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#JustLVMThingsseekindivid/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:07 PM
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DISCUSSIONseekindivid/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:36 PM
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Oh shit, this is tragic. From his annoying nasally voice, to the giant tv in the dark bedroom, to the boring, bland looking food. Imagine if he paid for culinary classes for her instead of encouraging her to embarrass herself on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:22 PM
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I genuinely think swipe dating apps are best used only as a place to find someone to take Instagram photos with you. An activity partner. Brunch date. Walk the dog. Champagne party. Bougie or wannabe bougie stuff. That said, I don’t have Instagram lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:37 PM
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Takes courage to tell a friend something like this and watch them accept more lies from the liar. One day, this incident will be part of her rationale for leaving him. Doesn’t always happen immediately, but, when she’s ready, your friend will be grateful to have solid proof to support her resolve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:34 PM
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If your boyfriend lets his female friend bring home cooked food to him every day when he’s sick... that’s not your boyfriend. That’s HER boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:31 PM
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Blocking is closure! For everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:44 PM
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They’re even more persistent if you’re not extremely attractive, because they think that means you’re more insecure and have fewer suitors. They play each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:40 AM
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At least (“at least”) before, women could maintain some dignity while enduring exploitation. Now, it’s common that everyone you know knows you’re participating, so you essentially commit social suicide for a few hundred bucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:18 PM
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Yep. Global recruitment. Girls can now join the global sex trade from home. The tiktoks glorifying sugaring and OnlyFans are no coincidence. They use the power of these beautiful model influencers to constantly recruit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:55 PM
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The newest scheme is “managing talent” for OnlyFans. Some of these guys get away with shady business because they’re not necessarily instructing women to have sex with clients—and, ostensibly, the women aren’t even having sex for money—they’re just teaching them how to sell media. It’s amateur porn recruitment with no oversight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:39 PM
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Lol reminds me of the inverse—a man who showed off all of his domestic prowess because he wanted to be a “kept” man. Except I could do it all 10x better myself, while working full-time, doing all of the shopping, and managing our social calendar. And being the go-between for both of our families. Most men have a very vague idea of the labor women do, will even accuse us of being lazy when we’re in constant physical or mental motion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:45 PM
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Just to warn anyone - don’t read the article if you have PTSD or could be triggered by graphic descriptions of violence. It’s not lacking on details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:28 PM
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I kind of agree with him... with a twist. I think most women have shitty taste in men, so the qualities they find “attractive” are actually red flags. These qualities are “unattractive” in women because men don’t have any qualms about rejecting us for any reason whatsoever, including for legit red flags lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:33 PM
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No talent losers afraid of talented women stealing the spotlight they rightfully deserve. Ana Coto sparked the coolest trend we’ve seen in years—actual fun exercise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:14 PM
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HVM are not perfect. They’re not going to neatly fit the mold. And they’re not “highly desirable men,” they’re high VALUE men. The net gain of being in a committed relationship with such a man is greater than what you trade by giving up your single status. The pangs of feeling generally unwanted as a single are dull compared to what men regularly subject their spouses and girlfriends to. Love (and even basic respect) is not guaranteed in a relationship and it never was. This mindset helps you ob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:45 PM
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Lured by the “you don’t have to commit to him! You can sleep with whoever you want!” Destroyed by the “he’ll NEVER commit to you! He’ll sleep with whoever he wants and have you feeling anxious about it for years!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:14 PM
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Classic example of adopting the native language. The addition of a Mean Girls quote at the end is patronizing. Sounds like he’s looking for an “empowered” libfem who won’t place any demands on him but will still hook up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:59 PM
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Living hurts. Regret hurts more. My advice is to not decide whether or not to leave your boyfriend. Simply level up, and if the relationship crumbles, it was never going to withstand the trials of life anyway. Losing one relationship with someone who can’t support you spiritually vs. spending YEARS denying yourself real growth? Time is all we have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:53 PM
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Quite the opposite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:34 PM
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Dating while horny is dangerous. Avoid going on dates around hormonal times like ovulation, don’t watch too many sexy tv shows and movies (Yes, that means not bingeing Bridgerton!), don’t have more than a drink or so around your date, and ramp up your exercise routine to expend more energy. It’s possible to manage your libido, but first you have to stop feeding it straight tequila.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:27 PM
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When I first started FDS, I realized that every time I had a date with someone very interesting, I would blow $200-$500 on a new outfit, makeup, haircut, etc. In most cases, I never saw the guy again. But that’s where the majority of my luxury items and expensive grooming habits originated... a LTR with a guy who would nitpick my clothes, my hair, my body, my belongings, etc. until I gave in to make him want me. While I’m glad to have higher standards for my personal appearance now, it’s tough t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:42 PM
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Lol this is exactly what they are hoping to skip when they say they won’t do dinner for a first date. They don’t want to answer hard questions, they don’t want you to get a straightforward look at them, they don’t want to have to act like adults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:18 PM
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Lots of Tinder-intentioned men migrating to Hinge to futurefake women who want relationships!!! If I hear “tbh I’m not really looking to get into anything serious right away... just going with the flow” one more time I will delete my whole phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:48 AM
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It’s important to reflect on why you were in the position to keep fooling around with your ex anyway, especially while dating and having sex with others. It’s highly unlikely that ALL of these partners had proven themselves worthy, especially someone who is explicitly not committed to you. Just remember that when you have sex, you’re not only vulnerable to STDs but to the bonding hormones that make you feel attached to men who don’t love you, sexual violence, blackmail, and more. If you don’t th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:54 PM
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Lol if FDS was like TRP, we’d be swapping tips on how to milk multiple men for all they’re worth before taking a giant divorce settlement, retiring to the Bahamas, and fucking cabana boys for 30 years. Instead? We’re like, “How do I stop wanting to date people who insult me to my face?” Almost every female question from the mainstream dating subs is answered in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:45 PM
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Seriously... a gay male friend once told me I needed to pluck my brows during finals week. Sorry, what????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:21 PM
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I won’t ever wear false eyelashes, and even though I have pretty full natural lashes, I’ve accepted I’ll never look as glamorous as someone wearing false lashes. The cosmetic industry is so huge because of rising compulsory beauty standards, not because women just “like” looking beautiful. Every time some new beauty prosthesis or procedure is adopted and marketed, women in that culture have to actively decide whether to trade safety, money, time and energy to participate... or else endure a perc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:47 PM
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Why would anti-feminists tell a feminist documentary filmmaker exactly what she needs to expose their shiftiness? Unless they were complete morons, they wouldn’t! Assuming good faith is the major issue in all of this. The MRAs are a “debate-friendly” subset of the quintessential misogynist. The statements she reflects on in this video are almost quaint compared to what many men are posting online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:59 PM
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Isn’t it incredible how some of the FDS-approved literature published 20+ years ago STILL applies? It’s evidence that these self-styled experts are just wasting people’s time with shiny objects and upholding the status quo. If most of us hadn’t been transfixed by pop culture takes on relationships, we might have avoided some of the abuse and manipulation that brought us here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:30 PM
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Yep! Sometimes the only distinction between the woman he dumps after casual dating and the woman he pursues to marry is this: he pursued his future wife with marriage standards in mind. Often, these guys will date a woman indefinitely but will never respect her for being a doormat. In his eyes, a woman’s real value is how much people will respect him (real or imagined) for being able to land her. Side note: this is also why some men will move on when they sense you have some kind of vetting stra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:07 PM
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A friendship isn’t forged as a trial for a romantic relationship. Sure, some people are instant friends, but there’s a period of acquaintanceship before you’d call most people your friends. (Westerners commonly call acquaintances “friends”.) Here’s why the friends first approach is a con: If a man wants to take the time to prove himself as a worthy friend, and he already knows he’s attracted to you, what is stopping him from proving himself as a worthy partner? (Answer: He isn’t one. He just wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 01:59 PM
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I’ve said this before and it bears repeating: Men do want all of the things you can give them—they just want them from someone they really want to be with. Much like us. So if you provide a noncommittal man with the wife experience, he will gladly accept, take his newfound taste for that luxury, and seek out the woman he truly wants. Noncommittal men usually don’t jump straight from randy bachelor life into a marriage. They usually discover that they want to settle down when a woman they don’t l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:41 PM
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“I’ve let my kids bond with this super stable woman and might want to let her buy us all a nice home... OR I’ll rip my kids away from this great mother figure, keep them in a crappy apartment, and start bringing home a bunch of random 20-somethings I’m SURE want me.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:49 PM
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I recommend the book “Getting to ‘I Do’” for this in particular. The author explains how every romantic relationship has a “masculine” role and a “feminine” role. When both partners want to occupy the same role or when one or both are not naturally suited to the role they occupy, the relationship won’t work. She shares great case studies of relationships based on this philosophy. The book offers far more nuance than I’ll get into, but it helped me understand why my relationships fell apart. It s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:05 PM
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Looks like the person OP is arguing with is a 16 year old girl, not a guy. A worrying proportion of young people buy into the myth that BDSM is “safe” just because they hear it so often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:57 AM
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They literally weren’t good enough for you. They couldn’t handle the prospect of inevitably (in their mind) disappointing you, so they opted for women they didn’t care to impress. This way, they can save face with you never discovering just how bad of husbands they’d be. The smoking gun is their lackluster proposals—they wanted you to turn them down so they could “lose” you and be off the hook. You’re choosing to date men who don’t pass muster and they’re showing you why that’s a terrible idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:29 AM
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The users in these tweets are from trad/right wing Twitter. There’s a growing number of men who are at least beginning to consider how men can start becoming better providers and fathers, even if their views on women are oppressive, mean and hypocritical. I hope somewhere along the way we can find a healthy balance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:15 AM
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Hear me out: OnlyFans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:05 PM
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Recently experienced a guy open by asking if I prefer kissing or cuddling. Without even saying hello. I laughed and he called me unattractive. Incompetence lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:34 PM
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Yup, if you lurk in their forums, you’ll find discussions around getting women to disclose their sexual history, mental illnesses, political beliefs, past traumas, etc. They do this by faking intimacy so their target feels comfortable opening up. Then, when she’s completely vulnerable, if they don’t like what they’ve learned about her, they ditch her. They believe women are fundamentally deceptive and that we’re all trying to trick them into accepting damaged goods—but I’d argue that anyone this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:09 PM
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What you describe was probably happening before you found FDS... you just didn’t notice their behavior. These highly politically-identified men have Main Character Syndrome. They need to feel superior to everyone in some way, whether that means punishing you through debate, shaming your lack of commitment to a cause, dissecting your psychology to your face, or any other dominating practice. They’re attuned to how much people respect or admire them and will attempt to cope with the scale tipping …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:50 PM
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You did everything right. The humiliation you’re feeling is what they use to try to manipulate you into sex—they know most will seek to resolve cognitive dissonance and negative emotions by convincing themselves that they want to be treated this way. But you held your ground admirably. Seduction tactics have moved past negging and nice guys into intimacy faking. They’re now learning how to extract information from us to manipulate us on a more personal level. It’s tough to do what you did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:08 PM
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In my experience, the most valuable defenses you can bring with you on a date are your awareness and your willingness to be “rude”. Those weapons in your bag across the room will not help you—and, if you’re in close quarters, they might even be turned on you. Lots of creeps are counting on catching you off guard, so you freeze. If you can leave, leave. If you can’t leave, talk your way out. Training up your reflexes to flee without confrontation is a must, before you think about bringing a weapo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:41 AM
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When they start whining about not being able to take me to the same bar they take every date, I let them know I’m no longer interested. How can I plan a personalized and appropriate date on the spot but you can’t think of anything even after several days? Don’t hit me with the “what’s your ideal date?” — just fucking plan something actually cool lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:35 PM
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They’re typically trying to goad you into saying something damaging or “exposing” “female hypocrisy.” Then they’ll post the convo on their forum of choice for shithead points. Don’t engage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:39 PM
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Women do end up dying alone with their cats... after they’re widowed. Investing in your health is so, so important for this reason. Extend your physical autonomy for as long as possible so you can try to avoid depending on others for personal care. And if you are someone who lives with health issues, build strong bonds with other women 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:27 PM
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I’ll rephrase: “Men who I wouldn’t want to date, have sex with, or marry are now weeding themselves out of the picture before I even realize I can’t stand them—saving me valuable time, energy and resources.” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:48 AM
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Strategies for interacting with non-FDS women in your life could be a good handbook addition. It’s important not to become an island of enlightened few when we benefit most from mass adoption of FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:52 PM
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Yeah, I should note that I’ve stopped speaking to my family, who are extreme boundary pushers. But my friends are thrilled that I’m not going through the dating and family turmoil I once was, so my friendships have improved!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:02 PM
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I’ve actually observed that I get more respect now. Sure, men don’t stick around like they used to, but, before, they were trying to string me along. Now, it’s a quick and somewhat painless process to see we’re a bad fit, I’m not budging, and goodbye is the best option. 9/10 they are LVM who impulsively admit all of their problems and I say, “Oh, sounds like you have work to do. Wish you the best!” No shit—men have THANKED me for rejecting them when it was clear they were not fit to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:00 PM
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The poster says she is not a big fan of PIV sex. She married someone who certainly is a fan. Incompatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:37 PM
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What they don’t truly get is that shy, nerdy guys are weak and entitled and their refusal to grow up and have real virtue negatively affects all of society. If your genetics are so wonderful, prove it, assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:03 PM
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Not at this point, no. I’m talking about how women who are not already in relationships can avoid being caught in this situation of sexual incompatibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:59 PM
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This can be partially avoided by establishing realistic sexual boundaries early in a relationship. Pickmes tend to obsess over keeping the man happy, to the point of having sex and performing more than they personally want to. It’s a double edged sword because she can’t maintain the sexual facade without great detriment to herself, but her partner feels like she is suddenly withholding something she never wanted to give in the first place. Always remember that men don’t think the way we do, they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:11 PM
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I would assume that unless he is saying “I love you” without prompting, he does not, in fact, love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:43 PM
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Yep, and the more fractured the dating scene becomes, the harder it’s going to be for everyone. People seem to have vastly different standards for a suitable life partner, meaning that each of us now has an exceedingly low chance of meeting someone suitable - it’s not possible to live up to opposite sets of standards and rules of engagement. In a way, women uniting to form our collective standards is excellent for everyone. Less guesswork for both parties lets off some of the pressure that’s bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:01 PM
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Men always get to decide “how it works.” They eventually turn everything into a place where they go to find women they want to have sex with. Then, when women flee to somewhere else, they find us and pollute the new spaces. No more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:15 AM
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Lol bald is fine by me. I’m talking about drinking, neglecting their kids, disrespecting their spouse, low net worth, slobbish, etc. These traits are passed on, you know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:16 PM
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Better start looking at men’s dads! Their son will be exactly like them, after all...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:59 PM
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Their mistake is in always correlating women’s looks to who we are. This “wisdom” is treated as gospel by men, who hand it down from generation to generation. People tend to become worse over time after being stereotyped consistently. It’s cruel and limiting. And soon he’ll take some issue with his pretty girl’s low self esteem, which, as many of us know, negatively impacts your growth and resilience. Just remember they’re usually wrong about us, so never internalize what they think of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:03 PM
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Well, if she marries him, she’ll stop smiling so wide one way or another!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:55 PM
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Eh, the poster could easily be a young woman who has been flooded with bad advice for years. I know in my early twenties I read plenty of articles that touted being open about your sexual history and preferences to “normalize” those kinds of conversations. The assumption was that the right guy should be compassionate, understand your “agency” and love you no matter what... lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:26 AM
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Different take: After having experienced all of the benefits of long term partnership, and suddenly losing those benefits all at once, they look for their next partner with more permanent intentions. If a man is not ready to settle down, he’s not going to be as picky about who he dates. This is why it’s risky to date someone who doesn’t seem ready to settle down—it’s all about timing for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:52 PM
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Yeah, I think these comments are in the same vein. I’m sick and will be confined to my home, alone, for weeks, so it struck me as extra insensitive for him to whine about it. Easiest way to peg a guy as someone who doesn’t see women as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:49 PM
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A guy got huffy with me because I cancelled our date (I’m sick) and also our pre-date video chat (I’M SICK). He said he thought of it as me double cancelling. Ok, be double cancelled, then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:52 PM
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This is the case with Self-Reinventing Men too. You’ll assume all of the burdens and risks while he “molds himself” into his ideal. He’ll even have the gall to criticize you for stagnating, not working on your goals, or nursing unhealthy habits. Meanwhile, you are the fucking pottery wheel and kiln to his lump of Earth. Decide now what’s worth it to you. What kind of treatment you want. What you’ll tolerate to get what you want. What choices could destroy it when you have it. Going with the flow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:55 PM
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She is engaged to a future unemployed man ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:49 PM
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She says no guy would ever look twice at her, yet she is married, and he says she’s the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen. ? My best guess is that her low self-esteem interferes with the sex life he dreams of and someone advised him to “scare” her out of it by suggesting a sex doll. Second best guess is that he married her because of a fetish, and he has others. Either way, never marry a man who expects you to fulfill his wildest fantasies. You’re not his personal plaything, and if you try to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:52 PM
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Those types want only women who have been brainwashed and groomed to serve them. The world’s crumbling while they’re out here playing dick cheese king and his queen Gorgonzola. The battle and adventure they all lament about craving are excuses for not developing the self-discipline to be good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:27 PM
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Seriously... they have access to the damn Rosetta Stone, and they decide to grind it up and snort it. Fools!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:06 PM
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What info tho...? We don’t expect men to keep our secrets 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:05 PM
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I’m not mad that you were pretending to care about me as a person in order to secure consistent sex, but it’s only fair that you warn me ahead of time. See, when I think about my day in my head, my mind obviously eventually goes to how much I love and care for my partner. I have a certain level of expectations that I like met when I think about a normal day with you. That involves emotional intimacy. Now when I show up and you brush me off because we can’t get physical in that moment, I feel a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:48 PM
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It’s fine to be alone. I just don’t like eating at a restaurant alone. It’s boring lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:44 PM
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Pro Tip: Most restaurants are designed to be social, so unless you’re really into the food scene, a solo dinner date is gonna feel empty/lonely. If you’re “dating” yourself for the first time, do things that add depth to your life - go to a speaking engagement, see a live performance, take a class, create art, volunteer, practice a skill. These will feel less awkward, you won’t end up glued to your phone, and you’ll fill the type of “progress” craving you usually satiate by getting into a relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:51 PM
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Do you feel creeped out too? I feel creeped out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:41 PM
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Are we going to ignore that he said he has a 6th grade mentality? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:37 PM
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The fundamental struggle between men and women is a Marxist one: Who owns the means of reproduction? What people miss by focusing on the literal process of sex -> pregnancy -> birth is the NURTURING aspect of reproduction. A child is not capable of self-raising, at least not without disastrous consequences. When the law treats children practically as their parents’ belongings, parentage plays an even greater role in who is allowed to nurture children, transmit culture and “reproduce” in a sense.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:05 PM
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I brought this up on another thread and my comments were removed. Would recommend using your own discretion to figure this one out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:58 PM
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Male violence and entitlement is the problem with dating... it’s why we need a whole clandestine “strategy” just to date them. We’re not responsible for solving this problem... but I don’t see another demographic MORE interested in seeing it solved. No strawmen. Just pointing out the elephant in the room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:26 PM
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Even the reward of their long game is... just so juvenile. “Build social capital because you bring hot chicks to the club!” Vapid stuff. Mega cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:13 AM
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You’re your backup. You only need you. There will ALWAYS be more men. That’s what these other dudes are preventing you from realizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:06 AM
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What do you mean by “side men”? Are you having sex with other men outside of your committed relationship? Does you boyfriend know he’s your boyfriend? Dating a rotation of men is supposed to keep you from getting overinvested in any one man BEFORE commitment. There is no “on the side” once you have an agreement with a vetted and committed HVM. What you’re describing does not sound like FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:45 AM
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Actually, the apps do eat messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:55 AM
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Please look into the correlation between “male gaze” and “self-objectification.” Male gaze is not just what men can literally see, but the shaping of our world and our culture based on what men like to see. These seemingly innocuous dances, even performed privately, were developed and honed by the male gaze for the purpose of objectifying women. I hope you don’t also think lesbian porn is made just for lesbians. I urge you to dig into feminist theory on male gaze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:22 PM
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Men can’t tell the difference between an “empowered woman taking charge of her sexuality” and a “pick me imitating a music video to appeal to him.” They look pretty much the same. That’s not women’s fault, but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t care what men think. It’s usually pretty telling. If you are following FDS and trying to be a HVW, you should definitely be concerned when what is supposedly your expression of your own sexuality is literally a trend on a social media platform. These platforms …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:32 PM
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This comment!! By far the key to sex is patience, which, when a horny, undisciplined man is involved, seems like a real virtue. Like a good relationship, sex should be a process of discovery. Not a mechanical, one-size-fits-all task. This truly shows how much a man really values the success of your relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:21 PM
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A man who really loves you does not just “dream” or “think about” a future together. He has plans! Here we have an old-fashioned hanger-on. A man who realizes he is falling off a cliff and will grab and pull anyone down with him. Glad you see this for what it is—which is NOT a love letter or an apology. 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:37 PM
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We are seeing what happens when the reality that women can and DO derive pleasure from sex collides with the worldview of dumb dumbs who based everything on the idea that sex is just a labor function for women. Sex is not labor. Sex is not work. Sex is our raison d’être. All of us, men and women. It should be elevated above “duty” IMO. We are unlike other animals, and when we deny this we see rapid deterioration of human relations. Tradition is leveling DOWN, not up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:48 PM
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Ultimately, it’s distressing to think about how the next generation will grow up with such immature, selfish parents. Married or unmarried. Already there are far too many people trying to escape their narcissistic parents and overcome their insidious brand of abuse. One thing I will never do is reproduce with a narcissist. For all talk about “fairness” between men and women, there is not much talk about how fairness cannot be achieved when some individuals’ needs are a bottomless pit. No matter …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:23 PM
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No way around this. Dating apps follow patterns to get users hooked and buying premium features. This pattern starts with boosting your profile in the stack to get you as many matches as possible (a bit like lovebombing!) The app then withholds matches so you’ll chase the initial experience by buying features. The only actual way to get that great experience again is to delete and start fresh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:24 AM
10

The logic behind using multiple email addresses is front loading acceptable inconvenience: Imagine your wallet is stolen! Now you have to replace your ID, credit cards, insurance cards, shopping membership cards, cash.. anything in that wallet. That’s a huge inconvenience and can really mess up your life for weeks or months. Now imagine all of the accounts hooked up to your email address. All social media, banking, medical provider, work, services you pay for, etc. A heck of a lot. What if someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:31 PM
10

“Do you think it’s possible to force a gender to conform to what you deem to be what you deserve?” I cannot IMAGINE what that would be like... has such a feat ever been attempted????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:38 PM
51

So many guys are “new in town” for years... or “recently moved here” or “looking for someone to explore with.” Michael, you have had 2 years to “explore,” and you couldn’t find ANYONE to do that with you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:27 PM
19

If you’re going to snoop, don’t ever leave evidence that you were using someone else’s phone unauthorized. They might suspect you did any number of things (tampered with mobile banking, texting/calling others as them, stealing passwords, etc.). It’s not smart and might get you into much bigger trouble. Do not give someone a reason to be angry with you, especially if the only way they can contact you is by showing up at your door. Only get evidence if you need it in court, and don’t let them know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:29 PM
100

I’ve noticed that men who say they want to have children try to lock in a serious relationship before getting to know me. When I stand back, they decide I must not actually want to get serious with anyone. Men are looking for a broodmare, and I am looking for a good husband and father to our eventual children. They seem not to grasp (or maybe care?) that they have to prove they could fill those roles adequately. If I ONLY wanted children, I would pay for a donor and IVF lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:38 PM
25

If a few compliments make him act differently, you are simply speeding up the process of unmasking. I’d say to just be wary of your own motivations. Don’t gush lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:16 PM
86

Stop interacting with this man. He’s playing you to make you look crazy and create distance between you and your sister. Classic victim isolation tactic. Offer a non-judgmental ear to your sister. If she knows you hate his guts, she’s going to avoid talking to you about him, including sharing any bad behavior on his part. She NEEDS you to lift her up, not tear him down. Find a way to detach from this emotionally. You can only change yourself, and getting riled up over generic retorts is not stra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:20 AM
75

He led you to talk about controversial things so you would think you had messed up. He definitely wanted an easy, covert out. Never take their bait, despite any reassurances or encouragements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:10 AM
41

Even if he’s not actively plotting to kill her? He’s still spending a lot of time and energy thinking about murdering some woman. Would be a dealbreaker either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 06:23 PM
15

When can we acknowledge that people with bad intentions pose as good or neutral in order to promote such views? It’s the same way reporters treat the police as a neutral source on stories—often the only source in many cases. Yet we know corruption exists. While bad actors are speaking out, good or neutral people sometimes either A. feel morally attached to views that sound “fair” superficially or B. say and do nothing. Therefore, this is NOT the reality of being a woman: it’s the reality of many…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 08:08 PM
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