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| 2 | drug abuse gets you laid. Has anyone noticed this?The kind of people junkies attract, men or women, are not the kind of people you wanna poke your flesh flute in to. In fact, you wouldn't want much to do with them at all. | /r/seduction | 01/10/22 11:10 AM |
| 3 | In your experience what are the key Do's and Don'tsMan. That first line. Shit. I always wondered why I get weeded out by so many 6s and 7s even. Now it makes sense. | /r/seduction | 28/09/22 08:55 AM |
| 3 | What matters the most for a man?Met two of them online (not Tinder). The last one was from Tinder. The first two approached me on social media because some of my comments seemed misogynistic. I was just bullheaded but horny so I took my chances by asking them out. Split the bill on the first date. My physical stats were ok. I was lean, not shedded. Given I was broke, I used to get haircuts from my roommate so not a lot of grooming going on. And I was a brown guy living in the US. The first girl I met online wasn't crazy good l… | /r/seduction | 27/09/22 05:07 AM |
| 14 | What matters the most for a man?Having dated a few women who basically were unofficially sugar mamas (picked bills for dates, picked me up, etc), I would say it's definitely not the status. It's our psyche. I was a dumbfuck back then and didn't pay attention. I'd shit my pants if I was broke today and was trying to woo a girl. So in our minds, we like to attribute all our failures to one compartment we lack in the most. It could be looks, status etc. In the end, if you're good at the game, you won't fail. | /r/seduction | 26/09/22 04:28 PM |
| 3 | Do you ever feel stupid for seduction? Shouldn't attraction be raw?As someone who had no dressing sense and conversational skills, here are my two cents on seduction. First of all, you're quite right. There are plenty of guys out there who are pretty successful with pick-up game but who are doing it for the wrong reasons. If you're constantly boosting your numbers, thinking of challenges, then you are fucked. However, as a man, if you're interested in a girl, you walk up to her and you do what? Maybe you're just interested in sleeping with her. That's not wrong… | /r/seduction | 23/09/22 09:11 AM |
| 1 | (28M) Dozens of matches on apps. Couldn’t get a single girl to meet up.I think you may not be giving it your best. You're getting matches which is the hard part for a lot of guys. Make the conversations interesting. Get them intrigued. I don't see why 40 women would match up with you and none would be interested in a date. Maybe give us more details on the kind of conversations you are having so we can comment whether or not your approach is wrong. | /r/seduction | 20/09/22 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Is intelligent conversation generally a turnoff?Most women who have any sort of personality, in my experience, get turned off by intelligence initially probably because they see it as mansplaining. Once they are more open and less hesitant, they welcome smart jokes. | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 12:09 PM |
| 8 | About "emotional connection" with men... 😉Ever met a guy who's just trying to impress you? Or someone who's just trying to get in to your pants? Men, contrary to the popular belief, are as complex as women, just more direct. It's very common to come across women who don't empathise with you or just sit there to be impressed. That's lack of emotional connection. Honestly it's just as simple as treating the other person with courtesy and empathy. We just bear with it because most times, we are pushed for options. That's why high value men… | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 07:43 PM |
| 2 | I guess his feelings faded. Am I not good at expressing?Exactly. I agree. That guy had no idea how to get this girl intrigued | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 05:55 AM |
| 2 | I guess his feelings faded. Am I not good at expressing?What should you do? Lol. Make your mind up girl. The problem is girls are indecisive and want entertainment and validation but don't want to invest in anything which is what you did. And some men will always suck up to that because they don't have any other options. So things fail in the end. You were not a bad person but your overall behaviour is quite manipulative. | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 05:41 AM |
| 2 | By far the weirdest cold approach experience I’ve ever hadWow. That's really great. I think one of the problems guys have with seduction game is they box themselves and the women they're trying to woo. When someone's struggling for a conversation, it's good to know the basics of an intriguing conversation and that's what seduction is about. But if you're already hitting it off with random topics which don't necessarily qualify as A-game seduction topics, it's totally ok. You gauged the situation, made your conversation relevant and memorable and that's… | /r/seduction | 27/08/22 06:08 AM |
| 7 | What’s her motive? Validation, revenge or she just likes me?Please don't. Unless you're one hundred percent sure your marriage isn't worth saving. Even if your wife never finds out and marriage somehow ends up working, you'll always feel like you're living a lie. It'll be thrilling at first but soon you'll loathe everyone exactly for how dumb and gullible they are. So no, please don't cheat. If possible, come clean with your wife. | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 11:51 AM |
| 5 | Ladies: Asking for consent before a kiss or just by reading non verbal cues? Rule or preference?I've never asked and there are plenty women who I've heard opine asking kills the mood. I think, even out of political correctness, it's not wrong to lean in and back off if the woman says no. I'm doing my bit by being open to rejection and putting myself out there. She can at least say no if she doesn't want to be kissed. | /r/seduction | 25/08/22 11:49 AM |
| 2 | How do men like to have sex initiated?I personally like it when a woman doesn't fool around and unequivocally shows sexual interest in me. Like if we are home and my girlfriend just pulls me in, kisses the fuck out of me, and throws me on bed like she's going to use me for her pleasure. Men like to feel desired too. It's just that most have never been shown what that feels like. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 08:27 AM |
| 3 | What made you fall in love?Falling in love is not one thing. It's not even the same thing at different stages of your life. I fell for funny when I was young, then I fell for caring, etc. But each time I fell out of love, it was simply because I felt unappreciated and unheard. Women are so focused on being appreciated and listened to they feel it's a uniquely female experience and when a man complains about the same, it's male ego ruining the relationship. Just listen openly without trying to fix the guy. When that can't … | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 02:54 AM |
| 6 | a girl/my best freind said im being to clingy and she wants me to leave her alone after i told her how i feelLook here kid. Don't come to this sub looking for advice before you are 25. These organic experiences are what you need to become a man. Throw yourself at her. Cry if you want. Get a heartbreak. Make mistakes. Hell go through a misogynist phase if you want. Commit all to one person and lose it all. Do whatever you want. When you've had enough pain and love, and you are beyond validation, come back. Don't read what everyone else is saying and try to apply it in your life. Read, see what you can r… | /r/seduction | 26/05/22 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Should I try to lower a girls expectations of sex?We're talking about a guy dealing with depression here. Handle rejection? We're not fit to handle life as is. | /r/seduction | 21/05/22 10:39 AM |
| 13 | How to start a fwb with best friend.Honest advice. It would be a dick move to test her at her most vulnerable. Take her out on a dinner. And dance. Let her cry. Once she feels vulnerable enough, she'll open up. Even if that doesn't end up in sex, you'll have some excuse to bring up being fwb. Good luck mate. | /r/seduction | 21/05/22 03:08 AM |
| 5 | Should I try to lower a girls expectations of sex?Having battled with depression myself, I think it's best if you stop with seduction for the time being. It messes up your confidence, and causes more depression than not porking someone. | /r/seduction | 21/05/22 03:01 AM |
| 6 | I don’t want to have relationships, I just want to hook up with a girl.Figure out your own style. I'm self deprecating but now in a pathetic way. I exude more confidence because how easily I can laugh at myself which puts women at ease around me and of course i mean the right kind of women. There would be women who find that off-putting. There are guys who are good at cocky humor and can pull it off. So figure out what works for you. | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Will having a lot of sex make me happier?It did to me. I had a failed marriage. Didn't have any sex or love for two years then I walked out and banged a few chicks. It made me feel better about myself which helped me score more but I didn't go on a banging spree. This is the important part. Always remember what you asked today. Never get so lost in just getting laid for your ego that you forget to ask whether it would even make you happy. | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 05:38 AM |
| 15 | How do some guys make girls obsessed with them?Some people have hinted at it. This is toxic manipulation. He's basically the charming guy amd he's faking that personality. When he's done with them, aka, banged them enough, he goes cold. Never be that guy. Although you might not hear this, but the kind of pain he's bringing in to women's lives is not good. A good playboy shows women good time, is clear about what he wants, and when he ends things, it's on a good note. Women would remember him fondly many years down the line, unlike this guy. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 07:40 PM |
| 11 | No strings attached sex with a good friend. Yay or nay ? Possible to remain normal after sex ?The only problem I have faced is this : You meet someone. You get in a relationship. Your FWB arrangement is over. Now do you tell this person about your history with your ex FWB? Even very rational and accepting people have hard time digesting maintaining some contact with FWBs. So it's potentially jeopardizing your future relationships and friendship. | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 06:19 PM |
| 10 | Don’t be a bad boy if that isn’t who you areThe problem is most people don't know what "nice guy" really means. In my 20's, I turned in to a complete asshole and borderline misogynist to avoid being tagged as the nice guy. It's a misnomer. There's nothing nice about a nice guy. A nice guy is afraid to speak up and communicate sexually. He expects his sucking up would get him acknowledged and somehow set him apart from the rest and get him laid. There's no difference between a nice guy and a creep except a creep is direct and assertive whi… | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 09:11 AM |
| 59 | Don’t give her the same energyI strongly encourage this. I personally feel a lot of guys get so lost in the seduction game they lose themselves and end up depressed. Keep up your energy. If the other person doesn't match it, trust me, the sex will suck and you'll end up regretting it even more. | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 07:03 AM |
| 14 | I went on date with this girl couple times, she suddenly said we better just to be friends?Depends on what you want. If you're the kind who can manage seeing her without getting invested or putting too much energy, cool. Do you even want her in your life? If you were looking for a relationship or were exploring that possibility and waiting to see if this could bloom in to that, better tell her now. If she was anything in between on the spectrum, deal accordingly. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 16/01/22 10:33 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Are you encouraging people to hit on you? Men hit on hot girls all the time, and I'll be brutal, not the hot ones too. So it's most likely your body language and vibes? Try and smile more. It invites people to take an initiative. If this doesn't get at least one person to hit on you in the next 3-4 days, you can hold me personally responsible. Hehe. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 09:50 AM |
| 5 | I can’t stress enough how important this is!For the future progeny, look between their eyes, not your own. They'll notice and bolt. It's a follow mistake. | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 08:05 PM |
| 1 | How to have a killer personality?Well, you gotta start with killing man. Lol. Just be yourself. I figured I'm humorous and really smart so I peddle this to women. You figure out your thing and sell it my man. | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 03:44 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Lol am I a weirdo for still trying to keep rocking at 30? Or is OP just too depressed to say he's too old for the party at 26? | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 03:42 AM |
| 14 | Sexual Drought and no confidence with womenJust out of curiosity, how old are you? I'm getting back on my feet but my marriage destroyed me too. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Can someone please explain this to me?Not a problem mate. Make the ladies happy. ;) | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 05:49 PM |
| 5 | Can someone please explain this to me?I don't know about putting the knee but when we're in bed, and we're just starting up, I insert my thigh between my partner's thighs until she starts grinding her pussy on my legs. They can control the angle and I don't have to worry too much while kissing about her clitoral stimulation. | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Body countYou just responded to my first sentence and not the entire thing. It's not your fault. I should have made my point more cogent and concise. I'm not denying the whole problem with slut shaming and tons of horrible men who doxx women they sleep with discretely. Fucking assholes. But you're conflating those men and men who get a boost out of discussing their sexual conquests (yes it is a conquest exactly because men have to struggle for sex way more than women) or adventures if you feel it's offens… | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Body countThe problem is the dynamics of sex are so complicated from a female perspective that a higher body count inevitably corresponds to higher attractiveness level in the eyes of another gender, something that boosts our self esteem as men. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Body countI'm in India. My success mainly came in tbe US. Lol. Having a little bit of dry spells here. 30 is death where I come from. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Body countIf women gave it more freely, we wouldn't be so obsessed with it, would we? You think we like obsessing over sex and not taking care of our jobs, looks, health? Lol. It's fine if women raise the roof during pregnancy because hey hormones. We can't even fucking talk about fucking. Jesus fucking Christ. By the way, nobody here is grossly representing people they slept with which I agree would be misogynistic. We're just talking about number of women we slept with, by the way, with consent. It make… | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Body countWhat country do you live in? | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 12:23 PM |
| 3 | Body countBody count 12. Not high. And want to reach 30. I'm 30. Lost Virginity at 24. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 12:22 PM |
| 9 | I approached my first girl ever yesterday and got her numberI think he wanted to say Hindu but he wasn't sure so he did the next best thing. Lol. Ironically I'm an ex Muslim Indian. | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 03:15 PM |
| 7 | I approached my first girl ever yesterday and got her numberAnything wrong with me being Indian mate? | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Western women wants men so she can put leash around his neckI'd bet a million it's untrue. If somebody starts with that sentence to make a point that women are out to get men, you know what the problem is. | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 04:43 PM |
| 1 | My Weird Sleeping habits.I'm not sure if this is normal but one of my exes used to get mildly frisky when she was horny (according to her) whole she was sleeping. She hurt my balls once but otherwise I found it hot af. Although I really thought she was pretending. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 09:05 AM |
| 7 | How many women have you had sex with? Between what ages did you get the most? Where did you usually go to find them? (Bars/Dance Clubs, Dating Apps, etc)Such a nice average story. I'm not using average in a bad way. This is so self assured it's literally not about the #s and about what you did and what you remember. I hope you find what you're looking for mate. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 08:15 AM |
| 4 | How many women have you had sex with? Between what ages did you get the most? Where did you usually go to find them? (Bars/Dance Clubs, Dating Apps, etc)I just hit 30 and I pass off as 27 still. I've been with 4 women. Others were through swinger's club I used to visit. Had 6 or 7 there but not really my game although they were surely attracted to my personality because they approached me mostly. Do you think a man in early or mid 30s has a chance to become a player? Become being the keyword. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 08:14 AM |
| 2 | Racial preferences from girlsI think really enforcing positive racial traits will give you a boost. I get where you're coming from. I had a very good accent so at least speech was something that got them hooked. An Indian from India who can speak like an American. It expanded my pool of datable chicks. I also brought my positive traits of Indian-ness as well. I relate with you but don't let it hold you back. | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 09:37 PM |
| 8 | Racial preferences from girlsI'm Indian. So imagine how many non-desi girls were in to me. Pretty much zero. I let it cripple me for a while but then I upped my game and got good results. Look, there will always be an alpha in the room who can score higher or who has a bigger dick or who's gonna make girls squirt with his chiseled abs. But the real alpha is just laid-back as hell. Just swing with it man. I'm still chasing girls and improving and it's obvious a lot of girls are simply put off just because of my skin tone or … | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 07:21 PM |
| -1 | The “he’s so hot” shit testI don't know if this works. I always insert how I never understand women's opinions on men's hotness. And it's actually based on true interactions. For example, they are just dripping for Jason momoa. I mean I get it. He's a big dude but too manly. So I present a more suave personality like Bradley Cooper if I'm dressed very formal and meeting after work. Or more casual, like, say Christiano Ronaldo if I'm dressed for a pub. Again it's just based on speculation. I don't know if what I do actuall… | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Field report : Cold approached two peopleHaha. I've not been diagnosed but I can't maintain the conversation either in situations you mentioned. I've found that people like when we "show" them we listened. I listen very intently, posting close attention to words, details (if story is involved), ideas, and ask questions about that. People are going to jump at the opportunity to share more about themselves because it makes us feel special. But I do admit that I've had trouble maintaing the flow as well. It's a constant exercise and it's … | /r/seduction | 28/03/21 07:34 AM |
| 2 | Field report : Cold approached two peopleOh man. I totally feel you. It can get really exhausting I imagine. | /r/seduction | 28/03/21 06:24 AM |
| 2 | “It is easier to find cocaine than a boyfriend”Also seduction goes both ways. If the woman is just staring, the guy has no way of knowing if he was caught catching a glimpse or if she was checking him out. If the girl would smile or even be so forward as waving in their direction when they look, there's no reason any guy won't approach them. | /r/seduction | 30/01/21 07:21 PM |
| 17 | One of the first steps in finding a hookup/relationship: Stepping out of your comfort zone.I read the name as Sheldon Axler, the author of Linear Algebra Done Right. | /r/seduction | 19/01/21 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Almost kissed a 9/10 when clubbing last night (FR)Sorry that this was so lengthy, didn't think it'd be this long! That's what HE said. Jokes aside, thanks man for writing such a great and detailed post. | /r/seduction | 17/01/21 08:19 PM |
| 2 | It's not that 'nice guys' finish last, it's men forced into acting nice as a result of them being too weak to stand up for themselves or their beliefs that will never prosper.I'd say just keep trying. A realistic timeframe is 2 months I'd say. You'll find someone you feel is worth your time within that timeframe. With Corona and all, might be a little more. So work with that timeframe in mind. Slowly that window will start shrinking towards a month or so. | /r/seduction | 07/01/21 08:30 PM |
| 5 | It's not that 'nice guys' finish last, it's men forced into acting nice as a result of them being too weak to stand up for themselves or their beliefs that will never prosper.As someone who was kinda shy, didn't take initiative with women, and was just funny guy, I got laid for the first time at 24. Now I don't hesitate at all, even strike up a conversation about sex if I want it, and I'm usually the most confident (not cocky) guy in the room. I spent years knowing myself and trust me, I'm not a surfer or an athlete. I've a decent body but I'm brainy and I know my strengths and I don't hesitate to flaunt them. I'm pretty confident I'm the only guy who can speak 4 lan… | /r/seduction | 07/01/21 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Any guys from Australia who are having good success (pre-covid/post-covid) ? Please contact me.....Ah yes. Damn forgot the race component. | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Here's what I've been doing on Tinder to get a casual fling every couple of months.It was a joke. I'm surprised people thought I was being serious. | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 05:57 PM |
| 5 | Any guys from Australia who are having good success (pre-covid/post-covid) ? Please contact me.....Lol. You should visit India then go back. | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Pick up linesAs a man who just got divorced, I think if my wife had just told me she's going to take care of me tonight, it'd have made me feel comforted. Sometimes caring is the sexiest thing. Just tell him that and make him feel comforted for one night including sex. | /r/seduction | 07/12/20 02:35 PM |
| 9 | How long did it take your to get good at game?One night. I lost my virginity at 24 to a girl I was barely interested in. Settled for LDR when I moved outside country because I wasn't sure I had it in me as a dark (albeit handsome now I know) guy to seduce women. I didn't even try going out. I went out once or twice to a bar in the month that everything changed. I had read Mark Manson's Models at that time already and I was like, fine, you can do it. Walked up to mature woman, opened a conversation, kept it going (it just came naturally beca… | /r/seduction | 05/12/20 11:05 AM |
| 7 | You don’t have to fuck every girlI'm glad you said it here. I hate the perception that men just need a good looking body that comes with the hole. Even hookups need some chemistry. And if it ain't there, there's no fun. Sure, you bust a nut but could've easily done that while fapping. | /r/seduction | 04/12/20 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Question about a recent ex’s behavior that I’m not sure how to handle.As long as you don't close that door, you'll always keep thinking, "Just in case I decide to get back with her." Next time she texts you, say please I need to process my emotions. Please don't text me unless it's an emergency. wish you the best in life. Then just forget about it. Do something with your time. Don't focus on relationships for now. Focus on what you do with your time. | /r/seduction | 03/12/20 06:32 PM |
| 3 | What is stopping you from cold approaching?I used to think the same. I was living on 200 USD per month as an international student and I blamed my financial situation for lack of sex in my life. When I started going out, (I had a budget for 30-40 USD/month), I went back with a Latina to her place and I just never looked back. If you're curious how I squeezed 30-40 USD in my 200 USD budget, I was just done. I started doing assignments for other kids for 20-60 USD each. So, don't wait for that day. Start acting now. | /r/seduction | 03/12/20 04:58 AM |
| 1 | I have over 1300 matches and over 2000 likes on tinder (4 months in Toronto)Would you help me? I wanna learn. In real life, girls tell me I'm cute but Tinder is not a huge success for me. | /r/seduction | 29/11/20 09:04 PM |
| -12 | Here's what I've been doing on Tinder to get a casual fling every couple of months.Probably because it's some dealers passing off as a girl? Lol. | /r/seduction | 25/11/20 05:12 PM |
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