedicate a day, say Saturday, and go somewhere where you will run into women. Somewhere you don't normally go and someplace you don't know an…
/r/seduction01/10/15 10:33 PM
3

The people who do things outside of work. The talkative, friendly, well dressed, fit people who keep active and go to events whenever they can but still manage to take care of all their responsibilities.
/r/seduction01/10/15 10:23 PM
3

Best line I ever learned for this situation, "I'll tell you what. I'll buy you a drink if you buy one for me."
/r/seduction01/10/15 10:09 PM
6

One of my old FWBs had a friend like this. I kept hearing stories about how this girl met this really nice guy and convinced him to put her up in his place and spend thousands of dollars on random stuff for her. At the same time she was also sleeping around. Felt pretty bad for the guy but since I never met him there wasn't much I could do about it. Moral of the story: Never let yourself become some girl's wallet. The ones that are actually interested in you don't care if you pay.
/r/seduction01/10/15 10:07 PM
2

This is good advice.
/r/seduction01/10/15 05:20 PM
2

It's a good start but you need to build from there. Anything is good as long as it works and makes sense in the situation. I've opened with everything from a hand shake to a hug to putting my hands on her waist (mind you that was at a club)
/r/seduction01/10/15 05:09 PM
2

Yeah brah! Welcome to 2015 brah!
/r/seduction01/10/15 04:52 PM
2

It depends. The important thing to remember is that when hanging out with you, the girl's main focus should never be her phone. It should be the amazing attractive guy she's with. If not then you're not building enough attraction with her.
/r/seduction01/10/15 07:55 AM
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Yes. Sort of. I just moved to a new university and met so many people during the orientation events. Half the time they would ask me if they could add me to Facebook to which I would reply, "yeah I don't use that. Let's just exchange numbers." For people who use social media as their main communication method, they are less likely to stay in touch if you text.
/r/seduction01/10/15 07:51 AM
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Vancouver
/r/seduction01/10/15 03:56 AM
2

Stop f and k closing women. It's as simple as saying no. You can do what you want with your time. What you are demonstrating here is a non alpha state of mind where you are dependent on the validation of those women. Your sense of state should be internally focused. If you want to stop something the only real thing you can do is have the willpower to stop.
/r/seduction30/09/15 09:16 AM
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Confidence comes from within not without. Just trust yourself to do your thing and let whatever happens happen. Don't worry about screwing up. Everyone screws up and nobody cares. Why should you?
/r/seduction30/09/15 08:27 AM
2

I wasn't getting enough sleep and it was catching up to me. The three girls were taking too much of my time combined with hanging out with friends and my mostly 9 to 5 career. The fact that I was getting sick didn't help either. I came to this realization literally one morning after driving home from one girl's place to go take a shower and prepare my place for another girl who was coming over that night. I'm not saying drop all of them. I'm saying that for me, there are more important things in…
/r/seduction29/09/15 11:46 PM
1

Depends on the context. Play it right and it's amazing. Play it wrong and you just turned yourself into that weird creep. Most kino is like that though.
/r/seduction29/09/15 07:39 PM
2

UW grad here. Good luck man.
/r/seduction29/09/15 07:37 PM
5

Avoid it. I started with OKC and it caused me to stall out on my actual day game. Dating sites are good and they work but they will get in the way of you having the will power to go out and meet women outside of the site.
/r/seduction29/09/15 07:36 PM
2

I dumped 2 of the 3 women I was seeing so I could focus on what I wanted.
/r/seduction29/09/15 07:17 PM
4

You tell her that you like to play things by ear and that you approach dating with defined expectations. It's too restricting and makes it feel like a job or some cookie cutter thing that you have to shape yourself into. Relationships are more natural and more organic than that and that's what makes them so beautiful. You like to get to know someone and see what kind of relationship if any makes sense. Tell her you really like spending time with her and want to keep spending time with her and se…
/r/seduction29/09/15 07:15 PM
1

I don't think they care if you're into the campus scene. As long as you seem like an exciting guy you should be fine. Case and point, I went to a lot of university events BECAUSE I was invited by girls that I knew.
/r/seduction29/09/15 07:06 PM
1

Very nice. There were a lot of good points made. Some stuff I definitely needed a reminder of
/r/seduction29/09/15 08:15 AM
1

Situational openers. Some cold opens. In the past I used online dating. It's really a matter of just putting yourself in situations where there are women around you. Just hanging out at the university with old friends is a pretty good way to just have an excuse to be on campus and talk to girls. Online dating is its own completely different thing.
/r/seduction29/09/15 02:57 AM
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Drop her. She's crazy. Never stick your dick in crazy. If you decide not to follow this advice, the best approach is to call her on it and make her make it up to you. You have been warned.
/r/seduction28/09/15 10:50 PM
1

Either he's not looking for one or there isn't much beyond the guy's initial pick up to keep a girl interested.
/r/seduction28/09/15 10:47 PM
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It's mostly confidence. It also depends on what you consider older. When I was working 9 to 5 I exclusively pulled college girls and I'm in my late 20s.
/r/seduction28/09/15 08:47 PM
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"hey. I had fun last night. We should do that again sometime ;)" That line has worked pretty well for me but in general it might be a little weak. I think it worked for me because most girls tend to fall for me pretty hard after sex. Long story short: do what the other guy said and give her amazing sex.
/r/seduction28/09/15 06:44 AM
1

Sounds mostly like bad luck to me. Still in the future you should suggest a specific place or activity.
/r/seduction28/09/15 06:40 AM
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You might not have been direct enough. You want to specify a time and place and invite her to come along with you. If you aren't very clear on those points it can seem weak and she might lose interest. This can especially be the case if you didn't build good attraction in the process of getting the number.
/r/seduction28/09/15 02:28 AM
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Generally speaking, I don't text after setting up a date. It shows neediness which is unattractive. You should always have a specific reason to talk to a girl. I also try to set up my dates for now to 3 days from now so there isn't a huge gap from conversation to meeting up.
/r/seduction28/09/15 01:14 AM
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All you need to do is tell him you're looking for a relationship and not just sex. If he's interested then there's going to be a bit of awkwardness but you should be able to shift things around into a real relationship. If not, then just laugh it off as nothing happened and just be friends.
/r/seduction28/09/15 01:09 AM
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Actually, this is pretty much it. The rest is body language and maybe some small talk (which should include flirting). In a party you just talk to her. If there is dancing then you dance with her. If there is drinking, you have a drink with her. Just be fun and flirty. We're talking basics here. If you want more, read up on the material.
/r/seduction28/09/15 01:05 AM
1

Doesn't happen. The closest you will get is flirty eye contact and a smile which translated means "Come talk to me".
/r/seduction28/09/15 12:59 AM
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Laugh. Then say no, politely. It's more often than not the best response.
/r/seduction27/09/15 11:04 PM
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She's no different from any other girl. Do the same thing you should do for the girl in your year, down the street, at the club, or in the park. Walk up, be confident, talk to her, then ask her out. For more details read the other posts and maybe read some pickup books. Seeing as you sound like the nervous type, you may want practice on other girls first.
/r/seduction27/09/15 10:59 PM
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Only in the early stages of a relationship. From what I've seen, once a guy becomes invested, he stays invested. (Unless she does something to really piss him off).
/r/seduction27/09/15 09:32 PM
5

This is pretty accurate.
/r/seduction27/09/15 09:31 PM
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That you can just walk up to a girl, talk to her and ask her out. Didn't learn that until about 24.
/r/seduction27/09/15 09:30 PM
2

Yes and no. I still act like the same fun, enthusiastic guy I was before. I just don't go out on dates with other girls or intentionally try to build attraction with anyone.
/r/seduction27/09/15 09:27 PM
1

At 28 and balding it gets a little tougher to pull girls in their early 20s. That being said, I find most women get pretty impressed with me when I start talking about my PhD and some of the really cool stuff I've done with my life. Besides that, I'm not finding it that different from 4 or 5 years ago. I guess, I find there are fewer available attractive women in the workforce vs university. More importantly, I find that when I'm working I have more time to date when compared to university. It's…
/r/seduction27/09/15 07:29 PM
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I'm not so sure this guy is someone who was looking to sleep with a lot of women. He might have been a former PUA. I used to be in that boat and then decided to switch to single committed relationships when I realized that sleeping with 2 or 3 different girls every week or so was both too time consuming and not really what I wanted in my life. These days I only date multiple girls as a means of finding one I really connect with before dropping the others. He might have been in the same situation…
/r/seduction27/09/15 07:19 PM
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Yep. The real question was, was he cheating on you. If the answer is no, then you made a mistake. PUA skills get a bad rep because some guys don't use them correctly and instead try to take advantage of women. Most guys learn this stuff just to better their lives, be more confident and become more attractive. It is exactly this that attracted you to that guy. If he hadn't studied any PUA material, chances are you would have perceived him as a boring, average nice guy and you wouldn't have had th…
/r/seduction27/09/15 07:07 PM
2

Good wings are hard to find and most day gaming isn't really a thing you go out to do.... you just do it when you're out doing other stuff in your life. I strike up conversations in lines, at bus stops, in the coffee shop, with the girl sitting on a bench reading that book, or the cute girl walking by with the really nice scarf on. And yeah, I'm always on my own when I do it.
/r/seduction27/09/15 03:47 AM
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It means you're not getting anywhere with her. Frankly, without some really strong game this is probably a lost cause. Enjoy the friendship and that's it.
/r/seduction27/09/15 03:44 AM
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Everyone loses their friends in their late 20s anyway. It's just a normal part of becoming an adult. Honestly, women have it way worse. They are so tied to their social groups and that constant need for validation that when this happens a lot of them freak out and get bitter or try to latch onto anyone who will pay attention to them. That's part of the reason women in their 30s are so eager to get married. Be a man. Live for yourself and enjoy who YOU are. Go out and do something that'll make yo…
/r/seduction23/09/15 07:57 AM
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My response depends a lot on context. If I know I've already built up some rapport I'll say something like "What? You don't like it when I look at you?" If she's at all interested, this will make her squirm a bit since she doesn't want to admit it yet. Otherwise, you can always go with something like. "Oh. We're having a staring contest. Didn't you know? I'm winning by the way."
/r/seduction21/09/15 06:37 PM
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Do whatever YOU want. Sex, with someone you care about is amazing. Random sex with one night stands (in my experience) is... just okay. Then again, I'm more of the romantic type and I find good sex is as much an emotional experience as it is a physical one. Others might disagree. Everyone's different. Waiting for marriage, unless you really feel strongly about it has it's ups and downs. On the one hand, you get to experience that first time with the person you will spend the rest of your life wi…
/r/seduction21/09/15 07:13 AM
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Hey. I'm just saying that getting involved with a coworker can create issues. Also, some people are just naturally friendly and outgoing. You don't know who else she might be talking to just like she's talking to you. Unless she makes comments that you are attractive or gives you some other kind of obvious IOIs (certain looks for example) I personally wouldn't make the assumption you're making. Two saying you might want to think about. "Don't get your honey where you make your money" And "Don't …
/r/seduction20/09/15 08:28 AM
1

My advice is to never go after coworker no matter how removed she is from your department. Do what you want though. It sounds like she's just friendly to me.
/r/seduction20/09/15 06:48 AM
2

Instant dates yield higher success rates. When you wait to text her or call her you've given her a chance to doubt things and possibly forget (or ignore) how amazing her interaction with you was. Whenever possible, instant date.
/r/seduction20/09/15 02:38 AM
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Hahahaha. You don't need to spend money on this stuff to be successful. Everything you need to know is on the internet for free and everything you need to succeed is already a part of you. You just need to realize that and make it happen.
/r/seduction20/09/15 02:33 AM
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Wise words. You still need to care about your future though. I would say, stop worrying about what could happen and instead start working towards what you want to happen.
/r/seduction20/09/15 02:29 AM
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You do not need to talk about it. An exclusive relationship of any kind is exactly that. You leave her and never look back. You will likely suffer a little oneitis. Keep in mind that you left her because SHE wasn't worth your time.
/r/seduction20/09/15 01:24 AM
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I can vouch for all of this.
/r/seduction18/09/15 09:29 PM
2

At least keep it short. It's all about proper grooming and showing that you take care of yourself. I shave my own head and have been cutting my hair short for over a year now. Most girls over 20 don't care and for those that do, it's a great way to show confidence by telling them that YOU don't care about it.
/r/seduction17/09/15 09:19 PM
3

Hang out with your friend and talk to the girls.
/r/seduction16/09/15 09:35 PM
2

Yes. The main reason I started studying pickup was that I wanted to improve my social skills and I noticed that seduction skills don't just apply to seducing women but also when "seducing" business partners, friends and even just random acquaintances. It's all about looking and being attractive and interesting to others. People like interacting with, working with, and spending time with attractive and interesting people.
/r/seduction16/09/15 07:57 PM
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I say that with practice and effort you can get to a good point within a month or two. But it's about half a year or more before you really become good at it. Of course, if you ever stop and let yourself slip back into your old way of thinking you can definitely end up pretty close to square one again. It always takes me a month or so to get back into it once I get out of a relationship.
/r/seduction16/09/15 05:33 AM
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I didn't read your post. It was too long and whiny. Grow up. Be a man. Do your own thing. Acting depressed and asking people to feel sorry for you will only hurt you. How you feel, how you act and how people see you is entirely your choice. Look at the guy you want to be like and just be like him. That's how you succeed. Grow up. Be a man. Do your own thing.
/r/seduction16/09/15 05:29 AM
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Don't. There isn't anything you can really do to make this not creepy. Keep in mind that I am currently assuming you are horribly friendzoned with this girl. Otherwise you wouldn't be in this situation. Your best bet is to be fun, charming and do your own thing.. Oh and ask her to dance. But if you do try to k close keep in mind that it needs to be very private and you might very well end up ruining the entire night. You are better off just demonstrating social value by talking to people, being …
/r/seduction16/09/15 05:25 AM
1

Yes. I have many success stories which I attribute to good kino. The secret is to start early, watch her reactions and be confident.
/r/seduction15/09/15 10:11 PM
1

I don't know. Getting laid is pretty good. Haha. No. Honestly, I just like the feeling of being social, doing fun things and hanging out with interesting people. Spending time with women in whatever context is just part of that.
/r/seduction15/09/15 04:58 PM
1

As already suggested, read a guide. The gist of it is that you first want to build sexual tension with strong eye contact, confidence and touching. Holding hands (especially if you do it the right way) is a huge deal. Again, look up a guide. It might be referred to as hand sex. Build up to it and start off slow. It's the single best way to build attraction and ultimately build up to the kiss. There are several types of kisses. My favourite (because it has such a strong sensual feeling to it) is …
/r/seduction15/09/15 08:44 AM
1

Yes but only in the sense that you need to keep social and maintain your natural charisma. If you let this slide too much you might end up going Beta which can kill your attractiveness with your new GF, which would make her your new Ex-GF. To be clear, you are not hooking up with other girls, or dating other girls or even K-closing other girls. At most you are making friends with girls (maybe even being a touch flirty if that's just part of your new personality) but that's it.
/r/seduction15/09/15 08:28 AM
1

Give her a compliment, use kino and strong eye contact.
/r/seduction15/09/15 08:23 AM
1

Dance. Seriously. Take her by the hand, look her in the eyes, smile and say "come on". Then you just lead her to the dance floor and dance with her. She already likes you enough to go with you. There is very little you can do to screw this up. Just have fun, be charming and enjoy the night.
/r/seduction15/09/15 05:09 AM
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Yes. But only when they aren't really thinking about it. Touch is an important part of human communication and closeness even though socially it can be a bit of a taboo. The trick is to make it a natural part of how you interract with people. When it feels natural it makes your interractions feel more meaningful, more memorable and ultimately makes you a part of her world even if just for the moment. It's really powerful stuff.
/r/seduction15/09/15 04:30 AM
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Be amazing Seriously. Just be yourself. Don't care about what happens. Just go and have a good time. Since you are asking this question, I'm going to assume you haven't gotten a lot of experience dating. So, when you meet her, tell her something about her looks good. Either she has nice hair, cute earrings, pretty eyes. Etc... Make sure you just say it very... off the cuff. Like. Hey! Wow. Your hair looks really nice. I suggest working basic kino at this time too. When you meet her and as you ar…
/r/seduction14/09/15 10:01 PM
1

I had a similar situation. It was a waste of both of our time. Find another girl and end it with this one.
/r/seduction14/09/15 09:32 PM
1

I usually look for an opener. I actually just number closed a girl who I noticed was looking at a poster of the solar system. I walked up, commented on the poster and a conversation just naturally came from it. When she said she had to leave after talking for a while, I invited her for coffee later this week. She said yes and I got her number. Easy-peasy.
/r/seduction14/09/15 09:12 PM
3

Meet there. Make her work for it. Funny thing about people, the harder they have to work for something, the more they want it.
/r/seduction14/09/15 09:09 PM
1

Thanks. It was fun.
/r/seduction14/09/15 08:57 PM
1

Honestly, the real reason I didn't push any further with kino was that I didn't go with the intention of getting laid. I was just there to chat with people I met earlier that week and ultimately have a good time. The last thing I wanted to do was poison some friendships by trying to hook up. The kino I did do was the kind of kino I would use on anyone I meet although I did take it slightly farther during dancing. I think the reason I started feeling beta was because I was getting some bad signal…
/r/seduction14/09/15 07:06 PM
2

I honestly have no idea what's going on here. It sounds like just girls talking.
/r/seduction14/09/15 09:20 AM
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Funny thing about clubs. It's pretty dark in there. Even if you're ugly, she probably can't really tell. If you don't have any confidence though, well, that's another story. Just have confidence and you'll do fine. Stop thinking about what's weird and normal. Just do whatever. Remember this one thing. Every day, almost everyone you walk by, you'll never see again. And if you do, there's no chance that they'll remember that one weird guy from three years ago. Take a chance. There is no real risk.…
/r/seduction14/09/15 08:48 AM
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Smile a little and nod then go back to your own thing. OR Turn it into a game. Smile then lean in and give her this big obvious stare then laugh, give a slight wave and go back to your own thing. And yes, you mention it to her after class.
/r/seduction14/09/15 06:36 AM
1

The boyfriend thing is unlikely. We were all new students in different graduate programs at this university. I think she said she moved to the country about 2 weeks ago and was renting a basement in some house by herself. I know the other two girls were single as relationship stuff came up when I was talking with them but she had had gone to get herself a drink at the time. She was also kind of a responsible, nice girl (only having one drink the whole night) and not your typical slutty club chic…
/r/seduction14/09/15 05:39 AM
2

It shouldn't be but legally it is. My view is this, if the girl, knowingly decides to drink beyond her limits and as a result of poor judgement then willingly decides to sleep with a man, then how is that a form of sexual assault? She exercised her right to make a series of decisions and maybe they were mistakes but they were her mistakes, not his. The responsibility should be with the woman to control herself and not with the man to magically read her mind and interpret whether or not she is do…
/r/seduction14/09/15 04:06 AM
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I know. I'm just not sure how I misread this so much. Either that, or I missed out on a good opportunity. Honestly, I never do the clubbing thing. Unless I'm already going with a girl, I find it to be irritating and a waste of time compared to day game. The really frustrating part is that this girl hit so many points on the "what I'm looking for" list that of the 30 or so girls I've had actual dates with in the last 3 years or so, she was pretty close to the best catch I could've had.
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:55 AM
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Honestly, it happens to me sometimes too when I'm in a bit of a dry spell. The trick is to keep yourself busy. Remember, your goal isn't to bang a bunch of chicks or even get a girlfriend. Your goal is to just have fun doing amazing things with your life. If you do that and keep your mind open when you do talk to a girl then it'll happen. If all else fails (and I hate to say it but this does work), temporarily lower your standards a bit and find a girl for right now. Go on a few dates with her a…
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:50 AM
2

I knew nothing about talking to anyone when I started. I had no social skills. I was the definition of shy. I just moved to a new city (not knowing anyone) and I am currently talking to 4 women and trying to hold one back because I'm more interested in the others. You will get better with practice.
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:41 AM
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Don't. The best thing to do is use texting as a tool for meeting up. Then you can chat in person. Still, you can probably ask about school and tell her about cool stuff that's going on in your life. You probably want to get some in-jokes going. One girl I'm currently texting talks a lot about her turning into a monster to fight off serial killers..... I know right? That's a joke I started during our first date. Keep in mind, though, each text you send where you're not doing something to move thi…
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:38 AM
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So true, man. So true.
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:29 AM
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Flirt with guys and be more sexual/forward about it. Typically if the guy is looking for something like that he'll get the hint and go for it. A good line would be: "To be honest, I'm not really looking for anything serious right now but I don't know, maybe we could still spend some time together." Add some "sexy" eyes and a smile and you should be set. But always state it clearly before things get too serious (before sex). You are probably looking to sleep with him within a week of meeting or a…
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:27 AM
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Looks matter. But looks = fitness + posture + disposition ( what we usually call confidence) + fashion + actual physical attributes. You have a lot of control over 4 of the 5 things in that equation. Exert that control.
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:15 AM
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If you want to sleep with her, then act like the charming, fun guy she used to like. Then slowly try working kino and building the sexual tension without being too overt. If she wants to sleep with you, it will happen. If not, just act like a friend. The real take away is this: do what's right for you. If she's an ex, then chances are you want nothing to do with her. Don't let her force you into something you don't want.
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:11 AM
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I go for a kiss but I preface it with a little kino. I start with a hug then hold her hands look her in the eyes smile maybe even laugh a little and make sure I keep my breath shallow. Say something like, hey it's good see you again. At this point the sexual tension should be really high and she should have a hard time speaking. Then I wait a few extra seconds before I go in for the kiss.
/r/seduction14/09/15 12:21 AM
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Always meet somewhere. Even when I had a car that's what I did. Picking her up doesn't get you anything. Make her work to meet up with you and she'll be more likely to like you. When changing locations during a date, use Uber or a cab. Bussing it makes you look bad (unless you're both poor students or something and the bus is something you would expect to take)
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