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i never judge anyone on their past it isn't his fault he grew up with hardship but i can see that "life" stayed with him
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 03:59 PM
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what do you mean by making sure he's ok? our relationship is over, i'm going no contact. (still care about him)
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 03:57 PM
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great comment, thanks
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 03:45 PM
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i wondered too, but i was hesitant to make a diagnosis. i'm not a doctor. and, i doubt he would want to see one. yes, it does sound like him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 12:21 AM
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i don't want power, i'm not trying to compete. i just want to be smart. if i stick around like a loser, he may see me as one.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 12:04 AM
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elaborate
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 11:53 PM
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i know this is horrible but i've been thinking of either catfishing him or snooping on his phone. it's not good at all, but i feel it's almost my last resort. see if he's up to no good.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 11:39 PM
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i don't want to abandon or leave him. but at the same time i need to be intelligent and strong. so i don't know what to do. i keep asking myself if i've done something wrong, if i did, perhaps this is all my fault. i'm turning in circles trying to figure it out. i know i'm a nice person. rpw teaches us that women do contribute to many problems in the relationship. or maybe he's just not good and in turn, is making me miserable.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 11:38 PM
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he doesn't have it easy. he struggles and has a low paying job. i feel so guilty and responsible. i don't know who's right and wrong here.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 11:22 PM
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thanks
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 11:19 PM
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yes. this marriage sounds like trouble. yes maybe it's mostly good. and maybe he did only do it once. but who cares. affairs and social media with girls...no.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 04:18 AM
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wait...red flags 1- emotional affair 2- facebook with tons of women this isn't ok
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 02:29 AM
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he pays rent, i give whatever i can to help monthly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 02:05 AM
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i pay for everything else with the exception of his own bills (his car, phone)
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 01:57 AM
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i understand you. no worries. you haven\'t been rude at all. i just don't know what to do to have him have hope in me. i do care about the future.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 05:43 PM
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very true, but I am frustrated too. i've been good to him, and he's mean to me. i am also constantly annoyed with his behaviour there is no need to be like that to someone you claim to love.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 05:02 PM
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having a degree in something like is usually yields something in a company, teaching, etc I have a lot of experience teaching
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 05:01 PM
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great advice, but why did you say he doesn't respect me?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 04:14 PM
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you're right.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 02:37 PM
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you're right, i need to work my way up. i'm not looking to be a stay at home mom. i like working and contributing equally and i have done so far that throughout our relationship. mistreatment in the sense he has a bad temper, overreacts, gets upset over things non job related, our relationship is just not a happy one. we fight a lot and he's dumped me many times.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 02:37 PM
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my degree is in humanities.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 02:34 PM
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i did find jobs while we were together and they didn't work out. one promised me a schedule and didn't deliver, the other the same, the third put me (and a whole group of people out) because it was disorganized, the fourth put me out because they wanted to bring back someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 02:34 PM
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the idea of gangbangs, orgies, etc all those porny type kinks are uncomfortable to me. the idea my partner engaged in that makes me feel a type of way.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:51 PM
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trying to stop letting it get to me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 06:01 PM
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i'm sorry, i think it is. what if a girl on rpw came here and said she had 2 guys on her at once? everyone would call her a hoe.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 06:01 PM
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not worried he sees me this way at all. that's the thing, he would only do this with a non-relationship type woman. in his single years. he would never ask me to do this.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 06:00 PM
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he isn't bisexual. but i don't understand men who can do a mfm. they are comfy with seeing another man naked? with another man seeing them naked? watching each other have sex? i'm not homophobic.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 02:56 AM
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we don't discuss. i don't ask him about it daily, i move on with my life. in my head, in my mind, in my thoughts, it makes me wary and uncomfortable. i don't mind the threesome in the sense that it's done, and i can't change it. but i don't like that it happened.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 02:54 AM
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thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:36 AM
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i will not satisfy kinks for a man and lose my self respect. what the hell? i love sex with him, and will please him in any way he asks. but i won't degrade myself with threesomes and other men inside me. no. and, he would never propose it. this is something he did when single, with a woman who acts slutty.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:36 AM
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i wasn't responding to myself and i don't have 2 accounts. why are some on here so rude? aren't rpw supposed to be kind?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:34 AM
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yes.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:34 AM
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i never said he was immoral. i am judging. it's my right. i am not being mean to him nor criticizing him. i'm just saying, the act shows how a person views their body and choices and doesn't align with my views. doesn't make 2 people imcompatible at all. just different.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:34 AM
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not sure if he was promiscuous. no idea at all about the past. one act doesn't make you promiscuous i guess. what if a woman did this threesome? she'd be more "promiscuous" but not a male.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:32 AM
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i don't ask. he mentioned it. it wasnt to gauge my reaction. he is just an honest person. i do accept him. i don't mind it. i just don't like it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:31 AM
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what the fuck is this? disgusting person you are. get outta here casanova my husband had the threesome when he was SINGLE with a woman who clearly wanted it. he would NEVER do it with me. he values me and wouldn't want another man on me. are you saying rpw should be sluts?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:30 AM
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i don't know how the mechanics of it went down. but i am POSITIVE there was no touching between the men. they are from very masculine carribbean cultures. i think they were taking turns or doing her at the same time but one from back and one in the front. he isn't bisexual.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 12:28 AM
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i don't have casual sex. i know exactly what you mean.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 04:23 AM
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im sure he's had sex outside of relationships and i don';t mind. but the porn style sex, bothers me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 03:59 AM
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i don't understand. i do accept him, i just find the male-male on woman situation strange. a threesome with 2 women and one man would bother me too, but the double male makes me shudder. to me, only a player type guy does that. yes, i am generalizing.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 03:43 AM
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i never hit him over the head. i'm cool with someone who has made mistakes before. by mistakes i mean bad things. a threesome isn't a mistake. but we are sharing a current sex life, so it does bother me, even though he isn't having orgies anymore. it was a one time thing in his single years.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 03:42 AM
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exactly this lots of people are saying "it's no big deal, get over it" i never pry into a partner's past, he's the one who told me first. to me, it's like...a man (or woman) who does those stuff is a bit sleazy, maybe a player, too kinky, etc. my idea of sex is one -on-one, low n-count. i don't mind a high count, but orgy type things make me wonder about his morals. you know?
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 03:39 AM
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no i am not the type of put blame on someone else entirely. i know it takes 2 to tango. how do you know he's not thinking the same about me, that he's right and i'm all wrong? am i not supposed to open my mouth at all?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 06:00 PM
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which words imply lack of respect?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 05:56 PM
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i don't suspect he ever cheated, however.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 05:48 PM
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he listed himself as single on fb and dowloaded the tinder app. he says the single status was from a long time ago and the tinder app was just a download but there wasn't any active profile on it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 05:47 PM
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RPW don't condone that kind of stuff, but if it works for you, then it works for you. Careful though, it may cause jealousy issues. I would never engage in group sex.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 03:53 PM
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The truth is a man's count matters less than that of a woman, because of biological differences and such. However, that being said, it doesn't really bother me, as long as he wasn't a disgusting person. Meaning, he could have slept with 50 women, but as long as he wasn't sleazy, I'd be ok with it. But yeah, 50 women is still super high. I don't ask though.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 03:51 PM
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healthy distance. are you in contact or no? i always kept men at a distance, single or not. i am asking this question because i care about my partner. not because i have "feelings" and "ulterior motives" whatever that means. i don't seek out male attention or friends. he just happens to be a friend for a long time, and our contact is limited.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 07:58 PM
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yes, if i was sexual with him at one point, we did have some attraction. it was very short though, we remained platonic friends after. there is nothing for him deep down. why put words in my mouth?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 07:55 PM
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only reason i feel uncomfortable with it is because i don't want my boyfriend to think i'm doing something wrong. i am loyal to him. he's just a friend. and as mentioned previously it did fizzle out, we don't meet, we just talk every once in a while. so far everyone's answers here have been scary or negative, like i'm hoe-ing around. that makes me even more scared. now i feel i need to confess to him that i speak to a male friend.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 06:40 PM
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ok, i hear everyone here, but he knew since day one i've been in a serious relationship. so keeping his interest isn't even a possibility. the hookup happened at least 9 years ago. we weren't even attracted to each other, it just happened. we decided to stay friends since.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 06:38 PM
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it definitely faded out from what it used to be. we used to meet up all the time. now it's very occasional chat. not even texting. we aren't being inappropriate. i meant i felt awkward because i feel shy about having a male friend. there isn't any cheating going on.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 06:01 PM
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was thinking the same, but it's too difficult to know for sure what to do. after our honest conversation, i wanted to not keep secrets. yes i did go to her but it was discrete and drama free. with her now gossiping with him, i know it's happening. she is not talking to me because she's mad. it's really affecting our trio. i don't want to see her, but he will eventually get curious and ask why. then what? i want us to be a strong pair, but i just don't know if it';s my place to tell him all the r…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 03:40 PM
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is anyone still around? I wrote an update on the situation
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 10:05 PM
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Hi to all, I posted an update.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:50 PM
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Sure will. Wish me luck. This IS NOT going to be easy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 03:17 AM
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will update as soon as I can
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 03:17 AM
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absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 10:42 PM
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This is true, and I am realizing it now, which is what prompted me to seek help from reddit. I am not even a social media user, so this is a big thing for me to be doing. I really, really need to know what's the status of this issue and be able to judge accordingly to assess what I need to do. I absolutely do not want to be wasting my time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 12:42 PM
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I never initiated a breakup. I never even had a relationship like this before. I would do it if I really saw a big enough problem that I wouldn't be able to deal with in the future. Anything that makes him a poor choice of a mate. But he can be human, of course, like the rest of us. I accept human error.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 11:17 AM
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Great! no need to keep contact.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 11:03 AM
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I understand what you're saying but it isn't only anecdotes. It's emotional things that are indicative of unresolved feelings toward the relationship and toward her. He compliments her, a lot. He compliments their relationship, a lot. He indicates loss and longing, regret, and not being over what happened.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 11:03 AM
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exactly, so true. do you give someone a chance or no? do you risk it?
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:33 AM
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Yes, this could be it too. There are definitely signs of immaturity here between us even beyond the ex situation.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:32 AM
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Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 02:53 AM
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I never brought it up seriously but a long time ago I asked if he loved her as he was doing his blablabla. He said no, he just remembered her etc etc etc... I never spoke of it since. I need to have a serious "we need to talk" discussion about this in detail though. I know he will be shocked because probably to him he isn't doing anything wrong. Little does he know it's all I think about.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 01:48 AM
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Absolutely this. Not being able to deal and sort through emotions is a big red flag. I need stability.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 11:41 PM
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I love him sharing stories with me. But I am his girlfriend, not a therapist and I can't be there when he rambles about her. I need my man to move on from his trauma.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 11:01 PM
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Good. But, do you find yourself comparing them to that one woman you were with? Did you think of that woman as the one who got away?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 10:42 PM
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"it is what it is". ouch. will you be able to love another woman wholly again?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 09:07 PM
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testmypatience you sound deeply hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 08:14 PM
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no he has been bringing it up since we met last year.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 08:11 PM
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last paragraph, asking myself the same thing. exactly, exactly, exactly. I am not jealous at all, but the ex thing bothers me to no end. talk about the lessons you learned, NOT complimenting someone from the past. you aren't over them. what is so hard is that how can I make someone change this behaviour? clearly he is the type to ramble about exes. this is a huge problem for me.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:56 PM
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That's horrible to hear. Wish I never hear anything like that. Did she ever come back? Was he waiting for her?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:51 PM
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Someone already said here is an alpha widower dumped by his unicorn. I know it hurts for men to be dumped and robbed of their love, but it's unattractive to me to be hurting over a bitch who left you for so long. Let it go.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:51 PM
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It's been way too long since the breakup, this is my concern too.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:50 PM
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He's a relationship/ family-oriented kind of guy. He has made it clear I'm a great partner to him and wants me as his wife. But when he speaks of her it's too emotional. I sense it. I hear it. I KNOW he isn't wanting her back.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:49 PM
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Well I never had a long term rel and I'm in my late 20s. I dated before though. Had a boyfriend way back when I was younger, but not for long.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:48 PM
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Exactly.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:47 PM
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I do have the courage to leave, I'm not going to live an unhappy life. Just looking for some perspective before I approach him. I don't want to leave though, he wants a future with me and we love each other.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:47 PM
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I agree talking is best. As I said in my question they were together for about a decade and broke up 7-8 years ago. He has had another relationship after her, and before me. I come in third. No, I never spoke of it to him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:46 PM
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I don't mind someone who is divorced or has kids. Just don't be emotional over someone, end of story.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:44 PM
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Yeah, the girls on the thread here tend to agree it isn't fair, but the guys that have responded are saying it may be his way of dealing with his emotions.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:44 PM
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I defend him not because I'm stupid but because I know for sure he doesn't want her back. He just talks about her constantly and I discovered he wasn't over it when he began saying emotional things about their time together. If I feel it could be worked on, of course I'm going to try to look at this from all angles, not just complain and get ammo from everyone saying he's in the wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:43 PM
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Exactly. She didn't want him. If you dump someone, it's over. Simple.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 11:34 AM
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I know I didn't give many details and everyone is assuming he wants her back/ loves her/ etc. Even though I hate how he talks about her, I am positive he does not want her back nor loves her like that. He is committed to me. And that's a lot of credit I am giving him. I am upset because of the frequency which he talks about her the nature of it. He speaks of loss, of how amazing she was, blablabla...
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 11:33 AM
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Oh, if she had died, I would probably be unable to be in the relationship. Call me selfish but I wouldn't be able to deal with a dead ex.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 11:27 AM
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Would you like it if your girl did it to you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:11 AM
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Over on redpill men they were saying that when a man does it, it's usually meaningless or accidental. But when women do it, it's done on purpose to make her guy jealous. No idea whether this is true or not. Listen, I don't mind opening up or sharing stories. I mind him not being over her. It's my right to feel annoyed by it. It hurts. I don't want to live a lie. Neither gender should be rambling about exes. It's just rude.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:09 AM
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She dumped him. I don't know the story, but he is hurt by that. It's not ageist. I am indeed in my late 20s and I am absolutely focused on investing in the right relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:00 AM
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narcissistic_walrus I understand your POV but I am really not interested in baggage or "waiting to win the spot". I need a relationship where there isn't trauma from the past. I accept it, but he has to have moved on before me.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 02:58 AM
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I don't think I am second best, I just think he is still upset over the breakup.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 02:55 AM
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I need to do this more. I am not assertive at all.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 02:54 AM
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True.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 02:53 AM
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Right, most people are trying to see his POV and justify his way of acting...But this is true too. Why talk about exes?! I DON'T...seriously, just let it go. Ugh.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 01:57 AM
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He tells me many stories. I mean to say that I am not the type to ask about someone's past. And everytime I hear about her I just listen. I never got worked up even though I felt my blood boil or heart sink. I let it go. You are right. I feel I should have a talk with him about what really happened and see if it helps him get some things off his chest and give me clarity too. Maybe I am taking it all wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 01:53 AM
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I know he isn't trying to hurt me, but it's hard to feel like you're not someone's one true love. I hope I am wrong, but his comments indicate he's emotional about her.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 01:09 AM
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I guess this is the only way to address the issue.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 01:01 AM
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He was younger back then, and he had many more hobbies than today. Today he is older and mostly we just hang out alone and go out on dates together. No parties/ friends like back in the day. She was his first love.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 01:00 AM
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He won't go back. He cut ties all those years ago. He isn't a player or douche and I trust him fully in that sense.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 12:58 AM
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Are you a guy? Why is your ex on your mind? Does your current woman know about your affection for her? Explain if you can.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 12:57 AM
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