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You laugh, but there is a good chance that this man his pacing back and forth in his darkened living room as he drinks White Claw and plays Tony Montoya's monologues.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 11:29 AM
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There is a major loneliness epidemic among Gen Z, but it's hitting the guys harder as seen in these comments. There seems to be less opportunities for them to socialize, make friends, and experience dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 11:09 AM
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Gen Z are struggling. Millenials are doing okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 10:29 AM
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Is this the alt of that guy who used to post edgy "tips" everyday?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 10:19 AM
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Unser erstes Date wird einen Besuch im Hurenhaus. 🥰🥰 Du verwohnst mich.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 10:16 AM
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I view it like people finding religion. It's way for people to try to make sense of tge bad things that have happened in their lives. Sorry that you feel like you can't lead a happy life, but I believe that you can. I'm subbed to exredpill and those guys who left the redpill said their mental state drastically improved. Hopefully, you can find a way out at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 10:05 AM
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😍😍 Is there a wax figure Dolly Parton there?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 09:54 AM
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Interesting. I find the opposite to be true more often. I will say that Gen Z men are facing unique struggles. They went through a pandemic and so much of their social life is online. But millenials and up... the data is pretty clear. We're not doing perfect and there's definitely room for improvement, but there's a lot of general misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 09:53 AM
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Well, it's a bit late. The reason I came to this sub is because I've bern coming across men in real life who have recited Redpill dogma. It's not just a bunch of guys on 4chan or reddit anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 09:40 AM
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Well, there's The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas. But you're right, the public needs a "Hooker of Yesteryear" production. Baby, you're a genius.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 09:38 AM
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Redpillers seem quite angry and dejected imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 09:33 AM
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Maybe it's just experiences, but I see redpill "truths" only working on traumatized/very insecure people. A variation of Redpill can work for conservatives in Judeochristian faiths. Looking at my friends and my life... doesn't apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 09:19 AM
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I think it's possible to remain optimistic if you recognize that people are different and they have different characters, motivations, beliefs. Trying to boil each gender down to an algorithm is useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 09:08 AM
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Top 5% of men 18-65 includes 5 million men. That's way more than celebrities and CEOs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 08:55 AM
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Someone woke up and chose violence this morning 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 08:10 AM
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Irresponsible methheads and their suppliers date and procreate with other irresponsible methheads. What a shock.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:46 AM
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Of course women can bear fault. Women can cheat, lie, neglect, and use men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:16 AM
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Ocean documentaries are fascinating as a animals surviving in northern climates.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:13 AM
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Orchids are nice if you're going potted plants. Carnations if you want to do a bouquet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:01 AM
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Sorry, bad phrasing. I had really bad migraines,. My jaws were out of alignment, my top jaw was super narrow, and I couldn't close my mouth. It put strain on my facial muscles and caused tension in my jaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 10:22 AM
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Ummm the people who divorced in the 1990s-1970s are... well, divorced. The highest rate of divorce is observed among young women who have been married for 1-5 years or so. The graph follows divorce rates among different age groups of women during 3 different years. Not the total cumulative number of divorces. Women don't divorce after having one bad day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 09:33 AM
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How did that happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 09:03 AM
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I know it's not exactly right, but I use "divorce rate" as a short for "divorce to marriage ratio" because crude divorce rate isn't exactly useful. I still think it's a net positive. People are getting married because they want to instead of social pressure and they are getting better at keeping those marriages together. It's not perfect, but I see it going in a positive direction. The graph you gave does support boomer divorce rates. Look at the age distributions across the years. The ages that…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 08:50 AM
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It's an 8% difference, how is that double?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 08:44 AM
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Stay away from fillers! I watched a lot of videos on how they can move around and when you take them out your skin sags. You won't regret your S.A.R.P.E surgery! I got that and a double jaw surgery, it's a new quality of life. Not just aesthetically, but you can breathe so much more easily. You never realized the amount of tension you were holding in your face. Did you get a consultation about jaw surgery? If your jawline is soft you may need lower jaw correction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 08:42 AM
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Which cosmetic procedures?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 08:16 AM
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I did not infer causality. Just women's obsession with compulsively mentioning chores is pathetic to the point of not being funny anymore. Men do more chores than ever. Women do less chores than ever. Women divorce men more than ever. Actually the divorce rate is going down. Boomers had the highest levels of divorce and men did less chores. Getting divorced in China carries a social stigma of having failed. And no Chinese men don't do chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 07:57 AM
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There are no threads on what methods are best for a man to discipline his wife and frankly, I'm disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 07:19 AM
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So, this sub is secretly all Chads larping as sexless guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 07:11 AM
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She's organizing the orgy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 07:08 AM
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I always wonder... what do they expect to happen? Like the person will notice the difference
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 07:06 AM
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Who are these people?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 07:01 AM
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There's more men than women among the over 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:59 AM
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I have friends who did arranged marriages. I think it depends on income, but for upper middle class people they generally try to match them according to each other's taste. They're all happy as far as I can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:55 AM
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From the article you posted Social norms surrounding the division of labor within households clearly have not yet caught up with the world of dual-income partnerships [45] Household...housework Things like religion and more people probably have no effect on people having kids, it must be the chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:50 AM
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I only want to join these groups if the women are going to video themselves confronting these guys outside of a Waffle House.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:31 PM
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The article is interesting though. So, women are supposedly losing attraction in relationships because we're taking on most of the household and childcare, having to work, and not getting the guys we want.😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:25 PM
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Now, it's the same as the US
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:20 PM
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Bonk?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:06 PM
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There's no contraduction in her argument. Women 28-29 are probably dating men who are 30-32 which will skew the numbers. However, you are also right that that doesn't account for all of the 30% gap between men and women who identify as single. I do think there's a good argument to be made that men are probably identifying themselves as single while the women they are seeing identify being in a relationship. I wonder how many of these guys are multidating, and how many of them are with one woman,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:02 PM
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There are maternal dna tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:36 PM
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Apparently, you can if you can prove your discriminating to protect the orivacy of your clientele. Generally, in order to justify gender discrimination in membership, gyms have to demonstrate that: Not excluding members of one sex would harm business operations, The customers’ privacy interests are entitled to protection under law, and No reasonable alternative exists to protect customers’ privacy rights. https://www.pashalaw.com/women-only-gyms-discriminatory/ I guess before, it was hard to mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:58 PM
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My gym has a women only section. I love it bc the squat rack is almost always unoccupied. It's mostly us crones using it anyway. I have nothing against male only gyms.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:26 PM
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Living in a small town that's an hour or less from the city is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:21 PM
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Lol what? 😂😂 You guys are wild
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:24 AM
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What are all these circumstances that can lead to false paternity? We've named 4 here, what others are there?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:48 AM
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It matters. There's a difference between saying "I think we should get both paternity and maternity tests to make sure we're not taking home the wrong kid or if the kid has chimerism and that knowledge will be important for medical history." Versus "I think you may have cheated on me or hidden assault and I want to make sure that's not the case." Both are equally valid reasons to get a paternity test, but the latter is an accusation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:47 AM
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Happy Early Birthday!!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:25 AM
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You are comparing women who are from other countries,totally independent, to a relationship where a teacher has authority over the student? I am not labelling every guy who goes abroad for a wife as a predator. Is ut umpossible for you guys to understand some guys who go abroad are doing so for gross reasons? I can judge them without thinking that all guys going abroad have nefarious purposes. It's not a black and white situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:09 AM
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I get that. I'm just wondering. But in the end, these circumstances are rare. A guy has every right to ask for a paternity test, but his partner has every right to be offended because the overwhelming assumption is that she was unfaithful. This is why I think universal paternity testing is best. No awkwardness and it will encourage if not force unfaithful women to be honest earlier in the pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:50 AM
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If it's an assault would they guy refuse any responsibility for the kid? Or is it just about knowing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:41 AM
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A snack? Okay Hannibal. Remember to not leave the rest in the fridge. That's how they got Dahmer.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:36 AM
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Okay, true. There's chimerism and being swapped by the hospital accidentally, but are guys actually considering those things or is this a convenient technicality to not look like you're accusing your partner of cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:31 AM
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Nope, plenty of women think like me. We are the many.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:29 AM
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Not my comments. Bruh, aren't you supposed to be chasing 18 year olds? They're not on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:28 AM
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But it is depending on the relationship. If you guys are not exclusive and she ends up pregnant, then yeah, there's plenty of reason to ask for one if she claims it yours. However, if you are in a monogamous relationship, the only way for that baby not to be yours is if she cheated. So, asking for a paternity is an accusation, just an indirect one. I'm 100% for universal paternity tests. Which is the same as making everyone at the White Hpuse go through security.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:23 AM
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Shock doesn't rhyme. And is this a true story or shitposting? Shall we call the police for a wellness check?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:08 AM
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You guys are missing the point. The guys who are going for these young chicks from small villages are doing so because they want wives that they can control. They don't just want nice women who will treat them well, they want bangmaids. It's like high school female teachers who prey on their students. Sure, thoys boys maybe 18, but they are in no way equipped to handle those dynamics. It's predatory. And why do you guys care anyway? You will never have 100% approval from everyone. Just do your t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:01 AM
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Please tell me where you got any of that from my comment. You are obviously the triggered one here. Chase who you want, not sure they're into redditor trolls.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 08:56 AM
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Not triggered by universal paternity tests Openly prefer whatever you want. OKcupid used to allow people to filter by body type. 5 years is not much of gap. 10+ years is, and it's whatever I'm judging any guy who talks about finding dirt poor 18 year olds from small villages because they'll be more submissive. However, guys in general, going abroad to date and get married, good luck. Send Christmas cards.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 08:38 AM
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I want to know how the under 30s define "committed relationship", because I feel like there's a major gap there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 08:31 AM
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You'll be eating Tofurkey come November... it was nice knowing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 07:53 AM
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Single is defined as being neither married, cohabitating with a partner, or in a committed relationship. So, you can be dating, but still be single. Like another user posted, I wonder how many women consider the guy that they've been dating for two months as their boyfriend versus the guys who've been dating a woman for two months but see themselves as single.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 07:41 AM
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There are a decent amount of women who screen for these qualities. I do think the women who are obsessed with the shiny exterior are women who don't have much experience. They bought into the "mystique" of the Chad, because of Shades of Gray and the like. I wish people would understand this idea of Chad McThundercock using his mighty penis to leave a lifelong impression on a woman, so that she'll never be enjoy another man again, is some major porn fantasy crap. I've never been with a guy and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 10:12 PM
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I'm really sorry for your loss. Losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a person. You deserve better.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 02:13 PM
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I self snitched 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:22 PM
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No, but he did gain weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:21 PM
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is, fixed it. We did break up afterwards for a completely differentvreason, but we're on good terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:12 PM
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Or revenge fantasies. I think the percentage of Redpillers who genuinely buy into the biologucal explanations is very small. Otherwise, they'd change their opinion when confronted with studies that contradict their beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:09 PM
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I am a woman. My ex had a full on affair with his ex. We broke up, but got back together and worked through it. It was legitimately one of the hardest things that I've ever done. And before ppd guys chime in with their assumptions, he was is a 5'6", skinny guy who did not earn 6 figures nor did he have a huge D.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:04 PM
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Women aren't collectively having kids with men because of desperation. Kids will respect you when you are an overwhelming positive presence in their life. Knowing they have a dad who loves them, protects and provides for them, teaches them right from wrong, and supports them as they grow up. Now, they may not always appreciate you particularly during their sociopathic development phase aka teens. Kids don't have enough life experience to understand the sacrifices their parents make for them. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:47 AM
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There is a stigma against foreskins. I have no idea if women ran into guys with poor hygiene and the stigma developed from there or if it's a purely aesthetic issue. Probaby a mix of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:40 AM
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5 Chads (Bring on the slut insults) -At least 6ft -nice physique, lean muscular (One used to model for Abercrombie and Fitch) -3 were 6 figures -2 were actual relationships, one short, one long -Other 3 were hook ups, but we knew each other beforehand. I don't like hooking up with strangers. One turned out to be an asshole, the rest were decent, kind guys. I've also hooked up with 5'1"-5'6" guys... honestly, there's really no difference in terms of how well we got along or quality of sex. It rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 09:24 AM
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Sorry about your friend. I hope you aren't dating her anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:26 AM
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At least you dodged a bullet
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:15 AM
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Please tell me you're trolling...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:11 AM
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That's a hard decision to make and it definitely doesn't make you a bad son.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:32 PM
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That's not okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:31 PM
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Are you now more stoic in relationships or do you avoid them altogether?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:30 PM
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Were these all shorter relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:16 PM
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Hope your partner has gotten better. That must have been scary. It's nice that it brought you two closer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:16 PM
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Has any woman passed?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:30 PM
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Read the title again 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:30 PM
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Does she see your vulnerability as being weak or does supporting you overwhelm her?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:59 PM
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I didn't mean to justify her behavior. She was a bitch. I'm just saying that criticizing lexapro is not received well by many psychiatrists. I have no idea if this is because of a checklist or what, but they assume you're an addict. Hope you got help with another doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:55 PM
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Were they generally considerate partners otherwise or were they generally more selfish?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:34 PM
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Does it bother you having to keeo itvin? Do you have male friends you can talk to?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:31 PM
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Was the crying an ongoing thing over months? Did she comfort you in the beginning or offer help make a plan on how she can support you in finding a new job?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:29 PM
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Well, your psychiatrist wasn't targeting you. I don't know why, but Lexapro is treated as some magic cure all. I had to fight with my male psychiatrist to get Buspiron despite it actually being a "lighter". He acted like I was asking him for benzos.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:27 PM
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That's a very quick break up after so long. Were you trying to get something different from lexapro?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:20 PM
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Bangladesh, Pakistan, Gzinea Bissau, and Zambia are the only countries where you can enlist at 16. Voting at 16 is only really a thing in Latin America. You guys go so hard om the age of consent debates.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:11 PM
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Sorry foe your loss. How long had you and your first gf been dating? I don't want to offend anyone but... classic BPD behavior. She probably wasn't doing any therapy. A mental health professional? Were you dating? Were you her patient?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:01 PM
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Why do you think women are bad at dealing with actual vulnerability with men particularly when they caused it? Is it upbringing, media influences, age...?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:40 PM
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Can a Chad be short? Under 5'7"?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:33 PM
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Who said these guys are following the "good" pua's. I still today hear guys swearing this works. And I would argue a lot if the good PUAs are Cluster B or have a lot of traits. I would bet Vince Master falls into this group.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:28 PM
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Maybe they can afford a girlfriend with the inheritance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:17 PM
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Are these instances where you are expressing a need that your partner isn't fulfilling? Or where they did something that hurt you and you're letting them know?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:15 PM
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Sorry about your struggles. Are you doing better with your depression? Did she try to get you help? Or did she just freeze you out?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:13 PM
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Well, it was good of you to try to help either way. So, you got double teamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:24 PM
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Some songs are perfect for letting out all the feels. Glad you have a great relationship. Were afraid after the first tie that you opened up with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:21 PM
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What if you were injured or sick? Do you have guidelines for how she has to respond or do you trust her to be there for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:17 PM
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I read that DV's are some of the most dangerous situations for them, because the "abused" can quickly turn on you. Better to call the cops or only intervene as a group
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:10 PM
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Did she use that vulnerability in the argument to invalidate your concerns or to make fun of you? What made you decide to implement a contract? Is it based around traditional roles?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:04 PM
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If your SO supportive or do you avoid being vulnerable with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:00 PM
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Glad that you have a supportive partner!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 10:51 AM
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Men learning PUA are quite obvious though. 😅 They come up to you, ask you a quesrion, engage, throw a neg in there, if you don't get mad they try to touch you (always on the chin or stroking the hair), and then ask for your number. I cannot count the number of times I was approached like this. Guys looking for hook ups can mostly be filtered out by just not having sex quickly, although some guys can balance multiple women simultaneously and get around those weight times. You cannot spot a narcis…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 09:56 AM
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What subs are these? I don't know why that would be a go to response for not being able to get dates...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 09:45 AM
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I don't see the contradiction wuth child support and unpaid labor. Child support is not about paying for labor it's paying for food, clothes, school items, field trips, pocket money, doctir's appointments, etc. Picking up kids from school, cleaning up after them, cooking for them, etc. Goes unpaid in both scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 09:42 AM
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Yeah, women talk more but our communication skills suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 09:38 AM
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Anger is an emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 09:31 AM
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Who doesn't think Sirius is sexy?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 09:01 AM
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Not always. I recorded myself when i started lifting to check out my form. Others did as well. Although, luckily my gym was supportive and the guys would actually give me real time feedback and advice, so I stopped needing to record.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:54 AM
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I mean, it's the same arguments over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:46 AM
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So, good luck with your AI sex robots then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:41 AM
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Seth Green and Jackie Chan... people make fun of me, but did y'all not watch Buffy? And Jackie Chan is as close to a real life superhero as we'll get while still being humble.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:34 AM
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How do you know that struggling girl hates men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:28 AM
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Fair point. I think women should save these venrs for friends and not dump it all on partners, but we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 08:58 PM
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Well, from my experience, nonecof my female friends judge their partners for crying, being sad or depressed, but nome of them tolerate anger. I'm the same. I guess we get scared.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 08:12 PM
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Personally, I am pro raising the age limit for enlistment. The only issue is that the military does provide a path for young people who don't have many options. It's crazy to me though. Same with porn. I don't think anyone should be allowed to do porn or sex work until at least 21. When it comes to age gaps it's not always that they are bad or wrong. My issue is moreso that we still think older = wiser, more mature and young people may fall more easily victim to abusers because they don't know a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 05:49 PM
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We're not together anymore, but we were flatmates. Then, I put the moves on him. It was a very accelerated process. We started dating after 3-4 months of living together and stayed together 3.5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 04:56 PM
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He can choose something to cook that requires little to no clean up. Frozen pizza or frozen chicken wings and fries. Dump it on a foiled covered pan and break out paper plates. Throw it all away when done. Almost no cleaning involved. And again, it's only a couple days a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 04:44 PM
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Which helps the family how? Cooking feeds everyone and we need to eat daily. Video games helps skill that help the family how? And in your scenario, to make it comparable, wouldn't have to clean the bathroom on the day you didn't want to play video games. Except wiping the mirror and sink. I'd just have to play for 20 minutes. But does improving my executive and motor skills help the family?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 04:11 PM
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Is playing video games a task essential to the family?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 03:51 PM
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I agree when it comes to men being moody and expressing anger that we are not very tolerant of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 03:42 PM
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How is wanting a couple days off from cooking in any way related to your scenario. Does he work at his job on weekends? Every needs a couple days break. She wants a couple days off from cooking. All he has to do is pick something easy to make like frozen pizza and there doesn't have to be much clean up. He doesn't look cooking at all, so how is it the fun job, if he doesn't like it??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 03:26 PM
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I don't understand your frustration. They split kitchen tasks specifically. She cooks, he cleans. She cooks fresh from scratch every day which takes time and she says she doesn't mind, but a couple day a month she doesn't feel like doing that. On those days she's not asking him to cook and clean, but just to pick something so she doesn't have to think about it. How hard is it for them to keep some frozen pizza to pop in the oven? Very little work to be done and they can even use paper plates. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 08:45 AM
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I disagree. I wentvthrough infidelity with my ex and after consulting with long married couples, I found out forgiveness is how these couples stayed together for 50+ years. But it is really hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 07:29 AM
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Honestly, most people have no idea what autism actually entails. It's been portrayed as being a bit shy and having few adorable "quirks". Not saying that we can't accepz and love people with autism as they are, but the romantization of neurodivergence has left most of us ill informed about what these things actually look like. And we haven't acclimated ourselves to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 07:21 AM
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Right. Sorry, brain fart. Good luck at trial. Perry Mason the crap out of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 05:28 AM
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Were the men hornier?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 04:30 AM
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Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 04:28 AM
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Well, it's hard to rule the peasants when you have hot flashes and no air conditioning. And your female army is on sick leave for one week a month because their uteruses are painfully shedding. But tides are turning thanks to ibuprofen.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 04:20 AM
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It's all about the mental game if you're demi. The physicality aspect doesn't do much. Are you only ready to have sex because he's notvseeing anyone else or do you have some feeling on your part that it's time? If you want to have sex, do not fake orgasms. Trust me on this honesty is the best policy. He may be disappointed, but as long as you're enjoying it, he should enjoy it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 04:16 AM
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A white collar embezzler is robbing houses?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 01:44 AM
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Who wears dress socks while naked? White tube socks or bust.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:55 PM
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Gaston from Beauty and the Beast He uses antlers in all of his decorating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:56 PM
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In terms of social/economic power, who genuinely would pick sewer worker? We all would rather have Bezos money and power. We'd still have rocket shaped penises though. We can't escape this oppression.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:51 PM
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Does this look like a california locker room? Suck it up buttercup
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:47 PM
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Of course you want to diminish my contributions, you agent of the patriarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:43 PM
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The power/authority of a 0.1% man The privileges of a 20 year old hot woman The accountability of a toddler Fixed that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:36 PM
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Well, you're presenting as troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:33 PM
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Bless you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:24 PM
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Because of Manolo Blahniks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:01 PM
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Idle hands are the devil's workshop. As long as I'm not creepy. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:52 PM
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Would landscape photography photos be a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:03 PM
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I follow 3X more people on social media, but they are overwhelmingly ballerinas, seamstresses, travel accounts in countries i like to visit, craftsmen, pilates trainers, and similar. I barely follow friends on there because I see their stuff on facebook. Does that make me a creep? 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:02 PM
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Yeah, foodies are high maintenance. The foodies I know spend so much money on restaurants, bars, and travelling to other restaurants in other places. I hope to find a man whose taste buds have suffered permanently due to corona... or from the midwest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:18 PM
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What do you mean by "not a ho"? What are specfic family values that make you feel nurtured? How does her being hot contribute to that? If you don't mind elaborating. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:07 PM
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I'm not balling like CimZim, but I buy my male dates food and pay for activities. It's not so rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:01 PM
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Omg, I don't even have a 100 followers. Now, I feel bad about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 05:57 PM
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Why did I not know about this? I need a pair too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 05:43 PM
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I doubt you're dumb. And good luck on your side project! I understand what you mean. It's nice when someone gets what you're trying to do and does things to help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 05:01 PM
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That's cool that you guys share that. Yeah, I just wondered if having personal hobbies helps men maintain their friendships more easily as there is a tendency for them to slowly drift apart from their friend circle after getting into a relationship/ married.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:45 PM
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Do gifts and gestures make you feel like you need to reciprocate in an equal or more grandiose way?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:40 PM
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That sounds unpleasant to say this least. Are these working conditions because of the company you work for or are they typical for workers in your field?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:34 PM
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I agree with your advice. I'm asking, because it's another issue commonly brought up here about men not getting enough sex in relationships. Obviously, there's a lot of debate as to the causes. I just wanted a perspective. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:04 PM
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That's sweet
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 03:42 PM
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There's a lot of talk about men needing a certain amount of sex per week. If the woman's libido is lower, how can that be addressed without the guy feeling like he has to beg for it or always initiate?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 03:40 PM
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I guess thus depends on the man and his hobby, but aren't individual hobbies supposed to provide personal space away from the relationship? Do you not feel like your bubble is invaded when your SO joins in?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 03:20 PM
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Glad you had someone by your side through that. Hope you've recovered!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 03:14 PM
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I saw the word "nurturing" in those threads, so I did make an assumption that they meant "cared for", but you make a good point about the distinction.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 03:13 PM
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The divorce rate for first marriages is around 30% percent...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:38 AM
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Starbucks is overrun with old ladies? Libraries are not a good place to meet people anymore. Thanks internet. But hear me out....used bookstores. The kitschier the better. It's not guaranteed, but usually not overrun by old people. Just stay away from the ones with fair trade associations. That is a middle aged magnet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:36 AM
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You make a cast of his penis and balls. Then you fill the casting mold with silicone. Then, voila! Dildo clone There are DIY kits.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:24 AM
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Which courtesies do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:36 AM
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Well, the intentions and how people personally feel about performing them are two different things. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:34 AM
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Okay I think some guys are misunderstanding the intention behind female chivalry. Let me clarify. The first few dates can be nerve racking for a guy so female chivalry is supposed to give him comfort. Laughing at his jokes- He may actually be funny, but he also might be completely bombing at them. So, we laugh even if they're bad because he's trying. Listening to him even if it's not interesting- Not every guy is a conversationalist who can keep things super stimulating and in today's situation …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:44 AM
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"People from broken homes are only meant for open relationships or casual ones." Most people from broken home backgrounds can have a loving longterm relationship if they put the work into addressing and treating their trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:23 AM
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What is the interpretation that you were hoping for?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:40 PM
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Nah, we're just kinky.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:07 PM
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Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:07 PM
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She's basically asking "Are you in the same league that you're aiming for?" What is special about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:00 PM
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The girl was abused and molested as a child. Don't get me wrong, she was a terrible partner, but sexual abuse really recks a person. And anyway, I watch the movie for Forrest not her. I just think that moment is heartbreaking for him. He loves so purely and steadfast, but can't have it returned. Bubba dying also makes my eyes misty.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:20 PM
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My friends in their 40s with grown or older teens seem to struggle with finding men their own age. All are dating guys in their late 20s to mid 30s. Apparently, men in their 40s don't show them any attention on the apps nor do they approach. The fwb's are pretty hot, too. I was shocked. My friends in their 30s seem to have an almost "normal" dating experience. The biggest issue is scheduling around the kids. Usually, whatever the issue they had with the child's father is what they screen for fir…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:14 PM
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Because his music touches you in a no homo way?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:07 AM
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Andrew Tate is physically attractive at least bodywise. If he got a double jaw surgery he'd be a 10 in looks. Gross means somethingvis repulsive and that is not objective. Everyone has different standards tolerances for that. You may fight it gross if a woman chews with her mouth open and bits of food are flying. Another guy may think it's normal since he does it as well. Behaviors can be gross relative to your standards and they factor in to overall attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 10:06 AM
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This brightened my morning 🤣. Dad jokes ftw
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 09:49 AM
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Okay, Patrick Bateman
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 09:43 AM
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Yeah, it's reasonable. I think it's great when couples have a shared sport activity. Like going cycling, rollerblading hiking, etc. together. You can even meal prep together. I see this problem more in America compared to Europe and it's because of how our cities are designed. Here, it's easier as a mom to still stay active without going to the gym because you'll be walking all over the place to take kids to the parks, play gyms, pool, etc. In the US, you have to go out of your way to be active …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 09:38 AM
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I don't trust any guy that's not at least Misty eyed at the end of Marley and Me or when Forest Gump tells Jenny "I'm not a smart man, but I do know what love is." 😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 09:22 AM
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Are you making a case for Gilead? This is interesting. We prohibit people from taking drugs and selling sexual services, because it was decided thar they cause too much indirect harm to others. I think it's best to look at what is contributing to making these decisions first and go from there. For example, the Japanese aren't having kids. They are overworked, wages have stagnated, men can't support a traditional family, and women are shutbout of employment after having kids because of lack of ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:36 PM
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I'm childfree and my friends tell me to pursue this type of relationship. My past two LTR's blew up bc the guys changed their minds about having kids. I really don't want to deal with that again. But I also will catch feelings in fwbs, so I'm in a dilemma. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:52 PM
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Well, when you realize how the term "304" came about, then you realize the kind of intellectuals that you're dealing with. 58008 forever!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 01:14 PM
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Yeah, after my break up, it was a very nice feeling when I realized that I don't have to have a freshly made dinner ready with food I didn't even like (he was a super picky eater). Nor do I have to track down his stuff and put it all in the right spots, so he could find them easily in the morning without a bunch of yelling and stress. And the list goes on. I understand my older friends not wanting to live with their partner. I still do want to date again though in the future. Just not now. 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 12:45 PM
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Why are guys okay with strangers coming to their house? I just don't understand this. What if she's a psycho? What if she's a drug addict? What if she's in some ring of people who scout your place before robbing you? Y'all are more worried about her being fat than being stabbed and it boggles my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 08:13 AM
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I've never read about single women being happier than married women, just that they live slightly longer. And, on average, single women are happier than single men. There's multiple reasons for that. -We have better social networks. I don't know why but a lot of single guys don't seem to have a friend group they meet regularly with compared to women. -These social networks don't only provide us with distraction, but an outlet. We have spaces to vent and get support. Guys, tend to rely on partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:34 AM
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Interesting. So, definitely no gum chewers then.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 10:31 PM
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My comment was about my personal views on the topic. Not how everyone else feels. I don't understand why you're so upset when I'm not judging everyone in an age gap relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 11:47 AM
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The amount of sex of the top 5% of people was more than the bottom 50% of people. Men and women included. That bottom 50% can include people in LTR's who are having sex with just their partner in any given year. I'm wondering if guys who are more adversely affected are guys who are relying on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:32 AM
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Being SAHM creates a financial power imbalance within the relationship. "We're talking about the women who happily date men who can support themselves but gladly take advantage of "the lifestyle" that the man offers her (trips, dinners, etc)." Again, why are you focusing on young women when I'm talking about older men AND women targeting young men and women. Do you think a female grooming her 18 year old student is okay just because it's legal? Do you think some narcissist 50 year old isn't goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:44 AM
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Ladies love a rebel
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:36 PM
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Yeah, I totally misread your post, my bad. Agreed. Jason Mamoa married his childhood crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:53 PM
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Where have you been? Priyanka Chopra got dragged by women for being an old hag. Demi Moore and Mariah Carey were criticized. J.Lo was ridiculed for dating her young back up dancer. She even makes fun of herself in an SNL skit. Mads Mikkelsen not so much, but I think bc he's from Denmark. I don't think women know how old or who Elsa Pataki (Hemsworth's wife) is. She's Spanish. I had no idea she was older. Aren't Blake Shelton and Gwen Stefani the same age? Edit: And a good number of women think M…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:36 PM
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Neat
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:29 PM
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I saw the clips. She has very much a "women are the root of all evil". Even if she disagrees with a man, she'll still be somewhat respectful versus how she'll absolutely denigrate other women. I have no idea if she genuinely thinks like this in real life or if she just realized being mean to other women is a cash cow. She's nit tge smartest when it comes to analyzing information, but she knows how to market herself. I just think describing her as an unattractive, shapeless stupid woman is someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:27 PM
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6 alpacas and 4 goats
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:14 PM
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I really don't like pearl, but that's a harsh description. I know she very degrading towards women with less than ideal bodies, but don't put yourself on that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:09 PM
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There are channels for women on how to attract a high value guy. And creating "standards" on how you are to be treated is one of the lessons. This is going to be funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:42 PM
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Yeah, very few people read bios. It's sad, because it was a great way to get interesting convos rolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:28 PM
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I'm curious how this will affect views around n count and cheating. Unless of have distinguishible physical features from the fake or the video has been used multiple times, how would you determine that the person was not the one involved in those acts and that it's fake?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:26 PM
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Send field reports
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:23 PM
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I didn't disregard it. I agree it goes both ways. We are discussing one way of how women can lose interest over time. You came in calling the example extreme. I tried to explain where we are coming from and why it is an issue. And this is all in a response to some guy blaming women for betabuxxing their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:09 PM
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What kind of sounds bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:46 PM
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Instead of "Are we dating the same guy?" groups, we need "Am I dating a Redditor?"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:43 PM
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It's a topic she can easily discuss for the duration of your session. I gurantee she's probably brought up the same with other clients. She might have also been thinking about doing the same. 10 grand is nothing to balk at.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:40 PM
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The 80/20 rule purpose that women find only the top 20% of men attractive. That is a narrow pool. By the statistics most men are having sex. Maybe not a lot of sex, but they are getting laid. Hinge users are 63% male and 36% female. So, even if every woman paired up with a different guy that's still almost 50% of men not getting any pairing. That's a big percentage of guys getting left out. Now add in women having some preferences. It has nothing to do with the 80/20 rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:31 PM
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Omg, you are so hung up on one funny example and completely missing the bigger picture. You don't have to be a slob. If you and your partner are both working, then you come home, but she has to cook and clean, do you think that she is going to want to have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:18 PM
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Well, I assume you have a job you need to go to and I read somewhere that there's a 10% match to lay rate. So 27 sexy times 100 dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:01 PM
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I live in Germany currently and there's more balance than in the US, but households still tend to fall more to women. Children caretaking is very balanced though. Finland I have no idea. The conversation around vulnerability is interesting. I think there's a line between being vulnerable and using someone as your therapist. I think men are afraid of being perceived as weak or they think their wives won't understand. I think they both are the types of thing that kill the bedroom. The quote talks …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:54 PM
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272.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:34 PM
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This is not in any way an extreme example. In 52% of dual income households women handle cleaning the house. In 57% they do the laundry. In 47% they cook the meals. https://news.gallup.com/poll/283979/women-handle-main-household-tasks.aspx If you're both working, and you have to come home and take care of the house as well. Your libido will be gone too. Women can also get lazy in the relationship. It's common that they put less effort into their appearance and don't take initiative in keeping tg…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:33 PM
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And statistics are showing that in 2021 only 15% of men had not had sex in the past year compared to 22% of women. So, if women only find 20% of men attractive how are the other 65% managing to get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:11 PM
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There isn't a significant discrepancy in pay between men and women. It's 5% when controlled for all other variables education, kids, hours, etc. However, the wage gap argumentvis still that women are being underpaid for the same work. And there are women who claim that they experience this. In reality, only a few of these women are actually getting paid less, the rest are working less hours than the men in the same jobs. They just don't see that. Like with the 80/20 example. Statistics are overw…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:07 PM
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Because the gurus keep pushing it and if they admit that it's not true that means that they have to actually self reflect on how they are contributing to their situation. Much easier to make themselves into victims of female superficiality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:35 PM
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Really? So, you think there's aome truth to the wage gap?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:29 PM
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👏👏👏👏 I don't have awards but please accept this dollar tree medal🏅. Honestly, the best comment I've seen on this sub and I wish more guys had your fortitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 12:42 PM
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Why do men need sex to do basic adult things like pick up after themselves? You're not a 5 year old getting a gold star on your chore chart.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 12:36 PM
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As a woman, I can definitely confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 12:29 PM
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You're right! The can be the new centers for male sensitivity training. They have to survive two weeks in the swamps and bayous with one pair of socks. And being stalked by a hungry gator waiting to pounce on you at the first sign of weakness is great way to break in guys for marriage. Good suggestion 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 12:01 PM
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Maybe this is the problem today. Millenials and GenX wars were all in the desert. The US needs to liberate a tropical country, so men can sympathize more with our plight.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 11:25 AM
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Wow, you must be a lot of fun on dates. And to be fair, previous generations of soldiers had sock problems of their own. They had to not only fight the Vietcong and the Germans, but they had another formidable enemy: wet socks. So, your grandpa knows what's up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 10:25 AM
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What if I want one under 6 feet? I'm not trying to bang the Jolly Green Giant.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:21 AM
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If you think women won't get sex robots because we can't brag about them, you obviously haven't seen much we proselytize to other women about our favorite sex toys. And no grass stained underwear. Sounds good. Do we need to pre-order?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:07 AM
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Yessss, his desk was like Smaug's lair, but with socks. It even shined like gold because it was covered with with various snack crumbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:27 AM
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When you both are working the same hours and you have to come home to cook and clean up after you both. It makes you feel like his mom not his partner. Same for stay at home moms. They spend all day entertaining tiny, clingy, chatterboxes and then, they make sure the husband is set when he comes home. It's their role, but, again, caretaker. From the article itself. "But Meana discovered that “institutionalization of the relationship, overfamiliarity, and desexualization of roles” in a long-term …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:12 AM
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Because we still have trauma from watching guys repeatledly throw theirsocks next to or right in front of the hamper, but not in it. Or we find a bunch of socks under the couch right after we just put in the load of laundry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:06 AM
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Why is the automatic response to my comment "What about the young women who do X?" Explain this to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 12:40 AM
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Yeah. True, but I like to give them the benefit of the doubt as well. Although the reality is probably that both groups are aiming too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:19 PM
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True. But these guys are complaining about women on their level having standards that they can't meet. I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt that they aren't overestimating their own attractiveness. If that's really the case, they should walk away collectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:04 PM
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Well, they are either married or in relationships, so no.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:57 PM
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Everyone can. They just have to be willing to walk away or be single for a while, but men want to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:56 PM
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This is actually interesting. Is there cottagecore that caters to male aesthetics?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:51 PM
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Yep. Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:39 PM
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Let me start by asking you to reread my original comment, particularly the last line where I wrote: "Two people with an age gap who happen to fall in love are not problematic" Pointing out potential for abuse in an age gap relationships in situations where older people are specifically going after young people as if they are on equal footing is not the same as condemning them altogether. I also like how you focus specifically on "young hot women" but no words about whether young men dating older…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:27 PM
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What stops men from having higher standards for themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:10 PM
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-Income gap relationships do have a high potential for abuse. Why do you think women pushed to go to work in the first place?? Women in bad marriages could not leave because they had no money of their own. Many women today still go to college or do something to ensure they have the ability to leave a marriage if something goes wrong. There was a post yesterday, made by a female user, about traditional relationships being a risk for women, because of the income disparity. -Looks gap relationship-…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:07 PM
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There was chatter in the megachat about this topic. It started with the passport bros debates.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 06:41 PM
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She's talking about men who are chasing much younger women and think women naturally desire older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 06:19 PM
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I'm sorry that you went through that. Although, it is in a way your fault. It's not that you made them cheat, they chose to do that. But you are picking them. Being cheated can give you PTSD. It lowers your self esteem. So, you are more vulnerable to bad players. It's common to repeat toxic relationship patterns. You need to take enough time to heal after getting cheated on. It takes like 2 years to get back to decent heads pace again after getting betrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 06:08 PM
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I'm curious then why Bangladesh has higher or comparable rates of higher education rates compared to Indonesia, Laos, and Cambodia, but their marriage is not very delayed. The median marriage age in Bangladesh is 17. I don't see that as a natural phenomenon. Even vicorian women got married around 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 05:05 PM
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The average age gap in Thailand is 3.5 years. Actually, aside from Bangladesh the average age gap in all those countries is 5 years or less. And there's no definition in terms about what a hopogamous is in terms of age difference. *Edit: Found it. It's 0-4 years. Hypergamous starts at a 5 year age gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 04:35 PM
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Why is this bad advice? Treat women like people means "approach us like you would anyone else". Don't come at us like you're some medieval peasant addressing the queen. -Don't come at us feeling entitled to our bodies. That's all that advice means. It may not be the holy grail of advice, but it's not gaslighting or abuse. The person who gave it probably either personally experienced or saw someone else doing these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 03:39 PM
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I watched an interview where she talked about her "trick" to hide her crow's feet and forehead lines by pulling her hair back in a certain way. But yeah all 3 look amazing. I was sad when Nicole Kidman ruined her face. I think botox and fillers are don't have much of a stigma around men getting them anymore. No one wants to age lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 03:13 PM
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Brazil seems to have an average age gap of 3.9 years. Southeast Asia has an average gap of 4-8 years. The big age gaps are mostly in African countries. https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/01/03/globally-women-are-younger-than-their-male-partners-more-likely-to-age-alone/ I agree there's more people open to it, but I think most prefer someone closer to their age for a serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 03:05 PM
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Did Salma Hayek have plastic surgery?? She said that she's avoiding fillers. I considered her goals in aging gracefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 02:39 PM
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I have zero issue with the gap relationships in general. I get annoyed with older men and women cough Madonna cough specifically going after young people who've had little relationship experience, because those older people have an upper hand. They can push boundaries and normalize abusive behavior because their age gives them a position of authority. Two people with an age gap who happen to fall in love are not problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 02:36 PM
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"Although in 2014 the average age difference in US heterosexual relationships was a relatively small 2.3 years, many couples have a much wider gap. In Western countries, around 8% of male-female couples have an age-gap of 10 years or more" https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220317-age-gaps-the-relationship-taboo-that-wont-die#:~:text=In%20Western%20countries%2C%20of%20male,of%2028%20years%20or%20more.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 02:25 PM
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The divorce rates among millenial and Gen X couples are lower. Baby boomers have the highest. Millenial divorce rates are 18% less than than boomer divorce at the same age. https://www.google.com/amp/s/psmag.com/.amp/ideas/what-we-can-learn-from-the-dramatic-dip-in-divorce-among-millennials We're marrying and having kids later, we're getting educated, and picking people we get along with. There's a lot of factors that go into it. GenX and Millenial divorce rates are around 30%. Boomers' are 50%.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 01:25 PM
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Marriages with 20+ year age gap have a 95% divorce rate. Shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:47 PM
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Depends on where I am. When I'm in the countryside or smaller towns, I always smile unless I'm in a bad mood. In the city, it's RBF all the way if I'm by myself. Too many weirdos. I might smile at a cashier and then drop it the moment I step away. I had some guy try to follow me to my apartment after taking my smile as an "invite". So, I do avoid smiling at men I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:34 PM
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I'm starting to wonder if there's a new type of schizophrenia that causes people to view a world that doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 08:04 AM
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You put how I feel into words so wonderfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 07:25 AM
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Yes the warhawks who refuse to get rid of the draft and then redirect men's anger towards women who don't have to sign up for the draft instead of at the people in power who can and should abolish the draft.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:11 PM
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So, just because it's not a law means it's not a discriminatory practice against a group of people? So I guess men in America should stop complaining since aside from the draft there's no other laws in place that target them against them. There's no law that says they can't get custody of their kids. And who is in power in the Ukraine? Is it men or women? Who makes the laws?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 11:33 AM
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https://www.hrw.org/news/2021/05/10/killing-schoolgirls-afghanistan
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 10:38 AM
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Only when they get shot trying to go to school.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 10:24 AM
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Interesting question. My life would definitely have been different. My dad would have probably taken more interest since he wanted a boy and I would have played baseball. I would have joined the military because it's tradition on his side of the family. I probably would have gone to the Citadel for college. Ironically, my dad didn't want me joining the military as a woman, because of the types of guys there. I don't know. If I had my same personality, I wouldn't be drowning in women, but I'd be …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 10:21 AM
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And the single guys on here are all rainbows snd sunshine? Married men are happi-er.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:48 PM
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No, it's just women are getting paranoid that they might end up dating a guy who likes Andrew Tate. Bringing back the topic of shitposting one of the newer tests figuring out the magic questions that will get a guy to reveal if he likes Tate, FreshnFit, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:46 PM
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These women were getting abortions still around 22 weeks. Late term abortions which is not even a medical term usually refer to third trimester abortions or after 24 weeks. If this was an argument about who gets abortions after 12 weeks, I'd agree with their point. But they are grouping women who get abortions toeing the line of the legal limit with women who are getting them at 30+ weeks. It's slanted. These articles make the case that if there were less barriers and better healthcare access th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:04 AM
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The data about why women get an abortion after 22 weeks comes from one article that only interviewed 28 women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 09:23 PM
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That study was based on 28 women... and 44 states ban abortions after 22 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 08:54 PM
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I think you're missing her point. There were a lot of miserable wives 50 years ago because they were pressured into marriage and having kids by certain ages regardless of what they wanted. There was no support for issues like Post Partum Depression and women were supposed to stay quiet about abuse. If a wife was poor, she had to work and take care of the household by herself. Boomers divorced each other at rates higher than any other generation. When divorced became normalized they ditched each …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 09:19 AM
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OP, did you read the actual post from Survey of American Life? There was no mention of Liberal vs Conservative views on extramarital affairs that I could find. There was a big double standard for young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 08:45 AM
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I got blocked today too, I take it as a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 11:23 PM
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Is he autistic possibly? I have a friend who I suspect is on the spectrum because he also has only 3 topics of conversation. If you try talking about anything else, he zones out. He mostly only talks about his hobby of collecting different currency. It took a long time to get him to expand his repertoire of conversation topics and all his friends are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 10:39 PM
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I've been called delusional, manipulative, and manhating. I haven't recieved any insults like the ones you mentioned. Sorry you had to experience that.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/23 08:41 PM
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Whatever therapy that helps men understand that there can be all sorts of reasons they get rejected that have absolutely nothing to do with them. Overshare storytime: I had way too much coffee one morning before I went to the mall. As I was walking out of H&M, the bubble guts kicked in and I had max 5 minutes to haul ass to a toilet before disaster struck. Of course this is the moment when a guy decided to approach me. He tells me I'm pretty and asked if I wanted to grab a coffee. I wanted to po…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 08:26 PM
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I am countering the claim made in your OP. I don't understand how you're equating that to me saying that rates haven't declined? Imagine you made a post about how only 10% of people are wearing blue jeans today and I counter that actually 60% percent are wearing them. Then, you argue that previously 90% of people used to wear blue jeans and I'm ignoring the decline in the amount of blue jean wearers. Do you see how the argument I made is different from what you think I'm saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 04:24 PM
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How does my comment have to do with declining marriage/relationship rates? You made the argument that the majority of women aren't currently settling. I responded based on the statistics that reflect the current situation. Your post made no reference to how many women were in relationships/marriage 30, 40, or 50 years ago compared to now. You didn't ask why less women are in relationships/ married today in contrast to previous years. And I made no claim about the relationship/dating rates being …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 04:00 PM
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Where did I make any claim about marriage and dating rates not declining?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:20 PM
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"However, I am not going to pretend that the reasons for the decline in dating and relationships is entirely because women refuse to settle for anything less than unrealistically high standards, there are many reasons at play and that is one of the larger ones, but not all of them." Your entire post is that the majority of women are refusing to settle for anything less than the top tier men which leaves the majority of men unpartnered. I countered that claim by pointing out that the majorit of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 02:58 PM
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Half of millenials are married and 14% are living with their partner. Please explain to me how women are not "settling". The majority are in relationships . And anyone who is going to cite this alpha fux/beta but crap please take a look the distribution of men getting laid is pretty nicely distributed. There isn't some giant division between men having a lot of partners and virgins. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm Are there women who would rather stay single if they ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 01:50 PM
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Well sir, this entire sub is dedicated to the debate of 'Western women are a big problem and you should avoid them because of X,Y and Z reasons". 😄 That's why we keep asking why you are posting here if you're not debating or trolling. Okay then, enjoy your day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:10 PM
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I'm not saying you can't post here. I'm wondering what your purpose is in posting this here. You make a post that you claim is just to help guys out and show them that there are options. Okay. But why post this in a group that not only contains a lot of the women you are telling men to avoid, but is based around us (western/modern women) debating and challenging views like yours asserting that we are the problem? Then you say that it's not about us. Listen, it's cool that you found a wonderful w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 03:48 PM
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Also from the about: "Our content is moderated with the intent of ensuring our subreddit meets this goal and is a place where a civil debate can be conducted." Also, the sub is called "PurplePillDebate".. It would be relevant to make these posts in dating subs because it's just dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 03:11 PM
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I feel like we're agreeing but just from different angles. My point was not that these women don't have love matches, but that they are living in cultures that puts marriage and family above personal satisfaction. So, the women will have a different approach to marriage than women in countries without these pressures. It has nothing to do with their individual preferences and feelings. I think most women want to be in love with their partner, but not everyone has the luxury of choosing that pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:58 AM
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I will say this as a woman. There are still women playing "hard to get". They don't want to be vulnerable bccthey don't want to be the ones getting hurt and it's really ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 09:47 AM
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Poor guy, hope he gets help for that. What does he talk about on dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 09:41 AM
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Honestly, I don't know many who are good overall, but can't find a date. There some definitely though. I know a lot of guys who are good on paper, but when you spend time with them, you learn very quickly why they are single. Just because a guy has a nice home, good job, and a good style doesn't mean he's good to date. A friend of mine is absolutely gorgeous, educated, and has a good style yet he can't keep a woman for more than a few dates. Want to know why? He's stubborn, controlling, and bitt…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 09:38 AM
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This is a debate sub though... why not post it in dating or the men's subreddits?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 09:16 AM
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Yeah, I agree with you, but there are actually good reasons for these men to go abroad. In Asian countries where they find their wives, there's still a big taboo surrounding divorce. So, even if they are unhappy as long as there's no abuse, they'll stay. They don't have a western view of marriage with regards to romance. They don't expect romantic fulfillment from their marriages like we do. They view family as more of unit rather than a love coupling. They do love their partners, but it's diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 09:13 AM
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But the case of Indonesia and Filipino women, isn't that a result if poverty? They take whatever job they can even if it means living away from the family. They send all their money home. It's a quite sad situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 08:39 AM
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No one said you are announcing it to trigger anyone. I was wondering why it's repeatedly being announced in general. Why not just go and do it without telling everyone? It's not a new concept and no one is adding any tips to help guys more easily achieve it. I did't realize you needed to be hyped about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:56 PM
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It's not about having different morals when it comes to sexuality it's the hypocrisy. Being a playboy, but only wanting to marry a virgin is like having been a drug dealer and refusing to date a former junkie. You actively participated in and perpetuated a culture yet you suddenly have a moral opposition to it and towards anyone else who was involved in it? All your other examples are people engaging in acts that you would have had nothing to do with in terms of promoting or engaging in their li…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:27 PM
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I'm a western women. Honestly, I don't care if men want to travel abroad for wives. I don't understand why men feel the need to constantly announce that they are doing this. Good luck and enjoy the satay.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:50 PM
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Woman do this on smaller scales all the time. My friends and I had groups and would ask about guys. Mostly to make sure they were actually single. You'd be amazed at the kind of guys who cheat. Not what you expect at all. And also to ask if there were serious problems. One guy was threatening to grape women when they rejected him. No one should lie about someone or bring up minor things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 08:27 AM
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Not necessarily. It sounds like you're thinking of scenarios where women agree with some Redpill or traditional concepts. That doesn't make them a pick me. Although, some women will unfairly call these women pick me's. A pick me can shame other women about anything and everything. She can shame other women for not liking football to make herself seem superior for enjoying a non- feminine sport. She can slam other women for putting effort into their appearances and declare them fake snd shallow i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 11:19 PM
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A "pick me" isn't a woman who agrees with men. It's a women who puts other women down in order to make herself more attractive to men. The comment above your describes it really well. A woman can make herself attractive to men without needing to trash other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 10:04 PM
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What was it that attracted them to you and held the relationships together?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:42 PM
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I'm talking about actual relationships. Pretty sure most women want to be able to have a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:21 PM
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No, they have good jobs. Just divorced with kids. Cheerleading is expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:19 PM
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That is true. But I think in real life people get a better chance to show their personality and charm. It's just getting those mingling opportunities can be difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 12:06 PM
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It definitely works for some. A couple guy friends of mine can break up with a chick and find another one a week later (conventionally pretty women) even though they are both short (5'4") and broke. Meanwhile, my other guy friends can't even get a match. Online dating is weird. If it works for you great but I think other guys may benefit more by finding women in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 11:49 AM
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I really don't know. I think it's going to depend highly on where you are and the background of the women. I've never been to Miami, but everyone I know who has lived there all describe the women as being shallow, money and status obsessed, etc. Unsurprisingly, Fresh n Fit and other TRPers live there. The conclusions about women that they come to are therefore not surprising. I come from a midsized Southern town. Most of my high-school classmates and college friends got married to their college …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 11:20 AM
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You realize that among active users on Tinder, 75% are men and 25% are women. I don't know why guys still bother with this app.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 10:23 AM
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Well, there are a lot of reasons why you think that way First and foremost, women are not a monolith. I am a woman. I have female friends that fall into the exact stereotype of the woman who only wants the richest, fittest guys no matter the kind of shitbags they are. I also have friends who are happily married to their 5'3" (or around this height) dadbod middle class college sweethearts. What am I supposed to say to a guy who asks if height matters? In the same vein, those shallow friends who w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:52 AM
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"work on yourself bro" Why shouldn't people work on themselves? Not just physically, but mentally. Getting in shape makes you feel more confident. Working on any trauma you may have and growing as a person helps you live a more fulfilling life. "relationships aren't everything" Relationships are nice. The feeling that you have someone is great. However, being with the wrong person can destroy your life. When you're so desperate to have someone, you run the risk the risk of ending up with an abso…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:04 AM
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You're not a loser. You're young and figuring things out. I hope you're using protection and getting tested. Being introverted and having dark skin are not bad or undesirable traits. You say you have no social life, but is that because of introversion or do you also have social anxiety? Take some of that money you put towards escorts and get yourself a hobby! Lift weights, paint, learn a martial art, etc. When you find something that you like, you'll feel better about yourself and meet people in…
/r/ExRedPill06/01/23 09:39 AM
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I don't know about status, but I agree with everything else. As a woman, I hate dating apps. It's hard to get a read on someone from some pictures and prompts. And honestly, most guys suck at putting together a decent profile that doesn't make them seem like a potential serial killer. Meeting people in social situations is a great way to get a read on people and see their good qualities.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/23 09:28 AM
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There can be outside factors that create insecurity. If he doesn't feel respected or valued at his job, if he's surrounded by friends who are more successful, Or if he's the type of person who likes authority and structure but doesn't have it. I've noticed Redpill is basically a substitute for church for some conservative atheists who need an environment with clear rules. Also, wanting to be the sole provider, but also being resentful because of the expectations There's a lot of ways men can fal…
/r/ExRedPill06/01/23 08:57 AM
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I think there is some merit to it. I'm a fairly average looking women. When I'm out with my much more attractive friends, men aren't really paying attention to my humor or kindness as much as they are to my friends looks. I get ignored a lot in these instances, but it's fine because they are all initial interactions. If I continually put myself into more social interactions with these people, at some point, they start notice that I'm a fun person or that I have interesting views. Resultingly, th…
/r/ExRedPill31/12/22 04:57 PM
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Yes! Sex for many women is a holistic experience. A lot of us don't just see d*ck and get horny. It's taken me a while, but I've learned my sex drive is much more dependent on how I feel about myself than about my partner. If I'm very stressed or not taking care of myself, my sex drive plummets. Also in a relationship, when you get too comfortable with each other things can get a bit boring. You may want to reconnect by trying something new together. It doesn't even have to be sexual.
/r/ExRedPill18/12/22 05:20 PM
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Are you guys really pressed for quality time together? I'm wondering if he maybe works a lot, so in his time off he wants to watch the game but also be close to you. Or does he want to watch the game with someone, but doesn't have friends with whom he can do that?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 11:05 AM
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RnB: Jill Scott, Aaliyah, Mary J. Blige, India Arie, old Mariah Carey music, Amerie, TLC And Kenny Rogers while not RnB has some good blues songs as well as his country songs. "Lady" is one of the most romantic songs ever. Chris Stapleton also has a good blues/country sound. I'm currently listening to "I Was Wrong" on repeat. Haha Pop: Sia, Aurora (Norwegian artist with beautiful pop songs), Ace of Base, The Bangles, George Michaels, Yvonne Ellison, Tina Marie... if you look at 80s music or fore…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 08:44 AM
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"Then for the love of all that is holy — fucking stay true to your standards. Don’t overlook a red flag because of a pretty face. Don’t throw away all you learned for good sex." This should a daily mantra for singles. Just keep repeating it until it sinks in.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/22 02:21 PM
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In this lecture he talks about women hovering around the top 15% of men historically. Then, he cites the "80/20" rule that was taken from an Okcupid blog where women on Okcupid only found 20% of men attractive. That was true, but like everyone quoting this blog he never read the rest that shows women were still receptive to the unattractive men. There were not only pooling around the top 20%. https://archive.ph/489UV 60% of men over the age of 15 in America have biological children. I add this b…
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 04:36 PM
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His work at the law firms https://youtu.be/BoqjKqt__tI About women being lied to about having kids. In this clip, he talks about "society" lying to women, but in other interviews he's specifically blamed feminism. I have to look for them because they are 2+ hr interviews and panels. https://youtu.be/MYa93WlPt3I
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 04:23 PM
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Peterson is on Joe Rogan's podcast discussing his ideas on societal enforced monogamy https://youtu.be/jsMqSBB3ZTY
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 04:19 PM
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Or you could look at it from non alpha/beta perspective. People fall in love, get married, start a family, and sometimes it doesn't work out. These "alpha" men making six figures are 17% percent of men and yet 53% of men are married and 9% are cohabitating. 60% of men (all these statistics are about men over the age of 15 in the US) are biological fathers. Average men are getting married, having kids, and getting divorced. Being a step father does not make you a "beta". The father of the child i…
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 12:06 PM
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Well, his solution to the current male loneliness crisis is blaming women's freedom. He blames male loneliness on the fact that women have sexual choice and supposedly will all huddle around the most desirable men creating a woman scarcity. Basically, the whole 80/20 rule which is not true. He completely ignores the fact that there are a lot of average looking women who are single and also having a hard time dating. They aren't orbiting around the most desirable men. His solution is that promisc…
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 11:30 AM
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You are really on to something here. Trying to convince incel and deeply RPed men that they are worthy human beings even when they are virgins or not having sex is like trying to perform an exorcism. They reject this idea with every molecule of their being. It's really sad.
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 08:32 AM
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People don't understand how much of rape is pure psychological warfare. Like this article states, it prevents female victims from getting justice when they don't behave like a perfect victim. And it is also why there's the belief that men cannot get raped since they are physically capable of defending themselves. It's not only a physical battle, it's a psychological one.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/22 01:48 PM
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The average man does not have a vast fortune. And actually couples in higher income brackets are less likely to divorce rather than those earning less. If it's such easy money, why aren't women married to higher income men divorcing at higher rates? Source: https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-marriage-divide-how-and-why-working-class-families-are-more-fragile-today And how is that hyperbole on my part? Yes, while there are some men and women who never truly invested in their relations and can just up…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/22 10:26 PM
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Sorry that you're struggling with depression. :-( While we should all strive to be healthy and take care of ourselves, being overweight does not make you a loser! If you want to get in shape please do it as a form of self care and not to impress others. You can definitely get dates as a 5'8" man. Please ignore that crap about women only wanting to date men who are 6 feet tall with 6 figure salary. Only .05% of people would be in any kind of relationship if that were true.
/r/ExRedPill15/11/22 12:32 PM
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What incentives are there for a failed marriage? You do understand that people csn choose to live differently from you? They should have that freedom and choice. Women don't wake up and suddenly decide they don't want to be married anymore. It's usually after years of an issue or multiple issues going unresolved.
/r/ExRedPill15/11/22 07:27 AM
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I 100% angry with you about empathy and that men need a safe space to vent without being told they're bad people. I do disagree about the Redpillers not hating women. I think most of the pen join because they are hurting, but somewhere along the line, they do start to genuinely hate women. Ex redpillers here even admit that. It would be great for men to have a healthy place to just unleash without the weird ideology and cult.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/22 11:10 PM
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There are some women who are attracted to dangerous men. I have a female friend who is 31 years old and still chases utter POS's. But by talking to her and other women who are into this, they all have history of abusive upbringing and never got therapy for their issues. There's studies that show abused people of any gender have a high tendency to seek out relationships that recreate the abuse. They don't know how to form healthy relationships. They think jealousy and aggression are signs of "lov…
/r/ExRedPill14/11/22 10:46 AM
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Mostly truthful? What have you found truthful in the redpill?
/r/ExRedPill14/11/22 10:32 AM
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Why should people be forced to be traditional if it's not what they want? And of the ones who do want to be traditional, many simply cannot afford it. My circle is full of stay at home moms with young kids and they are all stressed about money. Many of them have had to go back to work bc of inflation and energy costs.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/22 08:37 AM
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Yeah, but what are steps we can take to help out the guys? As a feminist, I have been reconciling that a lot of feminist messaging has been falling into that trap of "putting others down to lift yourself up". That really needs to change. But on a day to day, how do we combat this? Life is tough and I know a lot of women who have also been screwed by their partners or can't get a date. It's life, I guess? Is there a way to show them that they are not alone without taking away from their struggle?
/r/ExRedPill14/11/22 08:33 AM
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Really? Why do Evangelicals reject the manosphere? I was wondering why there's been this sudden embrace of Catholicism by young, right wing men. They're even rewriting history to say that America was founded on Catholic principles.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/22 08:26 AM
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What do you fear will happen when you speak to women? Are you worried about saying something "wrong" or them making fun of you?
/r/ExRedPill05/11/22 07:27 AM
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Us saying how nice relationships can be isn't saying being single is not okay or undesirable. You can be happy alone, but you can also be happy in a relationship. It is generally recommended to be able to happy alone before getting into a relation but people don't always do that. Do you know why today young men have an obsession with having sex or dating? I know wanting it was always a thing, but why has it gotten so extreme to the point of being THE defining characteristic of someone's existenc…
/r/ExRedPill05/11/22 06:44 AM
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That's a very bleak view of relationships and I think not true for many people. Relationships provide us with companionship, love, and support. It's a unit. If you've had bad experiences and decided you feel better being alone, then that's totally fine. You know yourself best. But be careful about projecting your views onto everyone as fact. However, I do agree with you about just living. I think young people in particular put too much emphasis on dating and sex. I don't know the demographics of…
/r/ExRedPill04/11/22 09:50 AM
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That 80/20 rule came from an Okcupid blog abd Redpillers took ONE part and spread it all over the internet. The reality is that yes women graded men harshly on looks, but were actually quite receptive to the 80% of men they considered below average in looks. Men were more generous in rating women, but mostly only messaged women of above average looks. A copy of the infamous blog https://archive.ph/489UV If you want to enjoy your singledom on a permanent basis, then power to you. But if you want …
/r/ExRedPill04/11/22 07:06 AM
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Leonardo Dicaprio begs to differ. The majority of us have plans to settle down either right away or at some point. But there are people who in the words of Jay Z, "will be forever mackin' ". Why do you feel the need to push this idea of having only one partner on everyone?
/r/ExRedPill04/11/22 06:49 AM
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I think it depends on the reason behind the promiscuity. Having lots of sex with different people because of low self esteem, attachment/trust issues, self hatred, or addiction will lead to a very unfulfilling life and trauma. Being emotionally stable and having casual sex because one enjoys it and has a healthy approach to it will not cause deep emotional damage. People just need to learn to be self aware and make choices that are best for them regardless of what random ideologies determine to …
/r/ExRedPill03/11/22 12:23 PM
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Congratulations on your glow up! I hope you've done all this for yourself, not just to get a girlfriend. Do you genuinely feel happy with your improved life? What about your hobbies and passions? Do you have any?
/r/ExRedPill02/11/22 10:18 AM
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This is an interesting Okcupid article. Women rarely message first regardless of how attractive, how old, or educated they are. However, it reduces their chances of actually find a more attractive partner since men tend to message women more attractive than they are (as do women). And the most attractive men send out thecmost messages. "The truth about messaging When we looked specifically at sending the first message, we found one striking habit: everyone’s a reacher, meaning people tend to rea…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/22 04:59 PM
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An Oxford study shows women don't only respond to the top 20% of men on apps "Men also demonstrate more confidence in their selection of a potential partner, sending more messages to women with a self-rated attractiveness score of between 8-9. Good looks are less important to women – men who score between 5-9 on ‘attractiveness’ actually receive more messages than men who score 10/10." https://www.oii.ox.ac.uk/news-events/news/new-study-reveals-changing-trends-in-online-dating/
/r/ExRedPill01/11/22 04:48 PM
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According to this study, men and women equally desire attractive partners, but attractiveness of the spouse has a bigger impact on men's marital satisfaction than it does on women's. "Results were consistent with evolutionary perspectives. Whereas husbands were more satisfied at the beginning of the marriage and remained that way over the first four years of marriage to the extent that they had a more attractive wife, wives were no more or less satisfied initially or over time to the extent that…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/22 04:36 PM
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Okay, so you're asking us to disprove that Women only want the top 20% of men since the other 80% are undesirable outside of their paycheck. Women in marriages to non high value men are unsatisfied with their partners, but stay in these relationships because it's what they're supposed to do. Is this right? Sorry if this is repetitive, I just want to make sure I'm understanding it fully.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/22 12:57 PM
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"why should i distrust the argument radfems make when they claim that they see most men as obsolete and only good for shitting out taxpayer money to fund their lifestyles if they can't peacock with looks or dominate other men?" What are you asserting here? Are you saying that radical feminist are claiming that only good looking men should father children and others should just contribute money, but not pass on their genetics? "why shouldn't i think that moms who tell their sons to "be nice to gi…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/22 11:25 AM
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I'm living in Southern Germany in Stuttgart. I definitely recommend living here or abroad for a at least a year. It's so eye opening. Yeah, the Midwest has a different culture. A lot of German influence actually. I'm from South Carolina, but so winter is that a couple months when you can't wear flip flops. I don't blame you on the winters. Good luck!
/r/MensRights30/10/22 06:07 AM
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Hi there! I'm also from the US. I am from a smaller city in the South, so I grew up with that kind of traditional mindset that the man should pay and a lot of my female classmates aspired to be housewives. When I moved to Germany for the first time, I got introduced to the idea that splitting the bill isn't some statement about a guy's interest in me, it's just fair. I guess for women and men living in more progressive areas of the US splitting the bill is more common?
/r/MensRights29/10/22 02:04 PM
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Can I also suggest to take a second look at what you see? I notice guys tend to pay a lot of attention to the actions and choices of very attractive women and then extrapolate that to the rest of the gender. For example, I frequently hear men complaining about how women can leave the house with an empty wallet and still have dinner, go to the club, and have drinks with no worries, because they'll have their way paid by some guy. For hot women, sure. But for women like me and my friends who were …
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 10:12 AM
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Same. I'm living in Germany currently and it's pretty normal here to split the bill. I even pay for dates (I'm a woman) since I can be a bit of a dictator when it comes to date planning, but I do plan fun dates. I do know women who refuse to pay on the first dates. I think it's the influence of older generations of women telling us that if a man doesn't pay on the first date that he's not a gentleman and doesn't respect you. It made sense for them because they had little earning power and most l…
/r/MensRights29/10/22 09:23 AM
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This is true. Personality is really important. I think the majority of us have gone full idiot when flirting with a very attractive man/woman, but at the end of the day most people do not want to talk to a rock. It's exhausting.
/r/ExRedPill10/07/22 09:47 AM
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Exactly. They want the tradwife benefits, but none of the tradhusband responsibilities. And the qualities that go into this lifestyle would make them a "beta".
/r/ExRedPill04/07/22 08:48 AM
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