seola76 Archive

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13	Isn't the phenomenon of women being happier single (compared to men) due to it being much more likely to be short-term and voluntary for women? This is even supported by Black women (who on average have a harder time finding partners) on average being less happy about being single than White women. The question is what would hard evidence actually look like? Obviously you aren't going to be able to map out people's partners to find multiple women are getting with the same men. That would be unethically invasive and would require huge amounts of data be gathered and sorted. What you can do is look for the footprints of this behaviour in dating trends and I think that we have got that evidence. The data shows a few things: 1) Significantly more women are dating than men. 2) Women typically f…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/08/26 04:35 PM
23	Isn't the phenomenon of women being happier single (compared to men) due to it being much more likely to be short-term and voluntary for women? This is even supported by Black women (who on average have a harder time finding partners) on average being less happy about being single than White women. Theres a few factors. Women do tend to date older, moreso than men. So it's likely some of the women at the top edge of the age group are dating men in the other side of it. But mathematically that doesn't explain this level of disparity given that most people still date people of a similar age. You'd need all the women at the older end of the age group to be dating and for them all to be dating older men to explain such a large difference. There are slight more young men than young women. A lot…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/08/26 11:22 AM
27	Isn't the phenomenon of women being happier single (compared to men) due to it being much more likely to be short-term and voluntary for women? This is even supported by Black women (who on average have a harder time finding partners) on average being less happy about being single than White women. I suspect so. Being single with the option of having casual sex or dating whenever/if you feel like it is very different to feeling like you're single and it's never going to change. The later gives you a much greater feeling or powerlessness. Lots of guys find feeling unwanted to be the hardest part. That's not something you experience if you're choosing to be single. Lke you I'd noticed, that when you look at women who have some factor that makes finding partners unusually difficult (being a m…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/08/26 11:07 AM
5	Mainstream research & mainstream media go full redpill: "only high-earning men are suitable partners for college-educated women" No. Where this exists it's not a logical thing. It's the conflict between thinking and feeling. The world most women want to live in when they think about it logically is one where they are equals to men. But the men that tend to trigger attraction feelings in women are more competent, intelligent, successful men. Unfortunately the social dynamics of today don't force people to confront the incompatibility of these two desires.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	04/08/26 12:11 PM
11	Something about this video confuses me, but I don't know if I am correct It took me a while to really form my thoughts on this but I think it's his closing statements that are the issue. He reintroduces male gendered expectations on men in a way that entirely undermines his argument. The "men need to stop whining and do better" is almost always an anti progressive take that leans into gender roles and doesn't align with how other groups are handled. You can frame any group complaining about social issues as "complaining instead of trying harder to thrive in the curre…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/07/26 09:55 PM
6	What exactly does it look like when men are punished for being vulnerable? I think a lot of them just don't want to deal with an emotionally vulnerable guy in front of them. If it's past vulnerability it preserves the image of strength. He was hurt and had a moment of weakness but he's overcome it now so he's still strong. It gives the image of emotional vulnerability but it's not real vulnerability anymore if he's proven he can overcome it. Genuine vulnerability comes with the possibility that you don't overcome it, sometimes you just fail.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/06/26 07:25 PM
15	What exactly does it look like when men are punished for being vulnerable? Precisely. The ways in which men are allowed to be emotional is very limited and mostly to benefit others. The "go get therapy" line is very common. There's also " I wanted you to go and be emotional with other men, not me" You're expected to be in tune with other peoples emotions and you can talk about previous situations where you had a hard time and overcame it but you can't talk about ongoing issues. Not being a burden and being strong is still expected to take priority over being vulnerable…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/05/26 10:30 AM
23	What exactly does it look like when men are punished for being vulnerable? It's essentially people not really caring and changing how they see you when you open up. There's a social cost to it. A lot of people will say they want guys to be vulnerable but in my experience a lot of that is performative or if I'm being more charitable they think they want it but don't in reality. In my experience it's not being immediately told to stop being vulnerable in a direct rejection of your vulnerability. It's more subtle. The immediate response is usually slight discomfort and di…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/05/26 09:16 AM