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Hey OP! I know I'm super late to your post. I hope you are doing well these days!! I found your post because about a month ago I cut off and blocked a 1.5yr situationship and now I'm feeling much like how you described you felt. I've lost interest in hobbies or spending time with people. I used to love going to the gym and thought after all this I'd feel even more inspired to go and get my come back bod.... but its been the opposite I'm just curious, after 5 months, how you are feeling these day…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 08:20 PM
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Yep...I've fallen for this one🤦‍♀️ we had been talking for a while but because he was abroad at the time didnt want to date until we were closer. Come 3 months before we are physically close, he tells me he wants us to be exclusive "in preparation for dating" ... idk why I ever agreed to this. At the time I just thought it was so sweet that he wanted us to be exclusive. But now I know.. he never wanted a LDR, he was seeing other girls where he was, was going to cut them off anyway because he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:59 PM
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I have kind of a running tally in my notes that I add to after every heartbreak/ break up. It's kind of vent-y, but it's the conglomeration of everything I've learned through my dating about what I'm looking for and my boundaries: What I'm looking for: Security • I'm looking for a safe place to rest my head and heart • Someone who I know loves me, cares about me, cherishes me, and who I know will do their best to take care of me physically, mentally and emotionally • I'm looking for someone who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:28 PM
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Oh god! I feel you❤ it's hard when you keep telling yourself you can handle it. Idk if you were like me, but I just kept telling myself I'd just be less emotionally invested. I learned that thats just not how emotions work unfortunately. We are all in this together and we will keep moving forward 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:06 PM
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We are both in the Army. And yes, I have definitely heard of that.. but I know him well enough to know that since we had agreed to be exclusive, he was. But we hadn't agreed to that the whole time, he was the one who asked for exclusivity in September when he told me he wanted to try for us again. I know he had seen other girls prior to that, but I also know he would have cut it off when we agreed to. What he's up to now though, who knows, but it's not my problem🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:03 PM
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Happy to be here🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:09 AM
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I'm so happy my story helped! Not gonna lie, I know it'll tough bouncing back from this one, but I know it'll be beautiful in the end :) you deserve so much better than to be anyone's plan b. You deserve to love and be loved--in actions and in words! Also, blocking him this time I think will absolutely help. It is freeing to not even hope that I have something from him when I hear my phone go off or open my chats. I spent too long hoping and waiting for him to step up. It also really helps for m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:30 AM
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Dang I feel ya. On every level... he was the first guy I ever fell for and I know for me it was not only the physical connection we had but also that super intense emotional connection. He used to be someone I knew would always be there for me and I could talk to about anything, and he would do the same for me. It was when I realized I felt like I couldn't talk to him about deep, important things anymore that I knew what we had was over. He swore to me he would always be there for me if I needed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:15 AM
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Thanks hun🥰 it'll be a long road to recovery, but this time I'll see it through
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:34 PM
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Well said. This is all juat lessons learned. I'm really struggling with the thought of him doing this to me for so long and I've just let it all happen again and again. I'm trying to be kinder to myself and forgive myself without letting myself internalize this as me being dumb or desperate. Hopefully that'll come with time and letting go. Thank you🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:24 PM
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Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:16 PM
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Yaas! It's finally time I put myself first. And the complete disrespect he showed was completely unacceptable. I agree, after literally 10 hours, there is no excuse. No apologies make up for that. Not the first time, and definitely not the second time around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:07 PM
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Yes! That's something I learned from all this too. How to set and enforce my own boundaries. I feel your pain! It is so much better this way though. If they didn't put in the effort to show you they cherish you, they don't deserve to have your light in their life❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:04 PM
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Question then, is it a good policy for both parties to get tested first, even if you plan on using protection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:29 PM
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