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Yeah, I actually agree with that. Agreeableness/passiveness is definitely a coping mechanism that works well in some areas of life, but might be a hinderance in a relationship. I wouldn’t say my passivity is something like, a guy asks me what restaurant I want to go to, and I’m just like, “whatever you want.” But more like deeply ingrained trait that other people can somehow sense about me. Up until recently I thought I developed this trait because I’m a childhood congenital heart-patient, and w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/24 06:50 PM
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Those are good examples, but I think something as big as moving to a new town or surviving on a single income (yours) should be mutual decisions, not something a woman feels pressured to “submit” to, or “agree” to.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/24 05:34 AM
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Well, I meant it more in an “easy-going” sense. Men think I’m “easy-going” (you might define that as “agreeable” or “agreeableness”) and assume that I’m submissive based on that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/24 05:32 AM
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Well, I would say that passivity is more of a personality trait that some men mistake for submissiveness. It’s not a bad personality trait to have though, another word to describe it would be “coolness.” Guys think I’m a cool chick, I guess, because of my passive nature.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 07:57 PM
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“As a way to hack the male brain…” As a Domestic Violence Victim, I consider the behavior you’re describing to be “fawning,” (a coping mechanism or survival strategy for dealing with abuse) so that’s exactly why I wouldn’t engage with it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 07:55 PM
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“I humbly brought it to his attention..” Right. This is how a private treats a sergeant. I could not live like that, but to be fair, most of the men I dated were as dumb as rocks. I’d gladly point out their mistakes, but I don’t understand why I should be “humble,” about it, though… Maybe “gentle” is a better word?
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 07:51 PM
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So, give me an example?
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 07:48 PM
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So submission just means “subordinate,” like he’s a sergeant, and you’re a private? I guess that makes sense when it comes to running a household.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 10:51 PM
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Well, then… What is it?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 10:45 PM
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I don’t understand submissiveness… What are you submitting to? I think probably a better, healthier, term is passiveness, or passivity… I’m extremely passive, cartoonishly feminine, but never submissive. I just don’t even know what the term really means. Like… If your boyfriend (or husband) says 2+2=5, aren’t you supposed to tell him it equals 4, instead?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 12:27 AM
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Lol! Well, I’ve definitely read it somewhere… Glad it’s not to be taken 100% seriously!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 06:52 AM
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Note: Not great advice if you have depression.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 08:20 PM
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I’m not sure where I read it, but it said something like, “When it comes to sex, you can only move forward not backwards with men…” the implication was, that once you were sexual, together, the expectation was that you would remain sexual with eachother… I personally think this is a bit sexist, but it makes sense to the way that most men think: Once you are intimate together, you’ll forever remain intimate… At least for as long as you’re together. Taken to its logical extreme, once could argue t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 08:16 PM
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The guy who said he wanted to split the bill was either broke (less likely), or trying to impress you with how “progressive” he is (most likely.) If he offers again, just say something to the effect of, “I actually, usually, let my dates pick up the check…” The first guy is just a horndog, but I’m interested in how he messaged your friend… Are you in the same friend group? It sounds like he wasn’t really serious, and you have to be careful about guys… Because, honestly, they’re not all creeps wh…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 10:57 AM
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It is from a Red Pill perspective… The problem is, she’s not letting him lead, at all. Baby-steps.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 12:20 AM
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That’s true of some of them… Some, I just wasn’t that interested in. There’s no relationship between being a writer/musician/poet, and not being able to commit to a relationship… That stereotype exists, well, because of people like Bob Dylan. (Who still gets around, lol!) Sure, there’s a lot of less successful versions of that stereotype, college guys who are “in a band,” is one example… but like I said, most guys (and girls) who write poetry are embarrassed to show it to other people. (What mad…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 11:30 PM
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Yes, but in the end… You have to pick, you have to choose an individual… Not a group or stereotype. She’s looking for a romantic type, and I guarantee they exist. Both romantic types, and guys that don’t care about romance, can be players. A guy isn’t necessarily more of a player, just because he’s romantic, poetic, or musical. (A writer’s favorite activity is writing.) Maybe those are strategies he developed to endear himself to the fairer sex… like your (Bob) Dylan example… But just because me…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:47 PM
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I mean… If you deal with everyone like they’re a stereotype, instead of an individual… Then of course you’re going to be disappointed. Honestly, that Dylan thing is really funny, though! 😅😂🤣
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:23 PM
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Well, all I can say is that trust is an important thing in any relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:21 PM
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That’s hilarious! You’re right, being coy doesn’t always work… 😅😂🤣
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:18 PM
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I’ve definitely been labeled a 🐓tease… But I’m actually just feminine and passive. (Not submissive!) Which confuses people, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 11:16 AM
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John 12:25 states, He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal And Matthew 10:37-39 says, Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it. But you’re probably looking …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 10:20 AM
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Wow! I literally never say this, because I’m usually pretty progressive when it comes to feminism and gender roles… (I hate anything that says, “women should do this, men should do that”… It seems archaic) But the problem is… You’re being the man in relationship! You’re taking the lead. Now, being a leader isn’t always a bad thing… But that might be part of the reason why you’re having cold feet. You want him to be firm in his decision making, (a normal thing for a woman to want from a man), but…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:54 AM
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Gender is only a social construct in regards to language — such as “all cats are she, all dogs are he, all babies are she, etc.” Gender, in medicine and biology, is interchangeable with biological sex. It means exactly the same thing. If you ask your doctor the gender of a newborn or a fetus, you’re referring to its biological sex, and nothing else. The same thing if you’re asking the gender of a lab rat, or test subject. Yes, gendered language is different, but “gender” in a scientific sense, a…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/24 09:40 AM
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That’s only because nostalgia gives everyone rose-tinted glasses… Do you think women who marry men they aren’t attracted to don’t have the same/similar regrets..? She might even give this guy a chance again, sometime in the very distant or very near future… And promptly realize the same exact things she’s realizing now. Don’t get me wrong, I feel sorry for the guy, but he’s obviously not her type.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:34 AM
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Any time you do something that goes against your values, you’re going to feel like dirt. Does your “situationship” have potential for a real relationship? Or, are you mostly “friends with benefits?” If you lost your virginity, is that something you wanted to do? Or did you feel deceived, pressured, or coerced? The Red Pill philosophy will tell you that men want women without a lot of experience, however, at the end of the day only you can decide your own self-worth. Try making peace with your de…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:28 AM
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He probably genuinely likes her, and wants to keep her in his friend group. He may have more nefarious intentions than that… But probably he sees many of the same good qualities in her that he sees in his wife, and wants that for his friend, too.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:18 AM
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Exactly! My grandfather was in the Air-Sea rescue, in the Air Force, and wrote a whole book of poetry. It’s not a “girly” thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 05:49 AM
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Seriously? I’d have to look hard to find a guy who doesn’t want to show me his poetry, music, etc. They’re not hard to find, she’s just obviously dating the wrong type of guy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 05:43 AM
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Freedom, yes… But freedom to do what?
/r/ExRedPill22/08/24 05:40 AM
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Try to remember that you’re not a mind-reader — You technically don’t know if she’s “checking you out,” or wanting to tell you to wipe that booger out of your nose… Try not to place too much importance on other people’s opinions of you, and place more importance on the ease or difficulty of going through life, or throughout your day— A nice checkout girl was kind to you? Great! A stocking woman was rude to you, not great… The checkout counter girl may have liked you, or they might have been just…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/24 01:33 AM
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They’re mistaking “happiness” for “freedom.” I think 99% of red-pillers (both men and women) have some sort of enmeshed relationship with their parents — Either an abusive or unfaithful father who they over-identify with, or a mother who is overstretched, overstressed, or overbearing; who they fail to understand or sympathize with. This is why they view relationships as a “sacrifice of freedom (rather than of happiness)” instead of just going to therapy. I’m definitely more purple-pill, nowadays…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/24 01:16 AM
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I think there is a phenomenon, where once a woman has a baby, the man goes from thinking of you as “hot girl” and more of a “mom.” It’s probably pretty common, and natural, but I can see why it hurts… New moms also sometimes suffer from a bit of postpartum depression, which is actually common (and normal) after any major medical event, not just pregnancy… And so, you may be experiencing a bit of that, too. I honestly don’t know what the solution is, because it might have to do with your communic…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 12:55 AM
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This one’s easy — He’s right, you’re wrong. How well can you really get to know someone over the course of 6 months? Waiting another year or two is a great idea! You should get on board, not because it’s his idea, but just more generally.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 11:02 PM
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How many coworkers are hanging out right now? Maybe he’s doing some reconnaissance for his friend he’s trying to hook up with her? The problem with “bagging a man” is that there’s always going to be someone younger, hotter, and more engaging… It’s just a fact of life. Right now, however, your priority is the baby… And maybe, (since he offered) tell him you’re ready to “tag out,” maybe he’ll get the message?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 10:58 PM
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I’ve met guys that do both — sing me songs, and enjoy a quiet afternoon of fishing. For some reason she’s not meeting the romantic type, but they definitely exist.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 10:48 PM
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You asked for his opinion, and he gave it. You shouldn’t feel pressured to cut your hair because of a hypothetical — maybe just even out the ends a bit, and see how he reacts.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 10:44 PM
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First of all, your interests aren’t “too girly,” they’re too romantic, not in general… But just for him. There’s tons of guys who will write you songs, and read you poetry on riverbanks… But he isn’t one of them. He sounds like a good guy, getting his Master’s Degree and dating a soon-to-be Dentist… But he might be a bit too practical for you. You might have to decide if romance is more important to you than whatever he brings to the table.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 11:48 AM
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It’s funny, because… Everyone on Red Pill will tell you how much men are attracted to “youthfulness,” and yet if you look too young… No one over the age of 25 will take/date you seriously. They want young, inexperienced women they can control, or have some influence over… But then feel embarrassed in public because they know how ridiculous you look together.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 11:38 AM
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Tell him, “I’m honored that you want me to be a part of your weight-loss journey! And I’m proud of you for wanting to take control of your health, and reach your weight-loss goals. However, resisting the temptation of eating unhealthy foods has to be your responsibility — I’m willing to go over a healthy meal plan with you, look up and prepare healthy recipes that we might both enjoy — but, ultimately, it’s your responsibility what you put in your mouth, not mine.” I would also add: “I’m really …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 07:39 AM
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It sounds like something you need to talk to him about, then… the expectations you have for the relationship — and rules that you both agree to follow.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 07:19 AM
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These are all good points! 👍👌
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 07:16 AM
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Antidotal — but both my grandmother and grandfather were pilots and aeronautical engineers, and they took turns working and caring for a family of four boys and four girls. My mom, when she got married, was a lot like you… She wanted to be the perfect housewife, and abandoned many of her own goals (such as becoming a pilot herself, following in her mother and father’s footsteps) to support my father’s career ambitions. One of these ambitions was to own and run his own restaurant; he owned it, an…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 07:08 AM
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You regret spending time with someone draining, rather than spending that time with/on yourself, doing whatever you want, and answering to no one? I can think of 3,000+ things I’d rather do than spend time with someone I’m not attracted to… Those women (if they exist) lack creativity. Maybe it’s an introvert thing? I’m not leaving something out, or anything… Off the top of my head, I can think of a half a dozen guys who I was attracted to, and didn’t give a chance to… and I regret not giving the…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 06:46 AM
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The Red Pill answer to your question is this: He’s obviously insecure that you make more money than him. That’s probably why he wants to quit his job and go back to school… But be wary, just because you stay with him and support his dream (either financially or emotionally) doesn’t mean he won’t ditch you for someone new once he gets a higher paycheck… That doesn’t mean you’re “not good enough for him,” rather… You’re essentially already out of his league, and if he’s dating someone who is out o…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 01:37 AM
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It’s cliché… But you can’t start a fire without kindling. You don’t owe this guy a chance with you just because he’s “nice,” and says he “likes” you. If you’re asking this, here, you’re probably just being insecure and believe he is you’re only option… Though, honestly, it sounds like he doesn’t exactly meet your criteria for what you’re actually looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 01:31 AM
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Women never regret turning away guys they aren’t physically attracted to… Only the ones they are.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 01:22 AM
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You sound a little like me, when I was younger… I could attract creepy old guys, no problem, but none of them were actually seriously interested in me, probably because I looked young for my age. After an abusive relationship, in my early 20’s, I intentionally dated younger men, usually for purely superficial reasons. I was still a virgin, but was convinced (or coerced) into sexting by this guy I really liked. It felt natural to share my “beauty/body” in a safe way… But I think it drove me furth…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 12:57 AM
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It’s ok to create boundaries in a relationship, it’s not ok to tell someone you’re dating that they can’t see or talk to their friends. “In his circle” means they’re probably a pretty tight knit group… Should he abandon his whole friend group because it makes his girlfriend jealous? That would be wrong if a man did it, and it’s wrong if she does it, too. I can understand her reasoning and emotions, I don’t understand trying to control another person’s decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 12:27 AM
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This was during the divorce, my mom knew about it but my father was so physically abusive, she didn’t challenge him on it. This was in the 90’s, and yes, she (my stepmother) signed her name, essentially as my mother’s. She was somehow able to take our trust funds. I don’t know if she became the beneficiary of his life-insurance policy, or if she just had him cancel it altogether… But it was part of their divorce agreement (my mother and my father’s) that he would maintain a small life-insurance …
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 07:41 AM
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Church, Mosques, & Synagogues.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 07:31 AM
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”Not trying to be rude or insensitive. My heart goes out to your mom but Investing in her education...” Well, thank you for that… Because I personally think that’s kind of where RedPill philosophy comes apart… My mom was on the road to studying journalism, meteorology, and aviation… And dropped out to get married and have children. I respect her decision, but I don’t think it’s good advice to tell young women, in their late teens and early twenties, that “finding a stable man/husband” is more im…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 04:31 AM
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My point about the height thing is that being tall is biologically desirable. You’re right, in a way, though… Because if short women date tall men, their sons and daughters might inherit tall genes. I used Sabrina Carpenter, as an example, specifically, because she also dates short men. This doesn’t make her “biologically unfit” (I’m not a eugenicist, and of course most of Asia is populated by short but highly virile and reproductive men) but just a bit of an outlier. I’ll be honest… I don’t thi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 03:49 AM
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That sounds realistic, I can accept that… But it’s more like the shortsightedness that’s the problem. I guess Mankind is short-sighted? (This includes womankind by the way.)
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 03:34 AM
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I agree that you can’t tell him not to see her, not because it’s “not submissive,” but rather because it is controlling… You wouldn’t want a man to tell you you can’t see a dear friend of yours, (just because you have history) and if he did, you would think he was a jealous, controlling, jerk! But… I think the main problem is the long distance situation. If I was on Redpill Men, I would say, “He 💯 sleeping with her, too, to increase his sexual potential…” or something… 🤔🧐😅 The matter is simply t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 03:27 AM
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Ok, I’ll do that, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 12:03 AM
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You sound genuinely incompatible. You shouldn’t feel distant for no reason… And I have a feeling that gulf between you will grow. You said you are compatible, but then listed a bunch of ways you weren’t compatible, such as your partner being an introvert and you being more extroverted, can I ask what is working in the relationship? Please check back in another six months, and tell us what you decided! If you have no foundation, together, you’re more likely to drift apart based on what you’ve sai…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 10:34 PM
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He was supposed to keep trust funds, for each of his children, and a life-insurance policy… Somehow, the “Evil Stepmother” stole those by signing “Mrs. —“ my last name… And my mother’s last name. He owed child-support, but never paid it. The case was closed after his death.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 10:26 PM
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I’m not saying it assures anything, I’m just saying being aware of your SMV is a strategy that many people use as a part of Red Pill philosophy. (It’s basically what The Red Pill is based on.) And while I’m sure it exists, in a superficial capacity, since we’re describing superficial traits, it probably doesn’t exist to the extent some people believe it does… What I’m saying is, when I was young, I only dated younger men because older men didn’t seem to take me seriously… I developed a dating st…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 09:47 PM
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That’s smart… The problem is most men aren’t abusive when you marry them. Domestic violence victims are always blamed for not seeing “the red flags,” but they’re not always obvious if you aren’t familiar with them. (You essentially have to have some experience with abuse to know what, specifically, to look out for.)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 09:32 PM
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They didn’t have a prenup… My stepmother was essentially a gold-digger, and my father was an abuser… So my mom let him keep everything to get out of her hair. It was the best decision for her, maybe not the best for us kids… But he’s dead, now, and second wife spent all his money. So it goes… [Edit: Interestingly, as I typed this I realized my “evil stepmother” used her SMV precisely as prescribed, but she just ended up with a dead husband a pile of debt, so even when done exactly right… It seem…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 09:07 PM
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“I think your real issue is that SMV does not align with your particular world view.” I think I have a very particular life-story… My father was a millionaire, but I was raised around my uncles who were blue-collar. After my mother divorced she went back to waitressing… And so I was mostly around blue-collar workers, and dated blue-collar guys. I’m a feminist, because my grandmother (who, ironically, hated feminists) really did “have it all.” A great career as a pilot and an engineer, and eight …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 08:09 PM
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They prioritize youthfulness… Sometimes to a disturbing degree. She’s growing out of it though, and looks more and more like a young Hilary Clinton. (A good thing, or a bad thing, depending on how you feel about Clinton.)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 07:20 PM
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Are you talking about youth, more generally? Because that’s the most controversial topic in RedPill forums, “How young is too young?” (Or too young looking?)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 06:47 PM
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“And you can "come into your own" within a healthy relationship.” Ultimately, compatibility seems to be the main thing — Maybe “the foot in the door” part of SMV helps you find more people you may be compatible with?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 06:34 PM
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That’s reasonable.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 06:31 PM
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“But the value isn’t tangible, it’s the value of opportunity.” I think that explains it well… But it does sort of limit opportunities, if you think of it that way… And I guess my problem with the messaging aimed at women is the message has always been, “If you get married too young, you’ll end up getting divorced… And if you wait until you’re too old, you’ll be undesirable.” To be honest, most of my female friends who got married young are divorced, and so SMV, for women, seems to have no real v…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 06:02 PM
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Thank you for this! I was thinking of something the other day called “The Wisdom of Crowd,” it’s a phenomenon where if you ask a couple of people the number of jellybeans in a jar, the responses will be wildly different/dispersive, and not even remotely close the the actual number… But the more people you ask, the closer the average answer gets to the actual number of jellybeans in the jar. I think there is some truth to SMV Theory, (in my case, measured by the honks and yells I get on the stree…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 05:30 PM
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That’s not always something you can tell when you first meet someone, (whether they have any kind of social value or not) though… An example is when my mom met my dad she thought he was the cook at the restaurant he owned, lol. But he was still good-looking in those days (he’s now deceased) and so that’s probably what attracted her to him, despite him being thirteen years older than her.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 04:51 PM
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I like your response, I’m not here to argue… The problem is with the stereotypes you depicted. A man might be a “chubby chaser”, might prefer casual relations with “plump” females… But then bring a skinny trophy-wife to the country club. The problem with stereotypes, is that everyone is attracted to something a little bit different. It seems like SMV mostly deals in what’s considered broadly attractive — Like the kind of attractive qualities Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt had in their younger year…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 04:37 PM
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What’s wrong with truerateme?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 04:07 PM
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When I was younger, I had no idea how to vet and was just overwhelmed by the attention — I wouldn’t say I was overwhelmed by the options, though. The options never felt like good options, and I imagine this is not a too uncommon experience. I guess my point is — Of course everyone is attracted to young, healthy, and attractive men and women — but how does it add up to anything more useful than being attractive to other attractive (and unattractive) people? If it exists, I wasted mine by hiding f…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 04:05 PM
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