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As it should be
/r/seduction08/06/22 08:18 AM
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If a girl isn’t making it easy for me I’ll lose interest. Im 30, Im a busy professional, I have friends and hobbies to focus on outside of work so my energy and time is precious, I give that to women that show me they want to be pursued. Fuck the games off, be up front ! a lot of dudes won’t admit it but most men also want to feel cared for and valued in our engagements just like women do. If he’s into you he’ll appreciate the directness, if he isn’t then you’ve just saved yourself some heartach…
/r/seduction08/06/22 08:11 AM
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Hahaha this never happened bro
/r/seduction22/05/22 04:59 AM
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Hahahaha yeah that’s way too manufactured bro. Just say it’s a cool song, then say you just now noticed she worked for so and so, say that’s very interesting as you used to work there back in the day Leave it as a statement, she’ll probably respond and you just go from there, easy!
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:12 AM
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Yeah mate great band, you could say the song reminds you of something
/r/seduction08/05/22 01:43 AM
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Yeah I would follow up with something about the funk song then say you have just realised you worked for the same org, if she responds positively away you go
/r/seduction08/05/22 01:32 AM
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Oh there you go! Just message her something about that and then transition the conversation Like they can pick a question on the app and answer it, it’s just a conversation starter.
/r/seduction08/05/22 01:27 AM
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Hmmm dm her something about a post she’s made or asking for a recommendation or something, similar to a bumble prompt And yeah I guess so! just detach from the outcome and take a swing son
/r/seduction08/05/22 01:22 AM
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Haha well that’s how I met my ex girl, I literally just said tell me a story, it was funny so we just hit it off. Another time a girl I banged for acouple months, just said hey how you been (we met on a night out like 10 years before) And definitely afew others that I can’t think of more aligned with the second scenario. I think it works best if there’s some kind of mutual friend or you met briefly at some stage cause it can break the ice but who gives a fuck, I ended up in a relationship from a…
/r/seduction08/05/22 01:12 AM
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Sure, have pulled it off a few times just slide into dms like you would on tinder haha
/r/seduction08/05/22 01:08 AM
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Hahahahaha
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:13 AM
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Some do play games though
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:10 AM
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Too much complimenting
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:59 AM
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Yeah, when you like someone it can really turn you into an idiot hahah The counter is inner game, self love and being a man with a cool life. You also need to develop emotional intelligence to determine where she’s at and what you’re communicating. At any rate I think going through some failure is needed as you can learn not to place too much importance in someone over yourself when you are loved up, which is what neediness / coming on too strong is. At least that’s been my case; what I’ve learn…
/r/seduction06/05/22 10:47 PM
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Wouldn’t bother personally, women with that vibe are people I’m not interested in.
/r/seduction29/04/22 08:57 PM
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That might be true but he’s direct enough to take a swing and that was the response, its shit but you don’t chase, you take it gracefully. He’s also left the door open for her so she can walk through it if she wants but you really can’t logic a girl into a date in this scenario, it doesn’t work like that. Doubling down will just turn her off, he needs to back off, get options and let her come to him on her terms if she’s interested. He’s obviously ready to date so moving on to other women is his…
/r/seduction29/04/22 08:29 PM
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Will chime in there, I feel like abundance in a relationship can be more about maintaining your life outside of your partner as opposed to having multiple girls on the hook, if you keep doing all the other things that made you sexy at the start you won’t get needy, it will keep you challenging to her as well as keep you attractive to other women - all of which are healthy components in a successful relationship. Something I’ve learned over the years !
/r/seduction29/04/22 08:05 PM
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Yeah me too, I’m all about shooting your shot.
/r/seduction29/04/22 07:30 PM
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Maybe she’s got some shit to work through, like I got dumped recently and it took me 3 months to even consider a date, I just wanted to work on myself on my own. I have been on one date a week for the last 4 weeks with different girls so there can be some validity in not being ready for dating, her reasons are her own just as mine were. My advice, talk to more girls, you have left the door open, if she wants to explore that in future she’ll reach out but for now you have your answer irrespective…
/r/seduction29/04/22 07:18 PM
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I think seating can be a killer for getting intimate so try not to sit on opposite sides, if you can’t avoid that then relocate when the ice has broken When you sit down casually put your arm around her and over the back of the seat in one movement, if she’s attracted and having fun she’ll move in closer to you and it gets pretty natural from there Otherwise flirting is really just eye contact and banter, smile, enjoy yourself and she will too!
/r/seduction29/04/22 06:43 PM
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Cocaine
/r/seduction29/04/22 06:23 PM
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I just meant in general haha
/r/seduction29/04/22 06:23 PM
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You should be stoked for a date, if you’re not then you’re dating the wrong women.
/r/seduction29/04/22 05:33 PM
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Hahahahahaha
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:40 AM
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A girl once carved my name into her arm lol
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:20 AM
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Keep it fun and light the first few dates, no need to go to a restaurant until you know it has some legs. For perspective I waited over a month or so before taking my ex to a fancy dinner. I think it’s a nice action that can show her you might see her as a partner.
/r/seduction25/04/22 02:24 AM
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This, it’s so important to keep working on yourself in a relationship + keep your hobbies current as well as your friends.
/r/seduction25/04/22 02:13 AM
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Lol not what I would personally ask but that’s ridiculous, you’re over analysing it.
/r/seduction21/04/22 08:32 AM
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I’m a salesperson, a lot of it translates well to dating principals. Like not being afraid to move on when someone isn’t showing you they’re keen, you can certainly leave the door open but you don’t invest your energy into those people unless they can give you a reason to Creating urgency and other things in your pipeline (of life), girl blows you off? No problem you’ve got something to do with your friends and there’s others who would love to spend time with you You can’t make someone want you …
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:29 AM
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Yep
/r/seduction25/03/22 03:09 PM
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This is good advice, I’ve had girls flip hard before when I treated them like a bro back. It’s an easy way to see where they’re at.
/r/seduction10/08/19 01:16 AM
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That’s not a bad thing ! girls feel comfortable with you and that’s the whole premise of building comfort. The best relationships with women are ones where you are friends as well and mutually enjoy each other’s company. However if you want to date women then you need to be sexual at the same time and escalate, lead her - dominant masculine energy, kino, teasing and flirting, essentially be direct but be a challenge and keep her on her toes. Also goes without saying, you need to be willing to ge…
/r/seduction10/08/19 01:10 AM
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The dream
/r/seduction27/07/19 02:35 PM
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Would be slower game because you see them all the time. Think how you make friends with other dudes at the gym? You see them around and eventually someone initates conversation cause you’re lifting near each other (or something) and then it builds from there, it’s natural..otherwise yeah it’s kinda difficult socially, same applies for chicks you work with. Of course it can end bad shitting where you eat so to speak but that’s another topic lol
/r/seduction14/06/19 11:09 AM
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Personality can definitely make someone more or less attractive.
/r/seduction11/06/19 01:52 AM
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There is no perfect moment, history favors the bold
/r/seduction05/04/19 11:01 PM
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Write it on your hand
/r/seduction04/04/19 06:32 AM
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Hahahahahahah fucking hell
/r/seduction04/04/19 05:58 AM
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Just ask some random question as if you’re already in a conversation
/r/seduction05/03/19 02:45 PM
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Fashion; know who you are and your scene, wearing a perfect fit dress shirt, chinos and loathers at an EDM/metal/rap show won’t do you any favours.. people will probably think you’re knob/out of place before you open your mouth. Dress to who you are and where you like to go, I never agree when people give that kind of fashion advice because it’s different for everyone. The rest of your advice is great and on point.
/r/seduction15/02/19 06:59 PM
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Get out of your head
/r/seduction07/02/19 10:39 PM
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Empathy is one of the better skills you can have for social interaction imo, means you have some social intelligence and can say the right things. You just have to fine tune it - don’t change yourself for people, hold your frame, know your worth and you’ll be golden. There’s also a large degree of empathy in being charismatic and if that’s natural for you then that’s great, you won’t even need to think about it which is a fantastic quality In regards to helping, help everyone but not at the tota…
/r/seduction07/02/19 10:24 PM
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Work out before, meditate, play some music that pumps you up, dance around while you’re getting ready and have afew drinks/laughs with friends before to warm up
/r/seduction03/02/19 07:55 AM
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Excellent post.
/r/seduction03/02/19 01:45 AM
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Ya fucking weird cunt Hahahaha
/r/seduction31/01/19 01:51 PM
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Speaking from experience if you got feelings for Y don’t get with x cause you’ll probably regret it. Shit test or not you’ll probably fuck your chances if they’re both friends. Assuming you’re still casual and that’s what you want to do then get with someone else other than x and keep seeing y.
/r/seduction31/01/19 01:12 PM
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Lol guarantee you’ll get laughed at cold dming that shit
/r/seduction20/01/19 08:38 AM
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Theres a significant difference between being straight mean/judgey and playfully teasing though
/r/seduction20/01/19 08:36 AM
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Post interesting/engaging/quality shit and do it often.
/r/seduction20/01/19 07:18 AM
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Be nice but still be sexual/confident/challenging and you won’t get friend zoned
/r/seduction20/01/19 07:10 AM
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Not ideal but I never had a girl say anything or react negatively, just let them know that you support yourself and have an actionable plan to be on your own in the near future.
/r/seduction20/01/19 06:50 AM
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Just bring the chick over when everyone’s asleep
/r/seduction20/01/19 06:13 AM
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Or find one with all of the above qualities, when it comes to LTR I wouldn’t settle for anything less personally, not every super hot girl is uninteresting or a head case.
/r/seduction20/01/19 05:41 AM
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Easy mate, same goals but that works for me and that works for you, each to their own. Have a good one
/r/seduction16/01/19 11:56 AM
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That’s a good point, I think that mentality is the right way to approach it, you don’t want her to know that too much but also if you’re too cold and respond with brief answers all the time a day or two apart, no matter what you want from the interaction she’s probably going to get bitter about chasing you, learning where the middle ground is, is important.
/r/seduction16/01/19 11:32 AM
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Not where I’m from, you can have a girl frothing for you from real life interaction and texting probably won’t kill it because it’s how people communicate now and it’s how people connect, it’s natural and it’s weird extensively ignoring someone that you’re romantically pursuing especially when they’re texting you first..texting all day will kill attraction but replying sometimes, checking in to touch base or say something funny isn’t bad and that’s coming from me, a dude that isn’t a consistent …
/r/seduction16/01/19 10:43 AM
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Hahaha yeah, it’s a weird thing but the fact is it’s the primary tool for non irl communication for most people in 2019, to completely neglect that is to come across as too apathetic imo, especially if she is texting you first a lot. Similarly a quick phone call inbetween dates can be great but only if you’ve already been on a first date, hearing each other’s voice can convey different emotions that texting can’t.
/r/seduction16/01/19 05:46 AM
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Texting only for plans is definitely outdated
/r/seduction16/01/19 05:24 AM
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How do you know when you’re too apathetic?
/r/seduction12/01/19 01:47 AM
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I’m not saying having a few on the back burner is bad (especially in early game) but this is more important with lifestyle than anything else. If you’re busy, have social options and a cool, interesting life then not only will you be happier and more attractive but you won’t care so much and display unnecessary neediness, she’s along for your ride, she isn’t your ride, you want her but you don’t need her and you’re okay with walking if things go south. It’s also very much reached through experie…
/r/seduction10/01/19 11:04 PM
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Oh 100% man some people love a chat at the gym haha I’m the opposite so am empathic to those kinda of chicks. Definitely some hotties in gyms either way. Post how you go
/r/seduction06/01/19 11:35 AM
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Observational opener at machines, chat em up after their work out, goes against getting at it fast but the social customs are different, a lot of people don’t like getting bothered too much during a workout imo
/r/seduction06/01/19 11:13 AM
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Mix it up, keep them on their toes.
/r/seduction03/01/19 12:09 PM
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A girl testing the authenticity of your frame and character
/r/seduction01/01/19 01:22 PM
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.Stop putting yourself down for one, your thoughts become your reality, literally everything you do reflects off it. .Set goals, decide who you want to be a year or 5 from now and make it happen, get stuck into self improvement and have a direction .Keep busy, do and try new things, craft an interesting life for yourself surrounded by things that you love and make you happy .Hang with people that you admire and push you to grow, be social .Eat right and exercise Been heavily depressed before mys…
/r/seduction01/01/19 12:08 PM
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She might not be looking for a relationship with that dude, you are another person entirely. Give it a crack and see how you go.
/r/seduction09/12/18 01:24 AM
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Same philosophy behind people who put others down indirectly or directly in cruel ways, its more a magnification of that persons insecurities and less about the other person. It’s actually pretty well documented psychology and this is the best way to approach it. Good post mate, a secure man gives no fucks.
/r/seduction03/12/18 11:25 AM
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That guy needs to grow some balls
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:53 PM
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“Does the mannequin come with the shirt?”
/r/seduction16/11/18 05:29 AM
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Flamboyant or classic can both be stylish. How you choose to dress is a visual representation of your personality, it doesn’t really matter what inspired you, the fact you chose one piece of clothing over another is still a reflection of your taste. Heres the meaning of self expression straight from the dictionary: The expression of ones own personality
/r/seduction15/11/18 02:42 PM
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Why not though? Fuck it, fashion is about self expression and confidence, if an outwardly flamboyant style is something you genuinely like the look of then go for it, you don’t have to be reasonable at all if that’s not your vibe you just do you and own it.
/r/seduction15/11/18 09:51 AM
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It might seem shallow but most of it’s really psychology based using principles of biology from human evolution, whether these traits are consciously recognized by women or not it’s safe to say they do.
/r/seduction07/11/18 08:48 PM
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Hahaha I tell shit dad jokes all the time, if you sell it good then it can still be funny even if that’s because it’s so shit
/r/seduction07/11/18 08:40 PM
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Great post
/r/seduction18/10/18 11:26 PM
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Good advice, thank you!
/r/seduction29/08/18 03:16 AM
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I sometimes do but usually she does first so I just reply when I get a minute or vise versa I assume, it’s not like non stop, just at the point where we’re keeping up with each other’s days, spinning banter and having a laugh. Do agree though! It’s good logic and that’s a big one for me personally because it took a lot of failures to become non needy when feelings are a factor, controlling them is an invaluable skill. When is a good time for the relationship talk in your opinion? I’ve only had o…
/r/seduction28/08/18 02:45 PM
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Yeah man i’m comfortable (and solid point), I was only curious because everyone was talking about not texting much and I just hadn’t heard that before
/r/seduction28/08/18 02:01 AM
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What if you’re afew months in
/r/seduction27/08/18 07:34 PM
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I usually just go sit down at their table and start talking lol
/r/seduction26/08/18 03:51 AM
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Hahah I once got a drink thrown in my face doing that, it does work but I’ve had more success just walking straight up to a girl, looking her in the eyes, putting my hand out to dance together and winking or smiling, chances are if she’s into it she’ll take your hand and smile back/laugh and away you go. Being respectful goes a long way and most girls will appreciate it
/r/seduction13/08/18 05:32 AM
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Nah the curl is just something to do with your arms lol Just remember move to the beat and when in doubt just have a look how your friends are dancing, that’s how I learnt. Take her hand, hold it up and kinda lead her to do a spin, when she gets back to facing you/as she’s spinning, let go of the raised hand, use your other hand to grab her by the waist then hold her as you were originally you can also take her by the hand and extend her outwards then bring her back (if there’s room). Might be t…
/r/seduction13/08/18 05:03 AM
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Just bob to the beat via head and slight knee bending and also curl your arms, hold them out in front of you and move them abit haha, there’s usually no right or wrong way in clubs, just get out of your head and in the moment. Can help to see how other dudes are dancing too on the floor. If you’re dancing with a chick do the same kinda thing but put an arm/s around her waist and ballroom spin her around occasionally etc good time to go for a kiss if you think you’re in Having a beer or two will …
/r/seduction12/08/18 03:25 PM
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Yeah that was my thoughts too man, sorta keep in her mind without being needy haha, doing good so far just the distance thing I’m not used to. Thanks for the reply bro
/r/seduction12/07/18 09:45 AM
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Location and schedules, she messages me first pretty often so I don’t think she minds, I usually reply when I feel like it haha Going pretty good but just thought there maybe some considerations to keeping the distance shit fresh or some golden rules etc
/r/seduction12/07/18 09:39 AM
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Meaning?
/r/seduction12/07/18 07:03 AM
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Haha yeah fuck tinder dude if it’s not working, in person is way. You’re still not hearing me, you are attractive enough, go out and get some experience, stop putting restrictions and limits on your progress and just do it. Bout to go out so can’t reply anymore, key thing I’ve said, your thoughts are your reality, go get em, dm if you want to talk further x
/r/seduction07/07/18 12:27 PM
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Better late than never! I don’t like tinder either tbh, meeting girls in person is what I prefer 100%, I still I use it and have landed afew dates but nothing major, if you do use it you should have photos showing off your interesting life, traveling and doing cool shit with a funny bio that creates interest, never open with anything boring either “hey” doesn’t cut it, something like “are you fun?”is good, you don’t need to be openly sexual to get to get a reply either. Physique is a process man…
/r/seduction07/07/18 11:32 AM
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I’m around your age, had afew years off dating and got back into it, I get it’s hard, that felt like I was starting from zero. A few things you could try: work on expanding your social circle abit, go out with dudes who get girls or dudes who have status and then practice talking to girls, friends like that will lift you up to their level. Jump on tinder and get some dates happening or do a challenge and hit on a girl a day irl for a predetermined amount of time etc, there’s plenty you can do to…
/r/seduction07/07/18 10:42 AM
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Do both, age has little to do with it and lack of experience matters less than you think it does, everyone starts somewhere, not everyone who has success with women was a popular kid in high school/college surrounded by girls. Not going to clubs/bars because you think you’re unattractive is wasted potential, guarantee your lack of success so far has less to do with how you actually look than how you THINK you look, getting comfortable in your own skin and loving yourself is the best thing you ca…
/r/seduction07/07/18 10:10 AM
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Ye
/r/seduction07/07/18 03:52 AM
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Just go out to parties/bars/clubs with friends, you’ll gradually meet more people over time either through mutual friends or cold approaching, then hit on girls you’re interested in, maybe invite them back to your house (if you’re in), add them on socials, chat for afew days and invite them to hang out. Don’t over think it, you’re not going out to pick up, you’re just out for a good time and then you make moves if someone’s interested you. Have the outlook of you win some, you lose some, nothing…
/r/seduction07/07/18 03:46 AM
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Keep it up man, loving the consistency
/r/seduction29/06/18 06:55 AM
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Literally what I do 😂
/r/seduction27/06/18 09:08 PM
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It’s not immature at all, simply hang with people that bring out the best in you. My old best mate OP described perfectly, In the context of the thread, why would i want to spend time with someone that uses me as a punching bag for their insecurities? You don’t need to be a climber to be selective of who you let in your circle, just have enough respect for yourself to know when someone’s dragging you down, it’s got more to do with being happy and growing than anything else.
/r/seduction27/06/18 05:57 PM
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Inspiring
/r/seduction05/06/18 10:57 PM
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You aren’t ‘low status’, stop putting yourself down like that bro. Get out and meet people, set goals and work towards them, you can start developing a cool life filled with things that inspire and better you, not for validation from others but for yourself and your happiness. Also a girl thats open about her sexuality isn’t a whore either, you can’t sit on the fence and make those calls, stop judging people for enjoying sex. You don’t need to bed every girl you meet if that’s not your thing but…
/r/seduction24/05/18 03:31 AM
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That’s pretty interesting!
/r/seduction22/05/18 04:38 PM
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Keep going buddy! everyone starts somewhere
/r/seduction21/05/18 04:47 PM
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