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| -2 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?Do you know how much money it takes to even be a single father? You’re right single fathers do way better than single mothers. But you’ve either got to already have the cash to win custody (again 80% favorable decisions for women in divorce) or divorce a woman who doesn’t want her kids/such a completed dumpster fire the courts award the man custody with little fight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/25 03:22 AM |
| -2 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?Well if you do everything right and it still fails you walk away at least financially better off statistically speaking. Women receive the favorable judgment 80% of the time. I could do everything right, wanted effort and come out being financially and socially penalized for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/25 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?Honestly best retort so far. Fair point. Grasping at straws it helps you “know your enemy” as it were. Understanding where many are coming from helps you better deal with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/25 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?I’ve wrestled with this too. Very few mammals are monogamous or mate for life. But also most are pack animals, maybe we’re supposed to be too? But while we are scarcely more than animals we do have a more complex social structure and psyche. Life long commitment is less about personal satisfaction and more about the next generation. Humans are some of the most helpless for the longest time while young of just about any mammal, and due to the complex natures of our social structures and psyches, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 07:26 PM |
| -5 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?How many women actually stay home these days? Being aware of the risk factors doesn’t eliminate them. Don’t want to get married? “I guess he doesn’t love me.” Want to get married but at least want a fair pre-nup? “Well I guess he doesn’t trust me.” You can do absolutely everything right as a husband and a father, she meets someone at work or out on a girls that butters her biscuits and that’s all she wrote. No-fault divorce in most places. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?Steel sharpens steel, diamonds are formed with tremendous heat and pressure… Point is we need adversity to grow and mature. And while I’m not pro abuse or anything, and hate needless suffering, some suffering is necessary. Too many people were brought up protected from all adversity, shielded from any consequences, never held to account and spared any truths that could make them unhappy, and it shows. It’s funny that you say you’ve aged well and most of the men in your life haven’t. My experienc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 05:46 PM |
| 0 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?When you live in a world where you’re constantly told you can have it all, deserve it, it’s not surprising when this is more common than not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?I acknowledge all those risks. But I also know people, and they don’t generally even take them into account. It why so many women go into an existential crisis, and lose their minds when they hit that age. The knew it was going to happen intellectually but that’s it. It’s not common for women these days to consider all that when dating. As many marriages and divorces as I’ve witnessed, or been party to none of that is considered. They want to get married because that’s what they feel like, they … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 02:58 PM |
| -1 | Why is it so frustrating wanting to get married?The question is though, why is that certificate and ceremony so important? Knowing that people change marriages tend to fail a lot, and in most cases it’s a losing proposition for men. I get the symbolism of it however it’s a giant and unnecessary risk that you’re expecting a man to take meanwhile there is no equivalent risk or sacrifice you’re making in return. While I love the idea of marriage, and there’s nothing better than a good one, in this climate it seems only a fool of a man would marr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 11:12 AM |
| 5 | Feeling invisible to good menMy ex gf got drunk and bold, she was crushing on me for like a year, thought I was out of her league. Then one day she worked up the courage to flat tell me she liked me. Then we spent a whole wonderful year and some change together. Only ending due to her changing her mind and wanting kids now. We had some communication issues too, but that’s beside the point. The point is she landed a guy she never thought she could just by coming out with it. According to her, all her previous boyfriends were… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 02:00 PM |
| 5 | Feeling invisible to good menWhen you go out, when you socialize sit back and observe. Find a good target, get to know them, if they seem like the type of guy you might be interested in getting to know romantically, you need to more or less make the first move. Put or keep putting yourself in their proximity, find excuses to chat with them, be warm, and friendly, maybe a little complimentary. It might take a while lots of us are pretty oblivious, we’ll think you’re just friendly before we get the hint that you’re interested… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 12:37 PM |
| -3 | I’m ready to date and put myself out there, but I’m really terrified.It’s funny how women seem to always like to put that they have a good job in their dating credentials. Men genuinely don’t care about how much money women make, just so long as they can keep their bills paid. I’d say start by going out some and meeting people, not necessarily to find a person to date, although if that happens, great. But to gain some social experience, confidence and to observe more than anything. A lot of people go out into the world looking for a mate, with certain expectation… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Dating with a promiscuous pastAll you can do is better. Use the regret from your past to have fewer regrets in the future. Yes a high body count itself is unappealing to men longing for a serious relationship, the real dealbreakers are the causes of the high body count. 4 at 22 isn’t THAT bad. So going forward, yes keep your legs closed, stop having sex with people you like in order to get them to like you and work on your issues. Find a therapist perhaps or a mentor who values your goals to help you move through life in a n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/25 10:48 PM |
| 11 | Investments in beauty that make the biggest impact?Don’t forget sleep | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/25 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Why do men commit more crimes?One of the things about the redpill mindset is they don’t care about what’s popular or PC. It’s either true or not. Many people like to posit that men and women are largely equal, or at least quite similar. Which is true. So if men express malevolence that means women can and do as well. Unless you refuse to accept that women can be malevolent too. Which is nonsense, it also subverts the idea that we’re equal. So if you pontificate for a while, why do men act with violence, what goal does it ser… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/25 09:17 PM |
| 9 | Why do men commit more crimes?Men are more prone to express violence physically which is far easier to qualify as a crime than the way women express violence. Then, while people are more charitable to women, she wants something, asks for it, she’s more likely to get it. He’ll be more likely to steal it. People take care of women, steal for women so they don’t have to steal for themselves. Also men are more thrill seeking, women more engrossed by drama. So I’ll speed and you’ll gossip as an example. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/25 08:00 PM |
| 4 | Signs I IgnoredThat’s no joke. But how many absolutely worthless employees do you know that are great SO’s? The person who will make up excuses to not go to work today is the same person who will make up excuses as to not undertake their portion of the emotional labor. The person who will complain about not being paid enough while not doing their job adequately is the same type of person who will never be satisfied with their partner no matter how awesome they are. So no just because they’re a good worker does… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/25 09:55 PM |
| 11 | Signs I IgnoredA really good one you can detect early on is if they never admit any fault in the failings of any of their previous relationships. Nothing but toxic ex’s. Nobody is simultaneously perfect and that unlucky. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/25 09:36 PM |
| 6 | Signs I IgnoredOver the course of my last few relationships I got to thinking about how I’d not employ most of them if I was in the position to. I separated work from love, it is separate. But relationships take labor, as does employment. So if you wouldn’t employ them, don’t date them either. People tend to be more devoted to work than they are their relationships these days, and if they’re a crap employee chances are super high they’ll be a crap SO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/25 09:34 PM |
| 9 | What do men mean when they want someone with passions?Not to mention it creates things to talk about. If you don’t have any interests you’re typically not very interesting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/25 06:11 PM |
| 46 | What do men mean when they want someone with passions?When someone has nothing in their life but their partner, they tend to be all up in your business all the time and do little else. It’s suffocating. It’s great to have someone be your world, but there needs to be more in it than just them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/25 12:54 PM |
| 2 | Not feeling Christian enoughWhile not a popular figure these days Jordan B Peterson’s biblical lecture series regarding Genesis really helped me out. It’s long, if you got the time it may be helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 07:14 PM |
| 4 | Went on an amazing date but he has 2 kids- can it work?The biggest red flag is still being entangled with the kids’ mother. You need to make sure that crap is indeed fully over. He’s always going to feel some kind of way about the mother of his children, as he should, but it has got to be fully over, any trace of in-love has to be gone. Ideally nobody wants to date a parent if they’re not one themselves, and even if they are… That drama sucks! However, it’s really hard to find good people worth coupling with these days. Nobody’s going to be a perfec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/25 02:42 PM |
| – | I feel like it's hard to bounce backMaybe instead of “not attracted” he meant “not as turned on.” You’re saying you’re more attractive, yet he claims to be less attracted. That suggests something else going on, a behavior, habit, a rut you’ve entered into where things aren’t as exciting. While physical attraction tops men’s sexuality, emotional attraction still plays a big part too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/25 10:30 AM |
| 13 | Finding beauty (or, put on his love goggles for a minute)There something disrespectful about telling a man he can’t find you beautiful. I fully get the image issues, but if I call you beautiful and you say you’re not, you’re essentially calling me a liar and/or an idiot. Something I can’t suffer even less than lack of love, it’s lack of respect. I get you don’t feel pretty right now, but I know what I feel, don’t insult me because you feel bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/25 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Need to rant about something F25Well thank you kindly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/25 09:34 PM |
| 0 | Need to rant about something F25Could you elaborate? I wrote a lot and I don’t know if you’re being genuine or sarcastic | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Need to rant about something F25You’re welcome? And thanks? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/25 09:11 PM |
| 0 | Need to rant about something F25I get you. There’s no shame, no morality, no discipline. People go to college for years and rather than come out enlightened they use their education to do mental gymnastics to justify their their depravity, their baser instincts and selfish desires, while putting down the depraved desires of others. I saw some of your deleted reply, and while insulting it’s not entirely off the mark I did it a little myself. It was not my intention to justify this action but rather explain it. I’ve pretty much … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/25 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Need to rant about something F25The thing is I’m not trying to invalidate your argument. Theres nothing I can add to them that you have not already stated. But every time I bring up something you move the goalposts. I say something about jealousy and insecurity and you’ve got to bring up trafficking. I say something in reply to unrealistic expectations and you’ve got to double down on humiliation. I’m not looking to get into a pissing contest with you. A simple “yeah that sucks that women do that.” Would suffice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Need to rant about something F25I’ve been with women who hated porn. Not one of them ever brought up the moral objections about it, it was all hurt feelings. So yeah there is trafficking and abuse and all sorts of vile things regarding it. Do you date women? Have you experienced this side of the isle in which they want contradictory or impossible things and it’s your moral failing to not know what those are or when? Then go back to their friend circle and have them all nod in agreement to how stupid men are? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/25 08:39 PM |
| 0 | Need to rant about something F25I’m not claiming any of that is untrue. But to say there’s no insecurity or jealousy is a falsehood. Speaking on unrealistic expectations, smut books, romantic novels are far more guilty of that. No man can read a mind like the stud in the story you’re reading, you can at least take a facial. If I want you to and you won’t, and I pressure you to I’m an asshole. But if you want me to behave like Fabio and I can’t I’m still an asshole. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/25 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Need to rant about something F25The point of masturbation is to get a nut, visual stimulation is a whole lot easier and quicker than trying to construct an erotic fantasy. Most guys bring sexually visual and not very imaginative, also seeking efficiency it gets the job done expeditiously. There are women who utilize porn, but they’re few and far between, but they’ll flick the bean to a smut book. I have met a few women who did use porn they were fun but something was a little off about them. Not necessarily in a bad way, but t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/25 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Need to rant about something F25It’s a complicated topic. Ideally I’d like to be in a relationship where porn was never necessary. I know it’s never actually “necessary” but it sure makes the job easier. I’ll abstain from it for a while to honor her, but it’s rare to find a woman these days who is willing to engage in sex when I need it (not just want it) so rather than bother her or start a fight, I’ll just take care of it myself. Of course there are men who have a problem with it like you said. The problem could be pathologi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/25 06:59 PM |
| 14 | Need to rant about something F25Porn isn’t good. But “sex work is real work” isn’t coming from the mouths of men. You can’t praise (and I’m not saying YOU are, but women are) the pornographers and lambast their customers. Porn hasn’t destroyed the foundations of relationships, hook-up culture has. Treating people as disposable and interchangeable because sex is so freely given by so many women with no self esteem. Just like a simp will give away his resources, his money and attention for just the slightest bit of validation fr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/25 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Tired of being cheated onI’m a man, I definitely care. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/25 02:22 AM |
| 3 | Tired of being cheated onDoing that at least he knows what’s going on and why. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/25 01:52 AM |
| 2 | Tired of being cheated onYou can still leave a still somewhere he can see it, or text it to him. Then block and move on with your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/25 01:38 AM |
| 7 | Tired of being cheated onDo you have any copies of the footage? Print a still from it, leave it on the table, pack your shit, leave, block him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/25 01:30 AM |
| 10 | Tired of being cheated onWhat good will come of that aside from him keeping you around just to do it again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/25 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Lower rank in social group causing rejection of opinion?Don’t be so polite when calling them out on it. Don’t be rude, but stand up for yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 03:23 AM |
| 1 | How should dating and courting progress ideally?3 dates is not enough for someone to come out of their shell. It’s only enough to figure out that he’s generally what he says he is. It’s almost impossible to know someone well enough to gauge if they’ll be a good spouse, only that they’d be a bad one. Dating is all up in the air right now, people have sex before they hold hands… it’s weird. But usually the way it goes is talking, to dates, to sleeping together, and that usually happens in the course of a month, if that. Then after regular inter… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/25 05:37 PM |
| 11 | It been hard for me to find a man who is into Traditional Relationship and ValueFirst you need to accept the reality of current life. These days it takes two incomes for most households to make it. So if you want to have a traditional life where you don’t work you’ll either have to find a well off man (hard to do and in demand/lots of competition) or be happy living a spartan existence. Or compromise on the traditions to make it. Idk how young you are, but it seems probably early 20s at the oldest. Not many men are looking for a wife at 21. Most guys in fact aren’t looking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/25 12:30 AM |
| 3 | How to be softer when stuck in fight or flight?No I get you, and your comment was well written. But you were at least the second listed post talking about finding “the right man.” And while I agree that people need to find the right type of person far too many think that it’s the key to change, and I just wanted to emphasize that it’s not. I probably should have responded to someone else with it but landed on you. “The right man/woman will change you” is what people hear even when that’s not what’s really said. The change comes first and fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/25 01:57 PM |
| 3 | How to be softer when stuck in fight or flight?Probably going to need some therapy. You’ll need to learn to compartmentalize work and life outside work. You need to build a life you feel comfortable and safe in then learn how to accept that you’re safe so that you can relax and not only allow your feminine to come out but kind of exaggerate it in a way, or “fake it till you make it.” People are creatures of habit and unless they actively force a change, change doesn’t happen even when nothing’s preventing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/25 01:38 PM |
| 2 | How to be softer when stuck in fight or flight?Advocating for OP: it’s hard to attract the right man when you’re stuck in your masculine and he’s looking for feminine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/25 01:34 PM |
| 8 | I feel like a lot of messages about red pill women end up being “women suffer so men don’t get their feelings hurt”Like men don’t suffer to protect the feelings of their SO? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 05:41 PM |
| 4 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedIt’s not entirely your fault. In most dating scenarios if she’s not talking to us everyday it usually means she’s not interested. In my experience women are fickle if you’re not talking frequently she takes it as a sign that I’m not interested or something, and she’s free to date someone else. Like she’s got a goldfish memory, forgets I exist and moves on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with low self-worth, attraction patterns, and finding my place in relationshipsLooks get you in the door but they don’t keep you in the house for long if your personality or effort is lacking. Don’t get me wrong attraction and sex is important but I’ve never broken it off with a woman because she wasn’t pretty enough to keep me. If I’m sleeping with her regularly or for a while she’s pretty enough. What breaks it is she doesn’t try hard enough to be loyal, to make me think she cares, to give me as much as I give her. After a while sex/looks is the only thing a lot of women… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 04:09 PM |
| -6 | Dominant but traditional, can it be conciliated?It’ll be very hard to find a guy who works, provides everything while you stay at home and run it all. I know it’s more complex than that, but that’s what it’s going to look like you want to most men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/25 09:38 PM |
| 3 | Roast me: Went Off Strategy Dating Younger, Ended Up Burned — What’s the Lesson?Nobody’s perfect, sometimes risks pay off sometimes they don’t. You took a chance, and it didn’t work out, it happens. It’s not like you’re out here being led solely by your urges. Just don’t make a habit of it. You went in starry-eyed but in good faith. You got played by someone who was acting in bad faith. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/25 08:16 PM |
| 5 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?You do decrease your odds of finding intellectuals in the trades, but you won’t eliminate it. Wanting someone to be as knowledgeable as you and about the same things is quite limiting. Even being likewise educated doesn’t guarantee it, depending on what they are of course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 09:16 PM |
| 3 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?I’m not part of the white collar world so I can only say what I’ve seen from a distance. It seems to me to either be filled with soft boys or bros and very little in between. I know it’s off topic but if you don’t mind humoring me, what is it about the blue-collar guys that stifles compatibility? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 09:02 PM |
| 10 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?I think it’s less about your profile and more about theirs. You want to come across nice obviously, and in your feminine. I don’t think you need to put any of that stuff about traditional lifestyle or the like. But when you screen their profile aside from the typical things like minimally attractive, active, with hobbies and humor, you’re going to want to find kind of a masculine or dad energy. Screening out machismo and also (I can’t think of how else to say it) feminist/ally type energy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 08:52 PM |
| 15 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?Obviously you’ve got to find a guy oriented to that, but also, and the biggest part is you can’t fight him for the lead. Men generally want to make their SO happy, and today a lot of women want certain things, push back and take the lead. Rather than fight you for it a lot of guys will let you take it, else they be considered toxic or chauvinistic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 08:42 PM |
| 1 | How do I [30F] tell if my BF [40M] is growing and giving me his best or manipulating me?Ok so he is a (at least) bit sensitive, maybe insecure, there’s probably some trauma. And the better you understand his past, his upbringing, the easier it is to understand him and his thought processes, anticipate his needs/reactions. (He should do that for you too, just saying.) I’m not sure how to approach it, everyone is different. But say you are falling short (we all do) he needs to be able to identify where, how and what you need to do to correct it. Then he needs to ponder its realism/fe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/25 01:46 AM |
| 2 | How do I [30F] tell if my BF [40M] is growing and giving me his best or manipulating me?I think he needs to step out of his own head for a little bit and try to see his approach from your angle. From what you’ve written and trying to give a little benefit of the doubt, it seems like he’s making an attempt to be a good person, but he’s too stuck on his intentions and not his actions. He’s got some feelings, which is fair, everyone does. But he’s not managing them well and he’s putting them on your shoulder rather blindly without empathizing with your situation, something he really n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/25 12:58 AM |
| 7 | pregnant and want to be married.It really depends on his value set. He may not see a child coming as a reason to rush the process like she does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/25 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageKids is a mutual thing, marriage today primarily benefits women. The relationship between men and women is complimentary but marriage is a bad bet for men, that’s all. It has nothing to do with me being or not being a fan of women. I love women, I even love the concept of marriage but with how things sit right now with the culture, the laws, it’s smarter for a man to not marry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 01:28 PM |
| 0 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageAgreed. Still, given the culture, the laws, the stats it’s not a safe bet. I can understand the romance of some guy knowing all of that and still choosing to marry anyway and how special that’d make someone feel. But I’m not going to put emotions over logic. Her need to feel special does not trump my need for a stable future. Don’t get me wrong, I love the idea and purpose of marriage. I think it’s right. However I don’t trust people enough to take that chance. There is almost nothing keeping a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageIt kind of is relevant. If it’s her desire to have children and I acquiesce the consequences of her making not mine. She’s sacrificing for herself. Now if it was my desire and she acquiesced for my happiness I’d agree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 06:50 AM |
| 0 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageThings and people change, the laws are ridiculous. It’s simply not worth the risk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageKids are something women usually want more than men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 03:25 AM |
| 0 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageNicely written, logical but it’s still fantastic and selfish. If the roles were reversed women would feel the same way as men, but men (typically) being more pragmatic would understand and go along with it. Women want someone to love them so much they’d put their livelihood and future on the line for the sake of that love. Which is sweet and I understand, but I can’t get past how selfish it is, and there is little to no reciprocal risk women take that men demand. Ask a woman to “put herself in h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 01:43 AM |
| -5 | Interesting Thoughts on MarriageVery few these days want to be married, they just want to have a wedding, and maybe the title of “wife” like it’s “the chosen few.” Seems to go hand in hand with things like refusing to have a prenup even though it’s practical, or submitting to a paternity test. It kinda sullies the “chosen” status, like only being conditionally special. Meanwhile to be a husband he’s got to meet the emotional checklist but get over himself if she has some “insensitive” but pragmatic requirements. Prenup is a fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/25 08:35 PM |
| 0 | Traditional-style money management in today's marriagesEveryone is going to be different. But assuming I thought I could trust someone else with my money. First and foremost 100% transparency and an agreed upon budget, where each gets a discretionary account, separate savings and retirement, with a contract saying we both agree to split joint assets 50/50 should we not work out, and a penalty for fiscal deception. (should you make enough collectively) and no unilateral decisions for big purchases. Just because you control the spending/budget doesn’t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 05:16 PM |
| 4 | Traditional-style money management in today's marriagesIt works better when they pool money and agree on budget. However too many of us men have been burned hard. Either with her spending it all on frivolous wants leaving no money for bills, or not having enough money for a motorcycle but enough for her to take the girls out weekly for $250 a pop. I’d personally love to have this headache taken off my plate, but I don’t trust anyone enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Relocating to find a husbandReally depends, if you’re in a tiny town of like 30k people, it’s probably a good idea to move somewhere a little bit bigger or at least somewhere that matches your sensibilities. But realistically when you get to the 100-200k range of population it isn’t that much different than a population in the millions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/25 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Only texts late…It wouldn’t hurt to say “how come you haven’t asked me out yet?” | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/25 02:05 PM |
| 0 | I broke up with my fianceExplain how he’s selfish at heart? Not because he’s not, but because he might not be, or he is but you’re failing to see how you might be too. This is less to you but more to people in general who are in failing relationships. A lot of times I see people complaining about selfish partners when in actuality what their partners are asking/demanding are reasonable requests or boundaries, and the complaining partner just doesn’t want to do it. They’ve got all kinds of excuses or reasons why that a l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/25 01:01 AM |
| 10 | Is it wrong to call out friends who ghost men?She’s the problem here. She’s scared of something probably, but I doubt it’s personal safety. She probably is insecure and hides it behind that convenient lie. Or she’s a horrible person. She’s actively making dating worse. Hurt people hurt people. Super attractive/desirable men are the most powerful players but women women set the rules of the dating game. She’s teaching people that it’s ok to ghost. One day it’s going to happen to her and she won’t see it as anything but unfair. She’ll use the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/25 02:36 AM |
| 3 | What do you believe in?I’m not saying feminism didn’t help accomplish some good things. But people really need to look into actual history. Feminism has taken full credit for a lot of things they were only a part of. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/25 03:35 AM |
| 7 | What do you believe in?That’s because feminism is a lie. It’s not about equality, it’s about women getting what they want regardless of it being fair or making sense, and if men have to suffer for it, so be it. The RP is egalitarianism, what feminism claims to be. Or at least it used to be until grifters started monetizing male frustration and rage baiting for views. RP will point out where women mess up, feminism will not. RP doesn’t make excuses for men’s mistakes but will acknowledge or explain why they’re messing … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/25 01:28 AM |
| 10 | Finally understand when men say "I don't know why women wear/do their make up like [xyz]. It's not attractive"!!!I think the gut reaction is “I put so much effort into…” and kinda get their feelings hurt when it’s not appreciated. The feeling is kind of childish when you think about it. On some level we really want everyone to like us, but when we don’t like someone it should be no big deal and most people are at least a little bit like that. It’s part of the reason why both sexes sometimes react harshly when rejected “you’re fat anyway/what are you gay?” Type stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 02:41 AM |
| 5 | Men’s inherent value in a relationship?A lot of women are the same way, and still want the accolades of being a good parent when they’re not. Parenthood isn’t a walk in the park, but it’s not a ridiculously demanding as some like to claim. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/25 04:25 PM |
| 13 | My bf (25) broke up with me (23) and im having a hard time accepting things even though I know it’s for the bestBreakups are hard even in toxic relationships. It just takes time to heal. We’re biologically driven to couple to continue the species, and to bond with a partner because it’s more advantageous for the offspring. But with those perks also come the drawbacks of being sometimes bonded to people who are bad for us. Just take your time, enjoy your trip and try not to think about or dwell on it and him. Exercise discipline and self control, like an intense workout it’s hard and painful but the result… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/25 04:09 PM |
| 8 | What would be your thoughts on someone co parenting a dog?I love my pets, I do. But they are NOT children and treating them like they’ve got same complex emotional and developmental needs as children is nuts. Co-parenting is about the kids not the adults. So saying they’re co-parenting an animal that can survive on its at just a few months old is looney tunes. There’s something amiss. They, one or the other, either want an excuse to stay in the other’s life or they’re not all there. Either way I’d want no part of that inevitable drama or foolishness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/25 10:07 PM |
| 14 | Does a woman career matters?Dude here. It doesn’t matter, career and social status aren’t completely linked for women especially. It more matters what a man does for social status than a woman, though it can contribute. As a guy all I care about is that she’s good to me, I find her attractive and she isn’t a gold digger or mooch. I’m happy to pay for dates, outings, treats, but I’m not paying your rent, car, phone, clothes and every beauty appointment. All you need a job for is to cover your own. On top of that the more yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/25 02:07 AM |
| 11 | navigating beauty as currency when you’re just okayYou are way over valuing looks when it comes to long term relationships, and undervaluing your looks. Idk where you live, but in most of the US at least obesity is an epidemic. Just simply not being fat puts you above the average woman. And yeah guys like boobs but you’re over valuing that. Looks only open the door, personality and demeanor keep you inside. Be a positive and grateful person with healthy boundaries. Be good to a guy, make sure he’s good to you and you’ll do great. Guys are every … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/25 06:45 PM |
| 4 | How do you balance realism vs idealism when vetting men?If you have a wise, good and trusted male role model or friend that isn’t sexually or romantically interested in you, you can bring your prospect around them. Just like women are better at sniffing out women of bad character men are too with other men. It’s not foolproof, but it’s a good method. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 11:01 PM |
| 2 | does my boyfriend hate me as much as he hates other girls???Joe Rogan and Andrew Tate are two completely different types of people. Lots like to lump them in together and there is overlap in their fanbase sometimes but there is overlap in Taylor Swift fans and child sex traffickers. About the only things those two have in common is they are guys who value masculinity and have podcasts. Oh yeah, they’re both bald and used to fight competitively. Lumping Rogan in with Tate is like lumping weed in with heroine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Am I a gold digger?Idk. Lots and lots of people there thinking just because they want it, they can get it. Manifesting or some nonsense. Most people are average and/or are lucky to get average but so many still think that one day their Prince Charming will ride in and save them from their life of mediocrity. It’s more or less the plot of every romance or romantic comedy. That some extraordinary guy or girl will see them for the diamond in the rough they are and happily ever after. Or they got with a couple of rich… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/25 10:49 PM |
| 3 | Am I a gold digger?But you’ve got to be the type of woman that deserves that lifestyle too. The type of woman a man like that wants. Not a lot of women like that around either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/25 10:07 PM |
| 6 | Do men who want commitment present themselves as such right away or do some consider commitment after they've been dating a girl for a while?Honestly most guys don’t think that far ahead. We’re not under much pressure to settle down, get married, have kids. It’s foolish but… oh well. Generally we just go with the flow, tryna get some attention, hopefully some action, then if all that’s good and we start to bond we then start to think about it. Perhaps she’s just good enough to keep the lonely away, pears she speaks to our soul or whatever and she seems like she could be wifey material. Some guys really do have a plan, want to get mar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Trying to understandThe thing is that relationships start with attraction. For men attraction is predominantly physical. For women while looks are important too, there are so many other things that matter. What we describe as beauty is just markers of likely good health and fertility. Our attraction triggers evolved with us to give us the best chances of survival, passing on our genes and them passing on theirs, continuing our genetic legacy. With that in mind an extremely good looking man isn’t guaranteed to give … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 05:22 PM |
| 7 | Can a break from sex help ?Sex should be fun, and it usually is, but even fun things can become a chore. When sex with your lover becomes a chore, sex and masturbation kind of switch places. He’s not having sex to enjoy it, he’s having sex to give you pleasure, probably because he loves you and wants to make you happy. Sex has stopped becoming “us time” and is now “her time.” If she gets her time, I deserve “me time.” And now you’re admonishing him for it. Taking a step back from sex can help some, but not in the way you’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/25 06:28 PM |
| 9 | Modern dating + 50/50 mentalityThanks for being honest. Lots of American women feel exactly the same way but want to try and hide it behind something else. A lot of, if not most American guys know the drill. We know we pay for most things, even though you often make as much or more than us sometimes. But redpill being more in line with traditional, you wanting something akin to a traditional relationship tracks. If you want something close to traditional, you’ve got to be something close to traditional. There’s a lot behind t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/25 09:03 AM |
| 2 | Liking posts of woman he finds attractive, address or ignore?Yeah unfortunately you’re going to have to let this slide I think. She may very well have been baiting with the pretty dress and all but there’s enough deniability that if you say anything it’ll make you look unhinged. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/25 08:41 AM |
| 3 | Liking posts of woman he finds attractive, address or ignore?What was the post he liked? If it was a thirst trap he deserves to be called out. If it was some smart or shared quote, video, good news, achievement then you’re likely being a little harsh. Did he like it, love it, leave a heart emoji or something that conveys more than “good job” or the like? Putting a thumbs up on a fb post about her running a 5k though the pic is obviously meant for some more attention than a 5k is far different than leaving a heart or wow on the same post. Basically because… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/25 11:30 AM |
| 2 | RP women, what are we doing to build our emotional discipline ?It really is a great topic and not oft enough discussed. Emotions are important but in this day and age it really seems like they’re the most important thing period, over integrity or responsibility or even being a good person. Heck some people even give vile actions a pass because of someone’s emotional state. It’s very hard sometimes to not act out or do something foolish due to intense emotions and that’s understandable to a point. However people are out destroying their or others lives on a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/25 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Waiting for labelI’d give it another month or two, and then have a serious talk. Chances are you’re right on the cusp and you’re going to need to make him shit or get off the pot. Likely you’re good but don’t match his expectations. He might be waiting for you to do something, or you’re just not quite right for one another. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/25 03:48 AM |
| 1 | What do average men and women typically look like in terms of physical features and fat composition, such as body fat percentage? And what societal factors shape these standards of appearance?I will throw you a bone. Men really do need to work on better grooming, we are lacking on the whole. However being superficial, focusing on grooming and fashion is sadly seen as the realm of the female, or anti-masculine. So walking the tightrope of being manly and not gay, metro, or conceded is very difficult. Personally idgaf, I try to dress well even though I’m assumed to be gay quite a lot. I’m no dapper Dan but better than average is good enough. But don’t forget that there are two sides to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 07:17 AM |
| 2 | What do average men and women typically look like in terms of physical features and fat composition, such as body fat percentage? And what societal factors shape these standards of appearance?I’m not saying it’s not justifiable, I’m explaining where the animosity comes from. And reality is sexist. We didn’t develop this way due to some patriarchal tyranny, we developed this way because it’s what worked best, and lots of things became screwy in the process. We haven’t yet adapted to how things are now. Our attraction triggers are still mostly rooted in the lizard brain and filtered through our higher brain functions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 06:58 AM |
| 5 | What do average men and women typically look like in terms of physical features and fat composition, such as body fat percentage? And what societal factors shape these standards of appearance?Boy you really like to hold tightly to your preconceived ideas. Attractiveness is ideal for both sexes but pretty doesn’t put food on the table. Pretty doesn’t make you a better hunter, pretty doesn’t mean you have social skills or intelligence. Pretty just has a big overlap with healthy and fertile. Which is important but not all that is necessary for survival and reproduction. That’s why pretty for women holds a higher place in a woman’s SMV than a man’s, because back in the day when women wer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 06:40 AM |
| 2 | How should I view past sexual encounters that only happened because I was drunk?You can’t change the past, and it is what it is, you have to take your lumps and keep going. All you can do now is your best. Be the best person and partner you can be, do lots of self reflection and healing. Sadly you may never be done paying for your past mistakes and that’s life, you just need to find a way to make peace with it. You don’t have to share your past but never lie about it as if it ever comes out you will break the trust of the relationship you are in or trying to form. Distance … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 12:47 AM |
| 3 | What do average men and women typically look like in terms of physical features and fat composition, such as body fat percentage? And what societal factors shape these standards of appearance?Here’s the thing: as much as people like to attribute beauty to societal standards, it isn’t completely. While tastes shift here and there what is found beautiful is heavily correlated to what is fertile and results in healthy and higher survival rates in offspring. You’ve got to separate modern ideas from evolutionary success. Throughout most of history life has been vastly different from what it is today and we’ve not yet adapted our attraction triggers to it. So while physical attraction is i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/25 01:36 PM |
| 13 | How to totally wow a manIn my opinion or at least for me this is a “dress for the job you want” type situation. If this guy seems like a keeper it’s now on you to act like a keeper. You start taking on, in small ways, roles or acts that are the realm of long term partner or doting wife. Whatever that means to you, but for me it’s like homemaker type stuff. Being that in my experience women don’t do it much anymore little things like sometimes making my lunch for work tomorrow, or doing a little cleaning around my house… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/25 06:36 PM |
| 2 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?It’s you as a general term not you specifically as I don’t know you. But if it applies then use it, if it doesn’t then disregard. Expectations are a funny thing. What you want out of life needs to correlate with your expectations in a partner. You have a goal you want to reach and you want a partner, at the very least they shouldn’t impede reaching that goal, ideally they’ll help you achieve it. Real life example: I’ve had plenty of girlfriends or potential girlfriends that were awesome to be ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/25 04:56 PM |
| 0 | If men think women are expired by the age of 30, why do men even bother to get married in the first place?That’s all in context of initial forming of romantic relationships. It’s not like once you get married and form a life together she hits 30 any you wanna trade her in or something. Her value to him changes from the hot little piece to his wife, partner, better half. Let’s face it, by 30+ most women are no where near as hot as their early to mid 20’s counterparts. They are still fertile until about 35 give or take, but it falls way off after that. No guy really wants to feel that time pressure. S… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 04:34 PM |
| 3 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?Yes sometimes people do change, but most of the time only if they’re forced to. That’s why if you know someone had a promiscuous past it should be a dealbreaker necessarily, but you need to keep your eyes open. It’s not something you simply overlook, as though they may have claimed to change the frequently haven’t. They may have made changes but haven’t changed. Most often they are exactly the same person, same ethics and habits but now simply demand more, and that’s what I personally have a pro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 02:58 AM |
| 4 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?High body count (for either sex honestly) doesn’t point to anything good. While everyone has a past, and a fling or two during dark or stupid times, a handful of failed relationships is par for the course. especially with the just plain wrong messages were telling kids, especially young women about sex. While correlation doesn’t equal causation, nothing guarantees anything, there is a HUGE overlap in high body count and not being relationship material. The biggest cause of promiscuity is insecur… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/25 08:54 PM |
| 5 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?Yeah when you figure out that sex isn’t worth the headache that a lot of people put you through for it, and that much more is needed than just sex to make a life together work and that testosterone drops, sex isn’t as important. Body count still kind of is, mostly because it’s an indicator of other things rather than all this insecurity nonsense that people like to spout. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/25 10:33 AM |
| 23 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?If you have a new partner every week or two while in college the numbers add up really quickly. Yeah most guys don’t pull in the numbers like the average woman can. A woman, generally speaking, just has to let a guy take her to bed, or lead the way herself, while a guy has to woo or lure. Lots of these guys with super high counts have almost no standards, while being reasonably attractive and charming. Lots of women have unreasonably high standards because they were told they could, rarely hear … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Can this be turned around?Don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy. And it doesn’t matter how much you like or are attracted to, or even love someone, if they’re not good for you then you have to rip off the bandaid and find something that is good for you. That’s a big problem with a lot of relationships, many of us, (men too, I’ve been there more times than I care to admit) we stay with people we want or love or sex us up really good, that we care about that don’t care about us. We set ourselves on fire to keep others warm,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/25 03:46 AM |
| 3 | Is this seriously just how dating is like for women now a days ?As we focus on emotions above all else this is what we get. Emotions are important, but feelings shouldn’t run your life. It would be lovely if the person that made us feel the strongest was the best person for us, but that’s often the opposite of truth. The grown-up world is filled with adults that never grew up. Chasing emotional highs over what’s best or right, so we get this. Storybook love and romance has replaced real love and romance and people think now that of it doesn’t look like it do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/25 02:08 AM |
| 6 | How straightforward do men Actually want women to be?It seems to me you’re completely misreading the situation. It more falls under “easy come easy go.” Or in more laymen’s terms people don’t appreciate what they didn’t work for. But people also hate being deceived, so “playing hard to get” or games at all is also hated. The more genuine work something takes to achieve the more it’s appreciated when it’s achieved and that goes for relationships too. Just like I’m sure you don’t like guys that are “too nice” men don’t appreciate women that are too … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/25 12:54 PM |
| 10 | Should I not date HVM if I’m still a student?Men, in general, don’t care much about your professional status. We’re usually paying for everything regardless of how much she makes so it doesn’t matter if she’s a student or a professional or a part time waffle waitress, as long as she’s attractive to us and treats us well, that’s really mostly what matters. We don’t want bums, gold diggers or mooches, but she doesn’t need to be rich or accomplished to be a good partner, just stable. Going to college is stable (unless you’re drowning in stude… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/25 12:57 AM |
| 26 | How do I go from 'hookup material' to 'girlfriend material'?Better to scare him off than to sit in the hellish pit that is unrequited love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/25 09:08 PM |
| 1 | The Unsettling Truth of Romance, Love & a Woman's Purity.Removing the masks seems to be next to impossible. There are many out there that want to take the mask off, but still have people act as though they’re still wearing it. It’s a paradox, feminism in a nutshell. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/25 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Understanding men who don’t want children from a RPW perspective?A sex drive is a desire to engage in the act that causes reproduction. So desires/attraction triggers and how they want to be treated by their mates are pretty much the same wanting kids or not wanting kids, we still have the urge to copulate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/25 03:50 PM |
| 1 | The fastest a man has proposed to a womanMet a dude we’ll call him Nick. Nick was out with a couple of his gal pals, crying in his beer about his fiance that he split with because she was cheating. Nick is late 20’s. We got along pretty well, he’s a decent beer buddy, so we hung out a few times over the period of three months. Last time I saw him he introduced us to his new fiancée who was almost 40 with two or three nearly grown daughters. From what I understand they went on a few decent dates, about a month to 6 weeks. I think that d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/25 01:30 PM |
| 5 | I didn't follow my bf's lead because it felt wrong and now he's mad - wanting other perspectivesEven if he’s right, soap would work adequately (doubt) it’s still your body and if you’re not 100% comfortable then you simply don’t. Anal isn’t as simple as they make it look in the movies, probably not a good thing to try for the first time with you both drunk (maybe you a bit drunk, after you’ve discussed and figured out all logistics, but definitely not him especially if he’s never done it either) there is a lot of potential for injury and whatnot if great care not taken. Any good “leader” s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/25 02:17 PM |
| 3 | are age gap/trad marriages inherently a kink/ fetish?If it’s not a kink, which it doesn’t sound like to me. It sounds like some sort of manifestation of daddy issues. Which sounds pretty bad until you remember we all have issues, so work on the ones causing you pain, and/or work around them to live the best life you can. Reddit will say age gap relationship where the guy is older is never healthy because power dynamics, because only creeps like younger women. And while statistically I can’t say they’re wrong, they are wrong. If you find an older g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/25 07:25 AM |
| 5 | A skeptical autistic woman whose trying to open my mind.I’ve been observing the redpill movement for the better part of 10 years and a lot of the problems you have with it were not a part of it from the beginning. But you start talking about unfortunate truths or negatives about something and that often brings in the haters. From my observation the RP movement was designated a misogynistic far before actual misogynists really started flocking to it. RP is from the matrix movie and is only supposed to be about reality, recognizing both good and bad. S… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/25 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedYes and no. A “high value man” is very likely to be a cheater as he has all kinds of options and women often throw themselves at him, and you must understand that it comes with the territory. I don’t think any self-respecting woman should suffer a cheater, no matter how “high value” he is. If you’re the monogamous type, all you’re doing is selling your dignity, often sanity/mental health for diamonds and gold. But if it’s worth it to you, it’s your life to live. It’s quite the show of hubris to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/25 01:44 AM |
| 1 | How to make a guy really fall for you?It absolutely does, I think a better way to phrase it is to be sexually and romantically discerning. I hope I’m not putting words in OC’s mouth. And like the other reply said it is kind of like a reward, but not really like a transactional thing or arbitrary timeframe, number of dates, etc. More like a reward for being a good person and the right guy. Speaking as a guy, for many guys but obviously not all of them, it can fall under “easy come, easy go.” What people are given for nothing or next … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/25 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Are you attracted to most redpill men?Last I hear the stat was closer to half, 40% or more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/25 09:19 PM |
| 8 | Are you attracted to most redpill men?It does really bother me that women are allowed to have problems with men and air their grievances, anywhere that tries to allow men the same consideration get shutdown as bigoted. I get that when men get riled up they can act with physical violence towards women, but it’s not like women aren’t violent too, they just do it differently, and not like it makes one better or worse but it’s a lot easier to heal from a black eye than to fix your reputation or rebuild your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/25 07:56 PM |
| 7 | Are you attracted to most redpill men?Not directly related, but RPW is pretty good, because it’s closer to what redpill was about a decade ago. Men (for the most part) then were only about the truth, good or bad, beneficial or not. Now there are a lot of men there just to air their grievances with women. RPW being women can cut through a lot of the BS the unfair hate while still willing to face the truth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/25 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedIdk, 50/50. If they can put their feelings aside and the only thing they keep together is doing right by the children, yes it can work out. However that’s a tall ask. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/25 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedAgain outside of spoiled children, breaking a toy rather than allowing anyone else to play with it, I can’t think of any behavior that comes close, especially in adults. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/25 03:16 PM |
| 0 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedI’ve been struggling to figure it out honestly. I can gauge the cause of most behaviors, but this one doesn’t click. I’ve been done really dirty a couple of times, definitely wanted them to hurt as much as I did, but never wanted to destroy them, take everything from them and ruin their lives. So I can’t wrap my head around it when someone throws away a relationship through cheating for example, and then upon the dissolution of the relationship still feels the need to try and take everything fro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/25 02:31 PM |
| 5 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedI agree, most people are closer the middle, and it’s a painful place to be, battling your sense of self respect and love against the love you have for them and the love you have for the things they provide. It doesn’t even take infidelity to cause this conflict, just any kind of break-up could do it. One person may not even love the other anymore but love the perks of being with them. Perhaps that’s why divorce and big break ups gets so nasty, they want to make sure everything about them that th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/25 02:02 PM |
| 4 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedThis is one of those situations that most people will say no to, that crosses most lines of self respect and dignity, their ideals oppose it. However, it is also a situation that people with those ideals sometimes find themselves in, and frequently end up staying. They either end up forcing themselves to get used to it or allow it to destroy them as they love said man, think or know they will never find better/giving up a lifestyle that they’ll never likely be able to reproduce. As often as clai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/25 01:55 PM |
| 18 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedIn the end the wife would stay if she’s getting what’s most important to her. And there are a lot of women who value lifestyle and status over fidelity. They say they would leave and take half, but if the guy is “high value” enough, provides things that she can’t get on her own even with half his assets she does often stay. Choosing to wed a celebrity, more times than not, this is the life you’re agreeing to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/25 01:03 PM |
| 12 | Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and providedWhen it happens in real world situations, no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/25 12:52 PM |
| 1 | Weight loss fixed my marriage… don’t know how to feel?First and foremost you need to let go of the fantasy. Real love isn’t like the storybooks and is almost never unconditional, when it comes to sexual attraction men are way more visual, while women are way more emotional. So if something happens to exacerbate reducing attractiveness, reducing the frequency of sex and thus intimacy everything else will start to drop off as well. So as we age we generally get uglier the physical based attraction drops, with continued intimacy and familiarity, deeds… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/25 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Do you regret not sleeping with someoneClarify please, because it sounds to me like you’re saying that he wasn’t single when he made an advance on you and as a result you aren’t in contact, but now you regret it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/25 09:41 PM |
| 2 | How do you have a good "girl game" with a man that has a lot of options?You can’t really win out, he has to choose you due to who you are and how he feels when he’s around you. If he’s got a lot of options, he has to determine for himself that you are the best one, and worth forgoing all the others for. Anything else is tantamount to games, manipulation which won’t work out in the long term. If you aren’t enough naturally, no amount of game will change that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/25 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Are pets a dealbreaker if you're not a pet personNever move in together, it’s as simple as that. Try to spend more time at your house than his, and let him know why if he notices. Obviously state it as tactfully as you can. It might be the end of you, but if it’s gonna happen because of the dogs then it’s gonna happen, better now than later when feelings are stronger. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/25 05:16 PM |
| 3 | The wall for childfreeHaving kids physically ages you due to the physical demands of pregnancy and the emotional stress of aging. Avoiding having kids will mitigate that some. But like others have said “the wall” is more about desirability and physical attractiveness is a big part of that, as markers of fertility are generally what’s found attractive. So it is about looks to a good degree, but it’s also about appearing you posses the ability to have healthy ones whether or not you want them. Some guys want to be dads… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/25 08:09 PM |
| 5 | Do daddy issues affect relationships?Daddy issues often result in a troubled relationship. She often seeks to express her issues with her father with her partner. While traditionally the man leads the relationship it is still a distinct role from a father. The problem is she mixes the two up causing much confusion and conflict. He acts like a partner in situations when she wants him to act like her dad or vice versa. She also seeks a father’s love and approval from her partner which she also can’t get because they are different, le… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/25 05:09 AM |
| 1 | My (33f) bf (24m) has a hot female friend. Should I be concerned?There is absolutely a difference. I could be wrong, but from what I’ve gleamed in the differences between male and female sexuality is that men are more likely or able to separate sex from relationships. While sex does bond people regardless of sex/gender and it’s very uncommon to be able to completely separate sex from emotion, it’s far less common for a woman to want sex with a man and not want or willing to enter a romantic relationship with him on some level. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/25 07:06 PM |
| 0 | My (33f) bf (24m) has a hot female friend. Should I be concerned?Perhaps he doesn’t mention her because he knows it’s a sensitive topic to you, doesn’t want to make you any more jealous than you already are. And also personality is a big thing. That’s often a big cause behind FWB and situationships. At least from a guys perspective a woman can be sexually attractive, and make a fine friend and just because you can mix the two doesn’t mean a romantic relationship is wanted. As an example close to this situation, a lot of guys really don’t find women who hang o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/25 06:12 PM |
| 7 | Would it be appropriate of me to ask my SO to pay for my travel tickets?I think it’s mostly number 1. At least that’s how I’d navigate it. I’ve been used too, and if she’s not willing to do her half then she’s not interested enough. Relationships take work and investment from both sides, far too often one person does all the taking with no sacrifice on their side, paying their airfare is work on your side, shows your serious. I won’t do long distance but if I did, and was in a situation like this, where she was having trouble covering her share of the costs we’d nee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/25 01:02 PM |
| 4 | How do you all navigate physical intimacy in the dating stage?Rules are kind of too rigid, everyone’s life is too complicated to make and stand by them. You can’t play it perfectly safe or perfectly smart, there is always a risk that you’re being used or that it won’t work out, and feelings never really follow a timeline, people rarely fall in love simultaneously and rarely at the same level. It’s really more of a series of checkpoints. You almost never want to have sex right away, but you don’t want to wait too long either. It basically boils down to maki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/25 12:41 PM |
| 4 | Not sure why I couldn’t form lasting friendships in recent yearsSpot on, but if I may add: instant gratification. We get everything now, on demand, next day delivery, or dashed in a few minutes. So working for or cultivating happiness, delaying gratification is a dying virtue. It’s left many impatient and entitled, we don’t have to earn pleasure we get it on demand with little to no investment from us and the infection has spread from objects to people. Like you said, you’ve got to cultivate or nurture your friendship, people just don’t do that. They may hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/25 10:08 AM |
| 2 | Enhancing your SMV later in life?Try not to let the dating game get you down, it’s hard after being single for so long to not get tired of trying and failing, meeting people giving your all just to for it all to be for naught. I find the lack of effort, energy and reciprocation to be the biggest issue in dating women my age. It seems from my side they don’t want to waste effort if it’s going to last, meaning it’s not going to last because they don’t make much effort, but expect a whole lot. The wall is a helluva thing, but then… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 11:06 PM |
| 2 | Enhancing your SMV later in life?While I commend on staying fit and looking good, remember that’s only part of the equation. Looks garner attention personality keeps it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 06:13 PM |
| 6 | I feel rejected, my bf told me "I don't think I can just keep paying for everything", how do I deal with this situation?Sounds to me that a conversation is in order. Maybe you’re missing something or maybe he’s got something going on that he mistakenly took out on you. We do that, take our frustrations out on our SO. I’d like to hope that he’s not just being a jerk who is becoming resentful of the income disparity. It is common for people to not consider things, to only see that I’ve given you $10k worth of gifts while you’ve only given $1k tough I make 10x more than you or just way more financially secure. But a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/25 09:44 PM |
| 7 | I feel rejected, my bf told me "I don't think I can just keep paying for everything", how do I deal with this situation?Sounds like an unequal distribution of effort manifesting financially. Do you spoil him as much as he spoils you? And it doesn’t have to be financially. A lot of women want a man to fill a more or less traditional role as provider and all that, but that also entails some responsibilities on their end that is often neglected. Now there is not enough detail here to say that’s what’s going on, but it is one of the more common reasons things like this happen. That a man feels he’s giving way more th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/25 08:47 PM |
| 1 | I judge my friends that are in relationship with uneducated and unemployed men. Am I wrong for this?Town bicycle= everyone gets a ride, a very promiscuous or easy woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/25 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Do woman really get the ick easily?Therein lies the problem. Just meeting someone you have no idea what they need/want. You may feel that me blowing off my friends is too much, the next woman thinks if I don’t I’m not valuing her enough. The second appears to be more common than the first, though it might not be. Then your assumption that it’s too much, when it’s nothing at all for me is another problem, as it’s may not be indicative of my level of dominance at all. And for most men there isn’t another match just a swipe away. I’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Do woman really get the ick easily?There’s a chasm of difference between being pedestalized and being made an effort for. If I met someone online (which I don’t do anymore because it’s garbage) and we seemed to be getting along well but our schedules make going on a date difficult and I could rather simply shuffle stuff around to make it happen she should be charmed not icked. Like if I was gonna hang with the boys on Saturday like I do most Saturday’s and I just need to let them know I’ll miss this time. But if I’m missing my si… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Do woman really get the ick easily?Kinda makes you wonder what kind of situation they grew up in where having a man treat you with any kind of priority turns you off? In general it’s not true but some women really do “dig jerks.” They’re in some sort of weird headspace where any man who treats them well must not be high value enough. Perhaps daddy never had enough time for her so she used to being de-prioritized, pining and fighting tooth and nail for any attention from him, so treating her even kinda well feels like simp behavio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 08:21 PM |
| 16 | I judge my friends that are in relationship with uneducated and unemployed men. Am I wrong for this?There are markers of value for both sexes. A woman getting into a serious relationship with a “loser” is looked upon very much like when guys SO the town bicycle. So while it’s shallow as their partners might in fact be good people and partners, they generally aren’t. And a big indication of what a person is like is who they choose to partner with. Are you morally wrong? In this day and age, probably, but it doesn’t make your judgment incorrect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 04:18 PM |
| 14 | Princess TreatmentI think the princess treatment as described on most TikTok videos is more female dating strategy and less redpill. Unless my assumptions are off (and I’m sure my comment will be deleted if it is) RPW has more of an expectation of a man treating a woman the best he can with her doing the same. While the princess treatment idea is more that if a man doesn’t or can’t spoil her then he’s not a man worth dating. The RedPill is all about reality or being realistic, and in most cases being able to prov… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/24 10:10 PM |
| 5 | College hookup anxietyIt’s not that big a deal. Most people at least one time in their lives has a sexual escapade they regret. As a dude I’m pretty middle of the road, lean sexually conservative in preferences when it comes to women I take seriously. I understand that today most women have had at least fling or two. And while I’m not a fan, I’m not delusional or a hypocrite, it’s not a deal breaker. Just keep those kinds of mistakes to a minimum and you’ll be fine. Don’t broadcast it, but don’t lie about it either. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/24 11:46 AM |
| 5 | Worried I’m slowly losing myself and my feminityI’m just saying that you’re going to meet some guys that’ll really get you juices flowing, you’ll have to manage, pass them up for someone that perhaps doesn’t light your fire as much, but is more likely to do right by you. Also fair warning, it’s a whole lot more high school than you’d ever think, mean girls and bros abound, similar cliques. The majority of enlisted come in almost directly after high school and never adapt to the real world due to never having to. You’d think a 30 year old moth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/24 11:08 AM |
| 3 | Worried I’m slowly losing myself and my feminityThere is going to be a lot of pressure to hook up. There are dudes there worth it and wanting something serious, but it’ll be in the minority and probably not the hottest or coolest guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/24 03:05 AM |
| 3 | Worried I’m slowly losing myself and my feminityJust the way it is. Guys be tryna hookup, if they can get milk without buying the cow they often will. Just stick to your principles and don’t associate with people who don’t treat you the way you want them to. Been a while since I was on active duty, but sleeping around in the corps is pretty common place as men outnumber women 7:1, or did at the time. Plus people are generally fit, spend a lot of time together and full of piss and vinegar. Work hard play hard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/24 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Attractiveness, success, and loyaltyLoyalty is such a complicated topic when you dig into it. I try to keep in the realm of what an average rational person would consider, but leaning more to the conservative side. And it has to mutual or equal, which it’s often not. When it comes to cheating double standards are rife. One must take into account the differences between male and female mating strategy. As an example many women consider a man watching adult content for self pleasure, following thirst traps online to be in the realm … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/24 07:18 PM |
| 6 | Attractiveness, success, and loyaltyDepends on the woman and her definitions of the three. In simple terms, surface level you absolutely can. He can be physically attractive, have a good job or career and will be loyal. But it’s all relative to her, first she’s got to be a catch as well, meet his needs/expectations. Then relative to her he can be attractive, successful, and loyal. Breaking it down further, the definition of success is wide. You can find a guy with a decent job who is doing well in it and deem that successful. So i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/24 01:10 PM |
| 6 | Field Report and Discussion: Things are more dire for men than I realizedI can only speculate as to mindset. But how it appears from the outside is they’re taught what to expect from men, but not what they should offer or do in return. Maybe they’re tired of being used so they no longer put effort in, maybe they never knew to in the first place. There’s a whole lot of maybes that one can opine about for hours or days, but in the end it’s all take and no give aside from sex here and there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/24 03:05 AM |
| 10 | Field Report and Discussion: Things are more dire for men than I realizedKindness and being interested has been my biggest issue in dating. I’d say 90% of the women I’ve tried to date over the last 5-6 years are all about what they can get out of it, how he treats her and things like respect, honesty, loyalty and reciprocity are almost unheard of. Literally most women I’ve tried to date act as if all they have to do is spread their legs for me every so often and that gets them access to girlfriend treatment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/24 01:10 AM |
| 3 | How can I increase my RMV?So you’re hot that’s good! All I can do is approximate your looks given average weight/height body compositions. It really is all in how you carry it. Looks get you attention. Personality keeps it. You’ve got to first find a guy who’s looking for more than sex, and then you’ve got to act right. So maybe you’re mainly going for f-boys, or you have an abrasive personality. If you’re confrontational, disagreeable, come off as selfish or demanding, the boss-bitch, strong independent woman, men ain’t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/24 04:43 AM |
| 7 | How can I increase my RMV?First remember that love is really hard to find, and in your age range most guys aren’t looking for it. They wanna have their hot-girl summer. Be a player, be a stud. There are very few advantages to settling down these days. Other difficulties you’re going to find is your height and weight. 5’9” isn’t that tall but it’s right at the average height of most men, and most men either prefer shorter than them or think that women will only date taller. (Something I just learned, as my gf is 5’9” and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/24 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Can I have a job in medicine but still be traditional?These days it’s damn near impossible for most to have a fully traditional relationship. Life is just too expensive. So the closest most can get to traditional is dividing responsibilities in the fairest and most practical way but with the understanding that the husband takes the lead. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/24 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Husband confessed to meThis is the first I’m hearing of that. I’d be curious to hear about someone’s experiences with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/24 01:11 PM |
| 9 | Husband confessed to meIf you have to, schedule sex in advance. Yeah it takes a little of the excitement out of it, but “bad” sex is better than no sex or being left wanting. It’s saved several relationships, it does bring you a closer. Not my words, and paraphrasing, actually said by a woman (Nora Vincent) Sex for men is more physical than it is for women, it’s more of an urge or compulsion, a physical need. So denying your man sex is less like a mild inconvenience and more like making him hold his breath (hyperbole)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/24 11:35 AM |
| 5 | Struggling with abstaining with new boyfriend.No need to be a nun just not a slut. If he seems like a good guy, if he seems like he’s worth it, if he seems like he’s trying to to right by you as best he can there’s no reason to abstain for anything other than other moral reasons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 04:55 AM |
| 3 | How do I overcome the “victim” mentality?I wouldn’t stress too much about it unless you literally cannot stop yourself from doing stuff like that. Which honestly isn’t very common. Most of the time it’s the result of some poor examples or decision making by adults in childhood. A maladaptive response, attentions seeking behavior, manipulation on your part to illicit an emotional response from someone you want to care more than you feel that they do, or something along those lines. It’s a bizarre act to attempt to bring someone closer i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/24 01:41 AM |
| 3 | How do I overcome the “victim” mentality?Putting it into practice is really hard, especially if you have some maladaptive coping skills, grew up in an emotional environment. So sometimes you just wanna pop, go off like a lunatic, stopping yourself is so hard. Especially if the person you’re in a confrontation with has bad coping skills too. They may even accuse you of not caring since your emotions aren’t running high like theirs are. But remember nobody is worth losing your cool over, nobody is worth going crazy or becoming toxic over… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/24 01:19 AM |
| 5 | How do I overcome the “victim” mentality?As helpful as therapy can be it’s still all about self control. Control your emotions don’t let them control you, it’s not easy. As you feel your blood start to boil and the need to hurt back as much as you hurt or whatever the case is, you’ve got to grit your teeth and stfu. Remember that nobody’s perfect not even you. So they may be wrong or you could have been. Messing up doesn’t make someone a bad person, meaning that their “attack” might not be an attack but a legitimate criticism, a misund… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/24 12:32 AM |
| 2 | Annoyed with submissive women who regret polyamory but don’t do anything about it.Most all poly folks I know are antisocial types where their desires and expectations far exceed the type of person they could realistically get to commit to them. They might be able to manipulate or get some to date/sleep with them but they’d never commit after getting to know the real them. If you’re a dude with some game or a reasonably decent looking woman you can stack a lot of bodies, but that’s all you can do, nobody worth keeping, with any level of self respect is going stick around when … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/24 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Annoyed with submissive women who regret polyamory but don’t do anything about it.I really like reading the stories where it backfires and the one who proposed it is left heartbroken. I only see those on Reddit, IRL it’s usually one living it up and the other at home dying inside. It’s almost never a happy ending for anyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/24 04:34 PM |
| 28 | Annoyed with submissive women who regret polyamory but don’t do anything about it.The amount of people who get into these situations to spice things up or to try and save/keep a relationship is baffling, and it almost always blows up in their faces just like they’re told it will. No matter how hot, cool, sexy, rich, fun, “perfect” and so on a partner is nobody is worth sacrificing your self respect or dignity for, and 9/10 that’s exactly what you’re doing by agreeing to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/24 05:22 PM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on manosphere?I’ve been viewing it for a good while. Like so many things it appeared to start out pretty good, with the best of intentions, good info and earnest people, but with everything outrage sells and those who peddled it rose to the top. And the more rational, those who tried to keep their integrity faded to the background. There really isn’t that much to talk about and without outrage, content is thin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 06:16 PM |
| 8 | Do I look feminineBluntly and with no offense intended, while you are average to above in attractiveness your hair and makeup resembles like that of a drag queen’s. As a caveat men generally assume women only want to date taller men, so dating for tall women is difficult (according to my 5’9” girlfriend, I was completely oblivious to that, being around 6’2” myself 99% of women are shorter than me and I never took notice to the guys shooting their shots with them) unless she shows undeniable signs of interest. Whi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Took the red pill years ago and reinvented myself to be a feminine, submissive woman but now I’m 30 and STILL single. Please help me.Someone would have to know you personally to tell for sure. Do you have a man in your life that knows you well, you respect and if things were different you’d find him datable? Like a cousin, uncle, father, mentor, or friend that has seen how you interact in relationship situations, a stand up, honest, sage guy who doesn’t wanna sleep with you. He’s who you should ask, and be prepared for some uncomfortable truths. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/24 05:21 PM |
| 2 | How to deal when you are right in a situation and your man doesn't believe you/thinks differently?That’s a tough situation. I hope that it’s more that he just doesn’t want to feel foolish than that he doesn’t trust your judgment or expertise. The only thing I can think of is to find ways to prove that it’s AI. I wouldn’t know the first thing about how to do so, but I’m pretty sure someone does. Perhaps a tool or app that can recognize AI? I’m pretty sure one does exist. Or you can demonstrate how to use AI and replace said worker or business with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/24 04:05 PM |
| 5 | Help me come back to my sensesMen’s primary roles have traditionally been the protector and provider, things like this, trips and spoiling are how we demonstrate love and gratitude for and to our partners. If you’re feeling guilty pay him back in the ways women used to show love and gratitude to men. If you don’t have money you use effort, acts of service, flattering words. A lot of men’s primary love language is acts of service. It often goes unnoticed, taken for granted, food on the table, a place to live, bills paid, (no … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/24 02:12 PM |
| 4 | [Update] How am I still living with him after knowing he was cheating.The devil you know, fear of the unknown and being alone, think you’re showing integrity by keeping your promises, while they don’t, sunk-cost fallacy? These are the reasons I stayed in relationships long past their expiration date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 01:52 PM |
| 1 | why do cheaters ALWAYS have multiple partners if nobody "wants" to date them?Hormones, attraction is a helluva thing. They have charisma and usually don’t have a big problem lying. So even knowing someone is a cheat, people wanna think that they’re special, the exception and more or less choose to believe the lies because they’re attracted to them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/24 04:21 PM |
| 9 | Had a chance to let him leadBe careful of old habits. You said he’s a laid back guy, he could be used to you taking care of things and isn’t being proactive as a result, thinking you’re handling it because you always do. A subtle way to encourage him would be to ask him about it, what he’s doing, plans and expected outcomes. Basically letting him know the ball is in his court with this. Approach with a questioning attitude, not questioning his competence but trying to understand his thoughts processes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/24 02:12 PM |
| 14 | Whats everyones opinion on the 4B movement?They don’t like to say the full truth because it doesn’t fit the narrative. Seeing a story that supports their opinion, confirmation bias takes hold and they run with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Reluctant about monogamyRegardless of how awesome you think he might be, do you really want a guy who you can’t be sure doesn’t see you as just as awesome, that won’t be loyal. Maybe you can deal with a guy who plays around so long as he treats you right. Some can, most can’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/24 02:13 AM |
| -1 | Should a second chance be given to men who “cancel” on first dates by not texting you the day of the date or canceling last minute?You can always check with them too ya know. You never know where people’s heads are at. You could be thinking he needs to confirm, he could be thinking “I don’t want to interrupt her, come off as too eager, I’ll wait for her to confirm.” If neither party checks in day before or day of both might think the other isn’t at all excited about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/24 02:49 PM |
| 7 | As a single woman, is this normal? Wondering if I have high expectationsIn that exact situation a decent man would come get you all. If he were still at work or had some family stuff, other important obligations, then he’d have a valid excuse. Light traffic is not a valid excuse, that’s just laziness or something. Now if the traffic would take like an hour to and from vs a 30 min walk, I can see that, otherwise no that’s not normal, at least not to me, I don’t know a dude I respect who’d pull that or a woman I respect that would tolerate it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/24 06:50 PM |
| 9 | Reluctant about monogamyLots to be suspicious of here. Do you feel like he’s being 100% honest here or just trickle-truthing you just enough to keep you around? The whole one-sided open relationship thing really throws me, unless there is some kind of issue where one party doesn’t want or can’t have sex, how does one even ask for that? It does give weight to the idea that he’s one of those who are only out for themselves, unless he’s some kind of super hot, rich guy that has all the women fighting for him, he’s just of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/24 12:56 PM |
| 8 | High body count - am I cooked?I agree in principle, but life is more complicated than that. Some people while still generally good people overestimate their ability to handle things. Asking questions they really don’t want the answers to, but think they do. While I do not advocate deception, sometimes the whole truth is too much for them to handle, causing more issues than the truth will cure. Simple example: you’ve met and fallen for a guy, you know he is your person, yet he’s got one of the smallest penises you’ve ever enc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 11:04 PM |
| 8 | High body count - am I cooked?And the ability to handle it. Some only think they want the truth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 10:39 PM |
| 11 | High body count - am I cooked?Honesty is always good, but too much detail might unfairly bias someone. A very delicate subject to broach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 08:51 PM |
| 20 | High body count - am I cooked?To be fair it’s more of the manifestations of what causes the body count to be high and its ramifications than the count itself. So if one can heal the causes and mitigate the consequences you MIGHT be ok. So a count of 10 at 19 isn’t good but a few years of good decisions and 10-11 at 26 doesn’t seem so bad. Also don’t broadcast the body count, don’t lie, but the topic can be avoided, and as long as the behavior isn’t that of a promiscuous, insecure, attention seeking and disloyal person, there… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?A lot of becoming the frog is laziness and complacency. It can really be on either or both parties. If one stops trying or appreciating the other inevitably does as well. It could be the man, it could be the woman who commits the original sin, starts the ball rolling down hill. And it may never be agreed upon whose fault it was in this case. People getting caught up on that so they don’t have to be the one to apologize dooms relationships. Regardless of who started it, both need to accept their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/24 07:34 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?To add a lot of them feel that’s what the woman wanted. For whatever reason she fought for said control. Since she is fighting for it she must want it and it’ll make her happy right? So he lets her have it. This does point to an expression of a lack of masculinity on his part but also an excess of it on hers. There are a lot of factors at play here but I think one that cannot be understated is the societal one. It seems to me that as a culture there is immense pressure for women to adopt an asse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/24 07:21 AM |
| 3 | rejection and datingLots of dudes that seem to have it all together on the surface are try hards, over qualify themselves, over compliment women, or rather “too nice.” What seems like kindness and flattery to men often comes off as desperate to a woman. A guys attention, affection and assets shouldn’t be freely given to a woman else they and he won’t be valued. Easy come easy go, and if she hasn’t done much to earn those things from a guy and he offers them, they must not be worth much. So they want valuable attent… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 09:40 PM |
| 2 | How do I (24F) stop behaving like a demon?You need to practice self control that’s all there is to it. Easier said than done perhaps therapy can help teach you some tricks or coping mechanisms, but at the end of the day you are the only one who can control your actions. Simply put you let your paranoia, insecurities and their corresponding negative emotions control you when you need to control them, it takes work and discipline, therapy alone isn’t going to do shit for you unless you can get control of yourself. I’m sure there is a lot … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/24 06:47 PM |
| 1 | How to translate my helplessness into my man's proactiveness (lol)Asking for help is not the easiest thing in the world, but if you and your SO are used to you doing for yourself, they aren’t naturally going to come to your aid without you asking. People are creatures of habit, something has to change to force that habit to break. The habit has always been “I’ve/she’s got this.” She’s likely hoping that he’ll notice and help of his own accord, which is sweet but not likely. He’s probably going to think “if she needs help all she has to do is ask, I don’t want … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 04:33 PM |
| 0 | How to translate my helplessness into my man's proactiveness (lol)I may just be cynical but this sounds more like asking advice on how to be manipulative than to enter into a traditional relationship. Men love to be helpful and useful, feel needed, but nobody wants to be burdened. But my advice in dealing with any kind of issue especially health related is to talk. Have conversations with your SO wherein you explain the objectives of things, you do what you reasonably can and ask them with help for the rest. Either divide the duties of a task or have them pay … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 03:57 PM |
| 7 | Dating apps to meet men for marriageDating apps are just awful, the paradox of choice for women leads them to only pick out the best of the best, often out of their league or guys who know how to work the system to get ample matches, liars and players. IMO most good, marriage material guys don’t use the apps or have very meh profiles that don’t stand out, because they are men of action not words, they don’t know how to tell you they’re a good guy in their profile but they could show you in person. Add to that, it seems women, whil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 02:32 PM |
| 12 | My boyfriend broke up with me over my weight and now he wants to get back togetherSo when you were with him you got depressed, gained weight, have you lost it or is he just trying to get back with you? Outside the break-up are you still depressed? Idk what your romantic goals are, but if you’re looking for the long term you want in sickness and health, good times and bad, well he’s proven that he doesn’t have that in him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 12:04 PM |
| 4 | I'm too good for every guy I meet?You need to find someone with some confidence/self esteem or stop acting like you think you’re hot shit. Guys will say this when they think a woman can do better (low self esteem or sometimes a statement of fact though rare) or when a woman is constantly acting like they can do better/thinks too highly of themselves. It’s not that the guy thinks your too good for him in that last situation, but she has communicated to him in some way that he doesn’t meet her standards | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 03:34 PM |
| 3 | I'm too good for every guy I meet?Being attracted isn’t the same thing as wanting to be with. I can find someone hella attractive but still not want to date them, it’s usually a personality or values thing that keeps me from wanting a full relationship with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 03:29 PM |
| 2 | What does your partner think of RPW, submission, and male-led relationships?Many of us are also confused about leadership as many have essentially been taught that a desire to be “in charge” of the household or relationship is inherently sexist. Many women have too, and been brought up that it’s weak to follow a man and to buck his authority on principle. So while they may internally desire or long for a strong and in-charge man they fight him for control at every turn, and when he learns to just stop trying to lead, let her take it since she’s fighting so hard for it, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 10:43 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on telling a man about other men approaching you?You need to try and shut it down first if the problem persists then he shuts it down. If a good friend of mine is trying to make a pass at you, yeah I probably need to know and you need to try and stay away from him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 11:44 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on telling a man about other men approaching you?This is exactly right! No reason to tell me unless it’s a problem I need to deal with or you’re trying to make me jealous, or it’s pertinent to some story. I’m with you, I know how desirable you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Working it out with a ex boyfriend?That’s a hard cycle to break and the money factor is a big deal culturally speaking. Most people associate money with power/control. Hence why a lot of relationships where the woman makes more than the man end up being unhealthy. Everyone likes to say that money doesn’t matter/isn’t important but in action it usually plays out differently. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 04:36 PM |
| 2 | Working it out with a ex boyfriend?Feel cared about, feel important to her, being respected, appreciated, thought about, being relied upon or useful/needed. Another great way to endear yourself to a guy is finding small ways to help him carry his load as he should you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Working it out with a ex boyfriend?First it’s great to have boundaries and desires, but trying to think more about their’s than you currently are will help a lot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Working it out with a ex boyfriend?Fighting for control constantly is not what most guys want to do, so maybe he’s not worth changing for, but the longer you maintain this frame the harder it will be to break. So maybe this guy will go away and that’s fine, but what about the next or the one after that? Most guys want to be “in charge” and most women want a man who is, but if she isn’t going to let him then he’s going to move on, very, very few people are worth that constant friction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Initiate or not with redpill menInitiating is not a problem, it’s rather enjoyed, being of bad character is the problem. Lots of women seem to think making the first move(s) is the same as throwing themselves at a guy, that the only way to show desire or appreciation, or effort is through sex. It’s not, that’s just how one comes off looking like a harlot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 10:28 AM |
| 5 | Hypergamy as an InstinctIn my experience most cheating isn’t hypergamy related, not that it’s uncommon, but it’s more for seeking some kind of affirmation. Often knowing what they have at home is “better” than who they’re cheating with, but they’re looking for the thrill of a new partner, or needing to fill a void that lack of self love leaves with some external expression. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy as an InstinctHypergamy isn’t a bad thing if it’s kept reasonable. You want “better than you” great, fine, go for it. The problem is when it’s unreasonable. Very few women legitimately won’t settle for anything less than perfect, but it is common for many to refuse to settle for anything that’s in their “league.” From the outside it looks like delusion, lack of self awareness. It’s fine to want this hyper attractive, successful man as a partner but it seems quite uncommon for many women to examine themselves … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 02:50 PM |
| 5 | I get bitchy when I feel unlovedI’ve found that the only thing that works is constant and conscious effort. People go to therapy a lot like they go to church they spend the hour or so involved in that but don’t take it out of the sermon or season. It does no good to go to church or therapy if you’re not living by the lessons learned. Maybe this is you, maybe it’s not. So you’ve got to stay awake aware of your emotions and in control of your actions. It appears to me that you need to do a better job of communicating your needs … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/24 04:44 PM |
| 12 | Getting over someone you fell forYou can’t do anything about your feelings, but you can control your actions. What you’ve been doing is about the best you can do. Only time and distance will make these feelings fade. You’ve got to keep reminding yourself that you deserve better although you still may want him. Remind yourself that you’re living in a fantasy world, and think about what a relationship with him would actually be like given is current behavior not just the idealistic one you have in your head. You’re too stuck on w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/24 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Am I wrong for wanting to change jobs?There are ways to contribute to a relationship outside financial, so perhaps you all can come to an arrangement wherein you both seem like you’re providing equally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/24 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Am I wrong for wanting to change jobs?Can you quit? Adulting is often doing crap you don’t want to because you have to, because it’s what’s best for you and your family. If you can find another job that still affords you quality of life then great, do that! It sucks that you “wasted” all that time and money at school, but if you can live a happier life with less pay, more power to you. However if leaving your job will cause your fiancé to have to work more, pick up your slack, that’s not fair to him. The thing is most people don’t r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/24 04:40 PM |
| 2 | The redpill dating advice for men is bullshitThe OG redpill dating advice is basically worry about yourself most, but not only. Get healthy, get strong, get competent, focus on your purpose and never make a woman your priority. Never make a woman your priority especially now since the laws are absolutely screwed and they’re essentially incentivized to divorce. There’s more to it but overall it is more or less good advice for the last few generations of men who were raised by single moms, and thinks romance works irl the way it does in movi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/24 02:25 PM |
| 1 | field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomachI wouldn’t say never, but so very many do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 03:24 PM |
| 5 | field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomachHealthy body healthy mind, but to also seems like he may have felt he was contributing a lot more than you, watching you pick up the slack, lead by example rid him of this feeling and made home feel inclined to help more. Whether real or imagined, nobody likes to feel like they’re doing most of the work in a relationship, and lots of people feel guilty if someone they care about is doing work while they’re not helping. Another common lead to these problems is taking the other parties work for gr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 02:53 PM |
| 7 | How much influence should each others preferences have on outer appearance?If you’re uncertain of it don’t do it. You can play with photoshop or the like to give you an idea of how it looks, but it won’t inform at all how it feels. My general thoughts on it is don’t do it unless it’ll make you both happy, communication is necessary if it’ll make one happy and the other sad. Don’t do it if it’ll make one miserable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 03:15 PM |
| 2 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?Most men will go for easy sex if they can get it. Yeah it’s rude and all that jazz. But it means they find you attractive which is a plus, it’s what you want. However, your job is to vet them and make sure they’re worthy of sex. Over simplified men see women as one of two categories fun or relationship. They will start out looking for fun and get it if they can, you’ve got to prove to each other that you’re not just for fun material, if your goal is a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Is SMV real?Being that attractiveness is in-part subjective one can’t really quantify SMV. It’s more of a nebulous concept, shorthand for desirability. But more or less it is real. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 09:54 PM |
| 26 | How to forgive yourself after letting low value men have your body?We all make mistakes, nobody’s perfect, and there’s a lot of bad info/advice out there that confuses everything, but you’ve learned, it hasn’t all been for naught, at least you’re not making excuses and dodging accountability. Make sure not to go overboard though, accept the consequences and go for the best you can get, not the best there is from here on out. It does take a lot of reflection to know what or who that is and you’ll probably make one or two more mistakes along the road, you’re quit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 12:47 AM |
| 1 | I really need help I have no one I can consult, new long distance relationship.I’m quite aware of what the likelihoods are I served for 8 years myself that’s why I made the argument in the first place. So either very poor planning (coulda waited earned more leave so he could take it) or isn’t taking it because he’s not taking her seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 12:16 AM |
| 0 | I really need help I have no one I can consult, new long distance relationship.Why couldn’t he take leave? Sounds like a very poorly planned get together, or that he doesn’t take this as seriously as you do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 09:09 PM |
| 2 | how do I (20f) help a customer (33m) feel comfortable in pursuing me?It’s only been about a month, so let’s see. But the obstacles in dating in the bar scene are, for the bartenders: the ridiculous amount of attention they get and the party influence of all your friends/coworkers. He’s got to be really secure to manage that, and most folks that frequent bars have some real pain and darkness inside them. For the most part most people have pretty good souls but act with selfishness, lack impulse control. Most of my beer buddies are cool to hang out with but absolut… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 01:46 AM |
| 2 | how do I (20f) help a customer (33m) feel comfortable in pursuing me?Thank you. She was and now is again a bartender/waitress at my local watering hole. I’m a friendly guy, so when she came and said hi a few times when she wasn’t working, I thought nothing of it. Until one day she comes up says hi and after a short exchange just said “I like you.” I was like “ok damn!” Shortly thereafter, she says “I’m want to kiss you ok?” And now we’re together, so far so good. Alcohol was involved lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 01:30 AM |
| 2 | how do I (20f) help a customer (33m) feel comfortable in pursuing me?I’m an older man and recently a much younger woman that wasn’t even on my radar (largely due to age) who, looking back on it was sending me signals I didn’t catch or was ignoring, just bluntly told me she was into me. We’re dating now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on wanting to be taken care of by a man?This is a tough one. Sadly lots of guys have had their feelings or desires for leadership crushed by single moms, the school system or society in general. Nobody concisely articulates what “toxic masculinity” is vs healthy masculinity and often any expression of it, or while learning it, it’s labeled as toxic and stamped out. So growing up they’re constantly led by women and allow them to lead for the remainder of their lives to the detriment of everyone. When you meet a guy you really have to l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/24 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Dating Younger MenA lot of self awareness, and soul searching too. People seem to be quite resistant to admitting fault and placing blame externally when at least some (if not most) is often internal. Yes you absolutely need to get a prospective partner to make sure they’re good for you, but that comes with making sure you’re good for them too. Far too many people get into relationships with someone who is good for them, but they are poisonous. Then when the relationships fail it’s “men/women ain’t shit!” | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/24 12:16 AM |
| 6 | From ex to dating again… How long should we try before moving on for good?Good rule of thumb is your exes for a reason. People can change but they rarely do. Loneliness is a helluva feeling and people give into it and do ill advised things to curb it. Most of the time when people reach out to an ex it’s not that they really miss them, it’s that they miss the feeling of having someone, afraid or uncertain/able to start again with someone new. That ex being the last or best cure for the loneliness they reach out to them though it didn’t or can’t work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/24 12:08 AM |
| 3 | From ex to dating again… How long should we try before moving on for good?I mean if you dump somebody it’s a pretty bad look to reach out to them after you ripped their heart out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/24 12:03 AM |
| 7 | From ex to dating again… How long should we try before moving on for good?Ugly truth! It may indeed come off as a bit misandrist but if it’s accurate, it’s accurate, and this is accurate for a lot of men. There are a lot of bad habits of women too and I don’t think pointing it, even if it’s unflattering is sexist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/24 12:03 AM |
| 5 | Dating Younger MenAssuming a traditional preference, and anecdotally most women I’ve met seem to prefer that the man leads. There’s nothing wrong with a man asking for opinions, advice, input, but when they take the pants off and hand them over, it’s time to bounce I think. Also keep in mind most men will happily take the lead, but they won’t fight for it. So if the woman is disagreeable, combative she will find that she “can’t find a man to date, they’re all just little boys.” When no, he’s just trying to make h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/24 11:54 PM |
| 10 | Dating Younger MenI say be open to it but don’t specifically look for it. There’s a lot of confusion in the power dynamics, the logical fallacy of age mattering complicates things. The conventional or traditional dating dynamics of the man being the leader is pretty ingrained in most of us, as is age=wisdom and maturity. It can create some unforeseen conflicts. I’ve seen situations where the older woman is looking to the younger man for leadership but won’t accept it because she’s older and wiser, or the man reli… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/24 11:37 PM |
| 2 | How to overcome the fear of dating?Start slow. Don’t over fixate on the goals, the what ifs, just kinda put yourself out there. You don’t need to jump right into dating but you can go out and socialize. Bars are not a great place to meet partners but they are a good place for mini date-like interactions. So grab a friend, spiffy up a tiny bit, hit a quiet bar or lounge, get used to socializing again, not to party or get drunk. Talk with a few people here and there, guys, girls, whatever. Do this a few times and meeting new people… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/24 07:54 AM |
| 6 | Thought this was brilliantLearning not to react negatively is a super power too. “Tact is the art of telling someone to go fuck themselves and them thanking you for it.” Nothing drives a toxic person crazier than shrugging off their aggressions or not reacting emotionally at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 06:58 AM |
| 3 | How do I lose interest and forget someone?Focus on the negative, time and distraction | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 04:27 AM |
| 1 | How can I understand this man's intention in dating me?If he’s trying to sleep with you and he isn’t able to yet, but still treating you well, it’s pretty good sign. You want a guy who wants to sleep with you but also wants you otherwise too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/24 12:42 AM |
| 5 | Was I wrong? Husband had 1 hour sports massage (I bought him for Father’s Day); I got nails done. Both had 1 hour free time, rest spent with our child together. He wanted an extra hour for playing a game on his phone and said the massage didn’t count as free time because it was a gift.Complicated topic. Score keeping in a relationship only leads to resentment, each partner should be giving as much as they can as often as they can, they both need to make sacrifices for one another. However, if it becomes clear that one person is doing all the giving and making all the sacrifices, when the other is perfectly capable, then that relationship isn’t healthy. At face value a man not getting gift or doing for Mother’s Day while a woman did for Father’s Day is a bad look for sure. But… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/24 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Flawed logic?That’s not the message, though some people might take it that way and act like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/24 02:28 PM |
| 3 | Are you honest about dating other men?At that point it’s on him. If she wants exclusivity but he doesn’t, there’s no point in her wasting her time. I’m sure he’s not be happy if she starts to date others but that’s on him for not shitting or getting off the pot. Assuming of course she isn’t trying to be exclusive after too short a time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/24 01:57 AM |
| 4 | Are you honest about dating other men?Still interested in winning, but if she’s putting you up against other men you’ve already lost. Either she doesn’t see him as “high value” enough or she’s got too much of the grass is greener mentality and not worth competing for. Dating isn’t like a race or a match. Everyone wants someone who sees them as a prize. So I can see why some would want to have people compete for them, but then it’s obvious that those competitors aren’t seen as a prize themselves. I’m not a woman, I don’t know if they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/24 12:14 AM |
| 5 | Are you honest about dating other men?One date, no, but several yes. I’m making unfair assumptions, I’ll admit that, but it seemed to me that OP has gotten kind of close with man A, have had several dates already. The level of confusion and seeming guilt alludes to either feeling like she knows roster dating isn’t exactly right, though common practice, or she’s just very inexperienced. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Are you honest about dating other men?It does seem that everyone dates around, women specifically, because it’s easier for them to. Personally if I’m dating someone seriously and she decides that she is still wanting to play the field, I find that as a disqualifier. If it’s only casual she’s free to date around, but that disqualifies her from ever being a serious contender. If she sleeps with someone else, even if we are just casually dating she’s out too. Even in casual I demand a certain level of exclusivity, mainly for health rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 03:31 PM |
| 8 | Well.. this is easier said than done! Whew.How bad we talking? Is it just a little bit of clutter or is it full blown “if I’m not constantly picking up after him, it’ll look like a frat house after a party?” Have you stopped picking up after him to see how he handles it? How bad he lets it get before he does something? In one situation it could be a little misalignment in standards, a niggle, in the other a serious and possibly slightly “nagging” discussion should be in order. In the second case, if he has any not-picks with you, prepare… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/24 02:42 PM |
| 13 | How can I find a guy who would want a housewife?Most guys aren’t going to be fiscally ready (nor emotionally) for a household until 25 or later so you’ve got a little time. It’s good to know what you want but there’s no need to rush. I’m advising against sleeping around but getting a little dating and life experience would be a good idea. Being a good housewife isn’t super laborious, like some say but there’s a lot more to it than others say, living on your own for a while might help make the transition from living with your parents to for a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/24 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Financial imbalance in relationship causing insecuritiesIf he’s legitimately willing to work on it and change the way you kind of negate these feelings of inadequacy is to acknowledge but downplay the importance of money. Let him know that while saving and money are good to have, earning more than his wife is not important, that his other virtues are why you’re marrying him, not money. Again he has to be willing and actively trying to get better with his bad habit, he needs to hold himself accountable and it would be for the best if you encourage tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/24 04:52 AM |
| 11 | Financial imbalance in relationship causing insecuritiesHim wanting to be married so quickly, plus poor financial management and alcohol issues, points to low conscientiousness. While “living for the now” can be a lot of fun, it doesn’t make for a stable future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/24 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Passport Bros. Discuss.That’s hilarious! They won’t talk to a bar tender at home because they’re broke/not high status enough and will end up having to support them. But they’ll bring one home from another country and deal with it because he’s exotic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 08:17 PM |
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