selfishstars Archive

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2	Would you like to live in a post gender society? Patriarchal “traditional” gender roles are how capitalists control the working class. Capitalism creates artificial scarcity so capitalists can hijack working-class men’s survival and reproductive drives, in order to exploit them for their productive labour. Men are made to compete as individuals, and the ones who dominate are rewarded with status, resources, and access to women. They externalize the costs of maintaining and reproducing the workforce to women through their unpaid domestic, care,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 05:50 AM
6	Are power imbalances in relationships really that bad? I think we should have a skeptical default distrust of power. Power can be, and very often is, abused. Age gaps (especially if one person is an adolescent): When you are young and lacking in life experience, you are vulnerable to disinformation, you are still learning what is normal and healthy, you may not yet be able to identify coercing, controlling, or otherwise unhealthy or abusive dynamics. Some people actually seek out younger partners because they are more easily impressed, more easily m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/26 04:58 PM
15	For the most part, the idea of "unpaid domestic labor" either doesn't exist or isn't relevant We talk about things that happened before we were born because it actually wasn’t that long ago, and because a lot of men want things to go back to an even more oppressive time for us. Not to mention that a lot of women’s history is not taught in school (a lot of it has been destroyed or suppressed by men, or not even recorded). In the US, men and the religious right are constantly trying to erode or take away women’s rights. It’s a constant battle. And a lot of the issues we complain about have…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 07:48 PM
2	Men shouldn’t have to be hypermasculine providers in order to get into relationships. (2/2) So here’s the thing: women are both conditioned and incentivized into picking a masculine (as defined under patriarchal capitalism) man. If a man is supposed to provide and protect you, then it goes to follow that you should go for a man who will be able to provide for you and your children best and keep you all safe. And also, paid labour under capitalism is designed to extract us much labour out of us that they can, without regard to human needs and well-being (because we are just resour…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 07:24 PM
1	Men shouldn’t have to be hypermasculine providers in order to get into relationships. (1/2) I know you all like to blame women and feminism for what you are experiencing is actually a result of patriarchal capitalism. Patriarchal capitalism, at its core, is a privileging of the survival and reproductive strategies that benefit men (particularly, men who fit a certain kind of masculinity, as defined by patriarchal capitalism) more, while suppressing or controlling the survival and reproductive strategies that benefit women more. If evolution is driven by survival and reproduction,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 07:24 PM
–	Life as a woman in west is so much easier No. Feminism is a gender-focused structural analysis of power and inequality. The issue is that men see it as a competition, whereas we see the ways that the systems we live under hurt women, children, men, animals, and the planet. And here’s the thing: girls and women are conditioned to pay attention to children and men. We are conditioned to manage other people’s emotions and anticipate their needs. Not only that, but the male perspective has been the dominant perspective for the past ~5000-80…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 02:54 AM
–	Women dislike weak and shy guys more than violent misogynists and I'll die on that hill Bernardo is a very well-known serial killer in Canada, especially for people who were alive in the 90s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 11:57 PM
–	Women dislike weak and shy guys more than violent misogynists and I'll die on that hill What do you consider acting respectfully, what are you considering acting like a moron, and what’s your sample size?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 11:49 PM
1	The mockery of "unselected" men is a proxy victory. Women celebrate their loneliness because they are powerless against the elite men who actually exploit them. The target at low hanging fruit to make themselves feel better. I honestly don’t understand what you mean?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 04:44 AM
2	The mockery of "unselected" men is a proxy victory. Women celebrate their loneliness because they are powerless against the elite men who actually exploit them. The target at low hanging fruit to make themselves feel better. Can you explain how that would work? Also what percentage of women do you think are fucking the elites?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 04:29 AM
2	The mockery of "unselected" men is a proxy victory. Women celebrate their loneliness because they are powerless against the elite men who actually exploit them. The target at low hanging fruit to make themselves feel better. So, are you anti-capitalist?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 04:16 AM
7	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? I have had mothers say that to me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 04:05 AM
2	Prediction: More and more men will opt out of pursuing LTRs with women because it's not worth it (unless you want kids and a family) Thanks! 😊	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 02:24 AM
–	A lot off "Status" is useless for Pulling Women. Thats why many Men think Status is overrated, its not. The optimal male survival and reproductive strategy is individualism, competition, domination, status, hoarding resource, and having multiple mates. Like, humans all have the capacity to use the same survival and reproductive strategies, but because of the differences in parental investment, men are more likely to survive and pass on their genes if they are able to use those strategies. The optimal female survival and reproductive strategy is collectivism, community, sharing, cooperation, care, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 03:01 AM
–	Feminists could do well, if they develop humility Really good points!	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 02:03 AM
–	Feminists could do well, if they develop humility Well said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 01:58 AM
7	Prediction: More and more men will opt out of pursuing LTRs with women because it's not worth it (unless you want kids and a family) Have you ever thought about where the anti-male sentiment and “misandry” is coming from? It couldn’t possibly be arising as some sort of cultural impact on women from the way we’ve been treated (and continue to be treated) for millennia or anything, could it? If only there was some way that men could figure it out… hmm… And plenty of women feel the same way about men. Long-term relationships with men turn into deals that women didn’t sign up for. Men will be sweet, thoughtful, considerate, and r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/26 02:18 PM
1	Feminists could do well, if they develop humility The economy is literally built for men. I explained that above. You should ask questions if you don't understand something. Patriarchy privileges men and makes women economically dependent on men. Its built around men's biology. Men know this... because they shit on women who focus on their careers by calling them too "masculine". If women want to succeed under capitalism, we have to compete with men in a labour system built for your hormonal cycles and biological needs. The alternative is that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 08:36 PM
2	Feminists could do well, if they develop humility Well, the reason why working-class people are forced to struggle, and we are prevented from solving any of society's problems, is because of patriarchal capitalism. Patriarchal capitalism works by creating artificial scarcity, and hijacking the "male" survival and reproductive drive, in order to exploit working-class men for their productive labour. The survival an reproductive strategy that favours men is based in individualism, competition, domination, status, hoarding resources, and having mu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 07:55 PM
2	Feminists could do well, if they develop humility For decades, the right-wing has been pumping out propaganda to discourage working-class men from going into higher education. "College is a waste of money and won't get you a job." "College is liberal indoctrination." "Don't go to college, go into the trades." "Woke universities" As a result, men haven't been applying for post-secondary education as much as women have. Where I live, conservatives have also been destroying public education at the elementary and high school levels, subsidizing pub…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 06:22 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Broadly speaking, I disagree with: Any feminism that isn’t intersectional and trans-inclusive. Any feminism that isn’t anti-colonial and anti-capitalist. Any feminism that isn’t radical (in the structural sense, not the TERF sense). Any feminism that does not include ecofeminism. I think that feminists aren’t extreme enough, given the abhorrent treatment of women and children historically, culturally, globally, and in the here and now. The more you learn and deconstruct, the more horrific and in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 03:35 PM
1	Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men? I have a lot of empathy for boys and men. We live in a society that doesn’t centre the well-being of children. The nuclear family isolates women and children, making them more susceptible to neglect, abuse, poverty, etc. Children’s developing nervous systems adapt to the environment they experience. If a child grows up in an environment that is consistently unsafe, unpredictable, neglectful, or overwhelming, the nervous system becomes organized around the strategies they learned to survive. Thos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 02:39 AM
1	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum Men need something to deter them from going around and irresponsibly inseminating women, creating life potential that they do not intend to provide for. It puts women in a resource-intensive state, susceptible to coercion, and creates another dependent on society. We know how detrimental it is to children when they do not have access to the necessities required for healthy childhood development. We know that the way their nervous systems develop during childhood affects them deeply as an adult. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 12:27 AM
0	If you remove or Ignore the "mens fault" and "woman are beutiful" whats left? Background: We live under patriarchal capitalism. How it works is that the capitalists exploit working-class men for their waged labour by socializing them into “traditional” gender roles, creating artificial scarcity, and hijacking the male survival and reproductive drive. Patriarchal capitalism promises working-class men that if they act individualistic, compete, and dominate other men, they will be rewarded with status, resources, and access to women. But patriarchal capitalism externalizes t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 11:27 PM
0	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason As you can tell by the women's comments here, women don't really love anyone but themselves. Not sure how that follows.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 12:28 PM
1	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason Maybe you should learn about the labour movement. 🤷‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 12:27 PM
11	Why do some feminists, especially on Reddit, so vehemently deny they don't hate men but do nothing to stop and even justify hateful comments of men in their subreddits? If the roles were reversed and men were calling women inherently manipulative or evil as a way to "vent about feminism" nobody would accept that explanation for a second. It would be rightly called misogyny and hate speech. This is rich. We are literally on a subreddit for debating TRP. TRP was literally created to dehumanize women, calls us inherently manipulative or evil, and teaches men how to manipulate us. Some examples from the Red Pill and other manosphere spaces: call women "plates" (as …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 02:30 PM
1	Do you think biological realities playing into heterosexuality is a topic that leftists/feminists are ready to discuss? I find them confusing and unsatisfying and I think they are incomplete ... Until then, I don't get it. ... No, I don't think you make sense. I don't think this kind of feminist philosophy makes sense. ... Kind of weird that although you state multiple times that you don't understand me, but don't ask me any questions to clarify. (Humility is a sign of intelligence. You don't know what you don't know.) You asked if leftists/feminists talk about the biological realities playing into heterosexualit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 07:06 PM
2	Do you think biological realities playing into heterosexuality is a topic that leftists/feminists are ready to discuss? Yes, leftists and feminists discuss this stuff, we just understand the nuances better than conservatives, redpillers, etc. tend to. We are nuanced because a) we have learned that gender essentialism/biological determinism are oversimplified and incorrect, and b) gender essentialism/biological determinism have been used throughout history to oppress women, BIPOC people, LGBT+ people, disabled people, and working-class people. There are some different tendencies between men and women on average, b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/26 04:43 PM
1	Women are scared of not having the power in dating I think you’re just coping. Women have stronger evolutionary incentives to be selective about partners than males due to unequal parental investment. That’s why patriarchy and its mechanisms to regulate female sexuality and reproductive autonomy were developed. We can look at the US as an example. Women fought to have economic independence from men and control over their own reproduction. We are increasingly realizing that (most) men are a liability and opting out of dating, relationships, marri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/26 03:12 PM
0	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about You don’t seem very educated on this topic, and accusing me of using AI doesn’t change that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/26 11:15 PM
2	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about That study doesn’t really prove your sweeping “it’s just human nature” claim. Participants rated body images paired with salary numbers and the researchers measured how much the salary changed attractiveness rankings. Women’s ratings of men shifted more when income information was shown. That result fits an evolutionary hypothesis that resource cues can matter more in women’s evaluation of male partners. The design is extremely simplified. People judged static body scans plus a salary figure, wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/26 11:07 PM
–	Men need to adapt to a world where they may permanently fail romantically. Any method to survive that eventuality is fair game Who broke the social contract?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/26 10:54 PM
8	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about Studies do show small average differences in what men and women say they value, but there’s huge overlap, and those differences shrink in societies where women have economic independence. Human mate choice is shaped by culture and material conditions, not just biology. The “men pay for dates” norm mostly comes from a time when women had less access to income and property, so it became part of a provider-protector script. It’s social history, not biologically innate. What you’re saying is not a u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/26 10:39 PM
1	Women have more bodily autonomy than men. Capitalism arose out of patriarchy, so male supremacy is baked in. Under this system, those in power only see us as human resources and consumers. Capitalists hijack the male reproductive and survival strategy (based in individualism, competition, domination, status, hoarding resources, and having multiple mates) and push it to the extreme in order to exploit working-class men for their waged labour. But they externalize the cost of maintaining and reproducing the workforce to working-class wome…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/26 10:30 PM
1	Most people will find love if they achieve the following things: What do you think the word “nice” means?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/26 08:46 PM
0	Most people will find love if they achieve the following things: It's the bare minimum if you want a healthy relationship with a healthy person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/26 08:18 PM
0	Most people will find love if they achieve the following things: What if attractiveness isn't only physical and different people are attracted to different things?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/26 06:56 PM
-1	Most people will find love if they achieve the following things: No one said that being nice and kind will get you a relationship. That's just the bare minimum. Like.. women want someone who they are compatible with and have a good connection with, have similar goals and values, etc. Nice is like, the most basic, non-descript trait a person could have. And plenty of people act nice, but aren't actually nice when you get to know them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/26 06:53 PM
–	The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heard Because we want to protect young women from predators. Because we’ve experienced being younger women, and so we know from experience that these older men are predatory losers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 10:41 PM
–	If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting it The West has been fascist since the beginning. America was founded on the explicit genocide of the native peoples, which inspired later genocides like the genocides on Jews, Slavs, Romani by the Nazis, and Zionism. You cannot ask me to believe that fascism is happening because of an internet community. Your take is a typical privileged Western take. No, I agree with you. But I know that the majority of Americans do not have the prerequisite understanding to be able to see the larger picture. Mos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 06:50 PM
–	If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting it What exactly is the reality I am ignoring, and how did you determine that your perspective of reality is complete and correct?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 05:19 PM
1	It's All Prostitution Plenty of people have relationships that you call a “blue pill fantasy”. But it’s made much more difficult by patriarchal capitalism because it’s a system that erodes community, shared experience, and shared sense-making. Drives polarization and uses traditional gender roles to do that. When working-class men and working-class women are fighting amongst ourselves, it means that we aren’t fighting against the forces that oppress all working-class people… and are looting us blind, while taking awa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 05:17 PM
1	It's All Prostitution Patriarchal capitalism distorts human relationships. Patriarchal capitalism, built by wealthy men for the benefit of wealthy men, hijacks the male survival and reproductive drive/strategy (based in individualism, competition, domination, status, resource hoarding, etc.) and pushes it to the extreme by creating artificial scarcity and precariousness. But it externalizes the costs of maintaining and reproducing the workforce to women, through their unpaid domestic, care, community, and reproductiv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 04:22 PM
–	If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting it Yeah, but it’s probably because I view women as complex human beings and not as a monolith. And also because I understand the larger dynamics that shape human behaviour.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 03:39 PM
–	If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting it even if red pill didnt exist at the time, at least not to my knowledge before it popped off What you all call the “red pill” has existed for thousands of years. It’s just the dominant narrative under patriarchy. The red pill is just a rebrand and update for more modern times. And the red pill has been co-opted by the elite to convince men to accept fascism in the west. It’s a backlash to working-class women becoming more economically independent from men and not performing as much unpaid domesti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 03:36 PM
–	If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting it Well, I disagree with that, obviously, but I’d also like to think that average men wouldn’t be willing to to throw away their own human rights in order to oppress women again so they can get their dick wet. But I fear I’m going to be proven wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 03:11 PM
–	If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting it It’s relevant because while men learn to hate women and spend their time learning how to manipulate women into having sex with them, they are fuelling a fascist movement that is going to take away rights and protections for all working-class people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 02:12 PM
–	If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting it Important things to know: The Red Pill is based in pseudoscience. It relies on men refusing to look deeper into its claims and resist anything that challenges their beliefs. Traditional gender roles are social constructions not based in biology. The Red Pill is propaganda. "Anti-woke" is propaganda. They invert reality. All the anti-intellectualism/anti-woke stuff/anti-feminism propaganda is because the wealthy want working-class people to remain uneducated. Because when we are educated, we beco…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 04:26 AM
–	Men don’t need empathy from women. They need compassion Empathy is about perception. It’s the capacity to register, feel into, or cognitively grasp another person’s emotional state. It answers: What is this like for you? Empathy can be affective (feeling with) or cognitive (understanding without mirroring the feeling). Compassion is about orientation and response. It’s the stance that another’s suffering matters and that one is moved toward care, responsibility, or alleviation. It answers: What do I do with what I’m perceiving? You can absolutely hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/26 02:05 PM
1	Why are women suprised that men don't believe that women like men? Can you give an example?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 03:44 AM
1	Why are women suprised that men don't believe that women like men? Humans evolved to engage in risk assessment. Capitalism has led to the destruction of community. Now, we are often meeting someone that we have no context for. We don't have mutual friends, we don't work together, go to school together, have someone who can vouch for that person... like... we know nothing about you except for what you tell us because our lives don't otherwise intersect. We don't have neighbours who know us around, looking out for us. A lot of men aren't willing to wait for a wom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 11:25 PM
1	Women’s Selective Traditionalism Fuels the Red Pill When women say “the bar is in hell,” they usually mean that the bare minimum in dating feels strangely hard to find. Not exceptional or perfect men, just basics like honesty, following through, respecting boundaries, and not acting entitled to someone else’s time, body, or emotional energy. These are things most people expect from any functional adult. A big part of it is emotional labour. Many women end up doing a lot of explaining, reminding, and smoothing things over... coaching a partner thr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 10:28 PM
1	Women’s Selective Traditionalism Fuels the Red Pill Maybe they would prefer a system where financial stability doesn’t have to be a consideration.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 07:32 PM
1	Women’s Selective Traditionalism Fuels the Red Pill I was asking: how did you determine that all good, responsible people can prosper under patriarchal colonial capitalism?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 04:53 PM
1	Women’s Selective Traditionalism Fuels the Red Pill How did you determine that to be true?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 01:58 PM
1	Women’s Selective Traditionalism Fuels the Red Pill Yeah, that’s why we need to dismantle patriarchal colonial capitalism.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/26 09:13 PM
1	The average woman would fail at dating as a Men I don’t know what you’re taking about because I’m talking about TRP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/26 06:25 PM
1	The average woman would fail at dating as a Men If you don’t remember people bitching and whining constantly about women, you must just have a selective memory. They’ve been there the whole time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/26 04:51 PM
-2	Guys simply need to stop listening to online discourse that is largely driven by women and simps Feminism doesn’t give dating advice. It critiques power structures.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/26 08:08 PM
-5	Guys simply need to stop listening to online discourse that is largely driven by women and simps If you only watch what women do and refuse to listen to what they say, you’re not being observant. You’re just filling in the gaps with your own assumptions. You aren’t learning about women, you’re projecting yourself onto them. People don’t act in a vacuum. They make choices under pressure. Safety, money, loneliness, social expectations, timing. If you strip all that away and treat behaviour like pure truth, you miss most of what’s actually going on. You can’t analyze actions without context. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/26 06:30 PM
2	What's With the Sudden Increase in "Women Being Lead?" Right, but have you read the paper? The researchers say that their results “suggest that socialization might be serving as a brake on female political involvement and expression”. They found that daughters of politically interested mothers nearly close the gender gap in political expression. https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Lonna-Atkeson/publication/270673753_The_More_Things_Change_the_More_They_Stay_the_Same/links/00463530d131654d11000000/The-More-Things-Change-the-More-They-Stay-the-Same.p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/26 10:31 PM
3	What's With the Sudden Increase in "Women Being Lead?" It seems to me that you’re treating these findings as an endpoint that doesn’t require further explanation. Those studies show differential participation in a specific form of politics. A form of politics that is public, adversarial, status-oriented, and punitive. They don’t show that women lack opinions, avoid disagreement categorically, or are intrinsically unsuited to leadership. They show that women are less willing to enter political arenas structured around conflict styles that carry asymm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/26 06:59 PM
2	What's With the Sudden Increase in "Women Being Lead?" What traits make a good leader, in your opinion?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/26 04:44 AM
2	What's With the Sudden Increase in "Women Being Lead?" Aka Christofascism	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/26 04:42 AM
2	What's With the Sudden Increase in "Women Being Lead?" Yeah, it’s not as big as people think it is. And it’s not a grassroots movement, but rather fascist propaganda with the goal of putting women back in their place, economically dependent on men and providing unpaid domestic, care, community, and reproductive labour to maintain and reproduce the workforce. It’s easier and less messy to oppress young women if you first make them believe it’s their choice before you strip them of their rights and power. These women aren’t even tradwives. They are in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/26 04:37 AM
1	What's With the Sudden Increase in "Women Being Lead?" What exactly is the point you’re making?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/26 04:32 AM
2	What's With the Sudden Increase in "Women Being Lead?" Oh, that’s a concerted propaganda effort in order for the wealthy to implement fascism in the US. Capitalism exploits men for their waged labour (and women too), and externalizes the costs of maintaining and reproducing the workforce to women through their unpaid domestic, care, community, and reproductive labour. We are now in late-stage capitalism and the American empire is collapsing. Women have been gaining economic and reproductive freedom from men. Many women have to perform waged labour (…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/26 04:20 AM
4	Why is slut shaming wrong? Your logic may make internal sense, but it starts with incorrect premises. You’re saying women are more selective, so when a woman isn’t selective it means something’s wrong with her. But women aren’t just naturally more selective. Women are selective because being “too sexual” gets them called sluts, ruins their reputation, can get them assaulted or killed. You’re looking at the result of a system that punishes women for sexuality and calling it proof women who have sexuality anyway must be bro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 07:21 PM
9	Why is hating the majority of a gender treated the same as hating the entire group? >that your average woman, regardless of how great they are elsewhere in life, is not a good person in regards to how they are during romantic endeavors. What did they do?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/25 01:20 AM
1	Many women see men as just a means to an end. I think you're seeing something real (economic considerations matter in relationships) but misreading what it means. You say women need material incentive to be with men, that being a good person who treats them well isn't enough. But consider what women typically do in relationships. Most of the childcare. Most of the housework. Most of the emotional labour. Career sacrifices. The physical risks of pregnancy. And they keep doing more domestic work even when both partners work full-time. Capital…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/25 10:41 PM
–	Do some women actually believe they are drop down gorgeous even if they aren't or they know they aren't but just appear confident in their looks? We are talking past each other because we are operating from different frames. You keep talking about women needing to “calculate their rank,” like attraction is some objective scoreboard everyone secretly agrees on. But beauty and attraction aren’t technical skills with universal metrics. They’re relational. They depend on context, chemistry, how you’re treated, and how you feel in your own body. The idea that “average women all go for the top 1 percent of men” is a myth. In real life, people o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 02:47 AM
–	Do some women actually believe they are drop down gorgeous even if they aren't or they know they aren't but just appear confident in their looks? Thank you. I’m past the wall and i’ve thought, read, and discussed this stuff for a long time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 02:35 AM
0	Do you believe women have higher income standards now? Most people date/marry within their class because proximity and shared material conditions shape who we interact with. But we live in a society where our survival and wellbeing are tied to income. This creates incentives for people to “marry up”. Under patriarchal capitalism, women are valued for appearance and fertility, and men are valued for providing resources and status. So when women “marry up,” it’s a rational response to a system that ties women’s economic security to men’s earnings more…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 02:33 AM
–	Do some women actually believe they are drop down gorgeous even if they aren't or they know they aren't but just appear confident in their looks? I think you’re assuming women talk about beauty the same way men do. When a woman says she’s beautiful, she’s usually not making a claim that she’s objectively hotter than everyone else in the room. She’s talking about worth, comfort in her body, or refusing to see herself as deficient. Most women grow up being picked apart constantly. Weight, face, skin, hair, age, clothing, posture. So for a lot of women, saying “I’m beautiful” is less about ego and more about opting out of that constant self-…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 01:56 AM
2	Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative. I think you’re reading the behaviour backwards. Listening to what other people say before expressing your own opinion isn’t waiting to be told what to think. It’s about hearing multiple perspectives as you’re forming your opinion. Some people talk first and think out loud, and that’s treated as confidence in our society, whereas other people gather information first, process it, and then form an opinion. You’re also missing how much pressure women are under. Women are constantly judged on appear…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 01:50 AM
12	Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative. Did you stop reading after that quote? Here’s a summary of the section on gender differences: First, gender differences in conformity exist but are small and highly context-dependent. Men and women conform at similar rates overall. Differences show up mainly in public settings, where men are more likely to resist conformity and women are more likely to align with group opinion. In private, these differences largely disappear. Topic expertise also matters more than gender: people of any gender co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 01:20 AM
1	Women have a heard mentality and because of this they don’t do things in their own interest and are very performative. Right? From the men who fell prey to a fascist psy-op and follow debunked biological determinism and are so sure that they are right that they never consider other people’s perspectives. I can’t even. I wonder if they will ever realize that the matrix is the dominant systems that we live under: patriarchal colonial capitalism. Reality inversion is a common authoritarian and fascist propaganda tactic and intersectional feminism is the real “red pill”. Or maybe they do know that and they just hate…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 01:10 AM
1	How would you react to finding that your man experiences an emasculating sexual kink? I’m a pleaser. I get so much pleasure from turning my partner on and giving them pleasure. If that means holding the key to his chastity cage and ruining his orgasms, then get on your knees and call me Mother.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 12:56 AM
1	My theory about why women do not usually look for stay at home husbands You realize that people can make bullet points? Anyway, you didn’t address anything that I said. Yes, someone has to pick up the trash. There are lots of iobs that someone has to do. That doesn’t mean that those jobs couldn’t be reshaped in a way that treats workers as human beings and not just human resources.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/25 04:05 AM
0	My theory about why women do not usually look for stay at home husbands I mean, that's cool and all, but its not an experience that you can extrapolate to everyone. Perhaps the aversion to work in the generations that came after you is related to changes that have occurred culturally, socially, economically, etc. My grandfather and my father were both factory workers who were unionized. They worked hard, and they were able to afford a better life for their children. I ended up being the first in my family to be able to go to university. The jobs that I've worked hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/25 09:08 PM
2	My theory about why women do not usually look for stay at home husbands Hey, that’s great, and I’m not saying it’s impossible. But there are a lot of jobs where employers try to make you do the most amount of work possible while paying you as little as they can get away with. Unmanageable workloads, short staffing, micromanaging, stolen wages. People pushed past their limits so they end up with injuries, disability, burnout, chronic stress and anxiety, etc. And then, when people get home, they are left with little energy to dedicate to meeting their human needs (sel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/25 04:44 AM
2	My theory about why women do not usually look for stay at home husbands Yes, because most women want equality in their relationships. I worry that I would resent my partner over time if they got to stay home and I had to work. I hate working under capitalism. Capitalism has been shaped by men and for men. Wealthy men exploit working class men (and women) for their waged labour, and they externalize the costs of maintaining and reproducing the workforce to women, through their unpaid domestic, care, community, and reproductive labour. Humans evolved to be productive,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/25 08:56 PM
5	Women logically are the cause of most dating problems How is it biological? What do you mean by that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 10:30 PM
4	Women logically are the cause of most dating problems It’s literally happening in the U.S. right now, Handmaid’s Tale style.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 10:27 PM
–	Why are men nowadays avoiding marriage like a virus? Right? And marriage benefits men far more than it does women anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/25 05:56 PM
–	Why are men nowadays avoiding marriage like a virus? (2/2) It’s the same tactic that the right uses in general and why many people say of the Republicans and right wing more broadly, “Every accusation is a confession.” Claiming the Democrats were rigging the election when they themselves were rigging the election. Claiming the left wing is committing all kinds of political violence… when studies show that most political violence and most deadly political violence is carried out by the right wing. And they say that believing in traditional gender r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/25 05:55 PM
–	Why are men nowadays avoiding marriage like a virus? (1/2) I’m pretty sure you’re asking that rhetorically, but I believe that we have to point out propaganda when we see it. It’s just sockpuppeting to artificially support their own views/ideology. Sockpuppeting is an astroturfing tactic. Astroturfing is the practice of manufacturing fake “grassroots” support to make an idea, movement, or opinion look organic and popular when it is actually coordinated and funded by powerful interests. The red pill is not a “grassroots”. It’s a repackaging of debu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/25 05:54 PM
1	Men Are More Prepared for Feminism Than Women Thank you 😊	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 08:10 PM
6	Men Are More Prepared for Feminism Than Women When a movement is a threat to power, those in power will co-opt and neuter the movement on one side, and spread propaganda against it on the other. They purposefully turn working class people against each other because our power lies in our numbers and ability to organize and strategically use our collective power. Capitalism hijacks the male survival and reproductive strategy (individualism, competition, domination, status, hoarding resources, etc.) in order to exploit working class men’s wage…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 02:58 PM
1	Men Are More Prepared for Feminism Than Women “Life was easier for men when women were oppressed. I’d prefer it if we go back to oppressing women thank you very much.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 01:28 PM
3	"Alpha Male" culture is juvenile. Your chimp comment is only selectively true and it’s very misleading. Yes, chimpanzees have dominance hierarchies, but even there leadership is not simply “the biggest and strongest wins.” Alpha status in chimps often depends on coalitions, social intelligence, grooming networks, and maternal alliances. Many alphas are not the largest males. Some rule briefly through aggression and are violently overthrown; others maintain status by managing relationships. Strength alone is unstable. Second, chi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 01:19 PM
2	A lot of women don't want emotional intelligence from men, they want emotional validation from men. How are you defining emotional intelligence?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/25 01:30 AM
6	Women are denied the gift of failure Do you think your views in this post are congruent with the views of an empathetic person?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 02:09 PM
6	Women are denied the gift of failure In your mind, how does a person develop empathy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 06:54 AM
9	Women are denied the gift of failure Have you ever met a woman?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 06:53 AM
–	Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirs You may want to re-evaluate your understanding of human evolution, anthropology, sociology, history, etc. because you’re just wrong. Men fall prey to “red pill” thinking because it tells a story that roots male supremacy and female oppression in “biology”. Do you hear yourself? Women have agency to choose who they sleep with? Yeah. Because women are human beings who deserve their own agency. Married men tend to live longer, have better physical health, lower rates of depression, higher earnings,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 07:01 PM
–	The stats on growing ideological divide between men and women shows men's ideals have relatively remained the same yet women are increasingly becoming radical, yet all the discussion is about "young men being radicalized"... exposes a clear agenda pushed by society The idea that women are becoming “radical” while men are staying the same ignores what actually changed. Women’s material conditions shifted sharply. Loss of reproductive rights, higher maternal mortality, the explosion of childcare and housing costs, stagnant wages forcing dual incomes, and a surge in misogyny all change how people think and organize. Politics follows lived pressure. That is not radicalization, it’s response to strain. Men appearing “stable” does not mean neutral. It means thei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 10:16 PM
6	What Sex Really Means to Women Having sex early on doesn't guarantee a relationship, nor does it preclude a relationship. I don't think it's so much that sex "ruins or complicates things", it's just that a) you might have sex with someone who isn't interested in a serious relationship, or b) they may be open to a relationship in general, you start having sex, but as you continue to get to know each other, they realize they aren't interested in a relationship with you. So, if you have sex with a woman early on, it might make h…	/r/seduction	10/03/13 01:32 AM
2	I'm in nursing school. Today we talked about cultural beliefs of patients, like Jehovas Witnesses and blood transfusions. I asked, "What about nurses beliefs and genital mutilation?" Canadian pediatric nurse here. The Canadian Pediatric Society has deemed male circumcision to be an unnecessary medical procedure and has advised that it not be performed routinely. I believe the American Academy of Pediatrics says something similar. To me, circumcision of male children basically comes down to this: invasive, medically unnecessary procedure + inability to consent = unethical As health professionals, this is something that we should be against. As nurses, we are taught to provide…	/r/MensRights	24/08/12 02:33 AM